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My husband has been getting closer to his YOUNGER coworker… I’m starting to get suspicious! -r/BestofRedditorUpdates | Reddit Stories | EP3147 · ok storytime

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  Speaker 4: My husband has been getting closer to his younger co-worker.
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  Speaker 4: I'm starting to get suspicious. Who's that lady? About a
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  Speaker 4: year ago, my 42-female husband, 43-male, hired a mid-20-year-old girl
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  Speaker 4: to work in his department. He is her supervisor, and
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  Speaker 4: from the day she started, I could tell by the
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  Speaker 4: way he talked about her that he maybe had a
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  Speaker 4: little crush on her. I didn't feel threatened because there
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  Speaker 4: are very few women at his company, and the ones
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  Speaker 4: that do work there are older, so it seemed natural
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  Speaker 4: to develop an innocent crush on the new young cute girl.
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  Speaker 4: I would be more worried about this than you seem
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  Speaker 4: to be. Yeah, I don't like the sounds of this.
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  Speaker 4: Don't love that. About a month after she started, things
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  Speaker 4: started to get a little weird. He would constantly come
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  Speaker 4: home with homemade baked goods like cupcakes, cakes, and breads
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  Speaker 4: that she had made for him. Not the office, but
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  Speaker 4: for him. I got a little alarmed, but assumed she
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  Speaker 4: was trying to be nice to the boss. Then, a
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  Speaker 4: couple of months ago, things got really weird. He bought
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  Speaker 4: her a birthday present and took her out to lunch.
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  Speaker 4: And about two weeks later, he came home with clothing
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  Speaker 4: that she had bought him as a present. Number one,
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  Speaker 4: I'm calling it out. Count number two, I'm calling it out.
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  Speaker 4: Count number three, we're on count number four. I am
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  Speaker 4: calling that out.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, this is too many obvious signs. Yes.
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  Speaker 4: It wasn't a holiday or his birthday. It was just
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  Speaker 4: something she bought for him. I don't buy like.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, coworkers, I guess, or, like, anything. Like, I wouldn't,
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  Speaker 2: especially if it's, like, a much.
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  Speaker 4: Older, like, man or, you know, someone. Yes, who has
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  Speaker 4: a wife. Yeah, who has a wife.
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  Speaker 2: Like, I'm not, like, maybe I'll cook some stuff and
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  Speaker 2: be like, oh, I had extra here.
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  Speaker 4: You want it?
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  Speaker 2: You know, that's fine. I'm not going out of my way.
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  Speaker 2: To buy you, like, a shirt or buy you clothes.
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  Speaker 4: I'm not buying you clothes.
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  Speaker 2: You'd have to, like, ask what size you are.
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  Speaker 4: Stuff like that. That's weird. By the way, this comes
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  Speaker 4: from Eating Others Cupcakes. and eating others' cupcake too.
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  Speaker 2: What?
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  Speaker 4: About a week later, my husband was brought into his
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  Speaker 4: boss's office and told that there were rumors that he
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  Speaker 4: and this girl were having an affair and that it
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  Speaker 4: wasn't appropriate. When he told me this, it was like
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  Speaker 4: he seriously didn't see anything weird about them buying presents
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  Speaker 4: for each other, her making baked goods, or them going
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  Speaker 4: out to lunch alone. I immediately told him to stop
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  Speaker 4: accepting presents from her, and he agreed. But just a
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  Speaker 4: few days later, he came home with a variety of
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  Speaker 4: homemade bread. He's like, that's not presents, that's just food.
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  Speaker 4: I'm supposed to say no to the food? Yeah, you're
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  Speaker 4: supposed to say no to everything. She's now buying presents
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  Speaker 4: for our two kids. That's crazy. And I'm finding this
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  Speaker 4: whole thing strange and really inappropriate. Any advice would be
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  Speaker 4: so appreciated. Call it out.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Girl, why are you just sitting here letting it happen?
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  Speaker 2: You're just letting it happen. Just be like, hey, actually,
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  Speaker 2: it very much seems like you're having an affair or,
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  Speaker 2: you know.
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  Speaker 4: Giving her more attention. Now she's buying stuff for our kids.
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  Speaker 4: That's weird. Why are you talking about our kids to her? Yeah,
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  Speaker 4: that's weird. This is getting really weird. And it feels
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  Speaker 4: like all you've done so far is kind of say, oh, yeah,
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  Speaker 4: you know, for work, you should probably stop accepting gifts
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  Speaker 4: like you haven't. It doesn't seem like Opie has said explicitly,
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  Speaker 4: I am uncomfortable. Please stop doing this because, you know,
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  Speaker 4: upsets me. He also hasn't stopped accepting them. Also that,
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  Speaker 4: also that. But we do have an update six weeks later.
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  Speaker 4: I left out one detail in my original post. At
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  Speaker 4: the time I was pregnant, like do any day pregnant.
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  Speaker 4: I don't know if you're bringing that up because it
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  Speaker 4: makes him look so much worse or because you were
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  Speaker 4: having like hormones. I have since given birth to a
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  Speaker 4: healthy little boy, but this makes my original post and
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  Speaker 4: update a little more messed up. A few days after
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  Speaker 4: my original post, I snooped in his laptop bag and
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  Speaker 4: did not like what I found. Let's just say there
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  Speaker 4: were obvious items that would be used for spicy sleep.
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  Speaker 4: Come on. Come on.
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  Speaker 1: Ew, he's gross.
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  Speaker 4: The fact that he came home. What confuses me is
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  Speaker 4: that he came home at one point and said, yeah,
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  Speaker 4: everyone at my work thinks we're having an affair.
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  Speaker 2: He wanted to see her reaction, how she would react.
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  Speaker 2: And she obviously was like, oh, that's weird. You know,
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  Speaker 2: she didn't have the big reaction. So he's like, oh,
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  Speaker 2: I'm in the clear.
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  Speaker 4: He's like, oh, it's fine. He's like, oh, she has
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  Speaker 4: no idea. We're good. So all my suspicions were confirmed.
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  Speaker 4: I confronted him immediately when he got home and found
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  Speaker 4: out they have been having an affair for about two months.
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  Speaker 1: Yikes.
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  Speaker 4: So I kicked him out. A couple of days went
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  Speaker 4: by and he wanted to talk, so we did. We
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  Speaker 4: talked for a half day.
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  Speaker 1: Dang.
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  Speaker 4: And it was brutal. We both admitted that neither of
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  Speaker 4: us were really happy, just comfortable, and that the affair
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  Speaker 4: was a symptom of a stale relationship rather than the cause.
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  Speaker 4: We had grown apart and made each other our last priority,
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  Speaker 4: functioning as roommates instead of partners. I had been planning
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  Speaker 4: to file for divorce soon after the birth, and so
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  Speaker 4: had he. But punting him out gave us both a
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  Speaker 4: glance at the life in store for us, And it
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  Speaker 4: kind of sucked. He moved back home, we had the baby,
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  Speaker 4: and now we are rebuilding our commitment, which is really hard.
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  Speaker 4: We are in marriage counseling and trying to move past
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  Speaker 4: this and rediscover the people we fell in love with.
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  Speaker 4: You're trying to move past his two-month affair? Wait, he
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  Speaker 4: didn't move. He's back. Well, they have a... baby. So
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  Speaker 4: they have multiple kids.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: So you do kind of have to move past it,
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  Speaker 2: but you know, in order to have.
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  Speaker 4: To, but it makes sense why they are.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah. I think that if I were in, not that,
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  Speaker 4: I mean, I think I'm just a type person. I
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  Speaker 4: would never be able to get over any type of cheating. Oh,
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  Speaker 4: for sure.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: No, I'd be like, I'd be done. I couldn't, but yeah,
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  Speaker 4: but I would more understand being in like a long relationship.
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  Speaker 4: You had kids, um, If they, it was just like
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  Speaker 4: a one-time thing, but like two months. Any like a long,
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  Speaker 4: elongated or like long-term period of time where they were cheating.
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  Speaker 4: I'm like, you developed feeling. Yeah. No can do. We
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  Speaker 4: have kids and we owe it to them to see
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  Speaker 4: if there's any possibility of happiness as partners before breaking
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  Speaker 4: it off. Things are delicate, but a lot has improved.
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  Speaker 4: He's stepped up with the kids, cooking chores and spending
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  Speaker 4: time with his family. And I have relinquished some control
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  Speaker 4: and let him do things his way. We are making
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  Speaker 4: each other our top priority instead of the kids, work,
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  Speaker 4: or hobbies. And we talk about everything instead of letting
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  Speaker 4: it bottle up. We're trying to be open and transparent,
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  Speaker 4: especially him, because I do not trust him and he
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  Speaker 4: is really trying to rebuild that. As for the girl,
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  Speaker 4: I contacted her to let her know how their actions
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  Speaker 4: affected me and my family. She has not accepted any
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  Speaker 4: responsibility and blames my husband solely even though she knew
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  Speaker 4: he was married. She's looking for a new job. And
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  Speaker 4: in January, she will be moving out of his group,
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  Speaker 4: but hopefully she leaves the company altogether. If she doesn't,
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  Speaker 4: my husband has been looking for a new job and
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  Speaker 4: will leave. He has unfriended and blocked her on Facebook,
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  Speaker 4: and she has blocked him. They are not to talk
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  Speaker 4: to each other or be alone together for any reason,
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  Speaker 4: and any communication will only be about business. What? Any communication.
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  Speaker 4: They're still communicating. Like, I know that they work together,
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  Speaker 4: but like.
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  Speaker 2: So there has to be some sort of communication, but
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  Speaker 2: it's still like.
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  Speaker 4: Just for a little longer. We will continue with marriage
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  Speaker 4: counseling for the foreseeable future, and even though things have
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  Speaker 4: greatly improved, we have a long, rough road ahead. Not
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  Speaker 4: a happy update, but not a sad one either. And
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  Speaker 4: we have update two one month after this one. Do
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  Speaker 4: you think that he... kept his promise or went back
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  Speaker 4: to this girl?
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  Speaker 2: I think that he's still working on it, but it
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  Speaker 2: doesn't mean.
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  Speaker 4: That this won't happen again. Yeah, I'm going to be cynical.
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  Speaker 4: I feel like he relapsed with this girl. He could be,
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  Speaker 4: which is stupid, but it happens. It's been two months
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  Speaker 4: since D-Day and a lot has happened. My husband went
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  Speaker 4: back to work after paternity leave, and each day would
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  Speaker 4: come home and show me any texts or instant messages
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  Speaker 4: between him and this girl on his own. It was
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  Speaker 4: difficult for him to go back and sit ten feet
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  Speaker 4: from her, so he started looking for a new job.
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  Speaker 4: And I started stopping by the office for lunch a
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  Speaker 4: couple times a week so we could spend time together.
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  Speaker 4: The day after Christmas, he was laid off, and we
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  Speaker 4: assume it was budget. I doubt it. I mean, I
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  Speaker 4: don't know. I mean, maybe.
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  Speaker 1: Sure. Okay.
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  Speaker 4: I don't doubt it. Well, because she's quitting in January anyway.
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  Speaker 4: I just feel like he probably wasn't laid off. I
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  Speaker 4: feel like he was laid off, but I feel like
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  Speaker 4: the company probably had ulterior motives. That being, oh, this
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  Speaker 4: guy had an affair with a, you know, a person
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  Speaker 4: who worked for him. That is a bad look. Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: And also way younger. Yeah. From the day he returned
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  Speaker 4: from paternity leave until the day he left, The messages
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  Speaker 4: showed several instances of her insisting he leave me and
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  Speaker 4: the kids to be with her, saying I was a witch,
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  Speaker 4: you didn't deserve him, and that she was better than me.
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  Speaker 4: She even said she would make a pot roast for
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  Speaker 4: him in nothing but an apron. And her spicy dancer shoes.
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  Speaker 4: Her ballet shoes? character shoes i.
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  Speaker 2: What oh like i'm thinking like big probably like tied
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  Speaker 2: up boots like like.
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  Speaker 4: Uh we don't know what she's wearing so it's it's
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  Speaker 4: stripper boots oh stripper shoes okay okay the day he
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  Speaker 4: was let go she told them she looked forward to
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  Speaker 4: seeing him again and that his new life would suck
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  Speaker 4: and she would be waiting and he told her they
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  Speaker 4: would never speak again. That Monday, he had to go
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  Speaker 4: back to the office to drop off materials and ask
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  Speaker 4: me to come. Right in front of me, HR and
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  Speaker 4: the manager, he confessed to the affair, and his status
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  Speaker 4: was changed to terminated for violating the spicy policy. It
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  Speaker 4: sucks that he is out of a job, but he
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  Speaker 4: is very marketable and already has a few offers, and
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  Speaker 4: we aren't a single-income family. Now he is feeling all
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  Speaker 4: the consequences of his actions and how they affect a
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  Speaker 4: whole host of people. Why did he do that? I
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  Speaker 4: think maybe to prove to her? Yeah, but that's just
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  Speaker 4: bad for everyone in their family. Because now he has
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  Speaker 4: this mark on his record for any job going forward. Like, oh,
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  Speaker 4: you violated their.
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  Speaker 2: Rules.
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  Speaker 4: I think everyone should have to do this.
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  Speaker 2: If you cheat on your spouse, you have to go
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  Speaker 2: into your work and tell everyone. And then everyone has
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  Speaker 2: to treat you horribly.
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  Speaker 4: I guess I'm less worried about him socially becoming a pariah.
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  Speaker 4: And more so the fact that this will for sure
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  Speaker 4: damage his ability to get a job. Well, that's on him.
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  Speaker 4: It is, but it hurts OP.
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  Speaker 1: Oh. Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Because he needs a job. He needs money. And she,
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  Speaker 4: I don't. Think she's working. Well, I don't know. He
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  Speaker 4: just said that he has a lot of offers lined
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  Speaker 4: up already, so. Well, it said he's marketable. Oh, and yeah,
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  Speaker 4: you're right. And has offers. Okay, well, maybe they'll ignore
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  Speaker 4: that he has a record on that. We're still in
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  Speaker 4: therapy and getting a lot out of it. We are
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  Speaker 4: both reading a book called Not Just Friends, and he's
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  Speaker 4: seeing how his relationship with her was inappropriate from the
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  Speaker 4: very beginning, before anything physical or emotional took place. From
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  Speaker 4: that book, we have formulated boundaries for when we go
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  Speaker 4: back to work, like not going to lunch with the
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  Speaker 4: opposite gender unless it's a group outing. He also told
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  Speaker 4: me that the night I punted him out, she showed
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  Speaker 4: up at his motel with bags of her entire wardrobe, shoes,
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  Speaker 4: and toiletries because she was going to move in. To
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  Speaker 4: his motel? He lives there now. Yeah. It pissed me
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  Speaker 4: off that she had some fantasy of moving into my
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  Speaker 4: house and taking care of my kids. Yikes. He gave
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  Speaker 4: back any and all gifts she ever gave him. He's
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  Speaker 4: had time to reflect and sees that she used him
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  Speaker 4: to get ahead at work and for a better life,
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  Speaker 4: and how she lied and manipulated situations to keep the
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  Speaker 4: affair going. Neither of us blames her entirely because he
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  Speaker 4: is even more responsible. It's good that you guys know that.
