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The Breakfast Club BEST OF - Jordan Carlos Interview, And Freaky Friday Topic (Chores for Sex) · The Breakfast Club

• 0:01
  Speaker 1: Wake you up?
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  Speaker 2: Wa wa?
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  Speaker 1: Thats up?
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  Speaker 3: On the program your alarm to power one oh five
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  Speaker 3: point one on iHeartRadio.
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  Speaker 4: I'm telling what you doing?
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  Speaker 5: Hall of Yo.
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  Speaker 3: This is your time to get it off your chest,
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  Speaker 3: whether you're mad or blessed. Eight hundred and five five one.
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  Speaker 3: We want to hear from you on the Breakfast Club.
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  Speaker 6: Hello, who's this?
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  Speaker 1: Yo?
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  Speaker 7: This just Ben Man? How y'all doing?
• 0:24
  Speaker 1: What's up?
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  Speaker 8: Ben?
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  Speaker 1: Getting off your chest?
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  Speaker 7: Ben uh Man? I just want to try. First of all,
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  Speaker 7: good morning, jest, Good morning, charlote man, good morning all right.
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  Speaker 9: First thing, I just want to get this on a check.
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  Speaker 7: I can't say this to my girl, so I'm gonna
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  Speaker 7: just say it to y'all. I hate my girl. Dogs.
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  Speaker 10: Okay, what kind of dogs are they being?
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  Speaker 11: Best?
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  Speaker 7: She got some kind of little poodle dog and American
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  Speaker 7: pit Okay. I am a dog guy, don't get me wrong.
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  Speaker 7: I loved out. I just didn't grow up with dogs
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  Speaker 7: in my house. Okay, Brodie thought about it right, be crazy.
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  Speaker 7: I don't know how. Okay, to all the dog people
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  Speaker 7: out there, I don't know how y'all deal with dogs
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  Speaker 7: running all around y'all house and dog everywhere. But just
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  Speaker 7: about to make me say, hey, I can't do this,
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  Speaker 7: no more.
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  Speaker 4: Cleaning up, pop, Bro, I don't.
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  Speaker 7: I just refuse, like I don't even.
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  Speaker 8: Walk these dogs got kids.
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  Speaker 7: I don't do nothing.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, lord, damn, he's about to walk away, because what
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  Speaker 6: are they doing?
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  Speaker 7: Listen? The dogs ain't doing nothing. They just they just
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  Speaker 7: stupid dogs.
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  Speaker 9: And I hate dogs everywhere.
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  Speaker 7: I don't. I don't like going to work with dog
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  Speaker 7: here all over me. Okay, that's crazy, man. Look, these
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  Speaker 7: dogs don't even be in my car, and I got
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  Speaker 7: dog here in my car. I vacuum in my car
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  Speaker 7: and my all lady well every day because I'm thinking
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  Speaker 7: of these dogs.
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  Speaker 5: It sounds like y'all need more space, like more and
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  Speaker 5: more space than where when y'all residents.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah, he got a nice house, ain't she didn't get ready?
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  Speaker 1: Eat?
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  Speaker 7: Damn?
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  Speaker 5: Oh, to make one of them come up missing, you know,
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  Speaker 5: don't do that.
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  Speaker 7: But listen, this is what made me call this morning.
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  Speaker 7: I listened to this show every morning. Don't go way
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  Speaker 7: to work just like I'm doing now. Bro, I had
• 2:16
  Speaker 7: a dream about poisoning them dogs last night. I said, boy,
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  Speaker 7: I might have to talk. I might need to call
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  Speaker 7: Charlotte man to talk to them, But this is something
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  Speaker 7: going on with a mission. Did y'all have a dream
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  Speaker 7: about did.
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  Speaker 4: You and your wife have a conversation and tell her
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  Speaker 4: how you feel?
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  Speaker 7: Yeah, we had won a few months ago and that
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  Speaker 7: turned into a bigger argument. So I ain't trying to
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  Speaker 7: go there no more.
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  Speaker 10: So why don't you buy one of them kid gates,
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  Speaker 10: you know, the little kiddy gates. But they want the
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  Speaker 10: mot kitty gates and put the dogs and the kiddy gates.
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  Speaker 7: That what, Charlotte, I don't want the dogs in the house.
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  Speaker 8: I don't care what, all right, man?
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  Speaker 4: So let me let me walk in the house. So
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  Speaker 4: let me tell you some dog.
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  Speaker 5: When you heard that there was when you heard the
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  Speaker 5: lie that they was eating at the dogs in Ohio?
• 3:01
  Speaker 5: Did you did you? Did you smile a little bit?
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  Speaker 5: Did you think about taking a little.
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  Speaker 8: Trip a little bit?
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  Speaker 1: You have a good one, man, I have a good one.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah, I have a good one, man.
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  Speaker 6: Get it off your chest. Eight hundred five eight five
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  Speaker 6: on five. Did you you groove with dogs?
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  Speaker 11: No?
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  Speaker 6: I didn't grove with dogs, but I have dogs now, Charlemagne.
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  Speaker 4: A couple not like that, though.
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  Speaker 5: I had a couple of rock wallers when I was
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  Speaker 5: I had a bad experience because somebody poisoned my dog.
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  Speaker 5: Somebody got tired of my damn. I had a two
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  Speaker 5: rod Wills named band Terror, and somebody got tired of
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  Speaker 5: Terror and they poisoned the neighbors poisoned them. I can't
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  Speaker 5: prove it today was poison them, but I feel like
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  Speaker 5: the name would poison them Terror. Uh No, which one died?
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  Speaker 5: One of them died because they got poisoned. One of
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  Speaker 5: them got picked up by the dog people.
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  Speaker 10: The Yeah Jesus Christ, Yeah, I had shepherds on my life.
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  Speaker 10: My dad didn't believe in having a dog as a petty.
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  Speaker 10: If you had the dog, the dog need to have
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  Speaker 10: a job. Oh wow, so you got to protect the house. Agam,
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  Speaker 10: that was different. You ain't got no pets. You gotta
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  Speaker 10: have a job. You're gonna protect this house.
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  Speaker 6: If now, we don't want a little dog, Now we
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  Speaker 6: want a dog.
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  Speaker 5: I want to dog now my wife won't let me
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  Speaker 5: get one. Yep, I want to South African boar board.
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  Speaker 10: Well, get it off your chest. Eight hundred and five
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  Speaker 10: eighty five, one oh five one. If you need to
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  Speaker 10: vent hit us up now. It's the breakfast club in the morning.
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  Speaker 3: This is your time to get it off your chest,
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  Speaker 3: whether you're man or blessed.
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  Speaker 12: I hate the way that you walk, the way did
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  Speaker 12: you talk?
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  Speaker 6: I hate the way that your dress. Everything when me
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  Speaker 6: is best? Call up new eight hundred five eighty five
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  Speaker 6: five one not ches.
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  Speaker 1: I'm what the coach of philing?
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  Speaker 3: Hello?
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  Speaker 1: Who's this?
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  Speaker 7: This?
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  Speaker 9: JV from Jersey City?
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  Speaker 1: JV from Jersey City? Whatever?
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  Speaker 6: Get it off your chest?
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  Speaker 1: Brother?
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  Speaker 8: What's up?
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  Speaker 13: Man?
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  Speaker 8: I want to talk about the ir rest man.
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  Speaker 5: Okay, hey, hey, hey, be respectful.
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  Speaker 8: I'm telling you gonna be respectful. Okay, okay, you ready, yep? Okay.
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  Speaker 8: So what happened was I was working for a coming
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  Speaker 8: in Cowing, Jersey City, right, and what happened Cowing? I'm
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  Speaker 8: taking my tactic for me. They started poking my money
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  Speaker 8: every week for five years. So when I went to
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  Speaker 8: ir rest told me that I owe him twenty eight thousand, dang,
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  Speaker 8: And I said, and I said, and I said, why
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  Speaker 8: why do out with twenty eight thousand? They said, because
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  Speaker 8: you wasn't paying your tax? So I said how They
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  Speaker 8: turned the screaming around, They said, you ain't paid for
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  Speaker 8: twenty twenty.
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  Speaker 5: What you want us to say, sir? I don't know
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  Speaker 5: what you wanted to tell you if the com paid
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  Speaker 5: the people their money.
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  Speaker 10: If the company was doing that, you should you should
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  Speaker 10: you should look at sue in the company because if
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  Speaker 10: they would, if they took the TAXI still out your
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  Speaker 10: check and they kept it and didn't give it to
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  Speaker 10: the I R S. And you could prove that that's
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  Speaker 10: not that's not your problem, that that's their problem.
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  Speaker 5: But it's always two sides to a story. And when
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  Speaker 5: it comes to the I R S, I tend to
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  Speaker 5: believe that side.
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  Speaker 1: But IRS is for their money, don't We're gonna.
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  Speaker 4: Give it to them.
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  Speaker 8: That's what I've been working for that company to twenty twelve,
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  Speaker 8: and I see every last piece stuff from twenty and
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  Speaker 8: I did show that and guess what happened? But nothing.
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  Speaker 8: They said, Okay, we either you don't owe us, and
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  Speaker 8: that's it. And so what I did was I went
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  Speaker 8: to a lawyer, and I got a lawyer on him
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  Speaker 8: to try to get my money back. And at the
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  Speaker 8: end of the day, you gotta wait.
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  Speaker 4: So you don't, you don't. You don't owe the I
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  Speaker 4: R S anymore.
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  Speaker 8: No, I don't own no more but the thirty Because
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  Speaker 8: if I was Wesley Skype you know what I'm saying,
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  Speaker 8: They'll lock me up now.
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  Speaker 10: It's totally two different situations. To my knowledge, I don't
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  Speaker 10: think Wessey Steps wanted to pay them and was going
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  Speaker 10: to pay them.
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  Speaker 1: Your situation is your business was.
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  Speaker 10: Paying the I R S and just stopped paying the
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  Speaker 10: I R S and they were still taking that money
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  Speaker 10: out of your check.
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  Speaker 1: It's totally two different things.
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  Speaker 8: It's definitely well, guess well, guess what what, I'm gonna
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  Speaker 8: get mine, and I'm gonna take Todd dumb too. If
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  Speaker 8: you come to Jersey City, you can park in shop
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  Speaker 8: right or wherever you talking at for like two seconds,
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  Speaker 8: it's gonna take your car. And guess what the hiring
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  Speaker 8: people from off the street they picked your car, or
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  Speaker 8: break your acts and all that. Don't don't you know,
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  Speaker 8: don't leave the cars. Don they hired fresh book walk
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  Speaker 8: the street?
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  Speaker 4: All right, bro, have a good day. Bro a yes, sir, yes, sir.
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  Speaker 8: Hey man, respect to you man, because you know I'm bulled.
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  Speaker 8: It's like you you know, how old? How old do
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  Speaker 8: you cut your head?
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  Speaker 4: I try to buy it.
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  Speaker 5: I tried, no, no, no, I do like twice a week.
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  Speaker 5: I do at the top of the week and then
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  Speaker 5: at the at the end of the week.
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  Speaker 8: Oh yeah, you know once that he started throwing the spots.
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  Speaker 5: Coming man man, cause you know, my you know what
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  Speaker 5: I always be thinking about. I'd be like, damn, yo,
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  Speaker 5: you know what if I get locked up for something silly,
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  Speaker 5: you know, you know, just anything like driving. You know,
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  Speaker 5: my license and everything is good, but just I just
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  Speaker 5: be thinking that and then that munk shot come out
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  Speaker 5: and they see you without a haircut.
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  Speaker 8: Rocket, Oh my god, you old John.
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  Speaker 14: Lord, have mercy, get it off your chest, right, bros.
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  Speaker 1: Over there.
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  Speaker 10: Eight hundred and five eighty five one o five one,
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  Speaker 10: hit us up now it's the Breakfast Club. Good morning,
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  Speaker 10: everybody is dj NV just hilarious. Charlamagne the guy. We
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  Speaker 10: are the Breakfast Club. Nephew, just joining us. We're asking
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  Speaker 10: eight hundred five eighty five, one oh five one. What
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  Speaker 10: are some hustles you did as a kid that kids
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  Speaker 10: these days don't do?
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  Speaker 7: Now?
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  Speaker 10: This came from of course, you got a little blizzard
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  Speaker 10: and I ain't see too many kids out there shoveling snow.
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  Speaker 10: I'm telling you way y'all.
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  Speaker 6: Y'all kids ain't shoveling no snow.
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  Speaker 12: You got four of them.
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  Speaker 4: You got six four daughters.
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  Speaker 5: Foo daughters ain't shoveling, and Logan they shovel Logan.
