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What's Stopping You? Only Yourself. | Ep 264 · Voices for Voices®

• 0:02
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Hey everyone, welcome again to another episode of the Voices for Voices TV show and podcast.
• 0:10
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I'm your host.
• 0:11
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Founder of Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes.
• 0:15
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Thank you for joining us today, as well as on any additional shows or communication that we have.
• 0:27
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We're grateful, we're humbled, to have you with us.
• 0:30
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Have you a part of the Voices for Voices movement, the organization, the Step Out from the Shadows, to help as many people as we're able to?
• 0:46
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Given our short, short, short, short time on Earth, and as much as sometimes we want to speed up time, there comes a point where the clock's going to really work against us as far as our time here left on Earth.
• 1:11
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So that's a big part of Voices for Voices is to be able to help as many people as we can help as many people as we can, to help those who feel that their voices have been made voiceless, that they have had their voice suppressed in one way or another.
• 1:41
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And we are that movement, we are that platform, we are that platform, we are that organization to do so and thank you so much for being with us we just really and I say this all the time, but it's because it's true, where we don't have a whole lot of downloads of our show over 260 episodes, from guests here in the United States, all the way across the world and Australia and all points in between.
• 2:30
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But although we don't have, you know, this massive analytic package that millions and millions and millions have downloaded and watched our show, one thing that we are able to see is, given that small footprint that we have, we've just surpassed over 70 countries, 700 cities across the world that have at one time or another watched or listened to our show.
• 3:17
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And I don't know about you, but that's big, that's humongous.
• 3:25
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It makes me speechless, which is hard to do.
• 3:35
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: A lot of, you know it's hard to make me speechless.
• 3:42
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Yeah, hard to make me speechless.
• 3:50
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I yeah.
• 3:50
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So again, a big thank you.
• 3:52
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Whether this is your first episode with us or whether this is whether you've been with us from the very beginning, it's a real, real privilege and honor to even have an opportunity to be where we're at from an episode standpoint that it's pretty rare to have.
• 4:24
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: A podcast TV show that has over 250, over 260 now episodes, and it's just mind-blowing for me to think that, to know that, to be reminded of that.
• 4:55
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And then it's okay for me to take a step back, which is hard to do because I'm so passionate about getting the content, getting information to you, to everybody, everybody that's watched, listened, shared, subscribed to us, commented it's hard for me to take a moment to step back and just look at that number of episodes.
• 5:42
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Just look at that number of episodes Now, when we started, we did one episode, then two, then five, and then we were at 10, and then we're at 20.
• 5:59
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And then we started to see this thing explode in a good way, where again we don't have these super powerful analytics showing us that millions and millions and millions and millions of people are watching and listening.
• 6:19
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We do think our numbers are a little bit higher than what they're showing, but be that as it may, I didn't know if we would get here.
• 6:35
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I don't know if anybody on our board thought we would get here.
• 6:39
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I think it's just a testament to if you're passionate about something and at a relatively low cost.
• 7:03
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: The only thing, the only person that is stopping you from doing what we're doing, what we have been doing, is yourself.
• 7:16
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I mean, we make investments from here and there, but when we again take that step back and look at, okay, from an equipment standpoint, we have a webcam.
• 7:46
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: One has one of those little circular ring lights.
• 7:53
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We have the big one and we have the mobile one.
• 7:59
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: That's the one we're on right now.
• 8:01
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's been a couple years since I made that purchase.
• 8:12
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Can't give you an estimate, I don't think it was $100.
• 8:18
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And while I do have the AirPod that goes with my phone, that also helps as a headphone, as a microphone.
• 8:38
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I've had these AirPods for quite a while and so from a pure I've had these AirPods for quite a while and so from a pure filming perspective.
• 8:52
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Now, when we're in the studio, that's a little bit different.
• 8:59
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But you can build out your show.
• 9:03
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You can build out the themes and the topics and the guests.
• 9:08
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Again, the only person that's stopping you is you.
• 9:14
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You might say oh well, you know we, how do we find guests?
• 9:23
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You know to guests to join us, and all that's just the learning curve.
• 9:29
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I can't give one particular answer other than you have to figure it out.
• 9:38
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And it's not that hard.
• 9:40
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: If I was able to figure it out, you can figure it out.
• 9:46
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You can figure it out.
• 9:49
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: This isn't a topic that's going to take you months and months, and months to figure out.
• 9:55
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It'll take some trial and error and we still make errors.
