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Romeo In The Morning 8-20-26 · Romeo & Friends

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  Speaker 1: This is what I got. Good morning, Romeo.
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  Speaker 2: So my father, so my children's father gets paid good money.
• 0:06
  Speaker 2: This man pays his child support every month, never late.
• 0:10
  Speaker 2: I have to admit there's some months where I need
• 0:11
  Speaker 2: more money than the child support. My children's father never
• 0:14
  Speaker 2: wants to give me more money then the children than.
• 0:17
  Speaker 1: The child support is required.
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  Speaker 2: Yesterday, I asked my child's father for some more money
• 0:21
  Speaker 2: because I needed help with certain things. And this man
• 0:24
  Speaker 2: had the audacity to bring about four hundred dollars worth
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  Speaker 2: of food, toilet trees, groceries, et cetera. You know, I
• 0:29
  Speaker 2: asked for money, rome not groceries. How do I convince
• 0:32
  Speaker 2: my child's father to give me more money instead of
• 0:34
  Speaker 2: stuff that he brings. I don't know what did you
• 0:40
  Speaker 2: need the more money for? What is what was that?
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  Speaker 2: What did you need more money for? Because if you
• 0:47
  Speaker 2: need more money for yourself, then that's not his responsibility.
• 0:52
  Speaker 2: His responsibility is to those children, and it sounds like
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  Speaker 2: he's taking care of his responsibility.
• 0:59
  Speaker 1: So what do you bring to the table financially?
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  Speaker 3: I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: Hey, Romeo, tell that be to shut up. She's lucky
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  Speaker 2: she got groceries. Okay, hey, ro this is one of
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  Speaker 2: the doviest women I've ever heard of. She needs she
• 1:16
  Speaker 2: needs host support. What it's spousal support. Yeah, I'm gonna
• 1:23
  Speaker 2: need some more details. I need to know what exactly
• 1:27
  Speaker 2: you need more money for, Okay, because sounds to me
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  Speaker 2: like you're trying to take advantage of your children's father.
• 1:35
  Speaker 2: But unless you can give me some more specific details,
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  Speaker 2: that's what I'm gonna have to go with.
• 1:40
  Speaker 1: So let me know. I'm gonna read you what I
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  Speaker 1: got here. Good morning, Romeo.
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  Speaker 2: So my child's fought my my children's father gets paid
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  Speaker 2: good money. This man pays this child spport every month,
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  Speaker 2: never late, and I have to admit there's some months
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  Speaker 2: where I need more money than the child support. My
• 1:54
  Speaker 2: children's father never wants to give you more than he's
• 1:56
  Speaker 2: required to give Yesterud, I asked my children's father for
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  Speaker 2: some money eat because I needed help with certain things.
• 2:02
  Speaker 1: What are the certain things?
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  Speaker 2: This man had the audacity to bring me about four
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  Speaker 2: hundred dollars worth of food, toilet, trees, groceries. You know
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  Speaker 2: I asked her for money, Romeo, not groceries. Romeo. How
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  Speaker 2: do I convince my child's father to give me money
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  Speaker 2: instead of the stuff that he brings. Is there one
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  Speaker 2: person listening right now that's on her side?
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  Speaker 1: Because it seems yeah, it doesn't seem right. Good morning. Now,
• 2:25
  Speaker 1: what's going on?
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  Speaker 4: So she didn't tell you any more information because she
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  Speaker 4: knows she's in the wrong. That he brought over four
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  Speaker 4: hundred dollars worth of groceries, Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: There's something going on.
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  Speaker 2: He knew what to bring for some I think he
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  Speaker 2: a guy just doesn't go, you know what, let me
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  Speaker 2: go get groceries and toilet trees.
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  Speaker 1: When she's asking for money.
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  Speaker 2: I think he's had this, had to deal with her before,
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  Speaker 2: and he knows what these kids aren't getting exactly.
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  Speaker 5: Because my brother's maybe mom does the same thing.
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  Speaker 6: She asks for money, but yet the.
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  Speaker 4: Kids aren't sad, the kids.
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  Speaker 6: Aren't cloth even though he says child support.
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  Speaker 1: Well, I'm just guessing here.
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  Speaker 2: You can either verify or you know, confirm or deny
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  Speaker 2: if you've seen this before. I'm guessing that she spends
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  Speaker 2: the child support on herself and then asks him for
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  Speaker 2: more money for the kids. Because oh and so okay,
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  Speaker 2: I'm guessing that's what she does.
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  Speaker 5: So that's more than likely what happens.
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  Speaker 6: My thing is like, you can't ask for more child
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  Speaker 6: support if your hair is done and your nails.
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  Speaker 7: Are done, because that money works.
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  Speaker 5: Now, let's say there's seventy eighty dollars that could have
• 3:31
  Speaker 5: gone to your kids your hair, you could.
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  Speaker 4: Have gone to the store, gone a block side, and
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  Speaker 4: then that other money could have gone to your kids.
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  Speaker 7: But I've seen it a whole bunch of times where
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  Speaker 7: they take care of themselves and their.
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  Speaker 8: Kids are running around with Walmart clothes.
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  Speaker 4: All right, there's not being wrong with Walmart clothes.
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  Speaker 2: But still, all right, I wish I had Walmart clothes
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  Speaker 2: and I was a kid because I was embarrassing. All right,
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  Speaker 2: Well they all right. I had pay less payless shoes
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  Speaker 2: and Kmart clothes, all right? Four seven to seven is
• 4:02
  Speaker 2: So let's talk about this lady. She sent me this
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  Speaker 2: text message. She wants some help from me. I don't
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  Speaker 2: know if I can help her because I'm not really sure.
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  Speaker 2: I need some more details. Good morning to Romeo. So
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  Speaker 2: my children's father gets paid good money. This man pays
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  Speaker 2: his child support to everyone, never late. I have to
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  Speaker 2: admit there's some months where I need more money. Why
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  Speaker 2: do you need more money than the child support? My
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  Speaker 2: children's father never wants to give me more money the
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  Speaker 2: child than the child support is he required to give. Yesterday,
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  Speaker 2: I asked my children's father for some more money, and
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  Speaker 2: instead he brought This is how she writes it. This
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  Speaker 2: man had the audacity to bring about four hundred dollars
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  Speaker 2: worth of food, toiletries, groceries. You know, I asked for money, Romeo,
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  Speaker 2: not groceries. How do I convince my children's father to
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  Speaker 2: give me more money instead of bring me that stuff? Yeah?
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  Speaker 2: Is anybody on her side? First of all?
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  Speaker 1: Just one of you?
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  Speaker 2: Is there one of you that thinks she's in the
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  Speaker 2: right cause I'm gonna tell you what I think, and
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  Speaker 2: I'm just reading in between the lines of what she
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  Speaker 2: sent me. I think the reason that man brought over
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  Speaker 2: the food and or the groceries and stuff is because
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  Speaker 2: in the past his children have not had food and toiletries,
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  Speaker 2: and she used the child support for something else. And
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  Speaker 2: so now this man smart enough to go, you know what,
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  Speaker 2: I gotta take care of my kids. Sounds to me
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  Speaker 2: like the guy's taking care of his kids. She wants
• 5:27
  Speaker 2: him to take care of her as well. But unless
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  Speaker 2: she clarifies, that's what we gotta go with. Right already
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  Speaker 2: four two five four seven to seven. Hey, Romeo, the
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  Speaker 2: lady said that she's she's mad. Her baby daddy brought
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  Speaker 2: her groceries and not money is dumb. Groceries are expensive.
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  Speaker 2: I'll take the groceries. Groceries are expensive. You're right, they
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  Speaker 2: have gone up in price.
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  Speaker 9: Aero.
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  Speaker 2: She needs money to get her nails done so she
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  Speaker 2: can go out looking for a new man this weekend.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe something doesn't add up. There's something that's not adding
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  Speaker 2: up a roam. That's why some dads should have full
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  Speaker 2: custody of the children, but they always favor the moms
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  Speaker 2: in every situation. Okay, well, yeah, I don't know. Something
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  Speaker 2: doesn't add up. Something doesn't add up with her story.
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  Speaker 2: Hopefully she'll fill in the blank. Still, let me tell
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  Speaker 2: you this story. Good morning, Romeo. So my children's father,
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  Speaker 2: he gets paid good money. This man pays his child
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  Speaker 2: support every month and never late. And I have to
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  Speaker 2: admit there are some months where I need more money
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  Speaker 2: than child support. Well, what do you need more money
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  Speaker 2: for the children or for you? My children's father never
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  Speaker 2: wants to give me more money than the child support
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  Speaker 2: is required. Yesterday I asked my children's father for some
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  Speaker 2: more money because I need to help with certain things.
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  Speaker 2: And this man had the audacity to bring about four
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  Speaker 2: hundred dollars worth of food, toiletries and groceries. You know,
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  Speaker 2: I ask for money, Romeo, not groceries. How do I
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  Speaker 2: get this man to give me money instead of ring stuff?
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. I really don't know. Good morning. How
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  Speaker 1: what's going on?
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  Speaker 10: Yo? But man, hey, the whole lady man about the
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  Speaker 10: whole money to children. He was probably pissed man because
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  Speaker 10: she probably received food stamps, which, hey, there's nothing wrong
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  Speaker 10: with that, but she's probably like, man, I cleave.
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  Speaker 11: A four hundred dollars for something else I could buy
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  Speaker 11: my own food, you know what I mean?
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  Speaker 4: Just being a little man.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: There's some there's maybe you're right. I don't know, man,
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  Speaker 2: but there's something going on. There's some fishy happening here.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know what that is, but there's something fishy happening.
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  Speaker 2: I lost it already four two or seven to seven, Hey, room,
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  Speaker 2: tell us a woman to go get a job and
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  Speaker 2: take care of your herself. He's paying the children the
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  Speaker 2: child support. He went above and beyond when he brought
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  Speaker 2: that four hundred dollars worth of groceries and toiletries for
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  Speaker 2: her and the kids, and she's complaining.
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  Speaker 1: The woman's at in the ten. I don't know something
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  Speaker 1: eight right here?
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  Speaker 2: Something eight right already four two five, four, seven to seven.
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  Speaker 2: And Romeo, I don't understand these females wanting to sit
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  Speaker 2: on their behinds getting things handed to them.
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  Speaker 1: Well, let's be honest. Who doesn't want to sit.
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  Speaker 2: Around and get things handed to them in the right situation?
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  Speaker 2: Already four two five, four seven to seven. Yeah, some's
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  Speaker 2: not added up. I don't know what it is. I
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  Speaker 2: don't know what it is.
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  Speaker 1: It's gonna well all I.
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  Speaker 5: Think people are delusional about town support. Speaking from my experience,
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  Speaker 5: that's all the exace that I have.
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  Speaker 12: I feel like guys tools that people with we live
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  Speaker 12: off of tound support.
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  Speaker 5: Like if you're separate from a woman and you guys
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  Speaker 5: have two, three, four whatever kids, you go get your
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  Speaker 5: one bedroom apartment. You have to get maybe a bedroom
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  Speaker 5: because your kids live with.
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  Speaker 12: Her, so that increases her housing costs. So I don't
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  Speaker 12: I don't see how people say, oh, they're city teams
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  Speaker 12: a rent or Morgans gestation because the kids require more space,
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  Speaker 12: so you should be responsible for half of that space
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  Speaker 12: because they're your kids. Two for food, everybody don't get
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  Speaker 12: food stamps. And here's this little their little crumbs naturally drinking.
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  Speaker 5: Up all the free sun and all that. So I
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  Speaker 5: mean you got to.
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  Speaker 6: Pay for half of that as well. And if this
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  Speaker 6: is his school stuff, and you know, kids don't ever
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  Speaker 6: take care of nothing. They mess up shoes, they mess
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  Speaker 6: up clothes, constantly coming home with oh mom, I want
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  Speaker 6: to do this programmer.
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  Speaker 5: They got this at school, paying for games and football stuff,
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  Speaker 5: and you know, get mad about it.
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  Speaker 6: When if it really her life is on twenty four
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  Speaker 6: to seven.
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  Speaker 5: For your kids, she's a she's a twenty four to seven.
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  Speaker 12: On call style care provider, nerves referee.
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  Speaker 6: I don't understand. I would rather my take full custody
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  Speaker 6: and you deal with these kids twenty four sevens and shut.
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  Speaker 4: Up about the child support because maybe occupay.
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  Speaker 6: You their little some train. Okay, okay, there's no amount
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  Speaker 6: of money that hans the fight for a woman dealing
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  Speaker 6: with her children, and it does not. You know, you're
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  Speaker 6: not paying for the stress.
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  Speaker 4: What is you got teenagers? What the one dealing with
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  Speaker 4: the boys.
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  Speaker 2: Let me ask you this question. Let me ask you
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  Speaker 2: this question. What's the child support for them.
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  Speaker 6: It's for the child to support the child, but sometimes
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  Speaker 6: it is not enough.
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  Speaker 4: And that's just the truth.
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  Speaker 6: You can't be paying four hundred dollars a month, but
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  Speaker 6: you know it's who your Your apartment is nine hundred,
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  Speaker 6: her house is maybe twenty two hundred, and you're paying
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  Speaker 6: four hundred.
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  Speaker 4: You should be.
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  Speaker 11: Paying half of that.
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  Speaker 6: She has to have a bigger house because your kids neet.
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  Speaker 5: A room and if you got sports and girls, they
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  Speaker 5: can't share rooms.
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  Speaker 4: You know what I mean.
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  Speaker 2: I know what you're saying. I don't completely agree with that,
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  Speaker 2: but I see where you're trying. What you're trying to
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  Speaker 2: finagle out of it.
