Latest / The SmallBizChat with Melinda Emerson / Mindful Leadership and Mentorship with Scott J. Miller
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- 0:00Most of the mentors in my life don't even know I'm alive.
- 0:04I've either read all their books or listened to all their podcasts watch their TV programs or
- 0:09chase them around the nation, you know, listening to them keynote.
- 0:12I'm kind of a deadhead on the leadership side.
- 0:14Right?
- 0:14I like to watch and listen to people that have mentored me, most of the people that have
- 0:19mentored me have had a fundamental impact on my leadership skill because I was open.
- 0:25I was curious.
- 0:26I stopped trying to be the genius, but moved to become the genius maker of others.
- 0:351, 0 ignition, liftoff.
- 0:42Ending small business failure.
- 0:44Welcome to the small biz chat podcast with the number one small business expert, Melinda
- 0:50Emerson.
- 0:51Melinda's goal is to end small business failure.
- 0:54And she'll give you the information you need to succeed and live the life you dream of.
- 0:59Now here's your host, the small Biz chat lady herself, Melinda Emerson.
- 1:06Hi, everybody.
- 1:07I'm Melinda Emerson, the small biz lady.
- 1:09America's number one small business expert.
- 1:11And it's my pleasure to welcome you to another episode of the small biz chat podcast.
- 1:16We have an amazing show for you tonight.
- 1:19And if you think it might be time to brush up on your leadership skills, well, I have a best
- 1:25selling author here who's gonna tell us about his new book on mentoring.
- 1:31And, certainly, if you wanna build your management skills, my guess has amazing advice
- 1:38for how to do just that.
- 1:40Now here on the small business chat podcast, our mission is to end small business failure.
- 1:46This show is for you.
- 1:49I bring in top experts who give advice from multiple angles all with the mission to take
- 1:55your business to the next level.
- 1:57Now, hopefully, you're joining us watching the small Bishette pockets from my YouTube channel
- 2:03or my Facebook page.
- 2:04And as always, if you hear something great, leave us a comment better yet.
- 2:09Subscribe to my channel so that you never miss another episode of the small business chat
- 2:15podcast.
- 2:16So with that, let me introduce my next guest.
- 2:20Now I have to take a little point of privilege because he is one of my favorite business
- 2:25authors.
- 2:25His name is Scott Jeffrey Miller, and he is a leadership expert.
- 2:29And he is a keynote speaker, best selling author.
- 2:32He's creator of Ignite Your Genius Career Coaching.
- 2:35He's the former CMO of Franklin Covey Company, and now he serves as a special advisor on
- 2:41thought leadership to Franklin Covey and host their podcast on leadership.
- 2:46He keynotes for clients worldwide, writes a column for ink, and he's the author of the Mist
- 2:51to Success book series and the Master Mentor series.
- 2:55His latest book Master Mentor's Volume 2 30 transformative insights from our greatest mind,
- 3:01features insights from leading thinkers, including Guy Kawasaki, Tiffany Alchel, Marie
- 3:07Folio, and Ed Millett.
- 3:09For more information, go to scottjeffraymiller.com.
- 3:13Scott, welcome that to the small business podcast.
- 3:17Melinda, thank you for the spotlight.
- 3:18Thank you for the platform.
- 3:20Most importantly, when master mentors volume 3, comes out in 2023.
- 3:26You are one of the 30 master mentors looking forward to sharing some of the transformational
- 3:31insights from you on the podcast that I host.
- 3:34Oh, man.
- 3:35That that's like that's a serious compliment because I know you only interview a players.
- 3:39Right?
- 3:39You're in full with these b players.
- 3:41People wanna be, you're in full with those So I feel very honored that you would even think of
- 3:46me.
- 3:47So one of the things that we have never talked about on this podcast got was what made you
- 3:54leave Franklin Covey after 25 years You're the CFO of the company.
- 4:01What in the world made you decide?
- 4:03Okay.
- 4:04I know what I'm gonna do.
- 4:05I'm gonna go start
- 4:06a business.
