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Episode 17- You Minding Your Own Business When It Comes To Doing What Is Best For You. · You Minding Your Own Business

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  Speaker 1: Hello, Hello everybody, welcome to my podcast you Minding your
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  Speaker 1: Own Business. I'm your host Scottus Austin Mary. I'm'a thank
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  Speaker 1: you guys for joining me for this episode. If you
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  Speaker 1: guys like a commentary, please come and check out my
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  Speaker 1: podcast on Apple, iHeartRadio, Google, Spotify and multiple other streaming companies.
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  Speaker 2: And a little bit about me.
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  Speaker 1: I'm a Certify Recovery life coach, all about helping people
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  Speaker 1: in their past, their journeys, and their purpose doing new
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  Speaker 1: and better you. I have ten pet PM ten podcasts
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  Speaker 1: that pretty much help people as far as different levels
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  Speaker 1: of recovery. I figured that instead of me trying to
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  Speaker 1: do recovery in one podcast, I will do them in ten.
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  Speaker 1: Actually there's twelve, but I haven't done the other two
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  Speaker 1: because I really wanna get people used to these podcasts
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  Speaker 1: first before I start really getting into the solutions.
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  Speaker 2: But this is more so.
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  Speaker 1: Just talking about recovery from multiple different facets and healing
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  Speaker 1: from multiple different facets, because I feel like if you
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  Speaker 1: proby to put everything on one podcast, it's gonna end
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  Speaker 1: up being overshadowed because everybody has a different type of
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  Speaker 1: recovery that they're dealing with. Nobody deals with recovery the same.
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  Speaker 1: No one has to endure recovery in the same way,
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  Speaker 1: so everybody is pretty much different. So I wanted to
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  Speaker 1: come on here today because I know everybody's like, what happened?
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  Speaker 2: She was gone?
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  Speaker 1: Last week, I was in Hurricane Milton. Hurricane Milton hit
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  Speaker 1: Florida kind of bad, so I couldn't do a podcast
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  Speaker 1: because our electric was out, our internet was out. It
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  Speaker 1: was really really bad, so I wasn't able to do
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  Speaker 1: a podcast, and I'm sorry about that. I have some
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  Speaker 1: videos that I did on YouTube that I'm gonna post
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  Speaker 1: on all my channels as far as different content that
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  Speaker 1: I did, as far as different topics that I did
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  Speaker 1: on my s YouTube channel before everything went out. But
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  Speaker 1: this particular topic is all about me minding your own business.
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  Speaker 1: When it comes to doing what's best for you and
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  Speaker 1: doing what makes you happy and what brings you joy.
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  Speaker 1: A lot of people have based their lives on what
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  Speaker 1: other people think and what other people have to say
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  Speaker 1: about them and how they feel about them. A lot
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  Speaker 1: of people can't be alone and be by themselves and
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  Speaker 1: really just be one with the higher power within themselves.
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  Speaker 1: They have to have other people in their lives. In
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  Speaker 1: order for them to thrive. And there are other people
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  Speaker 1: that don't need people in their lives in order to thrive.
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  Speaker 1: Their thrive regardless. So you have two different types of people.
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  Speaker 1: The problem is you got one person, excuse me, that's
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  Speaker 1: accepted when it comes to wanting to be love like,
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  Speaker 1: to appreciate their value, wanted needed to be a part
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  Speaker 1: of something, to be validated, to be approved of, to
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  Speaker 1: be accepted for somebody know you're worth and proving some.
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  Speaker 2: Of the people.
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  Speaker 1: You have other people that are people pleass, Captain Sablehole,
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  Speaker 1: build a bears, building, dolls, and sea feelers. So you
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  Speaker 1: have people that's also wolves and she's clothing boy and
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  Speaker 1: girla Kui, wolves, sirens, vampire snakes, Jezebels, suckubists, and Harlot's.
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  Speaker 2: At the end of the day, like I said.
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  Speaker 1: I was watching his guys videos and he passed away unfortunately,
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  Speaker 1: and he talked about how even though you try to
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  Speaker 1: do everything right, it doesn't mean negativity's not gonna hit
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  Speaker 1: you in one way or another. I tell people all
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  Speaker 1: the time. If you're strong minded, then it's gonna hit
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  Speaker 1: you physically. If you're more physically inclined, then you gonna
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  Speaker 1: have to deal with more mental issues. It just depends, cause,
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  Speaker 1: like I said, some people are very strong minded. So
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  Speaker 1: there are a lot of people that have now learned
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  Speaker 1: that the importance of their standards and the importance of
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  Speaker 1: them having them standards and in their standards and not
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  Speaker 1: negotiating those standards. And there's too many people who have
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  Speaker 1: done that because of the things I said earlier.