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  Speaker 4: But she bears some responsibility. She has now slept with
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  Speaker 4: two managers, had inappropriate contact with two others, slept with
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  Speaker 4: a vendor and two peers since May 2014, and accompanied
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  Speaker 4: 30 people.
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  Speaker 1: What?
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  Speaker 4: Okay, so this girl has issues. That's crazy. That's eight people.
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  Speaker 4: She stopped texting him after he confessed at work, though
• 13:17
  Speaker 4: she went kind of crazy calling and texting first. He
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  Speaker 4: told her not to contact him or his family again
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  Speaker 4: and blocked her number. She has a new boyfriend and
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  Speaker 4: we are fairly certain she will attempt to contact again
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  Speaker 4: after it ends. I'm still working on forgiveness and it's
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  Speaker 4: going to be a long process. But we are focused
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  Speaker 4: on making our relationship stronger and no longer on her.
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  Speaker 4: My husband has picked up a lot of the parenting
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  Speaker 4: duties I used to do alone. Like cooking, laundry, and
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  Speaker 4: daycare drop-off and pick-up. He told me the other day
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  Speaker 4: that he never realized what he had. An awesome wife.
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  Speaker 4: Until he almost lost her. And I think he means it.
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  Speaker 4: And we have a third update seven months later. It
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  Speaker 4: seems to be going well. Do you think it's still
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  Speaker 4: going well? I hope so.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, but I'm sure she's tried to contact him
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  Speaker 2: a few different times. After like all of her other
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  Speaker 2: people don't answer. She has like a list that she
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  Speaker 2: goes through.
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  Speaker 4: This girl's got a rasta. She's got a rasta. Update three.
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  Speaker 4: Seven months later. So nine months after busting my husband
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  Speaker 4: and going to therapy for about eight months, ten days ago,
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  Speaker 4: I asked him to move out.
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  Speaker 1: Uh-oh.
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  Speaker 4: He moved out last Saturday, so it's just me and
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  Speaker 4: my two kids. Wow. So it didn't work out. Sometimes
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  Speaker 4: it just doesn't. Sometimes you can't come back from losing
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  Speaker 4: that trust. Well, you can. It's betrayal.
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  Speaker 2: It's so hard to come back from that because then
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  Speaker 2: everything's a lie. Now I'm overthinking and thinking that everything
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  Speaker 2: you said to me was a lie because you've been
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  Speaker 2: lying to me this whole time.
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  Speaker 4: So why would it be any different? Exactly. Around May,
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  Speaker 4: I realized how unhappy I am and that I will
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  Speaker 4: never bounce back from the affair. I'm just not built
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  Speaker 4: that way. It was like the wool was pulled from
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  Speaker 4: my eyes. For five months, he lied to me every
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  Speaker 4: time he opened his mouth, and he used our child
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  Speaker 4: as a tool to continue the affair outside of work,
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  Speaker 4: pretending to take our kid to the park while he
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  Speaker 4: was actually spicy texting this girl and paying more attention
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  Speaker 4: to her than his own son. He also used our
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  Speaker 4: child to pull at any maternal heartstrings she might have,
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  Speaker 4: all while talking trash about me that wasn't true. He
• 15:26
  Speaker 4: brought our children into a very grown-up situation without any
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  Speaker 4: regard for them. He introduced our son to a woman
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  Speaker 4: he hardly knew, which is careless, because most people agonize
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  Speaker 4: over introducing new partners to their kids and he just
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  Speaker 4: didn't care. I finally dealt with the gravity of what
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  Speaker 4: he did and how he didn't care about anyone but
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  Speaker 4: himself because he felt entitled to have an affair. Between
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  Speaker 4: the day I asked him to leave and the day
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  Speaker 4: he left, it was difficult. He blamed me a lot,
• 15:54
  Speaker 4: saying he did his best to rebuild and that our
• 15:56
  Speaker 4: son would suffer for my decision. I tried to explain
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  Speaker 4: that folding some laundry and hanging out with the kids
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  Speaker 4: does not undo his actions, but I wasn't getting anywhere. Honestly,
• 16:07
  Speaker 4: our relationship has always been like this. He manipulates me,
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  Speaker 4: gaslights me by saying something mean and then denying it,
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  Speaker 4: and constantly criticizes how I load the dishwasher or cook dinner.
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  Speaker 4: He also has a terrible temper and had started projecting
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  Speaker 4: it on the kids, yelling at them and stomping on
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  Speaker 4: and kicking their toys over small things like spilled milk.
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  Speaker 4: On Friday, while I was feeding the baby, I left
• 16:31
  Speaker 4: the room and came back to him, telling our four-year-old
• 16:34
  Speaker 4: that mommy wants him to move out and doesn't like
• 16:37
  Speaker 4: him anymore.
• 16:38
  Speaker 1: Oh, my.
• 16:40
  Speaker 4: That is ridiculous. Trying to be the favorite parent. My
• 16:44
  Speaker 4: son yelled at me, why do you not like daddy anymore?
• 16:46
  Speaker 4: While crying. Oh, oh, you want to play that game?
• 16:50
  Speaker 1: Hmm.
• 16:51
  Speaker 4: Let me tell you everything he did.
• 16:52
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 16:53
  Speaker 4: But what would that change? Four-year-old, yeah. And I felt
• 16:56
  Speaker 4: like he was trying to get our son to blame me.
• 16:58
  Speaker 4: I mean, that's exactly what he's doing.
• 17:00
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 17:02
  Speaker 4: I smoothed it over with my son and he's totally
• 17:04
  Speaker 4: fine now and hasn't asked about it since. Screw this guy. Yeah. Like,
• 17:09
  Speaker 4: I mean, he was a liar, cheater, manipulator from the beginning.
• 17:13
  Speaker 4: Sounds like he was a bad partner and a bad dad. Yeah.
• 17:16
  Speaker 4: Like you don't want your kids around that. No.
• 17:18
  Speaker 2: Especially one who just like, like you want a partner
• 17:21
  Speaker 2: who has your back. Like even when things go wrong,
• 17:24
  Speaker 2: like he's the one who put you guys in this
• 17:26
  Speaker 2: situation and then he's going to try to get the
• 17:29
  Speaker 2: kids to turn on you.
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 17:31
  Speaker 4: Wow, real mature guy. Real mature. Now our four-year-old is like, man, daddy,
• 17:36
  Speaker 4: that mommy doesn't like that. Like, who are you to
• 17:39
  Speaker 4: do that? You can't. Like, shut up. Oh my God,
• 17:42
  Speaker 4: that pissed me off to no end. You definitely made
• 17:44
  Speaker 4: the right decision here, Opie. Yeah. Anyway, I'm doing some
• 17:47
  Speaker 4: basic renovations on the house, finding a therapist for myself,
• 17:50
  Speaker 4: and I have an appointment with an attorney for a
• 17:52
  Speaker 4: support order and parenting plan. I feel good about this,
• 17:56
  Speaker 4: and since Saturday, I can finally breathe. Comments and what
• 18:00
  Speaker 4: was in the web history. He was looking at paid
• 18:03
  Speaker 4: companion sites and stalking a friend online that he had
• 18:08
  Speaker 4: solicited for spicy sleep a couple of years ago. When
• 18:11
  Speaker 4: he told me he had solicited her and she said
• 18:14
  Speaker 4: no because he was married, I told him not to
• 18:17
  Speaker 4: have anything to do with her anymore. But here he was,
• 18:21
  Speaker 4: doing something to her pictures. He also has a Tinder account. Yikes.
• 18:26
  Speaker 4: It also OP'd Trust your gut, because it seems like
• 18:30
  Speaker 4: you've ignored a lot of signs. Yeah, and, like, ignored
• 18:34
  Speaker 4: it for a while. Yeah, I mean, she's telling us
• 18:36
  Speaker 4: now that he told her that he, you know, tried
• 18:40
  Speaker 4: to hook up with someone. Yeah. And it didn't happen
• 18:45
  Speaker 4: because that person didn't want to. Yeah. But the intention
• 18:49
  Speaker 4: was there.
• 18:50
  Speaker 2: You're literally a grown man who has children to care for,
• 18:54
  Speaker 2: and you're doing this crap?
• 18:56
  Speaker 4: Yikes. OP's final comments summarizing the end. Our relationship did
• 19:00
  Speaker 4: not fail because of the affair. It failed because we
• 19:03
  Speaker 4: lacked communication. A lot of our issues could have been
• 19:06
  Speaker 4: resolved if we communicated better. By the time we both
• 19:10
  Speaker 4: realized we had major issues, the affair had already happened.
• 19:14
  Speaker 4: The affair was the final straw. We both tried really
• 19:17
  Speaker 4: hard right after the discovery, but the changes were not sustainable.
• 19:21
  Speaker 4: And that is the end of the story. Yeah.
• 19:24
  Speaker 2: No, he wasn't willing to change and he just made
• 19:26
  Speaker 2: you think that he could.
• 19:27
  Speaker 4: Yeah. And just lied again and manipulated you again. He's
• 19:31
  Speaker 4: a liar and a manipulator and it's not surprising. Yeah.
• 19:35
  Speaker 4: But that's the end of that story and we've got
• 19:37
  Speaker 4: another one coming right up. My mother humiliated my pregnant
• 19:41
  Speaker 4: wife in my own house, so I threw her out.
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: Yeah, get out of my house. I.
• 19:46
  Speaker 4: 33 male, am married to my wonderful wife, Melody. 29 female,
• 19:51
  Speaker 4: and she is currently pregnant with our first child together.
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: I like the tune of that.
• 19:55
  Speaker 4: Yeah, Melody. I have a six-year-old daughter, Tina, whose mother
• 19:59
  Speaker 4: I split 50-50 custody with, so I know for the
• 20:02
  Speaker 4: most part what Melody needs to in order to feel
• 20:05
  Speaker 4: supported while she carries our child. I've been spending lots
• 20:08
  Speaker 4: of time making sure she's comfortable, taking on more of
• 20:11
  Speaker 4: the load at home so she's not doing too much.
• 20:13
  Speaker 4: This is her first child after all, and it's obviously
• 20:16
  Speaker 4: a lot for her physically and emotionally. My mother and
• 20:19
  Speaker 4: Melody don't get along too well. Mom didn't like my
• 20:22
  Speaker 4: ex either. We broke up because we were headed on
• 20:25
  Speaker 4: different paths, not because of my mother and there's no
• 20:27
  Speaker 4: bad blood. So I think she just doesn't like her
• 20:30
  Speaker 4: because she's dating me for whatever reason. It's weird. That
• 20:34
  Speaker 4: is weird. Sounds like she's got some.
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: Weird mommy issues.
• 20:40
  Speaker 4: She's very nitpicky about Melody, how much she does around
• 20:43
  Speaker 4: the house, how emotional she is. Melody already cries very
• 20:48
  Speaker 4: easily and being pregnant has made her even more sensitive,
• 20:51
  Speaker 4: which is fine. The fact that she wants to be
• 20:53
  Speaker 4: a stay-at-home mom, it just seems like nothing Melody does
• 20:56
  Speaker 4: is okay. I do, however, stand up for her and
• 20:59
  Speaker 4: do not just allow my mom to talk down to her.
• 21:02
  Speaker 4: By the way, this comes from Dad of Two Throwaway.
• 21:04
  Speaker 4: And if you want to smit your own stories, go
• 21:06
  Speaker 4: to the r slash showcase story time subreddit. I'm Sophia.
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: I'm Keon.
• 21:10
  Speaker 4: And we're here to give good advice goofily, but we
• 21:12
  Speaker 4: don't have all the answers. We only know what we'd do.
• 21:15
  Speaker 4: So let us know what you would do in the comments.
• 21:17
  Speaker 4: And Opie says, Today, before picking up my daughter from
• 21:20
  Speaker 4: summer camp, Melody went to three different grocery stores to
• 21:23
  Speaker 4: find rotisserie chicken.
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: How hard is it to find rotisserie chicken in this economy?
• 21:27
  Speaker 4: I guess it's apparently very hard. Three?
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: Three.
• 21:31
  Speaker 4: We should have gone to Costco first.
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: What if they don't have the membership?
• 21:35
  Speaker 4: Ooh, get a membership, man. She's been talking about it
• 21:38
  Speaker 4: since last night and really wanted one. She sent me
• 21:41
  Speaker 4: pictures documenting her quest for the chicken and finally found it.
• 21:46
  Speaker 4: My girl was happy.
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: We call that a happy meal. Also, this is probably
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: like a pregnancy craving.
• 21:52
  Speaker 4: Oh, a whole rotisserie chicken is absolutely a pregnancy craving.
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: Let us know your weirdest pregnancy cravings. I've heard of
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: like the color blue.
• 22:01
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: Not blue. The color blue? Not like blue Gatorade, but
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: the color blue, which is like what?
• 22:08
  Speaker 4: Blueberries.
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: Probably. Yeah. So I'm saying like, like, yeah. Or like rubber.
• 22:14
  Speaker 4: Rubber?
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: I've heard rubber is a thing.
• 22:16
  Speaker 4: Oh my goodness.
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know. I've never been pregnant. I wouldn't know.
• 22:19
  Speaker 4: Oh no.
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: What do you think you're going to be craving?
• 22:22
  Speaker 4: I don't know. I hope it's not meat. Wouldn't that
• 22:24
  Speaker 4: be terrible?
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: Watch you go feral for meat.
• 22:26
  Speaker 4: I'm like, I really want steak.
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 22:28
  Speaker 4: Rotisserie chicken is also kind of a comfort food for her,
• 22:30
  Speaker 4: like spaghetti, because her mom used to make one of
• 22:33
  Speaker 4: those when she was having a lazy day and didn't
• 22:35
  Speaker 4: feel like cooking. She was planning on serving that with
• 22:38
  Speaker 4: some other basic sides for dinner. Perfectly fine by me.
