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Happy Hour #133: No If, Ands, or Butts (SATC S3, E5) · Stuff Mom Never Told You

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  Speaker 1: Hey, this is Annie and Samantha. Welcome you. Stuff've never
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  Speaker 1: told you a protection of iHeartRadio.
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  Speaker 2: And we are back watching season three of Sex and
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  Speaker 2: the City. Yes, as we are coming together to make
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  Speaker 2: Annie watch something she has never watched because I think
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  Speaker 2: it's fun and I loved it growing up.
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  Speaker 3: And I say growing up, I was in college in.
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  Speaker 2: This but yes, in this happy hour if you are
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  Speaker 2: new to this, So we will be watching together Sex
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  Speaker 2: and the City. We are in season three, like I
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  Speaker 2: said before, and we're going to talk about.
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  Speaker 3: It, simple as that.
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  Speaker 2: It's one of those things I think as a reminder
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  Speaker 2: that really brought sexuality in women into a bigger scope,
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  Speaker 2: as well as women being single in their thirties, being
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  Speaker 2: ridiculously rich even though they pretendly they're not, and making
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  Speaker 2: us all wish we lived in New York and very
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  Speaker 2: nice apartments with very nice, cushy jobs. But I say
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  Speaker 2: cushy because essentially, like some of them are, like once
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  Speaker 2: pr you never really know what that is really except
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  Speaker 2: she goes to a lot of parties.
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  Speaker 3: Sam, we love you.
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  Speaker 1: We love that.
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  Speaker 2: We have Charlotte who is a curator, yes I believe
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  Speaker 2: so art curator where she runs a gallery and meets
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  Speaker 2: a lot of fun people there. Carrie is a sex
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  Speaker 2: colonnist because obviously, which is based on someone real, Candice Bushnell,
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  Speaker 2: who was a sex colonist as well. And then we
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  Speaker 2: have Miranda, who is a fierce lawyer and just constantly
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  Speaker 2: working but has enough time to deal with the Shenanigans
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  Speaker 2: of New York. We gotta love it. So just with
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  Speaker 2: that within this segment. Because Annie is so new to
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  Speaker 2: these series, she was a little younger, and of course
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  Speaker 2: this is not exactly her field of interest necessarily. Who
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  Speaker 2: doesn't love brunch? Though, as much as I loved it
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  Speaker 2: and really wished I lived this life, I think I
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  Speaker 2: really watched this while in my thirties, like early thirties,
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  Speaker 2: like twenties, because I'm like, yeah, girls are so hang out,
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  Speaker 2: because this was before I was really dating and having relationships,
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  Speaker 2: because I was like, no, no, no, I kind of
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  Speaker 2: want that, but I kind of don't. I just want
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  Speaker 2: my group of friends so we can sit around and
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  Speaker 2: talk bs.
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  Speaker 3: It's amazing.
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  Speaker 2: But with that, yes, we're in season three and we're
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  Speaker 2: on episode five. But before we jump into that, Annie,
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  Speaker 2: can you give us a replay of what's happened? In
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  Speaker 2: season three.
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  Speaker 1: M Yes, okay, so it feels like everybody but Samantha's
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  Speaker 1: in a little bit of is they're trying to decide
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  Speaker 1: what they want, I would say. So, we've got Miranda
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  Speaker 1: trying to define the relationship with Steve, who they had
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  Speaker 1: previously broken up but now they're back together, but they're
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  Speaker 1: still sort of working some stuff out. If you've watched
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  Speaker 1: the show, you know about Steve. Then we have Charlotte
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  Speaker 1: who is trying to find a husband once again. Yes.
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  Speaker 1: And then we have Carrie, who broke up with her
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  Speaker 1: on again, off again boyfriend mister Big last season and
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  Speaker 1: now he's married a younger woman and she's run into
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  Speaker 1: him a couple of times and is kind of coming
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  Speaker 1: to grips with that. And then the last episode was
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  Speaker 1: one that you had warned me about, which was kind
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  Speaker 1: of a very undated episode about gender where they yeah,
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  Speaker 1: basically had the tired comedic not so funny a thing
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  Speaker 1: of questioning bisexuality, like pick your lane. But that's where
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  Speaker 1: we are.
