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Welcome to the Voyage Clinics Podcast · Voyage Clinics Podcast

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  Speaker 1: Hello, I'm doctor John. Welcome to the Boys Clinics Podcast.
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  Speaker 1: I am your host and your guest today. Today we
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  Speaker 1: just get to do a solo with me. That'll be
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  Speaker 1: super fun. I've been thinking a lot and talking a
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  Speaker 1: lot to a lot of people and clients, and I
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  Speaker 1: just have a couple of things I'd like to share
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  Speaker 1: with you as just our listeners, and as you know,
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  Speaker 1: I'm a family doc. I've been a doc for more
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  Speaker 1: than a decade and I love helping at serving people.
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  Speaker 1: I grew up in a small town in Nevada, went
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  Speaker 1: to UNLB for undergrad Florida for med school residency. I
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  Speaker 1: was a rural buck in Moab for six years, and
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  Speaker 1: then I've been in this neck of the woods, like
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  Speaker 1: the Utah County area for nine started my practice Boys
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  Speaker 1: Clinics and it is lovely. We get to spend time
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  Speaker 1: with people thirty to sixty minutes and really get to
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  Speaker 1: know them and help them navigate life. Family docs help
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  Speaker 1: in a bunch of ways, from emotional to physical to
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  Speaker 1: all kinds of health things. And I would consider a
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  Speaker 1: lot of people in the service industry as high level impaths,
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  Speaker 1: especially in family medicine, probably in therapy probably pediatricians, internal medicine, gwyns.
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  Speaker 1: Folks that are in the primary care special specialties and
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  Speaker 1: kind of boots from the ground in people's lives generally
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  Speaker 1: tend to be pretty empathetic. Today, I spoke to a
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  Speaker 1: client and she has been a nurse for a long time,
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  Speaker 1: and she's very empathetic. And sometimes folks that love other folks,
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  Speaker 1: which I'd say a lot of us, are in that
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  Speaker 1: space and generally tend to be empathetic. Impaths people call them.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes they take on things and I don't know, call
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  Speaker 1: it secondary trauma, call it whatever you want. But in
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  Speaker 1: my profession I had to learn this and I want
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  Speaker 1: to share it with you because I wasn't always good
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  Speaker 1: at processing that that secondary trauma. I was pulling on
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  Speaker 1: things into me and onto me that were not mine.
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  Speaker 1: So more recently I was, you know, in the mountains,
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  Speaker 1: and I love spending time in the mountains and foraging
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  Speaker 1: and hunting for mushrooms. And I've been on an emotional
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  Speaker 1: intelligence journey my whole life, you could say, but I
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  Speaker 1: would say more earnestly in the past five years or so,
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  Speaker 1: maybe longer, partially because I had the bandwidth to do it.
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  Speaker 1: In life, in careers, in high level stress environments, without
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  Speaker 1: sufficient recovery, it generally tends to hinder and even shrink
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  Speaker 1: the parts of our brain that are in charge of
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  Speaker 1: emotional intelligence in neural plast see. We talked a lot
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  Speaker 1: about these topics and previous podcasts and the importance of
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  Speaker 1: brain driving a trophic factor in helping grow those parts
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  Speaker 1: of our brains, and how they are released with exercise,
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  Speaker 1: consistent running or cardibascer exercise, also released with learning new
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  Speaker 1: songs and learning to play hard things or do the
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  Speaker 1: hard things, and also release with ketamine and other therapies
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  Speaker 1: like that, and that creates an environment that's right for change.