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  Speaker 4: Logan should be out there shoveling snow. His big d's the.
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  Speaker 12: Last in Miami. You ain't got no damn snow.
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  Speaker 5: But I really was thinking about that yesterday because I'm like, man,
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  Speaker 5: this is a this is a day to come up.
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  Speaker 5: It was like sixteen seventeen inches of snow where we
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  Speaker 5: live at in New Jersey, New York City area.
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  Speaker 4: It's like, yo, go out there, get a shovel and
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  Speaker 4: these kids.
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  Speaker 5: You can get the electric shovel that when you hit
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  Speaker 5: the snow, it just damn it disappears. You can go
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  Speaker 5: get you know, snow blowers for the cheap. There's all
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  Speaker 5: types of ways that you can go out here and
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  Speaker 5: make some money. I don't know why these kids ain't
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  Speaker 5: out here getting it. And by the way, y'all want
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  Speaker 5: to complain about you know, you know, people from other
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  Speaker 5: countries taking jobs.
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  Speaker 4: The Mexicans was on it. Yes Now. I got scared
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  Speaker 4: when they pulled up. Why did you get scared?
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  Speaker 5: Because I don't know. I'm like, you know, y'all pull
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  Speaker 5: up the ice come follows. But clearly they clearly they
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  Speaker 5: were legal. But they pulled up in the plot and
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  Speaker 5: they had the shovels and they got busy and they
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  Speaker 5: I was like.
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  Speaker 4: Damn, I ain't you know?
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  Speaker 12: And they made some bread.
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  Speaker 4: They made some bread, that's right.
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  Speaker 10: But one of the things that I would do as
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  Speaker 10: a kid, especially when my grandmother went to the grocery
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  Speaker 10: store with shopping, I would help people carry their groceries
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  Speaker 10: to the car.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, that would pay me a lot of money.
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  Speaker 10: That would give me five dollars here, four dollars here,
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  Speaker 10: ten dollars here.
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  Speaker 12: Helping people pump gas.
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  Speaker 6: All of that was ray thieves.
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  Speaker 4: I'll tell y'all one what collecting cans in the dirt road.
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  Speaker 4: The monks going to start Caroline.
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  Speaker 5: We walk up and down that dirt road, picking up
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  Speaker 5: the maluminium cans, put them in the plastic bag and
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  Speaker 5: taking them, you know wherever you tell them.
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  Speaker 10: That far in trash cans and go through the trash
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  Speaker 10: cans and pick where you get cans from, like I
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  Speaker 10: would just if I went to school, I want grandma's
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  Speaker 10: house my mouth. But I wasn't going to the You
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  Speaker 10: went in the garbage can.
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  Speaker 4: To get cans. I just said.
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  Speaker 5: We was walking down the dirt road, and we would
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  Speaker 5: find on the ground all the cans of butt wising
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  Speaker 5: and cars and all of that.
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  Speaker 4: There Another people ain't doing no more selling crack.
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  Speaker 1: What I'm telling you.
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  Speaker 12: And look I was boosting. He went to drugs stealing crack.
• 10:06
  Speaker 5: Cocaine is still sold in a lot of parts of America,
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  Speaker 5: but it's not the woman business that once was. You
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  Speaker 5: got you got heroin, you got meth, you got cocaine.
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  Speaker 15: Drugs now, but the crack is not like it used
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  Speaker 15: to be because the crackheads changed. When you can see
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  Speaker 15: the crackhead behavior these days, it doesn't compare it to
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  Speaker 15: like we used to have some really really good crag
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  Speaker 15: kids over here, and the drugs changed.
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  Speaker 6: That's why the behavior changed.
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  Speaker 4: What else you could get a crackhead to do, shovel.
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  Speaker 12: The damn snow.
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  Speaker 6: These crackheads is lazy. They they're very entitled these days.
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  Speaker 4: No, because they're not on crack, on these pills and
• 10:35
  Speaker 4: these pills, just the opioids and that heroin. They just
• 10:40
  Speaker 4: you're right, you're right.
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  Speaker 6: The water boys.
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  Speaker 10: You see him in Atlanta, water boy candy candy flipping
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  Speaker 10: candy as well too.
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  Speaker 12: It clean.
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  Speaker 5: He's just don't know how to hustle no more, because
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  Speaker 5: all y'all hustle is on social media.
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  Speaker 4: Y'all too busy trying to get liked in and.
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  Speaker 15: Gave them and their social media may make it seem
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  Speaker 15: like anything like that. It's corny, like they don't they
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  Speaker 15: don't want you to do that. Now, that's not cool
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  Speaker 15: to do now.
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  Speaker 1: Hello, who's this Hello?
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  Speaker 8: My name is Joy, and hey.
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  Speaker 1: Joy, good morning.
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  Speaker 10: Take her to us some hustles you did as a
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  Speaker 10: kid that these kids don't do anymore.
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  Speaker 13: As a kid, I remember going to scooter cells.
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  Speaker 1: Yang.
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  Speaker 13: We're used to tell whatever it is you need to tell,
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  Speaker 13: just to make a look at money. But just yesterday
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  Speaker 13: though my daughter watching she stops, came up with usscakes
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  Speaker 13: to Bees and she sent me everything she needed. And
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  Speaker 13: today she made little packages off those shells verry no
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  Speaker 13: bak and she's take it in the scooter cell.
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  Speaker 7: Like that.
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  Speaker 16: Oh yeah, chescape.
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  Speaker 13: Last night she made something discop with the strawberry and
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  Speaker 13: she has about ten off this morning, and I'm like,
• 11:36
  Speaker 13: you know, that's a little Just yesterday, actually she posted
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  Speaker 13: on Instagram made mad some sales before.
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  Speaker 8: She was looking the school this morning.
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  Speaker 12: Yeah, that's what selling baker is, Yeah, people used to
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  Speaker 12: do that.
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  Speaker 10: See you know what My daughters did, these bees, right,
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  Speaker 10: they did, these risk bees, and I brought them up
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  Speaker 10: here to try to sell a Charlotte even buy the
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  Speaker 10: little bracelets.
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  Speaker 12: Really, you could have brought something for your daughters.
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  Speaker 1: He told them two privileged or something like that.
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  Speaker 4: Oh yeah, I would rather spend some money with some
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  Speaker 4: kids that needed, right he Yeah, that's true. Some red
• 12:03
  Speaker 4: bottom boots, we wingers literally literally, yes, he.
• 12:07
  Speaker 1: Would even buy to be that's a hello, who's this
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  Speaker 1: top of the morning and the y'all doing this morning?
• 12:13
  Speaker 1: What's up?
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  Speaker 6: The angel with some hustles you did as a kid?
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  Speaker 17: That kid you were talking about the accidents dealing with
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  Speaker 17: that snow man, I ain't got no fingers on my hand,
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  Speaker 17: being told to go outside and get that snow removed
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  Speaker 17: in a snow flower. Been dealing with no fingers on
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  Speaker 17: my hand for forty years ago. Damn, you ain't got
• 12:32
  Speaker 17: no finger man, No fingers man, the one hand bandit?
• 12:36
  Speaker 6: You know, man, how you call us?
• 12:39
  Speaker 1: Oh?
• 12:39
  Speaker 6: I thought he was saying no fingers you got joke?
• 12:44
  Speaker 7: Nah?
• 12:45
  Speaker 12: No, man, I just thought you that's one of them.
• 12:48
  Speaker 1: Know you're laughing?
• 12:49
  Speaker 9: No, you no, no, turn up, don't do that.
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  Speaker 1: All right, all.
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  Speaker 11: Look holler.
• 13:03
  Speaker 10: If you're just joining us, we're talking about some of
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  Speaker 10: the hustles you did as a kid that these kids
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  Speaker 10: don't do. Like I reported a little a couple of
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  Speaker 10: minutes ago about people having heart attacks shoveling snow.
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  Speaker 4: I don't keep telling that, it does. It happens.
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  Speaker 6: That was one sixty seven year old man and the
• 13:18
  Speaker 6: who died midshovel. But they finally had to shovel in
• 13:21
  Speaker 6: his head. I know, I mean, shoving liss lowers.
• 13:24
  Speaker 4: Scremulous. I was out there yesterday and I'm like, god,
• 13:26
  Speaker 4: damn man, anybody got time for this?
• 13:27
  Speaker 1: I did?
• 13:28
  Speaker 4: I did make two good paths though.
• 13:29
  Speaker 1: That's good.
• 13:30
  Speaker 4: I made two good paths which are covered right now.
• 13:32
  Speaker 5: Probably know they they well. Actually the Mexican came through
• 13:35
  Speaker 5: and finished the job. Oh nice, So salute to them.
• 13:37
  Speaker 5: But once again they out here getting the money that
• 13:40
  Speaker 5: these kids in these neighborhood should be getting with these
• 13:42
  Speaker 5: kids are too busy on social media. When these kids
• 13:44
  Speaker 5: are too busy, you know, trying to make a dollar
• 13:46
  Speaker 5: virtually that they don't know how to pick up a shovel.
• 13:49
  Speaker 5: I'll go get a snowblower. I'll go get the electric
• 13:50
  Speaker 5: shovel and go out here and make some money. It
• 13:52
  Speaker 5: was so many things to do as a kids.
• 13:54
  Speaker 10: We talked about washing cars, We talked about if kids
• 13:57
  Speaker 10: could swim, they would be lifeguards, flipping candy.
• 14:00
  Speaker 5: Selling cut gun said, cutting grass right to cutting grass
• 14:05
  Speaker 5: collecting cans.
• 14:07
  Speaker 1: Hello, who's this.
• 14:09
  Speaker 7: Club boy?
• 14:10
  Speaker 8: This was a mall color from start Carolina?
• 14:13
  Speaker 4: What's up?
• 14:14
  Speaker 18: Brother?
• 14:14
  Speaker 13: Talk to us?
• 14:15
  Speaker 11: Man?
• 14:15
  Speaker 8: I want to see man, you kids like guys some
• 14:19
  Speaker 8: boy easy I used to to meet my homeboy.
• 14:22
  Speaker 10: Matter fact, we used to go around the neighborhood knocking
• 14:25
  Speaker 10: the door to door cutting grass.
• 14:27
  Speaker 8: He can leave and all that. You know, the morenity
• 14:30
  Speaker 8: is all they want to to see in the house.
• 14:32
  Speaker 8: You know, you got to force the more.
• 14:34
  Speaker 7: To get out of the house. And the boy like
• 14:37
  Speaker 7: you growing up.
• 14:38
  Speaker 9: So yeah, man, that's all I want.
• 14:40
  Speaker 7: To see and the boy.
• 14:43
  Speaker 5: And it's a lack of respect for elders, right, And
• 14:45
  Speaker 5: what I mean by that is sometimes we don't even
• 14:47
  Speaker 5: see our elders because those are the ones who actually
• 14:49
  Speaker 5: need help. When you talking about rigging people's leaves, you
• 14:51
  Speaker 5: talk about cutting people's grass, even simple things like you know,
• 14:54
  Speaker 5: taking somebody's trash out. Maybe it's usually older people who
• 14:58
  Speaker 5: need that dumber because you don't see older people in
• 15:00
  Speaker 5: your neighborhood.
• 15:01
  Speaker 4: You don't even know where to go.
• 15:02
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but that was the thing that was big for us.
• 15:04
  Speaker 1: The grocery store was huge.
• 15:05
  Speaker 10: Like, we go to the grocery store, setting there for
• 15:07
  Speaker 10: a couple of hours, just help people get their grocery
• 15:09
  Speaker 10: to the cars. And we didn't really we didn't care
• 15:11
  Speaker 10: at that time. We got a dollar, two dollars, didn't
• 15:13
  Speaker 10: really matter. They just gave us a little bit of
• 15:14
  Speaker 10: you know, whatever they had in their pocket.
• 15:16
  Speaker 5: And you know, the biggest thing that we're forgetting while
• 15:17
  Speaker 5: a lot of this stuff is stopped, the lack of trust.
• 15:20
  Speaker 5: You can't just walk up to somebody's door and knock
• 15:23
  Speaker 5: on it and ask to help, because.
• 15:25
  Speaker 4: People aren't going to believe you're really there to help.
• 15:28
  Speaker 5: Imagine walking up to somebody in the grocery store and
• 15:30
  Speaker 5: be like, hey, yo, you need help with them back.
• 15:32
  Speaker 6: If you don't get them, I'm not even coming out
• 15:35
  Speaker 6: of the market now.
• 15:35
  Speaker 12: I don't even know what you.