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  Speaker 6: But they should not be responsible for their child having
• 11:02
  Speaker 6: to have a biggest face and me not being able
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  Speaker 6: to get a one bes word and can have an
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  Speaker 6: apartment and we have no house because I mean my
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  Speaker 6: kids to be separated with all the kids, I can't have.
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  Speaker 5: Two boys in a woman.
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  Speaker 2: Well yeah, but the but the government is the one
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  Speaker 2: that makes the child support. You can't have it both ways.
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  Speaker 2: You can't have the government force a father to pay
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  Speaker 2: child support and then get mad when they don't give
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  Speaker 2: you enough.
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  Speaker 4: But when there weren't given you enough on the first place.
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  Speaker 2: Well, but that's what I'm saying. But that's what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 2: You can't. You can't. You can't have it both ways.
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  Speaker 2: That's my point. You could find a better system. Okay,
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  Speaker 2: but I'm going to disagree with that I should pay
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  Speaker 2: half or the father should pay half because of your
• 11:42
  Speaker 2: lifestyle is a little more expensive.
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  Speaker 10: Than I agree.
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  Speaker 4: You can disagree, but it's true. Like for me, I
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  Speaker 4: have boys and girls, me and my going to be
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  Speaker 4: a cousin. If I have.
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  Speaker 6: To have a bigger house because I need the.
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  Speaker 5: Book for room, and you get an apartment, that's not
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  Speaker 5: me because I can get an apartment too, Come and
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  Speaker 5: get the kids.
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  Speaker 2: Oh right, well you know what I mean.
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  Speaker 1: But see you're offering a solution.
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  Speaker 2: You're not saying just you're saying, look, either help me
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  Speaker 2: because I need a bigger house, or take these kids
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  Speaker 2: and I'll pay.
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  Speaker 1: You child some for see that.
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  Speaker 2: So we're having a conversation here that is a little
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  Speaker 2: bit different because you're attitude is different.
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  Speaker 1: And so yeah, true.
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  Speaker 5: And then another thing too, like people need to understand
• 12:26
  Speaker 5: like though Choldport is like it's actually like a reimbursement
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  Speaker 5: because by the time you get it. You don't pay
• 12:31
  Speaker 5: everything that you needed to pay for the children. I
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  Speaker 5: can't say wait till we get the chouseport. Wait did
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  Speaker 5: the child sport come? But I'm not on child sport
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  Speaker 5: right now because you know better.
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  Speaker 6: And when you're seeing them numbers, people's like, well what what?
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  Speaker 6: Because my act makes good money. So you don't want
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  Speaker 6: to pay that four thousand. So you're gonna run what
• 12:48
  Speaker 6: I asked.
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  Speaker 4: Before when they need it, or you're gonna be.
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  Speaker 6: Pertificently paying a good amount.
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  Speaker 2: So yeah, okay, so if you paid four thousand, you
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  Speaker 2: wouldn't have a problem with it.
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  Speaker 6: I don't want the four thousand dollars because it creates
• 13:00
  Speaker 6: negative atmosphere between he and I was co parenting our children.
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  Speaker 6: I did that as a power plane because he was
• 13:07
  Speaker 6: being to me. Okay, let's go and keep on thinking
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  Speaker 6: that it's all daisy I found. And when you sing
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  Speaker 6: that number, he was like, Okay, what you're saying does
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  Speaker 6: makes you They're gonna get you.
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  Speaker 5: I'm not trying to gut you.
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  Speaker 7: I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: Hu alright, perfect, thanks for calling.
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  Speaker 2: Thanks for calling, you know, I mean, she's got more
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  Speaker 2: common sense than a lot of people. I mean, then
• 13:32
  Speaker 2: a lot of women she's got. Uh, she seems to
• 13:34
  Speaker 2: be reasonable with what she's saying. Is she completely right
• 13:38
  Speaker 2: about what she's saying. No, but she's very reasonable in
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  Speaker 2: a lot of aspects of child support. All Right, So
• 13:45
  Speaker 2: somebody texted me this this couple of minutes ago. Hey, Rome,
• 13:48
  Speaker 2: good morning. Off the topic you are and about cars,
• 13:52
  Speaker 2: What do you think about a spouse not packing their
• 13:54
  Speaker 2: man's lunch. Her excuse is that she did it for
• 13:57
  Speaker 2: a while already, oh, in quote, since eleven years, so
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  Speaker 2: she's tired of it. Well, it's a tough question for
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  Speaker 2: me to answer, since I've never worked. I mean, I
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  Speaker 2: haven't worked a job where I've had a lunch hour
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  Speaker 2: in twenty plus years, twenty five years, So I mean
• 14:18
  Speaker 2: I roll out the house at three am.
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  Speaker 13: I mean.
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  Speaker 2: I get home at ten thirty ish.
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  Speaker 1: So I don't. Uh, I've never had a chickpack my
• 14:28
  Speaker 1: lunch for me. I have no.
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  Speaker 2: Idea how to answer that question. I guess it's your wife.
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  Speaker 2: She's been doing eleven years. She doesn't want to do
• 14:34
  Speaker 2: it anymore. I mean, I yeah, that's a good question.
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  Speaker 2: Already four two five, four or seven to seven? Does
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  Speaker 2: she's just tired of getting up early. Does she have
• 14:43
  Speaker 2: a job, And there's a lot of factors involved, like
• 14:45
  Speaker 2: does she have a job? Is she getting up early
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  Speaker 2: to make sure you have your lunch? I mean, are
• 14:49
  Speaker 2: you being a jackass about it?
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  Speaker 5: What?
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  Speaker 1: Why did she stop? She just says she's tired.
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  Speaker 2: Is there a reason that you can actually give us
• 14:57
  Speaker 2: that makes a little more sense? Already four two five
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  Speaker 2: for seven to seven. But she's been doing it for
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  Speaker 2: eleven years and all of a sudden she decides to stop.
• 15:07
  Speaker 2: That's uh, that could be a problem. I can see that.
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  Speaker 1: So I got this. Hey, good morning, Rome.
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  Speaker 2: What do you think about the spouse a spouse not
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  Speaker 2: packing their man's lunch? Her excuse is that she's done
• 15:18
  Speaker 2: it for a while already being eleven years is how
• 15:20
  Speaker 2: long she's been doing so she's tired. I think if
• 15:24
  Speaker 2: you've been doing something for someone for a decade plus. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: I It's hard for me to answer that question because
• 15:33
  Speaker 2: I've never had anybody ever pack a lunch for me,
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  Speaker 2: except for my mom when she sent.
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  Speaker 1: Me to school. So alrighty four two five, four or
• 15:39
  Speaker 1: seven and seven.
• 15:40
  Speaker 2: But if that's your man and you're you don't work,
• 15:42
  Speaker 2: then you probably should be packing his lunch.
• 15:44
  Speaker 1: Good morning, How what's going on?
• 15:46
  Speaker 14: Get what, bro I want to come in on that
• 15:47
  Speaker 14: lunch thing you're just talking about?
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  Speaker 10: Yeah?
• 15:48
  Speaker 1: What up?
• 15:49
  Speaker 15: Man?
• 15:49
  Speaker 16: All right?
• 15:49
  Speaker 14: More unlikely he probably works in the oil field. Uh.
• 15:53
  Speaker 17: One of my buddy's dads, he's been married to his
• 15:54
  Speaker 17: girl since they were like seven together, since they.
• 15:57
  Speaker 3: Were in junior high.
• 15:57
  Speaker 17: And she makes his lunch everything the old day and
• 16:01
  Speaker 17: they got six kids.
• 16:02
  Speaker 1: Okay, she stays at home though, right, she's not working.
• 16:05
  Speaker 17: No, but I mean at the same time, she probably
• 16:08
  Speaker 17: is being you know, and even if she does have
• 16:10
  Speaker 17: a job, she's just I mean, it's more of like
• 16:13
  Speaker 17: an a Mexican household. I would assume that the girls
• 16:16
  Speaker 17: always because even one of my the best friends, the
• 16:18
  Speaker 17: girl gets up she works too. She gets up every
• 16:20
  Speaker 17: morning in two thirty.
• 16:21
  Speaker 14: To make it.
• 16:21
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't I don't disagree with with the thought process.
• 16:25
  Speaker 2: But to quit after I guess the way I'm looking
• 16:27
  Speaker 2: at it here is to quit doing it after eleven years.
• 16:31
  Speaker 2: That's a decade you've been making this man's lunch, and
• 16:33
  Speaker 2: all of a sudden you're too tired to do it.
• 16:35
  Speaker 2: So there's something had to have changed that we're not
• 16:38
  Speaker 2: aware of.
• 16:39
  Speaker 14: I should probably get noticed she's going to the change room.
• 16:43
  Speaker 17: But no, But either way, man, I mean you, I
• 16:46
  Speaker 17: mean hell, I used to when I when I was
• 16:48
  Speaker 17: on the rigs and everything.
• 16:49
  Speaker 3: I make my lunch.
• 16:50
  Speaker 17: There are be times of it. Height don't worry about it.
• 16:52
  Speaker 14: I'll pick up some subway and get to sleep. Well,
• 16:55
  Speaker 14: maybe she just wants a break every now and then.
• 16:57
  Speaker 2: Maybe all right, man, thanks God, I mean yeah, ten
• 17:02
  Speaker 2: years to do something for somebody, ten plus years, eleven
• 17:05
  Speaker 2: years to make his lunch for work every day and
• 17:10
  Speaker 2: then say she's too tired to do it. Something's had
• 17:13
  Speaker 2: to have changed. Maybe it's the way he treats her.
• 17:16
  Speaker 1: I don't know. Already four two five, four seven to seven.
• 17:21
  Speaker 15: Rome.
• 17:21
  Speaker 2: Maybe she used to make it, but he's being a
• 17:23
  Speaker 2: jerk about it. Maybe he is, and that's why she
• 17:26
  Speaker 2: don't want to do it no more already four two five,
• 17:28
  Speaker 2: four seven to seven. All right, I got this a
• 17:30
  Speaker 2: few minutes ago, off topic, Rome, what do you think
• 17:32
  Speaker 2: about a spouse not packing their lunch or not packing
• 17:36
  Speaker 2: their man's lunch.
• 17:37
  Speaker 1: Her excuse is that she did it for a while.
• 17:40
  Speaker 2: Eleven years is what he says she's done it for
• 17:41
  Speaker 2: and so she's tired of doing it. Now, Well, when
• 17:45
  Speaker 2: you're throw in that eleven years, she's been doing it
• 17:47
  Speaker 2: for a decade, that changes the dynamic of the conversation.
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: Now, if you're a jerk.
• 17:52
  Speaker 2: About it, then although I don't see how you could
• 17:55
  Speaker 2: be a jerk about your woman making you lunch for
• 17:58
  Speaker 2: you know, making you lunch, I don't really know what
• 18:00
  Speaker 2: you could possibly be saying or doing when she does it.
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: But yeah, I don't know.
• 18:06
  Speaker 2: Already four two five four or is seven to seven?
• 18:08
  Speaker 2: She stopped for some reason. Her reasoning is because she's tired.
• 18:11
  Speaker 2: But that's a pretty long precedent, eleven years, and I'm
• 18:16
  Speaker 2: assuming that you are. You're not that old, right already
• 18:20
  Speaker 2: four two five four or seven to seven? Your rome?
• 18:23
  Speaker 2: My wife's a busy woman. She goes to school, works,
• 18:26
  Speaker 2: takes care of the household. So she just tells me
• 18:28
  Speaker 2: to buy my lunch, or my mother in law saves
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: me a plate sometimes. Well that's why I say, when
• 18:34
  Speaker 2: I read you this little text that he sent me,
• 18:37
  Speaker 2: there is some information that we may or may not
• 18:39
  Speaker 2: be missing, Like does she work? If she just stays
• 18:42
  Speaker 2: at home and takes care of the house, she should
• 18:46
  Speaker 2: probably be making your lunch every day, and she shouldn't
• 18:49
  Speaker 2: just be using the excuse that she's too tired. So,
• 18:52
  Speaker 2: I mean, there you having merital problems. Well, there's there's
• 18:55
  Speaker 2: some factors in you're not giving us information. Yo, Rome,
• 19:00
  Speaker 2: my fiance says that taking care of the kids and
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: cleaning the house and making dinner is a job.
• 19:07
  Speaker 1: You think it is a job.
• 19:09
  Speaker 2: Taking care of the kids, taking out of the house,
• 19:11
  Speaker 2: making dinner, that's a job.
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: It really is a job.
• 19:14
  Speaker 2: If she's not going to work and that's all she's doing,
• 19:17
  Speaker 2: it's a job. So already four two five four is
• 19:21
  Speaker 2: seven to seven. But just in the same vein, making
• 19:25
  Speaker 2: lunch for your man if he's going out to work
• 19:28
  Speaker 2: every day should be part of that job, especially if
• 19:31
  Speaker 2: you've done it for eleven years. There's something we're not
• 19:35
  Speaker 2: seeing here. There's something we're not seeing already four two
• 19:38
  Speaker 2: five fours seven to seven. You need to text us
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: back with some more details. The guy texted me and says, Hey, Rome,
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: what do you think about a spouse not packing their
• 19:46
  Speaker 2: man lunch? Her excuse is that she's too tired. She's
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: been doing it for eleven years now. Hey, Rome, my
• 19:52
  Speaker 2: wife and I make my lunch together. It's our time
• 19:54
  Speaker 2: to talk.
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: It's great. We've been doing it for about five years.
• 19:57
  Speaker 2: So if it changed, it would be concerning good morning,
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: not what's going on.
• 20:01
  Speaker 15: Yo.
• 20:01
  Speaker 16: You're talking about you know, people's wifes making them lunches
• 20:04
  Speaker 16: and stuff. Right, So here's the way I look at it. Okay,
• 20:07
  Speaker 16: First off, do you cheat on your old lady? Yes,
• 20:10
  Speaker 16: you don't deserve lunch.
