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- There is a specific kind of silence that falls over a room when you’ve just bombed on stage, and it’s heavier than any applause you’ve ever heard. I want to tell you about the night I forgot my own name because I was too busy imagining everyone else’s judgment. Let’s unpack that silence first, shall we? Because if you’ve ever stood in front of an audience, even a small one, even a room full of friends who promised they’d be nice, you know exactly what I’m talking about. It’s not just quiet; it’s a physical weight. It presses against your eardrums and makes your chest feel like it’s been hollowed out with a spoon. I remember standing behind the curtain of this tiny, smoke-stained theater in Chicago, clutching a piece of paper so tightly my knuckles were white. The air smelled like stale beer and old velvet, and my heart was doing this frantic little tap dance against my ribs. I had written something I thought was brilliant. Or maybe I just thought it was brave. There’s a difference, isn’t there? Bravery doesn’t always mean quality. Sometimes bravery just means showing up with your hands shaking. But in that moment, before I stepped into the light, I wasn’t thinking about the words. I was thinking about the faces in the dark. I was constructing an entire courtroom in my head where the jury was already guilty, the judge was bored, and the executioner was waiting for me to trip over a syllable. We do this to ourselves all the time, don’t we? We script our failures before we even begin. We rehearse the cringe in the shower while we’re brushing our teeth. It’s exhausting, really. To carry around this imaginary audience that critiques every breath you take. I think part of the terror comes from a deeply ingrained cultural lie. You know the one. The idea that art is a performance of perfection. That if you stumble, if you forget a line, if your voice cracks, you have failed not just as a performer but as a human being. This is nonsense, of course. Nonsense dressed up in tweed and academic seriousness. When I edit manuscripts, or when I watch films, I am rarely moved by technical flawlessness. Perfection is sterile. It’s cold. It’s the marble statue that looks beautiful but feels nothing. What moves me is the crack in the voice. The tear that smudges the mascara. The joke that lands slightly too late but gets a laugh anyway because it’s honest. Open mics are not galas. They are laboratories. They are places where things are supposed to break so we can see how they work. Yet, we walk into these rooms treating them like opera auditions for roles we haven’t been cast in. We wear armor made of pretension, trying to look like we belong in a world of seasoned professionals, when the truth is, everyone there is terrified. Everyone is hoping someone else laughs so they don’t have to be the only one standing alone in the spotlight. The fear of judgment is often just the fear of visibility. And visibility is terrifying because it requires us to be seen, not just watched. You might remember me talking about driftwood carving in a previous episode, finding beauty in the chaos of storm-battered wood. Well, open mics are very much like that process. You take something raw, something broken by the tides of your own life, and you try to shape it into something presentable. But here’s the thing about driftwood: it’s already shaped by forces beyond your control. The salt, the sand, the crashes. Your story has already been battered. You can’t smooth it all out. You can’t polish away the history. When we fear judgment at an open mic, we’re often trying to hide the scars. We’re trying to sand down the rough edges until the piece is unrecognizable, safe, and boring. But the audience isn’t looking for safety. They’re looking for resonance. They want to see the grain. They want to see where the wood split and healed. If you present a polished, perfect, emotionless version of yourself, you deny them the chance to connect with the real you. And isn’t connection what we’re all secretly begging for? Even if we’re screaming internally that we should go home and never speak again. The judgment we fear is usually less harsh than the shame we feel for hiding who we are. So maybe the goal isn’t to avoid judgment. Maybe the goal is to make the work so true that the judgment becomes irrelevant. Here is a secret that might surprise you, or maybe it won’t, depending on how cynical you’ve become about human nature. The people sitting in those chairs want you to succeed. Not out of pity, but out of solidarity. When you walk up to that microphone, you are giving them permission to be vulnerable too. You are breaking the social contract that says we must remain composed and quiet. You are saying, 'Look, I am messy, and I am here.' Most people are starving for that kind of authenticity. They are tired of the curated Instagram feeds and the polished press releases. They want the glitch. They want the mistake. When you bomb, when you freeze, when you lose your place, the room doesn’t turn against you. It holds its breath. It leans in. It wants to catch you. I’ve seen audiences literally wince when a performer stumbles, not because they’re mocking you, but because they’re empathizing. They feel your pain as their own. That’s the magic of live art. It creates a shared nervous system. So when you stand there, trembling, remember that you are not alone in that room. You are surrounded by people who are also afraid of being judged. You are surrounded by fellow travelers who would give anything to hear your voice, even if it shakes. The judgment you imagine is a ghost. It doesn’t exist outside your own head. In reality, the only person judging you harshly is the one holding the mirror. So how do we stop the spiral? How do we walk onto that stage without wanting to dissolve into the floorboards? It starts with reframing the purpose. Why are you there? Are you there to prove you are good? Or are you there to participate? I used to think I needed to be good. Now I think I just need to be present. Being present is harder than being good. Goodness can be faked. Presence cannot. When you focus on the act of sharing rather than the result of receiving praise, the stakes lower. You’re not performing for a verdict; you’re contributing to a conversation. Think of it like joining a jazz session. You don’t know what the next note will be. You just listen, you respond, you add your voice to the chord. If you miss a beat, the band keeps playing. The music doesn’t stop. Life doesn’t stop. The fear of judgment is essentially the fear of losing control. But in art, control is an illusion. We plan our speeches, our sets, our performances, but the moment we step into the room, anything can happen. A cough. A phone ringing. A sudden realization that changes the meaning of the last paragraph. Embrace the chaos. Let the imperfections be part of the piece. When you release the need to control how you are perceived, you free yourself to actually perceive the moment. You start to notice the nods. The smiles. The people leaning forward. You start to see the humanity in the room, and it becomes easier to see your own. In a way, showing up to an open mic is an act of rebellion. We live in a world that rewards invisibility. We are told to stay in our lanes, to keep our heads down, to not make waves. To curate our lives so carefully that no one can criticize the edit. Choosing to show your unedited self is radical. It’s defiant. It says, 'I am here, flaws and all, and I refuse to apologize for taking up space.' That’s why it feels so scary. Because it challenges the status quo. It challenges the idea that we must be perfect to be worthy. But worthiness isn’t earned through flawlessness. It’s inherent. It’s yours by birthright. Every time you speak your truth, even if your voice shakes, you are reclaiming that worthiness. You are telling the universe, and more importantly, yourself, that you matter. That your story matters. That your awkward, messy, beautiful humanity matters. So the next time you’re invited to share, or you feel that pull to create, don’t ask yourself if you’re ready. Don’t ask yourself if it’s good enough. Ask yourself if you’re willing to be seen. Because that’s the only requirement. Everything else is just details. And honestly, the details are where the fun is. The stumble, the laugh, the unexpected pause. Those are the moments that stick. Not the polished lines, but the human ones. So go ahead. Shake. Forget your lines. Talk about the weather if you have to. Just show up. Be present. Be real. And let the rest unfold. Stay curious, my friend. And remember, the best art is often the art that trembles. I’ll see you next time.