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Is your spouse giving out discounts that irritates you? · Anele and the Club on 947

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  Speaker 1: Wake up with a bang. Hey, wake up!
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  Speaker 2: Anele and the club on 947. Listen to me here.
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  Speaker 2: Who is your partner giving discounts to, but when you
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  Speaker 2: require their services, you pay full price? I'll go first. So,
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  Speaker 2: my husband's an attorney.
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  Speaker 3: Correct.
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  Speaker 2: I pay full fees when we are utilizing his labor, law,
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  Speaker 2: attorney expertise things. But then, for our lovely church, hello,
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  Speaker 2: Bryanston Methodist Church, they get his services for free.
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  Speaker 1: Now that's not right. Why do you... I mean, look,
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  Speaker 1: it's a.
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  Speaker 4: It's charity.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a charity organization.
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  Speaker 3: So am I.
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  Speaker 2: And I'm his wife.
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  Speaker 1: Are you competing with the Lord? No, she's just competing
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  Speaker 1: with the church, which is the house of the Lord.
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  Speaker 2: And I'm not the only one who has to go
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  Speaker 2: through this because the reason I'm having this conversation is
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  Speaker 2: because somebody on Twitter says that she found out that
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  Speaker 2: she was paying her husband full price for whatever it is,
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  Speaker 2: services that he provides in this professional capacity. And she
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  Speaker 2: found out that he doesn't charge his.
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  Speaker 1: Mom at all. Like at all, at all.
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  Speaker 2: Not 20%, not 30%, not 60%, nothing. The mom gets
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  Speaker 2: the services for free and she as the wife pays
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  Speaker 2: full price.
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  Speaker 1: But look, if you are, now in your case, If
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  Speaker 1: your husband is charging you full price, the money's staying
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  Speaker 1: in the family, right?
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  Speaker 3: I know that.
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  Speaker 1: Because at least it's just changing hands.
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  Speaker 2: But then, no. Unlike my thighs, your argument holds no water.
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  Speaker 1: Excuse me?
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  Speaker 5: Unlike your what?
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  Speaker 3: My thighs.
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  Speaker 2: Your argument retains no water.
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  Speaker 4: Because.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, for me, Peg, the money stays in the family. But...
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  Speaker 2: out with his mom and anybody else then the money
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  Speaker 2: really doesn't stay in the.
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  Speaker 5: Family so I don't think he should be charging you
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  Speaker 5: as his wife if he's doing the job for you
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  Speaker 5: personally Anele but if he's doing it for let's say
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  Speaker 5: because you and Frankie own a company together and it's
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  Speaker 5: a business etc then he should charge the two of
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  Speaker 5: you whether he decides to give you a discounted rate
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  Speaker 5: or not but if it's your wife no.
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  Speaker 1: Okay so firstly I want to say I disagree with
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  Speaker 1: that thank you Frankie if he's doing work for our
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  Speaker 1: company it should really come at a massive discount But
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  Speaker 1: I'm saying you.
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  Speaker 5: Should still charge you as opposed to charging his wife.
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  Speaker 5: If he's representing you by yourself, Anele, in your own
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  Speaker 5: capacity against whoever, then it should be for free.
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  Speaker 1: And once again, to the point of this example, right,
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  Speaker 1: Anele does require a lot of legal work.
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  Speaker 2: That's fine.
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  Speaker 1: He's very busy. That's fine.
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  Speaker 5: It's his wife.
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  Speaker 1: But set that aside. I get what you're saying. Like,
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  Speaker 1: let's say, for example, I'm a tax practitioner.
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  Speaker 3: Yes.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm helping people with their tax. So then I
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  Speaker 1: give my family discount, but my spouse, I don't.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, that's not on.
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  Speaker 1: You don't know that, stranger. You met them in your
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  Speaker 1: adult life. Your family knew you from birth. There we go. Malvin.
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  Speaker 2: The church said amen on the other side of the studio.