• 20:11
  Speaker 4: No, you don't cheat.
• 20:12
  Speaker 16: Okay cool. Does she work yet? Okay, well then if
• 20:16
  Speaker 16: you have time, sure, don't expect it. If she don't work,
• 20:20
  Speaker 16: by all means she can make you lunch or else
• 20:22
  Speaker 16: she can understand that we're gonna have less money to
• 20:24
  Speaker 16: spend throughout the weekends and stuff because I gotta buy
• 20:28
  Speaker 16: lunch every day.
• 20:29
  Speaker 4: That's the way I look at it, all right.
• 20:31
  Speaker 2: I don't think that's a bad way to look at it,
• 20:32
  Speaker 2: fair enough, all right, man?
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: Thanks Colling?
• 20:35
  Speaker 14: Yep.
• 20:35
  Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, if you're treating your woman good. But
• 20:38
  Speaker 2: here's the thing. If you're treating your lady good and
• 20:42
  Speaker 2: she stays at home and takes care of the house,
• 20:45
  Speaker 2: I don't think you're ever going to run into this problem.
• 20:49
  Speaker 2: Most happy women are more than willing to do everything
• 20:52
  Speaker 2: for their man, especially if he's a hard working dude
• 20:56
  Speaker 2: who goes out and uh makes the money and she
• 21:00
  Speaker 2: stays home and takes care of the house. Most of
• 21:01
  Speaker 2: those women that are happy, Yeah, they don't complain about
• 21:05
  Speaker 2: a whole lot, and they probably so for something. We're
• 21:08
  Speaker 2: missing something about her not wanting to make lunch for
• 21:12
  Speaker 2: him anymore. Remember, she did it for eleven years, and
• 21:15
  Speaker 2: now she says she's too tired to do it, So
• 21:17
  Speaker 2: we're missing something.
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: Guy sent me this earlier this morning.
• 21:20
  Speaker 2: Hey, Roan, what do you think about a spouse stop
• 21:22
  Speaker 2: packing their man's lunch. Her excuse is she did it
• 21:24
  Speaker 2: for a while already, which was a while as eleven years,
• 21:27
  Speaker 2: by the way, So she's tired. Well, yeah, why she
• 21:32
  Speaker 2: tired already? Four two, five, four seven seven. Let me
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: see you guys got going on here? Hey, good morning,
• 21:39
  Speaker 2: Romeo rder Rob. I've been with my baby mom for
• 21:42
  Speaker 2: twenty two years and to this day, I don't ask
• 21:44
  Speaker 2: my lunch. Oh, I don't ask my lunch is ready,
• 21:48
  Speaker 2: and she lays my clothes out. I don't know why.
• 21:51
  Speaker 2: And she works too. Some women are just like that,
• 21:54
  Speaker 2: you know. You gotta remember there's a lot of old
• 21:56
  Speaker 2: school women out there who grew up and taught to
• 21:58
  Speaker 2: take care of their man, and they never change. Hey, Rome,
• 22:04
  Speaker 2: she's not making lunch for him because she's making lunch
• 22:07
  Speaker 2: for Sancho.
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: I was waiting for that.
• 22:10
  Speaker 2: I was really waiting for that to happen already four
• 22:13
  Speaker 2: two five, four seven seven, Ay, Roam. If she's not
• 22:16
  Speaker 2: too tired for sex, then she shouldn't be too tired
• 22:18
  Speaker 2: to make his lunch. Maybe she's having enough sex. Maybe
• 22:21
  Speaker 2: she's too tired. Maybe she's too tired for sex, and
• 22:24
  Speaker 2: that's probably why she's not making his lunch anymore. All right,
• 22:28
  Speaker 2: there you go already four two five four seven to
• 22:31
  Speaker 2: seven Rome. The length of the years doesn't matter. Does
• 22:36
  Speaker 2: she work, well, that's a question. We don't have, yo, Rome.
• 22:39
  Speaker 2: My girls doesn't pack my lunch, but she works too.
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: When we first got together, she would pack me lunch,
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: but she just stopped over time. I don't mind because
• 22:48
  Speaker 2: she has a job, and that that's a big factor.
• 22:51
  Speaker 2: If she has a job, then you might want to
• 22:54
  Speaker 2: consider packing your own lunch. I'm only saying if she's
• 22:57
  Speaker 2: a stay at home you know, wife and mom, and
• 23:01
  Speaker 2: that's her job is to take care of the house.
• 23:04
  Speaker 2: Part of those duties is making lunch. Kid's husband. I mean,
• 23:08
  Speaker 2: that's part of your duties as a mom. I mean
• 23:11
  Speaker 2: as a stay at home wife and mom. I would think,
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: all righty four two, five, four, seven and seven. If
• 23:17
  Speaker 2: she works, it changes the whole dynamic of the situation
• 23:19
  Speaker 2: because she's got her own business to take care of. Hey,
• 23:23
  Speaker 2: let's see here, Rome, I do traffic control. When I
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: first started working here, my wife used to pack my
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: lunch and at times I wouldn't even eat it. So
• 23:35
  Speaker 2: I just told her, hair don't pack me lunch because
• 23:37
  Speaker 2: I'm not gonna eat it anyways. I'll just grab something
• 23:40
  Speaker 2: while I'm out there. But when I get home, dinner
• 23:43
  Speaker 2: better be ready. Once again, does she work or is
• 23:49
  Speaker 2: her I think the response of if you're gonna say,
• 23:52
  Speaker 2: I'm a stay at home wife and mom, and your
• 23:55
  Speaker 2: job and we'll call it a job because it is
• 23:58
  Speaker 2: a job, is to take care of the house.
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: I think that includes dinner. That includes lunch.
• 24:03
  Speaker 2: Rome workers brought him lunch one too many times, so
• 24:07
  Speaker 2: he brought home his uneaten packed lunch. Maybe over I guarantee.
• 24:14
  Speaker 2: She started following some dumb broad on TikTok that influenced
• 24:18
  Speaker 2: her to say, f that fool. Well, you know it's
• 24:23
  Speaker 2: funny that you say that, because it goes both ways.
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: Have you seen the women on tiktak that'll go?
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: You know, I'll do.
• 24:32
  Speaker 2: You know it hurts doing this sexually, but it also
• 24:35
  Speaker 2: hurts my man to get up, you know, and go
• 24:37
  Speaker 2: to work ten hour days. Take that or any woman?
• 24:40
  Speaker 2: Have you seen these women know that go? What's the
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: other one I saw?
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: Said?
• 24:45
  Speaker 2: Oh, your man doesn't work that hard to come home
• 24:49
  Speaker 2: to a fat woman, or you're I if.
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: He's going to work, at least you can do that.
• 24:55
  Speaker 2: No, it goes both ways, So I agree with you,
• 24:57
  Speaker 2: but I've never seen that. Hey, good morning Romeo. For
• 25:02
  Speaker 2: that caller, he said that his wife is not making
• 25:05
  Speaker 2: him any lunch anymore. There's only one thing, and one
• 25:08
  Speaker 2: thing only Rome. She's cheating on him. Cheater, cheater, cheater. Okay, Rome,
• 25:17
  Speaker 2: them days are long gone. Equal rights ruined it for
• 25:20
  Speaker 2: us men. Well, I think you guys have a uneducated
• 25:27
  Speaker 2: idea of what equal rights means. But okay, good morning Rome.
• 25:31
  Speaker 2: The question is for the dude, how appreciative is he
• 25:35
  Speaker 2: being to his wife? I mean, just because you are
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: married to someone you ain't entitled the special treatment.
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: It goes both ways.
• 25:43
  Speaker 2: Many guys nowadays look for a mommy replacement and not
• 25:47
  Speaker 2: a wife.
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: Well, okay, I mean that's fair.
• 25:51
  Speaker 15: Rome.
• 25:51
  Speaker 2: Tell that fool to man up and make his own lunch.
• 25:57
  Speaker 2: You sent me here, big boy. Big boy says, Hey, Rome,
• 25:59
  Speaker 2: what's fun is? My kids eighteen, fourteen and fourteen take
• 26:03
  Speaker 2: turns every Monday through Thursday making me lunch so their
• 26:05
  Speaker 2: mom doesn't have to. Friday, they're all off because I'm
• 26:09
  Speaker 2: usually having a safety meeting by ten am and don't
• 26:11
  Speaker 2: need one. Dude, if you ever I've been to a
• 26:16
  Speaker 2: couple of Big Boys safety meetings, did they're the best?
• 26:19
  Speaker 2: You got to get invited those Friday safety meetings. I'm
• 26:22
  Speaker 2: already fourteen and a seven. Hey, Roan, she probably caught
• 26:26
  Speaker 2: him cheating and stop doing that. Doing what she used
• 26:29
  Speaker 2: to do for him. He could have Sancha pack his lunch.
• 26:33
  Speaker 2: We why she's still with him if he's a cheater.
• 26:35
  Speaker 2: I'd like to hear if there are any men who
• 26:38
  Speaker 2: make lunch for their wives. Sure, Roan, Raider, Dave don't
• 26:44
  Speaker 2: need no stinking woman to pack his lunch. I get
• 26:47
  Speaker 2: up early and do it myself. What's Raider Dave got
• 26:49
  Speaker 2: for lunch? A couple of noodles, a sandwich, a doctor
• 26:55
  Speaker 2: pepper zero. Rader Dave, there ain't no meating that sandwich,
• 26:58
  Speaker 2: would you talking? I don't see sandwich at all.
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: He gonna eat some baked lace. Come on, Rader David,
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: you act like you're doing something. Hey what a Rome?
• 27:09
  Speaker 2: Like you said, there's no there's there's too much we
• 27:12
  Speaker 2: don't know to really make an opinion.
• 27:13
  Speaker 1: That said a few.
• 27:14
  Speaker 2: Things for for for the mine, she's probably not feeling
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: appreciated so much. Uh, someone cheated could go both ways,
• 27:22
  Speaker 2: and let's be real, after eleven years, maybe she just
• 27:24
  Speaker 2: needs a bit of Maybe she just needs a bit
• 27:28
  Speaker 2: of respect.
• 27:30
  Speaker 10: Though.
• 27:31
  Speaker 2: I do like what you what you mentioned about TikTok
• 27:34
  Speaker 2: style of the reels, my old lady. I'll watch them,
• 27:37
  Speaker 2: but never say anything, never say anything. Yeah yeah, what
• 27:43
  Speaker 2: a big Rome. It's a monster bee Yeah yeah, dog.
• 27:48
  Speaker 2: She's cheating and sending Sancho lunch from now from now on,
• 27:51
  Speaker 2: get used to it. Michael Bean is here for the
• 27:55
  Speaker 2: Marriagant Family Center. Good morning, Michael, Well, good morning.
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: How are you.
• 28:00
  Speaker 15: I'm doing all right?
• 28:01
  Speaker 4: How about you?
• 28:01
  Speaker 2: I am fabulous let's give everybody the phone number. Six
• 28:04
  Speaker 2: six one three two seven fifty one hundred is the
• 28:08
  Speaker 2: phone number. Let's uh, what was I gonna tell its?
• 28:13
  Speaker 13: Talk to you?
• 28:14
  Speaker 2: Oh about I want to talk about couples, about relationships, Michael,
• 28:19
  Speaker 2: I heard I saw a statistic and we were just
• 28:22
  Speaker 2: talking about this before we went on about married couples
• 28:27
  Speaker 2: only see each other about four hours a day and
• 28:31
  Speaker 2: that people that live together, And you've said that might
• 28:34
  Speaker 2: be a stretch.
• 28:35
  Speaker 15: Oh yeah, maybe three and a half of those they're sleeping,
• 28:39
  Speaker 15: you know. Well, so I don't know. I think that's
• 28:43
  Speaker 15: that does. I think for a lot of couples they
• 28:46
  Speaker 15: would just love it if they could spend three or
• 28:48
  Speaker 15: four hours a day together. But sometimes they just barely
• 28:51
  Speaker 15: see each other in pasting.
• 28:53
  Speaker 2: That is incredible to me. Now, let me ask you this,
• 28:59
  Speaker 2: Why Why do I, like I said, I was trying
• 29:02
  Speaker 2: to remember the statistic. I didn't read the story completely
• 29:05
  Speaker 2: to figure out how or what. You know, I might
• 29:07
  Speaker 2: even got the statistic wrong. But how what's getting in
• 29:12
  Speaker 2: the way?
• 29:13
  Speaker 9: Yeah?
• 29:13
  Speaker 15: Why do we let ourselves get so busy with other stuff?
• 29:17
  Speaker 15: We feel like our relationship is just okay, Well, that's
• 29:21
  Speaker 15: just a relationship.
• 29:21
  Speaker 14: But then there's real life.
• 29:24
  Speaker 15: What the relationships not real life?
• 29:27
  Speaker 2: You know, yeah, we do.
• 29:28
  Speaker 15: We kind of get into that mindset of there's relationship
• 29:31
  Speaker 15: and then there's there's what I really do, uh know,
• 29:34
  Speaker 15: your relationship, your family, that really should be part of
• 29:37
  Speaker 15: what you really do.
• 29:39
  Speaker 2: What do you think gets in the way the most, Michael,
• 29:42
  Speaker 2: I mean, we obviously we can't avoid work. We have
• 29:45
  Speaker 2: to you know, support ourselves, kids, kids in sports and
• 29:51
  Speaker 2: activities is something that you know, a lot of a
• 29:54
  Speaker 2: lot of families have to deal with, and especially if
• 29:56
  Speaker 2: you have kids going opposite directions, you know, one parent
• 29:59
  Speaker 2: goes out it was that way.
• 30:01
  Speaker 14: But but let's back.