• 10:02
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Man, we're human beings, we still make errors.
• 10:06
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I mean, we're human beings, we all.
• 10:06
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We always make errors, whether we want to or not, we always do so.
• 10:17
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Hopefully I can be an inspiration, we can be an inspiration to you, whether you start your own company organization, or whether you use your name, your first name, your last name, a combination, a nickname Again, those are all things that you've got to work through.
• 10:42
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Once you work through that, you kind of get your design and your color scheme of what you want it to look like.
• 10:46
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Then it becomes repetition, then it becomes kind of like a factory where you book a guest, you film the guest and then you do the file conversion and all those things.
• 11:03
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And then you do the file conversion and all those things and then you submit it and then you do the same thing again and that'd be episode two, and once you do it again, then that's episode three, and so it's very I want to say it's easy, because that's in the eye of the beholder, it is.
• 11:38
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: If you are passionate enough and you have information, experiences and we all do so there's really no reason for none of us to have the opportunity to do this, to have our own show.
• 11:57
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I mean, there's some health challenges and things that may hinder that, and so I'm not downplaying that at all.
• 12:22
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: What I am doing is sharing how, when you're passionate about a topic, a thing, an experience, an emotion, a feeling, then you're going to do your hardest, darnest shot at how do we get this thing out there, how do we film it, how do we convert the files?
• 13:02
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And the list goes on Like anything.
• 13:03
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Repetition film it, how do we convert the files, how do we?
• 13:04
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And that list goes on Like anything.
• 13:08
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Repetition makes things a little bit easier, makes things a little bit, little bit more efficient, meaning it takes less time from the time you film for the time, less time from the time you film to the time the show is out, till it drops A particular episode.
• 13:38
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so when I say thank you, it's not just fluff, because I know how valuable everybody's time is, that when I say thank you, I mean it it's.
• 14:01
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's something that we've been blessed to be able to have a lot of.
• 14:18
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Again, a lot of different countries and territories and provinces and cities tune in at one time or another, and I don't care what the analytics are.
• 14:32
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: The analytics could show that one person over all of these episodes, that one person downloaded or viewed it or listened or watched it.
• 14:48
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: If that one person is a person whose life was saved, who was able to get the and feel like they're not alone, then that that makes it all worth it for me and us, because we could have a million downloads, 10 million downloads, whatever.
• 15:22
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But if we're not impacting, if we're not a source of information, of experience, then we need to work on how can we do better?
• 15:35
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: How do we do better?
• 15:38
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So to me, analytics it's all about how many people are we helping.
• 15:51
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's about who we're helping, how many.
• 15:58
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Even if it saves one person from having to do further research, that's helping.
• 16:11
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It doesn't have to be these grandiose ways of helping.
• 16:17
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Those get the most press, those get the most press.
• 16:29
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But helping comes in so many shapes, sizes and flavors.
• 16:40
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And the hard part is believing in myself.
• 16:42
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: The hard part is believing in myself, believing that I have information, that I have experiences, that guests that we have on are going to make a difference in a positive way or have the ability to make that positive difference in that type of a way.
• 17:09
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And I have a really hard time believing in myself.
• 17:13
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I do Because I strive to do as much as I can to go out of my way to be transparent about my mental health, my mental illnesses, my story, everything about me and ways that I can help.
• 17:37
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And even when outwardly it looks like, oh, he has, he has it down or I don't know.
• 17:54
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I don't know what you're thinking, but what I'm thinking is, at this very moment, do I believe in Justin?
• 18:04
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And it's easy to think, well, yeah, why wouldn't you believe in yourself?
• 18:15
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And then you start looking at things like a metric, a number here, a number there, and go on.
• 18:24
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Well, we're not at where we want to be in this area or that area.
• 18:33
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And then so we start questioning are we helping people?
• 18:41
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Are we helping people?
• 18:49
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And I have to remind myself that there's a lot of people and I'm probably one of them where I consume information.
• 19:02
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I might not give immediate feedback about that, and so even if I look at analytics, out the wazoo that there there are others who you know for privacy, and what have you but their number, their analytics, their numbers, their for privacy, and what have you but their analytics, their numbers, their downloads, etc.
• 19:31
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: They don't show up.
• 19:32
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So I'm not able to see that there's the opportunity of helping those people too.
• 19:45
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so I I need to believe in myself, not the cliche like, oh dear self, it's not a cliche.