• 22:42
  Speaker 4: My mother came by to see Tina and started telling
• 22:44
  Speaker 4: Melody the chicken is bad for her and she should
• 22:47
  Speaker 4: not be eating that pregnant.
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: Why? Why?
• 22:50
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm sorry. Chicken? What?
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: Why? Why is it bad?
• 22:54
  Speaker 4: Yeah. What's wrong with it?
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: I was like, it's raw.
• 22:57
  Speaker 4: Say more about that. Explain. Yeah. Melody says it's fine.
• 23:01
  Speaker 4: She usually eats healthy and she wants this one thing
• 23:03
  Speaker 4: she's craving. My mom went on about how unhealthy it
• 23:06
  Speaker 4: was and said she needs to eat something else.
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: Okay, what?
• 23:09
  Speaker 4: You need to mind your own business.
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe she's just upset that you didn't give her
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: a piece of the rotisserie chicken.
• 23:13
  Speaker 4: She's like, all I wanted was some rotisserie chicken.
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: It looked really good.
• 23:17
  Speaker 4: She's like, actually, you can't eat that because I'm going
• 23:20
  Speaker 4: to eat it. Melody said no and went to the
• 23:24
  Speaker 4: backyard to FaceTime her family out of state. When she
• 23:27
  Speaker 4: came back, my mom had thrown out the food and
• 23:30
  Speaker 4: ordered takeout, a salad for Melody and pizza for everyone else.
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: Hands. Throwing hands.
• 23:37
  Speaker 4: Actually despicable.
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: One, you throw away my food, but two, I'm pregnant. Hands.
• 23:42
  Speaker 4: You got me a salad?
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: I could have put some of that rotisserie on my salad. Oh, yeah.
• 23:47
  Speaker 4: Melody asked where the chicken was, and my mother told
• 23:50
  Speaker 4: her she needs to start being a responsible mother and
• 23:52
  Speaker 4: eat correctly for the baby. I'm flipping out.
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: I'm hands. I'm throwing hands.
• 23:58
  Speaker 4: Melody screamed, what the F is wrong with you? Why
• 24:01
  Speaker 4: are you always such a witch to me? She then
• 24:04
  Speaker 4: started crying and called me home.
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: I came back. Sorry. I feel like mom is just like,
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: it worked. I finally pushed her button.
• 24:13
  Speaker 4: She's like, finally. It's like if you guys have seen
• 24:15
  Speaker 4: The Odyssey, when all the suitors are just trying to
• 24:19
  Speaker 4: get Tom Holland to be angry at them so that
• 24:23
  Speaker 4: they can be like, look, now we have to end
• 24:26
  Speaker 4: his life because he got angry at us.
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: Little baby boy got a little upset. He's spaghetti.
• 24:33
  Speaker 4: Yeah. Your mother was just trying to push her buttons.
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: Penelope.
• 24:39
  Speaker 4: Yeah, until.
• 24:41
  Speaker 4: Until your wife actually just blew up so that your
• 24:44
  Speaker 4: mom could be like, well, see? She's unreasonable. She then
• 24:46
  Speaker 4: started crying and called me home. I came back and
• 24:49
  Speaker 4: asked my mother to leave after hearing her story and
• 24:52
  Speaker 4: said she is not to come back until she apologizes
• 24:55
  Speaker 4: for how she treated Melody.
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: What about the pizza?
• 24:58
  Speaker 4: Where's the chicken? Where's the chicken? My mom went on
• 25:03
  Speaker 4: about how I'm choosing another woman over her. But I
• 25:06
  Speaker 4: just think enough is enough and Melody reached her limit. Genuinely?
• 25:10
  Speaker 4: You have to look at your mom and say, I
• 25:12
  Speaker 4: am choosing another woman over you.
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: Yeah. You go, what do you mean by that? What
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: do you mean I'm choosing another woman over you?
• 25:18
  Speaker 4: You go, she is my wife. She is now more
• 25:22
  Speaker 4: important than you. She apologized to me for blowing up
• 25:26
  Speaker 4: when Tina was in the house, but I told her
• 25:28
  Speaker 4: it's okay. Things happen. Tina's okay. And I went to
• 25:31
  Speaker 4: find her another chicken before the store closed. Good husband. Great.
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: Honestly, Opie's great.
• 25:36
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: How is your mother so evil?
• 25:38
  Speaker 4: I know. Where did you get all this good stuff from?
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: From your father?
• 25:41
  Speaker 4: My dad thinks I'm right for taking Melody's side, but
• 25:44
  Speaker 4: my brother thinks I should always defend mom, so am
• 25:47
  Speaker 4: I the a-hole? Genuinely? Is your brother married? Because I
• 25:52
  Speaker 4: don't think so.
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: I was going to say, is your brother trying to
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: suck up to your mom?
• 25:57
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't know. I really don't like this. And
• 26:03
  Speaker 4: your dad is right. And anytime someone says, well, you
• 26:07
  Speaker 4: should have sided with mom.
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: You go, no.
• 26:10
  Speaker 4: I have a new family unit. And it's me, my wife,
• 26:13
  Speaker 4: and our kids.
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: You know what, brother? Come on over. Bring over your food.
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: You paid for that food? How much did you pay?
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: I don't care. I'm throwing away your food. I'm buying
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: you fries. That's all you're getting.
• 26:23
  Speaker 4: I'm buying you a cucumber. Deal with it.
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: Are you happy? Are you siding with mom now?
• 26:28
  Speaker 4: Edit. My mom claimed it was the seasonings and fat
• 26:31
  Speaker 4: grease that made the chicken bad for her.
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: Shut up.
• 26:34
  Speaker 4: It's all BS, but that's what she claimed. I do
• 26:37
  Speaker 4: plan on having a sit down with both my parents
• 26:40
  Speaker 4: and my brother with my mom. A lot of you
• 26:42
  Speaker 4: have mentioned emotional familial entanglement, which is creeping me out. True.
• 26:48
  Speaker 4: And other things along those lines that need to be addressed.
• 26:51
  Speaker 4: I'll talk to my dad first, then have a family meeting.
• 26:54
  Speaker 4: A lot of you asked why I would still want
• 26:55
  Speaker 4: my mom around. Honestly, maybe I'm just weak, but that's
• 26:59
  Speaker 4: my mom. However, if she cannot learn to change and
• 27:02
  Speaker 4: respect my family, then we will just have to go
• 27:06
  Speaker 4: no contact.
• 27:07
  Speaker 1: Sorry, I love seeing NC. Yeah. They're like, we have
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: to go North Carolina.
• 27:11
  Speaker 4: We've got, we will just have to go to North Carolina.
• 27:14
  Speaker 4: We've got to go. It's hard, but it is what
• 27:17
  Speaker 4: it is. Melody doesn't even want to completely cut her out.
• 27:20
  Speaker 4: She just wants change as well. But I will protect
• 27:23
  Speaker 4: Melody at all costs. And if that means cutting off
• 27:26
  Speaker 4: my mom, then so be it. My ex and I
• 27:28
  Speaker 4: did not break up because of my mother. We had
• 27:31
  Speaker 4: different ideas of where our lives were going. Tina was
• 27:34
  Speaker 4: not planned and we were already heading towards going our
• 27:37
  Speaker 4: separate ways before she got pregnant. We tried to make
• 27:40
  Speaker 4: it work for Tina, but that's not what relationships are about.
• 27:43
  Speaker 4: So we split and it's working great. My ex and
• 27:46
  Speaker 4: Melody got along great. Tina's happy and we work through
• 27:50
  Speaker 4: things as one big blended family. My ex and Melody
• 27:53
  Speaker 4: have talked about my mother with each other before, and
• 27:55
  Speaker 4: that was when I realized I needed to see a
• 27:57
  Speaker 4: therapist to work through my childhood with a mom like mine.
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: Isn't that crazy that your ex and your current partner
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: are like, yeah, dude, your mom sucks.
• 28:07
  Speaker 4: I didn't even register. Your ex and your current partner
• 28:10
  Speaker 4: talk to each other about your mom.
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: Wow. Yes.
• 28:15
  Speaker 4: She must be terrible.
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: Truly.
• 28:17
  Speaker 4: It's a process. I'm working through it the best I can.
• 28:20
  Speaker 4: Any final thoughts?
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: No, I think, one, I think Opie does need to
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: go see a therapist. But your mom needs to understand
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: that stop being so rude.
• 28:30
  Speaker 4: For real. Stop it. Wake up. You're going to lose
• 28:33
  Speaker 4: your whole family because you suck.
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: Or at least just have your brother who's like, oh,
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: he's taking mom's side.
• 28:39
  Speaker 4: He's like, I'm a mama's boy. A little bit left.
• 28:42
  Speaker 4: Some people asked about our culture. We are all black Americans.
• 28:45
  Speaker 4: So I think it's more of a mom-son thing than
• 28:47
  Speaker 4: a cultural thing. Melody's pregnancy is going smoothly for the
• 28:50
  Speaker 4: most part. Just exhausting and emotional, as she put it. Also,
• 28:55
  Speaker 4: we're having a girl.
• 28:57
  Speaker 2: Yay.
• 28:57
  Speaker 4: We had our gender reveal last week for those who
• 29:00
  Speaker 4: were wondering. And thank you all for the well wishes.
• 29:03
  Speaker 4: Hashtag girl dad.
• 29:04
  Speaker 1: Opie's very cute. Opie's very supportive. I still don't know
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: how your mother is like this.
• 29:10
  Speaker 4: I don't know either. Edit two, I did find her
• 29:13
  Speaker 4: another chicken yesterday night after this whole fiasco. Thanks for
• 29:16
  Speaker 4: everyone who recommended we get a Costco card.
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: Wow.
• 29:19
  Speaker 4: I recommended that.
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: They were listening to you.
• 29:21
  Speaker 4: They were listening to me. That way she won't have
• 29:24
  Speaker 4: to go on another chicken quest and you can get
• 29:26
  Speaker 4: Costco gas. Heck yeah.
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: Two for one.
• 29:29
  Speaker 4: Two for freaking one. But that's the end of that
• 29:32
  Speaker 4: story and we got another one coming right up.
• 29:35
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• 29:38
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• 29:43
  Speaker 1: My wife hid her resentment for years, but the jokes
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: she made exposed everything.
• 29:48
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• 29:49
  Speaker 1: My wife comes from a large family, and for the
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: most part, they are incredible. However... One of their quirks
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: is that they feel if one of them is in
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: the hospital, someone has to be there all the time.
• 30:02
  Speaker 4: Ah, say more on this, say more on this.
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: I learned about this when my mother-in-law had knee surgery
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: and my wife and her siblings were making a schedule
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: of who would be there every minute of the day.
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: I told my wife I thought it was odd, but
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: she thought I was crazy for not thinking someone should
• 30:20
  Speaker 1: be there all the time. The other day, my wife
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: asked what our plan was for the weekend. She said
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: she wanted to go to the local Christmas parade Saturday morning,
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: but was afraid we wouldn't be able to go. I
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: told her it shouldn't be a problem. I assured her
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: my mother would be okay if we didn't visit until
• 30:35
  Speaker 1: the afternoon. And joked that not everybody was as odd
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: as their family. That's when it all came out. Apparently,
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: my wife is still a little salty that I didn't
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: stay in the hospital with her when our first child
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: was born.
• 30:52
  Speaker 4: Uh, you didn't stay in the hospital for the birth
• 30:57
  Speaker 4: of your child are two separate things.
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: That's not even like apples to oranges. No. That's like
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: apples to like steak.
• 31:11
  Speaker 4: A plane. Yeah.
• 31:13
  Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from user DaddyDrinksBecauseYouCry. And if
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: you want to submit your own stories, go to the
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: r slash OK Storytime subreddit. I'm Keon.
• 31:20
  Speaker 4: I'm Sophia.
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: And we're here to grill OP for what he just said.
• 31:25
  Speaker 1: But we don't know everything. Let us know what you
• 31:27
  Speaker 1: do in the comments. Like grill OP. As OP continues.
• 31:31
  Speaker 1: In early February 2000, my wife was pregnant and two
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: weeks past due. Her doctor scheduled her to be induced
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: and we were supposed to be at the hospital at 6.30am.
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: Of course, neither of us could fall asleep the night
• 31:43
  Speaker 1: before until almost right before we had to get up.
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: At 8 that night, with no signs of our daughter coming,
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: the doctor decided to call it a night and start
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: again in the morning. At the end of a very
• 31:54
  Speaker 1: long day, with both of us working on less than
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: 3 hours of sleep, we were completely exhausted. I sat
• 32:00
  Speaker 1: with my wife until we both dozed off, then woke
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: her and told her I was going to go home
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: and get some sleep You're so.
• 32:06
  Speaker 4: In the wrong. It's crazy that you can't see it.
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: This man has never seen any movie ever.
• 32:12
  Speaker 4: Oh, my God.
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: I'm sorry.
• 32:13
  Speaker 4: You've never seen it? Yeah.
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: Where do the husbands sleep? On the chair.
• 32:17
  Speaker 4: In the chair. He's like, oh, I'm going to go
• 32:20
  Speaker 4: get some sleep. Have fun tonight, babe. See you around.
• 32:24
  Speaker 1: My shift's over.
• 32:26
  Speaker 4: What?
• 32:26
  Speaker 1: They don't pay me OT for this, honey. You got this.
• 32:29
  Speaker 4: That's wild. I would be livid.
• 32:33
  Speaker 1: OP continues saying, the next morning, I was back at
• 32:35
  Speaker 1: the hospital before 7am, and at 8, they started trying
• 32:39
  Speaker 1: to induce her again. Eventually, the doctor decided to perform
• 32:42
  Speaker 1: a C-section. I was in the OR with my wife
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: during the birth, and we spent that evening with our newborn.
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: After midnight, I kissed them goodnight, and went home to sleep.
• 32:53
  Speaker 2: What?
• 32:53
  Speaker 1: I didn't think it could get worse.
• 32:55
  Speaker 4: I didn't think it could get worse.
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: He didn't learn from his first mistake.
• 33:00
  Speaker 4: He's like, Oh, all right. Clocking out. See you and
• 33:04
  Speaker 4: the baby at home.
• 33:05
  Speaker 1: Opie, I may not be a father, but I will
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: say the only time you do go home is you
• 33:09
  Speaker 1: have to get something from the house.
• 33:10
  Speaker 4: Yes, it is like for her. So now this man
• 33:14
  Speaker 4: is operating on two good nights of sleep. Yeah.
• 33:18
  Speaker 1: Well, let's just let's just put this in retrospect. Two
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: better nights of sleep than his wife.
• 33:22
  Speaker 4: Yes, yes. Two better nights of sleep than his wife.