• 30:02
  Speaker 15: Up a second. Because we can't avoid work, but we
• 30:06
  Speaker 15: could make some choices about it. A lot of people
• 30:09
  Speaker 15: feel like they're just completely stuck in this job. Quite often,
• 30:12
  Speaker 15: I'll have couples contact me because they have opposite work
• 30:15
  Speaker 15: schedules and they literally never see each other. You know,
• 30:19
  Speaker 15: they're having to actually use vacations. I'd even have a
• 30:21
  Speaker 15: session you know with me. Yeah, and uh you know, Okay,
• 30:27
  Speaker 15: how much do you really love your job?
• 30:30
  Speaker 11: You know?
• 30:30
  Speaker 15: I mean, if there really there's no other alternatives that
• 30:33
  Speaker 15: might give you some opportunities to work from home some
• 30:37
  Speaker 15: or you know, honestly, people feel like, Okay, I'm more
• 30:41
  Speaker 15: married to this job than I am to my partner.
• 30:43
  Speaker 15: You know, jobs can come and go, a career can
• 30:46
  Speaker 15: be a series of jobs, but hopefully a long term relationship,
• 30:50
  Speaker 15: you know, is not going to be a series.
• 30:53
  Speaker 2: Well see, now I was going to ask you, now
• 30:55
  Speaker 2: that you've taken it to just that conversation, at what
• 31:00
  Speaker 2: point does our relationship come first? And just in this
• 31:04
  Speaker 2: big scheme of things that we live in, Michael, this
• 31:06
  Speaker 2: big you know, if I'm as a human being, you know,
• 31:10
  Speaker 2: we all we obviously have people out there who love
• 31:14
  Speaker 2: to work and they just have made their decisions. This
• 31:18
  Speaker 2: is going to be my life. It's not going to
• 31:20
  Speaker 2: be a relationship. It's going to be this job. It's
• 31:22
  Speaker 2: going to be what I'm trying to accomplish. And then
• 31:25
  Speaker 2: you have most of us, I believe all want to
• 31:28
  Speaker 2: be in a loving, caring, happy relationship. I think with
• 31:31
  Speaker 2: one personever. But we don't seem to prioritize that over
• 31:37
  Speaker 2: everything else, And.
• 31:38
  Speaker 18: Shouldn't we do that in the beginning we do, right
• 31:42
  Speaker 18: during that honeymoon phase, we do everything else does come second?
• 31:46
  Speaker 18: You know, your friend calls you up and says, hey,
• 31:48
  Speaker 18: we're having this really cool thing. You come on and
• 31:51
  Speaker 18: be a part of us, and you're just kind of
• 31:52
  Speaker 18: like you Yeah. Later on things kind of shit a
• 32:00
  Speaker 18: little bit. This is almost the same answer to the
• 32:04
  Speaker 18: question that we've asked many times. Why do we sometimes
• 32:08
  Speaker 18: treat our third best friend better than we treat our partner?
• 32:13
  Speaker 2: I mean, we're not If we come up with the
• 32:16
  Speaker 2: answer with that, Michael, maybe we can retire. I mean,
• 32:20
  Speaker 2: well what I mean, I just don't. We can prioritize
• 32:26
  Speaker 2: a lot of things in our life if we you know,
• 32:29
  Speaker 2: people will say, why have this goal? I want to
• 32:31
  Speaker 2: be do this by this age. I want to own
• 32:33
  Speaker 2: a house by this stage. But it doesn't appear that
• 32:36
  Speaker 2: we prioritize a relationship first, above and beyond everything that should.
• 32:42
  Speaker 15: Come first, and we forget that it takes a constant,
• 32:46
  Speaker 15: ongoing effort. I think when we're in some sort of
• 32:49
  Speaker 15: a degree program, or we're trying to launch a business,
• 32:52
  Speaker 15: or we're doing other things, the tasks in front of
• 32:56
  Speaker 15: us are obvious, and we just kind of stay focused
• 32:59
  Speaker 15: on that because I got to show up to the
• 33:01
  Speaker 15: next class, or I've got this business meeting where these
• 33:04
  Speaker 15: things are in front of me. But when it comes
• 33:06
  Speaker 15: to our relationship, Okay, we made that commitment, but along
• 33:09
  Speaker 15: the way, are we remembering that? Okay, Well, that means
• 33:14
  Speaker 15: that I need to ask my partner out, you know,
• 33:17
  Speaker 15: set up something fun for us to go do on
• 33:19
  Speaker 15: the weekend or next month, We're going to go out
• 33:22
  Speaker 15: of town together, because that'll be something fun for us
• 33:25
  Speaker 15: to look forward to. We forget to put the kind
• 33:28
  Speaker 15: of work into our relationship that we would put into
• 33:31
  Speaker 15: these other ongoing plans.
• 33:33
  Speaker 2: Well, we can't do that because we've got to watch
• 33:34
  Speaker 2: our phones and we gotta see what's on Netflix.
• 33:37
  Speaker 9: We gotta.
• 33:39
  Speaker 1: We watch TikTok. All right, Michael, hold on.
• 33:42
  Speaker 15: Those things are easier, but yeah, yeah, old on, Michael.
• 33:45
  Speaker 2: All right, Michael Bean is here for the Marge of
• 33:47
  Speaker 2: Family said, good morning, Michael, Well, good morning all right.
• 33:50
  Speaker 2: Six six one read two seven fifty one hundred is
• 33:53
  Speaker 2: the number you call. You go through some steps to
• 33:54
  Speaker 2: get a hold of them and you can talk to them.
• 33:59
  Speaker 2: What now, Michael, we're talking about relationships. A couple's not
• 34:02
  Speaker 2: spending a lot of time with each other, not necessarily
• 34:05
  Speaker 2: focusing putting their relationship first. Are we wrong to say
• 34:10
  Speaker 2: that our relationship if if that's what we really want,
• 34:14
  Speaker 2: a good, solid relationship, shouldn't we put that first above
• 34:19
  Speaker 2: the cell phones, the jobs, the kids? Is such a
• 34:24
  Speaker 2: tough argument to have. Do you put your relationship before
• 34:26
  Speaker 2: the kids? But when you say that that, most people
• 34:31
  Speaker 2: will take it as Okay, we're putting our relationship first,
• 34:33
  Speaker 2: but we're and we're just gonna not care about any
• 34:35
  Speaker 2: all this other stuff. We can do both though, right Michael.
• 34:40
  Speaker 15: You can't just do one thing. If you just focus
• 34:42
  Speaker 15: on your relationship, you'll start to Yet, Yeah, you know,
• 34:46
  Speaker 15: well you can just do one thing. We all have
• 34:49
  Speaker 15: to be sort of like generalists in our life in
• 34:51
  Speaker 15: order to just even survive. We won't get any exercise,
• 34:54
  Speaker 15: or we won't get any sleep, or you know, we've
• 34:57
  Speaker 15: gotta we've got to balance them. And that's the tough thing.
• 35:01
  Speaker 15: But why do things get so off balanced? Why do
• 35:03
  Speaker 15: we just start taking our partner for granted? And I
• 35:07
  Speaker 15: hinted that thing about you know, we sometimes treat our
• 35:10
  Speaker 15: third best friend there when we do our person. Yeah,
• 35:12
  Speaker 15: And the reason I put that out there is because
• 35:14
  Speaker 15: I think the same thing kind of happens over time.
• 35:16
  Speaker 15: We start we start taking for granted that oh, well,
• 35:20
  Speaker 15: our relationship is just going to be there. That person's
• 35:23
  Speaker 15: just going to be a bit and show up. We're
• 35:25
  Speaker 15: going to show up for each other and we don't
• 35:27
  Speaker 15: have to put that kind of effort into it. Oh
• 35:29
  Speaker 15: I can, I can, you know, smart off a little
• 35:31
  Speaker 15: bit or sarcastic or something in a way that again,
• 35:34
  Speaker 15: I would never do it my friends because then I
• 35:36
  Speaker 15: wouldn't have any friends.
• 35:37
  Speaker 2: Well, let me let me just throw this point out there.
• 35:41
  Speaker 2: And I always make fun. I always people give me
• 35:44
  Speaker 2: a lot of my friends and family give me a
• 35:46
  Speaker 2: lot of a lot of crap for the way I
• 35:48
  Speaker 2: treat my dogs.
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: And I always say, well, every time.
• 35:53
  Speaker 2: I come home, my dogs are waiting right there to
• 35:55
  Speaker 2: see me. They're not they're they're not having a bad day,
• 35:59
  Speaker 2: they're not having and they're waiting right there with their
• 36:01
  Speaker 2: tails wagging to be there for me when I.
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: Walk through that door. And I think about.
• 36:07
  Speaker 2: That, Well, we don't do that as couples, like we
• 36:12
  Speaker 2: don't we just somebody will come home from work, hi,
• 36:17
  Speaker 2: you know, or you don't get up and just a
• 36:20
  Speaker 2: little bit just to say hi, get out of your seat,
• 36:22
  Speaker 2: get off your butt, just to say hi, and we
• 36:26
  Speaker 2: don't even do that at a certain point in relationships.
• 36:30
  Speaker 4: We don't.
• 36:31
  Speaker 15: And when we come home, we don't necessarily go to
• 36:34
  Speaker 15: them that way either, And we can and we can.
• 36:37
  Speaker 15: And if you're not liken the greeting that happens when
• 36:40
  Speaker 15: you go home, Okay, you can't necessarily do a lot
• 36:43
  Speaker 15: about that. You can change how you are when you
• 36:46
  Speaker 15: go home.
• 36:46
  Speaker 7: Yeah, maybe when you go home you.
• 36:48
  Speaker 15: Want things a certain way, or you're going to interrupt
• 36:51
  Speaker 15: what's going on because now it's going to be all
• 36:52
  Speaker 15: about you, or you know, you're going to take over
• 36:55
  Speaker 15: the TV or whatever it is. How about no, how
• 36:57
  Speaker 15: about you rethink that. Rethink what it's like for your
• 37:01
  Speaker 15: family when you come home. Go there, greet everybody, give
• 37:04
  Speaker 15: your give your sweetheart a snuggle in the neck, you know,
• 37:07
  Speaker 15: or you know, just kind of do some just do
• 37:10
  Speaker 15: some Hey I'm homing, and they make it a little
• 37:14
  Speaker 15: bit of a little bit of a celebration.
• 37:17
  Speaker 2: Well, I don't know how I just and now you
• 37:20
  Speaker 2: throw you throw electronics in the mix. I do want
• 37:23
  Speaker 2: to talk about that, Michael Whole on a second, I
• 37:25
  Speaker 2: want to talk about this whole electronics thing, because I
• 37:28
  Speaker 2: think we've always had distractions in our lives. They're just
• 37:31
  Speaker 2: different distractions, all right. Michael Beanies here for the Marriage
• 37:34
  Speaker 2: Family Center six x one, three two seven of fifty
• 37:36
  Speaker 2: one hundred.
• 37:37
  Speaker 15: What's going on, Michael, Hey for helping relationships all the time.
• 37:42
  Speaker 15: People are reaching out because we're literally scared about the future.
• 37:46
  Speaker 15: They're just kind of like, wait a minute, what is
• 37:48
  Speaker 15: life going to look like if this doesn't work? With
• 37:50
  Speaker 15: us feeling like it isn't working, and then they reach
• 37:53
  Speaker 15: out to me and just amazing things happen. I'm just really,
• 37:59
  Speaker 15: I don't know, it's super gratifying to see couples get
• 38:02
  Speaker 15: over all their insecurities and the fear and the hostility
• 38:08
  Speaker 15: that's been going on and put down their weapons and
• 38:11
  Speaker 15: hug each other. It's amazing.
• 38:13
  Speaker 2: I think everybody, and I'm going to pile on a
• 38:16
  Speaker 2: little bit, I think everybody Michael has been in a
• 38:20
  Speaker 2: relationship that just when you're unhappy and you're going home
• 38:23
  Speaker 2: to it and you just go, oh, I got to
• 38:25
  Speaker 2: go home and deal with this and that. But when
• 38:27
  Speaker 2: you go home and you just know everything is going right,
• 38:31
  Speaker 2: it changes your whole perspective on life. It just I
• 38:35
  Speaker 2: think it really just gives you a better. You just
• 38:37
  Speaker 2: feel better.
• 38:38
  Speaker 15: You know, people need to ask themselves how long has
• 38:41
  Speaker 15: it been since I've really looked forward to coming home regularly?
• 38:45
  Speaker 10: You know?
• 38:46
  Speaker 15: You do you need to ask yourself that? Or are
• 38:48
  Speaker 15: you looking for reasons to not go home, to not
• 38:51
  Speaker 15: be home or relay it? You know, that's just what
• 38:55
  Speaker 15: a terrible thing when that place that's supposed to be
• 38:59
  Speaker 15: your safety come for your relaxation is the place you
• 39:02
  Speaker 15: want to avoid.
• 39:03
  Speaker 2: So just get you a couple of chihuahuas and they
• 39:06
  Speaker 2: will always.
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: Want you home.
• 39:10
  Speaker 2: Co Maybe those little dashing hounds as things, a little
• 39:14
  Speaker 2: hot dog. God, they they always love when you come home.
• 39:22
  Speaker 2: I want about the electronics, Michael, I mean, obviously, I
• 39:27
  Speaker 2: think these cell phones have just completely ruined our society.
• 39:30
  Speaker 2: iPads have ruined our society to an extent.
• 39:33
  Speaker 15: They changed it.
• 39:35
  Speaker 1: But the distractions.
• 39:37
  Speaker 2: I look at them as a distraction, just like you know,
• 39:40
  Speaker 2: I still watch cable Basic. I still watch Basic cable.