• 15:36
  Speaker 1: Got planning, But if it was, you're right, you're right,
• 15:38
  Speaker 1: you're right.
• 15:38
  Speaker 10: Because even if a young kid coming to me. I'm like,
• 15:40
  Speaker 10: if you don't get out of it, because you won't
• 15:41
  Speaker 10: take the run. But as a kid, that's that's what
• 15:43
  Speaker 10: we did.
• 15:44
  Speaker 15: And even when you pull up to the stoplights and
• 15:46
  Speaker 15: that the kids that be trying to wash your windows
• 15:48
  Speaker 15: and you ain't ask them to, they get mad and
• 15:50
  Speaker 15: throw something at your car when you don't pay them
• 15:52
  Speaker 15: for cleaning your windows.
• 15:53
  Speaker 4: Hello, who is this.
• 15:56
  Speaker 7: Man?
• 15:57
  Speaker 8: What's up to us? Hey?
• 16:00
  Speaker 19: Real quick?
• 16:01
  Speaker 8: I remember growing up, man, I used to go to
• 16:03
  Speaker 8: the neighbors door, act.
• 16:05
  Speaker 11: The lady or the old head.
• 16:06
  Speaker 7: Man.
• 16:06
  Speaker 11: I can't take the trash.
• 16:08
  Speaker 8: Getting five ten dollars. Man, by the end of the week,
• 16:10
  Speaker 8: I have enough to go. Give me a video game, man, Man.
• 16:14
  Speaker 1: Thank you?
• 16:15
  Speaker 4: True yo.
• 16:16
  Speaker 15: What about burning CDs? I may a living stealing and
• 16:19
  Speaker 15: burning CDs? So he's bootlegging, yes, boot.
• 16:21
  Speaker 6: Legging and bootston that's why I need to call me cracking.
• 16:25
  Speaker 6: And then you like I couldn't been legal, Like yeah.
• 16:28
  Speaker 15: No, no no, but drugs is way worse than stealing.
• 16:30
  Speaker 15: No for real, because somebody can die.
• 16:32
  Speaker 4: What about services? Remember Tim?
• 16:34
  Speaker 5: Services need to go to Tim where you would go
• 16:36
  Speaker 5: and they would have like work for the day. They'll
• 16:39
  Speaker 5: send you place send you somewhere to go, and you
• 16:42
  Speaker 5: have to go.
• 16:43
  Speaker 6: Somewhere every day, and every day be a different job.
• 16:44
  Speaker 7: You have to go.
• 16:45
  Speaker 1: One day, it might be cleaning up stuff at the park.
• 16:47
  Speaker 12: The little tech agencies.
• 16:48
  Speaker 6: Okay, yeah, no, never did that.
• 16:51
  Speaker 8: Hello, who's this money, Johnathan? I'm from Florida.
• 16:54
  Speaker 6: What if something you did as a kid that these
• 16:55
  Speaker 6: kids don't do anymore?
• 16:57
  Speaker 9: The first thing is a couple of them. But the
• 16:58
  Speaker 9: first thing I'm gonna say, it's shoveling snow. When I
• 17:01
  Speaker 9: used to live up north and I used to live
• 17:02
  Speaker 9: in Philly, it ain't nobody out there said much snow.
• 17:05
  Speaker 9: These kids don't got no hustling them because they want
• 17:06
  Speaker 9: sit around and play video games. Thought they every time
• 17:08
  Speaker 9: to get day off.
• 17:09
  Speaker 8: You right, they reorganized football games. We got out in
• 17:12
  Speaker 8: the streets right right, like. It was fun from the morning,
• 17:16
  Speaker 8: from the from the time, from the time we didn't
• 17:18
  Speaker 8: go out the house at the end of the day.
• 17:19
  Speaker 8: It was fun.
• 17:20
  Speaker 9: But real quick, I wanted to shout out my wife businesses.
• 17:22
  Speaker 9: That's cool, dad, all right.
• 17:23
  Speaker 8: It's called w w W.
• 17:25
  Speaker 9: The one side of w w W Wild Pedals, dot
• 17:28
  Speaker 9: Com Pedals and stuff.
• 17:29
  Speaker 7: P E. T A L.
• 17:30
  Speaker 8: Z once again. It's w w W wild Pedals dot com.
• 17:35
  Speaker 9: She sell custom phone grips. She make them all by hand.
• 17:38
  Speaker 9: She ship them out from down here in Florida to
• 17:40
  Speaker 9: anywhere in the world. She's been telling them for about
• 17:42
  Speaker 9: a year now. Business has been going great, but I
• 17:44
  Speaker 9: just wanted to shout them out this morning. I appreciate
• 17:45
  Speaker 9: everything y'all too. Let me get on this phone called
• 17:49
  Speaker 9: shot her out.
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: Brother.
• 17:50
  Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean, my my biggest probably job was tell
• 17:52
  Speaker 6: the marketing.
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: I didn't tell the marketing.
• 17:54
  Speaker 6: I worked at the US Open.
• 17:55
  Speaker 4: I definitely worked.
• 17:56
  Speaker 5: I definitely did tell the market and I was the
• 17:57
  Speaker 5: person that would call your house and try to sell
• 17:59
  Speaker 5: you twenty cee these for a penny or tend CDs for.
• 18:02
  Speaker 10: Yeah, I was trying to sell you home heating oil.
• 18:04
  Speaker 10: All right, this is showing from what you doing today.
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: Yo.
• 18:07
  Speaker 15: I used to do the knives, like remember the most
• 18:09
  Speaker 15: companies that that uh, they would they would have you
• 18:13
  Speaker 15: selling knives like in groups.
• 18:15
  Speaker 12: Yes, I never saw any, but I literally was doing
• 18:18
  Speaker 12: it for like.
• 18:18
  Speaker 10: Two years really, and it would teach you how to
• 18:22
  Speaker 10: listen though, because I would listen back on out here
• 18:24
  Speaker 10: baby like oh is that a baby in the background,
• 18:25
  Speaker 10: Would you like to save money on this college years?
• 18:28
  Speaker 10: If you start saving right now and I can help
• 18:30
  Speaker 10: you like that, they would sell.
• 18:32
  Speaker 4: Double out here. Do you want to die of a
• 18:33
  Speaker 4: heart attack? Because you know listen, you know what else?
• 18:38
  Speaker 5: I do want to say something to these kids though,
• 18:40
  Speaker 5: These kids do have new hustles, so like you might
• 18:43
  Speaker 5: have a kid that like that will make candles, you
• 18:45
  Speaker 5: know what I'm saying, Like these kids do different things
• 18:47
  Speaker 5: that may not necessarily uh be the blue collar work
• 18:51
  Speaker 5: we used to do, but some of them is out here,
• 18:54
  Speaker 5: you know, creative, being creative with the Yes, absolutely, but
• 18:58
  Speaker 5: you're not gonna tell me you didn't burn CDs.
• 19:02
  Speaker 12: LimeWire.
• 19:03
  Speaker 6: Come on, no, I I was a DJ, I mean
• 19:04
  Speaker 6: my own CDs.
• 19:05
  Speaker 4: I definitely, I definitely did.
• 19:07
  Speaker 5: That's what my guy DJ Chuck t Man DJ chunk
• 19:09
  Speaker 5: T had like twenty CD burners, and Chuck T used
• 19:13
  Speaker 5: to make so much money off selling CDs.
• 19:15
  Speaker 4: I'm like, I want in on that, so I do
• 19:17
  Speaker 4: the same thing.
• 19:19
  Speaker 5: I had every mixtape, g the g Units, the Big
• 19:23
  Speaker 5: min Who kids, all of them.
• 19:26
  Speaker 4: D Block Dip said, Yes, we made a lot of
• 19:29
  Speaker 4: money all selling mixtapes back in the day.
• 19:32
  Speaker 5: Jesus was after the crack, sir after Yes, it's the
• 19:37
  Speaker 5: breakfast club.
• 19:37
  Speaker 6: Good morning, everybody is dj MV. Just hilarious.
• 19:41
  Speaker 10: Charlamagne the guy. We are the breakfast Club. Lawnla Roses
• 19:44
  Speaker 10: here as well. We got a special guest in the building,
• 19:47
  Speaker 10: guy called alumni.
• 19:49
  Speaker 5: I affectionately call them counsel council because of our days
• 19:51
  Speaker 5: on Guy Court.
• 19:52
  Speaker 4: Jordan Carlos is here.
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: Good to be here.
• 19:55
  Speaker 6: Good morning, Ho.
• 19:55
  Speaker 4: Morning on the people.
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: It was right there, it's right there. Yeah, oh, thank
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: you very much. I appreciate it.
• 20:04
  Speaker 12: I thought it was genius for what the book is
• 20:05
  Speaker 12: actually about.
• 20:06
  Speaker 5: Yeah, oh my god, to play the marriage saving magic
• 20:09
  Speaker 5: of getting your head out your ass.
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: Yeah, firmly at your ass, squarely at your ass. This
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: will saved my marriage. And it's funny because I don't know,
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: I mean, like this is this is a very like
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: it's challenging for men. But I'm going to tell you
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: what I found out was the bar is in hell
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: for men when it comes to just like cleaning up
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: around the house, and we trip over it all the time.
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: So I thought, I mean, I'm not telling anybody how
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: to live, but I'm just telling people like have you
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: considered this. I'm not an expert or anything like that.
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: I'm just a veteran of the wars out here and
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: I'm lucky to be married still and i just want
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: to share that information.
• 20:46
  Speaker 4: As you said, your own book saved your marriage.
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: Yeah, for real, like like that's what it did. It's
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: I mean, it's crazy when I when I sat down,
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: because writing a book, as you know, as you know,
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: like takes deep meditative thought and you really self reflect
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: and you see yourself in the mirror and there's no
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: getting away from it. So that's what that's what it
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: really was. It just oh man, I had to think deeply.
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: I looked up like invisible work. Let me just man
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: explain invisible work to y'all real quick. I'm just kidding,
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: but like people don't know what it is. It's that
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: work that my mom put in, that my grandmother put in,
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: like taking care of my mom, taking care of my
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: grandmother while she held down a job. And you know,
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: like my dad, great guy, but didn't contribute in the
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: ways that he maybe could have and stepped up. And
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: that's I mean that kind of thing, like learning about that,
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: learning about executive function and that what women go through
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: all the time, was so like my eyes are open.
• 21:40
  Speaker 4: Yeah, women are better cleaner, okay.
• 21:48
  Speaker 12: Clean, but my brother is so much more.
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: He read the whole book that that's that's exactly.
• 21:55
  Speaker 19: That one thing is men like the brains and how
• 21:58
  Speaker 19: small they be. He's a perfect example of it. He
• 22:00
  Speaker 19: read the whole book, I'm sure front the back and look.
• 22:04
  Speaker 5: Saying that we shouldn't participate. I'm just saying women are
• 22:07
  Speaker 5: better clean. Well, they are left to do these things.
• 22:11
  Speaker 5: They're left to do these things, right, So I mean,
• 22:13
  Speaker 5: for instance, like when I have thanksgaving back in Texas,
• 22:16
  Speaker 5: like I noticed my baby cousins. The male ones do
• 22:18
  Speaker 5: not have to watch it this is but the teenage
• 22:20
  Speaker 5: girls they're like, okay, baby, let's go to work now,
• 22:23
  Speaker 5: you know. And it's like the boys are always the
• 22:25
  Speaker 5: game is on, right, So it's like did.
• 22:28
  Speaker 4: They hunt the food?
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: They didn't go shopping, those teenage boys did not.
• 22:34
  Speaker 19: It's the cart now, so you ain't even know how
• 22:35
  Speaker 19: to carry the groceries.
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: Yes, I use insta cart. There's no better time to
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: be a slob than right now because technology is caught
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: up with you.
• 22:41
  Speaker 15: I'm sorry, but no, no, no, you're fine, but no,
• 22:43
  Speaker 15: that's not all men, though, because my dad when I
• 22:46
  Speaker 15: grew up, Remember my dad was the one who cleaned
• 22:49
  Speaker 15: my mom cooked you that.
• 22:49
  Speaker 12: You know, they both made the home.
• 22:51
  Speaker 6: You know, with my dad O c D.
• 22:53
  Speaker 15: Like anything out of place, he fixing it. He's like
• 22:55
  Speaker 15: wiping down counter tow you know.
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: So that doesn't go for you know, all men, it
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: does not. It does not know.
• 23:00
  Speaker 15: I heard you say that this book saved your marriage
• 23:02
  Speaker 15: where you was she on the way out the door
• 23:04
  Speaker 15: like you were about to lose her. Because it's also
• 23:06
  Speaker 15: like a testament to knowing what you got before it's gone.