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  Speaker 2: Now I get it.
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  Speaker 1: Love is a beautiful thing. Love is a great thing,
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  Speaker 1: being liked is a great thing. All those things are
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  Speaker 1: great things, but what you're willing to do for them
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  Speaker 1: is what makes them not only addictive but also dangerous.
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  Speaker 1: A lot of people have gotten hurt and have ended
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  Speaker 1: up in jail, drugs, alcohol, onunal lives, all kinds of
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  Speaker 1: things because of the fact of what they were willing
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  Speaker 1: to do for those things, and that's what makes it negative.
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  Speaker 1: I've learned that if something is meant for you, you
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  Speaker 1: don't have to go looking for it, it will find you.
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  Speaker 1: And I also took this week while all of this
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  Speaker 1: was going on, to figure out what direction that season
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  Speaker 1: two is going to go in as far as this
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  Speaker 1: new season of the podcast, So I decided to go
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  Speaker 1: down a different direction and that is society and why
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  Speaker 1: people need to stay away from society standards. Let me
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  Speaker 1: tell you what I've learned since I've been gone this
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  Speaker 1: past weeks. I have learned so much about not only myself,
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  Speaker 1: but also people and society standards and a lot of
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  Speaker 1: things that's probably gonna shock a lot of people. Now
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  Speaker 1: when it comes to recovery, it's about seeing things for
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  Speaker 1: what they are and not what you want them to be. Now,
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  Speaker 1: there are times that God may pull you away from
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  Speaker 1: the world and put you by yourself because you're constantly
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  Speaker 1: going through negative situations that you really shouldn't have went
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  Speaker 1: through if you would.
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  Speaker 2: Have stuck like with your standards.
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  Speaker 1: A lot of people want you to lower your standards
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  Speaker 1: in order to be your relationships with them. They want
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  Speaker 1: you to lower your standards in order for you to
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  Speaker 1: basically date them or whatever the case may be. And
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  Speaker 1: by doing that, you don't know how the demonic forces
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  Speaker 1: will attack you because of it. What I learned about
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  Speaker 1: standards is that standards protect you from negativity being able
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  Speaker 1: to take advantage of you or manipulate or bamboozoo. So
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  Speaker 1: they say, you meet somebody and they say to you
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  Speaker 1: they want you to have sex with them, and you're like, well, no,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not ready to have sex. Well, if you love me,
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  Speaker 1: you'll have sex with me. Well your response is, if
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  Speaker 1: you love me, you wait. My standards are I'm not
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  Speaker 1: having sex before marriage. I stand on that, and that's
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  Speaker 1: in on that. Either you're gonna date me or you
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  Speaker 1: can go ahead and go Now for a lot of
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  Speaker 1: people that person say they can't handle it, you're willing
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  Speaker 1: to drop your standards that you said are non negotiables
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  Speaker 1: and go ahead and go through with it. And then
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  Speaker 1: later on down the line it is hit you that
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  Speaker 1: you made a mistake because now you've got with this
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  Speaker 1: person in mine. Well, part of recovery is trying to
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  Speaker 1: understand why you let down your guard. Why did you
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  Speaker 1: let go of your standards? Why did you just break
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  Speaker 1: what you have said to yourself you were not gonna
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  Speaker 1: do in order to be in relationships with people. Why
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  Speaker 1: is it that to be loved you have to go
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  Speaker 1: against your standards. You have to go against having dreams
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  Speaker 1: and goals to be married to somebody, to be in
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  Speaker 1: some relationship with somebody else.
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  Speaker 2: What I learned in.
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  Speaker 1: That is that is not the way God wants you
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  Speaker 1: to be when it comes to a marriage.
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  Speaker 2: That's why God says it's.
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  Speaker 1: Evenly yoked and you love a woman the way Jesus
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  Speaker 1: loved the church and vice versa, and a lot of
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  Speaker 1: people are basically helping a lot of parents out. So
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  Speaker 1: the reason a lot of parents want their kids to
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  Speaker 1: be married is because they don't have to worry about
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  Speaker 1: them coming and asking them for money.
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  Speaker 2: They have somebody else that deal with them.
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  Speaker 1: That's why when I see a lot of tiktoks and
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  Speaker 1: I see people dropping off they wives because they spend
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  Speaker 1: entirely too much money, I just start laughing. And you
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  Speaker 1: have people that's having babies and they're not staying together,
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  Speaker 1: and now you're a single mother. So those morals, values, principles,
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  Speaker 1: and ethics are extremely important.
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  Speaker 2: And you knowing.