• 33:25
  Speaker 4: His wife has probably had little to no sleep because one,
• 33:30
  Speaker 4: she's sleeping in a hospital and also probably first night
• 33:35
  Speaker 4: is in a lot of pain. Second night has to
• 33:38
  Speaker 4: take care of your child alone.
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: Also had a cesarean.
• 33:41
  Speaker 4: Yeah. Oh, wow. You're so, so far in the wrong.
• 33:45
  Speaker 4: It's insane.
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: Sorry. Unless again, unless if Opie's wife, even if she
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: did say, yeah, you can go home. You say no.
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: I'm staying here until you leave.
• 33:56
  Speaker 4: Yeah, she says you can go home. You realize, oh,
• 33:58
  Speaker 4: that's a test and I'd be an idiot to leave.
• 34:01
  Speaker 1: Obi continues saying, I returned the next morning and spent
• 34:04
  Speaker 1: most of the day at the hospital with my wife
• 34:06
  Speaker 1: and daughter entertaining visitors. I did leave for a few
• 34:09
  Speaker 1: hours when my mother-in-law was there to get some lunch
• 34:12
  Speaker 1: and decompress. That night I left after everyone was asleep
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: to make sure the house was ready and returned the
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: next morning to take my wife and daughter home. Apparently,
• 34:22
  Speaker 1: the fact that I left to sleep was an issue.
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: You're so dumb. I don't understand. Why is it an issue?
• 34:29
  Speaker 4: You're so dumb.
• 34:30
  Speaker 1: I got sleep. I was tired.
• 34:31
  Speaker 4: I was tired, so I went home.
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: My wife never said anything to me then, but it
• 34:37
  Speaker 1: bothered her for years. I.
• 34:40
  Speaker 4: Personally, I would have said something in the moment. Personally,
• 34:42
  Speaker 4: I don't even think I would have had to say something.
• 34:44
  Speaker 4: It would have just been written all over my face
• 34:47
  Speaker 4: if my husband looked at me and said, Okay, I'm
• 34:49
  Speaker 4: heading home. I've been like, You're... Leaving me?
• 34:52
  Speaker 1: And our daughter?
• 34:53
  Speaker 4: You're leaving me and our child that just got born?
• 34:56
  Speaker 4: Through a C-section? Cut open my body? To get the
• 34:59
  Speaker 4: baby out of me? And you're leaving?
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: Because someone here is a little tired. I get it.
• 35:04
  Speaker 2: Tired.
• 35:04
  Speaker 4: No, you're not leaving.
• 35:06
  Speaker 1: No. It wasn't until we talked about the schedule for
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: her mom's surgery that she realized, first, not everyone expected
• 35:13
  Speaker 1: someone to be in the hospital with them 24-7.
• 35:15
  Speaker 2: And, second.
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: That I'd had no idea she was expecting me to
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: stay the night.
• 35:20
  Speaker 4: You're just stupid.
• 35:21
  Speaker 1: You should go listen to Zedd and Hayley Williams stay
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: the night on repeat.
• 35:27
  Speaker 4: Like, genuinely, I just, I can't comprehend comparing her being like, yeah,
• 35:32
  Speaker 4: we always had people stay and, you know, whenever someone
• 35:35
  Speaker 4: was in the hospital. Also, the fact that Opie was like,
• 35:36
  Speaker 4: that's really odd. That's so strange. It's like, it's okay
• 35:39
  Speaker 4: if your family doesn't do that, but it's not odd.
• 35:42
  Speaker 4: It's just nice. Yeah. But that's not even, like, close.
• 35:46
  Speaker 4: It's not even... In the same ballpark as not staying
• 35:52
  Speaker 4: after your wife just gave birth.
• 35:54
  Speaker 1: Two very different things.
• 35:55
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 35:55
  Speaker 1: Oh, here's a fun thing. OP continues. Are you ready
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: for this, Sophia? I don't think I did anything wrong.
• 36:01
  Speaker 1: But it does bother me that I may have caused
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: my wife pain. So I have to ask. 20 years ago,
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: was I the a-hole?
• 36:08
  Speaker 4: You're still the a-hole today. You're the a-hole then. You're
• 36:12
  Speaker 4: the a-hole now.
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: OP. I can't. Wow. I don't see anyone defending you. Yeah.
• 36:20
  Speaker 4: Oh, yeah.
• 36:20
  Speaker 1: Other than yourself.
• 36:21
  Speaker 4: The comments tore you up, man. I know the comments
• 36:23
  Speaker 4: tore you up.
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: Yeah. I do agree with the knee surgery thing that
• 36:28
  Speaker 1: Sophia said. You don't have to have someone there 24-7. Yeah, sure.
• 36:33
  Speaker 1: If it was like, again, someone giving birth, like your wife,
• 36:37
  Speaker 1: you idiot, you stay there the entire time. Update. For clarification, well,
• 36:43
  Speaker 1: this blew up overnight. At the risk of breaking the
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: rule about arguing, I would like to clarify a few things.
• 36:50
  Speaker 4: Oh, oh, yes, please clarify.
• 36:53
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I can accept the judgment of being an a-hole.
• 36:56
  Speaker 1: But a lot of the reasoning is stating facts that
• 36:59
  Speaker 1: just aren't true. From some of you what I've read,
• 37:02
  Speaker 1: it sounds like I did a slow roll by the hospital.
• 37:05
  Speaker 1: I punted my pregnant wife out of the car and
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: went home and chilled until it was time for them
• 37:09
  Speaker 1: to come home. I've been called a horrible husband and
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: father compared to a very harmful ex. and vilified for
• 37:16
  Speaker 1: both waking her up to say I was leaving, and
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: for not waking her up along with several other crappy things.
• 37:22
  Speaker 4: I can't save you. I can't save you, OP.
• 37:25
  Speaker 1: I want to see how you save yourself, OP.
• 37:27
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I can't save you.
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: I'm not going to be your shield. Here you go. So,
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: let me clarify some things that were edited out because
• 37:35
  Speaker 1: of the character limit. The first day, we were sent
• 37:38
  Speaker 1: home at 6.30 because they had a bunch of natural
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: deliveries come in that night before. They called us back
• 37:43
  Speaker 1: that afternoon and attempted to induce labor, but my wife
• 37:46
  Speaker 1: was not in labor that night. They stopped the substances
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: and decided to start again the next morning. They gave
• 37:53
  Speaker 1: her something to help with rest, and several hours later,
• 37:56
  Speaker 1: we were both dozing in and out of sleep. I
• 37:58
  Speaker 1: only left after a nurse suggested we both needed rest
• 38:01
  Speaker 1: for the next day and hinted several times that I
• 38:04
  Speaker 1: should go.
• 38:05
  Speaker 4: She hinted how?
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: What did your wife say?
• 38:08
  Speaker 4: Yeah, was she like, yeah, I want you to go?
• 38:11
  Speaker 1: When she came for a vital check and mentioned it again,
• 38:13
  Speaker 1: I told my half-awake wife I would go so she
• 38:18
  Speaker 1: could sleep.
• 38:19
  Speaker 4: I would go so she would sleep? How would you
• 38:22
  Speaker 4: going help her sleep?
• 38:24
  Speaker 1: Especially when she's half-awake.
• 38:25
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 38:27
  Speaker 1: My wife said, okay, but never said anything about wanting
• 38:30
  Speaker 1: me to stay. Maybe because she was really, really, really
• 38:34
  Speaker 1: tired and she has baby ready to come out.
• 38:36
  Speaker 4: Yeah, she's like, I don't need a fight. Fine. He's gone.
• 38:39
  Speaker 1: She probably thought it was a dream. She probably couldn't
• 38:43
  Speaker 1: process anything with little to no sleep and about to
• 38:46
  Speaker 1: go into labor. I was gone six hours max, and
• 38:49
  Speaker 1: my wife was still asleep the next morning when I
• 38:51
  Speaker 1: got back. Day number two. Induction started early, but labor
• 38:55
  Speaker 1: never came. After the C-section, we spent several hours together
• 38:59
  Speaker 1: with the baby. Later that night, Again, at the nurse's
• 39:03
  Speaker 1: suggestion that we both needed rest, I said something about
• 39:06
  Speaker 1: leaving so she could sleep. Why do I feel like
• 39:08
  Speaker 1: the nurse is a scapegoat?
• 39:10
  Speaker 4: Yeah, he's like, the nurse said, hey, you guys should
• 39:13
  Speaker 4: get some rest.
• 39:14
  Speaker 1: The nurse said I should go fight Superman as a mortal.
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna go do it.
• 39:18
  Speaker 4: Yeah, nurse told me to do it. Nurse said I
• 39:20
  Speaker 4: had to do it. Gotta do it. I will give
• 39:24
  Speaker 4: him a little bit of slack for the first night,
• 39:29
  Speaker 4: Because I'm like, okay, they haven't had the kid yet.
• 39:31
  Speaker 4: He's like, oh, I want to be well-rested so that
• 39:33
  Speaker 4: when the baby comes, I can help out. But didn't
• 39:37
  Speaker 4: even do that. Didn't even stay to help her. She
• 39:39
  Speaker 4: just gave birth, and now she has to take care
• 39:41
  Speaker 4: of this baby. And you know the baby was waking
• 39:43
  Speaker 4: up in the middle of the night. Because that's what
• 39:45
  Speaker 4: babies do.
• 39:46
  Speaker 1: Babies do do that. Obi continued saying, my wife said, okay,
• 39:50
  Speaker 1: and didn't say anything about me staying the night. I
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: sat with her until she fell asleep, checked in at
• 39:55
  Speaker 1: the nursery where my daughter was asleep, and went home
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: for about five hours. Day three. I was at the
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: hospital all day except when I stepped out while my
• 40:04
  Speaker 1: mother-in-law was there. Both mother and baby were doing great,
• 40:07
  Speaker 1: and the doctor said they would be released the next morning.
• 40:10
  Speaker 1: I left that night after midnight again to make sure
• 40:13
  Speaker 1: we hadn't forgotten any baby things and to install the
• 40:15
  Speaker 1: car seat. I talked to my wife about leaving, and
• 40:17
  Speaker 1: she never said anything about wanting me to stay. I
• 40:20
  Speaker 1: sat with her until she was asleep, checked in at
• 40:22
  Speaker 1: the nursery, and went home. I had no idea she
• 40:26
  Speaker 1: had any expectation of me to stay. I didn't even
• 40:28
  Speaker 1: know that was an option. It sounds like you didn't ask.
• 40:32
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it sounds like he was like, well, I don't
• 40:34
  Speaker 4: know if I can stay, so just gotta go. There's
• 40:38
  Speaker 4: no way for me to find out that information.
• 40:40
  Speaker 1: I don't know. It sounds like, Opie, you didn't want
• 40:42
  Speaker 1: to stay.
• 40:42
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it sounds like, like, if I were, if this
• 40:44
  Speaker 4: were me, I mean, obviously, you know, it'd be.
• 40:47
  Speaker 1: Yes, if your boyfriend was giving birth.
• 40:49
  Speaker 4: If my boyfriend was giving birth, I'd be like, I
• 40:51
  Speaker 4: want to stay with him and be with him and
• 40:53
  Speaker 4: hold his hand and be there for him. Yeah.
• 40:56
  Speaker 1: Opie says, I was nervous about being there after visiting
• 40:59
  Speaker 1: hours as it was. Do you think there's a law
• 41:04
  Speaker 1: that you can't? Until the doctors say you have to go.
• 41:07
  Speaker 4: Yeah, he was like, I was nervous that the doctors
• 41:09
  Speaker 4: would kick me, the father, out.
• 41:11
  Speaker 1: They might take me to the principal's office.
• 41:13
  Speaker 4: They might say, oh, you gotta, like, he didn't even
• 41:15
  Speaker 4: wait for anyone.
• 41:15
  Speaker 1: You get detention, yeah.
• 41:17
  Speaker 4: He didn't wait for anyone to punt him out.
• 41:19
  Speaker 1: They just suggested you could go home if you want
• 41:22
  Speaker 1: to go home.
• 41:22
  Speaker 4: Yeah, they were like, oh, if you want to get
• 41:23
  Speaker 4: some rest.
• 41:25
  Speaker 1: You could have said no. He thought he was going
• 41:26
  Speaker 1: to get a detention. He's like, if I stay after hours,
• 41:29
  Speaker 1: they're going to put me in detention tomorrow.
• 41:30
  Speaker 4: I don't want to get a detention.
• 41:33
  Speaker 1: Look back at my transcript.
• 41:35
  Speaker 4: My record.
• 41:35
  Speaker 1: 20 years ago, fathers were still treated more like a
• 41:38
  Speaker 1: nuisance than a partner. Oh, here we go. It wasn't
• 41:41
  Speaker 1: until several years later that my wife told me how
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: her grandfather hated and was terrified of hospitals and insisted
• 41:48
  Speaker 1: that someone be with him every second he was there.
• 41:51
  Speaker 1: That carried over to everyone in her family. But I
• 41:54
  Speaker 1: didn't know this until even later when her mom had surgery.
• 41:58
  Speaker 1: It was only when we were talking about her mother's
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: visiting schedule that I realized her family felt this way.
• 42:03
  Speaker 1: And she realized not everybody expects a hospital chaperone 24-7.
• 42:07
  Speaker 4: This is not the same thing at all. Honestly, it's
• 42:11
  Speaker 4: so irrelevant to the story that her family treats hospitals
• 42:17
  Speaker 4: like this that I am mad that you're bringing it up.
• 42:21
  Speaker 4: It's so irrelevant.
• 42:22
  Speaker 1: OP, the point's right in front of you and you're
• 42:25
  Speaker 1: looking up.
• 42:26
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 42:26
  Speaker 1: You're missing the point.
• 42:28
  Speaker 4: All you need to know is that you made a
• 42:30
  Speaker 4: mistake 20 years ago. Your wife is still upset. Apologize.
• 42:35
  Speaker 4: That's all you need to do.
• 42:37
  Speaker 1: I guarantee you he's going to bring up his daughter.
• 42:39
  Speaker 1: Daughter doesn't remember.
• 42:40
  Speaker 4: Yeah, look, she's fine.
• 42:42
  Speaker 1: Look how she turned out.
• 42:43
  Speaker 4: Yeah. Again.
• 42:45
  Speaker 1: Call me an a-hole if you will.
• 42:46
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 42:46
  Speaker 1: But please do so based on facts instead of assumptions.
• 42:50
  Speaker 4: I am not assuming anything. I've heard the facts and
• 42:54
  Speaker 4: I still think you're the a-hole.