• 39:44
  Speaker 2: People go, I can't believe you watch basic cable. It's no,
• 39:46
  Speaker 2: it's no different than you watching YouTube. I watch YouTube too.
• 39:49
  Speaker 2: They're just different channels on different outlets to get what
• 39:52
  Speaker 2: you're looking for entertainment, right, we've always had distractions TVs.
• 39:58
  Speaker 15: Phones.
• 39:58
  Speaker 2: I mean just instead of in your hand, it was
• 40:00
  Speaker 2: on the wall. I mean, obviously this is taken to
• 40:03
  Speaker 2: another level. So how do we So we've always had
• 40:06
  Speaker 2: distractions in our relationship, right, so we should overcome do
• 40:10
  Speaker 2: we should have been able to overcome them.
• 40:12
  Speaker 15: Right, I mean good relationships they do. And like you
• 40:17
  Speaker 15: and I have talked about, you know, twenty years ago,
• 40:21
  Speaker 15: the idea of social media on the phone was a
• 40:23
  Speaker 15: new thing, and when people started picking up their phone
• 40:25
  Speaker 15: instead of having a conversation with their partner, it meant
• 40:28
  Speaker 15: something different. Today's kids, who are becoming adults now have
• 40:33
  Speaker 15: always known about social media on phones, so it's just
• 40:36
  Speaker 15: kind of they look at that very differently. They can
• 40:40
  Speaker 15: actually have a conversation about, hey, we on our phones
• 40:42
  Speaker 15: too much. Hey, you know what distracted? And it's not
• 40:45
  Speaker 15: like this personal thing as often it still happens. And
• 40:49
  Speaker 15: all of these distractions, like you were saying, that have
• 40:51
  Speaker 15: been going on ever since. You know, I don't know,
• 40:55
  Speaker 15: a shoe got a pebble.
• 40:56
  Speaker 14: Grit is someone shoes?
• 40:57
  Speaker 9: Yeah, all of these distractions, they are really only a
• 41:04
  Speaker 9: problem in relationships where there is a problem.
• 41:08
  Speaker 15: So now when somebody says, you know, I just grimace
• 41:13
  Speaker 15: every time I see them pick up their phone. You know,
• 41:16
  Speaker 15: then that usually is kind of like the shoes we've
• 41:18
  Speaker 15: talked about that I left on the floor, and you're always, well,
• 41:21
  Speaker 15: why don't you just pick up the dangs shoes and
• 41:23
  Speaker 15: put them away? It's because those shoes that are on
• 41:25
  Speaker 15: the color, when I see them, I go there. They
• 41:29
  Speaker 15: are again not really caring or giving a cramp about
• 41:31
  Speaker 15: what I want, and I'm unhappy and I'm unable to
• 41:35
  Speaker 15: get my meds met in this relationship because they don't care,
• 41:38
  Speaker 15: and all those thoughts go through my head and those
• 41:40
  Speaker 15: shoes can well guess what, that picking up the phone
• 41:43
  Speaker 15: or that interrupting our conversation in order to finish up
• 41:46
  Speaker 15: your text message becomes a symbol for how unhappy I
• 41:50
  Speaker 15: am in the relationship. You see what I'm saying that
• 41:53
  Speaker 15: it's not the fact that that distraction is there, it's
• 41:56
  Speaker 15: what I'm doing in my head with it when I
• 41:58
  Speaker 15: see it happen in relation to the bigger relationship that
• 42:01
  Speaker 15: I wish I were having but can't now.
• 42:04
  Speaker 2: And oh my god, I can't believe I'm gonna say this.
• 42:07
  Speaker 2: When somebody goes to pick up their phone and you
• 42:10
  Speaker 2: don't like it. What were you doing before.
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: For that to happen?
• 42:15
  Speaker 2: If you and I are having a conversation Michael, and
• 42:18
  Speaker 2: you pick up your phone in the middle of our conversation,
• 42:21
  Speaker 2: you and I, or if I pick up my phone,
• 42:22
  Speaker 2: you are You and I are both going to look
• 42:23
  Speaker 2: at you to each other and go, really, we're in
• 42:26
  Speaker 2: the middle of a conversation. You're probably not going to
• 42:28
  Speaker 2: pick up your phone. But if we're sitting in the
• 42:32
  Speaker 2: house together, what am I doing to the point that
• 42:37
  Speaker 2: you go pick up your phone. Well, we're obviously I'm
• 42:40
  Speaker 2: not interacting with you if you're going to go get
• 42:42
  Speaker 2: interact with your phone. So it goes back to what
• 42:46
  Speaker 2: are you doing?
• 42:47
  Speaker 15: That's interesting because I've heard you kind of talk about
• 42:51
  Speaker 15: sex that way that a lot of guys who complain
• 42:53
  Speaker 15: that they're not getting my sex just aren't very interesting.
• 42:57
  Speaker 15: You are not getting there at partner's attention. They're now
• 43:00
  Speaker 15: they're not quoting them, and in a sense, you're kind
• 43:02
  Speaker 15: of right now mid conversation. A lot of it is habits.
• 43:06
  Speaker 15: There's phones have us really well programmed that when they
• 43:09
  Speaker 15: vibrate or bell being in our pocket, they're telling us,
• 43:13
  Speaker 15: hey got a little surprised for you.
• 43:14
  Speaker 2: Yeah, a little present.
• 43:15
  Speaker 15: All you got to do is look at it. And
• 43:17
  Speaker 15: then somebody will have said something, you know, in relation
• 43:21
  Speaker 15: to a conversation you are just having. Oh they do.
• 43:24
  Speaker 15: They just have us so programmed to kind of check
• 43:27
  Speaker 15: those out. It might you're being in that relationship might
• 43:30
  Speaker 15: be the fact that you have got cocaine in your pocket.
• 43:35
  Speaker 2: Cordy Michael, good morning. Okay, so we're talking during the
• 43:39
  Speaker 2: songs and the commercials about technology distractions in your relationship.
• 43:44
  Speaker 2: They've always been there. I mean the TV, the phone
• 43:48
  Speaker 2: on the wall, magazines, reading the paper. There's always been
• 43:52
  Speaker 2: distractions there. You've said these. This one seems to be
• 43:57
  Speaker 2: like cocaine in our pocket. The funniest thing I've heard
• 44:01
  Speaker 2: all day.
• 44:03
  Speaker 14: So think about it.
• 44:04
  Speaker 15: You know, most people do not like social media, but
• 44:08
  Speaker 15: they say I won't give it up.
• 44:10
  Speaker 1: Yeah, well I didn't know that.
• 44:12
  Speaker 14: Yeah.
• 44:13
  Speaker 15: Most people say, my life would probably be better without
• 44:15
  Speaker 15: social media. Well, are you going to use it?
• 44:17
  Speaker 3: Law?
• 44:18
  Speaker 15: Well, I'm not going to use it with.
• 44:21
  Speaker 1: So let me ask you this question, Michael.
• 44:24
  Speaker 2: When it comes to communicating with somebody, especially your partner,
• 44:30
  Speaker 2: can we can we as society today have the same
• 44:36
  Speaker 2: level of conversation face to face, talking on the telephone,
• 44:44
  Speaker 2: and texting.
• 44:48
  Speaker 15: I think there are some people who believe you can
• 44:51
  Speaker 15: okay every down. Then somebody runs a text message. They're
• 44:56
  Speaker 15: going to send a past me just to kind of
• 44:59
  Speaker 15: check the impact that's going to have on the other person.
• 45:02
  Speaker 15: And before they even do that, I'm already thinking, if
• 45:06
  Speaker 15: you're a concern about how they're going to accept that
• 45:09
  Speaker 15: one the problem, you know, or go show up. But
• 45:14
  Speaker 15: they they go ahead, They'll read the text message to
• 45:17
  Speaker 15: me and I almost always say, yeah, you shoul probably
• 45:21
  Speaker 15: call them.
• 45:24
  Speaker 14: You should probably just.
• 45:24
  Speaker 15: Give them a phone call.
• 45:25
  Speaker 2: That is hilarious.
• 45:28
  Speaker 15: If you're wondering how your message might come across, then
• 45:31
  Speaker 15: you probably want to go up to the next level
• 45:33
  Speaker 15: of sort of intimacy and completeness of communication. It has
• 45:39
  Speaker 15: been said that you know, seventy five eighty percent of
• 45:41
  Speaker 15: communication is non verbal. Okay, if it's nonverbal, I promise
• 45:46
  Speaker 15: you that little emoji is not going to fully communicate
• 45:49
  Speaker 15: all of the feelings that you. I use them because
• 45:52
  Speaker 15: I do want people to know I'm okay with a thing.
• 45:56
  Speaker 15: You know, somebody needs to cancel an appointment, I'll send
• 46:00
  Speaker 15: my message of okay, we can reschedule with the smiling face.
• 46:03
  Speaker 15: So yeah, I'm not like somehow unhappy.
• 46:07
  Speaker 1: Yeah whatever about that.
• 46:08
  Speaker 15: So I will use them, but sometimes they're not enough.
• 46:11
  Speaker 14: They just aren't.
• 46:12
  Speaker 15: You've got to pick up the phone. You got to
• 46:14
  Speaker 15: or tell them, hey, when would be a good time
• 46:15
  Speaker 15: for us to talk? You know, you got a minute
• 46:17
  Speaker 15: and later on today and then have the conversation voice
• 46:20
  Speaker 15: to voice.
• 46:21
  Speaker 2: Well, let me ask you, guys, Michael, because there is
• 46:24
  Speaker 2: a generation maybe two now, two or three generations now
• 46:28
  Speaker 2: that never had to go to somebody's house and have
• 46:33
  Speaker 2: a conversation because well, there was a miscommunication at work,
• 46:38
  Speaker 2: something didn't go over right, something doesn't sit right. I
• 46:41
  Speaker 2: got to drive to this person's house, knock on their
• 46:43
  Speaker 2: door and say, hey, what happened was a big miscommunication.
• 46:47
  Speaker 2: I didn't mean to do this or you didn't mean
• 46:48
  Speaker 2: to do that. And then but there's a whole generation
• 46:52
  Speaker 2: or maybe maybe two or three at this point, that
• 46:54
  Speaker 2: I've never had to do that. So great are they
• 46:57
  Speaker 2: communicating as well as you? When I communicate face to
• 47:01
  Speaker 2: face through text, messaging or through social media, I don't know.
• 47:06
  Speaker 15: I've seen a sad kind of thing happen where people
• 47:09
  Speaker 15: are pretty quick to write other people off. They'll just
• 47:13
  Speaker 15: sort of like put them in this category of incorrigible.
• 47:16
  Speaker 15: You know, you are not a good person, and since
• 47:18
  Speaker 15: you're in that not good person category, then I'm just
• 47:21
  Speaker 15: not going to have anything to do with you anymore.
• 47:23
  Speaker 15: I've seen a sad kind of tendency of people to
• 47:25
  Speaker 15: do that, and they just kind of like you unfriend
• 47:28
  Speaker 15: somebody on social media, you unfriend them in real life too,
• 47:33
  Speaker 15: because you don't want to sit down and have that
• 47:35
  Speaker 15: conversation of hey, when I invited you to the thing
• 47:38
  Speaker 15: and you said yes, then you didn't go, but you
• 47:40
  Speaker 15: wanted to, you know that other person thing. I was
• 47:42
  Speaker 15: just kind of like, oh, you know that stumm a
• 47:44
  Speaker 15: little bit. Say that to them, Say that to them,
• 47:48
  Speaker 15: and maybe they'll go, oh, you know what, You're right,
• 47:52
  Speaker 15: that was kind of a crappy thing to do and
• 47:54
  Speaker 15: come sorry. And now all of a sudden you have
• 47:56
  Speaker 15: a friend for life because you just actually were real
• 47:59
  Speaker 15: with each other.
• 48:01
  Speaker 14: Yeah.
• 48:01
  Speaker 2: I've met plenty of people that didn't like it. We
• 48:04
  Speaker 2: met at the bar, didn't like each other, and now
• 48:06
  Speaker 2: we've friends, go on vacations together. It started with this conversation. Yeah,
• 48:13
  Speaker 2: oh absolutely, So as a whole my going I know
• 48:17
  Speaker 2: this is a little bit away from what it has
• 48:19
  Speaker 2: to do with the relationships, but as a whole, this
• 48:22
  Speaker 2: whole internet thing's supposed to be bringing us closer, but
• 48:25
  Speaker 2: it seems like it's alienating us more because, like you
• 48:28
  Speaker 2: just said, if I can write you off because I
• 48:30
  Speaker 2: got fourteen other friends in my whatever social media, now,
• 48:35
  Speaker 2: I just I don't need you anymore.
• 48:39
  Speaker 15: That doesn't seem picture healthy parent telling OK, well, why
• 48:42
  Speaker 15: don't you just go talk to him? And the kid
• 48:44
  Speaker 15: just looking at the parent like they're from.
• 48:45
  Speaker 1: Another planet to go talk to them.
• 48:49
  Speaker 9: What are we talking about people anymore?
• 48:53
  Speaker 15: You're talking about those days way back when when you
• 48:56
  Speaker 15: actually had to touch things to make them work.
• 48:58
  Speaker 2: All right. I always be one last question, Michael before
• 49:01
  Speaker 2: you get out of here, and that is this, you
• 49:04
  Speaker 2: and I have different ideas when it comes to the
• 49:07
  Speaker 2: fate of the human race. I still have faith, all
• 49:10
  Speaker 2: have more faith than you, though I know you still
• 49:12
  Speaker 2: have faith, but I got more faith. Would have you
• 49:16
  Speaker 2: ever seen in the last few years a group of
• 49:19
  Speaker 2: kids that don't have cell phones in front of them
• 49:22
  Speaker 2: riot hats and how they interact with each other, they
• 49:26
  Speaker 2: find something to do together. It's the most amazing thing.