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: Yes, yes, before you lose it. I mean, this is
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: what happened, right, So COVID happened. We were busy before COVID,
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: before COVID got cold, was popping, everything was going on,
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: and then everything stopped. And when the tide goes out,
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: you see the rocks, right, And that's that's what happened.
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: I was at home. I was not working, but I
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: also was a stranger in my own house because I
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: was not contributing. I was mad that I wasn't working,
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: and and that was like I was like given into
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: like manchild vibes and things like that. And my my
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: wife was no longer having it right because I was
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: not contributing to the household. And so like with that said,
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: there was also another divorce that happened in our family,
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: and I was like front row tick, like front row
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: seats to that. And I did not want that at all.
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: And it was not because of infidelity, as I wrote
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: in the book, it's because I mean it, studies showed
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: that it's commitment. So it's like he wasn't doing anything.
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: And if you're just like, uh, an over aged child,
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: you're gonna get kicked out of the nest. And that's
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: what happened to him. And I was like, I don't
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: want that at all. What can I do? I was
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: listening to so it's like there was nothing dramatic, you know,
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: And that's what really kills a lot of marriages. It's like,
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: it's nothing dramatic. It's just it's just this kind of situation.
• 24:23
  Speaker 4: That you're staying in the house and doing nothing during
• 24:25
  Speaker 4: COVID is so selfish.
• 24:31
  Speaker 1: You brought me up, you brought me here in good faith. Bro,
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: you're making us Let me tell you yeah, no, no, no,
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: let me counsel, counsel, let me cover his mic. No,
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: I'm just saying this is what I mean.
• 24:43
  Speaker 7: It was.
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: Yes, in party was COVID, But at the same time,
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: I could have translated that into helping it. I was
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: watching my wife pick up laundry, take it upstairs, take
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: it downstairs, watching her do the dishes and everything like that,
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: you know, watching her take care of the dog, dust
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: in the corners, watching, watching, and just like doing nothing.
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: And after a while that repetition erodes the integrity of
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: a relationship. Man like, little by little did it?
• 25:10
  Speaker 12: Were you emotionally disconnected? Mentally disconnected?
• 25:12
  Speaker 4: Like how did you just.
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: Do that?
• 25:15
  Speaker 12: Like we're going through your own funk.
• 25:17
  Speaker 15: Of not working and you were just like in a
• 25:19
  Speaker 15: miserable state where you couldn't even help yourself, So how.
• 25:21
  Speaker 12: Could you help her?
• 25:22
  Speaker 19: Right?
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: I think I was. I was definitely there. But I
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: was also I stay on ready mode. And that's that's
• 25:27
  Speaker 1: something I write about in the book, is like guys
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: are always like we're always we have like John Wick fantasies,
• 25:33
  Speaker 1: I'm ready to fight. If she asked me to take
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: the trash out, I'll do it, no problem, It's nothing. Yeah,
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: but like yeah, yeah, that's us. But but but to
• 25:42
  Speaker 1: be reminded of the thing. I was always being reminded
• 25:45
  Speaker 1: of the thing, so I started reminding myself it was
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: just a small switch. I saw that divorce. I said,
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: this is what the guy was not doing and not
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: bringing to the table. I was like, okay, let me
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: flip this and just I know when trash night is
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: is Tuesday night, So let me just go do it,
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: you know, like bring the receptacles back on Wednesday morning.
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: Like that's I knew to do that because I've seen
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: her do it, So just do it. And like I
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: cannot tell you, Like there's that Maslow's pyramid of needs, right,
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: and like the basic basic needs are taken care of
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: and then you can get to self actualization. But if
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: your basic needs aren't taken care of, then you can't
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: feel safe. Right, So that's what I was, like, I
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: was ignoring that about her. So when like, I mean,
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: another part of the book is smashing, So believe I'm
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: sorry to look at you during that. Yeah, so anyway,
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: smashing is a big part of the book. But like,
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: but but she wasn't she wasn't down to clown as
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: much when the house wasn't in order, right, So I
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: was looking at that studying that and that's people need safety,
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: they need security deep down. It's that cave man part
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: of you. And so when that happened, it was like
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: to get in the mood. I was just like, I mean,
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: I was trying.
• 27:05
  Speaker 4: You can't say you can't saying, well, he can't.
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: We make love. But I'm messing. I'm mess, all right.
• 27:16
  Speaker 5: So the book is really good, though, man, I just
• 27:20
  Speaker 5: I just don't want you to be too hard on yourself,
• 27:22
  Speaker 5: like when you talk about I used to see her
• 27:24
  Speaker 5: cleaning and you know you felt like you didn't help.
• 27:27
  Speaker 5: It's like, yo, if when you saw Leonardo da Vinci
• 27:30
  Speaker 5: doing the morning Lisa, you say, hey, let me get
• 27:31
  Speaker 5: a brushing.
• 27:32
  Speaker 4: No, you would let them, let him have to do work.
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: No, hold on, you're saying, let her cook, But how
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: are you okay? But you're married to this is wild,
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: all right? So so I feel like, thank you, Charlotte.
• 27:50
  Speaker 11: Man.
• 27:50
  Speaker 1: That's that's called I mean, that is called like when
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: you when you pretend to be incompetent in something, right.
• 27:57
  Speaker 1: So it's like Tom Swayer right, like I can't I
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: can't do that. I can't let her whitewash defence. I
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: gotta jump in there if I know what I'm doing,
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: because what's cute in your twenties is not cute in
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: your forties. Like I watch football every Sunday. I watch
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: my Cowboys for no good reason every Sunday. And she
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: was fine with that in my twenties, but then in
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: my forties she's like, why don't you take the kids
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: to this or that?
• 28:19
  Speaker 11: Oh?
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: You know they got practiced together? Yeah yeah, show no
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: what happened?
• 28:24
  Speaker 4: You know I'm a Cowboy fan too. They've got to
• 28:26
  Speaker 4: give up the Cowboy game. Now, come down, Jordan. This
• 28:28
  Speaker 4: is a bit crazy, yo, the game.
• 28:30
  Speaker 6: I know he liked all my.
• 28:32
  Speaker 5: Chores all during the week. I did everything we're supposed
• 28:35
  Speaker 5: to do during the week, and I can't watch the game.
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: I don't want to sund I don't want to sound
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: like stephen A, but like, what have the Cowboys done
• 28:42
  Speaker 1: for you lately? The Cowboys? What have the Cowboys done
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: for you lately? I mean I'm talking to Okay, we
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: can leave the Cowboys out. Like a Jets fan should
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: be out with his family in the fall. They should
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: be picking apples and going on hikes and canoe and
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: what are you doing at matt Life?
• 28:59
  Speaker 19: And I know you talk about kind of like the
• 29:00
  Speaker 19: give and takes in the book, but there aren't like
• 29:03
  Speaker 19: give and takes. It's like, all right, like I can
• 29:04
  Speaker 19: understand Sunday is the day that you want for that
• 29:06
  Speaker 19: as well as much as you can understand cleaning the bathroom.
• 29:10
  Speaker 19: I know you have your list in this book and
• 29:11
  Speaker 19: you talk about cleaning just the tub out after you.
• 29:14
  Speaker 19: That helps me a lot.
• 29:16
  Speaker 12: It's give or take.
• 29:17
  Speaker 19: So do you, guys, what was your give or take
• 29:19
  Speaker 19: in your marriage after writing this book? If you couldn't
• 29:21
  Speaker 19: have football on Sunday, what was she willing to be?
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: Like?
• 29:23
  Speaker 12: All right, bet, I'm gonna let you have that.
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: And let me just say this, My situation was unique.
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: I had to quit Like that was like a tournique.
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: I had to I had to fix this so I
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: could fix a bigger thing. I'm not saying like everybody's
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: got to quit watching football. You could stand to watch
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: home games, you could stand to watch away games, like
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: like you could pick you know, or like just take
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: take take a weekend off. That's all I'm saying. I
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: would say that my give and take is this. I
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: have a lot time for myself now because this book
• 29:50
  Speaker 1: is about time management as well. And I a lot
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: time for myself. I wake up at five am, I've
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: already been up for hours today, so, like you can tell,
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: I'm feeling hype. So this that time I have for
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: myself is mine and mine alone. I usually go to
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: the gym, workout, whatever it is. But but if I don't,
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: if on a rest day, I'll watch like a series
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: I haven't watched yet because I can't watch it around
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: my kids. Maybe it's just like cursing in it or
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: something like that. So it's like I have my time
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: to do what I want to do. I get to read.
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: That's my hour, you know, So that's my give and take.
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: And yeah, I mean look sometimes, of course I watched Cowboys.
• 30:27
  Speaker 4: What do you have to do to earn your hour?
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: It's about household It's a vibe. It's a vibe. It's
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: a vibe. It's a vibe. It's a vibe. We don't
• 30:41
  Speaker 1: That's what the book's about too, It's a vibe. I mean,
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: I like a lot of books out there that tell
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: you what to do. I was inspired by Eve Rotsky's
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: fair Play, right, but I was like, that's too rigid,
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: that's too rigid. And at the end of the book,
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: I'll just point this out and say, at the end
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: of that book, she's like, all right, ladies, now get
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: out there and save your marriage. And I was like, damn,
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: this wasn't even written for me. This for somebody else.
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: So what's what What would a male do? Right? I'm like,
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: I'm going to change my vibe. That's what I'm gonna do. Okay,
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: So I can't have I don't get by with charts
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: in the wall and things like that and gold stars
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: because that's for somebody else's approval. What's my approval matrix?
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: What do I believe in? What's my standard? So that's
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: kind of where it is for me, Like she I mean,
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: like I could watch football if I wanted to, but
• 31:22
  Speaker 1: I'm like, I want to take my kid to Governor's Island.
• 31:25
  Speaker 1: I want to go hiking one Sunday. I don't want
• 31:27
  Speaker 1: to give it more money to Jerry Jones. Like Jerry's fine,
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. So it's like, you know,
• 31:32
  Speaker 1: he's fine. What am I doing for me?
• 31:34
  Speaker 7: You know?
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: So? Uh, that's that's really what it is. It's like, yeah,
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: how long did it.
• 31:38
  Speaker 6: Take you to save your marriage? You said, it saved
• 31:39
  Speaker 6: your marriage, But like, how what was that process like
• 31:41
  Speaker 6: and how long was it?
• 31:43
  Speaker 1: To be honest, I would say like it took about
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: six months to write things. Right. So there was this
• 31:48
  Speaker 1: guy that's famous in the mom's group in Brooklyn. He's
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: uh so he's Canadian, so it's suspect anyway, but he's sweet,
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: that's why. But we learned a lot from Cannadian get
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: universal health care, all that kind of stuff. So anyway,
• 32:02
  Speaker 1: he was famous among the moms that're like, oh, hugh,
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: he was a good guy. Heugh, oh, he's the best.
• 32:07
  Speaker 1: Like he makes coffee every morning for his wife makes coffee.
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: That's it. One cup, that's it. So I asked him, like,
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: what do you do you grind the beans? Do you
• 32:16
  Speaker 1: make like a latte, cappuccino? Whatever the phone designs? He's like, man,
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: folders crystals, folders crystals and that's it. The bars in hell, right,
• 32:24
  Speaker 1: So for that, the man is famous. So I was like,
• 32:27
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna do the same thing. So I did that
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: slow hanging fruit. I did the same thing. It was
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: hard to wait in the morning before my wife, but
• 32:33
  Speaker 1: I did it, and I kept doing it. I did
• 32:36
  Speaker 1: it like one day three days, seven days, I do
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: it like this is the only one I couldn't.
• 32:39
  Speaker 4: Do it to tell you that the best part of
• 32:42
  Speaker 4: waking up is full.
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: Yea, yeah, I mean he showed me. He gave me
• 32:51
  Speaker 1: the like promictheus fire like I was, like I was
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: in the dark about it, you know, And it was
• 32:56
  Speaker 1: the guys were dwindling down in that group we have
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: like a Friday kind of like hangout, and it was
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: just me and him left. I was like, damn, I
• 33:03
  Speaker 1: had to know the secret after that. I'd seen so
• 33:05
  Speaker 1: many we lost so many good men out here Sean
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: like Vietnam.
• 33:13
  Speaker 4: You heard that that was the secret.
• 33:15
  Speaker 12: Just just Christmas.