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  Speaker 1: What it is that you want and need and what
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  Speaker 1: you're gonna put up with and what you won't put
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  Speaker 1: up with, what you will allow and what you want
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  Speaker 1: allow is very important cause when you get into the world,
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  Speaker 1: your standards are gonna be very important because without.
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  Speaker 2: Them, you are going to be purely screwed.
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  Speaker 1: You just are you gonna have people taking advantage of
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  Speaker 1: you and doing all kinds of negative things.
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  Speaker 2: To you because you let them your standards.
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  Speaker 1: So you have to understand your standards are actually your
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  Speaker 1: guard so people can't get to anything else. And today,
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  Speaker 1: understand the respect you your boundaries and understanding your standards,
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  Speaker 1: because boundaries are very important as well. So if I'm
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  Speaker 1: someone that's saying that I'm not gonna give up my career,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not giving up nothing for nobody. What that means
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  Speaker 1: is either you're gonna add to my life or you're
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  Speaker 1: gonna subtract and keep it pushing because I ain't got
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  Speaker 1: time for it. So a lot of people what they
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  Speaker 1: do is they're the ones making the sacrifices. They're the
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  Speaker 1: ones trying to make sure everybody's good. The problem is
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  Speaker 1: you're the person being destroyed. You're the one now sitting
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  Speaker 1: in jail. You're the one now that has a single mother.
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  Speaker 1: You're the one now that are homeless out here in
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  Speaker 1: the street. You're the one going through domestic violence issues
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  Speaker 1: because you lowered yourself in order to be with this person.
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  Speaker 2: And that is not what you're supposed to do.
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  Speaker 1: You're not in any way supposed to give up anything,
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  Speaker 1: and yet you do because the love of somebody, you're
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  Speaker 1: willing to sacrifice any and everything to be with them,
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  Speaker 1: even if that means losing yourself, And that is not
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  Speaker 1: the way God wants you to love somebody. God don't
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  Speaker 1: want you to love somebody by losing yourself and that person.
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  Speaker 1: God don't want you to lose everything you got because
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  Speaker 1: you gonna give this person everything. It's just like when
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  Speaker 1: you pay somebody's bills and then they turn around and
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  Speaker 1: don't give you your money back. Now you sitting out
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  Speaker 1: there in the streets somewhere, Now, this person ain't coming around.
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  Speaker 2: They're not tryna help you, They're not trying to do nothing.
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  Speaker 1: And that's the sad part about the whole entire situation.
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  Speaker 2: So I do get the fact that for a lot
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  Speaker 2: of people, when it comes to these situation, it's ucks.
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  Speaker 1: But if we minded our own business instead on business
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  Speaker 1: and stood on our standards and our morals and values
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  Speaker 1: are principles and ethics, critical thinking, common sense, and common judgment,
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  Speaker 1: weighing the pros and cons and then understand the because
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  Speaker 1: in karmen to your actions based upon your behavior, choice
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  Speaker 1: and decisions. And then not only that, if you sat
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  Speaker 1: there and did research before you made a decision, your
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  Speaker 1: decision would be different. But what it is is you're
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  Speaker 1: not paying attention to how your body is being affected
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  Speaker 1: by the mental choice that you make and how the
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  Speaker 1: mental is being manipulated as well. Either way it go,
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  Speaker 1: you're gonna be screwed. So by you having your morals,
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  Speaker 1: your values, your principles and ethics, the more people that
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  Speaker 1: don't accept it, those are not people you need to
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  Speaker 1: deal with anyway, because there will be someone that will
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  Speaker 1: accept what your standards are and they will accept you
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  Speaker 1: as a person, and they will want to be with
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  Speaker 1: you and they will want.
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  Speaker 2: To make you happy.
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  Speaker 1: So I just want people to understand that it's okay
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  Speaker 1: that you don't fit society standards. It's okay that you're
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  Speaker 1: not trying to do all these things and go through
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  Speaker 1: all all these bells and whistles and doing drugs and
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  Speaker 1: all of these negative things because you wanna be a
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  Speaker 1: part of something.
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  Speaker 2: I'm sorry, but that's just not that important. So I
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  Speaker 2: get it.
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  Speaker 1: I understand completely Early Doom don't think I don't. But
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  Speaker 1: at the end of the day, like I said, everybody
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  Speaker 1: has the right to do whatever it is they choose
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  Speaker 1: to do, and people gotta take what come with that.
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  Speaker 1: When you bring everybody else in your battles and your fights,
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  Speaker 1: and ain't got nothing to do with them when you're
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  Speaker 1: sitting here having it. Other people sitting in prison because
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  Speaker 1: of something that you made the choice to do.
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  Speaker 2: That is a problem.