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  Speaker 2: That's where we are, and this one is a little
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  Speaker 2: more fun. And before we start with this, Annie, I
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  Speaker 2: have to ask, because this is a part of the show.
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  Speaker 2: The title is no if Ann's or butts, butts, can
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  Speaker 2: you tell me what you think this episode is about.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, I think that there's gonna be a conversation about
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  Speaker 1: if you oh, this would be interesting though, a conversation
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  Speaker 1: about dating smokers, and a conversation about anal sex and
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  Speaker 1: also club going to the club.
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  Speaker 2: Also she switches up from brunch to club, so we
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  Speaker 2: always have to have one of those things.
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  Speaker 3: Ye yes, okay, okay, okay.
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  Speaker 2: Interesting And with this just FYI, listeners, if you enjoy
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  Speaker 2: this segment, and it's not that you have to enjoy
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  Speaker 2: sex in the city or know anything about it, if
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  Speaker 2: you have an interest in joining us to do a
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  Speaker 2: viewing with us and record with us while we have
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  Speaker 2: a tasty beverage any do you have a tasty beverage?
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  Speaker 1: But you get there, I have a beer. I can't
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  Speaker 1: tell you what it is because I can't remember.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, she got some beer. So if you're partaking in
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  Speaker 2: like that, please do so responsibly. If you want to
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  Speaker 2: join us, you don't have to drink anything. I am
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  Speaker 2: drinking water and I'm chillin. But if you're interested in
• 4:56
  Speaker 2: being a part of the segment again, you do not
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  Speaker 2: have to have ever watched that as In fact, some
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  Speaker 2: of the best episodes happen when people have never watched
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  Speaker 2: it and they just jump in on an episode. Please
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  Speaker 2: get your name down because we do want to have
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  Speaker 2: our guest episode soon. We'd love to do that with you,
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  Speaker 2: So we'll give you some more information at the end
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  Speaker 2: of this episode. But just keep that in mind because
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  Speaker 2: I know not everybody like they click it as soon
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  Speaker 2: as we're done so rightly, so understand that. But if
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  Speaker 2: you're interested, please know we are seeking for you to
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  Speaker 2: hang out with us. Be our friend IRL.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, what kind of kind of is what it is?
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  Speaker 2: Zoom VRL and IVL in virtual life? Okay, that's too
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  Speaker 2: confusing for me anyway, So we're gonna go ahead and jump.
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  Speaker 3: And do it.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, I'm meant to ask you because there's an introduction
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  Speaker 2: about someone what'd finally showing up?
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  Speaker 3: Is that your guess?
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. He's like the only person I know.
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  Speaker 2: Right and we've been waiting so long, so long.
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  Speaker 4: One of the reasons some people still risk the possible
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  Speaker 4: horror of a first date is the possible magic of
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  Speaker 4: the good night kiss at the front door.
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  Speaker 3: I had a great time.
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  Speaker 4: The world slows down just for a second as some
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  Speaker 4: people take that hopefullyan into a possible future together.
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  Speaker 1: Oh oh my gosh, the tie is out and licking
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  Speaker 1: her face.
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  Speaker 3: That makes me so uncomfortable. I came with the watch.
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  Speaker 3: He just licks her face.
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  Speaker 1: A tie.
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  Speaker 4: He has the sweet little lips.
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  Speaker 3: I thought he would be a good kisser.
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  Speaker 4: See that's a scary thing. You can never tell. They
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  Speaker 4: look totally.
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  Speaker 2: Normal until their pointy tongue is darting in and out
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  Speaker 2: of your mouth.
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  Speaker 4: Oh it's stabby, little pointing tongue.
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  Speaker 1: That is the worst of the worst.
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  Speaker 4: No, no, no, no. What's worse is when they expect you
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  Speaker 4: to do all the work and their tongue just lazier
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  Speaker 4: in your mouth like a clam mouse.
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  Speaker 2: If you ever had those conversations with your girlfriends about
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  Speaker 2: like the worst kiss their best best kiss type of thing,
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  Speaker 2: yes too, yeah, yeah, me too, the feeling that's you
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  Speaker 2: got to.
