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She Cheated...but Is She The Problem? · Podcast - Big 98.7

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  Speaker 1: That song doesn't get your dancing or singing. I don't
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  Speaker 1: know what will I mean?
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  Speaker 2: I was running around this studio.
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  Speaker 1: Today's variety Big ninety eight point seven. It's gab and Angy,
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  Speaker 1: Sunshine and eighty one Today. If you could walk into
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  Speaker 1: work right now and be like, hey, you know what
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  Speaker 1: I am done. I'm gonna go pursue my dream job.
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  Speaker 1: I think it would help if you had like won
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  Speaker 1: the power ball. So if you fail, it doesn't matter, right,
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  Speaker 1: But if you could quit right now and go do
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  Speaker 1: your dream job, what would it be? Seven oh one
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  Speaker 1: two eight zero one nine eight seven. By the way,
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  Speaker 1: speaking of dream job, you might be able to find
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  Speaker 1: one today.
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  Speaker 2: That's right.
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  Speaker 3: It's the Hired Job Fair and it's going on today
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  Speaker 3: from one to four at the Avalon Events Center.
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  Speaker 2: That's right, Well, you better get over there. There's over fifty.
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  Speaker 3: Employers and you know, you can send your resume out
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  Speaker 3: online all you want, but there's something really great about
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  Speaker 3: meeting an employer in person, and a lot of them
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  Speaker 3: are offering on site interviews, so that may be where
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  Speaker 3: you should go if you're looking for like a career
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  Speaker 3: switch or you're just trying to join the workforce.
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  Speaker 2: Again in general.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and that is one thing I think when you
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  Speaker 1: especially if you're like a younger person, as you're older,
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  Speaker 1: you really do start to understand this. But if you're
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  Speaker 1: a young person maybe getting that first job or whatever,
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  Speaker 1: it is kind of crazy that it's not always what
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  Speaker 1: you know. It oftentimes is who you know, right, And
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  Speaker 1: so when you can get that in person interview I
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  Speaker 1: think it is, or you can meet someone in person
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  Speaker 1: or whatever face to face, it goes me such a
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  Speaker 1: long way.
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  Speaker 2: That's sure, all right, Angie.
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  Speaker 1: If tomorrow you had texted me, you're like, hey, gay
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  Speaker 1: by just one five hundred million dollars, which the jackpot
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  Speaker 1: power ball is actually at five hundred twenty six million
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  Speaker 1: dollars or own nice if you won that, and you're like, hey,
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  Speaker 1: I will come into work, but you know, by the
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  Speaker 1: end of the week, it's just going to kind of
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  Speaker 1: be over. Okay, I want to go do this because
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  Speaker 1: I don't care about money anymore.
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  Speaker 4: Wow, would you go do?
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  Speaker 1: So?
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  Speaker 2: My dream job is this so right?
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  Speaker 3: You know?
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  Speaker 2: I love it.
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  Speaker 3: However, my other dream job that I don't even think
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  Speaker 3: is a job, So I probably wouldn't make any money,
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  Speaker 3: but I wouldn't have to worry about it. I feel
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  Speaker 3: like I just bring good vibes, Like I would want
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  Speaker 3: someone to hire me to just kind of hang out
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  Speaker 3: with them during their workday to keep the vibe good.
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  Speaker 2: I don't want to be a personal assistant.
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  Speaker 3: I will get us lunch and stuff, that's fine, but
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  Speaker 3: mostly I'm just there to keep you company, crack a
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  Speaker 3: little jokey joker too, and just keep the vibe good
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  Speaker 3: and positive so you can get through your workday.
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  Speaker 2: Now, that's not a real job, Gabe, and so the
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  Speaker 2: only way to persue, well, well, it would.
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  Speaker 1: Be well, I think that's exactly what Kim Kardashian did
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  Speaker 1: for Paris, right, Oh.
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  Speaker 2: That's right, that's a gig. While she also.
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  Speaker 3: Edited her closet and sold stuff for her and that's
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  Speaker 3: just entirely too much work.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but I bring a good vibe, I think. So
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  Speaker 2: that's like my dream.
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  Speaker 3: If I wasn't doing this dream job, my other dream
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  Speaker 3: job would be to just kind of hang out.
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  Speaker 1: And she wants you to and she wants you to
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  Speaker 1: pay her to be your friend. Yeah, Alex, what about you, man?