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  Speaker 1: I see many young girls sitting in prison for the
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  Speaker 1: love of boy, or a young man sitting in prison
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  Speaker 1: for the love of a w of a gro a
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  Speaker 1: girl or a grown woman. It's sad, is it really
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  Speaker 1: is that when I see stuff like that, and it's
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  Speaker 1: not right, and it's not fair.
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  Speaker 2: But life isn't fair.
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  Speaker 1: Life is hard, And when you mind your own business,
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  Speaker 1: it's not just about getting involved in other people's problems.
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  Speaker 2: It's about the fact they got two parents.
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  Speaker 1: If their own parents are not helping them, their own
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  Speaker 1: family members are not helping them.
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  Speaker 2: Then why are you doing it?
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  Speaker 1: What is the point of you trying to help people
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  Speaker 1: that don't want to help themselves. And that's the point
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  Speaker 1: that I'm trying to make. I get the fact that
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  Speaker 1: for people you want love, you want happiness, So you're
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  Speaker 1: willing to go get plast surgery and do all these
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  Speaker 1: things and going through hoops and bounds to be with
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  Speaker 1: people that don't deserve you, and you shouldn't be with
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  Speaker 1: it in the first place. But don't think for a
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  Speaker 1: moment that I don't understand it because loneliness. A lot
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  Speaker 1: of people keep saying, well, being alone is a bad thing.
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  Speaker 1: Being lonely is something wrong with you. No, that is
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  Speaker 1: not what it means. It means that right now you're
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  Speaker 1: on a path that God puts you on, so you're
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  Speaker 1: not distracted by all this other stuff that's going on
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  Speaker 1: your city still to God tells you to move.
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  Speaker 2: So when you're alone, it just means.
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  Speaker 1: That you're on a journey that a lot of people
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  Speaker 1: around you just cannot understand. You might be writing a book,
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  Speaker 1: you might be criating courses, you might be doing god
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  Speaker 1: knows what. But the thing about it is they don't
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  Speaker 1: know what you're doing because you're moving in silence. So
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  Speaker 1: that does not mean that there's something wrong with you
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  Speaker 1: because you're alone.
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  Speaker 2: It just means that.
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  Speaker 1: You don't have anybody complicating your life or making your
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  Speaker 1: life worse than what it is. You don't have somebody
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  Speaker 1: using taking advantage of you because you are basically on
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  Speaker 1: your own. That is all it means. It means nothing more,
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  Speaker 1: nothing less than that. But a lot of people don't
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  Speaker 1: necessarily understand that. They think, oh, well.
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  Speaker 2: You know, being in this situation means this.
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  Speaker 1: No, it just means that, Okay, I'm in a situation
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  Speaker 1: where I'm dealing with my problems on my own. You know,
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to a therapist, but my family doesn't know
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to a therapist. You may have gotten married,
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  Speaker 1: but you ain't told your parents that you got married yet.
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  Speaker 1: You might be doing your own thing. You might decide
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  Speaker 1: to leave the country and your parents can't believe you're
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  Speaker 1: up and leaving it to another country by yourself with nobody,
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  Speaker 1: but you feel, excuse me, that that's what's best for you.
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  Speaker 2: My throat hurts. So when you're doing what's best you, Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: you're gonna be alone in that.
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  Speaker 1: The one person that's gonna be going through this this
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  Speaker 1: journey is you and God. That's pretty much about it.
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  Speaker 1: Nobody else is gonna be what you through this journey.
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  Speaker 1: Nobody's gonna help you through it, cause, like I said,
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  Speaker 1: nobody's gonna understand it.
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  Speaker 2: So when you're sitting here.
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  Speaker 1: Telling people, oh, I'm gonna go to Mexico or I'm
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  Speaker 1: gonna live in Spain and I'm gonna live here your
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  Speaker 1: family gonna think you crazy for wanting to do that.
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  Speaker 1: Why in the world would you wanna leave the United States?
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  Speaker 1: Why in the world would you wanna go to another state?
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  Speaker 1: Why don't you just stay here? And you were like,
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  Speaker 1: there's nothing here.
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  Speaker 2: And so the.
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  Speaker 1: Reason you're going through what you're going through is not
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  Speaker 1: just because of people. It can also be the situation,
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  Speaker 1: and it also can be the location. So once you
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  Speaker 1: leave a location, you'll see everything being different. You'll see
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  Speaker 1: how different things are, You'll see how better things are.
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  Speaker 1: You'll see that you're in a better position. You'll see
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  Speaker 1: that everything is going according to the way it's supposed to.
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  Speaker 2: So I absolutely get it. I do. But is it
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  Speaker 2: easy going through the journeys?