• 49:30
  Speaker 2: If you stick up now, they'll be mad for about
• 49:33
  Speaker 2: twenty minutes and they'll yell and scream and cry. Well,
• 49:35
  Speaker 2: once they realize they're not getting their technology, it's amazing
• 49:39
  Speaker 2: how they actually figure out how to pass the time
• 49:43
  Speaker 2: with each other in a positive way.
• 49:45
  Speaker 15: I think there's a really great opportunity for people who
• 49:49
  Speaker 15: want to start in prov classes because you're going to
• 49:52
  Speaker 15: be teaching kids how to actually have a conversation with
• 49:56
  Speaker 15: each other, how to actually come up with something to say, yeah,
• 50:01
  Speaker 15: face to face with another human being. Uh yeah, it's uh,
• 50:05
  Speaker 15: we we do. We have that need. Our electronics that
• 50:08
  Speaker 15: are always with us are kind of taking that over
• 50:11
  Speaker 15: for us. We're doing more and more of the work
• 50:14
  Speaker 15: of actually, I don't know, just interacting and being a
• 50:18
  Speaker 15: social person. And you're right, man, I think you mentioned
• 50:23
  Speaker 15: during one of the one of the breaks that you
• 50:25
  Speaker 15: had a great time with friends. You forgot your phone,
• 50:30
  Speaker 15: forgot it, and all of a sudden, you were present,
• 50:32
  Speaker 15: You were there, you were noticing what's going on around
• 50:34
  Speaker 15: you in a way that you probably wouldn't have if
• 50:36
  Speaker 15: you haven't forgotten your phone.
• 50:37
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yesterday for what Michael thought. Yesterday, I went to
• 50:40
  Speaker 2: a party at a restaurant. I didn't have my phone,
• 50:43
  Speaker 2: my keys. Well, well I had nothing. Somebody just said
• 50:45
  Speaker 2: let's go. I just jumped in the car. And when
• 50:48
  Speaker 2: didn't that I was the only one there without a phone.
• 50:50
  Speaker 2: Had a great time, didn't bother me?
• 50:52
  Speaker 15: Had a great time. You had a great time. When
• 50:54
  Speaker 15: we have a great time, what we do when we
• 50:56
  Speaker 15: put down those phones? Only to figure out that, hey,
• 50:59
  Speaker 15: when we have a meal to get other the phones
• 51:00
  Speaker 15: are off limits. They have a way better meal together.
• 51:03
  Speaker 15: We got together. There's not somebody kind of off in
• 51:07
  Speaker 15: their own little emotional corner having a conversation with somebody else.
• 51:10
  Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, Michael, got to get you out of here.
• 51:12
  Speaker 2: Michael Bean from the Marriaging Family Center six one, three
• 51:15
  Speaker 2: two seven fifty one hundred. Was a great conversation, Michael.
• 51:18
  Speaker 2: We will talk to you next week.
• 51:20
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 51:21
  Speaker 2: Now, I've been trying to get to this for a
• 51:23
  Speaker 2: few days.
• 51:24
  Speaker 1: Casino stories. I mean, I used to be a huge gambler.
• 51:26
  Speaker 2: Started gambling with a fake ID when I was seventeen
• 51:31
  Speaker 2: and used to go all the time to Reno gamp
• 51:33
  Speaker 2: So I gambled a lot you used to.
• 51:34
  Speaker 1: I quit gambling a few years ago completely.
• 51:39
  Speaker 2: But my crazy friend and I was with her last night,
• 51:45
  Speaker 2: and so she came at me.
• 51:48
  Speaker 1: She's a gambler.
• 51:48
  Speaker 2: She likes to go to the casino a couple of times
• 51:50
  Speaker 2: a week, two or three times a week. Got the
• 51:52
  Speaker 2: player's card and everything right. But this crazy lady, she
• 51:56
  Speaker 2: was telling me that she's been winning, you know. But
• 52:01
  Speaker 2: she told me, and I don't know if this is
• 52:03
  Speaker 2: true or not. She told me that she believes that
• 52:08
  Speaker 2: she's being tracked through her player card, which is what
• 52:11
  Speaker 2: they do. They track how much you spend, how much
• 52:14
  Speaker 2: you win. They send you discounts, they send you free rooms,
• 52:16
  Speaker 2: they send you free show tickets because they know you're
• 52:19
  Speaker 2: a gambler and they.
• 52:20
  Speaker 1: Want you in their casino.
• 52:23
  Speaker 2: And she told me that she stopped using her player's
• 52:27
  Speaker 2: card because she hasn't been winning. She believes that the
• 52:32
  Speaker 2: player card that can dictate what the machine, the slot
• 52:38
  Speaker 2: machine you play pays or lose, wins or loses based
• 52:43
  Speaker 2: on how they're tracking you. So she thinks that she's
• 52:47
  Speaker 2: won too much at the casino. So every time she
• 52:50
  Speaker 2: uses her player's card, now that it is controlling the
• 52:54
  Speaker 2: slot machine to not allow her to win.
• 53:02
  Speaker 1: I think she's crazy.
• 53:05
  Speaker 2: But obviously I don't go to Indian casinos because I'm.
• 53:09
  Speaker 1: Not a gambler.
• 53:11
  Speaker 2: But back in my day, some slots they call them loose.
• 53:15
  Speaker 2: If they were paying, they call them loose slots. If
• 53:17
  Speaker 2: they weren't playing, they called them tight slots. So different hotels,
• 53:20
  Speaker 2: different casinos had looser slots. Sometimes during the month they
• 53:25
  Speaker 2: were looser or tighter.
• 53:26
  Speaker 1: Just I guess. I don't know how they decided that.
• 53:29
  Speaker 2: But she's saying that now, But that was an actual
• 53:32
  Speaker 2: mechanical uh, a mechanical fix that the technicians had to
• 53:37
  Speaker 2: do it. They couldn't use a player card to determine
• 53:41
  Speaker 2: whether you're going to hit or not.
• 53:44
  Speaker 1: I think she's crazy. Hey four, two, five, four or seven?
• 53:47
  Speaker 1: That's seven?
• 53:47
  Speaker 2: Where's Gilly? Gilly goes a lot. He'll he'll be able
• 53:50
  Speaker 2: to tell me what's going on with these new machines.
• 53:52
  Speaker 2: Maybe they do have the.
• 53:52
  Speaker 17: Technology at what's the Romans?
• 53:54
  Speaker 8: The Seahawks Blue Man?
• 53:56
  Speaker 4: What Loue?
• 53:58
  Speaker 10: Hey Rome?
• 53:58
  Speaker 11: So my whole life, you know, I've always been a
• 54:03
  Speaker 11: loser when it comes to gambling. Okay, and uh, there's
• 54:09
  Speaker 11: time where I was going to Ego.
• 54:12
  Speaker 8: Mountain and losing a lot of money, okay, until I
• 54:15
  Speaker 8: got one of their little cards.
• 54:17
  Speaker 1: Okay, the player's card.
• 54:18
  Speaker 8: Okay, yeah, yeah, the player's card, and then I started winning.
• 54:23
  Speaker 8: But it was winning like fifty bucks, twenty bucks, you know,
• 54:28
  Speaker 8: on like five and I'll pull out twenty okay. And
• 54:32
  Speaker 8: I think the player's card does control. But I think
• 54:36
  Speaker 8: it gives you money more than it takes your money.
• 54:40
  Speaker 2: Well, my crazy ass friend thinks because she's won a
• 54:43
  Speaker 2: certain amount of money that now every time she puts
• 54:45
  Speaker 2: the player her player's card in that the machine tells it.
• 54:49
  Speaker 1: Not to win.
• 54:54
  Speaker 4: Nah, I don't think it's true.
• 54:56
  Speaker 2: Room, I don't know.
• 54:59
  Speaker 8: I don't true, man, because I mean I went from
• 55:02
  Speaker 8: being a loser to the machine to you know, but.
• 55:04
  Speaker 2: That would that would say that, because you got that
• 55:09
  Speaker 2: player's card, every time you use it, it follows and
• 55:13
  Speaker 2: tracks everything you've done, the amount of money you've put in,
• 55:16
  Speaker 2: the amount of money you've lost and won, and so
• 55:18
  Speaker 2: it's allowing you to win now because.
• 55:20
  Speaker 1: To keep you coming back.
• 55:23
  Speaker 2: That would be her logic. That would be her Her
• 55:27
  Speaker 2: logic is that she's won so much that now it's
• 55:31
  Speaker 2: not it's when she uses her player card, it's not
• 55:33
  Speaker 2: allowing her to win.
• 55:36
  Speaker 14: Yeah, I get it, I get it.
• 55:37
  Speaker 8: Yeah, I don't know. That's a strange one.
• 55:40
  Speaker 15: Indeed, I don't know.
• 55:42
  Speaker 2: All right, all right, we'll find out. Somebody's got to know.
• 55:47
  Speaker 2: I mean, I don't, I don't know. I mean, I
• 55:50
  Speaker 2: know that every casino has the capability of controlling their
• 55:57
  Speaker 2: machines and how much they pay out versus how much
• 56:00
  Speaker 2: they don't pay out. But is the technology so advanced
• 56:05
  Speaker 2: that a player's card will do that will change what
• 56:10
  Speaker 2: the machine does based on who you are and how
• 56:12
  Speaker 2: much you won or lost or no romeo.
• 56:16
  Speaker 7: I think she might be onto something because every time
• 56:19
  Speaker 7: that I've ever won, I won without using my member's card,
• 56:26
  Speaker 7: But then when I yes my members card, it seems
• 56:28
  Speaker 7: like I never win. Athing just enough to get me
• 56:30
  Speaker 7: over but no, no big jackpots.
• 56:33
  Speaker 15: Uh.
• 56:34
  Speaker 7: So I think she might be right, because you're even
• 56:37
  Speaker 7: bigger into that.
• 56:38
  Speaker 19: Have you ever thought about something like, oh my foot.
• 56:41
  Speaker 7: Hurts and then your phone pops up insults for your shoe.
• 56:45
  Speaker 19: They're listening, they're watching.
• 56:47
  Speaker 14: Yeah, I have some freaky things like that happened.
• 56:50
  Speaker 2: Okay, may okay.
• 56:52
  Speaker 19: The man is always watching the eye and the sky
• 56:54
  Speaker 19: is honest Romeo?
• 56:55
  Speaker 2: All right, all right, all right, I just don't do that.
• 57:01
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 57:02
  Speaker 2: Do you think that these casinos is Indian casinos or
• 57:05
  Speaker 2: maybe any casino? Because my crazy ass friend thinks her
• 57:09
  Speaker 2: player's card that she uses determines whether she wins or
• 57:12
  Speaker 2: losing based on how much she's won already, so she
• 57:16
  Speaker 2: stopped using her player's card. So do machines have that
• 57:22
  Speaker 2: technology to dictate person by person in real time who
• 57:26
  Speaker 2: they're going to pay out and who they're not based
• 57:28
  Speaker 2: on their players card and the information on it.
• 57:32
  Speaker 1: That's wild?
• 57:34
  Speaker 2: Yeah, what's going on?
• 57:36
  Speaker 13: I'm matter your friend's not completely wrong. So the RNG,
• 57:41
  Speaker 13: the numbers that get generated every time you play, they can't,
• 57:46
  Speaker 13: like the cards can't dictate that like they can't like
• 57:48
  Speaker 13: you put your card in and then oh no, you
• 57:52
  Speaker 13: can't win. What it does is it does track what
• 57:54
  Speaker 13: games you play, and then the casinos could set the
• 57:57
  Speaker 13: limits on those games. So if a lot of people
• 57:59
  Speaker 13: that we're freaquent that casino are playing a specific slot,
• 58:03
  Speaker 13: they could change the winnings on that slot to be
• 58:06
  Speaker 13: more in their favors.
• 58:07
  Speaker 10: That's kind of how that works.
• 58:08
  Speaker 14: That's when I work there, that's kind of okay.
• 58:10
  Speaker 2: Okay, So, but it's not and can specifically in real time,
• 58:14
  Speaker 2: person by person based on what's on their player's card.
• 58:18
  Speaker 20: No, okay, because the r the RNG is it's random
• 58:22
  Speaker 20: numbers every single time. So if you watch, for example,
• 58:24
  Speaker 20: five hundred dollars, yeah, and then you go to that
• 58:26
  Speaker 20: same slot and then you lose that five hundred dollars,
• 58:28
  Speaker 20: has nothing to do.
• 58:29
  Speaker 14: With your card in there.
• 58:31
  Speaker 4: It's just you.
• 58:31
  Speaker 2: Loky on those random numbers.
• 58:34
  Speaker 1: So she's crazy. She's definitely crazy.
• 58:36
  Speaker 2: Okay. I so, my crazy friend, she thinks that her
• 58:43
  Speaker 2: player's card is preventing her from winning at the casinos.
• 58:46
  Speaker 2: Now she says that she thinks she's won too much money.
• 58:49
  Speaker 2: So now every machine she tries to play, when she
• 58:52
  Speaker 2: puts your player's card in that, it's telling the machine
• 58:56
  Speaker 2: is telling the player's card based on her information, is
• 59:01
  Speaker 2: telling the machine to not allow her to win. I
• 59:04
  Speaker 2: don't know. That sounds a little nutty to me, but
• 59:07
  Speaker 2: they do tracking yo. Rome Casino games are man made
• 59:11
  Speaker 2: technology technology gaming systems. Of course, they can mean to
• 59:14
  Speaker 2: manipulate it in programmed I'm sure they have their winning
• 59:17
  Speaker 2: algorithms set in place. That's how you lose more than
• 59:22
  Speaker 2: you win. If you won more then you lost, casinos
• 59:25
  Speaker 2: would be nonexistent.
