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#110| Does Motivation Really Matter? Why You Should Ignore It and Act Anyway for Max Productivity · Overwhelmed Working Woman: Boost Productivity, Master Time Management, Overcome Overwhelm & Stop People Pleasing

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  Michelle Gauthier: I don't have to love it, I just have to do it.
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  Michelle Gauthier: And the more you show up like this and the more you make the decisions that you made non-negotiable for yourself, the better and better you will start to feel.
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  Michelle Gauthier: You're listening to Overwhelmed Working Woman, the podcast that helps you be more calm and more productive by doing less.
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  Michelle Gauthier: I'm your host, Michelle Gauthier, a former overwhelmed working woman and current life coach.
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  Michelle Gauthier: On this show, we unpack the stress and pressure that today's working woman experiences and in each episode you'll get a strategy to bring more calm, ease and relaxation to your life relaxation to your life.
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  Michelle Gauthier: Hello friend, thanks for joining.
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  Michelle Gauthier: Today we are continuing the discussion around making decisions that was started on Monday with our guest Bridget Meadows.
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  Michelle Gauthier: She was telling us some great tips on how to weigh and make decisions.
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  Michelle Gauthier: Today I want to talk about what we should do when we make a decision and then we don't feel like doing our decision.
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  Michelle Gauthier: So here's what happened to me this morning.
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  Michelle Gauthier: I woke up, I had my workout gear all laid out and it actually was pretty warm air quotes warm outside.
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  Michelle Gauthier: It was like 32 degrees this morning.
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  Michelle Gauthier: A couple of these mornings in the past week or two it's been like two degrees.
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  Michelle Gauthier: So 32 felt pretty nice.
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  Michelle Gauthier: Yes, it's dark, but it's always dark when I go work out had a cup of coffee, was feeling pretty good.
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  Michelle Gauthier: It was leg day.
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  Michelle Gauthier: I love leg day and as I started my workout it was clear that it just wasn't going to be my best day.
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  Michelle Gauthier: I lifted a weight that I thought would be just like a normal not easy, but totally doable for me and it was way too heavy and I just couldn't do it today.
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  Michelle Gauthier: And I went to the next station and the same thing happened and I just thought oh, I'm just not feeling it today.
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  Michelle Gauthier: This just isn't working for me today.
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  Michelle Gauthier: And I was thinking this is going to be a long hour if this is how I'm feeling and thinking in my mind.
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  Michelle Gauthier: And I remembered oh, that's right, I already made the decision to come and work out.
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  Michelle Gauthier: That decision came from a place of me being in a clear mind when I made that plan and now that I'm here, I'm not feeling in the mood for it.
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  Michelle Gauthier: It doesn't feel like it's the best for me today.
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  Michelle Gauthier: And this is what I want to teach you today is, I don't have to feel like it in order to do it.
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  Michelle Gauthier: I don't have to feel motivated.
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  Michelle Gauthier: I don't have to feel joyful, I don't have to feel excited.
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  Michelle Gauthier: I can just be there and move my body and do the actions.
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  Michelle Gauthier: None of those.
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  Michelle Gauthier: I felt unmotivated.
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  Michelle Gauthier: I kind of wasn't in the mood.
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  Michelle Gauthier: So I could easily say to myself, it really doesn't matter how you feel, just go through the motions, try to get motivated by other people and in the end, even if you're still feeling a little blah, the workout will be done.
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  Michelle Gauthier: So I finished it.
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  Michelle Gauthier: The whole thing was kind of tough for me, but I got through it.
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  Michelle Gauthier: I got inspired by some other people throughout and I'm really glad that I didn't give into how I felt and instead I stuck with a decision that I had already made.
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  Michelle Gauthier: There's lots of examples in your life where this can happen.
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  Michelle Gauthier: For example, if you are really frustrated - let's just say you have a frustrating day at work and you come home and you're feeling mad about it and you walk in the door and your whole family's there and it's going to require you to be, you know, patient and present and communicate with them.
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  Michelle Gauthier: Even though you're angry, you can say to yourself it doesn't matter if I'm angry about my job, I can still sit here and have dinner with my family.
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  Michelle Gauthier: If you're so mad that you can't have a conversation with your family, I would still communicate with as much calm as you can.
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  Michelle Gauthier: I had a really hard day and I'm just going to need a few minutes to myself.
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  Michelle Gauthier: I'll come back when I'm in the mood to have a full conversation.
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  Michelle Gauthier: So, just choosing calm, I can still be with my family, even though I had a frustrating day at work and I'm feeling frustrated, I'm going to choose, like I made a decision that I want to be present with my family this year and I'm going to choose to do that, even if the feeling that I have isn't making me want to do that.
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  Michelle Gauthier: Versus, if you come home from work and you're in a great mood and you're super excited to see your family, that makes it so much easier.
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  Michelle Gauthier: Another one is if you have to have a difficult conversation and you might feel nervous or uncomfortable, but that's okay.
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  Michelle Gauthier: You don't need to feel any other way to actually start the conversation.
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  Michelle Gauthier: If you've decided you need to have this conversation and you feel nervous and uncomfortable, then you can just have the conversation while feeling nervous or uncomfortable.
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  Michelle Gauthier: So the way that I'm thinking about it is, in some cases, when you've made a decision already.
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  Michelle Gauthier: The feeling is below the action meaning.
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  Michelle Gauthier: So the big takeaway for today is you can feel one way and act another, and a good time to do that is and remember that you don't need perfect emotions or high energy to follow through on your commitments.
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  Michelle Gauthier: Just get moving and often you will honestly start to feel better.
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  Michelle Gauthier: So just remind yourself next time you're feeling uninspired to do a workout, a work task, a difficult conversation.
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  Michelle Gauthier: Just tell yourself this: I don't have to love it, I just have to do it.
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  Michelle Gauthier: And the more you show up like this and the more you make the decisions that you made non-negotiable for yourself, the better and better you will start to feel.
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  Michelle Gauthier: Our feelings don't always need to dictate our action, and if you could leave a rating and review, I would be oh so grateful.
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  Michelle Gauthier: It's my goal in life is to help as many women as possible to stop feeling overwhelmed, to be able to truly enjoy their lives, and every time you leave a rating, share the podcast, share it on your Instagram stories, you help us get towards that goal.
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  Michelle Gauthier: Thanks for listening and I'll see you next week.
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  Michelle Gauthier: Thank you for listening to the Overwhelmed Working Woman podcast.
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  Michelle Gauthier: If you want to learn more about my work, head over to my website at michellegauthier.
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  Michelle Gauthier: com.
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  Michelle Gauthier: See you next week.