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  Speaker 1: No, if I can sit there and tell you how
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  Speaker 1: hard it is because you don't know who to trust,
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  Speaker 1: you don't know who got you back. So the end day,
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  Speaker 1: you take one day at a time, cause, like I said,
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  Speaker 1: it all work out. I promise you will. May it
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  Speaker 1: take some time, but it'll work out. So all I'm
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  Speaker 1: saying to y'all is it is okay if you're not
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  Speaker 1: in the place you should be. So no, so we
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  Speaker 1: ain't doing nothing to at the end of the day,
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  Speaker 1: Like I said, sometimes you're gonna have to be alone
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  Speaker 1: to be the best version of yourself. Sometimes you need
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  Speaker 1: to be alone in order to figure out what your
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  Speaker 1: next movie is gonna be. And sometimes you need to
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  Speaker 1: see what you can do by yourself before you bring
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  Speaker 1: others into your world. So don't get upset because this
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  Speaker 1: person jail whatever it was, it did, So that's pretty
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  Speaker 1: much all you need to do. So at the end
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  Speaker 1: of the day, like I said, is it easy going
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  Speaker 1: through these journeys?
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  Speaker 2: No? Is it easy fighting your own battles. No.
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  Speaker 1: But there are some beat that don't want to drive
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  Speaker 1: people unto they mess, they don't wanna lie them and
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  Speaker 1: they play and do all this other stuff just to
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  Speaker 1: basically get this person. Some people just wanna relax and
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  Speaker 1: enjoy their loved ones and call it that. So, like
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  Speaker 1: I said, a lot of stuff don't matter at this point.
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  Speaker 1: There's a lot of stuff going on in the world
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  Speaker 1: I will never understand. For sometimes I'm just like I'll
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  Speaker 1: just choose not to. It's just like when I made
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  Speaker 1: the decision to go celibate. That was not an easy decision.
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  Speaker 1: But guess what I made the decision. I made the
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  Speaker 1: decision because, like I said, when I was having sex,
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  Speaker 1: it wasn't worth it and I really wasn't getting nothing
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: out of it. So now when men say certain things,
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: I'm like, no, I'm not interested, because if I don't
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: have a connection with that person, then I'm certainly not interested.
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: So I want people to understand that when you know
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: what it is that you won't you're gonna have to
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: sit still in wait, meaning that the person you may
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: meet maybe somebody that you might randomly just run into.
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: It might be someone if you go on a dating site,
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: you might go on tender and you might meet somebody,
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: but you gotta be very careful because nowadays you got
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: people un alive and decapitating people, so be mindful of that.
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: So you just gotta be able to read energy, because
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: sometimes even though the representation is good, sometimes you can
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: see and still see through the bs. It may take
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: a little bit of time, but you'll be able to
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: see it eventual because some of these people ain't worth
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: the time that you waste. So I wouldn't worry about it.
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: It will all work out. I promise you it will, because,
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: like I said, when you sit here and you believe
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: in yourself, even when no one else does. Trust me,
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: everything will be okay.
• 19:23
  Speaker 2: It will be.
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: It may take a little bit of time, but it
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: absolutely will be.
• 19:29
  Speaker 2: So at the end of the day, don't sit here
• 19:31
  Speaker 2: and feel bad.
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: Because right now you're not hanging around a bunch of people.
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: You're not married, but yet you have a very successful job.
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: You're traveling the world, You're able to come and go
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: as you please, you're a CEO, you're making multimillions of dollars.
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: So that's what should be what's important. So when it
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: comes to a new dawn and a new day, when
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: it come to you minding your own business, you ain't
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: caring about the fact of these celebrities and what they
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: got going on. You don't care about the the fact
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: that somebody else is doing whatever. You's like, Okay, that
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: has nothing to do with me. Now, you may pray
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: for that person. You may say, Okay, I'm gonna pray
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: for that person and pray that they get through whatever
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: it is they're getting through. But as far as you
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: just saying, okay, I'm gonna get involved and I'm gonna
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: basically get put put myself in harm's way for something
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: that I have nothing to do. With Now, if it's
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: something I can control, where I can guide the person, okay, cool.
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: But if it's something dangerous where my life is gonna
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: be on the line, I'm sorry.
• 20:33
  Speaker 2: I'm not getting involved.
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: If you doing something that's gonna jeopardize my peace, quiet
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: and tranquility, I can't deal with you in any capacity whatsoever,
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: cause I'm not messing with nobody that messes my inner
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: piece and tranquility because that is very important to me,
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: as it should be for everybody. So you have to
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: know when you can get involved with somebody by giving
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: them advice or showing them how to do something, or
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: instructing them to do it, or teaching them how.