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  Speaker 1: My worst kiss. He had braces in it. It did
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  Speaker 1: some there was Oh what, yeah, it's just something went wrong.
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  Speaker 3: Could he be any cuter?
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  Speaker 1: You gotta love a fellow who loves the jewelry. That
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  Speaker 1: is one time looking man, I'd like to get me
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  Speaker 1: some of that.
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  Speaker 3: Don't talk like that with.
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  Speaker 1: A knee jure liberal reaction.
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  Speaker 3: That was a black talk. That was sex talk. That
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  Speaker 3: wasn't black talk. That was sex talk.
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  Speaker 1: It's African American talk. Oh my gosh. The political correctness.
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  Speaker 1: But it's terrible, not right.
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  Speaker 2: But there's so many like but all these things, it's
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  Speaker 2: like I cannot imagine that this was from a black writer,
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  Speaker 2: Like it's some stereotype that you're like, why, who did this?
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  Speaker 3: Who did this?
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  Speaker 4: I got a whole afternoon plan with Australian fogue. I'm
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  Speaker 4: not just gonna drop everything to go downtown to see
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  Speaker 4: some cute guy.
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  Speaker 1: He's straight.
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  Speaker 4: I get my first. All these.
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  Speaker 1: This reminds me of the other day someone was like
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  Speaker 1: come hang out. Was like, why, I'm good, and then
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  Speaker 1: there's like the Star Wars is playing, and I.
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  Speaker 3: Was like, all right, they're talking about Star Wars. Okay, okay, cool.
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  Speaker 2: I don't think I have anything like that or like
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  Speaker 2: I'm gonna be really unless it's some food.
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  Speaker 3: It's food. His name was Aidenshaw. We've made it.
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  Speaker 2: I love that he's so like classic American he's wearing
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  Speaker 2: all dinnum with a very americanized.
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  Speaker 1: Dog like and the dog yeah, the dog has like
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  Speaker 1: a bandana. Very cute. Wow. The cute guy was aided.
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  Speaker 4: His name was Marty Mendelssohn. He was warm, stylish and
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  Speaker 4: classic gay, just like his outfit. He's a fantastic designer
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  Speaker 4: and single.
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  Speaker 1: I guess it is interesting that just created by gay men,
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  Speaker 1: and so sometimes hearing some of the things, Carrie says,
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  Speaker 1: it's like, I get day Man wrote this, but you're
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  Speaker 1: still not that.
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  Speaker 4: They picked my name from the contest I enteredder Sam Goodies.
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  Speaker 3: Well great, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: No, Marianna, it's not great. A million dollars it's great.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, Steve, it is great. But just don't get your
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  Speaker 3: hopes up. It's a kind of tough shot, isn't it.
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  Speaker 1: Rather guys, but they don't know my move. See.
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  Speaker 2: See this is the way I think I'm a little
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  Speaker 2: more like Miranda that I don't get overly excited about
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  Speaker 2: much anyway, and like I'm a little too realistic and
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  Speaker 2: I have to check myself. I'm like, I can't be
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  Speaker 2: bursting people's bubbles being that realistic person who's like, yeah, but.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes people need that though, you know, I think that's
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  Speaker 1: a balance.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, you got to give them, like the moment,
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  Speaker 2: their moment, but being like, don't.
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  Speaker 3: Get yourself too excited.
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  Speaker 1: I am trying.
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  Speaker 4: Within a matter of minutes, Samantha felt perfectly at home
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  Speaker 4: in Chavon's world.
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  Speaker 1: Hey guys, I'm Samantha.
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  Speaker 4: Socialman, And within a matter of hours, Chavon was perfectly
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  Speaker 4: at home in Samantha's home.
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  Speaker 3: I would just the amount of stereotype.
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  Speaker 2: They're like, Okay, black community, this is what you look like.
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  Speaker 3: You're welcome.
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  Speaker 2: And maybe I am from the South, so it is
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  Speaker 2: a different culture than New York, so we're from Atlanta.
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  Speaker 2: Perhaps I'm just wrong in thinking that that is a
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  Speaker 2: stereotype someone who lived in black culture of New York
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  Speaker 2: in early two thousands. Please tell me if I'm wrong.