- 4:07Like, tell me why you decided to do that.
- 4:10Because everybody quits their 7 figure job in the middle of a pandemic.
- 4:14Right, after 25 years.
- 4:16You know, if you kinda said it, I I was very privileged to have become an executive officer
- 4:21in this global public company, the most trusted leadership firm in the world.
- 4:24They poured into me for 25 years, but that was kind of it.
- 4:29I mean, public company 25 years.
- 4:31That's a 100 quarters.
- 4:34So those of you who've worked in public companies, you are judged by your last quarter.
- 4:38So I spent a hundred quarters trying to hit Wall Street Expectations and, you know, missed
- 4:45a few and hit a lot in I needed I needed to change.
- 4:49I needed I needed a bit of a break.
- 4:51Quite frankly, Melinda, I read your book, become your own boss in 12 months, and I
- 4:56realized that I had a massive network, but the network was inside of this global company.
- 5:01So I needed about 3 years runway to figure out what was my competence, what was my brand,
- 5:08building network outside the company.
- 5:10So it actually took me 3 years to exit I talked with the board and the chairman for about a
- 5:15year and a half and planned my exit quite deliberately was not I wasn't, you know, it
- 5:20wasn't public about it, but I was very strategic and very trustworthy about it.
- 5:25And I think because I took such a long runway to methodically plan my business about a lot of
- 5:30the points in your book become your own boss in 12 months.
- 5:33It has launched me into success probably faster than I would have Otherwise, although I am
- 5:38haunted and listening with riveting attention to both Melanie and Brooke when it comes to
- 5:43cash flow and understanding how to make your investments and build your your your your
- 5:48network.
- 5:49So you one of the things that you've done in addition to building your own coaching and
- 5:54consulting business is you have become a book writing machine.
- 6:00I mean, I look, I've written 4 books and I get it, but you write for a year.
- 6:06So I need you to help me understand how you have built processes in your business that
- 6:13allow you to produce content.
- 6:15I mean, I am a master content developer.
- 6:18Yes.
- 6:19And I sit in all of you, my friends.
- 6:21So I need you to help me understand how have you built, you know, 2 different series book
- 6:27series and and, you know, key noting all over the world.
- 6:31Literally, how have you built this machine to be able to do?
- 6:36I mean, how big is your team?
- 6:38It's just caffeine.
- 6:39It's just, you know, what's a caffeine?
- 6:40No.
- 6:41I honestly hear again, let's not mistake quantity over quality.
- 6:45You have a quality, but I have a lot of bugs coming out.
- 6:48You know, I like you.
- 6:50I'm privileged to host a podcast.
- 6:52The on leadership podcast is now the world's largest weekly lead leadership podcast.
- 6:57It's about 7,000,000 each Tuesday.
- 6:58Like you, I'm privileged to host an interview guest where a lot of the content just flows.
- 7:03So if you read the books that I write, I'm really just regurgitating the genius that
- 7:08guests on the podcast have shared with their permission I just shared the transformational
- 7:14insights that they've talked about and then share my own journey around how I either
- 7:19struggled with it or hope to perfect it in my life.
- 7:22So my books are not good to great or built to last.
- 7:24They're sort of, you know, chicken soup for the leadership soul.
- 7:27They're easy.
- 7:28They're fast.
- 7:28They're breezy.
- 7:29They're short.
- 7:30Think, you know, most, most publishers want you to have 75,000 words, and most authors have
- 7:3635,000 words, which is why nobody's ever read the second half of any large business book
- 7:41because the second half sucks.
- 7:42So I just write the first half and people tend to finish them.
- 7:46So It's kind of just the simplicity of just writing until I can't write any more, and it's
- 7:51usually about 35,000 words.
- 7:55I I know that you're very methodical about what you write.
- 7:58And I have to say my favorite book of yours is that every every everyone deserves a great
- 8:05manager.
- 8:05Thank you.
- 8:06Thank you.
- 8:06My favorite book of yours.
- 8:08You you have written many, but that's one I personally love.
