Latest / The Priestess Temple Podcast / Ep 21: Revolutionize Your Relationships with Pleasure Maxxing
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- Embodied By Jenna: Hello, and welcome to another episode of the Priestess Temple Podcast. I am your host and dark feminine embodiment guide, Priestess Paradise Rain. This is your space to come home to yourself as the goddess through learning about womb wisdom, somatics, and identity work. So that you can heal from heartbreak and have more intimate and fulfilling relationships. I am so grateful that you are here. Hey goddess. Today I wanted to talk about the concept of pleasure maxing and how you can incorporate daily pleasure into your life to have the ultimate post breakup goddess glow up and to have more intimate and fulfilling relationships with men. You see, in this late stage capitalistic patriarchal society, we are taught that the most important thing that we can have in our life is. Purpose. And for men, the most important thing they can have in their life is purpose. Okay. This society was built for men. It is a man's world. And they love to check things off of their to do list. They love to accomplish, to achieve, to force, to prove. And I feel like as women, we have been taught that this is the way that we need to move through the world. I know that that's what I learned growing up in New York, anyways. Well, I am telling you that for women, this is one of the worst things that we can do, both for our relationships and for our health. You see, women need pleasure. Pleasure regulates our nervous system. It helps us to have more radiant health and balanced hormones. It also helps us to relate to men better because when we are experiencing pleasure, well, our womb source energy grows, we become more attractive, we become magnetic. And when we truly know what makes us happy and what makes us feel good, we can communicate that with our male partner, who then can in turn act to help fulfill our desires. Which makes them feel really fucking good. And so it is this continuous feedback loop between men and women. Allowing both sexes to feel really fulfilled with an intimate partnership Because both people are experiencing bonding through hormonal signaling. And so today, what I wanted to do is explain the science behind the hormonal signaling pathways for men and women because they're very different. And then I wanted to give you tips about how you can implement pleasure maxing into your life so that you can glow up. And have more fulfilling relationships with the man in your life. I wanted to get started by just talking about my own personal experience with pleasure maxing. And then we will get into the educational component of the podcast. All right, goddess, let's get into it. It wasn't until I decided to do a 30 day fashion challenge that I truly understood the concept of pleasure maxing and felt it in my body. You see, I love fashion. I love getting dressed every day. I love doing my hair and my makeup and just being a real girly girl. And so I committed to doing that for 30 days. and what happened in my body, mind, and spirit was insane because I was feeling my body every morning as I was getting dressed. I was tapping into my creative energy when I was picking out my outfits. And I felt feminine for the first time in my life. It was so hard. To explain what was happening at the time of that 30 day fashion challenge, but I could feel it, and everyone else around me could feel it. I started to become more radiant. People were becoming magnetized towards me. Men and women were finding me so attractive. And all of a sudden, I had men like offering to do things for me. I was getting approached in a completely different way by completely different types of men. And it was so interesting to see how pouring into myself through practicing daily pleasure changed the way that I looked. Like every single day I was posting a picture online and to see myself go from day one to day 30. I could barely even recognize the girl in the photos. And today my health is thriving. I have the most intimate and fulfilling relationships of my life with both men and women. And it truly happened because of this concept of pleasure maxing. Because what I did not understand at the time was that I was regulating my nervous system. Through the release of the hormone oxytocin. and this release of oxytocin on a daily basis helped me to have a glow up in record time where everyone took notice. And I am telling you, this is the secret sauce to women's health You see, a woman's body regulates itself through the secretion of oxytocin. And oxytocin is the pleasure hormone. When a woman feels a gentle caress on her skin, that is when oxytocin is released. I want you to think about. snuggling with a baby, being skin to skin, breastfeeding, having sex with your partner, and long emotional talks over cuddles underneath a warm blanket. These are situations when the hormone oxytocin is released. And when we experience oxytocin in our body, what we are really experiencing is a sense of safety. And for a woman, pleasure and safety are the two most important things that you can experience when it comes to having radiant health and more fulfilling relationships. You see, oxytocin is the bonding hormone for women. And so when we feel safe around our partner and we feel daily pleasure, our energy expands. And we are able to better connect with the people around us. This is so ass backwards from how our society typically operates because we are taught that we need to accomplish everything on our to-do list. And then we're allowed to experience pleasure. We need to achieve and prove ourselves to the world before we can feel good. And for men, that works really fucking well. And we live in a man's world because you see a man's regulatory hormone is not oxytocin, okay? Their number one priority is not pleasure and safety. No, a man's system regulates through the hormone vasopressin. And vasopressin is a hormone that is released during. Problem solving. You see, men were not designed to live in safety and pleasure. Men were designed to live in harsh conditions and to problem solve and to come out better on the other side after they have survived and faced hardship. And so men thrive when checking things off of a to do list. Men thrive. Thrive when they're proving themselves and competing because vasopressin is released after they solve a problem, which then bonds them to their female partner because they love to prove themselves to the woman who is ultimately the prize. Am I right, ladies, or