509. I've Told You What I Need... So Why Does Nothing Change? Therapist Interview Part 1

The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast · Oct 2, 2026 · 31m

Have you ever looked at your spouse and thought, “How many times do I have to say this before something actually changes?”

You’ve explained what you need. You’ve tried being nice about it. You’ve brought it up during a calm conversation. You’ve probably brought it up during a not so calm conversation too.

You’ve told them you need more affection. More help. More communication. More initiation. More appreciation. More quality time. More intimacy. More effort.

They say they hear you.

Maybe they even promise to do better.

And then... a week later, you’re right back where you started.

So what do…