• 42:55
  Speaker 1: He says, I would have slept on the floor if
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: my wife had asked. I just didn't know it was
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: expected or allowed. So it sounds like you didn't try.
• 43:03
  Speaker 4: You didn't try. You didn't try. And also people usually
• 43:07
  Speaker 4: sleep on like chairs.
• 43:08
  Speaker 1: Or sometimes if there's no one there, like there's a
• 43:11
  Speaker 1: little couch.
• 43:12
  Speaker 4: You just catch on to the bed.
• 43:13
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you can do that too. I've seen it happen.
• 43:15
  Speaker 1: What do you think OP needs to do here? It's
• 43:17
  Speaker 1: very simple.
• 43:18
  Speaker 4: Apologize to your wife.
• 43:20
  Speaker 1: No, I thought he was going to get a DeLorean.
• 43:22
  Speaker 1: Get the fuck's capacitor. Go back in time. Yeah.
• 43:26
  Speaker 4: Right your wrongs. But like in that world, OP doesn't actually.
• 43:32
  Speaker 1: He dresses up as another nurse and be like, hey,
• 43:33
  Speaker 1: you should stay. Yeah. He's like, you kind of look
• 43:36
  Speaker 1: like me. Don't worry about it.
• 43:38
  Speaker 4: Don't worry about it, sweetheart.
• 43:39
  Speaker 1: Don't worry about it, sweetheart.
• 43:40
  Speaker 4: You should stay. Sleep on the floor. Yeah.
• 43:43
  Speaker 1: Update two i fully expected to be called an a-hole
• 43:47
  Speaker 1: but i am honestly surprised by the amount of hateful
• 43:49
  Speaker 1: comments i've received are you really i just you went
• 43:54
  Speaker 1: you went i got called an a-hole but then get
• 43:58
  Speaker 1: the facts right before you call me an a-hole and
• 44:00
  Speaker 1: then we got.
• 44:01
  Speaker 4: The facts right and we're like i still are a
• 44:03
  Speaker 4: little bit.
• 44:03
  Speaker 1: Of a-hole get your facts straight before you call me
• 44:05
  Speaker 1: an a-hole he's like wait they heard.
• 44:06
  Speaker 4: The facts and they still think i'm an a-hole oh.
• 44:09
  Speaker 1: Man Obi continues saying either way, it's been a good
• 44:12
  Speaker 1: way to unalive the time while my mom is in surgery.
• 44:16
  Speaker 1: For everyone saying I should apologize to my wife, I did.
• 44:19
  Speaker 1: Years ago. When we were discussing her mother's surgery schedule
• 44:22
  Speaker 1: and realized we came from such different places, I asked
• 44:25
  Speaker 1: her if that meant I was supposed to be there
• 44:27
  Speaker 1: 24-7 when she had the kids. She said not with
• 44:29
  Speaker 1: the second two, because I was watching the other one,
• 44:32
  Speaker 1: then watching two. But for the first child, yes. I
• 44:38
  Speaker 1: should have done that, And she was upset that I
• 44:40
  Speaker 1: didn't stay. I apologized and asked for forgiveness because I
• 44:44
  Speaker 1: had no idea. And she said she realized I didn't know.
• 44:47
  Speaker 4: See, you could have just said, like, yeah, I apologized.
• 44:51
  Speaker 4: And I realized that I had made a mistake. And
• 44:53
  Speaker 4: that's the end of the story. And everyone probably would
• 44:55
  Speaker 4: have been like, yeah, you made an a-hole move. But, like,
• 44:58
  Speaker 4: good on you for apologizing. Yes. But you didn't even
• 45:00
  Speaker 4: tell us that you did that.
• 45:01
  Speaker 1: Yeah. My wife understood and forgave me. The only reason
• 45:05
  Speaker 1: it came up, and the reason I made this post...
• 45:07
  Speaker 1: is that when we were talking about my mom's surgery,
• 45:10
  Speaker 1: my wife made a joke about staying the night. I
• 45:13
  Speaker 1: know she was joking, but after 22 plus years, I
• 45:16
  Speaker 1: could tell there was a little something behind it.
• 45:19
  Speaker 4: Genuinely, there will always be a little something behind it.
• 45:22
  Speaker 1: And she's got that over your head.
• 45:25
  Speaker 4: Sometimes there are things that you just kind of never
• 45:29
  Speaker 4: forget that you're someone in your life, a partner, a friend, etc.,
• 45:33
  Speaker 4: has done, and you've forgiven them for it.
• 45:36
  Speaker 1: But you can tease them about it.
• 45:37
  Speaker 4: But you will never let them forget it.
• 45:39
  Speaker 1: I will never. I do this with Dakota all the time.
• 45:41
  Speaker 4: I have a friend who did something, this is like
• 45:45
  Speaker 4: in middle school, but did something mean, and I will
• 45:49
  Speaker 4: never let it. Obviously, it's been 15 years or whatever,
• 45:54
  Speaker 4: so I'm over it. But I will never let her
• 45:57
  Speaker 4: forget it.
• 45:58
  Speaker 1: That's what friends do. That's what partners do. I think
• 45:59
  Speaker 1: they can do it. As long as it's not in
• 46:01
  Speaker 1: a very malicious way, and it truly hurts your feelings.
• 46:04
  Speaker 4: Yeah. It's like, no, you can never live that down.
• 46:07
  Speaker 1: Yeah. I do that with Dakota. He thought Skull Kid
• 46:09
  Speaker 1: was going to be in Smash Bros. as a playable character.
• 46:12
  Speaker 1: And I went, you're dumb.
• 46:13
  Speaker 4: And you'll never let him live it down.
• 46:15
  Speaker 1: If you ever see that, comment on our live videos.
• 46:17
  Speaker 1: Skull Kid. You'll get really upset. I'll continue saying, for
• 46:22
  Speaker 1: the record, I have absolutely no feeling that she is
• 46:25
  Speaker 1: the a-hole. We didn't communicate very well, but she is
• 46:28
  Speaker 1: definitely not the a-hole here.
• 46:30
  Speaker 4: We know that. We know that.
• 46:31
  Speaker 1: Thank you for clarifying that. The other common comment is
• 46:34
  Speaker 1: a mocking, Oh, poor baby was tired and had to
• 46:37
  Speaker 1: go to sleep in a comfy bed while his wife
• 46:40
  Speaker 1: suffered alone. I see and hear no wrongs. OP responds
• 46:44
  Speaker 1: to that saying, I seriously think you guys are overestimating
• 46:47
  Speaker 1: how long I was gone each night. The longest I
• 46:50
  Speaker 1: was away was less than six hours on the first night,
• 46:52
  Speaker 1: and my wife literally slept the whole time.
• 46:55
  Speaker 4: You were gone a whole night, dude. You were gone
• 46:56
  Speaker 4: a whole night.
• 46:57
  Speaker 1: You're going to be on that hill. Whatever. Between the
• 47:01
  Speaker 1: drive home and back and everything in between, I actually
• 47:03
  Speaker 1: slept about three hours that first night and about two
• 47:06
  Speaker 1: hours the next two nights. Were you giving birth?
• 47:09
  Speaker 4: Yeah, were you? I didn't, sorry, I might have missed
• 47:11
  Speaker 4: that part. I want to get all the facts straight.
• 47:13
  Speaker 4: Were you giving birth? No, wait, you were having a C-section.
• 47:16
  Speaker 4: That's it.
• 47:18
  Speaker 1: Yeah, on the toilet.
• 47:19
  Speaker 4: Yes, of course, right?
• 47:20
  Speaker 1: Honestly, probably would have gotten more sleep if I had
• 47:23
  Speaker 1: stayed at the hospital, dude. I left because I thought
• 47:26
  Speaker 1: I was supposed to, not because I wanted to, and
• 47:29
  Speaker 1: because I didn't know I even could stay. Several have
• 47:31
  Speaker 1: mentioned that 20 years ago wasn't that long ago, and
• 47:34
  Speaker 1: husbands everywhere had been staying the night. But that was
• 47:37
  Speaker 1: not the case in my experience. So now you're, you
• 47:42
  Speaker 1: like to wish, be wishy-washy. You like to use an
• 47:45
  Speaker 1: excuse or something, but it's like.
• 47:46
  Speaker 4: Yeah, now we're having OP go, oh, oh, no, no, no.
• 47:49
  Speaker 4: I wanted to stay. I just didn't know I could.
• 47:51
  Speaker 4: I wanted to stay. Yeah.
• 47:53
  Speaker 1: I don't think OP's gonna get it.
• 47:55
  Speaker 4: No, I don't think so.
• 47:57
  Speaker 1: He's gonna be on that hill for a while.
• 47:59
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't think OP understands.
• 48:01
  Speaker 1: OP, just take the L.
• 48:03
  Speaker 4: Just take the L. It's okay, bud. It clearly hasn't
• 48:06
  Speaker 4: affected your marriage. You clearly have both moved on. Take
• 48:09
  Speaker 4: the L.
• 48:10
  Speaker 1: Take the L, and if your wife makes a joke
• 48:12
  Speaker 1: about it, Take it. Yeah, take that out.
• 48:14
  Speaker 4: Take that out, man. Take it.
• 48:16
  Speaker 1: Obi finishes up saying, when our third child was born
• 48:19
  Speaker 1: in the same hospital in 2003, the nurses offered me
• 48:23
  Speaker 1: pillows and a blanket and made it clear it was
• 48:25
  Speaker 1: okay to stay. Is this guy saying that in 2000,
• 48:29
  Speaker 1: husbands couldn't stay in the hospital?
• 48:31
  Speaker 4: But 2003, it was all good. No, no, no, don't worry. 2003,
• 48:35
  Speaker 4: we were....
• 48:38
  Speaker 1: The future. They implemented the future.
• 48:40
  Speaker 4: We had become incredibly progressive in 2003. 9-11 changed everything
• 48:44
  Speaker 4: for hospitals.
• 48:44
  Speaker 1: It changed a lot. In 2000 and 2001, the nurses
• 48:49
  Speaker 1: never said anything about staying. And I lost count of
• 48:52
  Speaker 1: how many times I heard the same speech. Visiting hours
• 48:54
  Speaker 1: are over at 10. Everyone has to be out by
• 48:56
  Speaker 1: then except dad, who can stay a little while longer
• 48:59
  Speaker 1: if mom wants him around. That is. Dude, just take
• 49:02
  Speaker 1: the L. Take the L.
• 49:04
  Speaker 4: Oh, come on, dude.
• 49:05
  Speaker 1: Every nurse on the floor said the same thing both
• 49:07
  Speaker 1: of the first two times we were there. I know
• 49:10
  Speaker 1: I'm an idiot, but honestly, at the time I had
• 49:13
  Speaker 1: no idea you could stay overnight in the hospital.
• 49:16
  Speaker 4: Just admit you're a little dumb and we can move on.
• 49:19
  Speaker 4: Just admit.
• 49:19
  Speaker 1: Just admit. it.
• 49:20
  Speaker 4: Just admit it.
• 49:21
  Speaker 1: I thought that was why they had visiting hours.
• 49:24
  Speaker 4: You're not visiting. You have a child. That's why you're there.
• 49:28
  Speaker 4: You have a child.
• 49:29
  Speaker 1: Anyways, thanks for the ride. I know I'm the a-hole.
• 49:32
  Speaker 1: Now you sound like you feel bad about it.
• 49:34
  Speaker 4: Fine. Oh, I know it.
• 49:37
  Speaker 1: Thank you also to the people who messaged me because
• 49:39
  Speaker 1: they knew their not a-hole comments would be buried and
• 49:43
  Speaker 1: that was the only way I'd see them. The words
• 49:45
  Speaker 1: of sympathetic mothers, midwives, and nurses were very appreciated. I'm glad.
• 49:49
  Speaker 1: They probably just might call you an a-hole in a
• 49:51
  Speaker 1: nicer tone.
• 49:52
  Speaker 4: They're like, oh, it's okay. First time father, blah, blah, blah, blah. OP,
• 49:57
  Speaker 4: it's okay.
• 49:58
  Speaker 1: It's okay. It's okay. You live and you learn. You
• 50:00
  Speaker 1: make mistakes. You're not perfect. You live and you learn.
• 50:01
  Speaker 4: Just admit it. You live and you learn.
• 50:03
  Speaker 1: You're still an a-hole, though. You're an a-hole for doing that. Yes.
• 50:06
  Speaker 1: And being on this hill about it. Yeah.
• 50:09
  Speaker 4: Get off your hill.
• 50:10
  Speaker 1: Next time, just ask. Yeah.
• 50:12
  Speaker 4: Literally, just ask. But he knows that. He's had kids.
• 50:15
  Speaker 4: It's been 20 years.
• 50:17
  Speaker 1: He figured it out the third time.
• 50:19
  Speaker 4: He figured it out. Or the second time, I don't know.
• 50:21
  Speaker 4: He figured it.
• 50:22
  Speaker 1: Out in 2003. But that isn't even that story.
• 50:25
  Speaker 4: I got trapped in my girlfriend's room for over 12 hours. Oh, God,
• 50:30
  Speaker 4: it's too hot in here. Long time Reddit reader. First
• 50:33
  Speaker 4: time making an account because I am currently stuck in
• 50:37
  Speaker 4: my girlfriend's room while she and her family are having
• 50:40
  Speaker 4: dinner downstairs. You're going to be up there making no
• 50:43
  Speaker 4: noise and pretending you don't exist. Oh, it is Harry Potter.
• 50:47
  Speaker 4: I haven't.
• 50:47
  Speaker 1: Did they give you zero food, too?
• 50:48
  Speaker 4: Well, you just, you cut me off. I haven't eaten.
• 50:51
  Speaker 4: Nor showered and I need to take a crap. Backstory
• 50:54
  Speaker 4: to this morning. Since the lockdown for the vid happened,
• 50:57
  Speaker 4: I haven't seen my girlfriend for over a month plus.
• 51:00
  Speaker 4: Our government recently relaxed the quarantine so we are allowed
• 51:02
  Speaker 4: to go out, but not later. Woke up to my
• 51:05
  Speaker 4: girlfriend's call around 11 a.m. saying that her parents went
• 51:08
  Speaker 4: out to get something. I thought, okay. I'll come over,
• 51:11
  Speaker 4: return a camera I borrowed, and maybe we can sit
• 51:13
  Speaker 4: in my car around her neighborhood and hang out a while.
