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Disappointments. · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens, Hey everybody. Good morning from the chicken
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  coop. Today, we're talking about
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  disappointments. Oh God disappointments.
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  How many times do you think you use that word in a day in a week
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  in a month and a year because it all happens.
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  We find ourselves in a state of saying, well or thinking we're
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  disappointed. It was one of the things that I
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  grew up with my mother used to use that.
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  Word a lot. Especially when I would get in
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  trouble for talking too much in class and she'd say I'm
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  disappointed, you're not paying attention, wasn't that?
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  I wasn't paying attention. I just had a lots of questions,
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  but disappointed was a word and I I think there's a huge lesson
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  in understanding disappointments when we are disappointed in
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  ourselves and others in all, you know, the world so to speak.
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  We often have expectations that were putting out there and these
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  expectations have attachments to them and attachment really is
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  the biggest struggle that we have when we get attached to
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  something, and we have this, deep need to have something.
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  Take place, in order that we avoid that disappointment.
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  We set ourselves up for failure because again, looking outside
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  of yourself for things is the Path to disappointment or my
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  husband likes to use it in a different way.
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  He'll say the road to disappointment is paved with
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  missed expectations and I couldn't agree more.
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  That town of disappointment is such a big town and when we
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  really think about it and how much time we spend headed.
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  There, we say, gosh, this is because I expected something
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  that I shouldn't have expected and managing expectations of
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  yourself and Cognizing where you put those expectations on
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  yourself is important, but it's really about where you put them
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  on. Other people I put expectations
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  on myself and I'm okay with that but I'm I'm not going to beat
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  myself up either because that's not a way.
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  I don't subscribe to, you know, the beatings will continue until
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  morale improves. The problem we have is when we
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  put those expectations on other people who have no business
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  making them, they, we can't force people.
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  To do it. We can't sit there and say to
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  someone else I have large expectations of you and if you
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  don't do what I tell you to do, I will be disappointed with you.
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  And then I carry that disappointment around and
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  parents are really good at doing this, with their kids, I can't
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  tell you how many times in my life I heard that but that's not
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  a way to lead and it's not always a good thing to put on a
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  child because then the child understands that they have to
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  live to make other people happy. And that's not what we want.
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  We don't want to make other people feel like are there.
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  The role is your just to make another person happy.
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  Now, this your role is to focus on yourself and Choose to be
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  happy, no matter what is going on around.
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  You said that before, I think I said it yesterday, but our big
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  focus in this is really acknowledging that we are not
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  going to put disappointment out there so quickly.
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  Instead of having that, when disappointment shows up, you
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  have to ask yourself. What is this trying to teach me?
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  Because it will show up and it's here to give you some
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  information. So if I'm It in something.
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  Like, for instance, I was completely disappointed in a big
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  portion of my garden this year. It was trying to teach me
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  something. It was trying to teach me that I
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  really need to pay attention to the types of seeds that I buy,
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  because I live in a space where it is hot.
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  It is like how hot here and some of the seeds that I chose, even
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  though they were awesome and wonderful and sound so exciting.
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  They were not ideal for growing where I live.
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  They were just not ideal. So, I needed to make a better
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  choice. If I had made better choices,
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  they would have been absolutely able to thrive, but I didn't
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  make better choices. So, rather than being just in a
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  state of disappointment and not doing anything about it.
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  I have to recognize, I need to make better choices when I make
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  better choices, will have better outcomes and I can immediately
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  shift my mindset and that moment when I can get excited and say,
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  okay, now I get it, I can shift this, I don't have to be upset
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  about this easily, I can't Write down all my lessons and let me
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  tell you, I do pulled out a notebook wrote down.
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  Here's what worked here's what could have been better.
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  Here's how I can close the gap. All the right for my flower
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  garden as well. You know, lots of flowers that
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  didn't do well disappointed. Yes, whose fault was it.
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  It was my fault wasn't the seeds.
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  Fall wasn't the weather's fall? I could complain and say yeah,
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  we had 21 days, straight of rain things drown.
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  Okay? Nothing was going to help with
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  that, but I'm not going to be mad at Mother Nature.
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  I'm not going to walk around and Completely disappointed with mud
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  Mother Nature over it. That's useless that's not going
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  to help me get anywhere. So watch the language around,
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  disappointment look at what's disappointing.
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  You make decisions about it and don't allow it to rule your
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  world and make those choices to put it aside and say, I refuse
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  to keep driving to the town of disappointment every day with my
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  missed expectations. That I put out there in the
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  world because it's foolish and it doesn't help me.
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  So, if that in yourself, watch yourself, go to a whole new
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  level of peace. I hope you guys have a blessed
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  day and I will see you tomorrow. Bye. if that in yourself, watch
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  yourself, go to a whole new level of peace.
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  I hope you guys have a blessed day and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.