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S1E3 - 'Portrait of My Father' · Dished at Birth

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Did you watch the episode today? I watched it
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bright and early this morning. When did you watch
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it? Like a week or two ago. It has to be so recent
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in my brain. I like pretty comprehensive notes.
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I've also seen season one several times. I guess
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I have a good memory also. It's fresh in my brain
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now. Portrait of my father. Which is a painting
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by Salvador Dali. Wait, wait. What's that? So
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when I googled this, because it wasn't one I
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recognized off the top of my head, you know what
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else came up is a painting by Frida Kahlo. Oh.
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She also has a portrait of my father. And those
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are the two really big famous ones. Yeah. There
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are a bunch of other ones because it's like,
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that's a pretty basic name. But I thought that
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was really interesting. And I wonder if that's
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supposed to sort of be a nod to the fact that
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Bay has these two. These two male forces in her
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life, like two dad figures. This episode is mainly
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about John. It is a lot about John, but Bay's
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whole journey is just asking different people
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about her dad. And getting nothing. Yeah, doors
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literally slammed in her face. It makes sense.
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It's definitely about fathers and their goals
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in this episode. And also mothers and their bangs.
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Mothers and their bangs. There's a lot of bang
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chat. Oh, is this about Regina talking to Kathleen
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Bergen, her bangs were fine? They looked better
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before she fixed them. I know it's like, it's
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2011, so. Were bangs different in 2011? Yeah,
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are you kidding? I was rocking like the most
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intense side bangs. Like a part all the way on
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the side of your head. With bangs that aren't
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even bangs, it's just like all of your hair and
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it swoops down into the side. Were you one of
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those? I know you're saying one of those implying
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that I was, like, a scene kid or an emo kid.
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I was not. It's just there was, like, this brief
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moment in 2011 where normies were getting...
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That's true. They weren't that bad. Like, they
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weren't that intense. Because those ones were
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more, like, razor cut. And mine was more, like,
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literally taking the hair and swooping it. Or
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in your hair and swooping it all over. Yeah.
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I never did that. Yeah. It was a mistake. It
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was crazy. You had your own hair stuff going
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on. I just straightened it all the time. All
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the time. I know how to handle curls. And I don't
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think my family did either. So I had pin straight
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Japanese hair straightening keratin. Cool. Yeah.
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Like a reverse perm. Yeah. It was permanent.
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And then I didn't grow it all out until I was
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like 20. All right. Showtime. Season one, episode
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three. Portrait of my father, June 20th, 2011.
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Yeah. So it starts off. Exterior driveway slash
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basketball court. Exterior driveway. Yeah, Daphne,
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Toby, and John are playing basketball in the
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driveway, and the ball keeps hitting the garage
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door while Bae is doing her art, and she's getting
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very annoyed. And to that I say, Bay, maybe get
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some noise -canceling headphones. Sure. Yeah,
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that's a fair assumption. It is the middle of
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the day. It's the middle of the day and she wants
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to do her art. Maybe just catch the ball and
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don't let it hit the wall. Well, I think that's
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kind of the whole point of the playing, right?
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Is to get better. I don't know. You know, I've
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never touched a basketball. Yeah, because John
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decides to turn this little daughter time into
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a coaching lesson. Yeah, he loves to do that.
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That's sort of his way of connecting. I do think
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it's funny that Bae comes out and is like, hey,
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I'm the one that can hear and it's really loud.
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And then Daphne apologizes immediately. The men
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don't give a fuck. Oh, no, Toby and John do not
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care. No, they are not saying sorry again. Just,
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like, buy her some noise -canceling headphones.
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I bet Toby has some next door in his studio.
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Oh, yeah, that's so true. Yeah, and then Katherine's
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nameless friend shows up. I wrote, local rich
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lady. Yeah. That's my note, local rich lady.
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That's probably what the script would call her
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to. And Katherine decides that... They need to
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come up with a lie to tell people. Yeah, because
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they asked Regina if she's the living maid. True.
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Ouch. I guess. But that's not a fair assumption.
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They clearly have a maid. That feels like not
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that far of a leap to be like, okay. Yeah, and
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then the Kennishes are like, okay, well, we
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need to figure out a lie. They're like, well,
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we should say that maybe Daphne and Regina are
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old friends. Yeah, Daphne does not love that.
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I also think it's stupid. Also, if you wanted
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to make people think that your husband had had
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a secret love child that you were now, like,
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harboring in your home, that is the exact story
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you would make up. Like, they're just old friends
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from the past reconnecting. I mean, Daphne looks
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exactly like Catherine. Yeah, they're gonna be
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like, that is clearly their child. Yeah, Regina's
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like, we should tell the truth. And Bay later
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is like, well, speaking of the truth, who's my
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dad? And Regina goes, no, no, no, that's too
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much truth. Not that truth. I kind of love the
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way Bae does it. She really just goes for it
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in this episode. And Regina said, no, not now
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and not ever. And not ever, which is fucked up.