• 19:57
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: If I don't believe in myself, how am, how am I going to be expecting others to believe in me, in our mission, our vision, stories, experiences, guests, their stories experiences.
• 20:24
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Guests, their stories, experiences.
• 20:27
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And that's where the passion comes into play, where, man, we're really knocking out a lot of episodes.
• 20:41
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We're doing really great.
• 20:44
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: These last couple weeks we've really been putting things into overdrive Because I've been doubting myself, and from time to time I think we do doubt ourselves.
• 21:04
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Are we making a difference?
• 21:07
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Is it worth it?
• 21:08
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But when I believe in myself and I have the infrastructure like in this case, this camera, my earphone it's also the microphone, the background they're seeing when I have that infrastructure in place, all I really need to do is show up Because I don't have a script.
• 21:50
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: When we started, this thing started, this organization started our shows and for quite a while we especially in our in-studio episodes we're a little bit more limited and have to have a little bit more structure.
• 22:05
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Especially in our in-studio episodes we're a little bit more limited and have to have a little bit more structure than our remote out-of-studio episodes.
• 22:13
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so, since I was so brand new at that time, there was certain information I wanted to make sure that I shared.
• 22:26
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And for me I was thinking well, if I don't have it on a teleprompter, then there's a chance I might not share that information, because I get nervous once the cameras and the lights are on.
• 22:50
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Even right now I'm nervous talking and sharing, and when you add a clock to it, that a certain amount of time and if you're a talker, like I am, there's going to be a chance where we don't get to that the main point, the main idea, or reminding our viewers and our listeners hey, make sure you give us a thumbs up, you subscribe, you like, you share, you comment, and still to this day there's.
• 23:32
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Sometimes I forget that, and it's okay, I like this approach.
• 23:40
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Our feedback is great to this approach because I like this approach.
• 23:42
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Our feedback is great to this approach because it humanizes us, because, as we know, nobody's perfect, and I say like and I say um, we all do, and that's okay, it's okay, it's okay.
• 24:18
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I can say the word like and like and like, it's okay.
• 24:33
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so for me, because of the infrastructure that we've put in place.
• 24:49
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: All I really need to do is show up, because I'm sharing, from my own mind, my own heart, current events, and so do I get nervous?
• 25:15
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Heck, yeah, I get nervous.
• 25:16
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Heck, yeah, I get nervous.
• 25:17
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I learned this myself, but I've also heard it from many of our guests who have spent some or a lot of time in front of a camera over the years, and I've asked them you know, do you get nervous?
• 25:35
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You know, when the camera's on, you know, say three, two, one, and then point and start, and almost every one of them says, yeah, I get nervous.
• 25:58
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And if you don't get nervous, you're in the wrong business.
• 26:01
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so it's okay to feel nervous, it's okay to feel anxious, and that's where I've been able to harness my generalized anxiety and instead of doing more detrimental things like binge drinking and relationships and treating people poorly, but I'm able to harness that energy.
• 26:45
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so, yeah, I get super nervous.
• 26:49
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I'm nervous right now, no matter what our final episode number will be I'm hoping it's not for you know, a few thousand of episodes that we're able to do.
• 27:03
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But, yeah, I get nervous and that's okay.
• 27:10
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so there's times where we have these, you know, these blocks in our head where it's like I can't.
• 27:25
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I can't communicate what I want to, what's what's in my head.
• 27:30
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Right now I can't communicate in all of my words.
• 27:33
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's okay.
• 27:41
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Maybe I'm able to recover and share that a little bit later in one of those shows, or maybe not, but it's okay.
• 27:57
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's okay to feel like we missed out, we missed a topic, we missed something we wanted to say, and so we just practice it and think about it for the next time.
• 28:10
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And that's really what it comes down to.
• 28:15
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I mean, it really is.
• 28:22
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So, whatever type of camera it is, whether it's a radio and there's no camera, or whether now there is a camera and being in the studio and multiple cameras what it all comes down to is it comes down into passion.
• 28:49
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It comes down to that belief in ourselves, passion, and that belief that who's the best person to talk about my experiences?
• 29:06
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's me.
• 29:08
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Who's the best person to talk about your experiences?
• 29:17
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's you.
• 29:21
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So if you have that passion and you have that belief in yourself, then there's still going to be anxiety there, but maybe you're able to take a little bit of a pause and kind of go into your memory bank, like I do from time to time, and try to remember a certain term, a certain word, a certain experience, and that's okay.