- 8:11So your your master your master mentor series, you're back with volume 2.
- 8:17Yep.
- 8:17And I was curious around You have a leadership podcast, yet you decided to focus on on
- 8:24mentorship.
- 8:25And so I was trying to understand you know, why is mentorship such a critical factor you think
- 8:33in in in business success, whether you're in a large business or or running a small
- 8:39Well, so I spent my 30 year career in the leadership industry, and I'm a little bit of a
- 8:43pariah amongst the competition because I don't believe everyone should be a leader of people.
- 8:48Just like not everyone should be an anesthesiologist, not everybody should be a
- 8:52commercial airline pilot, not everyone should be a leader of people, but if you are going to
- 8:57lead people because you are an newer or you own your own business, then there are things that
- 9:01you have to master.
- 9:02And I think that comes often from great mentorship.
- 9:05I don't know about you, but I've never met a successful leader that didn't have a mentor who
- 9:11believed in him or her, oftentimes greater than they even believed in themselves.
- 9:19All my success has come from people believing in me more than I believed in myself at a
- 9:24certain period of time.
- 9:25I also think mentorship means different things to different people.
- 9:29Most of us think mentorship, oh, is one just go to the C suite and that CFO or the CMO or the
- 9:35COO or mentor us, and they're usually older and wiser, and that in fact is true.
- 9:39But I'll tell you, Melinda, most of the mentors in my life Don't even know I'm alive.
- 9:45I've either read all their books or listened to all their podcast or watched their TV programs
- 9:49or chased them around the nation, you know, listening to them keynote.
- 9:52I'm kind of a deadhead on the leadership side.
- 9:55Right?
- 9:55I like to watch and listen to people that have mentored me.
- 9:58Most of the people that have mentored me have had a fundamental impact on my leadership skill
- 10:04because I was open.
- 10:05I was curious.
- 10:07I stopped trying to be the genius but moved to become the genius maker of others to quote Liz
- 10:14Wiseman wrote this seminal book multipliers.
- 10:16I think it's the best leadership book ever written.
- 10:19If you are a leader and struggling, you become a better leader, one of the master mentors from
- 10:24volume 1 is Liz Wiseman, her book multipliers changed the leadership landscape.
- 10:29So I think mentorship, both as a mid tee and as a mentor are instrumental on everybody's path
- 10:37to leadership.
- 10:38It's our journey.
- 10:39We're learning.
- 10:39We're maturing two steps forward, one step back for all of us.
- 10:43In my case, one step forward, two steps back for most of my career.
- 10:50Well, one of the things that I have always thought, since I've become the small business
- 10:55league was that you really do have to grow yourself to grow your business.
- 11:01And I think that a lot of that is about how can you become intentional about growing your
- 11:09leadership skills?
- 11:10Yeah.
- 11:11Because I think there's all these people out here saying, oh, you're a board leader.
- 11:14You're what?
- 11:14Well, No.
- 11:16I actually don't think that's true.
- 11:17I think you can see leadership abilities in someone, but that doesn't mean that, you know,
- 11:23they're a full grown leader.
- 11:25Right?
- 11:25And there's all these people that are late blossomers and all this kind of stuff.
- 11:28But, how can one be intentional about growing their leadership skills?
- 11:34You know, I think Melanie said it so wise that she talks about how important it is to
- 11:38recognize if and when your identity, your sense of self is caught up in your title, it's caught
- 11:44up in your positional power.
- 11:46Think it was John Maxwell said, you know, for all of us, we think we're leaders.
- 11:50And if you're climbing a mountain and you look behind you and no one's there, no.
- 11:54You're a hiker.
- 11:55You're not a leader.
- 11:56It's a great metaphor to be reminded about.
- 11:59So if you're going to be a leader, you've got to really be mindful that You aren't the
- 12:03genius.
- 12:04You don't know everything about everything, and you gotta have a curious mindset.
- 12:08I I think of doctor Steven R Covey, the founder of our company.
- 12:11Of course, he wrote the book the 7 habits of highly effective people's book has sold
- 12:1550,000,000 copies.