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  Speaker 5: I quit my job at a gas station to start
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  Speaker 5: working with food and I quit without having anything set
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  Speaker 5: up so, I mean it was a big risk, and
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  Speaker 5: then I got a job at a restaurant and just
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  Speaker 5: moved up from there. I'm working in the kitchen now
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  Speaker 5: and I couldn't be happier.
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  Speaker 4: That's dope. That's really did it.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, especially because he did it without even having like
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  Speaker 3: a real plan in place.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that's that's gold. I respect it.
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  Speaker 1: If I were to have won the power Ball and
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  Speaker 1: was like, hey, you know what, I think, I'm just
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  Speaker 1: gonna start hanging out. You know, I'm gonna go do
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  Speaker 1: this because it'd be fun, you know what, I'd love
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  Speaker 1: to do. What it'd be two jobs. I'd want to
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  Speaker 1: be the Minnesota Twins bat boy, oh my god, or
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  Speaker 1: like the football boy for the Vikes.
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  Speaker 2: I like this. How do people get that job?
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  Speaker 4: Like somebody's nephew or something.
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  Speaker 2: That's so funny?
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  Speaker 4: Ashley so fun.
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  Speaker 3: Ashley texted us that she would be a philanthropist.
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  Speaker 2: All right, what's that? That's very noble.
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  Speaker 3: A philanthropist is you know someone who goes and helps
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  Speaker 3: other people.
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  Speaker 2: They do philanthropy. Yeah, they do philanthropy. All right, call
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  Speaker 2: me out on definition. We have to have Emily on
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  Speaker 2: the phone. Emily, what would you do.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, I let the safe office job to bake full time,
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  Speaker 3: and now three months later, I'm running a cupcake truck
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  Speaker 3: and smelling like vanilla twenty four to seven.
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  Speaker 2: I love that this cupcake truck. We need to get
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  Speaker 2: in on this very big gabe.
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  Speaker 3: My good news, my little victory, is that I found
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  Speaker 3: the best vending machine.
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  Speaker 4: Really.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, okay, so a little backstory here at work, the
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  Speaker 3: breakroom vending machine.
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  Speaker 2: That's been letting us down. It's bleak.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, it has been letting us down times of desire
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  Speaker 1: and need.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, exactly, so it's been it's been rough.
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  Speaker 4: Well.
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  Speaker 3: I always I get my steps in when it's too
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  Speaker 3: like hot and muggy outside and there's too many bunks.
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  Speaker 3: Your girl always needs to get her steps in, So
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  Speaker 3: I always go to the Fargo Sports Fargo Park Sports Complex, Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: sports Center, I never say.
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  Speaker 2: The I never say it.
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  Speaker 4: Right by the wal Mart and South Park.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, I love that place, so I always walk the
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  Speaker 3: little blue track. But then I had to, you know,
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  Speaker 3: go on a potty break, and on my way to
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  Speaker 3: the restroom, I saw a glorious vending machine full of
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  Speaker 3: the best snacks, including nutter butters.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, a girl.
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  Speaker 3: Is a sucker for a nutter butter. Those are so
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  Speaker 3: good and it's like a good sized bag. I honestly
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  Speaker 3: I didn't check the price because I didn't I didn't
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  Speaker 3: grab any yesterday because I was trying to, you know,
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  Speaker 3: be healthy and good.
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  Speaker 1: However, that I mean, that is kind of a weird
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  Speaker 1: cruel punishment. They got nutter butters where you're trying to
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  Speaker 1: steps in well.
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  Speaker 3: So today I promised myself, like, if I, you know,
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  Speaker 3: did good time on the track, then I would.
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  Speaker 2: Reward myself with nutter butters. I don't even care how
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  Speaker 2: much they cost.
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  Speaker 3: It's a nice hefty bag of utterer butters in a
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  Speaker 3: very dope vending machine.
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  Speaker 1: I love that for you, all right, Angiel, my little
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  Speaker 1: victory we actually saw at the same time as you
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  Speaker 1: pulled on to twenty fifth Street to drive to work,
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  Speaker 1: I also pulled on twenty fifth Street. It's always easy,
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  Speaker 1: a because I know what kind of car you drive.
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  Speaker 1: But it's always really easy because it's the one with
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  Speaker 1: the not North Dakota license plate. And as we're driving,
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  Speaker 1: did you notice something not two three blocks off into
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  Speaker 1: the distance to the right.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, yeh God.