• 30:00
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's okay to do that Because there's only one you, there's only one me and once we get over the fact that we're not perfect and nobody's perfect here on Earth, then we just have to be comfortable talking about whatever the topic or experience is.
• 30:27
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Some topics are much easier than other topics, other topics are much harder than some other topics, and that just comes down to you, your preferences, how much you like to share you want to share.
• 30:49
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: There's topics you want to veer away from, and that's okay, because, guess what?
• 30:56
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: On your own show, you get to pick and choose exactly what you want, and if you want to be a guest on our show, you can share topics, areas that you're comfortable talking about, and some maybe not so much.
• 31:18
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: At the end of the day, however, you're talking about you.
• 31:32
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You're the expert on yourself, so have that belief, have that passion, whatever that may be.
• 31:44
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Maybe it isn't a podcast, maybe it isn't a show, whatever it may be.
• 31:52
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: There's so many almost an infinite amount of things, events there really is, and so you don't have to be like me, you don't have to like what I say, but when you are doing things on your terms for you.
• 32:30
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Yeah, you want wanna have belief in what you're doing.
• 32:38
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You wanna have passion behind it, because there's days and there's times where, as I mentioned, where there's times where I don't believe in myself.
• 32:51
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: There's times where I don't believe in myself and I need to do my best to work through it.
• 32:59
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Sometimes they're easier than others, but we all go through.
• 33:09
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We all go through periods of self-doubt.
• 33:12
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We all go through periods of self-doubt.
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  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: No matter how much it may look glorious, glamorous, whatever on the outside, there's a whole lot of butterflies flying around on the inside and for that time You're doing that thing and you're passionate and you like it and you're trying it and you're learning and you're taking mental notes and maybe physically you're taking notes, and then you do a little bit of practicing and the passion and the belief starts to mesh.
• 34:07
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And that's where the beauty is.
• 34:10
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: When you bring the belief and the passion together, it doesn't matter what it is, what it is you're working on.
• 34:22
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: What matters is that it's what you want, not what I want.
• 34:32
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: What you want, that's what it comes down to, not what your roommate or even a significant other may want.
• 34:46
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's got to be what you want, because otherwise it's going to come down to.
• 34:59
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: This is a J-O-B job and I'm just putting my time in to make that paycheck, to get those benefits.
• 35:08
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I'm burnt out, I'm worn out.
• 35:13
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I'm burnt out, I'm worn out.
• 35:16
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I'm not emotionally tied to this particular work, and it's hard.
• 35:23
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It is so hard to do that because?
• 35:33
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: To do that?
• 35:36
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Because, as the world has changed over the years, how norms have changed, taking a step out and doing what I'm doing, voices for Voices didn't happen overnight and it isn't happening overnight.
• 35:59
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And if I didn't have the passion, this thing would have been gone.
• 36:05
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Like a year and a half ago.
• 36:07
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We didn't want to have a show, the organization would be finished, but somehow, someway from above and from encouragement, encouragement, I continue to have the passion of wanting to help others, and predominantly in the area of the mental health and mental illness, as the biggest pillar of Voices for Voices.
• 37:00
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: God, I believe, ben, this is what I'm called to do.
• 37:07
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: All of our time is short here on Earth, talked about it time and time again.
• 37:15
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But this is what I'm called to do Is to talk, to share, to have blunders when I talk and share, to say like and um when I talk and when I share and to know that I'm going to have times where the belief in myself, on a scale of 1 to 10, might be a 0 or a 2 or a 1.
• 37:50
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And at other times it might be an 8 or a 9 or a one, and at other times it might be an eight or a nine or a ten, but more times than not, that passion and that belief are much closer to ten than they are to zero.
• 38:08
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: What do I do?
• 38:11
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: When they're low Usually means I've been spending too much time putting content together, that I need to rest, I need to recuperate my mind, and then at some point I get right back up and I turn on the computer or I turn on my phone.
• 38:48
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And I turn on my phone and God speaks through me, gives me the strength to be able to share and talk about.
• 39:00
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Talk about the hard topics, the hard experiences, areas that are taboo or whatever they are.
• 39:14
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's because they're hard to talk about.
• 39:17
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: If they were easy for everybody to talk about, then we wouldn't be as unique as we are.
• 39:27
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And it takes a while to talk about your innermost thoughts, your innermost worries, your innermost triumph, but don't always end up in money and trophies and accolades, they can be wow.
