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Defeating the Nemesis of Public Speaking Anxiety · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing genuine
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  issues. Brought to you by the
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  hypnotherapist, demanded by celebrities, CEOs and even
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  royalty. Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam's clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. This podcast features powerful
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  hypnosis, so do not listen while driving or operating machinery.
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  This recording is not suitable for those with epilepsy or
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  severe mental health issues, so get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's. Adam here.
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  And in today's episode of The Hypnotist, you're going to be
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  listening to a hypnosis session created for a.
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  Client that. Would feel anxious in certain
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  elements of presentations. Intense meetings where it felt
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  like all eyes were on them and they couldn't defer it to anyone
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  else. And what we did before this
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  hypnosis session is created a few forms of anchors.
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  So in NLP we would use the term anchors.
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  In popular, you know, kind of culture, we would say triggers.
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  So you can say you're triggered and in behavioral psychology
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  would say it's conditioning. You know, it's a conditioned
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  response. It means the same thing.
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  It means that you're getting into a state that is undesirable
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  and something triggers that, but it can also trigger a
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  resourceful state. So you quite often see a lot of
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  elite athletes doing certain things to get them in a
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  particular state, and that might be the way a tennis player
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  bounces a ball or the way a sprinter prepares himself on the
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  starting line. They're getting into a state
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  which is resourceful for them. And this client had a couple of
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  key states that they felt would be useful. 1 is this feeling of
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  dominance and almost self belief, a bring it on type of
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  state. And the other is more of a
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  playful curiosity kind of state. So you're going to hear some of
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  those references in this session.
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  And it was designed so that if they had something coming up in
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  their diary, and that might be a key meeting or something that
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  they would see coming up, normally that would start the
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  anticipatory fear response. But this is designed to have the
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  same trigger, create a more resourceful, excited state of
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  feeling that they can easily handle what's coming up.
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  So I think you'll benefit from this if you feel anxious at
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  presenting, but obviously some of the references won't make
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  sense for you because it was created for an individual.
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  In which case, hone in on what's relevant, ignore what isn't.
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  And if you do like the idea of some kind of a bespoke session,
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  then you can schedule a free consultation call on Zoom with
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  me by clicking the link in the show notes or going to my
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  website whichisadamcox.co.uk. For now though, find a quiet,
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  comfortable place where you won't be disturbed.
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  Relax and enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in, and as
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  you breathe in, just imagine breathing in a feeling of calm,
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  resourceful relaxation. And as you exhale, just allow
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  your body to relax, to feel like tension is leaving your body in
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  that outward breath, breathing in that resourceful relaxation
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  and exhaling any tension, any anxiety, allowing your mind to
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  slow and your awareness to drift inwards.
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  I want you to get a sense that there is nothing to think of, no
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  place to be, nothing to do right now other than experience this
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  moment. Because this.
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  Is a moment just for you, a moment where you can begin to
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  explore a journey that has LED you right here.
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  I want you to imagine what it would be like to explore a dusty
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  old library with rows and rows of books.
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  And I want you to stumble across the book of your life up to this
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  point in time. I want you to see there's lots
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  of text, but lots of pictures, illustrations.
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  I want you to imagine flicking through the pages and seeing
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  some of the key memories from your past.
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  Sometimes we don't think of our life as a journey, but I need to
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  get a sense that you're in a different place now than you
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  were before and therefore you've travelled through space and time
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  from when you were born to this moment here.
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  And maybe your journey has had wonderful experiences,
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  adventures, moments of joy, and moments of frustration.
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  I want you to get a sense that somewhere in this book is an
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  illustration of something that happened in your past, something
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  that was a catalyst for you to question your capabilities.
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  A moment where you couldn't be sure if you could handle certain
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  situations, but just look at that illustration like you were
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  drawing on a page. Maybe you can tell the room, the
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  people in the room where you were, what was happening, and
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  just get a sense that what if something happened in that
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  moment that felt like a burden, but was actually the start of a
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  story within a story? Something that felt like a
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  challenge, perhaps even a burden, but maybe at some level
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  was even necessary for the next evolution of you in your life.
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  An invitation to become stronger, wiser, and more
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  powerful than ever before. Look at that in illustration and
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  notice what you notice. Perhaps a presentation, a
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  particular stage, a particular audience and something happened.
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  Couldn't quite explain it at the time, but maybe it was framed as
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  the start of something that would haunt you, rather than a
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  blip, an anomaly. Imagine from that third person
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  perspective, seeing you like you were drawing on a page.
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  Your reaction. It was unexpected, and just get
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  a sense that a certain reliance and foundation beneath you felt
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  less stable, and before you knew it, maybe it felt as though
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  something had taken over. But what if that moment marked
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  the beginning of an adventure? A challenge?
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  But not just any challenge. What if it was the beginning of
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  a hero's journey? Because all heroes must face a
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  nemesis. A nemesis that seems strong at
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  first, that looms large, that whispers doubts, thinks of the
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  worst and stirs up fear, makes you feel incapable and
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  vulnerable. But a true hero never stays
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  small. And what if this nemesis, this
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  old fear, doesn't realise that it's actually been training you?
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  Every experience, every challenge in some way has given
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  you more information and more preparation for what will soon
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  be your ultimate victory. I want you to get a thing, a
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  sense that things are different now.
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  The coping strategies of the past sometimes relied on other
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  people or managing expectations. But what if the tools now all
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  are dependent only on you? You're in a dialogue, the
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  evaluations you make, the emotions you harness, and your
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  ability to stop a chain reaction when it's early to dissolve
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  anxiety before it can take hold. Imagine these new things were
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  always necessary for you, but now you have them.