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  Speaker 1: And I don't want to say what it is, but
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  Speaker 1: there's a get well, I don't want to say what
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  Speaker 1: company it is, but there's a gas station. I swear
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  Speaker 1: to god. They are building at the pace of smell.
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  Speaker 1: Its swing so long for this thing to get done.
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  Speaker 1: But I know there's pep working hard, so I'm not
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  Speaker 1: trying to eat on them, but this thing had its
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  Speaker 1: neon lights on with them with the price of gas,
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  Speaker 1: and I cannot wait, only for the fact that I'm
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  Speaker 1: lazy and I would like a gas station. Three is
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  Speaker 1: fouri ish mis blocks, not miles. Three is fours blocks
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  Speaker 1: away that we can go to instead of having all
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  Speaker 1: the way down to fifty second.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, you know what, I'm excited for the night where
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  Speaker 3: I make the adult mistake of saying I'll get gas
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  Speaker 3: in the morning, but then in the morning, not a
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  Speaker 3: big deal.
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  Speaker 1: That's right there, right there. Oh, it was so awesome
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  Speaker 1: to see. So that has to mean they're pretty darn close.
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  Speaker 1: They might have to do a little work on the inside,
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  Speaker 1: but yeah, that will go way faster than all of
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  Speaker 1: the you know, all of the landscaping and all the
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  Speaker 1: actual yeah and all that.
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  Speaker 2: So that was a glorious sight for me this morning.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, what victory.
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  Speaker 4: You're right.
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  Speaker 1: School is right around the corner, and a lot of
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  Speaker 1: students in the FM area are gearing up for another
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  Speaker 1: fantastic school year. And g has two kids gearing up
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  Speaker 1: for a school year. One of them is going to
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  Speaker 1: be a freshman in high school.
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  Speaker 3: My gosh, I cannot believe it. Out today actually is
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  Speaker 3: freshman orientation.
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  Speaker 2: There you go and picking up their personal learning devices.
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  Speaker 2: We did not have like the computer that they give
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  Speaker 2: you at school, like a trapper keeper. No, we're old, Gabe. No,
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  Speaker 2: they give them like laptops.
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  Speaker 4: Oh that's cool.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and I can never remember, but leam your younger one, he.
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  Speaker 2: Is going thirty grade.
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  Speaker 1: I thought I was going to say second, but nah, nah,
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  Speaker 1: I was trying to do the eighth. I was trying
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  Speaker 1: to do the age math in my head and numbers. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I couldn't get there.
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  Speaker 2: Thank god they're out of school.
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  Speaker 1: With Yeah, right, with school right around the corner for
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  Speaker 1: a lot of FM students here, I have found some
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  Speaker 1: incredible just facts about school that maybe you didn't think
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  Speaker 1: of that you might go, oh really or in this case,
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  Speaker 1: oh I'm thirty four, all right, okay, you know highlighters
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  Speaker 1: weren't invented until nineteen sixty three, so older generations they
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  Speaker 1: took notes without neon colors.
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  Speaker 4: That's why the best.
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  Speaker 3: Oh my boyfriend Mikey, he was born in sixty five, so.
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  Speaker 4: He's highlighter on.
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  Speaker 3: He got to Yeah, he got to experience the highlighters
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  Speaker 3: all right.
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  Speaker 1: Many states hold tax free shopping weekends in August to
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  Speaker 1: help parents save money for back to school shopping.
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  Speaker 4: That's kind of cool.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, where I need this list? I still have it
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  Speaker 2: back to school shopped? You haven't gone yet? No, I
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  Speaker 2: have it?
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  Speaker 4: Wow.
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  Speaker 2: I mean the timing for the music to stop, like records.
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  Speaker 2: How dare you? Okay?
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  Speaker 1: So one of my favorite things in school growing up
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  Speaker 1: was like getting a backpack. It was like every other
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  Speaker 1: a year, I think I would get a new backpack.
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  Speaker 1: Once I got one, I was kind of stuck with
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  Speaker 1: it for about two years so mm hmm. And then
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  Speaker 1: I could always pick out a new one. And backpacks
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  Speaker 1: did not become popular until the nineteen eighties. Before that,
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  Speaker 1: kids were carrying books by hands or with the little strap.
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  Speaker 2: Oh oh yeah, yeah, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I always thought that was fake. Seeing it in Disney, yeah, seeing.