- 12:16I learned so much from Stephen, but what I what I one of the most profound concepts, Melinda,
- 12:21was this idea of humble leaders are more concerned with what is right than being right.
- 12:29Right.
- 12:30For too many decades, I entered every meeting, every conversation wanting to be right.
- 12:35For whatever reason, my ego is tied up and, well, I'm the boss.
- 12:38So I'm the expert.
- 12:39I'm the genius.
- 12:40I'm the chief marketing officer.
- 12:41So I have to know everything about email and marketing automation and SEO and, you know, the
- 12:46latest PMS score, no.
- 12:48Your job is to be a magnet of talent your job is to be humble enough to recognize.
- 12:53I don't know everything, but I wanna go find those who do.
- 12:58Recruit them into the company, not be threatened by them, and then build a culture
- 13:03where they choose to stay.
- 13:05I think most leaders think their job is to create engagement.
- 13:09That's not true.
- 13:10Some human resource genius said that, no.
- 13:12Leaders don't create engagement.
- 13:14Leaders create the conditions whereby other people choose their own level of engagement
- 13:20high or low.
- 13:22And so your job as a leader is to be super self aware.
- 13:25Your job is to make sure you create a culture where people choose to bring their best.
- 13:30They choose to give their mind their heart, their body, they're genius to you, and they
- 13:34choose to stick around.
- 13:36That's tough.
- 13:37That's tough enough in a market where the average tenure now is 18 months.
- 13:42And where, you know, historically, seventies, eighties, nineties to two thousands, we all had
- 13:47a leadership default style.
- 13:49We expected everybody to align to it.
- 13:51That don't work no more.
- 13:52You gotta have an individualized leadership style.
- 13:55What does Melaney need from me?
- 13:57What does Brooke need from me?
- 13:58What does Melinda need for me?
- 14:00Leadership's tougher than ever.
- 14:01And so you've got to be able to communicate, listen, lead, coach give feedback to people on
- 14:07their blind spots because Melanie's gonna want that feedback differently than Brooke is going
- 14:13to.
- 14:13And so, yes, I have to, in fact, treat everyone differently, you can still treat people
- 14:18equitably and fairly while still treating them differently.
- 14:23One of the things that people I hear people talk about as it relates to mentorship is that
- 14:30mentorship should be a two way street, you know, and and that the mentor needs to get
- 14:35something out of it too, not just be serving the the mentee.
- 14:39But as the junior person in the relationship, how can you add value to the relationship?
- 14:47You know, as a junior person, you know, up and comer, you know, trying to sort of, like,
- 14:53navigate your way.
- 14:55So many ways.
- 14:56I I love the mindset that mentorship is a 2 way street.
- 14:59By the way, you know, I have some strong opinions on what the roles of a mentor should
- 15:04be and should not be.
- 15:05I think most of us try to mentor.
- 15:08Well, if I was you, Don't ever say that because you're not me.
- 15:12And I don't have your Ivy League degree.
- 15:14I don't have your charisma.
- 15:16I don't have your background.
- 15:17I don't have, you know, any of that.
- 15:18I only have what I have.
- 15:20So if you're a mentor, be very careful, but I'm not trying to turn your mentee into a mini
- 15:24version of you.
- 15:26Now to your question around the two way street, I mentor too many people.
- 15:31And when I do this, I learn so much from them, whether it's about what's hot on TikTok or how
- 15:39to use Google Docs, right, or how to stop, you know, how to create a pivot table in Excel.
- 15:44I mean, as an officer of the company, I was fortunate to have a team of people that
- 15:48supported me in a lot of things that required me to become a bit of a troglodyte technology
- 15:53wise and So I've had to learn a lot of things, but I make sure that I'm a voracious learner.
- 15:58I hopefully have a growth mindset that when I come into this, although I'm mentoring you on
- 16:03perhaps lessons that I've learned.
- 16:06Well, if you do this, then this might happen and what if you do that, then this might
- 16:09happen.