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  What if now you feel ready to face your nemesis?
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  So I want you to think. Think of yourself in the near
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  future. Maybe a presentation or a high
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  stakes meeting. Something that once would have
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  stirred up old fears. And yet, as you see yourself
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  standing there, I want you to observe the situation is
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  similar, but there is now a different version of you.
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  Maybe you get a sense that your hands are in a different
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  position, your posture is different, there's something
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  about how you're sitting or standing that says come on then
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  bring it on. Maybe you see yourself touching
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  a watch in a certain way, or maybe think you might be
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  wiggling your toes when nobody can notice it's just happening
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  inside your socks and shoes. See then the beginning stages of
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  an old fear start stirring. You can see that clue, the
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  beginning stages, but no need to defer, divert, or even escape.
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  See a version of you relishing that moment.
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  See yourself excited. You've been wanting to face this
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  nemesis for a while and you realise this is that moment.
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  I want you to step into that version of you.
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  Maybe it's a presentation where you can see an audience, or
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  maybe it's a call where you can see people on the screen but
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  feel you're in a dialogue, calm and confident and optimistic.
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  There's a genuine sense of relishing this.
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  You feel up for the challenge. What used to be called anxiety
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  now fuels even more excitement. A spark of challenge ignites
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  within. You hear your own voice in your
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  mind's ear in a particular tonality, saying come on then.
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  Not as a plea and certainly not as a hope, but almost like a
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  battle cry, a signal to your body that you thrive in the face
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  of challenge. Because in this moment, you are
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  not the person you were before. You have grown.
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  You have changed. You have become, more so than
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  ever before, the master of your own mind.
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  And just like that, everything shifts.
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  That sensation, that old flicker of anxiety, You think of it as
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  just a storm in a very, very small teacup.
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  It swirls for a moment, and then it settles, because it was never
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  as big as it seemed. That twisting sensation there in
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  the solar plexus. Turn it into a tornado or a
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  hurricane, into a tiny teacup, and notice all of its power
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  disappears, and you feel yourself growing stronger.
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  You're in. The dialogue starts to change.
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  No mention of hope or panic attacks.
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  That's not how a hero thinks. What if you were to think this
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  is going to go well or even better?
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  I make this go well. I live for this.
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  And with that shift, a deep certainty settles within you, a
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  calm confidence. Because you know that no matter
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  what happens, you handle it. You are in control.
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  You don't fear the unexpected. You welcome.
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  It keeps you on your toes and the idea of a panic attack.
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  You realize that panic attack was never the right word.
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  What if that's not even a thing anymore?
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  You just can't relate to it. Maybe it's something humorous,
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  like a an oopsie daisies of the mind or a startled festival, a
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  tiny moment of energy that fizzles out before it even
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  begins. Or maybe you think of a small
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  flame, no bigger than a candles or a sparkler from your
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  childhood, one that can easily extinguish.
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  And even if you don't extinguish it, it will fizzle out in no
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  time. No thoughts of it becoming a
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  raging fire. It can't and won't because you
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  have the tools. To stop.
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  A flame from becoming a fire to stop the dominoes from falling
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  to the next domino. And that enemy that haunted you
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  for years? What if it was like the monster
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  under the bed that is so terrifying for a child that all
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  it has to do is to confidently look and realise it was never
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  real? I want you to get a sense that
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  by walking towards this enemy, what if the enemy starts to run?
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  You can think of anxiety or fear like shadows, and action and
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  certainty like light. The two cannot coexist.
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  So feel that certainty, feel that action and realise when you
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  do so, anxiety becomes all the more elusive.
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  I want you to get a sense that that enemy that haunted you has
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  lost all of its power because you have faced it.
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  You have stood your ground and feel that you have won.
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  And now, as you take another deep breath in.
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  Feel like something has shifted within you, new belief systems,
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  new identities, the sense that not just that you've got this,
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  but we've got this. That all of these different
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  parts of your personality are now working together as an
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  internal team to enable you to be the most resourceful version
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  of you that you and others have ever seen.
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  There's a new energy to you, a new mindset.
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  Because the next time you stand in front of an audience, or sit
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  in front of a camera, or start to speak in an important
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  meeting, or get challenged in any way, you will feel excited.
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  You will feel powerful. And you will know that that old
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  fear, the old anxiety, was nothing more than a lesson.
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  And now that you've learned that lesson, you no longer need it.
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  Because this is your story. And in your story, you overcome
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  adversity to take a deep breath in and feel you have vanquished
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  your enemy. You are victorious.
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  And all that is remaining is to take something that's already
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  happened in your mind and turn it into reality.
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  But whether you receive an e-mail of a date of a meeting,
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  an agenda, or even just a few minutes before that meeting or
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  presentation starts, a new row of dominoes is now activated,
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  one that gets you into a highly resourceful, powerful state of
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  certainty and confidence. It's time to return to the here
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  and now. Was you put down that book
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  realizing that more than half of this book is unwritten and you
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  are the author of your story? Feel that you've recently
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  started a new chapter anyway, and wouldn't it be good if the
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  old you was left behind and this new you was in control?
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  From this chapter onwards, as you leave that dusty library,
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  feel you're taking all of these resources, tools and strategies
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  with you. So take a deep breath in through
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  your nose and out through your nose.
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  Just wiggle your fingers and wiggle your toes.
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  Connect fully into the here and the now as I now count from 1:00
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  to 10:00 to awaken you. You will awaken fully in the
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  present, feeling calm, confident, powerful and
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  resourceful. Starting to count 123 Waking up
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  456 More alert 7-8 Open your eyes, Open your eyes 910 and
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  wide awake, Wide awake, Wide awake.
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