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Bonus Episode: Cultivating Resilient Children Through Conscious Parenting and Positive Affirmations · The Spiritual Parent: Mindful Tools for Raising Spiritual and Conscious Kids

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  Carrie: Why do you need to try harder when you're already doing your best work?
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  Carrie: And I would kind of bring up the discussion right, my mind says to work harder when really my heart knows I'm working really hard on this, I'm doing my best right now.
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  Carrie: So my monkey mind can get turned on, but I like to change that.
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  Carrie: How can we change that?
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  Carrie: And we can work together?
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  Carrie: So, instead of saying try harder next time, we could say don't give up, or you are one step closer to your goal.
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  Carrie: We could just write one step closer.
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  Carrie: So these are things that we can show our kids and how we can reflect on our negative self-talk, that cycle of things in our minds, and we can change it into something positive and something that's motivating for us.
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  Carrie: Right, hi Conscious Parents, it's Keri here and I am here with a little info about raising our mindful kids.
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  Carrie: I've got some tips and tricks about breaking free of the box and becoming who you are and teaching your kids how to do that along the way.
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  Carrie: Join us, hi conscious moms and dads.
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  Carrie: Do you have moments where you miss that flow state that you used to find before becoming a parent?
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  Carrie: Was there something that you used to work in that your heart was really passionate about and you felt like you were making a difference in the world.
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  Carrie: You can join us with a free guided meditation, available in the show notes, to help you rediscover your passion in life.
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  Carrie: Hi, conscious Parents, and welcome back.
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  Carrie: It's Keri here and I'm excited to have you guys back for another mini session where we can get some quick info in a quick dose.
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  Carrie: So today we're talking about connection is the key to empowering our children.
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  Carrie: One thing that we need to think about when we are talking about these connection pieces is how these beautiful beings are here and they are born ready to connect with you.
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  Carrie: You are ready to connect with your little ones, and when we connect with them, we help them to hit this higher quality of human beings that they are wanting to be.
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  Carrie: We are helping them to become the best version of themselves.
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  Carrie: So when we feel like we want to correct them and we want to help them become the better version of themselves, sometimes that does come with the correction, that does come with this energy that we bring in wanting them to be perfect.
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  Carrie: So when we correct them, I oftentimes will watch my kiddos to see how they're responding when I'm helping them to load the dishwasher and they put the plates in wrong, which I don't know.
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  Carrie: If you're like other moms or dads, I have a method to my madness with my dishwasher and there's a certain place for everything.
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  Carrie: So one thing that I think about is letting them load it wrong.
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  Carrie: It's okay, letting them put it in the wrong place, what's going to hurt?
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  Carrie: But also when we do need to correct them like a plate is upside down or a cup is upside down, it's going to fill with water we can talk about explaining to them oh look, I think this might work the best if we face it down.
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  Carrie: And so thinking about ways that we can talk with our kids to help them still feel bold and passionate and to not squelch that passion in their lives.
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  Carrie: Remember, we want our kids to grow into these version of themselves that are still conscious and still spiritually connected.
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  Carrie: So that looks like not having as many layers right, these layers of protection.
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  Carrie: We want them to still feel safe, to be bold and be their own versions of themselves.
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  Carrie: So some of the powerful tools that we can help them to become an amazing version of themselves.
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  Carrie: So some of the powerful tools that we can help them to become an amazing version of themselves.
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  Carrie: I love positive affirmations, so this week I would love for you guys to try doing positive affirmations with your kids and I'm actually thinking about doing a little series that includes some positive affirmations for us.
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  Carrie: And so let's start this week actually with looking in the mirror with our kids and this is going to sound totally funky, but let's get a dry erase marker, look in the mirror and trace the outline of yourself, and I want you to have your kids trace the outline of their selves.
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  Carrie: You might need to pull up a step stool so they can reach the mirror, right, if you have a six-year-old.
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  Carrie: That's what we got to do sometimes.