• 51:16
  Speaker 4: I was a little rushed as her parents just left
• 51:18
  Speaker 4: her house as I left mine. I'm about 20 minutes
• 51:20
  Speaker 4: away from her place. She assured me her parents will
• 51:23
  Speaker 4: be out for at least one and a half hours
• 51:25
  Speaker 4: as they need to get lunch. I drove as fast
• 51:27
  Speaker 4: as I could and picked her up from the front
• 51:29
  Speaker 4: of the house, and we drove to a park nearby
• 51:31
  Speaker 4: to hang out. After a couple of minutes, I asked
• 51:33
  Speaker 4: if she brought some water, as I asked her about
• 51:35
  Speaker 4: it before I came, and she said no. She said,
• 51:37
  Speaker 4: why don't you come in and take some water, since
• 51:39
  Speaker 4: her parents will still be far away. I said yes, obviously,
• 51:42
  Speaker 4: and went in, drank water, and we sat on the
• 51:44
  Speaker 4: couch for a while to cuddle. I was a little paranoid,
• 51:47
  Speaker 4: but I haven't seen her in a long time, so
• 51:49
  Speaker 4: I needed it. About ten minutes, we hear a car
• 51:51
  Speaker 4: outside her house, and that's how I effed up. It
• 51:55
  Speaker 4: was her parents. By the way, this comes from Sugofu,
• 51:58
  Speaker 4: and if you want to submit your own stories, go
• 52:00
  Speaker 4: to the r slash OKStoryTime subreddit. I'm Sophia. I'm Savannah.
• 52:04
  Speaker 1: I'm Keon.
• 52:05
  Speaker 4: And we're here to give good advice goofily, but we
• 52:06
  Speaker 4: don't have all the answers. We only know what we'd do.
• 52:09
  Speaker 4: So let us know what you would do in the comments.
• 52:11
  Speaker 4: They were only out for 40 minutes. F my life,
• 52:14
  Speaker 4: we panicked. Luckily, I parked away from her house and
• 52:17
  Speaker 4: took my slippers in. I contemplated just owning up and
• 52:20
  Speaker 4: lying that I needed to use the toilet, but her
• 52:22
  Speaker 4: mom is really difficult. She would assume my girlfriend was
• 52:25
  Speaker 4: lying and she would get in trouble. And I haven't
• 52:28
  Speaker 4: even met her parents officially as her boyfriend yet. If
• 52:31
  Speaker 4: you're from an Asian family or have heard of Asian
• 52:33
  Speaker 4: parents being strict about relationships, it's true. We both ran
• 52:36
  Speaker 4: up to her room and I hid behind her door.
• 52:38
  Speaker 4: Mind you, her room is really small. It's about the
• 52:41
  Speaker 4: size of two single beds. Can't hide under the bed
• 52:44
  Speaker 4: as she has to keep her door open. And you
• 52:46
  Speaker 4: can see straight under her bed from the stairs. The
• 52:50
  Speaker 4: only place possible is behind her door. I stood there
• 52:53
  Speaker 4: frozen AF as she went down to greet her parents.
• 52:56
  Speaker 4: I could hear them coming in as I hugged the
• 52:58
  Speaker 4: wall as tightly as I could. She came back up.
• 53:00
  Speaker 4: freaking out, but I said, it's okay. Let's just try
• 53:03
  Speaker 4: to formulate a plan.
• 53:04
  Speaker 1: Does she have a window? Does she have a window?
• 53:05
  Speaker 4: Uh, she doesn't even have room for her three beds.
• 53:09
  Speaker 4: She has two beds. She said, okay. And she went
• 53:11
  Speaker 4: down to eat with them first, which I had then
• 53:14
  Speaker 4: had to stay as silent as possible with no fan
• 53:17
  Speaker 4: or air conditioning. So I'll thwip my butt off 1
• 53:21
  Speaker 4: PM ish. She comes back up and we try to
• 53:23
  Speaker 4: listen whether her parents are coming up or not. They
• 53:25
  Speaker 4: usually sit downstairs after lunch and nap, which they did.
• 53:28
  Speaker 4: Gave me a little bit of relief as I could
• 53:30
  Speaker 4: sit down in the floor. I'm sorry, they were napping
• 53:32
  Speaker 4: and you didn't take that as your opportunity to leave? Yeah,
• 53:35
  Speaker 4: it's kind of stupid. You're dumb. That's on you. The
• 53:37
  Speaker 4: space in between the door and her table is super tiny,
• 53:40
  Speaker 4: which is uncomfortable, but I'm not complaining. 2 p.m. Her
• 53:43
  Speaker 4: dad comes up to shower and her door is right
• 53:46
  Speaker 4: next to the bath area. I can hear the water rushing.
• 53:49
  Speaker 4: But good news, my girlfriend is in the room doing
• 53:51
  Speaker 4: her work so she can look out. It's weird as
• 53:54
  Speaker 4: I'm just standing up behind the door and looking at
• 53:56
  Speaker 4: her look back at me. After a shower, her dad
• 53:58
  Speaker 4: leaves to go to a store, which leaves her mom downstairs.
• 54:02
  Speaker 4: She gets a long phone call, which gives me a
• 54:04
  Speaker 4: bit of room to relax. My girlfriend and I make
• 54:06
  Speaker 4: out a bit to calm our nerves.
• 54:08
  Speaker 1: Oh my god!
• 54:09
  Speaker 4: You didn't want to leave. You didn't want to leave
• 54:12
  Speaker 4: because you could have gone if you wanted to leave.
• 54:14
  Speaker 4: I got to say it did help. For the next
• 54:16
  Speaker 4: three hours, her mom stays downstairs and we try to
• 54:19
  Speaker 4: formulate a plan. but everything involves the timing of her parents,
• 54:23
  Speaker 4: which is impossible. Can't jump out the window because it's
• 54:25
  Speaker 4: grilled and she doesn't have the key. Around 5.30 p.m. ish,
• 54:28
  Speaker 4: her dad comes home and almost effing comes into her room.
• 54:31
  Speaker 4: He asked her to print something and she quickly walks
• 54:34
  Speaker 4: to her door to stop him from coming in. I
• 54:36
  Speaker 4: hear his voice right outside the door and thankfully he
• 54:38
  Speaker 4: walks away and goes down to watch TV. And I
• 54:40
  Speaker 4: swear to God, the universe wants us to suffer because
• 54:43
  Speaker 4: right after that, Her mom comes upstairs and hangs about
• 54:47
  Speaker 4: the common area. My girl had recorded a Zoom meeting,
• 54:50
  Speaker 4: so she tells her mom she has a meeting and
• 54:51
  Speaker 4: plays it, closing the door, giving my legs much-needed rest,
• 54:55
  Speaker 4: and I sit. Y'all are so dumb, and yet, like,
• 54:58
  Speaker 4: you've got smart ideas, but in a dumb way, you know?
• 55:01
  Speaker 1: And you know what it's giving? Teenager.
• 55:03
  Speaker 4: Yeah. Like now I'm thinking like 15, 16. Solidly 16
• 55:07
  Speaker 4: to 17. 7 p.m. Her mom calls her from downstairs
• 55:12
  Speaker 4: that it's time to eat. And that's where we are now.
• 55:15
  Speaker 4: It's currently 9 p.m. at this sentence. And I can
• 55:18
  Speaker 4: hear her family talking to each other. She has to
• 55:20
  Speaker 4: turn off the lights and fan and air conditioning. So
• 55:23
  Speaker 4: I'm freaking drenched in my sweat in the dark. I'm
• 55:25
  Speaker 4: sitting down, but I've got pins and needles in my
• 55:27
  Speaker 4: feet now. I would stand up, but Because the area
• 55:30
  Speaker 4: is so tight, I don't want to risk any noise. Oh,
• 55:33
  Speaker 4: and remember how I haven't eaten and need to crap?
• 55:36
  Speaker 4: That's attacking now. That's attacking now. It's crazy. My stomach
• 55:41
  Speaker 4: is growling and I'm making fart noises. I'm so scared
• 55:44
  Speaker 4: to be caught because my parents are going to slaughter
• 55:46
  Speaker 4: me too. Yeah, your parents who don't know where you are.
• 55:49
  Speaker 4: You've been missing for 12 hours. They're like, meh. Who cares?
• 55:52
  Speaker 4: He went to the store.
• 55:53
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 55:54
  Speaker 4: My girlfriend and I will discuss our plans for me
• 55:56
  Speaker 4: to escape when she comes up. Update one. They're done
• 55:59
  Speaker 4: with dinner. My girlfriend brought me some water and biscuits,
• 56:02
  Speaker 4: but I don't have the appetite to eat. Don't want
• 56:03
  Speaker 4: to drink too much as I would risk needing to
• 56:06
  Speaker 4: go to the toilet. She went back to do the dishes.
• 56:08
  Speaker 4: You guys, what is going on? Update two. It's 9 p.m.
• 56:11
  Speaker 4: and my girlfriend is in her room. She told her
• 56:13
  Speaker 4: family she's playing Animal Crossing with her friends, so hopefully
• 56:16
  Speaker 4: her parents don't barge in. We're going to formulate a
• 56:19
  Speaker 4: plan for me to escape now. I can finally stretch
• 56:21
  Speaker 4: my legs. We have a plan. 9.30 p.m. We're going
• 56:24
  Speaker 4: to wait for their parents to go head up to
• 56:25
  Speaker 4: their room. She's going to check if their door is
• 56:27
  Speaker 4: closed and where they're looking at. She'll bring me downstairs
• 56:31
  Speaker 4: and I'll hide in the storeroom. She'll then go and
• 56:33
  Speaker 4: tell her parents she's taking photos of the night. And
• 56:35
  Speaker 4: no worry if the door alarms ring because they have
• 56:38
  Speaker 4: an alarm system in my place. She'll unlock the main door,
• 56:41
  Speaker 4: the outside small gate, and leave it open for a bit,
• 56:43
  Speaker 4: gated and guarded area, so it's pretty safe. She'll go
• 56:45
  Speaker 4: check on her parents as they like to look at
• 56:47
  Speaker 4: what she's doing from their room. Once she's confirmed they're
• 56:49
  Speaker 4: not looking, she'll get me from the storeroom. I'll go
• 56:51
  Speaker 4: all the way out and hide behind a pillar in
• 56:53
  Speaker 4: front of her house. She'll lock everything and go back
• 56:56
  Speaker 4: up and check her parents are not looking out. And
• 56:58
  Speaker 4: I'll walk to my car so I don't startle her dog.
• 57:00
  Speaker 1: There's also a dog?
• 57:02
  Speaker 2: You can literally say, hey, I'm going to go walk
• 57:04
  Speaker 2: the dog.
• 57:05
  Speaker 1: Literally.
• 57:06
  Speaker 2: Literally.
• 57:06
  Speaker 4: Hey, the dog needed to go out. It's whining. I'm
• 57:09
  Speaker 4: going to let the dog out. And my boyfriend dog.
• 57:11
  Speaker 4: Sounds pretty legit as she knows her parents schedule the best.
• 57:14
  Speaker 4: Update four, 9.41 p.m. Showed my girlfriend this post and
• 57:17
  Speaker 4: we're reading the comments. Really means a lot to us
• 57:19
  Speaker 4: that everyone's supportive. What do you mean everyone's supportive? Like,
• 57:22
  Speaker 4: I hope you guys figure out a plan. Kisses, hugs.
• 57:26
  Speaker 1: This is really serious. Yeah.
• 57:28
  Speaker 4: Makes the nerves less frightening. We're hugging it out and
• 57:30
  Speaker 4: playing Animal Crossing till our parents go to sleep at
• 57:32
  Speaker 4: around 11. Update five. I'm still here and it's around 1030.
• 57:37
  Speaker 4: My time zone is GMT plus eight for those who are.
• 57:39
  Speaker 4: Still invested. We're just preparing for when her parents go
• 57:43
  Speaker 4: to bed, so we're trying to calm our nerves. Update six,
• 57:46
  Speaker 4: it's 11, but her parents are not sleeping. For some
• 57:48
  Speaker 4: strange reason, her mom decided to bake at like 10.30,
• 57:52
  Speaker 4: starting to think they suspect something. Update seven. Yes, my
• 57:56
  Speaker 4: girlfriend just went down and her mom is done baking
• 57:58
  Speaker 4: and says she's going to sleep soon. which just leaves
• 58:01
  Speaker 4: her dad still watching TV. I'm almost out. I can
• 58:03
  Speaker 4: feel the wind already. Just can't get too trigger happy
• 58:06
  Speaker 4: and jump ahead. Update eight. FK, her mom just walked
• 58:11
  Speaker 4: past her room, heading into her own room. Her dad
• 58:13
  Speaker 4: also is getting ready to sleep. Crap is about to happen, guys.
• 58:17
  Speaker 4: Phase one of her plan is about to commence. Update nine.
• 58:19
  Speaker 4: Are your parents worried about you? I know. Her mom
• 58:23
  Speaker 4: went to bed, but her dad is still watching TV.
• 58:25
  Speaker 4: It's like 1130 and he's still watching. At least her
• 58:28
  Speaker 4: mom is in her room, so that's good. Update 10. Okay,
• 58:31
  Speaker 4: plan is in action. Her dad is now in the
• 58:33
  Speaker 4: room and she is moving my stuff downstairs to the storeroom.
• 58:36
  Speaker 4: I'll update once I'm inside. Update 11. Took my last
• 58:39
  Speaker 4: sip of water and went down to the storeroom. Phase
• 58:42
  Speaker 4: one complete. Her dad is showering. Her parents' door is closed.
• 58:45
  Speaker 4: Now for the front door and gate. Update 12, girlfriend
• 58:49
  Speaker 4: opening the door and the gate. I have to wait
• 58:51
  Speaker 4: for her. 13, slight change. I went out the door
• 58:53
  Speaker 4: together with her. Her dog isn't barking, so that's good.
• 58:56
  Speaker 4: She has to open the gate, out the gate, bending down,
• 58:59
  Speaker 4: waiting for her to text me. She's taking some photos
• 59:01
  Speaker 4: to sell the story. Better not rush it. Her dog's
• 59:04
  Speaker 4: getting very close to me and sniffing me through the gate.
• 59:06
  Speaker 4: Oh God, please don't bark. Final update, guys, I made it.
• 59:10
  Speaker 4: I just started the engine and my heart is pounding.
• 59:12
  Speaker 4: I'm safe and sound. Time to go home. Got out 1153.
• 59:15
  Speaker 4: It's 1215 AM. I'm home. Sipping a cup of Milo.
• 59:19
  Speaker 1: Ah!
• 59:19
  Speaker 4: It was Australia. I said maybe it was Australia.
• 59:22
  Speaker 1: No, but they can still have Milo in the UK. No.