• 20:58
  Speaker 2: To do it.
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: But it's a whole nother thing when the money you're
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: giving this person you can't afford to give now, you
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: can't pay your rent, cause this person didn't even bother
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: to call you, didn't bother to bring some of your money,
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: didn't even bother do none of that. They came just
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: to get money from you. So you have to be
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: mindful of the people that you do things for. Because again,
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: you have a lot of pastors saying, oh, it shouldn't
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: matter whether you got money or not. You should still
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: give tides, tithes and offering is food. It's not what
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: you saying that it is. So all I'm saying is no,
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: absolutely not.
• 21:42
  Speaker 2: So no.
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: So I get it though I do. But like I said,
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: when you mind your own business and you focus on
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: yourself and focus on what you need to do, the
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: rest of the world don't matter, because, like I said,
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: when you walk out that door, the only thing worried
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: about is you getting to your destination and getting back
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: and making sure nobody don't hit your car.
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: You just make sure when you're getting this, when you
• 22:06
  Speaker 2: get into the store, you.
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: Ain't gotta worry about some nasty person having an attitude
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: or somebody bumping into you. All you need to worry
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: about is if you go to a Chris Brown concert,
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: there's not gonna be a gun pulled out and somebody
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: trying to shoot you.
• 22:19
  Speaker 2: That's what you should be worrying about.
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: So your whole philosophy is gonna change when you go
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: in this IPI Nation cocoon. And I mean, all I'm
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: saying is life is just too short for nonsense at
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: this point, cause, like I said, a lot of y'all
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: worry about the wrong things it don't matter, and then
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: when somebody decides to leave you, you can't handle the fact
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: that they left versus you dealing.
• 22:48
  Speaker 2: With the emotions and then moving on.
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: So what I'm saying is figure out what went wrong
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: and try to figure it out. If you can't, then
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: leave where it's at and let certain people figure out.
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: So what I'm gonna do, like I said, it's not
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: worry about the things I can't control. And like I said,
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: I have no problem with helping me. But here's my thing.
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: If I'm gonna be hurt because of what you did,
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: then there's no point of me helping you.
• 23:23
  Speaker 2: At the end of the day.
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: These people got parents, and I'm like, why you didn't
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: ask your parents for the money?
• 23:28
  Speaker 2: Well, they didn't wanna give you the money. Why did
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: they wanna give you the money?
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: See a lot of y'all don't wanna ask questions because
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: you're afraid if you don't do it, this person ain't
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: gonna wanna be with you, They're.
• 23:36
  Speaker 2: Not gonna like you.
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: Well, so what if they don't like you? So what
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: if they don't wanna be around you? So what if
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: you gotta sit up here and go and geinst everything
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: you stand for just because you wanna be loved by somebody,
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: That to me is wrong, cause the person really loves you,
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: they respect the fact that whatever it is you got
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: going on. So at the end of the day, not
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: everybody's about money.
• 23:59
  Speaker 2: Some people just so I don't know. So, like I said,
• 24:07
  Speaker 2: we all have the things we have to deal with.
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: But it doesn't mean that just because you're alone, there's
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: something that is wrong with you, because there's nothing wrong
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: with you. It's just God is keeping you away from
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: all these negative people that don't want you. That's why
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: sometimes I think the reason why people are overweight or
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: or unattractive is because God is protected me from people
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: that ain't gonna be worth you. That if you turn
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: around and go get plasid surgery and then you look
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: like the same girls, they don't.
• 24:36
  Speaker 2: They don't beat you at their own excuse me.
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: So, like I said, you know God, sometimes God will
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: put you in isolation for a reason, and there's a
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: reason that God puts you there. So just understand that
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: it's okay to be alone and figure things out. It's
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: okay to travel the world and see what's out there
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: on your own, and you might meet some great friends, like,
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: for example, you might meet your husband in a different country.
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: So if you can't find the person that's meant for you,
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: then there's nothing wrong going out of the country. But
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: if you got people going out of the country just
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: for sex, then that's all enough. Different conversations.
• 25:22
  Speaker 2: You have.
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: Some of these dudes that are going out to these
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: females for sex, they're not going after them general like them.
• 25:26
  Speaker 2: So I'm saying, is om good.
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: So I wouldn't worry about the coodushen with us.
• 25:47
  Speaker 2: But like I said, things are not always what they've seen.
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: But when you get involved in other people's lives and
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: other people's business, then you lose yourself. And that is
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: the one thing I've learned. When it comes to friendships
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: and romantic relationships and even family relationships.
• 26:03
  Speaker 2: You do end up losing yourself.