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  Carrie: So we're going to always model what this looks like, this activity that we're doing, and right now we're going to talk to them about what is in our head space, what are some of the things that we may hear in our heads, and what is our monkey mind, what is it saying in our mind?
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  Carrie: So we can say some things.
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  Carrie: We will start.
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  Carrie: So, take the dry erase marker and write something like something that comes to you.
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  Carrie: I'm going to give you an example with what maybe I would write up with my kiddos.
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  Carrie: I would write something like I am doing my best.
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  Carrie: I would write something like I am doing my best.
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  Carrie: I would write something like I am wonderful.
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  Carrie: And then I would write something you know that's a little bit harsher for myself.
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  Carrie: Right, try harder next time.
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  Carrie: So then I would read these aloud to my kids and kind of talk about it and say what do you see?
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  Carrie: Do you see a pattern here?
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  Carrie: What are your thoughts when you hear me say these pieces about myself?
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  Carrie: And my kids would probably reflect and say, wait, try harder.
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  Carrie: You are trying hard, mom, you do your best.
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  Carrie: Why do you need to try harder when you're already doing your best work?
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  Carrie: And I would kind of bring up the discussion right, my mind says to work harder when really my heart knows I'm working really hard on this, I'm doing my best right now.
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  Carrie: So my monkey mind can get turned on, but I like to change that.
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  Carrie: How can we change that?
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  Carrie: And we can work together.
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  Carrie: So instead of saying try harder next time, we could say don't give up, or you are one step closer to your goal.
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  Carrie: We could just write one step closer.
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  Carrie: So these are things that we can show our kids and how we can reflect on our negative self-talk, that cycle of things in our minds and we can change it into something positive and something that's motivating for us.
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  Carrie: Right, because the way that we talk to ourselves is that fear and that energy.
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  Carrie: Sometimes we need to acknowledge that and try to change it to the positive pieces your brain sets into these patterns.
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  Carrie: When we continue to say that to ourselves, we're bringing in that energy.
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  Carrie: Do we want to stop that energy and that cycle of good things?
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  Carrie: Do we want to continue those negative things?
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  Carrie: What is it you're searching for?
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  Carrie: Remember to set your mindset on that and continue down that journey.
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  Carrie: So I would then ask my kiddos what would you write in here about you?
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  Carrie: And you could either let your kid write it or you could write it, and I would love to see things like I am good enough.
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  Carrie: Maybe your kids are going to come up with that on round one, but you could have your kid read the ones they wrote.
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  Carrie: Maybe you could are going to come up with that on round one, but you could have your kid read the ones they wrote.
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  Carrie: Maybe you could write some next to them.
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  Carrie: Maybe you could write a bubble and say here's what I think about you.
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  Carrie: I think that you are a hard worker.
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  Carrie: I think that you do your best.
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  Carrie: You are powerful, you are amazing.
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  Carrie: You are gifted at whatever they're gifted at Learning new things about whales.
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  Carrie: You are magical.
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  Carrie: You create things that I never could have dreamed of.
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  Carrie: All of these pieces are things that we can write down, and I love if you would write down seven things about your kid and each morning you go in and you say one, and then you erase it and you say we're sending it up to the sky, we're sending it up to heaven, we're sending it up to God, the universe, whatever you guys believe in.
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  Carrie: That's your foundation for your family, and so you can even like take a deep breath and blow it out.
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  Carrie: Right, you could do these little manifestation pieces.
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  Carrie: Even so, I would love for you guys to work on these empowering pieces, these positive affirmations this week and, if you ever want to, let me know how it's going.
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  Carrie: I love to find out things.
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  Carrie: I love to hear how you guys are doing.
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  Carrie: You can message me on Instagram, hearttoheartparentspodcast, or you can send me an email at info at hearttoheartlifecom.
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  Carrie: Thank you Well, that's a wrap.
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  Carrie: Thanks so much for tuning in Changemakers.
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  Carrie: Thanks so much for tuning in and happy life, happy times, changemaker families.