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Are you playing to win or are you playing not to lose? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So, I have a question for you today.
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  Are you playing to win? Or are you playing not to lose
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  weird question, right? Well, this came up this weekend
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  because my husband is a huge football fan and in our house,
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  when football season starts, everything stops, and we watch
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  football. And he was talking to me about
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  how so many coaches will be winning a game.
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  And they're on path or doing. Well, they're winning the game.
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  And then all of a sudden they change their strategy, they
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  change their approach, they change what they're doing and
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  they begin to start to move towards playing not to lose and
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  how you can see what happens. The moment they start to do this
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  that they effectively open the door to losing the game because
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  they're changing the strategy. They're changing their energy.
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  They're changing their momentum of what they're doing and we use
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  explaining this to me. I was just like, wow, you know,
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  I've never really thought about it that way, but isn't that so
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  true in About how we are as human beings and how all of a
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  sudden we will change something, will have a strategy things will
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  be working. We're moving in the right
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  direction and then all of a sudden we change our strategy
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  and boom everything stops. It comes to a screeching halt.
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  Or there's a shift in energy and we wonder what the hell just
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  happened? Well, we happened, we got in our
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  own way by changing our strategy and it happens all the time, it
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  doesn't matter who you are, it happens.
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  So it Got me thinking about this, you know the game on and
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  listening to this and him talking about it really made me
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  think about how similar this is to what we do on a regular
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  basis. So I thought I'd bring this up
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  to you. So the question I am asking you
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  today is are you playing to win or you just playing not to lose?
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  And from my perspective playing not to lose would mean hey, I'm
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  just I'm just getting by and you know, we've all been in this
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  place where we thought about it like listen, I'm just getting
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  through this. I just got to get through this
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  week. I've had enough I can't do
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  anymore. I'm burnt out and we're just
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  playing to move through. We're not playing to win.
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  But what's exciting about that? Nothing there's nothing exciting
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  about it. What feels good about it, pretty
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  much, nothing feels good about that.
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  And the more we stack onto that feeling of blah, feeling of this
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  is not good. The more we get that and then we
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  wonder how the hell did we get? Where we are.
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  Are and it's not because of anything specific other than the
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  shift in strategy, and how we forgot what we wanted to do.
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  We forgot how we wanted to show up, we forgot the way we were
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  working in order to be successful.
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  So again, we often talk about here on here, how awareness
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  makes us understand something? And when we're aware of
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  something, you know, the Maya Angelou quote of, when we know
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  better, we can do better. And this is one of those times
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  where if we can Just take a moment and pause and think am I
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  playing to win? Or am I playing just not to
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  lose? That is a huge difference.
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  It's a small distinction that makes a huge difference.
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  So where could the show up? Well, this could show up in your
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  relationships. It could show up in your work.
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  It could show up in your health across the board.
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  This is something. Well, am I playing to be healthy
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  or my just playing not to gain weight and I just Saying to just
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  have my body be okay, I'm okay being okay.
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  You know, at your job and my playing to win.
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  Am I playing to get the raise? Or am I playing?
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  Just not to get fired. Ooh, boy.
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  Like think about the implications of this across the
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  board when it comes to your relationships.
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  Hey my just playing to not have fights with my partner.
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  Or am I playing to show my partner?
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  I love them. Am I playing all in with this
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  person? Am I showing them?
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  Single day that they matter to me what and what would your kids
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  are you just playing to have it? Be copacetic and nice as far as
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  like, oh, none of us are fighting.
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  We got through dinner without a fight.
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  Or are you playing with them? And saying, hey, I'm pouring
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  into this relationship because I want them to know they matter
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  and that their voice, it does matter to me and how I feel in
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  the family about them matters. And as a family, we can grow and
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  Thrive all great questions. Oh my gosh, so many.
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  Implications across the board. So I had to share this with you
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  all because for me, it was just, wow, it was one of those.
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  Wow moments, and it was such a great point.
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  So your assignment is to go off and say, I'm going to check
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  every area that I can, I'm going to figure out, am I playing to
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  win or my playing just not to lose in any area at all.
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  Because if you are playing just not to lose, I can guarantee you
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  that won't last long and eventually you will lose because
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  that's always the way it works. So check yourself out.
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  Put yourself in point, be aware of it and find out if you're
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  playing to win. All right guys, I will see you
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  tomorrow. Have a great day.
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  Bye.