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  Speaker 4: 011-8838-947.
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  Speaker 2: Is your partner giving his family discounts but does not
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  Speaker 2: discount you at all when it's time for you to pay?
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  Speaker 5: Imagine Vin. Vin's a DJ. And then at his house,
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  Speaker 5: he has a party. And it's his wife's birthday. And
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  Speaker 5: then he charges her. No. Can you hear how crazy
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  Speaker 5: that is?
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  Speaker 2: He really better be good that night. That's all I'm saying. No.
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  Speaker 3: We're not doing that.
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  Speaker 2: He better play the set of his life.
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  Speaker 5: Not for your husband or your wife. Absolutely not.
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  Speaker 2: By the way, Vin does charge his wife for headphones
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  Speaker 2: and all of that.
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  Speaker 1: Full price.
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  Speaker 5: No. I bet you he charges her cost. No. Then
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  Speaker 5: you're terrible. You should charge a cost. Imagine if Mark
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  Speaker 5: started charging me full price for fruit and veg.
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely not.
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  Speaker 5: That he is going to eat. No, 100%. You should
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  Speaker 5: not be charging your spouse. 084-00-00947.
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  Speaker 2: Send us a voice note. Is your partner... giving everyone
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  Speaker 2: a discount except for you for their services. Be it
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  Speaker 2: their graphic designer, be it their painter, be it their plumber,
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  Speaker 2: be it their tech practitioner, everybody else, mom, cousin.
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  Speaker 1: Aunts, uncles, discounts.
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  Speaker 2: But when it comes to you, nothing.
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  Speaker 1: Full price.
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  Speaker 2: Full price.
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  Speaker 1: Let us know.
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  Speaker 2: And if you are this person charging your family full
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  Speaker 2: price for anything, please call us and tell us.
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  Speaker 5: Why you like this.
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  Speaker 1: Why are you so unhappy?
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  Speaker 2: Why are you like this? Who hurt you? Call us,
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  Speaker 2: text us, WhatsApp us. Where did you think the spoils
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  Speaker 2: are coming from? They are coming from charging you.
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  Speaker 4: Keep paying, man.
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  Speaker 2: Keep paying so you can be spoiled. I'm the one
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  Speaker 2: that charges my partner full price.
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  Speaker 5: I sell hair.
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  Speaker 2: He bought his mom a wig. I charged him full price.
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  Speaker 2: I gave a relative things for decoration.
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  Speaker 3: The tablecloth.
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  Speaker 2: All the chairs and everything. It's like I bought those
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  Speaker 2: things for her so she can continue with the business.
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  Speaker 3: So we had a function.
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  Speaker 2: And guess what? She charged me full price.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, girl, but I'm the one who gave
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  Speaker 1: you all these things. Why are you charging?
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  Speaker 5: It's like that.
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  Speaker 2: I don't understand that. So she gave the relative things
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  Speaker 2: to throw events with. And then she needed an event
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  Speaker 2: and the relative charged her full price. So you loaded
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  Speaker 2: the gun for her to shoot you with.
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  Speaker 1: She used your things and then charged you full price
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  Speaker 1: for the surface.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, I'd be so upset. Oh, I'd be upset. JT's
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  Speaker 2: in Pretoria. Good morning, JT.
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  Speaker 3: Hello, hello. This is my first time in radio.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, there we go. Pop, pop, pop, pop, pop. This
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  Speaker 2: is the topic that did it. Okay, JT, spill, tell us.
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  Speaker 3: All right, all right. So this is how we handled
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  Speaker 3: it on my side. I'm not the one who suggested it,
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  Speaker 3: but I am the culprit because I took the money.
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  Speaker 3: So my ex-partner said to me, I was doing furniture business,
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  Speaker 3: and she ordered items from me, and she paid me
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  Speaker 3: in full, the same way you would pay me as
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  Speaker 3: a stranger. And she said... I come into you as
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  Speaker 3: a partner, but when I take something from your business...