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  Speaker 2: It at movies. Oh, I didn't know that was real.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, wow, all right, These last couple are I think
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  Speaker 1: are kind of insane. But the number two pencil became
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  Speaker 1: the classrooms standard because it's graphite hardness worked best for
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  Speaker 1: scantron machines, you know when you.
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  Speaker 2: Take them a little tests.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, I remember the scantn I know they always told
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  Speaker 1: you like, oh, you need a number two pencil.
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  Speaker 2: I thought that was a myth.
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  Speaker 1: I thought they were just trying to remind you to
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  Speaker 1: bring a pencil because I never had one.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, that's funny. I always had number two pencils. I
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  Speaker 3: just I didn't know that there were other pencils that
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  Speaker 3: aren't number two. Yeah, but I guess number two means
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  Speaker 3: that there is a number one pencil.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: What's that umber seven pencil?
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  Speaker 2: Looking?
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  Speaker 3: Mind?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. I think we have to ask
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  Speaker 2: an artist. I think Vegas.
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  Speaker 3: It's a shading pencil, which doesn't work on a scantron.
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  Speaker 4: I have two more for you here.
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  Speaker 1: Did you know pencils can actually get more expensive in
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  Speaker 1: August because of the surgeon demand this month, pencils could
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  Speaker 1: be more expensive than if you need them in May.
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  Speaker 2: I don't like that me either. All right, The average American.
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  Speaker 1: Household will spend over eight hundred dollars on supplies, clothing,
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  Speaker 1: and electronics for back to school shopping.
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  Speaker 2: And then this is my final.
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  Speaker 1: Sounds low actually low? Yeah, And this is my final
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  Speaker 1: one here. I don't got to do bag to school
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  Speaker 1: shopping right.
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  Speaker 4: Now for you?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, you do, because you're gonna help clear the cart.
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  Speaker 2: We'll talk about it later.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, we are all right.
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  Speaker 1: And then finally, did you know back to school shopping
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  Speaker 1: is the second biggest shopping season of the year. There
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  Speaker 1: is only one other shopping season that beats back to.
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  Speaker 2: School, which is that oh Christmas. Yeah, it's like the
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  Speaker 2: winter holidays.
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  Speaker 4: Shop please.
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  Speaker 3: The second is, oh my gosh, but I guess every
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  Speaker 3: kid is going to school.
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  Speaker 2: That makes sense.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, every single kid's gotta buy some kind of notebook
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  Speaker 1: or pencil or whatever.
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  Speaker 2: You know what I mean?
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  Speaker 3: These days, the Lisa Frank like binders and the super
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  Speaker 3: colorful you're a boy, you probably weren't using Lisa Frank stuff.
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  Speaker 2: Do you remember those?
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  Speaker 3: The super colorful like dolphins with snow globes and it's.
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  Speaker 2: All like rainbow colored. You had a trapper keeper? Humh,
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  Speaker 2: do you know what kind of notebook and trapper keeper?
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  Speaker 2: I had?
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  Speaker 1: Angie, it was a plain black one and a plain
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  Speaker 1: red notebook. That was my notebook.
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  Speaker 2: You're so boring.
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  Speaker 1: I used red for social studies and blue for math
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  Speaker 1: and green for science.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, you're absolutely wrong, And I think we need to
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  Speaker 3: take this to Facebook. I need to know what everybody's
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  Speaker 3: color coding is for subjects.
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  Speaker 2: Because what did you say? Your science one was green?
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  Speaker 3: Wrong?
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  Speaker 2: Defit?
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  Speaker 3: Well?
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  Speaker 4: What yellow?
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  Speaker 2: I digress. We're gone in a different direction.
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  Speaker 1: And one thing that we love the most about individuals
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  Speaker 1: is a self aware queen or a self aware case.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's right, we stand them.
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  Speaker 1: It is very easy to point out someone, you know, like,
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  Speaker 1: oh'd be a red flag. Angie and I were in
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  Speaker 1: my office yesterday and now it is not her fault,
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  Speaker 1: but it kind of is. What Angie, for whatever reason,
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  Speaker 1: has her computer volume maxed out?
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, I do.
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  Speaker 1: Any time like a little clip or whatever plays, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it is so loud, so.
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  Speaker 3: Loud, and it's always that I choose the most embarrassing
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  Speaker 3: thing to play at full volume.
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  Speaker 2: We were laughing.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, you know, that might be your red flag, Angie.