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  Speaker 2: But have they made this as a stereotype of what
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  Speaker 2: this is?
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  Speaker 1: It feels like.
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  Speaker 3: I am tying.
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  Speaker 1: You smoke right just a little.
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  Speaker 4: The minute I heard the lie come out of my mouth,
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  Speaker 4: I realized just how much I kind of liked him.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, did you see this before? No, that's pretty impressive.
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  Speaker 1: But I know when I was younger, that was a
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  Speaker 1: big conversation to be my friends. I won't date some
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  Speaker 1: of them smokes.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, Oh, he's gonna be like, no, the smell yep,
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  Speaker 5: I can taste this cigarette.
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  Speaker 4: Oh I'm sorry, I have an altoy.
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  Speaker 1: The taste is terrible. No, no, you're not.
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  Speaker 3: And that was like I feel like altoys, which still exists.
• 12:42
  Speaker 3: Everydy still uses. But that was a huge thing, like
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  Speaker 3: college days for some reason. And they're gross. Why are
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  Speaker 3: they chalky?
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  Speaker 1: Fut always would like to sponsor.
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  Speaker 5: To me.
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  Speaker 3: I did a little baby ones, the little ones. I
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  Speaker 3: love those.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, well, I will endorse that I have dated people though,
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  Speaker 2: who really are just like occasional smokers. That it threw
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  Speaker 2: me off. I'm like, why I do it if it's
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  Speaker 2: only every like three weeks.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I have too. I used to be a very
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  Speaker 1: firm I would never date anybody who smoked. I think
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  Speaker 1: that's one of the reasons why I was like, oh yeah,
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  Speaker 1: but I later met people who only smoked every now
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  Speaker 1: and then.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, all right, And with just a little gentle negotiating,
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  Speaker 4: brad Stock suddenly began to rise.
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  Speaker 3: Kissing.
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  Speaker 2: I cannot imagine this person who played this actor like
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  Speaker 2: the reputation he may have had after the fact.
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  Speaker 3: You're sucking too hard and for the record.
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  Speaker 1: Of my mouth is up the here is there a problem?
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  Speaker 5: I can't do this, Brad, You're a bad kiss her.
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  Speaker 2: Come on, that's my thing.
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  Speaker 3: That's my thing. That's my thing.
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  Speaker 2: That's what I'm known for, the kissing, which is probably like, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: not in a good play, bro.
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  Speaker 1: Your signature move is about good. These are my dolls.
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  Speaker 1: I've been collecting him for years. I had no idea.
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  Speaker 2: I love when Stafford comes into play like it makes
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  Speaker 2: it hilarious. But you know, I know people still love
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  Speaker 2: because these can be really ridiculously valuable, although most of
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  Speaker 2: the times they're in boxes or displays because they don't
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  Speaker 2: want it to be marred.
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  Speaker 1: Right, Yes, So it's a collection of dolls.
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  Speaker 3: Everyone that's all over his bed.
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  Speaker 1: See, that's what I don't get, Like I would be
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  Speaker 1: a little taken aback if there are a bunch of dolls.
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  Speaker 1: But if they're on your.
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  Speaker 3: Bed, they're like at least twenty on his bed.
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  Speaker 1: Then do you sleep in this bed and you put
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  Speaker 1: them back every day? Is this an extra bed for
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  Speaker 1: your dolls?
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  Speaker 3: What is the right?
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  Speaker 4: Smoking is a part of who I am. I will
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  Speaker 4: quit when I want to quit in it won't be
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  Speaker 4: because some cute guy told me to, right, Samantha, No, honey,
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  Speaker 4: fighting a battle for Stefan is one thing, But holding
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  Speaker 4: on to those nasty cigarettes, well that's just whack.
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  Speaker 2: Please? Why why did they did this?
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  Speaker 3: I did this?
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  Speaker 2: At the same time, I'm wondering if its supposed to
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  Speaker 2: be ironic and making her look that ridiculous?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, why do you always have to be so pessimistic?
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  Speaker 4: You can't make that shot, Steve, Come on, it's not
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  Speaker 4: just the shot, it's everything.