• 39:57
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And money and trophies and accolades they can be wow.
• 40:04
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I've been a part of something that's had 260 plus episodes, and that's sometimes the validation of wow, you're doing it.
• 40:25
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Nothing's a given in this life.
• 40:26
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Nothing is crystal clear, nothing is so for sure.
• 40:30
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I may be alive for one more minute or a half a minute, or a day, or 10 days or 10 months or 10 hours, and so that also drives me because I know I'm not going to be here forever.
• 40:52
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: None of us are going to be here forever, no matter how much we want to, and so that's a point of urgency that I add to the passion and the belief of if I'm thinking about something, it can probably help somebody.
• 41:17
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I don't know how, I don't know where, I don't know when, but I'm not just going to keep it inside.
• 41:29
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: That's the easy thing to do.
• 41:37
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's for me to keep it inside, and the easy thing to do is not to go to therapy To just blow it off.
• 41:54
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But I don't and you shouldn't.
• 42:04
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So when you put passion and a little bit of urgency into it, and then we believe.
• 42:10
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Believe in ourselves doesn't mean we have to believe in ourselves 100%, we just have to believe in ourselves just a little bit.
• 42:19
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Just a little bit.
• 42:21
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: To believe in ourselves a little bit.
• 42:24
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We're passionate and we have a sense of urgency, then that means the time that we have to work on whatever that is for you.
• 42:34
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You're going to be ultra-focused.
• 42:39
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You might have a take or two or ten different takes, but you're going to get it.
• 42:50
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You're going to get it.
• 42:55
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: If I can do this, you can do this.
• 42:58
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And if you need note cards and you need notes, then do it.
• 43:06
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: That's what I tell my guests all the time.
• 43:08
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I do not care if you have notes, a note card, if you're reading from it, I don't care.
• 43:16
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I want to make sure that you get the topics and areas and experiences.
• 43:24
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I want to make sure, in that time we have together, that you're able to get that out.
• 43:30
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so bring those notes.
• 43:36
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Don't worry about what a teacher may say well, you know it works better.
• 43:43
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Well, no, it works how you work and we're not getting graded here.
• 43:49
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: This is just life, and the reason why I don't use notes as much as I used to is just because I've done this over 260 times.
• 44:04
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I'm a little bit better than when I started.
• 44:12
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I realize that sense of urgency.
• 44:14
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I don't want to take five minutes at the beginning of every show.
• 44:19
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I want to have that time, not for me reading about this, that and the other.
• 44:31
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I believe in myself that I'll cover what I need to cover, what I want to cover, and, if not, guess what.
• 44:39
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I have 260 other shows that's going to cover that and have covered that.
• 44:45
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so it's about the communication.
• 44:54
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's about the sharing, the passionate, the belief, the sense of urgency.
• 45:02
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so I want to get right to the point.
• 45:03
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I want to get right to our conversation.
• 45:05
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: If you read from a telegramter, it's what works for you, it's not what works for me.
• 45:18
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: What works for me is what I'll do, and what works for you is what you'll do, and what the next person does is what they'll do.
• 45:27
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And as time goes on, we'll get a little bit more comfortable.
• 45:33
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: A little bit more comfortable.
• 45:38
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Still have that anxiousness that, oh my gosh, who's going to watch this, who's going to listen to it?
• 45:45
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: If I don't share my story or this topic in a particular way?
• 45:52
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: What does that mean?
• 45:54
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It means that I'm going to have another episode and then I'm going to have that time if I want to cover that again in a better way, a more concise, clear way.
• 46:07
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: That's all that means.
• 46:11
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So let's just recap whatever you do, do you?
• 46:27
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And what are the three things?
• 46:28
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We have urgency, a sense of urgency.
• 46:30
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We have belief.
• 46:30
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We have belief.
• 46:32
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We gotta believe what we're doing.
• 46:37
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We gotta believe in ourselves.
• 46:38
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We have belief.
• 46:38
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We got to believe what we're doing.
• 46:39
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We got to believe in ourselves.
• 46:41
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We have to have urgency.
• 46:47
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And as I'm thinking right now, here we are.
• 46:50
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's like the third one.
• 46:51
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I'm like, oh my God, I talked about this whole show and here I am trying to summarize, and it's okay Passion.
• 47:00
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We want to have passion.
• 47:03
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We want to have belief and a sense of urgency, not to the point that we put ourselves in dangerous moments and dangerous position, not like that.