• 33:16
  Speaker 15: Like even with this whole process, when you think back
• 33:19
  Speaker 15: on it, right, things that you weren't doing versus now
• 33:22
  Speaker 15: that you are doing it, do you ever say, like, damn,
• 33:24
  Speaker 15: it really wasn't that hard all this time? And I
• 33:27
  Speaker 15: don't know, did you ever think also like why do
• 33:29
  Speaker 15: you guys expect extra credit for doing the bare minimum anyway?
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: Because I mean that's I want my ticket tape parade,
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, Like I really do, Like
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: like I mean, I did the dishes before I left
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: this morning, and I had to fight. It was like
• 33:43
  Speaker 1: fighting for my life not to be like, babe, did
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: you appreciate those dishes? Was done this? She didn't care,
• 33:49
  Speaker 1: you know, like you got to give yourself an out
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: of boy. Yeah, I gamify everything, and I'm like, Okay,
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: let me see if I can get loaded in before
• 33:56
  Speaker 1: like a laundry in, before I hit the you know,
• 33:58
  Speaker 1: like leave the house, go to the office, whatever it is.
• 34:00
  Speaker 1: So it's just like, what is the vibe for you?
• 34:03
  Speaker 1: I mean I had to also stop being and stop
• 34:06
  Speaker 1: wanting to be mothered, you know, like because that's someone
• 34:10
  Speaker 1: getting mad at you for not straightening up. Feels like
• 34:14
  Speaker 1: that's me just like reliving the dynamic I had with
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: my mom. And I love my mom, you know, but
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: I don't. But marrying somebody is not substituting your mother,
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. It's just like it's it's
• 34:26
  Speaker 1: it's a partnership. It's yeah, so absolutely, But just like
• 34:31
  Speaker 1: how do you nurture yourself? What do you want? Do
• 34:33
  Speaker 1: you see yourself?
• 34:34
  Speaker 7: You know?
• 34:35
  Speaker 1: Like for instance, like I had to get a fade yesterday,
• 34:39
  Speaker 1: but I did not my wife always being like your
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: wolf and like your edges this and that you know,
• 34:46
  Speaker 1: like like stop, what do you want? You know when
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: you know when it's time to do something?
• 34:51
  Speaker 6: And do you feel like that came from your father
• 34:53
  Speaker 6: not contributing as much or not.
• 34:55
  Speaker 1: Being was.
• 34:57
  Speaker 14: My dad?
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: My dad?
• 35:00
  Speaker 8: My dad?
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: My dad actually was not around. He was He's a doctor.
• 35:04
  Speaker 1: He's at the hospital all the time. So it's actually
• 35:06
  Speaker 1: like a positive reason, you know what I'm saying. So,
• 35:08
  Speaker 1: but he was. He was taking care of women for
• 35:13
  Speaker 1: so long and like as a ob g y n
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: and it's crazy. He was also like instrumental playing parenthood
• 35:19
  Speaker 1: in Dallas for work where I'm from, and then he
• 35:22
  Speaker 1: come home and it's like you can be an ally
• 35:24
  Speaker 1: in the streets, but not in the sheets, you know,
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: Like my dad would just be watching ESPN two, watching
• 35:29
  Speaker 1: boxing and just like having a state and and like
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: not giving a damn about what the state of the
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: house was.
• 35:36
  Speaker 15: So he was clifu Heath Cliff Hunstable outside the house.
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: Yes, yes, well we could pick another doctor.
• 35:47
  Speaker 6: I got you, I got you.
• 35:49
  Speaker 1: I was like Justice, I knew I knew Justice.
• 35:55
  Speaker 4: I don't think that's fan. Your father, Georgia Man is
• 35:58
  Speaker 4: in Dallas, Texas.
• 35:59
  Speaker 5: To make you care, Vagiina's all over Dallas and he
• 36:02
  Speaker 5: comes home and just wants to relax.
• 36:04
  Speaker 4: But second and he getting flag about not taking out
• 36:07
  Speaker 4: the trash.
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: But minutes well, no, no, no, no no, I'm just
• 36:10
  Speaker 1: saying I love my dad. He's the most generous guy
• 36:12
  Speaker 1: out there. But like, that's what was model for me.
• 36:16
  Speaker 1: Like you could have with what I detail in the
• 36:18
  Speaker 1: book as a greedy job. And the greedy job is
• 36:20
  Speaker 1: just a job that eats up your time. It's not
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: about money. So my dad had a greedy job as
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: a doctor.
• 36:25
  Speaker 4: He was a public sermont eis a doctor, god or father.
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: We love my dad, Joseph Carlos, I love you, MD,
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: I love you. No, no, no, no, I'm not saying that.
• 36:36
  Speaker 1: I'm just saying that you you become what you behold.
• 36:39
  Speaker 1: So I'm I'm that was model for me. So that's
• 36:42
  Speaker 1: that's what I did. And it was repeated. And my
• 36:45
  Speaker 1: wife is a professor too, and she holds down her
• 36:49
  Speaker 1: job and does all these things. But I was still
• 36:51
  Speaker 1: like just like, Okay, what did dad do?
• 36:52
  Speaker 7: That was it?
• 36:53
  Speaker 1: That's yeah.
• 36:53
  Speaker 5: So yeah, if somebody read show a plan only applied
• 36:56
  Speaker 5: one habit, one habit, what's the one small.
• 36:59
  Speaker 4: Action that could you think could change your inlitship.
• 37:01
  Speaker 1: And there have a plan. Just have a plan. Uh
• 37:06
  Speaker 1: get I mean this is not an endorsement for the
• 37:08
  Speaker 1: resie app, but get or get an app like that,
• 37:11
  Speaker 1: because you deserve, like your partner deserves, like dinner plans,
• 37:17
  Speaker 1: whatever it is. Keep that, I say, keep that candle
• 37:21
  Speaker 1: burning and make sure that you got to back up
• 37:23
  Speaker 1: because we're so expecting, you know, her, to want to
• 37:26
  Speaker 1: do something. What about you? You got to research things right, Like,
• 37:30
  Speaker 1: I'm a very fun dad. I will take my kids to.
• 37:32
  Speaker 4: Like you name it whatever.
• 37:34
  Speaker 1: We'll we'll go to like let's go to Yankee Stadium.
• 37:36
  Speaker 1: Then we'll go to we'll go get ice cream and
• 37:38
  Speaker 1: you know, like we're gonna go see dolphins. You know,
• 37:41
  Speaker 1: like that's that's me. But I just needed to divert
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: some of that back to my wife.
• 37:46
  Speaker 4: You said, you said you didn't want to just be
• 37:48
  Speaker 4: the fun dad. You want to be a responsible partner.
• 37:50
  Speaker 1: Yes, yes, and but but my wife wanted that fun too,
• 37:53
  Speaker 1: and I was leaving that out and playing like a
• 37:55
  Speaker 1: game like against her.
• 37:57
  Speaker 19: I saw you talk to the New York Times about
• 37:59
  Speaker 19: this too, telling them that being a fund out almost
• 38:01
  Speaker 19: rooming your marriage. Yesterday I was watching CNN Kate Brown
• 38:04
  Speaker 19: and Ryan Michelle Bath his wife on Michelle Obama's podcast,
• 38:08
  Speaker 19: and they were having a conversation about preparing to be
• 38:10
  Speaker 19: empty nesters and how you have to like figure out
• 38:12
  Speaker 19: being together again. Can you talk about kind of what
• 38:16
  Speaker 19: now your dynamic is with your wife because your kids
• 38:18
  Speaker 19: are still in the house, but you realize you gotta
• 38:21
  Speaker 19: be with your partner absolutely.
• 38:22
  Speaker 1: So, uh, most weekends, like if she's not going to
• 38:26
  Speaker 1: go out with her girls, then we will go out together.
• 38:28
  Speaker 1: I love that, you know. We we look forward to
• 38:30
  Speaker 1: to like having a night out. Like my mother in
• 38:34
  Speaker 1: law lives real closer, so we just dropped out.
• 38:36
  Speaker 6: The kids say, y'all got babysitters on her.
• 38:37
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you gotta have that. Yeah, but she's again Brooklyn,
• 38:41
  Speaker 1: get you a Brooklyn person. You know what I'm saying.
• 38:43
  Speaker 1: That they got the connect they got the hookups. So
• 38:45
  Speaker 1: it's like we just do that and then we go
• 38:47
  Speaker 1: out and then like during the week we try to
• 38:50
  Speaker 1: play hooky. So like because I write from home, work
• 38:53
  Speaker 1: from home, and she like only she has three nights
• 38:57
  Speaker 1: a week of teaching, Like during the day, Hey, we
• 39:00
  Speaker 1: can be around, so like we'll go to like what's
• 39:03
  Speaker 1: the place bath house, which is really great?
• 39:05
  Speaker 7: The spot?
• 39:05
  Speaker 1: Yeah, the spot?
• 39:07
  Speaker 7: Yeah?
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: Get lunch on a Wednesday, don't like because we both
• 39:11
  Speaker 1: are home and we have I mean, I'm very fortunate
• 39:15
  Speaker 1: and very blessed that i can just be like, you
• 39:16
  Speaker 1: want to do the spot tomorrow? She's like, yeah, let's
• 39:18
  Speaker 1: do it, you know, or get lunch or whatever it is.
• 39:21
  Speaker 1: So you got to keep it spicy and chop it
• 39:23
  Speaker 1: up all the time and if you and that's we're
• 39:27
  Speaker 1: preparing ourselves for for that. I mean, like, our kids
• 39:30
  Speaker 1: are thirteen and nine, so we got we got a
• 39:32
  Speaker 1: couple more years.
• 39:33
  Speaker 4: We got some times.
• 39:34
  Speaker 1: Man, it does how old are your kids?
• 39:36
  Speaker 5: My oldest is seventeen leaving for college just for wow.
• 39:40
  Speaker 5: But then I have a ten year old, seven year
• 39:42
  Speaker 5: old and.
• 39:42
  Speaker 4: Four year olds.
• 39:42
  Speaker 1: So you know, it goes fast, it does. It does
• 39:46
  Speaker 1: go by so fast, it goes by real fast. But
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: but just keeping that spirit alive and keeping like the
• 39:51
  Speaker 1: fun that you have for your kids, even if you
• 39:53
  Speaker 1: divert a little bit. You know what I'm saying. For her,
• 39:55
  Speaker 1: that's what's up, because we just get resentments and I'm like,
• 39:58
  Speaker 1: you don't deserve that fun. I'm gonna put it over here,
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: you know, let you watch the game. Literally watched the game.
• 40:04
  Speaker 1: I mean in peace, you know what I mean. But
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: it was it wasn't about like the game is. It's
• 40:09
  Speaker 1: not that it's just the cowboys have It's been a
• 40:12
  Speaker 1: one sided relationship, abusive relationship for so long that I
• 40:15
  Speaker 1: was like, I gotta listen, I gotta do something. I
• 40:18
  Speaker 1: gotta get out. I gotta get out, you know, to
• 40:20
  Speaker 1: check on them rolls.
• 40:22
  Speaker 7: Right.
• 40:23
  Speaker 5: I believe in everybody doing what they're the best that Okay, yeah,
• 40:28
  Speaker 5: women are the best at cleaning.
• 40:29
  Speaker 4: Women are the best.
• 40:30
  Speaker 1: Oh my god, Like, come.
• 40:35
  Speaker 12: Let them keep going.
• 40:40
  Speaker 1: The ceo of the house women. Okay, like they hold
• 40:43
  Speaker 1: that down. Better work, You're better as a worker. Okay,
• 40:48
  Speaker 1: were they not working in that in that example? You
• 40:50
  Speaker 1: said they were holding it down and doing it.
• 40:52
  Speaker 5: I'm better off working for them, you know. Okay, Okay,
• 40:55
  Speaker 5: I'm there for like moral support. I'll get you to broom,
• 40:58
  Speaker 5: you know what I mean.
• 41:00
  Speaker 7: Excuse me.
• 41:01
  Speaker 4: I'm glad you will open the window clean.
• 41:08
  Speaker 7: Wow.
• 41:11
  Speaker 15: I don't do too much getting supervisor of a cleaning company.
• 41:15
  Speaker 15: You just help open enjoying.
• 41:18
  Speaker 4: Now, she's got better than all of us, George.
• 41:25
  Speaker 1: How did thank you, thank you for your service.
• 41:30
  Speaker 14: You know, Mexican and Blade like me follow yeah Mexican. No, No,
• 41:40
  Speaker 14: I'm African American, but I'm like Latin. Nope, like people
• 41:43
  Speaker 14: think I'm like they think, no.
• 41:46
  Speaker 1: Son like you, sir in these times they I'm just
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: saying in the atmosphere, that's all I can. I mean,
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: I'm saying what is good.