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: And the only way you can get yourself back is
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: if you get away from all of that and you
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: deal with people from a distance, meaning that you deal
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: with them when you choose to want to deal with them,
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: and when you don't, then you don't deal with them
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: at all. So, for example, if you're working on something
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: you don't want nobody to know, you ain't.
• 26:22
  Speaker 2: Gonna talk about it. You just gonna keep quiet and
• 26:24
  Speaker 2: do whatever it is you need to do.
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: And then when you become successful at it, then you say, okay, look,
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna go ahead and I'm just gonna do this
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: or whatever the case may be. But until you are
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: at a place where you understand that, Okay, I don't wrong.
• 26:40
  Speaker 2: I like people.
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: I like being around people, but the way people have
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: walked out of my life, the way people have done
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: me dirty, I don't want to deal with. And that's fine.
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: You have every right to say, you know what, I
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: don't want to do nothing that.
• 26:52
  Speaker 2: It don't mean that you won't find your tribe.
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: It's just now when you get on social media, you're
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: teaching and you're educating people, and you're doing all these
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: things and now people are learning from you, they're growing
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: from you, and now they're great go and talk about
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: something very important. So I definitely appreciate y'all. Thank you
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: so so. Like I said, life is hard, it's not easy,
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: but it is what you choose to make it to be.
• 27:35
  Speaker 1: That doesn't get me wrong. We all have made the wrong
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: the choices, and don't get me wrong. Negativity will hit
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: you in multiple different ways. But as long as you
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: stay strong and long as you know in a move
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: when it sits still, when you should be fine, but
• 27:49
  Speaker 1: a minute you don't know, you're gonna be screwed. Like hell,
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: excuse me, lay the Lord, but you're gonna be skewed.
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: You gonna be screwed.
• 28:26
  Speaker 2: So sorry, y'all. My throat kind of hurt some.
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: Sorry, if I had to take a minute.
• 28:33
  Speaker 2: I can coffee it all day after light.
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: Something stuck in my throat. But yeah, that's the reason
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: I've been going. It wasn't the fact that I intentionally
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: wanted to leave, y'all. It was just the fact one
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: my throat was hurting, and two we had a hurricane
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: and the hurricane was absolutely terrible.
• 28:50
  Speaker 2: It tore up a lot of stuff.
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: People are still out of light, still out of a
• 28:54
  Speaker 1: lot of things, and it's just bad.
• 28:56
  Speaker 2: Hopefully things will get better.
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: And now it may be dealing with another hurricane. So
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: if it ain't one thing, it's something else. But what
• 29:04
  Speaker 1: I will say is, no matter what we go through,
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: just mind your own business, teach yourself, don't worry about
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: nobody else, and do what you need to do for yourself,
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: cause it ain't nothing like being able to do for
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: yourself and not gonna worry with nobody. So with that
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: being said, y'all enjoy it. So, So, like I said,
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna get ready to go to bed and get
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: some rest, but I just want to come on here
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: and I'm sorry.
• 29:45
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna throw it is been hurt.
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: So when it gets like that, I just get off
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: cause I don't want to make my worst voice worse
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: than what it is. But I just want to come
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: on here and do this video. I will be doing
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: any other videos than the other I'm sorry podcast that
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: I'll be doing. I definitely will be doing them tomorrow,
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: making up a Sunday's podcast tomorrow because I just with
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: my throat and everything, the lights and everything. It just
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: was a really rough week. I'm telling you, it has
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: been a very rough week since last week. So I've
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: tooken advantage to just chill, relax and just just chill
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: us about it. So with that being said, I am
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: going to go. So that's how I'm going. So I
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: just wanna take time to tell yo, the it's okay
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: if you're not society standards, it's okay if you don't
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: get it's okay if you don't belong, it's okay that
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: at the moment, nobody love, likes to appreciate values, once
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: you needs you, and all these other things. The point
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: is find those things within yourself, cause once you start
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: minding your business, you don't care about nobody else's you know,
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: and this for that, This was for all people. So
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: stop worrying about what other people got to say. So
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: I'm just saying so, like I said, I think we
• 31:12
  Speaker 1: all just you know, as godly people come together build
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: a community and so we don't have to worry about it.
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: That's why most introverts they build a community of people
• 31:23
  Speaker 1: just like them. And for me as what I'm gonna do,
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: build something that's just for me so I won't be alone,
• 31:31
  Speaker 1: and so on and so forth.
• 31:33
  Speaker 2: So, like I said, I just.
• 31:35
  Speaker 1: Wanted to make this very simple, very sweet, and very
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: plain and just tell you it's okay if you don't fit,
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: it's okay if you don't belong. Just understand what's meant
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: for you is meant for you. So with that being said,
• 31:59
  Speaker 1: I'm gonnahead.