• 59:27
  Speaker 1: I understand that.
• 59:28
  Speaker 2: But it's like the last guy said, you, the way
• 59:31
  Speaker 2: I've understood casino machines slot machines.
• 59:36
  Speaker 1: To work is.
• 59:37
  Speaker 2: They set them at a certain They either set them loose,
• 59:40
  Speaker 2: so they set them tight. Okay, some pay out a
• 59:43
  Speaker 2: little more, some pay out a little less. What she
• 59:48
  Speaker 2: is saying, though, is and what you're saying is right.
• 59:52
  Speaker 2: They do, you know, they do set their machines to
• 59:55
  Speaker 2: pay out a certain percentage of the time. But what
• 1:00:00
  Speaker 2: she's saying is when she puts her player's card into
• 1:00:05
  Speaker 2: a machine, it's deciding and reading her information to the
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 2: point that it's saying, Okay, she's not gonna win because
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 2: she's already won x amount of dollars because she's been
• 1:00:20
  Speaker 2: tracked by her player's card. So that means it's happening
• 1:00:24
  Speaker 2: in real time. And I've never known a casino a
• 1:00:29
  Speaker 2: slot machine to be able to act like that in
• 1:00:33
  Speaker 2: real time based on the player card that's inserted into
• 1:00:37
  Speaker 2: the machine.
• 1:00:38
  Speaker 1: I thought, and the last guy said it, they set.
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 2: Them to win or lose at a certain percentage, and
• 1:00:47
  Speaker 2: it was the luck of the draw of when you
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 2: walked in and when you sat down, or what machine
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 2: you played.
• 1:00:52
  Speaker 1: She thinks she's being She.
• 1:00:54
  Speaker 2: Thinks she's being that she's being targeted because her player
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 2: cards X amount of doll So now all the machines
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 2: that she's using are gonna She's gonna lose at your card,
• 1:01:07
  Speaker 2: not because of what the machines are said at from
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 2: a win loss percentage.
• 1:01:12
  Speaker 1: Okay, you guys make sense.
• 1:01:15
  Speaker 2: She's crazy, Yo, rom I wonder if the player's card
• 1:01:18
  Speaker 2: allows you to get information to see the amount of
• 1:01:20
  Speaker 2: winnings and your amount you have lost, so you can
• 1:01:23
  Speaker 2: see your win loss ratio.
• 1:01:25
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so, dud, that's what player cards are.
• 1:01:26
  Speaker 2: It monitors how much you play, how much you pay
• 1:01:30
  Speaker 2: or how much you win, how much you lose, and
• 1:01:32
  Speaker 2: what machines you play the most. Is what a player's
• 1:01:34
  Speaker 2: card does. It tracks everything. It tracks everything you've done.
• 1:01:39
  Speaker 2: In a player's card is actually worse than the government.
• 1:01:43
  Speaker 2: It tracks everything you do. I think it even tracks
• 1:01:46
  Speaker 2: when you go to the restroom. So since some of
• 1:01:48
  Speaker 2: you guys brought up casinos and the fact that you've
• 1:01:51
  Speaker 2: found money in Vegas and a casino, let me tell
• 1:01:54
  Speaker 2: you some casino stories. I have always wondered my entire life.
• 1:01:59
  Speaker 2: I've always wondered why I've never found money in Vegas
• 1:02:02
  Speaker 2: or Reno or Tahoe. Right, I've never I thought, Man,
• 1:02:05
  Speaker 2: all this money around here you never find, and all
• 1:02:07
  Speaker 2: these drunk people, you never find a wallet, You never
• 1:02:10
  Speaker 2: find nothing. Right, But let me tell you some I
• 1:02:13
  Speaker 2: got some good casino stories for you.
• 1:02:15
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 1:02:18
  Speaker 2: So I started gambling early because on the reservation we
• 1:02:22
  Speaker 2: had bingo parlors, bingo parlors and pool taps, so we
• 1:02:27
  Speaker 2: would my mam would let us play the pool taps,
• 1:02:29
  Speaker 2: she'd buy them for us. Right, So we started gambling.
• 1:02:31
  Speaker 2: My parents are gamblers, right, We started gambling early. We
• 1:02:33
  Speaker 2: used to go to Reno all the time, and I
• 1:02:36
  Speaker 2: started gambling in Reno on my own at about seventeen.
• 1:02:40
  Speaker 2: I had another friend who was twenty one, and we
• 1:02:43
  Speaker 2: would drive up to Reno. I had a fake ID
• 1:02:47
  Speaker 2: and it never bothered me. You know, Cayle Neva was
• 1:02:50
  Speaker 2: our spot. We'd get calm. Everybody knew us. And but
• 1:02:54
  Speaker 2: you know, so on my twenty first birthdays, the first
• 1:02:58
  Speaker 2: time I gambled legally, and I go to a craps
• 1:03:02
  Speaker 2: table and I never played craps before. You know, I
• 1:03:05
  Speaker 2: just played machines and cards because that's what I was raised.
• 1:03:08
  Speaker 1: I never played craps.
• 1:03:08
  Speaker 2: For big old Texan with a cowboy ten gallon hat on.
• 1:03:14
  Speaker 2: I walk up and I'm looking, and he goes, what's
• 1:03:16
  Speaker 2: going on, son?
• 1:03:17
  Speaker 1: I said, well, I never played craps. Force my twenty
• 1:03:19
  Speaker 1: first birthday.
• 1:03:20
  Speaker 15: I want.
• 1:03:21
  Speaker 1: He says, well, let's go.
• 1:03:22
  Speaker 2: Let me show you how to play some craps right
• 1:03:24
  Speaker 2: I was there for a couple of hours and he
• 1:03:26
  Speaker 2: was showing me everything.
• 1:03:27
  Speaker 1: I'm rolling. I don't know what I'm doing. I'm playing.
• 1:03:30
  Speaker 2: I go, all right, well so I had to go.
• 1:03:32
  Speaker 2: He goes, I go all right. I go, well, I'm
• 1:03:35
  Speaker 2: gonna take off, thank you for teaching me how to play,
• 1:03:38
  Speaker 2: and hands me two thousand dollars and chips.
• 1:03:42
  Speaker 1: He goes, here, son, take this, and I go what for?
• 1:03:45
  Speaker 1: I asked him up for?
• 1:03:46
  Speaker 2: He goes, well, you want me a lot of money
• 1:03:47
  Speaker 2: right now? And I had a good time take this money?
• 1:03:51
  Speaker 2: So I did two grand. Another story I was at
• 1:03:56
  Speaker 2: I was at the Eldorado. Now a lot of you
• 1:03:57
  Speaker 2: guys gamblers won't know this. They used to call the horse,
• 1:04:00
  Speaker 2: you know, called the They used to have a circle
• 1:04:02
  Speaker 2: of machines and then an outer circle of machines. I
• 1:04:06
  Speaker 2: don't know if they still do that casinos because I
• 1:04:08
  Speaker 2: don't gamble anymore. But father and son, this is back
• 1:04:12
  Speaker 2: when five dollars was big time. Father and son playing
• 1:04:15
  Speaker 2: five dollar slots. I'm sitting there with a group of
• 1:04:18
  Speaker 2: people watching. Kid comes by, hands me some hands me
• 1:04:23
  Speaker 2: some five dollar token, says, play that machine, play that machine.
• 1:04:26
  Speaker 2: So I'm dropping them in. Hits, hits clean. I think
• 1:04:30
  Speaker 2: it was red, white and blue sevens or something like that. Right,
• 1:04:32
  Speaker 2: So it's like, I don't know, it might have been
• 1:04:34
  Speaker 2: four thousand or five thousand dollars. And I'm looking at
• 1:04:38
  Speaker 2: I'm looking at the machine. The kid comes back, Oh man,
• 1:04:40
  Speaker 2: you hit. I didn't know what to do. Father comes around.
• 1:04:43
  Speaker 1: What happened?
• 1:04:44
  Speaker 2: I said, you know, he hooked me up for some
• 1:04:46
  Speaker 2: you know, he goes, Just give him back the coins,
• 1:04:48
  Speaker 2: however many coins he gave him to you, Just give
• 1:04:50
  Speaker 2: him back those coins. You'd be good.
• 1:04:53
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 1:04:53
  Speaker 2: I haven't damn lucky at casinos in my life.
• 1:04:57
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I got some funny.
• 1:04:57
  Speaker 2: I got a couple other stories, Yeah, I really do.
• 1:05:00
  Speaker 2: I got a few other stories about being casinos. Talk
• 1:05:02
  Speaker 2: about casino stories, right, I got a whole bunch of
• 1:05:05
  Speaker 2: casinos stories.
• 1:05:06
  Speaker 10: Man.
• 1:05:07
  Speaker 2: I remember one time my grandfather and I we went
• 1:05:09
  Speaker 2: up for my well, the whole family went for my
• 1:05:12
  Speaker 2: aunt's wedding in Lake Tahoe. My grandfather and I were
• 1:05:15
  Speaker 2: playing craps, right, and I'm pretty good at craps, but
• 1:05:18
  Speaker 2: I know my grandfather's way richer than I was at
• 1:05:20
  Speaker 2: the time, still very richer than me before. But next
• 1:05:24
  Speaker 2: morning wakes me up about seven ams, the son, let's go,
• 1:05:27
  Speaker 2: let's go out breakfast, and I was tired, went and
• 1:05:30
  Speaker 2: had break with breakfast with him, hands me ten thousand
• 1:05:33
  Speaker 2: dollars in cash and goes, don't tell your dad, He goes,
• 1:05:35
  Speaker 2: but I won a lot of money last night with
• 1:05:37
  Speaker 2: you here. Take this.
• 1:05:38
  Speaker 1: You're going to need it for college.
• 1:05:39
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's crazy. And what's funny is I lived with
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  Speaker 2: him at the time in college. Good morning, not you
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  Speaker 2: got a casino story, yo, room. I always played the
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  Speaker 2: roulette wheel in Vegas. I was betting outside. Can't remember
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  Speaker 2: if I went red or black, but the opposite color hit.
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  Speaker 1: The dealer never noticed it.
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  Speaker 2: One of the betters wanted to say something to the
• 1:05:59
  Speaker 2: deal I did the emoji sign to him.
• 1:06:03
  Speaker 1: I don't know what that is.
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  Speaker 2: I remember the first time I learned how to play.
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  Speaker 2: My mom's a huge gambler. She plays Is it back
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  Speaker 2: a rat or is it pigal? I think it's pie
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  Speaker 2: gal poker. And so my mom says, hey, let's go
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  Speaker 2: play pie gal poker. And I said, okay, So I'm
• 1:06:24
  Speaker 2: playing pi Gal poker, and I hit big, big, big.
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  Speaker 1: I had no idea what the hell I was doing.
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  Speaker 1: Hit big, so I missed it.
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  Speaker 2: Every single at the person, every single person at the
• 1:06:38
  Speaker 2: table screamed out he won, like all of them, and
• 1:06:43
  Speaker 2: said exactly what I won. They stopped the whole table,
• 1:06:47
  Speaker 2: Every single person at table stopped the table so they
• 1:06:50
  Speaker 2: could go back to the cameras. And I hit some
• 1:06:54
  Speaker 2: sort of something that won me, like a hundred to
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  Speaker 2: one or a thousand.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know what it was. It was something I
• 1:06:59
  Speaker 1: don't play. I don't play pie Gal.
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  Speaker 2: But the whole table, whole table stock and made sure
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  Speaker 2: that I got my cut or whatever I want, and
• 1:07:06
  Speaker 2: they had to go back to look the camera. They
• 1:07:08
  Speaker 2: did it all and they paid me. It was another deal,
• 1:07:10
  Speaker 2: but it was just funny. Before the the whole table
• 1:07:13
  Speaker 2: stopped and said no, he won, which means everybody was
• 1:07:16
  Speaker 2: watching everybody. It was funny. All right, casino stories. I
• 1:07:20
  Speaker 2: got some good casinos stories for you. Hey, Roam, My
• 1:07:23
  Speaker 2: mom wins often and she never uses her members card.
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  Speaker 2: Her highest win was a car but opted out for
• 1:07:31
  Speaker 2: the cash thirty a g.
• 1:07:33
  Speaker 1: Man, that's awesome.
• 1:07:35
  Speaker 2: But yes, then maybe though I don't know, man, maybe
• 1:07:39
  Speaker 2: the player's card is preventing my friend from winning.
• 1:07:42
  Speaker 1: Hey, Rome, I want a guy two K or No.
• 1:07:46
  Speaker 2: Twenty twenty one k at the Golden Gate on a table.
• 1:07:51
  Speaker 1: He gave me five hundred bucks. I went out.
• 1:07:53
  Speaker 2: I went out onto the Fremont and had me a
• 1:07:56
  Speaker 2: good time with my buddies. Paid for drinks for the
• 1:08:00
  Speaker 2: rest of the night. Oh that's awesome. That's cool. Bring
• 1:08:03
  Speaker 2: out what's going.
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  Speaker 19: On, so, Bromio, I have a good Well, that's a
• 1:08:07
  Speaker 19: gambling story, you know, like you, I like playing craps.
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  Speaker 19: A few years ago we went out there and I
• 1:08:15
  Speaker 19: was watching this guy and he was winging, so I
• 1:08:17
  Speaker 19: just started betting everything. He was betting sixties eight. So
• 1:08:20
  Speaker 19: I was doubling up in my bed and I don't
• 1:08:23
  Speaker 19: know if it was a blind or all small as
• 1:08:27
  Speaker 19: all large, but we.
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  Speaker 15: End up hitting and I won.
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  Speaker 14: I ended up winning for like a week.