• 41:59
  Speaker 5: The most important thing about it will help you with
• 42:02
  Speaker 5: your emotional labor. Yes you know what I mean, Yes, yes,
• 42:06
  Speaker 5: you're your your empathy, emotional labor.
• 42:08
  Speaker 1: I got very lucky, like my grandmother had Alzheimer's when
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: I was a kid, So I learned what it was
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: like to take care of somebody that maybe like is
• 42:17
  Speaker 1: with with with with respect respectfully, you know, like their
• 42:21
  Speaker 1: their faculties are going away. So I had that was
• 42:24
  Speaker 1: put on me early. So I was like empathetic to that.
• 42:27
  Speaker 1: So so learning that is is definitely. Yeah, it's a
• 42:31
  Speaker 1: certain kind of intelligence, you know. And and and I
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: think we need to up that. Men need to up
• 42:36
  Speaker 1: that completely. We're always told to be cold and stoic
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: and things like that, but you gotta you gotta go
• 42:41
  Speaker 1: back that way back when you had, like you feel
• 42:45
  Speaker 1: for your person. You know, you have to feel for everybody,
• 42:48
  Speaker 1: but if you feel for your person what they're going through,
• 42:51
  Speaker 1: even on little things. I wrote this book because I
• 42:54
  Speaker 1: read a book about a guy that just didn't put
• 42:56
  Speaker 1: his like his glass in the sink when his wife
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: would ask him for years, and she divorced them because
• 43:01
  Speaker 1: of that. So just like taking in what people want
• 43:05
  Speaker 1: from you, and if you know what makes people upset,
• 43:08
  Speaker 1: then you know what makes them happy. And just doing
• 43:11
  Speaker 1: that thing and putting your your your arms around it
• 43:14
  Speaker 1: instead of your head around it, I think like you'll
• 43:17
  Speaker 1: be much better off.
• 43:18
  Speaker 4: You know, chow a player is available everywhere you get
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  Speaker 1: that TikTok and all that. So this has been amazing.
• 43:34
  Speaker 1: Thank you so much, y'all. I really appreciate it. My guy, Jordan.
• 43:38
  Speaker 5: Players out right now, man, go pick it up. It
• 43:40
  Speaker 5: might save your marriage, might say the marriage saving magic.
• 43:44
  Speaker 5: You're getting your head out your thank you for joining us.
• 43:46
  Speaker 8: Thank you.
• 43:47
  Speaker 1: Thank you.
• 43:48
  Speaker 4: Oh, it's the breakfast club.
• 43:50
  Speaker 3: It's your time to nominate a donkey of your own.
• 43:56
  Speaker 4: Remember now, that's it's how they choose.
• 44:00
  Speaker 1: Call in now eight hundred and five eighty five, one
• 44:02
  Speaker 1: oh five one.
• 44:04
  Speaker 4: It is the people donkey.
• 44:05
  Speaker 5: This is when we open up the phone lines to you,
• 44:07
  Speaker 5: the people, and y'all can call up and give somebody
• 44:09
  Speaker 5: the credit they deserve for being stupid. So, good morning,
• 44:12
  Speaker 5: who's this? Kye tshana? Who you want to get the
• 44:15
  Speaker 5: biggest he hat too?
• 44:16
  Speaker 2: I want to give the biggest key house this, yallam,
• 44:19
  Speaker 2: and golle what I do now? Earlier this week, I was.
• 44:23
  Speaker 20: Listening to the radio.
• 44:24
  Speaker 2: I live in Myrtle Beach, South Carolina, and I dropped
• 44:27
  Speaker 2: back and forced to take my kids to school. And
• 44:29
  Speaker 2: he was talking about what he used check teds to
• 44:32
  Speaker 2: look up. I have two twelve year old daughters in
• 44:35
  Speaker 2: the car. What t is your personal business, not the
• 44:39
  Speaker 2: world's business. That was very inappropriate. You are the only
• 44:43
  Speaker 2: urban nation in Myrtle Beach for me mention to get
• 44:46
  Speaker 2: it together.
• 44:47
  Speaker 4: Yes, ma'am, thank you, Yes, ma'am, I have a great thing.
• 44:51
  Speaker 4: Thank you very much. She not wrong? Good morning? Who's
• 44:53
  Speaker 4: this from the earl. Who you want to get the
• 44:56
  Speaker 4: biggest he hall to sir to.
• 44:57
  Speaker 11: The white lady that was talking about she's from Detroit.
• 45:00
  Speaker 4: Uh, using the part in on Nicole Curtis.
• 45:04
  Speaker 8: Yeah, that was yeah.
• 45:05
  Speaker 11: Yeah, she's trying to do damage control for her career. Man,
• 45:08
  Speaker 11: that ain't gonna work. She's not from Detroit. She's from
• 45:10
  Speaker 11: the suburban Detroit.
• 45:11
  Speaker 5: A lot of people kept telling me that a lot
• 45:12
  Speaker 5: of people from Detroit was hitting me. I'm saying, she
• 45:14
  Speaker 5: not from Detroit. She from Goose Point or something like that.
• 45:17
  Speaker 5: What is called Goose Point, Grosse Point, Gross Point, Yes,
• 45:20
  Speaker 5: there you go, Groose Point.
• 45:22
  Speaker 11: That's a that's a suburb of Detroit. The white folks
• 45:24
  Speaker 11: love to say they from Detroit, but they're not from Detroit, man,
• 45:27
  Speaker 11: they from outside of Detroit.
• 45:29
  Speaker 8: Damn.
• 45:29
  Speaker 5: So the three one three, the three one three ain't
• 45:31
  Speaker 5: jacking with Nicole talking about it all.
• 45:32
  Speaker 11: Huh not at all, brou Yeah, control ain't working out here.
• 45:36
  Speaker 4: Thank you for calling my brother peace loved all of y'all. Man, Uh,
• 45:41
  Speaker 4: good morning. Who's this Brian? Brian, who you want to
• 45:44
  Speaker 4: get the biggest He had too, I got to.
• 45:46
  Speaker 9: Get the biggest piece to Charlemagne man like I watched
• 45:49
  Speaker 9: the show every day.
• 45:51
  Speaker 18: Yes, yes, sir, And but Charlemagne says that Donkey of
• 45:55
  Speaker 18: to Day does not discriminate.
• 45:56
  Speaker 4: Uh huh, but let's.
• 45:58
  Speaker 20: Play a game.
• 45:59
  Speaker 18: He discriminates the time because it was a black person.
• 46:01
  Speaker 18: I'm mixed fun the way I'm black. Hen what but
• 46:04
  Speaker 18: when it's a black person, he never want to play
• 46:06
  Speaker 18: a game. But the suitters is a white person all
• 46:09
  Speaker 18: the game?
• 46:10
  Speaker 4: Well here, well, here's the thing.
• 46:12
  Speaker 1: You're right.
• 46:13
  Speaker 5: Usually when it's usually when it's a black person, I
• 46:15
  Speaker 5: don't want to play the game, but when it's it,
• 46:17
  Speaker 5: when it's.
• 46:18
  Speaker 1: It, I'd like to play the game.
• 46:20
  Speaker 4: Come on, now, let's be fair here, because that's the difference.
• 46:23
  Speaker 1: I get it.
• 46:24
  Speaker 8: I get it. Okay, I'm a big said man. I
• 46:26
  Speaker 8: just want to call it after y'all have day. What
• 46:29
  Speaker 8: y'all doing?
• 46:29
  Speaker 11: Man, y'all I listen to every single morning too, So.
• 46:32
  Speaker 4: I appreciate you, brother. Where you call it from against
• 46:34
  Speaker 4: white side was offended.
• 46:35
  Speaker 6: We always play a game that it wasn't offender.
• 46:39
  Speaker 8: There was the white time was like on wait a second, man, like.
• 46:42
  Speaker 1: You know what I mean.
• 46:43
  Speaker 8: But I'm from Jersey.
• 46:44
  Speaker 4: Okay, Well, thank you for calling brother. Thank you, Yes, sir,
• 46:48
  Speaker 4: good morning. Who's this?
• 46:49
  Speaker 7: Nat Hey?
• 46:50
  Speaker 4: Natasha? Who you want to get a biggest? He hard
• 46:52
  Speaker 4: to my job?
• 46:54
  Speaker 5: What's your job? You don't want to say the name
• 46:55
  Speaker 5: of your job. You have to say your name of
• 46:57
  Speaker 5: your job. At least tell us what you do.
• 46:59
  Speaker 9: What do you do?
• 47:00
  Speaker 4: What do you do?
• 47:01
  Speaker 20: I work at a granted company.
• 47:02
  Speaker 4: A granted company.
• 47:03
  Speaker 11: Oh, South Carolina?
• 47:05
  Speaker 4: Okay, eight oh three metro all day? Who you want? Okay,
• 47:07
  Speaker 4: go ahead, the floor is yours vent.
• 47:10
  Speaker 20: Oh my gosh, just this my coworkers, my office manager,
• 47:14
  Speaker 20: just the way they offictrize me in the office, that
• 47:16
  Speaker 20: they leave me out of everything. You talking right in
• 47:18
  Speaker 20: front of me in each other.
• 47:19
  Speaker 9: Year is like I'm not there.
• 47:20
  Speaker 20: And then on top of that, I'm the only black
• 47:22
  Speaker 20: lady in the office with two other Caucasians and a
• 47:24
  Speaker 20: Hispanic and it's just like I'm totally ignored.
• 47:27
  Speaker 4: Fly on the wall, make some noise.
• 47:30
  Speaker 2: On top of that, I cleaned the bathroom every Friday.
• 47:32
  Speaker 20: Nobody off for help?
• 47:34
  Speaker 5: Really, whoa the bathroom shouldn't be like that. You should
• 47:38
  Speaker 5: call the custodians to come clean it up.
• 47:39
  Speaker 1: Okay, they don't even have one.
• 47:43
  Speaker 5: Well, that's why the bathroom, man, what the latinum be
• 47:46
  Speaker 5: doing just sitting there while you do that?
• 47:48
  Speaker 20: Basically and just like every day out and this to
• 47:50
  Speaker 20: get the trash. I think I've been there a year.
• 47:52
  Speaker 20: Three times they got out to help get the trash.
• 47:55
  Speaker 6: So the Latino was in with the Caucasian people.
• 47:59
  Speaker 20: I'm sorry.
• 48:00
  Speaker 12: So the Latino girl is is in with the Latin
• 48:02
  Speaker 12: I mean with the Caucasian people.
• 48:04
  Speaker 11: Like well, he and she is the owner of the company.
• 48:07
  Speaker 20: So I don't expect him to do too much.
• 48:09
  Speaker 12: Oh okay, okay, damn so, but I also deserve.
• 48:14
  Speaker 11: The donkey because I put myself in this situation.
• 48:16
  Speaker 5: Okay, there's nobody that you can complain to. No higher up,
• 48:19
  Speaker 5: no hr, no nothing like.
• 48:22
  Speaker 8: No, no, they they see this. They're not that.
• 48:25
  Speaker 11: They're not lying.
• 48:26
  Speaker 20: They know what they're doing.
• 48:27
  Speaker 4: Damn well, thank you for calling. I hope things get better.
• 48:32
  Speaker 7: It will.
• 48:33
  Speaker 20: I'm doing the steps to make it better. I appreciate y'all. Y'all,
• 48:36
  Speaker 20: y'all do an awesome job. Make my day great.
• 48:39
  Speaker 4: Thank you very much. We appreciate you.
• 48:42
  Speaker 1: Thank you too.
• 48:42
  Speaker 4: Good morning. Who's this?
• 48:44
  Speaker 8: Good morning?
• 48:46
  Speaker 2: Good morning breakfast family?
• 48:48
  Speaker 4: Where you calling from? Hallm Hey Nikki from Harlem. Who
• 48:52
  Speaker 4: you want to get a biggest seat.
• 48:52
  Speaker 8: Hall to Emirates Airline?
• 48:55
  Speaker 4: Ooh, now I love Emirategs. What happened with Everidge?
• 48:57
  Speaker 2: So I family to golf, the spring break to Dubai.
• 49:02
  Speaker 9: It's just back in August.
• 49:04
  Speaker 2: I woke up bright and sunny Saturday morning and we're on.
• 49:08
  Speaker 8: The purcipes of World War Mounay, why are you mad at.
• 49:11
  Speaker 2: Because they won't be funding my money without penalty?
• 49:14
  Speaker 5: Oh that's now, that's crazy now yeah, okay, now that's insane.
• 49:18
  Speaker 5: That's insane night.
• 49:19
  Speaker 6: So I want to.