am I right? And so society is built for men, their health. Thrives when they are in this active problem solving role and when they are achieving and their relationships thrive as well. Because, ladies, men are here to serve you. So I wanted to get into our tips about how you can incorporate pleasure maxing into your daily life through the release of oxytocin, which is going to allow you to have more vibrant health and better relationships with men. So the first tip is you need to experiment and understand what feels Pleasurable to you. So for my example, my 30 day fashion challenge where I was getting dressed every day and doing my hair and doing my makeup, these are things that I really fucking love to do. Like for me, it's something that I'm excited about. I look forward to it, and it's not stressful for me at all. Now, other women that might stress you the fuck out, okay? So you have to make a list of things that make you feel good. And for some people, it's feeling the sunshine on their skin. For some people, it's reading a book or wearing a cozy pair of slippers or having a glass of wine at the end of the night. I mean, the sky is the limit here, but I think knowing yourself is really the first step in pleasure maxing because you have to know what makes You feel good. Once you have a list, I want you to incorporate one thing on your list on a daily basis and do it consecutively for 30 days. Okay. So this is the second tip. You can't just do something pleasurable once and expect it to change your nervous system or your hormonal regulation. These things take Time. And so it's so fucking important to a know what is pleasurable to you and then B incorporate it into your life on a daily basis consistently for an extended period of time. I want you to track your progress over the 30 days about what you look like, how you're feeling. How other people are relating to you, because I've done this 30 day fashion challenge experiment with other women, and they had similar results especially with how people were approaching them and treating them. you see because when a woman pours into herself, her energy and her radiance starts to grow. And that attracts different types of people into your life. Which brings me to the third tip. Okay. You need to be able to communicate what makes you feel good to other people. Here's the thing, babe, It's one thing to be able to provide yourself with a pleasurable experience. And I Totally believe that you need to start there. Okay. You cannot be outsourcing your pleasure to your partner. That is a recipe for disaster. You need to take care of your own pleasure first. But when that happens and you start feeling good on a daily basis, I am telling you, you are going to glow up and you are going to have multiple potential partners coming at you real quick. And so you need to be able to communicate in a way that is clear and direct, but not overbearing about what would be pleasurable for you in conjunction with another person. And remember this men bond to women through the secretion of the hormone vasophile. And vasopressin is the problem-solving hormone. And so, ladies, this is a great opportunity for you and your potential partner to bond now that you've had a glow-up through practicing daily pleasure by communicating your desire to him and allowing him to step in and problem solve to provide you with the pleasurable experience. I for one am not in the camp of not telling the guy what you like and just expecting him to know everything and plan the perfect date. No, like you can give him Some suggestions of what would be pleasurable to you, which will ultimately allow the experience to be more fulfilling for both of you. For example, you could tell him some things that you genuinely enjoy. Like, I love this type of music, or you know, this type of food is one of my favorites. Like letting him know things that you're genuinely excited about and would love to do, and then providing him with the opportunity to step in and problem solve. And provide you with the experience that he knows is going to be pleasurable for you. And then when you tell him what an amazing job that he did and how grateful you are for him providing you with that experience, well, then it's a really positive feedback loop for both partners because he gets to experience the release of vasopressin because he problem solved and he's starting to bond to you. And you get to experience the release of oxytocin through having him provide you with that pleasurable experience. And so I think it's so, so, so important to know what you want, to practice pleasure daily, and then to be able to communicate it with your partner in a way that is open and warm and leave space for them to problem solve and provide you with the pleasurable experience that you desire. Now, this concept it seems simple, but it is not always easy. And if you are looking for more support as you are re-entering the dating market after going through a breakup Then I will invite you into my new audio course entitled The Post Breakup Goddess Glow Up. Yes, this podcast episode was just a very small chunk of the information that I provide in this course, which is ultimately designed to help you set sexy standards that stick so that you can become a match for devoted love. This course provides you with dark feminine wisdom about womb energetics and male dating psychology to help you re-enter the dating market and be unfuckwithable as you move towards calling in your conscious king. Because babe, once you understand how men think and how women's bodies were designed to thrive, well then dating becomes so much easier. And might I even say fun? Because goddess, women were designed to be the natural born leaders and sovereign selectors of our partners. And so this mini course provides you with the information needed to do just that. The information for the course can be found in the description of this podcast episode. And it is only $27, which is a complete steal. We talk about the concept of pleasure maxing and so much more. So make sure to check out the post breakup goddess glow up mini course. And until then, I want to leave you with the question of how are you going to start pleasure maxing today? Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the Priestess Temple Podcast. If you enjoyed this conversation, please share with members of your community. Comment, rate, and subscribe to the podcast so we can continue having these amazing conversations every week. I will see you next Thursday. And until then, remember, you are the goddess.