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Someone tell Bay about her dad. Someone. Give
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her something. She just says it's a guy that
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took off when Daphne was little and hasn't been
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in touch. So no name, no details, no history
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about how he and Regina met. Nothing. It's really
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fucked up. And then we're at Carlton, and Daphne
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and Emmett are doing a photo shoot? Yeah, so
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he's taking pictures of Daphne on his camera,
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but then when the show shows the snapshots, it's
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not the actual picture that's being taken. Thank
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you. Because the back of his head is being shown.
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Yeah, it's like... It's like the camera that's
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filming them is also taking a picture and we
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get that picture. Right. It's so, I guess they
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didn't have a budget for like a second POV camera
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on set that day. It's so bizarre. Really awkward.
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It's also like, I got it. It's 2011. This is
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totally something my friends probably also did,
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but watching them do an awkward photo shoot where
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she's just sitting there like doing faces and
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he's like, perfect. That's great. And she's like
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sticking out her tongue. Yeah. That's beautiful.
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He's obsessed with her. He's obsessed with her.
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And you know who else is obsessed with her? Liam.
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Who's back at school again. And he can not take
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a hint. I don't know. I think if someone ditched
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my date, I'd be like, okay, maybe they don't
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want to see me. I do really like that he says,
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I wasn't sure if you were mad. You just left.
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And she goes, yeah, because I was mad. I can't
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tell when you're mad when you made that angry
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face. When my friends were assholes and then
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you immediately got upset and left. I was a little
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confused. He's never upset a girl in his life.
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He's not used to this. No. And he's kind of into
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it. I think he likes the challenge. Yeah, he
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likes the chase. Yeah, he really likes the chase.
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Yeah. I also want to note that Daphne is wearing
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either a button-down henley or like a tight
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buttoned cardigan. With a hoodie over it. Thank
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you for catching this. Yeah. I really hated it.
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You are a style expert. The clothes in this episode
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on both girls were particularly bad. It's now.
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Of the denial. Back at that Kennish house, Regina
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is like, hey, my client is coming. And she maybe
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is lost. Oh, that's right. And Katherine obviously
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has a reaction to that. I'm not defending Katherine.
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This is clearly the first Katherine has heard
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that Regina was running her salon out of her
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old place. Because Regina has to explain that
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to Katherine. Yeah. Do we think, like, I feel,
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like, again, maybe just Regina saying, are you
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sure you want me to move in? Me and my business?
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Yeah, I don't think Katherine knew that she ran
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her business out of the house. Yeah. She didn't
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because she, like, was confused by it. But I
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think the way it's being presented is that she
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really cares about appearances. Oh, for sure.
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That's what it is. But for me, I was like, maybe
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run that by her in advance. Not in an asking
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for permission way, just in a, like, heads up.
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I guess that was her giving a heads up. Yeah.
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She was like, heads up, my client's coming. And
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then Katherine said, well, I'm going to help
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you get a job after all those. But the bangs
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insult, Regina being like. I have a client coming,
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and let me know if you want to do something about
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those bangs. Get her ass. I would die if someone
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said that to me. Are we at the authentic Mexican
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restaurant now? We are indeed. Bay and Ty,
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they're on a date, kind of. They're hanging out,
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but it's also in East Riverside. She's kind of,
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I guess, exploring what her life could have potentially
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been. Yes, and they're at a, quote, authentic
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restaurant in East Riverside. With photos of
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everyone from the community on the wall, which
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is really sweet. And the entire library says,
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authentic is what white people call poor. And
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that is how she met it. That is. She says this
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while wearing a jacket cut like a classic moto
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leather jacket. Okay. But it's all white lace.
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It's really tough to look at. And then John's
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at Daphne's school again. Yeah. And guess who
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we meet? Melody. Played by the icon Marlee Matlin.
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We are not worthy. I feel like we need like royal
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music. I can make something happen. Icon Marlee
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Matlin. If you don't know who Marlee Matlin is,
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I'm really sorry for you. She's the first Deaf
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performer to win an Academy Award. And she was
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also the youngest Best Actress winner for Children
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of a Lesser God. She was also in the police drama
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Reasonable Doubts. And did you ever watch The
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L Word? Yes, I did. Yeah, she's Jodi in The L Word,
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who dates Bette for a bit. She was also in CODA
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and the 2015 revival of Spring Awakening by Deaf
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West. And she's been on every TV show. She's
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been on Seinfeld and SVU and Desperate Housewives.
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And there's a documentary about her that is out
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now called Marlee Matlin, Not Alone Anymore, which
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I highly recommend. I think it's on Apple TV.
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Anyways, she's a huge advocate for the rights
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of deaf people, and she only accepted roles in
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producers' agreed -to -caption movies. So she
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is a big reason as to why we have TV shows and
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movies captioned now. That's so awesome. Yeah.
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Thank you, Marlee Matlin. Thank you, Marlee Matlin.
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Thank you from everyone. I personally cannot
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watch anything without captions anymore either.
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They're so helpful. Yeah. She changed the world.
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Yeah, so we meet her. She's Melody. She's the
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basketball coach. John, again, infiltrates the
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basketball practice. He's got nothing else to
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do on, like, a Tuesday afternoon, I guess. Well,
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you know, the car wash company only keeps him
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so busy. And then he offers some unsolicited
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coaching advice. And Mary rightfully goes, who
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the fuck are you? Love how mean she is to him.