• 47:15
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Just a sense of urgency that if I'm going to sit down or I'm going to do a particular thing that I'm just going to focus in at that time, that's all that means.
• 47:27
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Again, it does not mean anybody.
• 47:30
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We don't want anybody to put themselves in any dangerous situations and overextend themselves.
• 47:39
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: That's not what we want, because we want you to do what you're doing again and again, and again and again.
• 47:47
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So it might take a minute or two, a time or two, to take a step back, take some deep breaths, go for a walk, listen to some music, meditate.
• 48:03
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Whatever you do, do you, because that's all I want.
• 48:10
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I want you to do yourself, I want you to be comfortable, I want you to have passion and believe in a sense of urgency.
• 48:20
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We can't do everything in one day, but we sure as heck can do something in one day.
• 48:33
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And when you get something and then something, and then something and something, then you get something and then something, and then something and something, then you get where we're at with 260 plus episodes or, like others, that 500 or thousands of episodes, and a lot of people are going to want to give you advice.
• 48:57
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: A lot are, and that's okay.
• 48:59
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I'm not saying don't, don't listen to the advice.
• 49:03
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Listen, let people share and at the end of the day, you make that decision what you want to do, not what they want to do.
• 49:14
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: What you want to do and not what they want to do, what you want to do.
• 49:22
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And when people don't have skin in the game, that's just a term, saying that somebody doesn't have, you know they're not helping monetarily, money-wise, or sharing with their network and getting you the opportunities that you wouldn't have had the ability to get on your own.
• 49:39
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Those are individuals where you're going to probably listen a little bit more and they wouldn't have felt comfortable enough to tell you what they could help out with if they weren't as connected with you.
• 49:54
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so it's the same thing with me.
• 49:55
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I hear a lot of suggestions, a lot of information, a lot of, a lot of a lot of let's put it that way but when it comes down to it, as I just said, I'm not just telling you I'm doing it.
• 50:13
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Telling you I'm doing it.
• 50:15
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: If somebody doesn't have skin in the game for me, for voices, for voices we don't have shared interests and they don't want to stand up to the plate and actually help, then I'll listen and say, okay, I thank you for sharing your opinion Help.
• 50:38
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Then I'll listen and say, okay, I thank you for sharing your opinion.
• 50:43
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I'll keep that in consideration.
• 50:44
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But at the end of the day, I'm making the final call If I want to do it or not, if I want to film this episode right now or if I don't.
• 50:53
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's my call, it's our organization's call.
• 51:00
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's not somebody who comes out of the woodwork and has all these suggestions.
• 51:10
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We don't have time for that Our time on earth is so short.
• 51:14
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We have to have that sense of urgency that we listen and move on, listen and move on, listen and move on.
• 51:21
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We incorporate people on our team that we feel that we want to have, that we do have shared interests and we value their opinion.
• 51:31
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: They value ours, they're not just in it for themselves and we can do that.
• 51:37
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But we gotta have that sense of urgency.
• 51:41
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I'd love to keep listening to you, but I got work to do.
• 51:48
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Are they gonna get upset?
• 51:49
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Maybe, but again, if they're not in it like you're in it and I'm in it, then we can't do anything about that.
• 52:03
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We can't please every single person.
• 52:05
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: There are going to be people that are interfering.
• 52:09
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: They see what you're doing or I'm doing and they want to be a cog in the wheel and they want to trip us up or whatever.
• 52:21
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I don't got time for that.
• 52:23
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You don't have time for that.
• 52:25
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Life's already short enough as it is.
• 52:32
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So haters are going to hate.
• 52:33
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: That's just the way it is.
• 52:34
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: That is so haters are going to hate.
• 52:40
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: That's just the way it is.
• 52:40
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: That is just the way it is.
• 52:42
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Is it unfortunate?
• 52:42
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It sure is unfortunate, but haters are going to hate and we're going to do what we're passionate about, what we have belief about.
• 52:56
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We're passionate about what we have belief about and what we have a sense of urgency about those three things.
• 53:07
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So until next time, please be a voice for you or somebody in need.
• 53:13
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And again, from the bottom of my heart, our organization, everybody that's a part small, big.
• 53:21
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Thank you so much for joining us, thank you for watching, thank you for listening.
• 53:26
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: If you could give us a big thumbs up like share, subscribe, that would be a big help to us.
• 53:32
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So thank you again, and God bless the United States of America and God bless the world.