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  Speaker 1: Just loud, yeah, phone loud, computer loud, me loud. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: but I love that about you, and you know, Angie's
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  Speaker 1: never afraid to go for it, and I think that's
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  Speaker 1: awesome and so nice. That kind of that joke started
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  Speaker 1: this conversation this morning. It's like, well, what are what
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  Speaker 1: would you say your red flag is? It's very easy
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  Speaker 1: to point someone else's out. What are yours?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, what would someone say is a red flag about you?
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  Speaker 3: Hit us up at seven oh one two eight o
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  Speaker 3: one nine eight seven. I'd love to know. I asked
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  Speaker 3: Mikey to tell me what my red flag is? Sure,
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  Speaker 3: and he said that my red flag is that I'm
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  Speaker 3: an uber rule follower, like I follow rules too much
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  Speaker 3: to the t.
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  Speaker 2: Right and he does not like that.
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  Speaker 3: He said that I have enough green flags to like
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  Speaker 3: overcome that, But the red flag is like, because I
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  Speaker 3: really do.
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  Speaker 2: I get stressed out.
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  Speaker 3: It makes me anxious when we're not following rules to
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  Speaker 3: the letter, and it's very annoying. I know rules are
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  Speaker 3: made to be broken and rules are made to be
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  Speaker 3: bent or whatever, but I just I don't ever want
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  Speaker 3: to get in trouble. And I feel like you've experienced
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  Speaker 3: that with me, Gabe, where I ask you, like, but
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  Speaker 3: is this okay? Are you sure this is Okay, am
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  Speaker 3: I supposed to do this, But what if I do
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  Speaker 3: this and it's wrong and you're like, it's.
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  Speaker 2: Fine, calm down. Yeah. Yeah, so that's that's my red flag.
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  Speaker 2: Well hold on, hold on, I got it. Interrupt you.
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  Speaker 1: I don't think I've ever told Angie to calm down
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  Speaker 1: once in my life, because I would be terrified of
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  Speaker 1: what would be happening after you know what.
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  Speaker 2: No, don't ever tell a woman to calm down. In fact,
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  Speaker 2: that's a red flag. And a guy if he tells.
• 15:33
  Speaker 3: A girl to calm down, no, no, no, no no, but
• 15:36
  Speaker 3: you do always you know.
• 15:37
  Speaker 2: China like to use this situation. Yeah, that's my red flag.
• 15:42
  Speaker 1: Seven oh one two eight zero one nine eight seven
• 15:45
  Speaker 1: ask you can ask your partner or if you know.
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  Speaker 2: What it is.
• 15:48
  Speaker 3: Yeah, if you're a self aware human, tell us what
• 15:51
  Speaker 3: is your red flag?
• 15:53
  Speaker 4: Yes, Jess, she let us know.
• 15:55
  Speaker 1: Her husband said her red flag was her nighttime crabbiness
• 15:59
  Speaker 1: when she doesn't go to bed on time.
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  Speaker 2: Oh that's cute. That's a bee flag. That's not a
• 16:06
  Speaker 2: red flag like orange.
• 16:08
  Speaker 4: Yeah. Okay.
• 16:10
  Speaker 1: Crystal asked her partner what her red flag was, and
• 16:15
  Speaker 1: she said, without hesitation, when you don't get it now
• 16:20
  Speaker 1: Crystal said that I didn't say that.
• 16:22
  Speaker 2: Okay, okay, Oh when you.
• 16:24
  Speaker 6: Don't get it, yeah, uh, Crystal, this is am I
• 16:38
  Speaker 6: the problem where you send us your side of the
• 16:41
  Speaker 6: story and we help you figure out if you're.
• 16:44
  Speaker 2: In the right or if maybe, just maybe you are
• 16:48
  Speaker 2: the problem.
• 16:49
  Speaker 3: So we're gonna give this woman an anonymous name. Her
• 16:53
  Speaker 3: name is gonna be Darla. Kind of a doozy because
• 16:56
  Speaker 3: this one is a doozy. So Darla Darla. Okay, Hi
• 17:01
  Speaker 3: gave an Angie. I'm having a bit of a crisis
• 17:04
  Speaker 3: at home, and I want to know if I'm the problem.
• 17:07
  Speaker 3: I've been married for three years, and sadly things have
• 17:10
  Speaker 3: taken a turn for the worse. I made a poor
• 17:13
  Speaker 3: choice and started texting another man romantically, which I know
• 17:17
  Speaker 3: is wrong and something I should have never done. I
• 17:21
  Speaker 3: was hoping I could take this secret to the grave,
• 17:23
  Speaker 3: but sadly that is not what happened. My husband found
• 17:27
  Speaker 3: the text and now wants a divorce.