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  Speaker 1: We can't move in together.
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  Speaker 5: This isn't gonna work if this is ever.
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  Speaker 2: He holds on to too many things. She got past
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  Speaker 2: those things. You can't be holding on like I get
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  Speaker 2: like where he's upset that she's changed plans and this
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  Speaker 2: is important to him. That part, yes, But then you
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  Speaker 2: drag up past stuff where you've already gone past it.
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  Speaker 3: No, no, no, no, no.
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  Speaker 2: I just say yeah, also having a serious conversation and
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  Speaker 2: being like, no, but really this is important to me,
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  Speaker 2: instead of yelling.
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  Speaker 1: Throwing a basketball in the apartment because she's.
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  Speaker 3: Not completely wrong.
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  Speaker 4: Well, I've been thinking about pudin anyway, so why not now, Tata,
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  Speaker 4: no cigarettes?
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  Speaker 1: Can you do that?
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  Speaker 4: See? I think maybe you think I'm more of a
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  Speaker 4: smoker than I actually am. I only have like a
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  Speaker 4: cigarette with cocktails.
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  Speaker 2: Someone to tell me that, and that actually was true,
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  Speaker 2: but it was like more of like when he had
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  Speaker 2: a cocktail. He was like, no, but I really want
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  Speaker 2: to smoke right now.
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  Speaker 1: I do you believe that it's just that because she
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  Speaker 1: has a history of lying to him already, I'm like, well,
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  Speaker 1: that's what I've seen. It doesn't seem to be true.
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  Speaker 2: I am trying get your little white see away from
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  Speaker 2: my brother, get your big black out of my face.
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  Speaker 1: In your goodness, it wasn't all that all that?
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  Speaker 3: Keep it real? That is not a sense, he would say, like.
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  Speaker 1: Very real?
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  Speaker 3: Who did who wrote this?
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  Speaker 1: Who wrote this?
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  Speaker 5: I am tying.
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  Speaker 4: It was too bad we had to end, but that's
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  Speaker 4: the way it goes. I guess we had some good
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  Speaker 4: times together, and I'm pretty sure we could have had more.
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  Speaker 1: But it's over.
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  Speaker 3: That shouldn't though, No killing the environment? What about the fishies?
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  Speaker 1: What about the fishies?
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  Speaker 3: And that's how she quit smoking?
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  Speaker 5: All right?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, although I really do love her meeting Aiden that
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  Speaker 2: whole scene, would like her Sam dating a black man.
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  Speaker 3: Oh yeah, Like i I'm like yeah, they're a little
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  Speaker 3: bit racist. Yeah, that's that's.
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  Speaker 2: Unfortunate why they didn't do all of that, especially because
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  Speaker 2: you've gotten like the characteristics character characteristic that black women
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  Speaker 2: are just angry hate all white women and all these things,
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  Speaker 2: that there's so many levels to this, and they made
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  Speaker 2: it so generic without really talking about any of the
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  Speaker 2: depth of implications and such, and like, yeah, they really
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  Speaker 2: really did a hell of a job in villainizing a
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  Speaker 2: black woman. So yeah, anyway, but aiden showed up and
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  Speaker 2: you were correct about the no smoking.
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  Speaker 3: Look at you, look at you.
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  Speaker 2: They ended up at a club, she at least one
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  Speaker 2: person ended at by the club.
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  Speaker 3: I'll give you. I'll give you an a good job,
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  Speaker 3: good job. Yes, yes, I was good.
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  Speaker 2: I was actually very surprised that you hit that one
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  Speaker 2: with the smoking bit, because I was like, oh, no,
• 19:43
  Speaker 2: she's gonna know of course.
• 19:46
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 19:46
  Speaker 2: The rest is that's just pretty much all about deal breakers. Yeah,
• 19:50
  Speaker 2: do you have a deal breaker?
