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120. Put in the Inspired Work · Impact Ready

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  Welcome to Impact Ready, a show dedicated to helping you elevate
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  your impact in the world. I'm Steph Safra, your host.
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  Let's explore the power of showing up with intention and
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  energy each day. This is for those who seek to
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  make life truly meaningful. Get ready for impact.
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  Hi, everyone. Thanks for listening.
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  Today I want to talk to you a little bit more about a common
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  theme we've been exploring for the past couple months.
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  We have been talking so much in recent episodes about this idea
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  of work, whether it's hard work or creating ease around things
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  in our life and easing the work. But I've been thinking about
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  this topic every day for what seems like the past four months.
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  And as I start to shift my beliefs about what work, and
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  specifically hard work means, I'm also changing my
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  relationship with this idea. It's it's nuanced because of the
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  different messages that we all get every single day about this
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  idea of work. On one hand, you have the idea
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  that it can be purposeful and it is, It is valuable, it is
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  empowering, it can be liberating.
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  It pays off. Hard work pays off.
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  It's necessary to get what you want in life.
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  So there's all of these ideas in one bucket.
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  And I subscribe to a lot of those ideas.
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  I've lived those ideas, but you also have this other bucket.
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  It describes ideas like hard work.
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  It's what makes you deserving. It implies that you only deserve
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  what you work for. It implies that life is a grind.
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  It implies that your work is in your achievement, etcetera,
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  etcetera. And so there's sort of a flip
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  side of the coin to this idea of hard work specifically, and it's
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  a lot of conflicting messages in the world.
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  So in this episode, I want to explore the side of this
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  argument that illustrates how and when the work is actually
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  crucially necessary. And for the purpose of this
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  conversation, let's define what type of work we're talking about
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  here. So this episode is going to be
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  about the inspired action kind of work, the stuff that feels
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  aligned with who you are, the good kind of work, the work that
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  feels creative, necessary, makes you feel powerful and energized.
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  This is not about working yourself to the bone out of fear
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  or shame or guilt or trying to keep up with the Jones or
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  whatever you want to call it. This is truly about work that
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  feels like it's taking you in the right direction, work that
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  aligns with the dream for your life.
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  See the distinction? It doesn't mean that you will
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  always have motivation or will to go out there and do the work.
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  I mean, of course, we're all human.
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  It's, you know, it's easy to get into a place of loan motivation
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  or procrastination just as part of daily circumstances.
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  But we're still talking about work that we know is going to be
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  impactful. I'm betting on the fact that you
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  can tell the difference and you can see the distinction between
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  the two. This all might seem
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  counterintuitive to other conversations that we've had
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  about ease in the past, about inviting ease into your life,
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  asking the question, what if this was easy?
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  But it's not really. The reality is we all have to
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  work to get the things that we want in our life.
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  Even in personal development, there's work that you have to
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  do. Things don't always just flow
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  into our lives. We have to put out effort to get
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  things to line up for ourselves and to create the opportunities
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  that we want. So baseline, we can understand
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  there is a level of effort and energy that we have to invest
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  into being the creator of our lives.
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  OK, so we've got that and here's the reality.
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  No matter how powerful your coaches or your therapists or
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  your practitioners or your mentors are, no matter how
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  amazing or incredible they are, you will only get the results
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  that you want in your life. When you put in this type of
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  work, it almost never comes from passively cruising through your
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  life or passively consuming content and not taking any
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  action on it or waiting for something to happen.
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  There is an element of action that is required for you to
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  create transformation. We talked about that idea.
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  Insight plus action equals transformation, and it cannot
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  come from being passive in your life.
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  This is the kind of work that we're describing now.
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  People often think that they can skirt around this kind of effort
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  and work. They think that they just need
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  the right tool, the perfect strategy, the right person.
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  They need to invest more. But it's not those external
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  factors that predict whether someone will get the results
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  they want. What it is, is there is a direct
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  correlation between a level of commitment that someone brings
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  and the impact that they'll be able to create.
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  It's true sometimes an investment of time or money or
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  energy, a high fee of some kind that can draw out a person's
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  commitment. No doubt we see this in
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  coaching. We see this in mentorship.
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  We see this in any type of relationship where you are
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  investing in yourself to learn or grow and it's because you
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  have more skin in the game when you invest time, money or
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  energy. We get that and we see this
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  often with entrepreneurship, specifically with different
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  coaching programs. It's often the people who invest
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  in themselves to a higher degree that have a higher commitment
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  level because they have more on the line, just like I was
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  saying, more skin in the game. But what most people miss is
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  that it's not the fee, it's not the amount of time, it's not the
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  amount of resources that will create the results.
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  It's not even the person that you're investing in to be your
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  coach, mentor, practitioner. It's what you do with that
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  heightened commitment that you have as a result that matters.
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  It is the commitment that you bring to your work that matters.
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  What gets you results and impact.
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  And I've learned this over and over again in my businesses, and
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  I've also seen it in myself, in my own work.
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  The people who get true transformation are high agency
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  people. They're high performers.