• 49:22
  Speaker 5: No, they should be refunding you your They should be
• 49:24
  Speaker 5: refunding you your money period yes, like clear and clearing delivered.
• 49:29
  Speaker 2: And so right now they're saying they're good many funds
• 49:32
  Speaker 2: for if they're traveling seventy two hours from the current days,
• 49:36
  Speaker 2: you can get a full refund. My schedule travels is
• 49:40
  Speaker 2: April first.
• 49:41
  Speaker 5: I'm looking at something right now that says, according to
• 49:43
  Speaker 5: the Department of Transportation, passengers with flights canceled are significant
• 49:48
  Speaker 5: significantly delayed due to war. Our airspace closers in the
• 49:51
  Speaker 5: Middle East are entitled to full prompt refunds, even on
• 49:56
  Speaker 5: non refundable tickets and it says major carriers like it's
• 50:00
  Speaker 5: Qatar and ETI HD what I can't which I can't
• 50:04
  Speaker 5: pronounce our offering needs along with flexible rebooking options for
• 50:07
  Speaker 5: affective travelers.
• 50:08
  Speaker 4: So I don't know why they're doing you like that.
• 50:10
  Speaker 2: Well, I need to write enough when I tell you
• 50:13
  Speaker 2: the emails I wrote with like dissertations, quoting the consulates,
• 50:17
  Speaker 2: the embassy and everything. They're telling us to get the
• 50:20
  Speaker 2: hell out of the milie. If you don't get out
• 50:23
  Speaker 2: of the middle use now.
• 50:24
  Speaker 20: You're on your own.
• 50:26
  Speaker 1: Damn.
• 50:26
  Speaker 5: But you still they're still supposed to be giving you
• 50:29
  Speaker 5: according to what I'm reading here on CNN, they're still
• 50:32
  Speaker 5: supposed to be giving you a non refundable ticket, that's what.
• 50:34
  Speaker 5: And that's according to the Department of Transportation website as well. Well.
• 50:39
  Speaker 2: I will definitely have to cite that story when I
• 50:41
  Speaker 2: contact them again. But every email I said is giving
• 50:45
  Speaker 2: me the same information. Seventy two hours. We're giving refunds
• 50:48
  Speaker 2: right now. Your travels data too far and advanced. Things
• 50:51
  Speaker 2: may change. I don't see it. If that war ends
• 50:53
  Speaker 2: right now.
• 50:53
  Speaker 1: I am not going over there, damn.
• 50:57
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a hotel. I will just to say that.
• 51:00
  Speaker 2: Down the block from there another hotel to tape.
• 51:02
  Speaker 4: So I would think you, I would think you a
• 51:06
  Speaker 4: damn fool if you were going to go bye right now.
• 51:08
  Speaker 2: I totally agree.
• 51:09
  Speaker 11: I just want my money back.
• 51:10
  Speaker 9: That's two thousand.
• 51:11
  Speaker 2: Dollars and just airlines and airline keys. But I feel
• 51:15
  Speaker 2: damn now trying to find something else for a last
• 51:20
  Speaker 2: minute vacation. It's almost impossible.
• 51:23
  Speaker 5: Yeah, we're not going to where you're gonna be sitting
• 51:25
  Speaker 5: right home. It's okay, listen. I think we should be
• 51:29
  Speaker 5: happy when God makes us be still. He making us
• 51:31
  Speaker 5: be still for a reason.
• 51:32
  Speaker 2: I totally agree. That's why I'm not planning to go
• 51:35
  Speaker 2: anywhere else.
• 51:36
  Speaker 11: I just want my money back.
• 51:37
  Speaker 9: What the penalty?
• 51:38
  Speaker 4: He absolutely, Well, thank.
• 51:40
  Speaker 1: You for coming.
• 51:41
  Speaker 2: I can make something fun at home, but thank you
• 51:44
  Speaker 2: for hearing me out. I was just it's a hopefully
• 51:46
  Speaker 2: somebody can contact Emory or Emmer change that says, get
• 51:50
  Speaker 2: easy us to the band money back.
• 51:52
  Speaker 5: Yes, man, I mean, like I said, The Department of
• 51:54
  Speaker 5: Transportation and CNN are both saying that Middle East, if you're,
• 51:59
  Speaker 5: if you're, you're, if your flight was canceled, are significantly
• 52:02
  Speaker 5: significantly delayed due to war, airspace closes in the Middle East,
• 52:05
  Speaker 5: You're entitled to full prompt refunds even on non refundable tickets.
• 52:09
  Speaker 2: I will thank you so much.
• 52:12
  Speaker 11: Ansday vis.
• 52:14
  Speaker 4: We do that every Friday.
• 52:15
  Speaker 5: It's the people's donkey. You can call in and give
• 52:18
  Speaker 5: somebody the credit they deserve for being stupid. Okay, every
• 52:21
  Speaker 5: Friday it's the Breakfast Club.
• 52:23
  Speaker 10: Good morning, everybody is dj NV just hilarious. Charlamagne to God.
• 52:28
  Speaker 10: We are the Breakfast Club, now saluted.
• 52:30
  Speaker 1: Jordan Callers.
• 52:30
  Speaker 6: Hold on, back up, brother, I'm sorry, it's your favorite
• 52:33
  Speaker 6: part right here.
• 52:34
  Speaker 4: Backing up.
• 52:34
  Speaker 1: Break It's Friday, so you know what that means.
• 52:36
  Speaker 4: It's freaking, freaky, freaky Friday.
• 52:39
  Speaker 6: And the question is do your plate turn you on that.
• 52:43
  Speaker 10: This conversation comes from Jordan Callers, who stopped through earlier
• 52:45
  Speaker 10: and he wrote a book called short Play, The Marriage
• 52:47
  Speaker 10: Saving Magic of Getting your Head out of your Ass.
• 52:50
  Speaker 5: Yes, and he's basically saying that, you know, putting in
• 52:52
  Speaker 5: the effort in small ways will yield big results. So
• 52:55
  Speaker 5: if you know you do things like, you know, wash
• 52:56
  Speaker 5: the dishes, our vacuum when your wife you know, doesn't expected,
• 53:00
  Speaker 5: I'll make up the bed. You know, doing things like
• 53:02
  Speaker 5: learning the names of your children's doctors and what medicines
• 53:05
  Speaker 5: they take, your teachers everything.
• 53:07
  Speaker 7: I die.
• 53:08
  Speaker 6: I can't go that far because I don't know my
• 53:09
  Speaker 6: kids teachers. You know your kids teacher?
• 53:11
  Speaker 1: Well, you got six?
• 53:12
  Speaker 6: Do you know your kids teachers? Absolutely? I know my
• 53:14
  Speaker 6: kids teacher's names.
• 53:15
  Speaker 12: I'm the mother.
• 53:16
  Speaker 15: I don't know if Jeron, well, yeah, Jerome's heavily involved,
• 53:19
  Speaker 15: and my husband's heavily involved.
• 53:20
  Speaker 1: Yeah, we all know.
• 53:21
  Speaker 15: We all know Ashley's teachers names. Yeah, dang, that's great. Actually,
• 53:25
  Speaker 15: what's name?
• 53:26
  Speaker 8: What?
• 53:27
  Speaker 1: Good question?
• 53:27
  Speaker 5: She don't know, she don't know. I just want she
• 53:33
  Speaker 5: don't know, she don't know, she don't know. Good question, Charlotte,
• 53:36
  Speaker 5: she don't know what Jamal Brian told you to stop lying, I.
• 53:39
  Speaker 6: Ain't need to stop lining to.
• 53:45
  Speaker 5: Stop.
• 53:46
  Speaker 4: Let's go to the full line.
• 53:48
  Speaker 1: Who's this.
• 53:51
  Speaker 8: From?
• 53:52
  Speaker 7: Hey, J?
• 53:52
  Speaker 1: From Charleston?
• 53:54
  Speaker 4: What's happening? J?
• 53:57
  Speaker 1: Do you like?
• 53:57
  Speaker 4: Do you like your play? J? I?
• 54:00
  Speaker 16: I agree one hundred percent.
• 54:02
  Speaker 2: I think you have to keep in mind that your
• 54:04
  Speaker 2: wives are not machines. Can't expect us to do all
• 54:07
  Speaker 2: the things and work full time and have time to
• 54:10
  Speaker 2: play with you that type something off her plate without
• 54:13
  Speaker 2: without being told, don't ask.
• 54:15
  Speaker 20: What can I do?
• 54:16
  Speaker 9: You see what's dirty?
• 54:18
  Speaker 21: Clean right together?
• 54:21
  Speaker 8: Okay, when you handle it, if you have a good
• 54:23
  Speaker 8: time that night, there you go. I agree, all right, Jay.
• 54:27
  Speaker 4: She said, you know these kids ain't clean. How old
• 54:29
  Speaker 4: are the kids?
• 54:35
  Speaker 1: Oh no, not you.
• 54:36
  Speaker 4: I'm just sorring because at some point they clean their responsibility. Okay,
• 54:39
  Speaker 4: oh for sure.
• 54:40
  Speaker 11: Yeah, no, she's a baby.
• 54:41
  Speaker 6: Now this chill play, turn you on desk.
• 54:45
  Speaker 16: Absolutely, absolutely, yeah.
• 54:47
  Speaker 5: I got a dog.
• 54:48
  Speaker 16: When I see him taking my dog out, when I
• 54:50
  Speaker 16: see him wiping down the counters anything. I also am
• 54:54
  Speaker 16: a nanny for work, so I do that during the
• 54:57
  Speaker 16: day all the time. So when I get home and
• 54:59
  Speaker 16: he does that, I'm definitely like, yeah this, so let's
• 55:03
  Speaker 16: take my feet up for a.
• 55:03
  Speaker 7: Little bit longer.
• 55:04
  Speaker 5: Now. You know what's interesting, I'm meant to ask Jordan
• 55:07
  Speaker 5: that what happens when somebody does have a nanny, you
• 55:10
  Speaker 5: know what I mean, because then I'm hiring somebody to
• 55:12
  Speaker 5: do the charge for us.
• 55:13
  Speaker 4: Basically, it depends.
• 55:15
  Speaker 2: It happens sometimes there's a nanny, like just for the kids,
• 55:19
  Speaker 2: but if you talk about their duties.
• 55:20
  Speaker 16: It kind of it can kind of turn into like
• 55:22
  Speaker 16: a household manager. Correct nanny person. I am like a
• 55:26
  Speaker 16: nanny personal assistant, so I'll do extra things like scheduling
• 55:32
  Speaker 16: appointments and dry cleaners and all sorts of.
• 55:36
  Speaker 6: Things you like an assistant as well as an any Oh.
• 55:39
  Speaker 16: Yeah, so the kids they're at school during the daytime,
• 55:42
  Speaker 16: so during that time I'm doing whatever. I'm currently organizing
• 55:45
  Speaker 16: their closet, so through all that stuff.
• 55:47
  Speaker 12: Yeah.
• 55:49
  Speaker 15: Yeah, it's different levels to to Nanny's eight hundred and
• 55:53
  Speaker 15: five eighty five one five, And we're asking, does sure
• 55:55
  Speaker 15: play turn you on?
• 55:56
  Speaker 1: Your play is?
• 55:58
  Speaker 5: Your play is basically you know when you put in
• 56:00
  Speaker 5: the effort in small ways that yield big results. You
• 56:03
  Speaker 5: do things around the house for your wife, you know
• 56:05
  Speaker 5: what I mean. Like the young lady said, you wipe
• 56:07
  Speaker 5: down counters.
• 56:07
  Speaker 4: You know what I mean.
• 56:08
  Speaker 5: Like you know your children's teachers' names, are their doctor's names.
• 56:11
  Speaker 4: You know what medicines they take. You know, you give
• 56:14
  Speaker 4: the kids a bath, or even if you.
• 56:16
  Speaker 15: See something as low like milk, eggs, anything like that
• 56:19
  Speaker 15: in refrigerator, go and get it.
• 56:20
  Speaker 6: I don't even wait for me to go get it.
• 56:23
  Speaker 6: You go and get it.
• 56:23
  Speaker 15: Go to the grocery store, stock it up. When waters
• 56:26
  Speaker 15: are running low, stock more waters and refrigerator.
• 56:30
  Speaker 5: All of that is like four play. I mean that's
• 56:32
  Speaker 5: what Jordan's saying. You're calling it your place. No y'all,
• 56:35
  Speaker 5: y'all grabbing bottles of wine. Y'all need to be grabbing
• 56:36
  Speaker 5: bottles of windock.
• 56:37
  Speaker 10: Well do you feel the same call us up right
• 56:39
  Speaker 10: now when we come back. We got a brother on
• 56:41
  Speaker 10: the line that said it he's done all that.