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  Speaker 3: I'm a client. I'm a client. So we handled things
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  Speaker 3: that way. And I think somehow, even though I was
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  Speaker 3: willing to give it for free, but I think she
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  Speaker 3: was very fair and it was healthy.
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  Speaker 2: It is healthy.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Okay.
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  Speaker 3: So that's the story.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you, JT. Now you just made me sound like...
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  Speaker 2: I'm being ridiculous for wanting legal work.
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  Speaker 1: Ridiculous.
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  Speaker 2: Ridiculous for wanting legal work for free. Fine, I'll pay
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  Speaker 2: my husband.
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  Speaker 5: Babalo, you're back.
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  Speaker 2: Talk to us.
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  Speaker 4: Hello, can you hear me now?
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  Speaker 2: Much better. Talk to us.
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  Speaker 4: I really admire people who charge full price because I
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  Speaker 4: have been used over and over. I'm a graphic designer.
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  Speaker 4: I normally don't charge for families and friends. But now
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  Speaker 4: when the business is booming and I'm like, okay, let
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  Speaker 4: me support. Invoice comes full price.
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  Speaker 3: What?
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  Speaker 4: And I'm just like, I go.
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  Speaker 2: And then when you raise it with them and say, hey,
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  Speaker 2: remember when I did something for you, I gave you
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  Speaker 2: a discount. What part of the game is this?
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  Speaker 4: I don't ask. I just pay and move on.
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  Speaker 2: You know what life is teaching me, hey?
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  Speaker 1: Clarity.
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  Speaker 2: Is that when you give people a discount, you must say, hey,
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  Speaker 2: so this is my normal price. This is what I'm
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  Speaker 2: giving you.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: So if ever I need services from you, please, can
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  Speaker 2: you please extend the same favor to me?
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  Speaker 1: It's clarity.
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  Speaker 2: Because once people are going to take and they sell,
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to give.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but Bobo, I think you must, because you know
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  Speaker 1: how I feel about it. You must always charge something.
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  Speaker 1: It can't be free.
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  Speaker 5: Right.
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  Speaker 1: So that's how I see it. So like if you're
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  Speaker 1: going to give people massive discounts, right, you must always
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  Speaker 1: charge them something, even if it's 200 bucks, 300 bucks,
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  Speaker 1: whatever it is. They must feel like they're paying for something.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Because otherwise they'll just come back the whole time because
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  Speaker 1: they feel like it's worthless.
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  Speaker 4: No thanks.
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  Speaker 2: And also, I just think it erodes the respect in
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  Speaker 2: a way because I'm not saying people find their worth
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  Speaker 2: in their work, but there is worth in their work.
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  Speaker 1: No, absolutely.
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  Speaker 2: So if, like, for instance, now my husband studied for
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  Speaker 2: this law degree and did all of the articles and everything.
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  Speaker 2: And then when it's time to do legal work, like,
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  Speaker 2: I just think it's free.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I'm kind of eroding at his worth.
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  Speaker 1: Can I also say with the couples thing, this is
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  Speaker 1: why I would be very upset if he charged full
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  Speaker 1: price if I was his partner. But still, I can
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  Speaker 1: see the conversation here. There is us time.
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  Speaker 3: Yes.
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  Speaker 1: And it's we time together. But what you're asking is
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  Speaker 1: me time. So you're stealing his time to either be
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  Speaker 1: with you or with the kids or with the family
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  Speaker 1: or whatever it is. Because now he's got to sit
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  Speaker 1: in the evening.
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  Speaker 2: And work.
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  Speaker 1: He's obviously doing it after hours.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. And work.
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  Speaker 1: Which is, then you're taking his time.
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  Speaker 3: His time.
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  Speaker 1: That's why he's charging you.
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  Speaker 2: For me time. It ain't we time.
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  Speaker 1: It ain't we time.