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You Are Necessary — A Reminder You Were Chosen · R.E.A.L. Talk for REAL L.Y.F.E.

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  Welcome to Real Talk. Realizing everyone is always learning and living your full experience.
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  This is where we live out loud, on purpose, and with purpose.
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  I'm Coach C, your host, and this is Season 1, Episode 8, You Are Necessary.
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  Before we get into this episode, I want to say something real quick.
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  This episode was actually chosen by my
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  eldest son My rainbow in a way
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  only I fully understand And what
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  I love about that is Out of all the
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  topics he could have picked He picked this
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  one You are necessary And I don't think that's random Because sometimes the
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  people we love The ones who have had to navigate life a little deeper Feel things
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  a little heavier and question themselves a little more,
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  they need that reminder the most.
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  And if I'm being honest, so have I.
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  So this episode, it's personal for me.
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  I didn't always feel necessary. Growing up on the wrong side of the tracks,
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  trying to figure out where I fit, trying to understand my worth, I knew how to push.
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  I knew how to show up.
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  But deep down, there were moments where I questioned if I was truly enough.
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  And let's be real, sometimes life will have you feeling like you're just there,
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  like you're surviving, but not significant.
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  Like people could take you or leave you and it wouldn't really change anything.
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  But everything started to change for me when I stopped just knowing about God
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  and started building a relationship with him.
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  Because religion will give you rules, but relationship will give you identity.
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  And in that relationship, I learned something that shook me in the best way.
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  Before I ever proved anything, before
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  I got anything right, before I even understood who I was, God chose me.
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  In my mother's womb, he chose me.
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  That means my life didn't start with my mistakes. It started with intention.
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  And if he chose me, that means he chose you too, which means your presence here is not random.
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  It's required. Let me say that again. Your presence is required.
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  There is something attached to your life, a voice, an impact,
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  a shift that cannot be duplicated.
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  So when you start shrinking, when you start doubting, when you start questioning
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  if you matter, you're not just having a moment.
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  You're stepping out of alignment with who you were created to be.
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  And I know this isn't always easy to hold on to because life gets heavy.
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  Your mind can get loud, and there are days where your thoughts will try to convince
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  you that you don't matter like that. Nobody really needs you.
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  The world will keep going just fine without you. But let me interrupt that lie with truth.
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  The world may keep going, but it will be missing something only you were designed to give.
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  There is a space in this world with your name on it, and nobody else can sit in it like you can.
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  God didn't create you to blend in.
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  He created you to be, not to prove, not to compete, not to shrink,
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  but to exist with purpose.
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  So no matter what you've done, no matter what you've been through,
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  no matter how you feel today, hear me clearly.
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  You are necessary.
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  All right, you already know, we don't just listen, we move. So here's your fearless homework.
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  Number one, speak it until you believe it. Every morning this week, say this out loud.
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  I am necessary.
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  My life has purpose.
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  My presence matters. Not quietly, not casually.
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  Say it like you're reminding your mind who's in charge.
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  Number two, catch the lie and correct it.
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  Pay attention to your thoughts this week. Anytime you think,
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  I don't matter, I'm not enough, nobody needs me, pause and replace it with, that's not truth.
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  I was chosen on purpose.
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  Number three, show up like you matter. Pick one area where you've been shrinking.
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  A conversation, a goal, a decision, a space.
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  And ask yourself, what would I do here if I truly believed I was necessary?
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  Then do that, not perfectly, but intentionally.
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  And number four, pour into someone else.
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  Remind one person this week that they matter. Send the text.
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  Make the call. Speak life into them.
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  Because necessary people don't just exist, they impact.
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  And to the person who picked this episode for me, you already know,
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  but I'm going to say it out loud anyway.
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  My dear son, you are necessary, not for what you do, not for what you prove,
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  not for who you try to be, but simply because you are.
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  And that goes for every single person listening too. This is Real Talk,
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  realizing everyone is always learning and living your full experience.
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  This is Coach C. I'll catch you in the next one.