- 16:10But I make sure that I have an open mindset to realize this person has Genius to teach me.
- 16:16How do I just uncover it?
- 16:18How do I help discover it?
- 16:20I always finish my mentor sessions with, hey, Can I ask you a question?
- 16:25I noticed your social media, you do this, or I noticed you use this a lot, this word a lot,
- 16:29and can you tell me why that's so important to you?
- 16:32Love to listen to people's journeys.
- 16:34And so if you're a mentee, I think inherently you're there to learn from the mentor, but
- 16:42don't shy away from being able to mentor your leader as well.
- 16:47Most of my mentees have enormous things to teach me.
- 16:51They're typically around relationships, how to work with different generations, how do they
- 16:56want to be led, How does my style work or not work for them?
- 17:00Oftentimes it's around social media and other technology issues.
- 17:05What are they reading?
- 17:06What are they not reading?
- 17:07I mean, a great here's a great example.
- 17:09I know our time is tight, but I teach a class in my church to young teenage boys.
- 17:14Around, a sexuality and and kind of just the human body.
- 17:17And I walk into that class, and I have enter 10 print magazines in my briefcase at any given
- 17:22day.
- 17:22I still read and print.
- 17:23Books and magazines.
- 17:25These young 9th graders have never held a magazine in their hand.
- 17:29They think I'm a hundred years old.
- 17:32I carry magazines around airports.
- 17:34I like to read in print.
- 17:35They think I'm a dinosaur.
- 17:37And for me, I can't imagine not carrying around 9 magazines everywhere I go.
- 17:41And so I like to figure out, so how do you read?
- 17:43Hopefully, they do, but it's fascinating to learn from them.
- 17:47You know, who's my future reader?
- 17:48It's not them.
- 17:49My books have to be an audio and in video.
- 17:53So I produce every book.
- 17:54I read my own audio books, and now I produce my books in videos.
- 17:58You can watch my books now in 45 minutes because that's the next generation.
- 18:03I learned that from my mentees.
- 18:06Interesting.
- 18:07Interesting.
- 18:07Well, speaking of books, let's talk about your new book, Master Mentors, 30 transformation
- 18:13insights, and our greatest minds, volume 2 You've got some of my friends in this one.
- 18:18Guy Kawasaki, Tiffany Ocho.
- 18:21I have never met, Marie Folio, but I but, but I have been in the same room with Ed Mellette.
- 18:26So tell me about your favorite favorite interview from this book.
- 18:31From the new work.
- 18:32Well, Ed, my lead is like a force of nature.
- 18:34Right?
- 18:34I mean, he's a social media icon.
- 18:36The story he shares about buying a Velcroed car He literally bought a kit car that was a
- 18:43Chrysler of Baron, but it had a Mercedes body Velcroed to it.
- 18:47And the police called him pulled him aside and the car fell apart.
- 18:51I mean, it was just a riot.
- 18:52You've gotta listen to the story.
- 18:54But I think my favorite mentor is master mentor number 32.
- 18:59It's a man by the name of, Bobby Herrera.
- 19:03He's a very successful entrepreneur, and he wrote a book called The Gift of Struggle He's
- 19:09Mexican by birth in Texan by choice, and he wrote a book that just talks about how
- 19:14important struggle is in our lives.
- 19:17Melanie and Brooke both talked about that under sections, and he shares a story of how and he
- 19:21was in high school, he and his brother played on the high school football team.
- 19:25And he was, I think, one of 9 children.
- 19:27So, you know, economic means were pretty tight.
- 19:30And every Friday night, the football team would take the bus after playing football and go to a
- 19:34local restaurant.
- 19:35And all the kids would get off the bus and go have dinner except for the Herrera brothers
- 19:40because you couldn't both have football cleats, and dinner.
- 19:44So Bobby and his brother stayed on the bus every night.
- 19:46Everyone knew they didn't go into dinner until 1 night, One of the fathers came back on the
- 19:51bus.
- 19:52Now this was not Ruth Chris.
- 19:53This was like sizzler.
- 19:54Right?