• 17:30
  Speaker 2: This is rough. Yikes.
• 17:32
  Speaker 3: The thing is I never once met with the person
• 17:35
  Speaker 3: I was texting in real life. And oh they never
• 17:38
  Speaker 3: met in person, Okay, And I think a full blown
• 17:41
  Speaker 3: divorce is taking things too far. I have sworn to
• 17:44
  Speaker 3: cut off all communication from this person and have told
• 17:48
  Speaker 3: my husband he can have access to my phone whenever
• 17:51
  Speaker 3: he wants to prove this was a horrible mistake. I
• 17:54
  Speaker 3: have suggested going to couple's therapy to see if we
• 17:57
  Speaker 3: can work through the issues in our marriage, and I
• 17:59
  Speaker 3: know when I messed up. I do, however, feel that
• 18:02
  Speaker 3: getting a divorce over a few text messages.
• 18:06
  Speaker 2: Okay, wait a minute, I say few text.
• 18:08
  Speaker 3: Messages is completely unnecessary and not a path we need
• 18:12
  Speaker 3: to go down. Is my husband wrong for wanting a divorce?
• 18:16
  Speaker 3: Or am I the problem?
• 18:18
  Speaker 2: You're right?
• 18:18
  Speaker 3: That is a That is a doozy. We also have
• 18:23
  Speaker 3: this on the Big ninety eight point seven Facebook page.
• 18:26
  Speaker 3: Be gentle, Okay, we're not trying to crucify anyone on
• 18:31
  Speaker 3: Big ninety eight point seven, but let's give Darla will
• 18:36
  Speaker 3: call her some advice. Is she the problem? Or is
• 18:40
  Speaker 3: her man right for wanting a divorce? Wow?
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: She can't really, you can't really blame him for being like, hey,
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: this is just not gonna work for me.
• 18:50
  Speaker 4: Ever, again, here's the thing life.
• 18:53
  Speaker 2: It's his life.
• 18:54
  Speaker 3: Maybe this is a controversial take. I think in a
• 19:00
  Speaker 3: lot of cases, especially if you're in a relationship, a
• 19:03
  Speaker 3: long term relationship. I do not think that cheating happens
• 19:08
  Speaker 3: in a vacuum all the time. Okay, So I'm not
• 19:12
  Speaker 3: saying that cheating is okay. I do not think that
• 19:15
  Speaker 3: that's okay. However, I don't think that cheating. It doesn't
• 19:19
  Speaker 3: seem like cheating just came out of nowhere for her, right,
• 19:23
  Speaker 3: she said she wants to work through the issues in
• 19:25
  Speaker 3: our marriage. So there are perhaps other things going on
• 19:28
  Speaker 3: in the marriage where she felt compelled to engage in
• 19:32
  Speaker 3: what seems like an emotional affair of sorts, right, and
• 19:37
  Speaker 3: that is a bummer. But she has suggested couple's therapy, right,
• 19:41
  Speaker 3: and she does want to work through it. And you know,
• 19:44
  Speaker 3: when you take your marriage vows, usually it's.
• 19:47
  Speaker 2: You know, for better for worse. This is clearly worse.
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: This is well, it could be worse. She could have
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: We're just gonna take what she said, Yeah, at face value.
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: She could have actually and physically cheated. That could be right,
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: and I think that some people might not.
• 20:04
  Speaker 3: But some people might not think that way her husband.
• 20:08
  Speaker 3: I understand for the husband's knee jerk reaction and be like,
• 20:10
  Speaker 3: oh cool, donzo bye, right, I don't think.
• 20:14
  Speaker 2: I feel like it's a problem that you cheated girl.
• 20:17
  Speaker 3: For sure, She obviously though, is taking accountability for that.
• 20:21
  Speaker 3: She's saying that she'll he can have access to the phone.
• 20:24
  Speaker 3: Whatever the problem is. At the root of this trust
• 20:27
  Speaker 3: is broken, right, okay, And so I guess it's up
• 20:31
  Speaker 3: to the husband unfortunately, if he wants to work on
• 20:35
  Speaker 3: building the trust back, which will be hard and takes
• 20:38
  Speaker 3: a lot of time and therapy which she's hoping to
• 20:42
  Speaker 3: go to, or if he's like, oh this is too difficult, Mel, Yeah,
• 20:47
  Speaker 3: but then you have to go back.