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  Speaker 19: Every day I won at least over a grand, ranted
• 1:08:36
  Speaker 19: the room, took my wife out to dinner, bet one
• 1:08:39
  Speaker 19: hundred dollars. I'd end up winning about fifteen hundred, two
• 1:08:43
  Speaker 19: thousand dollars.
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  Speaker 14: I did it for about a week.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 19: Finally my wife was like, we got to go home.
• 1:08:48
  Speaker 14: Man, the babysitar's calling works calling.
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  Speaker 19: And I bought myself a robe, a cigarette holder out.
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  Speaker 4: I thought I was.
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  Speaker 19: Robert de Niro out there like I can do this forever.
• 1:09:01
  Speaker 4: He's like, right a, Dave, I'm going home. You know,
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  Speaker 4: if you don't leave, you're crazy.
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  Speaker 19: But so, yeah, I had a.
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  Speaker 4: Real good time. About seven eight days.
• 1:09:09
  Speaker 19: I stood out there just gambling craps every night.
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  Speaker 2: That's okay.
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  Speaker 19: I ended up coming home with a lot, a lot
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  Speaker 19: over twenty grands.
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  Speaker 14: Oh good, it's possible, all right, all right, you know
• 1:09:21
  Speaker 14: it's funny.
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  Speaker 2: I hear these stories of people winning these twenty one
• 1:09:24
  Speaker 2: or twenty plus grand ten grand. I have never won
• 1:09:29
  Speaker 2: that much. I have, well, I guess I did on
• 1:09:34
  Speaker 2: the on the on a on a wee on a
• 1:09:38
  Speaker 2: slot machine one time, but that was the guy gave
• 1:09:40
  Speaker 2: me the money to play on that slot machine. But
• 1:09:42
  Speaker 2: usually I've had people give me money for helping them
• 1:09:45
  Speaker 2: win because it's dumb luck already fourteen five, four or
• 1:09:49
  Speaker 2: seven to seven. You guys got a casino story, a
• 1:09:52
  Speaker 2: good casino story. Trying to think what else happened. I
• 1:09:58
  Speaker 2: remember walking into casino one time. I'm I I had
• 1:10:01
  Speaker 2: a fake ID to gamble and I had my real ID.
• 1:10:07
  Speaker 2: One time I accidentally handed the security guard he carded me.
• 1:10:12
  Speaker 2: I accidentally had handed in my real ID instead of
• 1:10:15
  Speaker 2: the fake when you just looked at it, handed it
• 1:10:17
  Speaker 2: back to me and said, good look. I don't know
• 1:10:20
  Speaker 2: if the dude couldn't add or what or do math,
• 1:10:22
  Speaker 2: but just gave it back to me. Talking about casino stories. Okay,
• 1:10:27
  Speaker 2: so this is a funny story. So I started gambling
• 1:10:32
  Speaker 2: at seventeen, had a fake ID, had some friends that
• 1:10:34
  Speaker 2: were you.
• 1:10:35
  Speaker 1: Know, twenty one. I would go gamble up in Reno.
• 1:10:40
  Speaker 2: A lot. I quit gambling when I moved to Bakersfield,
• 1:10:46
  Speaker 2: and then I uh.
• 1:10:48
  Speaker 1: No, no, no, no no.
• 1:10:49
  Speaker 2: When I first went to Bakersfield, I would gamble every
• 1:10:51
  Speaker 2: day after work with guys at different clubs, you know,
• 1:10:54
  Speaker 2: different places in town. You can find a card game,
• 1:10:56
  Speaker 2: you can find a drink, you can find bar games,
• 1:10:58
  Speaker 2: you can find a lot of gambling bag or still
• 1:11:00
  Speaker 2: if you're still loking, I don't know if you can anymore.
• 1:11:02
  Speaker 2: But after a few years of that, I quit, and
• 1:11:05
  Speaker 2: I stopped for like ten years. Just was it ten? Yeah,
• 1:11:10
  Speaker 2: it might have been ten or fifteen years. I just
• 1:11:12
  Speaker 2: quit gambling all together. Coulturing, Well, one night, we're in Vegas.
• 1:11:18
  Speaker 2: Somebody wants to go to Vegas. We all go to Vegas,
• 1:11:20
  Speaker 2: and I said, you know what, I'm going out. We
• 1:11:22
  Speaker 2: got to Vegas about midnight. I said, you know what,
• 1:11:24
  Speaker 2: I'm going out gambling, just like old school style. This
• 1:11:27
  Speaker 2: is how stupid I was. I sit at the bar,
• 1:11:31
  Speaker 2: and I don't know where I was. I might have
• 1:11:32
  Speaker 2: been in the Delano or somewhere one of those, right,
• 1:11:35
  Speaker 2: whatever that is. And I sit at the bar order
• 1:11:39
  Speaker 2: old fashioned. I start playing the machine, you know, just
• 1:11:42
  Speaker 2: sitting there waiting on my drink.
• 1:11:44
  Speaker 1: I get the bill.
• 1:11:45
  Speaker 2: Well, I didn't know that Vegas still didn't charge you
• 1:11:53
  Speaker 2: for your drinks if you were playing gambling at the bar,
• 1:11:57
  Speaker 2: and so I uh.
• 1:12:00
  Speaker 1: I get the bill.
• 1:12:00
  Speaker 2: It's like, you know, they put the bill in front
• 1:12:03
  Speaker 2: of you in a cup, and I didn't think anything
• 1:12:06
  Speaker 2: of it. I thought, oh, I got a bill. The
• 1:12:09
  Speaker 2: casino stopped giving you drinks if you're playing right by
• 1:12:12
  Speaker 2: the way reno has it changed. So I paid the
• 1:12:15
  Speaker 2: bill and it was like a thirty dollars drink or
• 1:12:18
  Speaker 2: twenty five dollars day or another you know, twenty five bucks,
• 1:12:21
  Speaker 2: just you know whatever. And I walk away and I
• 1:12:27
  Speaker 2: take my drink and I go gamble a little bit.
• 1:12:28
  Speaker 2: I come back to get another one, and there's a
• 1:12:31
  Speaker 2: line at the bar and she's she goes, no, you
• 1:12:34
  Speaker 2: come down here. You come down here to the end
• 1:12:36
  Speaker 2: of the bar where there's no line, and she goes,
• 1:12:39
  Speaker 2: what do you want? You want another old fashion? I said, yeah,
• 1:12:41
  Speaker 2: I'll take it, and then I give it. I had
• 1:12:43
  Speaker 2: some chips in my hands, so I gave her a
• 1:12:44
  Speaker 2: five dollar chip and I walked away and I come
• 1:12:47
  Speaker 2: back again. She's like, no, no, no, no, no, you
• 1:12:49
  Speaker 2: come down here, and I'm like and I couldn't figure
• 1:12:52
  Speaker 2: it out until I finally asked her. I said, why
• 1:12:54
  Speaker 2: do you keep telling me to come down here? She goes, well,
• 1:12:56
  Speaker 2: you tip me fifty bucks when you first got here,
• 1:13:00
  Speaker 2: And I said I didn't realize the drink was free.
• 1:13:05
  Speaker 1: That's how long it's been. So I gambled, Gordy, how
• 1:13:09
  Speaker 1: was going on?
• 1:13:10
  Speaker 2: Hey, what's up room?
• 1:13:11
  Speaker 3: He bro I got a story. When we were little,
• 1:13:14
  Speaker 3: we moved my great grandma and grandpa to that state
• 1:13:16
  Speaker 3: line and we were right there playing, and you know,
• 1:13:19
  Speaker 3: Grandpa gave us some change and stuff to go play
• 1:13:21
  Speaker 3: at darcade in there.
• 1:13:22
  Speaker 13: Uh huh.
• 1:13:22
  Speaker 3: And I told my brother, I said, hey, dude, listen
• 1:13:24
  Speaker 3: to do the slot machine right there by. The arcade
• 1:13:27
  Speaker 3: is right outside the door. And he's like, now I'm
• 1:13:29
  Speaker 3: gonna get in trouble. Roll I filled up some little
• 1:13:31
  Speaker 3: buckets he used to.
• 1:13:32
  Speaker 14: Give you back what I mean back in the day
• 1:13:34
  Speaker 14: that they did.
• 1:13:34
  Speaker 3: A little fattern buckets, kind of like the little ice
• 1:13:36
  Speaker 3: buckets at the at the at the hotel.
• 1:13:39
  Speaker 14: Roll I filled that.
• 1:13:40
  Speaker 15: Thing of like two times of a change.
• 1:13:42
  Speaker 3: I won, and then they walked over and they told
• 1:13:43
  Speaker 3: my brother they caught me on the third one. But
• 1:13:45
  Speaker 3: you know what I mean, we already have a bucket, fool.
• 1:13:47
  Speaker 3: But you know, I got greedy wanted to go play more.
• 1:13:50
  Speaker 14: And I mean I was a little kid. It's free money,
• 1:13:52
  Speaker 14: you know what I mean. When I put a couple
• 1:13:53
  Speaker 14: of quarters in there, a couple of coins, and then.
• 1:13:54
  Speaker 3: You get a whole bucket food like that was cool.
• 1:13:57
  Speaker 3: And they told my grand grandpa they caught us doing
• 1:13:59
  Speaker 3: it again. They were to band us from the casino,
• 1:14:02
  Speaker 3: the whole family. So my grandpa said, oh, you know
• 1:14:05
  Speaker 3: what I mean, he old school room. He told, hell,
• 1:14:07
  Speaker 3: you better enjoy what you got.
• 1:14:09
  Speaker 2: Oh, I'm surprised that didn't. I'm surprised that they didn't
• 1:14:11
  Speaker 2: take the money away from you. They don't do they'll
• 1:14:12
  Speaker 2: take the money away from you now.
• 1:14:14
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, this was back, dude, this.
• 1:14:16
  Speaker 16: Had thirty years thirty years ago.
• 1:14:18
  Speaker 3: Yeah, all right, but yeah, but it was cool, dude,
• 1:14:21
  Speaker 3: to be a little kid that has a little buckets.
• 1:14:22
  Speaker 14: Full of coins to go play all the.
• 1:14:24
  Speaker 15: Machines you wanted that.
• 1:14:24
  Speaker 14: It was so cool.
• 1:14:25
  Speaker 2: All right, thanks coming, I mean yeah, usually if they
• 1:14:29
  Speaker 2: catch you, man, they'll they'll just take the money. They
• 1:14:32
  Speaker 2: won't let you keep it.
• 1:14:32
  Speaker 1: I'm surprised that they let them keep it. That's crazy.
• 1:14:35
  Speaker 2: Thirty fourty five four or seven to seven. What a
• 1:14:37
  Speaker 2: big roam they just seen. Someone from Bakersfield won three
• 1:14:41
  Speaker 2: hundred and fifty nine thousand over at the tajone hard
• 1:14:45
  Speaker 2: rock the other day.
• 1:14:47
  Speaker 1: Damn the luck.
• 1:14:48
  Speaker 2: Really, I bet it wasn't my crazy ass friend because
• 1:14:51
  Speaker 2: she believes her player's card is keeping her from winning.
• 1:14:54
  Speaker 1: Now, hey, good morning Rome.
• 1:14:57
  Speaker 2: I was part of the biggest jackpot the Golden West
• 1:15:01
  Speaker 2: Casino back in sixteen twenty sixteen. The jackpot was three
• 1:15:05
  Speaker 2: and seventy nine K. My cut was fifty K. The
• 1:15:07
  Speaker 2: whole casino stopped. I left and came back a few
• 1:15:10
  Speaker 2: days later to collect the money. They had security guards
• 1:15:13
  Speaker 2: walked me out to my vehicle.
• 1:15:16
  Speaker 1: It was nervous. It was nervous driving around with fifty
• 1:15:21
  Speaker 1: k with you.
• 1:15:23
  Speaker 3: Wow.
• 1:15:23
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I could see that being nerve wracking driving around
• 1:15:26
  Speaker 2: with fifty k I have. I think the most I've
• 1:15:29
  Speaker 2: ever driven around with was maybe two thousand dollars, and
• 1:15:33
  Speaker 2: that scared me.
• 1:15:34
  Speaker 1: But I'm not rich.
• 1:15:34
  Speaker 2: I'm sure there's a lot of people.
• 1:15:36
  Speaker 1: I wonder how much.
• 1:15:39
  Speaker 2: I gotta tell you. I gotta tell you a story
• 1:15:41
  Speaker 2: about my about walking around with money. A little flash cash.
• 1:15:44
  Speaker 1: Right, this is old school.
• 1:15:46
  Speaker 2: My buddy's dad, old dude, great dude, old school dude.
• 1:15:50
  Speaker 14: Right.
• 1:15:51
  Speaker 1: He lost He was telling me.
• 1:15:54
  Speaker 2: This is a few years ago. He's telling man, I
• 1:15:56
  Speaker 2: lost fifteen hundred bucks. He couldn't find it, he misplaced it.
• 1:16:00
  Speaker 2: He ended up finding Nobody stressed him out, and he's like,
• 1:16:03
  Speaker 2: and I said, why are.
• 1:16:03
  Speaker 1: You walking around with fifteen hundred dollars?
• 1:16:05
  Speaker 2: He goes, well, you never know a guy might need
• 1:16:08
  Speaker 2: to borrow five hundred or something like that. You won't
• 1:16:10
  Speaker 2: have low cash on you.
• 1:16:11
  Speaker 6: That just laughs.
• 1:16:13
  Speaker 2: Your example of why you walk around with it with
• 1:16:16
  Speaker 2: that much money is because a guy might need to
• 1:16:19
  Speaker 2: borrow some I said, boy, you can't beat.
• 1:16:22
  Speaker 1: A guy like that. How great is a guy like that?
• 1:16:25
  Speaker 3: Right? Thro MEO in the morning, every morning morning ninety
• 1:16:29
  Speaker 3: four point one