• 31:59
  Speaker 2: It in this podcast. Now, come my throat.
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: It's hurting, but I appreciate you all of joining me
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: for this episode. Hopefully it will get better soon and
• 32:07
  Speaker 1: I'll be able to do long with videos, but I
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: just wanna keep it just here because, like I said,
• 32:13
  Speaker 1: everybody is so busy and everybody else's business that they're
• 32:16
  Speaker 1: not focusing on their business. And if you're interested in
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: one on one coaching, being a guest on my podcast,
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: if it's someone just wanna send me letters just to
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: talk or whatever the case may be, just put the
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: word try. I think, just put the word yes, and
• 32:36
  Speaker 1: I should be able to see it so you can
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: also I think about something different.
• 32:40
  Speaker 2: My throat hurts, and that's not what I was gonna say.
• 32:43
  Speaker 1: I was like, if you're interested in one on one coaching,
• 32:45
  Speaker 1: or if you wanna be on a guest on my podcast,
• 32:48
  Speaker 1: I just wanna write something, it's because you just want
• 32:50
  Speaker 1: me to look at it privately, then that's fine. If
• 32:53
  Speaker 1: you want me to look at it twelblly j publicly
• 32:55
  Speaker 1: and I can put show it on my podcast and
• 32:56
  Speaker 1: I can do that too, but but anyway, things are
• 33:02
  Speaker 1: crazy right now.
• 33:05
  Speaker 2: So so with.
• 33:11
  Speaker 1: That being said, I appreciate y'all for joining me for
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: this episode.
• 33:15
  Speaker 2: My throat.
• 33:18
  Speaker 1: It's hurting, so it's kind of hard to talk, but
• 33:21
  Speaker 1: I try to talk as long as I can, and
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: when it starts hurting, sometimes I gotta stop for a
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: minute and then start back. But yeah, I will be
• 33:28
  Speaker 1: doing my podcast full time, but they're probably gonna be
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: thirty minutes long because my throat hurts.
• 33:33
  Speaker 2: But that's okay.
• 33:35
  Speaker 1: If I do any type of podcast on any of
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: the platform, I would definitely let you know, so I
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: wouldna get some it's leaving out.
• 33:43
  Speaker 2: So with that being said, I love y'all. I appreciate y'all.
• 33:47
  Speaker 2: Without y'all, there is no me.
• 33:49
  Speaker 1: I'll be absolutely nothing without you, guys, because y'all have
• 33:52
  Speaker 1: no idea.
• 33:52
  Speaker 2: What it's like to be me right now.
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: But you can email me at ascha do m A
• 33:58
  Speaker 1: r I A M A zero one gmail dot com.
• 34:00
  Speaker 1: Its a s h A dot M A r I
• 34:03
  Speaker 1: A M A zero one at gmail dot com. So
• 34:06
  Speaker 1: I do apologize if there's some stalling or quiet, that's
• 34:09
  Speaker 1: because my throat is really hurting right now. But I
• 34:12
  Speaker 1: still want to do the podcast anyway to let you
• 34:14
  Speaker 1: guys know that even though I'm not doing podcasts, don't
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: mean I'm not still here with you. So with that
• 34:21
  Speaker 1: being said, I will talk to y'all. So with that
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: being said, I hope you guys got a very very
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: beautiful day, and peace be with you, and I'll be
• 34:44
  Speaker 1: back when my throat starts back hurting. If anything changes,
• 34:47
  Speaker 1: I will let you know. But a lot of people
• 34:48
  Speaker 1: in her in Florida had lost a lot of power.
• 34:52
  Speaker 1: So I want espasically say to all the people in
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: Florida my thoughts and prayers with you.
• 34:56
  Speaker 2: I'm here.
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: So I definitely want to, you know, help people as
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: much as I can. So by doing this is ever
• 35:05
  Speaker 1: gonna help.
• 35:06
  Speaker 3: So so I said, I'm gonna get ready to get
• 35:26
  Speaker 3: off that my throat hurts, but I will see y'all
• 35:29
  Speaker 3: next Monday and until next time, we will talk later.
• 35:33
  Speaker 2: Just know that it's okay to be alone. Just know that.
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: Just know that God is with you every step in
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: the way and you're not alone because God is gonna
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: be with you no matter what. So with that being
• 35:43
  Speaker 1: just said, just believe in that. So if any if
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: everybody walks out on you, know that you're not alone
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: because God is gonna be with you every step of
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: the way. So with that being said, I love you guys.
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: I appreciate y'all. Without y'all, there is no me. I'll
• 35:55
  Speaker 1: be nothing without y'all. Thank y'all for y'all understanding, and
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: we'll talk later, ye