• 20:48
  Speaker 2: To your vowels.
• 20:49
  Speaker 3: But you said, you said for better, for worse. I
• 20:52
  Speaker 3: feel like this at the root, it's actually that people
• 20:55
  Speaker 3: don't listen to those vewls too seriously. They only think
• 20:59
  Speaker 3: for better, they only think for richer. But once you're
• 21:02
  Speaker 3: poor or somebody steps out, that's when the real like
• 21:05
  Speaker 3: dilemma is yeah.
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: Or if they commit like a horrible crime, yeah, oh
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: that's also part of four worse.
• 21:14
  Speaker 3: Yeah, oh my god, committed a crime depending on what
• 21:17
  Speaker 3: it is.
• 21:18
  Speaker 2: Bye, But yeah, so what do you think.
• 21:20
  Speaker 4: It's tough to be?
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: It's I feel like it's tough to blame him per
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: se if it's his life, he should live it how
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: he sees fit. If he doesn't think the mountain that
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: they would have to climb to kind of rebuild that
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: is worth is worth it to him. Yeah, you know,
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: if he thinks, all right, I'm just gonna separate myself
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: from this, get out of here and maybe try to
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: find it happiness somewhere else, it's tough to blame him
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: for that.
• 21:44
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I get that old. This one is such a
• 21:46
  Speaker 2: sticky situation.
• 21:47
  Speaker 3: Also honored that, like she would write into us to
• 21:52
  Speaker 3: ask for advice.
• 21:53
  Speaker 4: Very sweet.
• 21:54
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, thank you.
• 21:55
  Speaker 3: So let us know what you think seven oh one two,
• 21:58
  Speaker 3: eight oh one to nine eighty seven, text us, call
• 22:00
  Speaker 3: us or give us an answer on the Facebook page
• 22:09
  Speaker 3: we had Darla is what We're gonna call her right
• 22:12
  Speaker 3: in to am I the problem? She got caught emotional affair.
• 22:18
  Speaker 3: She had like text messages on her phone that were inappropriate.
• 22:21
  Speaker 3: Her husband found them. She wants to work through the marriage.
• 22:25
  Speaker 3: She wants to go to couples counseling. She wants to
• 22:27
  Speaker 3: give him access to her phone at all times. She
• 22:29
  Speaker 3: wants to repair it. Husband wants a divorce, and she
• 22:32
  Speaker 3: wants to know if she is the problem or if
• 22:38
  Speaker 3: she's not, I said that weird.
• 22:41
  Speaker 2: It's because this is a weird one. This is a
• 22:43
  Speaker 2: little bit more serious than we're used to most of
• 22:46
  Speaker 2: the time.
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: On Big ninety eight point seven. We have am I
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: the problem. We get to kind of joke and laugh
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: and kind of you know, take a very extreme take
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: out of jest and being fun.
• 22:56
  Speaker 3: Yeah, because they're not the most serious, you know, problems.
• 23:00
  Speaker 3: But yeah, so she is she the problem or should
• 23:03
  Speaker 3: her husband you know, give her another chance.
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: Basically, she's saying, like a full blown divorce feels unnecessary
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: because they never met up.
• 23:12
  Speaker 4: It was all over the phone and YadA, YadA, YadA.
• 23:15
  Speaker 3: So you had a lot of thoughts on Facebook, Jeremy
• 23:18
  Speaker 3: trust is gone, Gonzo, Derek, she's the problem, his trust
• 23:22
  Speaker 3: is gone. A lot of it is just that, you know,
• 23:25
  Speaker 3: the trust is gone, and so everyone seems to be
• 23:29
  Speaker 3: siding with her husband. But we do have Amanda who
• 23:34
  Speaker 3: said something absolutely just so sweet and I think this
• 23:38
  Speaker 3: would be good for Darla to hear.
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: Yeah, Amanda had a different kind of thought about it.
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: She didn't decide if someone was the problem or not.
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: But I think this advice was pretty good. Amanda said
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: to our Darla, do your best, to do your best,
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: be one hundred percent or one thousand percent attentive and present.
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: Don't argue you just apologize gently and be present for
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: the grief and anger you'll get. She does also add
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: because you do deserve it, any parentheses, obviously in a nonviolent.
• 24:12
  Speaker 2: Way, Yes, non violent. I like that.