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  They show up, they're ready to be coached.
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  They want to take risks, and they will try over and over
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  again, even if they make mistakes.
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  They don't wait to be inspired. They will take consistent
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  action, even if it's messy. They'll come to calls with
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  questions and not just complaints about life.
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  Those are the kind of people that are bringing commitment and
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  seeing the impact that they can have in the world.
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  And this is true of myself. When I look back at periods of
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  time in my life where I wasn't getting the transformation or
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  the results that I wanted, no matter how hard I worked, I can
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  see in hindsight that it's because I wasn't fully committed
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  to the process. I wasn't following through on
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  the action that I said I was going to take.
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  I was distracted. I was allowing myself to be
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  distracted. I was procrastinating.
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  I was running through reasons in my brain why I couldn't get the
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  results that I wanted. They were excuses like I don't
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  have enough time. There's so much going on, I
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  don't have the right tools. I can remember those thoughts
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  going through my head during these times where I was not
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  progressing, where I was not growing or evolving or getting
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  the results that I wanted. And even if those things were
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  true, which they weren't by the way, if I had been taking
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  radical ownership at the time, I very well could have remedied
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  them in no time. But in reality, it was my
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  commitment that wasn't there. I wasn't committed to doing the
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  work. And this is different than the
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  sentiment of you have to work hard for everything.
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  That's not what I'm saying. But I did need to be taking
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  inspired action and I needed to be showing up more prepared and
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  with more consistency. Those things were all lacking,
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  which is why my impact at the time was subpar in my mind.
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  I think if you were to look back at your own life, you'd probably
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  be able to see a version of that at some point as well.
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  And I think about this so often. Here's what I want more of in
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  our society. I want less perfectionism, more
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  boldness, more courage, more radical ownership of what is
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  happening in our lives, and frankly, more messy action.
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  And I tell myself this all the time.
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  Move despite the fear, Steph, move.
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  Even if it's messy, because that messy action will inform you so
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  much faster than not taking the action that you need to take.
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  There was a time, I'm told the story before, when a speaker
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  scanned the crowd at a personal development seminar that I was
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  at. And he locked eyes directly with
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  me as he was looking out into the lights.
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  And he said, where are you hiding in your life?
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  Because no one is coming to save you.
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  And I felt like he was talking directly to me because he was
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  looking right at me. And it really stuck.
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  It stuck with me because it was very true then and it's very
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  true now. Nobody's coming to save me at
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  the end of the day. Nobody is coming to save and
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  build my business. Nobody's going to protect and
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  serve my marriage. Nobody's going to do my job
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  raising my stepdaughters. Nobody's going to save me from
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  my own fears that are holding me back or keeping me in resistance
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  or keeping me low frequency. It's on me.
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  It's my right and it's my privilege to do that.
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  And the moment that we all stop waiting to be saved or thinking
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  that something external is going to come in and save the day,
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  that's the moment we realize that no coach, no program, no
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  amount of money can do the work for us.
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  Something shifts and it is empowering.
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  It's freedom actually. When my clients truly shift into
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  this, they stop asking what should I do?
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  And they start declaring, here's what I'm going to do.
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  They stop seeking approval from people outside of themselves and
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  they start trusting their own instincts, self trust, Oh my
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  gosh, one of the greatest gifts. They stop waiting for clarity or
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  confidence and they start creating it through their own
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  action because confidence is actually a result of the action.
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  That's when people become truly empowered and then they become
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  unstoppable. Not because they found the magic
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  bullet. Not because they found the exact
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  right person to help them or the exact right eating plan, like
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  with my Next Level Nutrition coaching clients.
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  And not because they've had the perfect life altering insight,
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  but because they finally taken ownership of their own
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  transformation. When they realize how powerful
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  they are and that the power was always there, that's when the
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  real magic happens. No one's coming to save me.
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  No one is coming to save you. And that's great news in my mind
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  because it means that the power to transform is within us and it
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  has been all along. So let's use it.
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  Let's use it team. I think this is really exciting
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  news. So in conclusion, on another
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  episode about the work, there is hard work out there.
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  There is the idea that we must work hard all the time, but
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  there is also this kind of aligned action.
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  There is inspired work that we can do that actually takes us to
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  the dreams that we want to create in our life.
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  And that's the work that must be done.
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  We must take the ownership and take the responsibility so that
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  we can go out there and create the powers within us to do that
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  kind of work. And I think that's really
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  exciting. It's so much about the
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  commitment that we bring to the things that matter to us.
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  And that commitment creates the momentum that we need to take,
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  the inspired action that leads to the dreams, that leads to all
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  the good stuff that we want in our lives.
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  So thank you for listening to yet another nuanced conversation
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  about a complicated topic. I appreciate you all so much.
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  Thank you for being here and for being ready to Impact.
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  Thanks for listening to Impact Ready.
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  I hope today's episode inspired you to own your impact and
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  recognize that you are powerful. By elevating our energy and
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  awareness, we can create exponential change in this life.
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