- 19:54It wasn't, you know, super expensive dinner, but there wasn't even $6 for dinner.
- 19:58One night, one of the fathers came back on the bus and said, hey, gentlemen.
- 20:01I want you to be my guest for dinner.
- 20:03I'm gonna pay.
- 20:04No one's gonna know.
- 20:05And all I ask in return is that someday in the future, you do the same for somebody else.
- 20:10And Bobby says it was the first time in his life he ever felt seen by another person.
- 20:15He felt invisible He couldn't he couldn't see a day in front of him, and this one guy named
- 20:20Harold Teague, a fairly successful businessman, a father.
- 20:23One of the other players boarded that bus and invited him to dinner on his tab.
- 20:2930 years later, Bobby becomes his wildly successful entrepreneur.
- 20:33Launches this book called The Gift of Struggle.
- 20:35I encourage all your listeners.
- 20:37Don't buy my book.
- 20:38Go buy Bobby's book the Gift of Struggle.
- 20:41Go by Melinda's book.
- 20:42Go by Liz Wiseman's book.
- 20:4430 years later, he launches his book.
- 20:47In front of a 150 friends, he finds the father and he hadn't talked to you in 30 years.
- 20:52His name was Harold Teague.
- 20:54He was still alive.
- 20:55He flies him into the book launch party, and he shares this whole story not a tear, not a not a
- 21:01dry eye in the house, standing ovation, Harold Teek flies back home, calls up Bobby here where
- 21:06the next day and said, I remember this, but I had no idea the impact on you.
- 21:11And the and the moral of the story is simply, you know, who have you made feel seen today?
- 21:17By a really well earned deliberate specific compliment, and perhaps a hand on a shoulder.
- 21:22Something like, I love how passionate you are about your family.
- 21:25I love how how how focused you are and the quality of your work.
- 21:30All of us were made to be felt seen by someone in our life and this transformational insight
- 21:36is as a leader, who will you make feel seen today?
- 21:42And 29 other stories more fantastical than that?
- 21:47Well, that's a heck of a that's a heck of a story.
- 21:50I mean, I'm like, fighting back tears right now.
- 21:53Stories of people who fell out of airline planes and live to tell about it.
- 21:58They survived crashes.
- 22:00Remarkable story.
- 22:01Wait till volume 3 when you lead or you read that insight from our host, Melinda Emerson.
- 22:07That's gonna be good.
- 22:08Oh, gosh.
- 22:09Well, listen.
- 22:10You you've you've you, like, we saved the best for last, I think.
- 22:14That was Not hardly.
- 22:15No.
- 22:15I am in the I am in the presence of greatness with Brooke and Melanie.
- 22:19Melanie, not even close.
- 22:20Not even close.
- 22:21Well, listen.
- 22:22You've been so gracious and awesome tonight.
- 22:24I can't thank you enough for coming on the small business chat podcast.
- 22:29Special thanks to leadership expert and best selling author, Scott Jeffrey Miller.
- 22:33Everyone go out and grab his brand new book, Master Mentors volume 2.
- 22:38I promise you.
- 22:39It's a good one.
- 22:40And if you're interested in learning about what kind of boss you might be, head over to boss
- 22:46quiz.com.
- 22:48It's not a quiz.
- 22:49It's actually gonna give you a twelve page business assessment about what is gonna be the
- 22:53right type of business for you.
- 22:56I'm Melinda Emerson, the small biz lady, and I am so glad that you spent time with me on the
- 23:01small biz chat podcast.
- 23:03And I will leave you with this.
- 23:04You never lose in business, either you win or you won't.
- 23:08God bless everybody.
- 23:12Thanks for listening to the Small Biz chat podcast with Melinda Emerson.
- 23:17Subscribe to this podcast wherever you listen the podcast and join us next Wednesday for more
- 23:23fantastic information and interviews.
- 23:25You can find more sources and small business success strategies by visiting Melinda's
- 23:30website succeed as your own boss dot com.
- 23:33Thanks again for listening, and we'll see you next week.