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: She says best wishes you learned your lesson, and he
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: gives you a second chance. So that was more like
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: an advice kind of thing, as ap urge to you're right,
• 24:23
  Speaker 1: he's wrong, he's wrong, You're right, kind of a black
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: and white scenario, and I thought that was important for
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: Darla to here today.
• 24:28
  Speaker 2: Well, we wish Darla the best.
• 24:31
  Speaker 3: And if you haven't, am I the problem, be it
• 24:33
  Speaker 3: serious or a little bit on the sailior side, you
• 24:35
  Speaker 3: can always hit us up Big ninety eight point seven
• 24:38
  Speaker 3: or Big nine eight seven dot com the on air
• 24:41
  Speaker 3: tab you can submit your am I the problem?
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: When I tell you I saw the most deranged thing
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: I've ever seen in my life. This happened to me yesterday.
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: I was on twenty fifth Street. I was going over
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: the ninety four bridge.
• 24:57
  Speaker 2: We take the same route home. So I what did
• 25:00
  Speaker 2: you see that I did not see.
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: And there's this gas station right next to Casey's. And
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: I remember, well, this might have been two days ago,
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: because yesterday we were kind of on the way home
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: at the same time. I'm driving and I'm at this
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: red light. Okay, I you know, as one does. You're driving,
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: you're kind of looking around. I look to my right
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: and I see this woman eating sunflower seeds whole.
• 25:28
  Speaker 3: Like just eating, not taking them out of the shell.
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: When you eat sunflower seeds, what do you do? You
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: throw a couple in your mouth, You crack them open
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: with your back teeth or whatever. Yeah, you eat the
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: little whatever, You suck out all the salt, YadA, YadA YadA,
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: spit them out right right.
• 25:45
  Speaker 2: This woman was not getting rid of the seeds that she.
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: Was eating the entire thing, just housing these things.
• 25:57
  Speaker 4: Isn't that?
• 25:58
  Speaker 2: Can you die from that? But I thought those are
• 26:01
  Speaker 2: not edible.
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: I hope she's alive today.
• 26:07
  Speaker 2: Wow.
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: I mean there are quite a few things where I'm like,
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: that is serial killer behavior, right, sleep with your socks on?
• 26:15
  Speaker 3: Yeah, oh I'm a serial killing yeah right exactly.
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: That explains a lot about you eating sunflower seeds whole.
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: Might be the most shocking thing I've seen.
• 26:27
  Speaker 3: Yeah, nov here eight months ago. I've literally never seen
• 26:31
  Speaker 3: anyone do that.
• 26:32
  Speaker 2: I've contemplated doing it because I think some flower.
• 26:35
  Speaker 3: Seeds are too difficult. I don't like it. You know
• 26:38
  Speaker 3: what I like about pistachios. Pistachios they show you a
• 26:42
  Speaker 3: little something and that, like they're teased, but not too much,
• 26:46
  Speaker 3: and so then you can easily crack them open. What
• 26:48
  Speaker 3: I don't like about sunflower seeds is sunflower seeds are prudes.
• 26:52
  Speaker 2: Okay, they really make you work for it, and I
• 26:54
  Speaker 2: don't like it. I'm not a fan. This story is
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: so adorable, all right.
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: There is a father and his daughter who are going
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: viral on social media as he has taken a pretty
• 27:15
  Speaker 1: big interest in something she well, I guess it's her
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: favorite hobby or something she's very interested in. Jaden is
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: really into cheerleading. Okay, so Jaden's father has taken all
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: of the steps to learn how to be the base
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: or the dude in the stunts who like does the throwing,
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: in the catching and the y yah na.
• 27:38
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: He lifts her up literally and figuratively. He flings her
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: in the air and acts like the base for all
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: her stunts. They've gotten really really big on social media,
• 27:49
  Speaker 1: with over seven million followers TikTok. His advice for other
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: parents is be interested in what your kids are into,
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: no matter what it is. This dude went so far
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: as to kind of learn cheerleading.
• 28:02
  Speaker 2: I guess I love that. I love when you're a parent.
• 28:05
  Speaker 3: It is so important to take a vested interest in
• 28:09
  Speaker 3: whatever your kid is interested in.
• 28:11
  Speaker 2: It means the world.
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: Yeah, even if you think it's dumb or or silly
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: or whatever, it means a lot to them, I would.
• 28:20
  Speaker 2: Assume for sure.
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: Yeah, the world is full of nice people. If you
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: can't find one, you gotta be one.