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: Uh? It used to be smoking. I think this is
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: an interesting conversation that has changed of the years, because
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: now I would say, like anyone really conservative or really religious,
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: and I don't know if I would have said that
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: when I was in college for instance, but oh yeah,
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: I think that's changed. I joke if they didn't like
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: Star Wars, but mostly I joke about like you you
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: have to be able to like listen to you talk
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: about it, but you don't have to watch it. Yeah,
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: but I used to joke like that would be a
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: big one something like that, But it's much more. Yeah,
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: like political beliefs, I would say for me.
• 20:31
  Speaker 2: Right, oh yeah, I think like for the longest time,
• 20:34
  Speaker 2: it was like, if you're conservative, absolutely not. And then
• 20:36
  Speaker 2: in my like as I was dating later, I was like, oh,
• 20:40
  Speaker 2: if you're moderate in the times of Trump, absolutely not.
• 20:43
  Speaker 2: Like it was like it wouldn't that level if you
• 20:45
  Speaker 2: can't handle feminism in any way, if you are pseudo feminist,
• 20:49
  Speaker 2: like you have like butts in your Yeah, but type
• 20:52
  Speaker 2: of thing aren't women.
• 20:54
  Speaker 3: We don't need it now.
• 20:55
  Speaker 2: Any of those conversations like, yep, they'll break our religion,
• 20:58
  Speaker 2: any religion. Uh, Christianity specifically is like and not because
• 21:02
  Speaker 2: necessarily because Christianity is bad, but because in the South,
• 21:05
  Speaker 2: when we see people who are like I'm Baptist, I'm
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: this and this, I'm.
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: Like, yeah, it's the same for me where I'm not
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: like as long as you're not hurting people and you're
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: happy with your religion. I don't. I'm not going to
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: come in there. But because of my own past and
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: my own thoughts, it's just something that I'm kind of like,
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: I don't think we'll ever be able to connect on that.
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: And I think that because a part of religion depends
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: on I saw somebody talking about this the other day
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: and I was like, yeah, I guess that is. It's
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: like a fundamental like I need to convert you, or
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: like I need to right, I just don't think it
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: would work.
• 21:52
  Speaker 3: So right, absolutely that I get. But there you go.
• 21:58
  Speaker 2: Aiden has entered the picture. We are full stop there.
• 22:02
  Speaker 2: I can't remember what the next episode is. I'm excited
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: to see it. Like I said, this season a lot
• 22:08
  Speaker 2: of ups and downs, a lot of up and downs,
• 22:11
  Speaker 2: lots of drama obviously, and of course apparently lots of
• 22:15
  Speaker 2: Neon colors.
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, this is because we're only on episode five.
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: I'm assuming we're getting to the midway point. But already
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: so much has happened. So Aiden is here and I
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: don't know what is gonna happen. I will say I
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: had a disagreement with a friend about this once. It
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: wasn't like a big disagreement, but we were arguing about
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: the the pros and cons of doing something like what
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: Carrie did, which is giving up something that you know
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: it's kind of it's unhealthy, but doing it for a
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: guy in this very had a normative say like instance,
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: and she was like, well, you're still changing yourself to
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: fit him, and I was like, yeah, but if it's
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: an unhealthy habit, And then we kind of came to
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: a middle ground where it was like, you have to
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: want to quit it for you, right, and like maybe
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: the person can inspire you, like you were thinking about it,
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: you're going to take that step that I do think
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: it's a little I know this is a sitcom, so
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: it's different, but I would think giving up something like
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: that for someone you just met is a little much.
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: But if you wanted to give it up, right and
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: you're like, okay, here is a reason, then okay, that's great,
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: But you know you would.
• 23:42
  Speaker 2: Think about it too, Like if you're interested in someone
• 23:45
  Speaker 2: and they have a hobby that people oftentimes picked that
• 23:48
  Speaker 2: up in order to have that as well as in common.
• 23:51
  Speaker 2: So I'm like, you know, it kind of is similar
• 23:54
  Speaker 2: to like of course, it's like you're isolating yourself from people,
• 23:57
  Speaker 2: you're giving up something you love.
• 23:58
  Speaker 3: Then that's all to conversation.
