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No Love Loss — Loving You from a Distance · R.E.A.L. Talk for REAL L.Y.F.E.

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  Welcome to Real Talk for Real Life, realizing everyone is always learning and
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  living your full experience.
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  This is where we live out loud, on purpose and with purpose.
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  I'm Coach C, your host, and this is your Fearless Friday episode,
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  No Love Loss, Loving You from a Distance. You ever reached a crossroads in a relationship?
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  Not always romantic either.
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  Sometimes it's a friendship, a family relationship, a situationship,
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  or a long history with somebody you truly loved.
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  But somewhere along the way, you realize something shifted.
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  You extended grace. You gave chances.
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  You tried to understand. You kept hoping things would look different,
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  feel different, be different.
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  But patterns have a way of revealing the truth. And eventually,
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  the truth positions you to pause, to reflect,
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  to recognize that someone may no longer be aligned with who you are,
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  where you're going, or what this next season of your life requires.
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  And holding on is costing you your peace, your purpose, your pursuit of what's dead.
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  I've said it before and I'll say it again.
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  This time, louder in my coaching voice.
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  Everybody can't go. And listen, I know it hurts. I've been there too.
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  Because loving people is easy when history exists.
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  What's hard is accepting when access needs to change.
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  But you cannot stay loyal to what's limiting you. Let me say that again.
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  You cannot stay loyal to what's limiting you.
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  Sometimes the most fearless thing you can do is create distance from distractions, dysfunction.
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  Inconsistency, or emotional confusion, even when love is still present.
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  And guess what? There truly can be no love lost.
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  You can love people and still release them. You can wish people well and still walk away.
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  You can pray for people and still protect your peace.
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  Because distance does not always mean hate.
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  Sometimes distance means growth.
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  Sometimes distance means survival.
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  Sometimes distance means choosing you before you lose yourself trying to carry
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  relationships that were never designed to go where you're headed.
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  This is your level up season and distractions do not deserve permanent residency there.
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  So let them go. Love them from a distance if necessary and keep moving forward.
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  Because if they truly see you, if they truly value you, if they truly belong
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  in your next season, they'll suit up and meet you there.
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  This is Fearless Friday, and sometimes the scariest moves we make are the very
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  ones that position us for success.
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  Here's your fearless homework. I want you to identify one relationship,
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  habit, environment, or attachment that has been quietly draining your peace
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  more than is feeding your purpose.
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  And listen, this is not about bitterness. this
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  is not about revenge this is not
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  about proving a point this is about
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  honesty ask yourself am i
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  holding on out of alignment or out of familiarity am i shrinking to maintain
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  this connection is this relationship helping me grow or keeping me emotionally
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  parked in the same place Then I want you to do one courageous thing.
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  Set a boundary, create distance, stop over explaining, stop chasing.
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  Stop rescuing, or simply stop forcing what no longer flows.
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  Because sometimes healing doesn't look like hate.
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  Sometimes healing looks like peace and quiet.
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  And remember, you can love people deeply and still refuse to let them derail your destiny.
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  There's truly no love lost, just wisdom gained.
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  Protect your peace like it paid your bills, because one day it just might.
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  And here's the reminder, everybody can't go, and that doesn't make you cruel, it makes you clear.
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  This is Real Talk, where we're realizing everyone is always learning and living your full experience.
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  This is Coach C. I'll see you in the next one.