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  Speaker 1: And in my efforts of you know, getting exercise in
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  Speaker 1: the mountains and having these spikes and BD and F
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  Speaker 1: and growth and understanding and really starting to change and
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  Speaker 1: really starting to recover, I wanted to emphasize the importance
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  Speaker 1: of recovering hard. So I guess resting hard, I guess
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  Speaker 1: that's another word for it. But everybody works really hard,
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  Speaker 1: I know everybody, But like most folks, they grind really
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  Speaker 1: really hard. And in America we don't have a culture
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  Speaker 1: of holiday like they do in England. You know, or
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  Speaker 1: they're taking six weeks off a year and actually breathing
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  Speaker 1: and just connecting to their family and friends, and we're
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  Speaker 1: less good at that. And for years I didn't take
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  Speaker 1: any vacations. I would like all my paid time off,
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  Speaker 1: my PTO stuff. I would just like, you know, let
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  Speaker 1: it all go away or dissolve it, or take a
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  Speaker 1: pay out at the end of the year. And that
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  Speaker 1: was super unhealthy. And more recently I was able to
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  Speaker 1: really with the starting of Voyage clinics, I had more
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  Speaker 1: bandwidth for myself, for my kids, for my wife, for
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  Speaker 1: our lives, and for me emotionally. So it created that
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  Speaker 1: resting hard state where I could actually take time for
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  Speaker 1: myself and for my family and actually rest and actually
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  Speaker 1: recover and actually feel less stress. And with that, I
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  Speaker 1: think it part of my journey just being able to
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  Speaker 1: have emotional intelligence and be able to start growing those
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  Speaker 1: parts of my brain that needed growing, or at least
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  Speaker 1: stop shriveling them. And so it created an environment in
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  Speaker 1: my mind that was right for processing. Over the years,
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  Speaker 1: we help people navigate really hard things, really hard things,
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  Speaker 1: and there's death and there's suffering, and there's pain, and
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  Speaker 1: it's difficult even now I'm helping several folks navigate some
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  Speaker 1: very hard areas of their lives, and what do we
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  Speaker 1: One day, I was up on the mountain and I
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  Speaker 1: was just feeling it, which I spent years not doing
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  Speaker 1: and allowing it to pass through me and come to
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  Speaker 1: the surface. And I was several hours into this nice
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  Speaker 1: grieving session that was needed, and I distinctly remember being shown,
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  Speaker 1: that's yours. The grief and the pain and the suffering
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  Speaker 1: that we get to have in our lives are sacredly ours.
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  Speaker 1: They're part of our moral existence, and they're not to
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  Speaker 1: be feared or ran away from or shunned. They're yours.
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  Speaker 1: They're mine, they're mine. You can share them with people,
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  Speaker 1: and those people can help you and talk to you
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  Speaker 1: about it, but they're not theirs. They're not part of
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  Speaker 1: their They could bear witness to your journey and give
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  Speaker 1: you space and time and reverence, but those moments of
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  Speaker 1: suffering sacredly yours, and they're special. And I remember on
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  Speaker 1: the mountain pondering and being shown the breath of that's
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  Speaker 1: not yours and to blow it away, and the ones
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  Speaker 1: that were yours you can hold, but that's not yours.
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  Speaker 1: And in this grief don't, but I call it. I
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  Speaker 1: was shown the parts that are yours and the parts
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  Speaker 1: that are not yours, and it's just a deeply meditative state.
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  Speaker 1: And I could blow away the parts that were not lying,
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  Speaker 1: just breathe them away and let them pass through and
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  Speaker 1: beyond you, because they are not yours to hold. And
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  Speaker 1: for years I held them and it wasn't healthy. Holding
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  Speaker 1: on to some of that stuff and pushing it down
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  Speaker 1: into a little box can create dysfunction. Emotional dysregulation can
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  Speaker 1: create triggers that you don't even recognize, or affecting your
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  Speaker 1: show up the way that you show up the default
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  Speaker 1: mode network for de fancy terms. But I wanted to
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  Speaker 1: share that with you because so many of us are empathetic,
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  Speaker 1: and so many of us love and serve and help
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  Speaker 1: other people, and that's super beautiful. And it is to
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  Speaker 1: us to bear witness to their journey and to hold
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  Speaker 1: space for them and to love them and serve others.
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  Speaker 1: But it is not to yours to take it from
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  Speaker 1: them and to hold that is yours. It's not yours,
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  Speaker 1: it's not yours. So I just wanted to share that
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  Speaker 1: with you, to learn to not take those on as yours.
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  Speaker 1: But the parts that are yours, even if they're ugly
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  Speaker 1: and hard, really really hard and really really unbare and
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  Speaker 1: really really difficult, they're yours, and they're sacredly yours. They're
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  Speaker 1: part of your journey and your hero's journey, and it's beautiful. Actually,
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  Speaker 1: even how terrible they are, they can be beautiful pieces
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  Speaker 1: of your existence. So that's my wisdom dump today. I
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  Speaker 1: just wanted to share that with you because it's made
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  Speaker 1: a significant impact in my life. Being able to differentiate
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  Speaker 1: the trauma that's mine, the pain that's mine, and the
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  Speaker 1: suffering that's mine from the pain trauma suffering that's not mine.
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  Speaker 1: And being able to blow away that one with some
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  Speaker 1: breathwork or some breathing and some meditation time in the
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  Speaker 1: mountains to just feel it and let it pass through
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  Speaker 1: and beyond is so so so important. I show up cleaner, emotionally,
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  Speaker 1: now better and it's healthy. So may this be some
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  Speaker 1: wisdom for you, sprinkled on top of your beautiful existence.