• 24:00
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but like similar to like, oh I was running
• 24:04
  Speaker 2: and like I was doing ten k's as such, and
• 24:06
  Speaker 2: the person I was dating was like, okay, I'll go
• 24:08
  Speaker 2: running with you, and started getting more and more involved
• 24:10
  Speaker 2: in doing ten k's and do that, and I was like, oh, okay,
• 24:12
  Speaker 2: that's cool. I'm glad you find out interest as well
• 24:15
  Speaker 2: as they like are in like they were in a
• 24:18
  Speaker 2: band or whatever. So I would go to their shows.
• 24:19
  Speaker 2: Did I like going to shows? No? Did I go
• 24:21
  Speaker 2: into that show? Probably not, but I would go every
• 24:24
  Speaker 2: week whenever. Just support them like stuff like that, like
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: you do things that are interested to them. I feel
• 24:29
  Speaker 2: like it's similar to that in respect of course, like
• 24:32
  Speaker 2: controlling aspects. No, trying to change yourself to be like them. No,
• 24:36
  Speaker 2: like trying to hide who you really are. Absolutely not,
• 24:39
  Speaker 2: but like doing things like again it could be a beneficial,
• 24:42
  Speaker 2: like smoking is not great, why not?
• 24:44
  Speaker 3: Why not just go ahead?
• 24:46
  Speaker 2: But at the same time, like you're if you're trying
• 24:48
  Speaker 2: to be like, oh, I have to look good all
• 24:50
  Speaker 2: the time. I need to give up food, you know,
• 24:51
  Speaker 2: stuff like that. Yeah, it is absurd, Like and if
• 24:55
  Speaker 2: there was an expectation for you to do that, and
• 24:57
  Speaker 2: I will say that too. Aiden did not tell she
• 25:00
  Speaker 2: had to. He just said I can't date you. He
• 25:02
  Speaker 2: put his own boundary and then steps away from that,
• 25:05
  Speaker 2: and that was in the story.
• 25:06
  Speaker 3: It was her choice. I think that's fair.
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I.
• 25:11
  Speaker 3: Agree, especially if you lie and say you don't smoke
• 25:13
  Speaker 3: or you don't smoke that off right, Yes, yeah, don't
• 25:17
  Speaker 3: do that.
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: No, don't do that. Yeah, I mean, And that was
• 25:20
  Speaker 1: eventually what my friend and I arrived at, because I
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: guess her point was like, well, then you're not if
• 25:27
  Speaker 1: you come in and you're expecting someone to change, right,
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: you can change people, then are they even that into
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: you anyway? But if it's something like smoking, and again
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: you're kind of like, okay, I should I've been looking
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: to give this up. And yeah, it is also interesting
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: going back to your point with like Steve and Miranda,
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: where I'm still not entirely sure he just wanted her
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: to watch him play basketball, but she did. But having
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: those conversations and compromises of you know, and I don't
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: really want to go to your show, but I guess
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: it's important to you, so I will go. I'm finding
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: those those boundaries and communicating.
• 26:15
  Speaker 2: Well, it's also that conversation of don't yuck someone's yum. Yeah,
• 26:19
  Speaker 2: he was really really excited, and I was so excited
• 26:22
  Speaker 2: to tell her about it. And it's like, this is
• 26:23
  Speaker 2: a once in a lifetime opportunity. Let's get excited. So
• 26:27
  Speaker 2: you know, you should I be able to be excited
• 26:30
  Speaker 2: with them, even if you're like, this is not realistic,
• 26:33
  Speaker 2: Good luck with that. Yeah, and you can't be dismissed
• 26:40
  Speaker 2: if someone's excitement. It's not nice unless it's not healthy, right,
• 26:47
  Speaker 2: But anyway, Oh yeah, so we have aiden come in
• 26:50
  Speaker 2: into the picture. You know, it's only going to get
• 26:53
  Speaker 2: better with this and all of the things that we've
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: been talking about. Not that each episode isn't already so
• 26:59
  Speaker 2: full of fun stuf or lots of conversational stuff. So
• 27:03
  Speaker 2: we will be back with episode six again. If you
• 27:06
  Speaker 2: are interested in joining us for a virtual watching of
• 27:10
  Speaker 2: Sex and the City, please please please contact us. We
• 27:13
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• 27:17
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• 27:50
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• 27:58
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• 28:19
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• 28:22
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