• 56:43
  Speaker 4: He still can't get it.
• 56:44
  Speaker 1: He can't get done.
• 56:45
  Speaker 4: Good morning, Good morning, sir.
• 56:49
  Speaker 8: Pretty good, but common top.
• 56:52
  Speaker 18: It's pretty much like I did it for years and
• 56:55
  Speaker 18: years out and I have first year, you know, turning on,
• 56:58
  Speaker 18: got them draw, cook cleanly, say bill to make.
• 57:02
  Speaker 8: Time for the gym, say with the kids.
• 57:04
  Speaker 9: After a while, they got accustomed to it, like it
• 57:06
  Speaker 9: was a something regular.
• 57:09
  Speaker 8: I'm doing this, So I guess something out of that end.
• 57:11
  Speaker 1: Of the night.
• 57:11
  Speaker 9: You think I'm sleeping and mopping and all this that
• 57:14
  Speaker 9: seventy three o'clock at night, watching but putting the people
• 57:17
  Speaker 9: in the bed.
• 57:18
  Speaker 4: Are you working?
• 57:19
  Speaker 1: Do what you call it?
• 57:20
  Speaker 4: From Philly and Newark.
• 57:20
  Speaker 6: Baltimore, Nah, nah, cut it out, Jersey all right.
• 57:25
  Speaker 4: I know I was Philly and Newark. We're part of
• 57:27
  Speaker 4: Jersey South Jerseys, South Jersey. Okay, bro, city setting up?
• 57:33
  Speaker 7: All right?
• 57:33
  Speaker 4: Are you how much do you wish gotta to do
• 57:37
  Speaker 4: something short of thing?
• 57:38
  Speaker 1: Seventy two night?
• 57:40
  Speaker 9: Nah, I'm two hundred, bro, I'm five eleven.
• 57:43
  Speaker 5: Five eleven, two seventy two. Let me see if you
• 57:45
  Speaker 5: ob running? Okay, Yeah you're not.
• 57:50
  Speaker 4: You're not do something.
• 57:52
  Speaker 5: Yeah, you're not obese. I'm just trying to find other
• 57:54
  Speaker 5: reasons why you don't want to sleep.
• 57:55
  Speaker 12: You you work, though, he's doing all that?
• 57:58
  Speaker 20: Yeah, working right now?
• 58:00
  Speaker 8: Y'all have TV cut grass.
• 58:03
  Speaker 9: I'm a chemical specialist.
• 58:04
  Speaker 8: I do a lot of careers.
• 58:05
  Speaker 4: Damn man, you work around the house? Are you part
• 58:07
  Speaker 4: in Mexican everything?
• 58:08
  Speaker 1: Damn?
• 58:10
  Speaker 5: So listen, what have you have? You'all had conversations about it.
• 58:13
  Speaker 5: Maybe it's something she's going through.
• 58:14
  Speaker 1: How old is she made?
• 58:16
  Speaker 8: Thirty thirty three?
• 58:18
  Speaker 4: Oh so she's not even like no perimantal pause or nothing.
• 58:21
  Speaker 4: I don't, I don't, I don't know. It's him.
• 58:22
  Speaker 6: It's something about him.
• 58:24
  Speaker 4: I don't want to put what. I don't want to
• 58:25
  Speaker 4: put that on you, something.
• 58:27
  Speaker 15: About you, because if you're doing all that and you
• 58:30
  Speaker 15: still ain't getting nothing, it's you.
• 58:32
  Speaker 12: It's something that I.
• 58:33
  Speaker 8: Can get it.
• 58:34
  Speaker 11: I can get it, but it's just not like it's
• 58:36
  Speaker 11: like I gotta I gotta want to get it, but I.
• 58:38
  Speaker 4: Want you want somebody to want you back.
• 58:41
  Speaker 15: Take the initiative bags to come out.
• 58:46
  Speaker 8: Yeah, I think I think you.
• 58:47
  Speaker 5: Need y'all need to have a conversation with a specialist,
• 58:49
  Speaker 5: not the breakfast club. But something else is going on.
• 58:55
  Speaker 6: There could be the other way around. She might not
• 58:56
  Speaker 6: feel sexy, but she might you know, I mean, or
• 58:59
  Speaker 6: she could be feeling see what somebody else.
• 59:05
  Speaker 2: Hi, my name is Shakira Jess Aquarius.
• 59:08
  Speaker 8: You know I love you guys.
• 59:11
  Speaker 20: You see y'all all the time.
• 59:14
  Speaker 8: Do you like.
• 59:16
  Speaker 6: Yes?
• 59:16
  Speaker 2: Oh my god, It's exactly what I'm going through right now.
• 59:20
  Speaker 21: I feel like me and my boyfriend have been depaying for.
• 59:23
  Speaker 11: Like three years.
• 59:23
  Speaker 20: Our son just turned three.
• 59:26
  Speaker 2: It's a lot of he doesn't want to feel is
• 59:31
  Speaker 2: that he feels like.
• 59:33
  Speaker 8: I'm his mom.
• 59:34
  Speaker 11: He wants to do things when he wants to do
• 59:36
  Speaker 11: him and not when it's.
• 59:37
  Speaker 21: Convenient for the house. Our son was diagnosed with autism.
• 59:42
  Speaker 21: He's three, but he's talking a lot more now.
• 59:45
  Speaker 20: But I handle everything.
• 59:46
  Speaker 8: The school.
• 59:47
  Speaker 21: The therapistat therapy O C. A. D A changing my
• 59:51
  Speaker 21: hours at work. I'm a master's in social work, and
• 59:56
  Speaker 21: my career is like everything is dictated by our child,
• 59:59
  Speaker 21: you know, And I'm the one that does all of that.
• 1:00:03
  Speaker 20: He I feel like you're trying.
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 21: To punish me because I guess I'm unpleasant because I
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 21: am overwhelmed. So literally everything that was said this morning
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 21: is what I'm going through.
• 1:00:12
  Speaker 12: Does he does he work?
• 1:00:13
  Speaker 7: Like?
• 1:00:13
  Speaker 12: Did he lose a job? Was he going through a
• 1:00:15
  Speaker 12: punk or something like that?
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 7: That you know?
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 21: My man child?
• 1:00:20
  Speaker 1: Damn?
• 1:00:21
  Speaker 8: I make his doctor's appointment, Like, but but doctor, did you.
• 1:00:26
  Speaker 12: Did you start doing that? But were you always doing that?
• 1:00:29
  Speaker 12: Was he always imagined I just started?
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 6: Hell, so.
• 1:00:34
  Speaker 12: It had to be something that happened though, because she
• 1:00:36
  Speaker 12: said he wasn't always like that.
• 1:00:39
  Speaker 16: No, no, no, no, no, no, he's never went to
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 16: the doctor.
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 2: Like I'm seeing now that we have.
• 1:00:43
  Speaker 21: A child, he's not as responsible as I would like
• 1:00:46
  Speaker 21: him to be.
• 1:00:47
  Speaker 20: He's not.
• 1:00:47
  Speaker 21: He don't take our son nowhere. I'm I'm the one
• 1:00:50
  Speaker 21: finding all the things going on. He didn't bright taking
• 1:00:54
  Speaker 21: our son took the part that for.
• 1:00:55
  Speaker 2: Me, I do all of that.
• 1:00:57
  Speaker 4: Well, I can ask a question, how often does this
• 1:01:00
  Speaker 4: brother work?
• 1:01:01
  Speaker 1: Oh?
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 9: You work?
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 4: And that's my point, no doubt. And I don't think
• 1:01:06
  Speaker 4: we factor that in enough.
• 1:01:07
  Speaker 5: Man, men are trying to keep food on the table.
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 5: We're trying to keep a roof over our family's heads.
• 1:01:13
  Speaker 5: Like I don't think people realize how stressful that is.
• 1:01:16
  Speaker 12: But she's doing the same thing.
• 1:01:18
  Speaker 15: But I'm doing the parents an autistic child. That's that's
• 1:01:21
  Speaker 15: a lot of ladies it is.
• 1:01:22
  Speaker 1: She is want little help.
• 1:01:23
  Speaker 10: But she's saying that because she's dry down there, because
• 1:01:26
  Speaker 10: he's not doing what saying that?
• 1:01:27
  Speaker 4: You can say, this woman drive You don't know if
• 1:01:28
  Speaker 4: this woman got wrapping out. Don't stop letting them disrespect
• 1:01:31
  Speaker 4: your pool.
• 1:01:31
  Speaker 6: Pool like that she said it.
• 1:01:32
  Speaker 2: Don't turn on listen, listen.
• 1:01:35
  Speaker 21: You gotta be turned on though, you gotta want I
• 1:01:38
  Speaker 21: got a child like another child like man, you could
• 1:01:43
  Speaker 21: be going to the doctor, you could be doing that stuff.
• 1:01:45
  Speaker 9: How can I curcse you that stuff for us?
• 1:01:47
  Speaker 2: And we won't do it for you.
• 1:01:48
  Speaker 15: So you just admitted you got DAP on the radio.
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 15: You just admitted you guys, But it's because of him.
• 1:01:53
  Speaker 15: But that's what the author of the book was saying.
• 1:01:54
  Speaker 15: That's what Jordan even was saying. He was subconsciously like that.
• 1:01:58
  Speaker 15: He didn't even realize that. You know, we had good intentions,
• 1:02:00
  Speaker 15: it just was no structure.
• 1:02:02
  Speaker 4: I said this while Jordan was here, and I really
• 1:02:04
  Speaker 4: mean this.
• 1:02:05
  Speaker 5: There's actual research that shows that women excel at household
• 1:02:11
  Speaker 5: and family needs better Like they just have higher level
• 1:02:15
  Speaker 5: of organization.
• 1:02:16
  Speaker 4: They're better planners. They just are.
• 1:02:18
  Speaker 15: But that's not a reason to put all of it
• 1:02:20
  Speaker 15: on us and totally neglects that we need help.
• 1:02:23
  Speaker 1: I don't say all of it.
• 1:02:24
  Speaker 5: I'm just saying I just feel like the best person
• 1:02:27
  Speaker 5: for the job should be the person that gets the job.
• 1:02:29
  Speaker 15: That's crazy to be able to stay home then, especially
• 1:02:33
  Speaker 15: that lady taking care of that autistic baby man, they
• 1:02:36
  Speaker 15: need a whole lot of uh patience, and they do.
• 1:02:40
  Speaker 6: I agree with that too.
• 1:02:41
  Speaker 5: I mean, if you are a man that is able
• 1:02:43
  Speaker 5: to provide and your woman can, you know, stay home,
• 1:02:47
  Speaker 5: that is technically her job. That's her job, that's her doing.
• 1:02:51
  Speaker 5: She see all the house, that's what she does. Well,
• 1:02:53
  Speaker 5: all to the story, all the stories, y'all better try
• 1:02:55
  Speaker 5: some chalks, you know what I'm saying. By the way,
• 1:02:57
  Speaker 5: that all jokes society just natural. You should do those
• 1:03:01
  Speaker 5: type of things, like you know, you see something you know,
• 1:03:04
  Speaker 5: dirty around the house and you can clean it up.
• 1:03:06
  Speaker 4: You should clean it up. We can all, we can
• 1:03:07
  Speaker 4: all be better in those areas. You know what I mean?
• 1:03:09
  Speaker 6: All right, all right, now you got a positive note
• 1:03:11
  Speaker 6: I do.
• 1:03:12
  Speaker 5: I want to flute everybody you know that's been going
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  Speaker 4: My wife and I truly thank y'all.
• 1:03:25
  Speaker 1: For the support. Man.
• 1:03:26
  Speaker 5: Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you.
• 1:03:28
  Speaker 5: Now the positive notice simply this. I heard, when you
• 1:03:31
  Speaker 5: stop chasing what you want, you walk right into what
• 1:03:34
  Speaker 5: you need. You heard what I said, When you stop
• 1:03:37
  Speaker 5: chasing what you want, you walk right into.
• 1:03:40
  Speaker 4: What you need.
• 1:03:41
  Speaker 12: Have your grandmother told you that, No, that's not like
• 1:03:43
  Speaker 12: something right out of.
• 1:03:44
  Speaker 6: Good tree mouth. I'm telling you that's not like a
• 1:03:47
  Speaker 6: good good grandma quote.
• 1:03:48
  Speaker 20: I like it.
• 1:03:49
  Speaker 6: Breakfast club, you don't.
• 1:03:51
  Speaker 3: Finish for y'all, dumb woke up, Wake you up, Wake up,
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