• 59:24
  Speaker 4: That's true. Just like they're campy Asian people.
• 59:27
  Speaker 1: They're a GMT time zone.
• 59:29
  Speaker 4: Right, right, right, right. So it must be.
• 59:30
  Speaker 1: Come on. It's like how you said Asian people can't
• 59:33
  Speaker 1: be in the UK.
• 59:34
  Speaker 4: I didn't say that.
• 59:35
  Speaker 1: No, it's Savannah. No, Savannah.
• 59:36
  Speaker 4: There's got to be rules here. And laughing with my
• 59:39
  Speaker 4: girlfriend about the entire day. We just want to thank
• 59:41
  Speaker 4: everyone that supported us in this crappy situation we put
• 59:44
  Speaker 4: ourselves in. The nerves were real and seeing how everyone
• 59:47
  Speaker 4: wanted the best for us really helped push us through
• 59:49
  Speaker 4: this we own up to this mistake and that's why
• 59:52
  Speaker 4: it's on today i effed up we effed up big
• 59:54
  Speaker 4: time and have only ourselves to blame but we survived
• 59:57
  Speaker 4: it learned to never repeat it again And a few
• 1:00:00
  Speaker 4: things to answer, this situation happened in Malaysia. It's a
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 4: very hot and humid country, so it's very common for
• 1:00:07
  Speaker 4: people to shower more than once or twice a day,
• 1:00:09
  Speaker 4: and sometimes before we sleep. We're Chinese, and this is
• 1:00:12
  Speaker 4: the most amusing part, and I'm glad everyone was worried
• 1:00:15
  Speaker 4: about it. Yes, I did take a crap after I ate.
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 4: It was brutal. Constipation due to the lack of water.
• 1:00:22
  Speaker 4: 4pm the next day. Oh god, this is still going
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 4: on in the comments, but I wanted to add something
• 1:00:27
  Speaker 4: after my girlfriend went through them. For those who opened
• 1:00:29
  Speaker 4: up about similar stories about hiding or having strict parents...
• 1:00:33
  Speaker 4: meaning no friends over or always being under watch, it
• 1:00:36
  Speaker 4: really meant a lot to her that there are other
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  Speaker 4: people who go through the same thing as her. And
• 1:00:40
  Speaker 4: I would like to thank you for sharing. She always
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  Speaker 4: felt like the odd one out of her friends, not
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 4: being able to go out, tight rules, and it's good
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  Speaker 4: to know she isn't the only one. Some people don't
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  Speaker 4: understand this and that's fine because everyone grows up in
• 1:00:53
  Speaker 4: different scenarios. It's not that she loves her parents any less.
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  Speaker 4: It just sucks to be in her situation. I wish
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  Speaker 4: I could give her more credit for what happened last night.
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  Speaker 4: She risked so much just for us to see each other. Oh,
• 1:01:05
  Speaker 4: what a Romeo and Juliet situation. That was great. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Wow.
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  Speaker 4: And that's the end of this story. We're going to
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  Speaker 4: go to the next one.
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  Speaker 2: I told my girlfriend the secret I shared with my
• 1:01:17
  Speaker 2: friend and it ended our relationship. Should have kept that
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  Speaker 2: a secret. I, 25 male, am going to school about
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  Speaker 2: seven hours away from where my girlfriend, 22 female, lives.
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  Speaker 2: Her mother recently passed away after a short illness. The
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  Speaker 2: morning that it happened, my girlfriend called me to tell
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  Speaker 2: me about it and I dropped everything. Took the first
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  Speaker 2: available bus down to see her and stayed for almost
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  Speaker 2: a week. The next week, this one, is my finals week.
• 1:01:42
  Speaker 2: And I had a final exam on the day of
• 1:01:43
  Speaker 2: the funeral yesterday. I made it clear that I would
• 1:01:46
  Speaker 2: be unable to attend as I had already lost a
• 1:01:49
  Speaker 2: week of study and writing time.
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  Speaker 4: She said, I understand.
• 1:01:52
  Speaker 2: I come back up to my school and start applying
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  Speaker 2: for jobs in her area so I can live there
• 1:01:57
  Speaker 2: over the summer. I get a phone interview and set
• 1:02:00
  Speaker 2: up an in-person interview for this coming Tuesday. which means
• 1:02:03
  Speaker 2: another seven-hour overnight bus ride. Meanwhile, we are texting every
• 1:02:07
  Speaker 2: day and we Skype once. I notice she is less
• 1:02:10
  Speaker 2: talkative than usual and is saying, I love you, less often.
• 1:02:14
  Speaker 2: I ask her about three times over Skype if there
• 1:02:17
  Speaker 2: is anything she would like to talk about, and she
• 1:02:19
  Speaker 2: always says no. So I chalk it up to depression
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  Speaker 2: over the loss.
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  Speaker 4: Of her mother.
• 1:02:23
  Speaker 2: I get worried and start looking up ways I can
• 1:02:25
  Speaker 2: support her in most articles I read. Just say to
• 1:02:29
  Speaker 2: make sure to be there for her in the long run.
• 1:02:31
  Speaker 2: I apologize several times for not being able to make
• 1:02:34
  Speaker 2: it to the funeral, and every time she just says,
• 1:02:36
  Speaker 2: I understand. By the way, this comes from Deleted, and
• 1:02:39
  Speaker 2: if you want to submit your own stories, go to
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  Speaker 2: the r slash OKStoryTime subreddit. I'm Savannah.
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  Speaker 4: I'm Sophia.
• 1:02:43
  Speaker 1: I'm Keon.
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  Speaker 4: And we're here to.
• 1:02:45
  Speaker 2: Talk about some stuff, get some advice, but we don't
• 1:02:46
  Speaker 2: have all your answers. We're only going to tell you
• 1:02:48
  Speaker 2: what we would do, but let us know what you
• 1:02:49
  Speaker 2: would do down in the comments. Um, yesterday, she messages
• 1:02:53
  Speaker 2: me in the morning saying... You should be here. I, again, apologize,
• 1:02:57
  Speaker 2: saying I would if I could. She replies, you could be.
• 1:03:00
  Speaker 2: I would have done anything to be there for you.
• 1:03:02
  Speaker 2: I start to freak out a bit and explain that
• 1:03:04
  Speaker 2: I am already stressed because of the chunk I had
• 1:03:06
  Speaker 2: to take out last week and the amount of money
• 1:03:09
  Speaker 2: I just spent on bus tickets for the interview.
• 1:03:11
  Speaker 4: Oh, Pete, I understand you're stressed. Don't tell her that.
• 1:03:14
  Speaker 4: Don't tell her I'm stressed because I paid for these
• 1:03:17
  Speaker 4: expensive bus tickets because she's just going to come back
• 1:03:20
  Speaker 4: with my mom. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: You can't.
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  Speaker 4: Not that you're trying to beat this conversation or win
• 1:03:26
  Speaker 4: this conversation, but you can't.
• 1:03:28
  Speaker 2: She tells me not to come down for the interview
• 1:03:30
  Speaker 2: because she needs a break from this relationship and I
• 1:03:34
  Speaker 2: don't want to see you. I send a wall of
• 1:03:36
  Speaker 2: text profusely apologizing, explaining I didn't realize it was that
• 1:03:39
  Speaker 2: important to her that I be there and saying I can.
• 1:03:43
  Speaker 4: Only hope she can forgive me someday. Her only response was,
• 1:03:45
  Speaker 4: I will never forgive you for this.
• 1:03:47
  Speaker 2: Now she has been ignoring me and I am at
• 1:03:50
  Speaker 2: a complete loss what to do. I just want to
• 1:03:52
  Speaker 2: talk it over in person, but she told me not
• 1:03:55
  Speaker 2: to come down.
• 1:03:55
  Speaker 1: Help!
• 1:03:56
  Speaker 4: Uh, there's an edit.
• 1:03:57
  Speaker 2: I suppose my main question would be, should I go
• 1:03:59
  Speaker 2: down and see her this weekend? Edit two, since many
• 1:04:02
  Speaker 2: people are asking, the only available time to rearrange the
• 1:04:04
  Speaker 2: final was Tuesday morning when I had to devote monday
• 1:04:07
  Speaker 2: to working and studying for a different final in hindsight
• 1:04:10
  Speaker 2: i should have just crammed as much as possible and
• 1:04:13
  Speaker 2: taken whatever grade i got yes no i like it's
• 1:04:16
  Speaker 2: not your fault yeah you still gotta worry about the
• 1:04:18
  Speaker 2: grades like it's important i just think how you talk
• 1:04:22
  Speaker 2: to her about it just.
• 1:04:23
  Speaker 4: Kind of yeah but you don't have the you don't
• 1:04:25
  Speaker 4: no one has the you know no one knows how
• 1:04:28
  Speaker 4: to talk to people about loss really especially if you
• 1:04:30
  Speaker 4: haven't gone through something like it.
• 1:04:32
  Speaker 2: So it's not your fault The major point is that
• 1:04:34
  Speaker 2: it would be at least two days out of the
• 1:04:36
  Speaker 2: week and when I still have one more final tomorrow
• 1:04:39
  Speaker 2: and several more papers to write.
• 1:04:40
  Speaker 4: Update. Four months later. A bit of time has gone
• 1:04:43
  Speaker 4: by since I posted the original and I've had a
• 1:04:45
  Speaker 4: few requests to update the situation. The reason I hadn't
• 1:04:48
  Speaker 4: done so was because things were still in flux. Final
• 1:04:51
  Speaker 4: decisions have been made, so I'm closing the case. A forewarning.
• 1:04:56
  Speaker 2: I have omitted several details. Some have been removed or
• 1:04:59
  Speaker 2: censored for privacy. Some have been omitted due to shame
• 1:05:03
  Speaker 2: on my part. I am going to try to be honest,
• 1:05:05
  Speaker 2: but honestly, I effed up. I told her I was
• 1:05:08
  Speaker 2: going to bus down to see her and that I
• 1:05:11
  Speaker 2: hoped she would be at the station to get me. Otherwise,
• 1:05:13
  Speaker 2: I would take the next bus back. As a reminder,
• 1:05:15
  Speaker 2: this weekend, I wanted to be there because it was
• 1:05:18
  Speaker 2: Mother's Day. which I knew was going to be really difficult.
• 1:05:21
  Speaker 2: I figured it was better to be there and not
• 1:05:23
  Speaker 2: be wanted than to not be there and be needed.
• 1:05:25
  Speaker 2: She responded and said she would be there. Long story short,
• 1:05:29
  Speaker 2: I stayed for a few days during which time we
• 1:05:31
  Speaker 2: talked about things, capital T things, a few times. I
• 1:05:35
  Speaker 2: was under the impression that the situation was improving, but
• 1:05:38
  Speaker 2: just before I left on the bus back to school-
• 1:05:41
  Speaker 2: She told me in no uncertain terms that she wasn't
• 1:05:44
  Speaker 2: sure about our relationship right now and that she was
• 1:05:47
  Speaker 2: still really hurt. I leave, time passes, and she travels
• 1:05:51
  Speaker 2: to the UK with her family to have a memorial
• 1:05:53
  Speaker 2: service there, ending up staying for several weeks to care
• 1:05:56
  Speaker 2: for her aging nan. We talk on the phone a
• 1:05:58
  Speaker 2: few times, I found a UK calling plan for super cheap,
• 1:06:02
  Speaker 2: and Skyped a few times. I try to stay positive
• 1:06:04
  Speaker 2: for her because she was pretty depressed and seemed very distant,
• 1:06:07
  Speaker 2: and not just geographically. I try not to talk to
• 1:06:10
  Speaker 2: her about any of my feelings and anxieties about our
• 1:06:12
  Speaker 2: relationship because I didn't want to burden her.
• 1:06:15
  Speaker 4: Instead, I wrote her journal.
• 1:06:17
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 1:06:18
  Speaker 4: Honestly, I do think that's a good idea. Writing down
• 1:06:20
  Speaker 4: your feelings. And you don't even necessarily have to give
• 1:06:23
  Speaker 4: that to her. But, you know, you could.
• 1:06:25
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 1:06:25
  Speaker 4: I mean, it says wrote her a journal. So I'm
• 1:06:27
  Speaker 4: assuming that. He's going to give it to her. Could be,
• 1:06:30
  Speaker 4: could be.
• 1:06:31
  Speaker 2: Anytime I wanted to talk to her about something, I
• 1:06:34
  Speaker 2: wrote her a letter in it. I had bought her
• 1:06:36
  Speaker 2: two for her birthday so we could both have one
• 1:06:39
  Speaker 2: for a purpose. One day I finally asked her why.
• 1:06:42
  Speaker 4: She was so distant. She told me that she was
• 1:06:44
  Speaker 4: still really hurting and feeling betrayed. I read her the
• 1:06:47
  Speaker 4: letters I had written her. She thanked me for that
• 1:06:49
  Speaker 4: and we ended our conversation ostensibly better terms. She flew
• 1:06:52
  Speaker 4: back to the States.
• 1:06:54
  Speaker 2: And we continued to do our long distance thing. She
• 1:06:56
  Speaker 2: was getting more and more distant and I was writing
• 1:06:58
  Speaker 2: her more and more letters. Then one day she gets wasted.
• 1:07:02
  Speaker 2: and messages me a bunch of really lovey messages, stuff
• 1:07:05
  Speaker 2: she hasn't said to me since before her mom passed.
• 1:07:08
  Speaker 2: After a few hours of that, though, the tone gets
• 1:07:10
  Speaker 2: a lot more somber, and then suddenly she tells me
• 1:07:14
  Speaker 2: she doesn't think she can do this relationship anymore. I
• 1:07:17
  Speaker 2: ask her why, and she says it's because she's not
• 1:07:19
  Speaker 2: sure about the two years apart thing. She's still upset
• 1:07:22
  Speaker 2: about the funeral, and her family doesn't like me. She
• 1:07:25
  Speaker 2: apologized later and said her family doesn't not like me
• 1:07:29
  Speaker 2: but i was supposed to be visiting the coming weekend
• 1:07:31
  Speaker 2: but she told me not to come i mean she
• 1:07:34
  Speaker 2: wants you to come okay well if this is the
• 1:07:36
  Speaker 2: game that's gonna be playing i don't like it i
• 1:07:38
  Speaker 2: don't yeah you get like one one one maybe like.
• 1:07:41
  Speaker 4: Every other month yeah yeah one every other month where
• 1:07:45
  Speaker 4: you can but it has to be different scenarios yes
• 1:07:48
  Speaker 4: can't be the same situation where you're like i want
• 1:07:50
  Speaker 4: you to come no no.
