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Season 4 - Episode 209 - Happy back to school!. · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermindset, coach, creative strategist, and also happened to
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  be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast to teach
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  distinctions, possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring
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  some joy. Into the.
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  World. So welcome to the coop and let's
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  start your day off in a fantastic way.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  He was almost on the money this morning in the background.
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  Today. We are talking about back to
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  school. I do not have my son going back
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  to school this week when the normal school starts here.
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  I have decided that I'm going to put him back on September 2nd
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  after Labor Day because he worked very late to finish up
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  school. And that's the beauty of doing
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  an online school homeschool situation.
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  I can shift it around, but many, many, many people have the back
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  to school situation going on. And I have to tell you, my
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  friends, a lot of my clients are talking about how it's either
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  exciting, they're dreading it, there's too much happening, they
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  expect too much from us, There's already lists of things coming
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  home and it's just extra burdens and yadda, yadda, yadda, yadda,
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  yadda. And it goes on and on and on and
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  on. And all of it is true.
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  It is 100% amazing how much our workload picks up when our kids
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  have to go to school. And it's funny because it's our
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  kids going to school, but our workload picks up significantly.
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  And one might say, well, that doesn't seem right or that
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  doesn't seem fair, or that's just one of those things where I
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  don't get it. I don't understand why, how all
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  of this, this all affects me. And it's amazing to me that we,
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  we know who we are. If you're listening to this
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  podcast, you know, you're, you're a doer.
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  You know, you're the person that will jump in.
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  You know that you will take care of things and make it right.
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  You're just like, no doubt you've levelled up in many areas
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  of your life. So when it comes to school and
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  whether it's for you or the kids, you're going to do it at
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  an extraordinary level. I certainly know for me that I
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  want my son to be doing this. I want him to be happy doing it.
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  I want to be able to have him all set up in the best way
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  possible. And this year we've got 2 levels
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  of school we're doing because he's doing his plumbing
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  apprenticeship, so he has to do plumbing online classes as well
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  as his regular school. Obviously he's way more
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  interested in the plumbing than he is the regular school.
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  And that's a whole other thing to try to not only do you have
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  to keep your kids motivated, but you have to keep yourself
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  motivated and you have to keep up no matter how you know, it
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  feels when they're sitting there and their their head is on the
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  table. And I mean, I finished this just
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  a little while ago. He's finishing algebra and his
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  literally on his desk. His head is on the desk and he's
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  just like, this is terrible and I have to pump him up.
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  You can't, you know, you can't motivate someone by yelling at
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  them. That's the funny part.
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  You cannot motivate them. You might scare them into
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  submission, but then they will never, ever, ever feel good
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  about what they're doing. I, my first grade teacher was
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  very much like that. And she was like just a tyrant
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  in the room. And she would yell.
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  And I remember being so afraid I didn't even want to go to
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  school. I can remember actually sitting
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  in wet pants. I peed my pants in school rather
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  than asking her to go to the bathroom because I was so afraid
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  that she would yell. So you can't, you can't motivate
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  someone through fear. What you can do is scare them
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  into submission. But then other things start to
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  happen, hence the peeing of the pants.
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  I mean, my mother was mortified. And to tell her that I didn't
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  think I could ask to go to the bathroom was, you know,
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  embarrassing. But I ended up telling my dad.
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  And my dad was like, what? This is ridiculous.
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  And you know, years, many years ago, so schools got away with
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  doing a lot more than they can now.
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  But the point is you can't motivate through fear.
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  You have to motivate and have your motivation plan ahead of
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  time. So right now you have to start
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  figuring out what motivates your kid.
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  Is it, are they motivated by money?
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  What is their currency? But it might not be cash.
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  It might not be that. It might be they want time with
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  you. They might want a pizza party.
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  They might want to be able to stay over at grandma's on the
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  weekend. They might be working towards a
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  bike this year, but you have to find something that motivates
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  them so that you don't pull your hair out by the roots.
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  In the process of doing this this year, and for me, I know my
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  son's motivation is 100% being able to do the plumbing school.
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  And as long as I have that in place, it's like, listen, you
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  can do this. As long as the rest of the work
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  goes great, you can continue to do this.
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  If it starts to suffer, then we have to put a stop on it.
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  Otherwise, you know, by the time you finish high school, you're
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  going to be a licensed plumber with your own truck.
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  And he was just like, OK, like he wants to finish high school
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  and be ready. He won't be a master plumber,
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  but he'll be a licensed plumber and then he'll be able to go
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  into studying for the master part of it.
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  And to me, finding that little bit of motivation is so
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  important. Also, having him, like, cash was
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  always something like putting money in a savings account,
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  Great. But giving him a debit card and
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  what? Letting him learn that?
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  Like, where'd my money go? Well, you spent it on stuff at
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  the gas station and silly stuff like, you know, you went and
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  bought a bottle of Gatorade and you went and bought a silly hat
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  at the gas station with your friend.
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  Now, is it fun? Sure.
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  But look what it cost you. And then he gets it.
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  So in order to have this school year go forward with a force,
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  look for what the motivation is. Look for.
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  Try to figure that out ahead of time.
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  And then you're going to be way, way, way better off.
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  And I promise it's going to help you because you've got to keep
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  yourself motivated too. So find out what motivates you,
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  What are your wins going to be? And if you have to add yourself
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  to the sticker chart, my friends, do it so you can see
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  how many successful mornings did we all have getting out of the
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  house? Because I got to tell you, it
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  does work. OK everybody happy, back to
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  school and I will see you all tomorrow.
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  Bye.