• 1:07:51
  Speaker 2: Yeah it's like i know you're supposed to come in
• 1:07:52
  Speaker 2: a week but like don't this is going to work.
• 1:07:55
  Speaker 1: I said all those lovey-dovey things when I was wasted.
• 1:07:57
  Speaker 4: At this point, you got to be like, hey, I
• 1:08:00
  Speaker 4: love you, but you're just not.
• 1:08:02
  Speaker 2: She was going to be visiting my school town, she
• 1:08:04
  Speaker 2: graduated the year before, to see some friends, and we
• 1:08:07
  Speaker 2: were going to go to a wedding together in about
• 1:08:09
  Speaker 2: 10 days. Long story short, it's almost over, I promise.
• 1:08:13
  Speaker 2: She visits, she has second thoughts about breaking up, we
• 1:08:16
  Speaker 2: go to this wedding, she agrees to give our relationship
• 1:08:18
  Speaker 2: another go, and we have a great time together.
• 1:08:21
  Speaker 4: Except... And.
• 1:08:22
  Speaker 2: Here is the part where I get real crappy. She
• 1:08:25
  Speaker 2: asks me if there is anything I'm hiding because I
• 1:08:28
  Speaker 2: cheated on her when we first started dating and lied
• 1:08:31
  Speaker 2: to her about smoking devil's lettuce.
• 1:08:33
  Speaker 4: And I tell her that I had.
• 1:08:34
  Speaker 2: Told what is essentially her deepest, darkest secret to a friend.
• 1:08:39
  Speaker 2: I obviously can't tell you what this secret is, but
• 1:08:43
  Speaker 2: it affected both of us, though it affected her.
• 1:08:45
  Speaker 4: The most and it was deep. and it was dark.
• 1:08:48
  Speaker 4: She takes it.
• 1:08:49
  Speaker 2: Really well, and we continue on. A while later, she
• 1:08:52
  Speaker 2: texts me and asks if I told anyone else her.
• 1:08:55
  Speaker 4: Deepest, darkest secret.
• 1:08:58
  Speaker 2: I told her I had also told one of my roommates.
• 1:09:01
  Speaker 2: She got pretty upset for a few days, but seemed
• 1:09:04
  Speaker 2: to forgive me. I visited her once, and then shortly
• 1:09:07
  Speaker 2: after visiting her again with a couple of friends. The
• 1:09:11
  Speaker 2: latter time, she was pretty distant. And she had been
• 1:09:15
  Speaker 2: over texting and Skype as well. Few days after that,
• 1:09:17
  Speaker 2: she texted me and asked how I thought the relationship
• 1:09:20
  Speaker 2: was going. I told her it was cold, but felt
• 1:09:22
  Speaker 2: like it was improving and asked what she thought. She
• 1:09:24
  Speaker 2: didn't respond. So I asked if she wanted to Skype
• 1:09:27
  Speaker 2: and she said, yes, we Skyped. And unsurprisingly, we ended it.
• 1:09:32
  Speaker 2: She said she wanted to be with me and loved me,
• 1:09:34
  Speaker 2: but she was just so angry about all the betrayal.
• 1:09:37
  Speaker 2: She said I had been the perfect boyfriend the last
• 1:09:39
  Speaker 2: few weeks and that the relationship was healing, but she wasn't.
• 1:09:42
  Speaker 2: We are attempting to be friends right now in about
• 1:09:45
  Speaker 2: two weeks. She really wants to be friends. And I
• 1:09:48
  Speaker 2: really want to be more than friends.
• 1:09:50
  Speaker 4: And that's why it's a bad idea.
• 1:09:51
  Speaker 1: It's really bad. But she's like, this is also my
• 1:09:54
  Speaker 1: emotional support system right now.
• 1:09:56
  Speaker 4: Yeah. No, she just, yeah, she wants you around because
• 1:09:59
  Speaker 4: she wants someone to like hold her.
• 1:10:01
  Speaker 2: It's the familiar reality.
• 1:10:03
  Speaker 4: Yeah, but she doesn't want to be in a relationship
• 1:10:05
  Speaker 4: with you.
• 1:10:05
  Speaker 2: She tried really hard to stay with me and forgive me.
• 1:10:08
  Speaker 2: So I owe her at least just an attempt at
• 1:10:11
  Speaker 2: being just friends. I'm confident that this relationship is over,
• 1:10:15
  Speaker 2: so I guess I'm not really asking for relationship advice,
• 1:10:18
  Speaker 2: except maybe, should I try to be friends with her?
• 1:10:21
  Speaker 1: Put yourself in her shoes. Seriously. If you lost one
• 1:10:24
  Speaker 1: of your parents, and then she once cheated on you
• 1:10:27
  Speaker 1: in the past, and then you also ousted her deepest,
• 1:10:30
  Speaker 1: darkest secret... Outed? Yeah, she outed your deepest, darkest secret to...
• 1:10:35
  Speaker 1: multiple people.
• 1:10:36
  Speaker 2: Who that's not even a friend yeah yeah not even
• 1:10:38
  Speaker 2: like one of her friends just like random people to
• 1:10:41
  Speaker 2: her yeah um well no it's just the fact of
• 1:10:44
  Speaker 2: like what he's doing I wouldn't consider that to be
• 1:10:47
  Speaker 2: a nice friend like that's what I think in my
• 1:10:49
  Speaker 2: mind it's like you want to be friends but like
• 1:10:52
  Speaker 2: that's not what friends do if I consider you know
• 1:10:55
  Speaker 2: if my friends going out telling all my deepest darkest
• 1:10:58
  Speaker 2: secrets and then also cheating on me I'd be a
• 1:11:00
  Speaker 2: little yeah I'd be like.
• 1:11:01
  Speaker 4: You're not a friend what kind of friend is that
• 1:11:03
  Speaker 4: you know and that's the end of this story we're
• 1:11:05
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  Speaker 3: My coworker ghosted me twice, then said I was the
• 1:11:18
  Speaker 3: one being unfair.
• 1:11:20
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I did it twice. You haven't even done it once.
• 1:11:22
  Speaker 3: Fell for a friend and colleague, 28 female, told her
• 1:11:26
  Speaker 3: the truth. She didn't reciprocate, but wanted me, 28 male,
• 1:11:29
  Speaker 3: in her life. Tried to cut her off after a
• 1:11:32
  Speaker 3: month of friendship. We met in May of 2026. She
• 1:11:35
  Speaker 3: asked me for a walk, and we didn't stop talking since.
• 1:11:38
  Speaker 3: I was the only colleague she was close to at
• 1:11:40
  Speaker 3: work on personal terms. We could talk about everything under
• 1:11:43
  Speaker 3: the sun. and I hadn't felt so emotionally connected with
• 1:11:46
  Speaker 3: someone in a long time. For reference, I've had four
• 1:11:50
  Speaker 3: to five relationships, so when something feels special, I'm sure
• 1:11:54
  Speaker 3: it's not a lack of company, but a genuine emotion.
• 1:11:57
  Speaker 3: After three weeks of continuous walks and coffee at work,
• 1:12:00
  Speaker 3: I asked her out for a matcha near her place.
• 1:12:03
  Speaker 3: That's when things started going downhill. She was ambiguous about
• 1:12:06
  Speaker 3: the matcha plan. She said she'd let me know over
• 1:12:09
  Speaker 3: the next week.
• 1:12:10
  Speaker 1: Zilch.
• 1:12:10
  Speaker 3: She said nothing. I ignored her on Monday. As I
• 1:12:13
  Speaker 3: felt a bit bad, she came over to my desk
• 1:12:15
  Speaker 3: and accused me of ignoring her. I told her that
• 1:12:17
  Speaker 3: ghosting me wasn't cool. She said she had been traveling,
• 1:12:20
  Speaker 3: so she didn't recall. We patched up and moved on,
• 1:12:23
  Speaker 3: and she said she'd take care of it going forward.
• 1:12:26
  Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from Gerald of Arabia. And
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• 1:12:33
  Speaker 4: I'm Savannah.
• 1:12:34
  Speaker 1: I'm Geralt.
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  Speaker 3: We're here to read the story goofily. If you have
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• 1:12:38
  Speaker 3: next weekend, I asked her out again. She suggested a
• 1:12:41
  Speaker 3: few places. Then on Friday evening, she ghosted me on chat.
• 1:12:45
  Speaker 4: Oh, nope. No, we're done then. Don't talk to me.
• 1:12:48
  Speaker 3: I told her the next morning that what she did
• 1:12:50
  Speaker 3: was uncool, and if she didn't want me to go out,
• 1:12:53
  Speaker 3: she could have said so. She said there was a
• 1:12:56
  Speaker 3: medical emergency at home.
• 1:12:57
  Speaker 1: I let it slide.
• 1:12:58
  Speaker 3: On the Monday after that weekend, I realized I should
• 1:13:01
  Speaker 3: tell her the truth. As the repeated ghosting was taking
• 1:13:04
  Speaker 3: a toll on my mental health, I expressed my feelings.
• 1:13:07
  Speaker 3: She was kind while turning me down. Surprise, surprise, on Wednesday,
• 1:13:11
  Speaker 3: just a couple of days after I asked her out,
• 1:13:13
  Speaker 3: She told me she met an arranged match suggested by
• 1:13:16
  Speaker 3: her family and that things were going well. This came
• 1:13:19
  Speaker 3: off as weird because on Monday she had been traveling
• 1:13:22
  Speaker 3: for a medical emergency and then suddenly she met an
• 1:13:25
  Speaker 3: arranged match. Anyhow, I told her I was done and
• 1:13:28
  Speaker 3: that I couldn't continue a dishonest friendship where my feelings
• 1:13:32
  Speaker 3: were still strong. I blocked her on all platforms, but
• 1:13:35
  Speaker 3: she reached out on the only one available office chat
• 1:13:39
  Speaker 3: and asked me to talk. So I met her at
• 1:13:41
  Speaker 3: work in person and told her that this was difficult
• 1:13:44
  Speaker 3: for me. She told me we could meet outside, but
• 1:13:47
  Speaker 3: that it would take time if she was busy at work.
• 1:13:50
  Speaker 3: She's the only employee on her team there since the
• 1:13:53
  Speaker 3: rest had resigned. She told me she genuinely wanted me
• 1:13:56
  Speaker 3: in her life and that she didn't make time for
• 1:13:58
  Speaker 3: anyone else at work. Only me. Enter July last week.
• 1:14:01
  Speaker 3: While things had been going well and the friendship was
• 1:14:05
  Speaker 3: on and I respected boundaries, one day I saw her
• 1:14:08
  Speaker 3: walking with another colleague. The next day again, she was
• 1:14:11
  Speaker 3: spending increasingly more time with him And last with me,
• 1:14:14
  Speaker 3: despite how much she knew I wanted to spend time
• 1:14:17
  Speaker 3: with her, I expressed this and she said she was
• 1:14:20
  Speaker 3: disappointed because I judged her intent just because she was
• 1:14:24
  Speaker 3: walking with someone else.
• 1:14:26
  Speaker 1: OP, move on. Move on. Also, you don't crap where
• 1:14:29
  Speaker 1: you eat.
• 1:14:30
  Speaker 3: That's what I was about to say.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know why you are entertaining this when she
• 1:14:34
  Speaker 2: literally is like actively running away from you. Like actively
• 1:14:38
  Speaker 2: doing that. And then like every time you call her out,
• 1:14:41
  Speaker 2: she has an excuse. Every time there's an excuse.
• 1:14:44
  Speaker 1: And you just take it and are like, oh, okay.
• 1:14:46
  Speaker 1: Next time. I'll believe her next time.
• 1:14:48
  Speaker 3: Maybe she is having a hard day.
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  Speaker 4: I'll give her one more chance. 20 chances later.
• 1:14:52
  Speaker 3: Maybe she is having a hard day, though. You ever
• 1:14:54
  Speaker 3: think about that?
• 1:14:54
  Speaker 1: No. You know who's having a harder day? OP. Because
• 1:14:57
  Speaker 1: he's being let down.
• 1:14:58
  Speaker 3: No friendship should take such a toll on my mental
• 1:15:01
  Speaker 3: health or hers. I told her that it was unhealthy
• 1:15:04
  Speaker 3: for us to stay in touch because clearly I want
• 1:15:07
  Speaker 3: to spend more time with her and she doesn't have
• 1:15:09
  Speaker 3: the capacity to fulfill that.
• 1:15:11
  Speaker 4: I blocked her.
• 1:15:12
  Speaker 3: This time for good. What I truly don't understand is
• 1:15:15
  Speaker 3: if there was just a walking partner or working buddy,
• 1:15:18
  Speaker 3: why not just let me go when I had to
• 1:15:21
  Speaker 3: cut her off the first time? Why keep me around?
• 1:15:23
  Speaker 3: Did I make the right move by cutting her off?
• 1:15:25
  Speaker 1: No, OP. Continue this. Continue doing this. It'll work out eventually.
• 1:15:30
  Speaker 1: Maybe on your 100th time, it'll work.
• 1:15:32
  Speaker 3: Continue living in agony. It's always the best route.
• 1:15:35
  Speaker 4: Maybe she'll change her mind one day.
• 1:15:37
  Speaker 3: It's a bit awkward as we see each other at
• 1:15:39
  Speaker 3: work all the time, but I do feel better mentally.
• 1:15:42
  Speaker 3: Please share your advice on the way ahead.
• 1:15:45
  Speaker 1: I mean, again, that's one of the things, it's like
• 1:15:47
  Speaker 1: such a toss-up if you do decide to try and
• 1:15:50
  Speaker 1: date someone in the workplace, because if it works out, great.
• 1:15:52
  Speaker 1: If it doesn't work out, terrible for everyone.
• 1:15:54
  Speaker 3: I will say, I feel like Opie's young. This is
• 1:15:56
  Speaker 3: a great learning experience.
• 1:15:57
  Speaker 1: Ronan says he needs more pain.
• 1:15:59
  Speaker 4: Ha ha!
• 1:16:01
  Speaker 1: I agree with that. He needs more suffering.
• 1:16:03
  Speaker 2: It's just the fact of you don't have to, like,
• 1:16:06
  Speaker 2: if you don't like someone, why are you wasting your
• 1:16:08
  Speaker 2: time and their time? Like just, you know, and, and
• 1:16:11
  Speaker 2: I understand that she said in the beginning, she's like,
• 1:16:13
  Speaker 2: I don't really want to be any more than friends.
• 1:16:15
  Speaker 4: He's like, okay, cool. Let's, let's go get, you know, matcha.
• 1:16:18
  Speaker 3: Let's see that story.