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As does he. I feel like John has such a crush
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on her. Oh, he does. He totally does. And rightfully
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so. She's a milf. She's a smoke show. She's so
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hot. And she's so mean. Yeah. I just like how
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mean she is to him. Yeah. She's the only one.
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Everyone else kind of capitulates to him. She's
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like, I like your baseball career. Get the fuck
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off the court. And then he blabs like, oh, I'm
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Regina's friend. And he goes on and on. And she's
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like, girl, I know you're Daphne's dad. Yeah.
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Like, Regina tells me everything. Yeah. And that's
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when Katherine shows up at the guest house. And
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she's got. Brand new side swept bangs that look
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like shit. That Regina did not do. That Regina
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did not do. That look like shit to me. I think
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Regina would have done a better job. I thought
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Catherine's bangs were cute personally. The wispy
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little front bangs. I think they were way cuter
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than this side swept moment that she has. Again,
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very 2011. And she says, I went shopping for
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the girls. Then she also says, and I went by
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my salon and I talked to my guy that owns the
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salon. Geraldo. And he has an open chair if you
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want it. Which is one, Katherine trying to get
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Regina to not run her hair salon out of the guest
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house because she cares about appearances. Two,
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sweet in a way because she thinks that's like
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an opportunity for her. And she says that she's
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like, you could cultivate a clientele. People
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in Mission Hills are really big tippers. I totally
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get all of that. It is so expensive to work in
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a chair at a salon. Yes, my friend Haley works
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at a salon in Soho. It's very expensive because
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you have to pay for your own seat. You have to
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pay for your own seat. And you have to pay out
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a percentage of all of your haircuts, typically.
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Which they do not mention in the show. Geraldo
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just, like, says, here you go. Yeah. Yeah, so.
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I can see where Katherine's coming from. I think
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ultimately, like, it's evident just how much
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she has, like, no idea what she's talking about.
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And I'm kind of surprised Regina goes for it.
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I think just because she said, my clients are
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going to have to take three buses to get here.
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Yeah, and I think she was like, I don't care
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about my clients. Let's get new ones. Which I
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got. I'd want those big Mission Hills tippers
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too. Yeah. I think once the money went in her
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face, she said, oh. Okay. This was. Yeah. Because
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she does not want to be under the Kennishes' thumb
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forever. Exactly. And then, yeah, John is driving
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Daphne home from practice. Notice he is finally
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facing her when he speaks. Yes, he does. And
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they're, like, having a good. I feel like that's
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actually a really good. They sort of use that
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as a way to indicate where their relationship
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is at in this episode. Yeah. You really see,
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like, as the family, like, picks up signs or
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starts to interact with Daphne in different ways,
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like, how far along in their relationship they
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are. Yeah. So, yeah, he's finally understanding
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that. They're getting to talk sports and basketball
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and all that stuff that they care about. It is
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sweet. They are bonding. Yeah. And they get home,
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and Bae is home late because Ty's car broke down
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after their date. Their authentic date. Authentic
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Mexican food date. Yeah, so she's really panicked
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that she's going to be in trouble, but John is
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so happy. John does not care. John doesn't give
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a fuck. He's so happy that one of his kids wants
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to, like, talk sports with him. That's true.
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Yeah, because Toby won't either. No. So he's
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just, like, he's literally walking on a cloud.
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He's like, hey, guys. Hey, guys, everything's
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fine. Love you. Like, doesn't even remember.
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He's bae. Don't know it. But then he does accidentally
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reveal to Bay later that evening about the lawsuit.
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He brings up the lawsuit. Oh, yeah, that's right.
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Yeah. And she's very upset. Why is she upset?
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That's sort of how I felt. I mean, she very plainly
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tells him, like, you're suing because you got
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stuck with me as your kid instead of Daphne,
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who's perfect. And I think... John rightfully
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is like, no, the hospital made a mistake. Yeah,
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get your bag. Get your bag. Get your bag. I think
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it's fine. I don't know why - Sue the corporation's
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bag. Yeah, sue the fucking corporation. That
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money could do - I know she already, like, has
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enough money. But, like, still, you could do
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some good with it. Or you could put it towards
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an art project. A massive one. Whatever you want.
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Like, I think that she's just making it about
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her. Yeah, well - Which tracks? No one's giving
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her any love and attention. Yeah, what's new?
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And then we get Daphne hanging out in her room
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and we get a call. I forget the name of these
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devices. It's a VRI. V -O -I? V -R. V -R -I.
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Video Relay Interface? Video Relay Interface.
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Okay. Yeah, wait. I just wrote video phone. Okay.
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V -R -I. Oh, yeah, but before that, she's rifling
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through the clothes that Katherine got her. Oh,
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yes, she is. Yeah, she sees a floor top and little
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actor Katie LeClerc does a little grin. Yeah,
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that's a match. But then she pulls out a skull.
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Bad, sad. It's literally like a skull and crossbones.
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And I'm pretty sure I had that exact shirt. That's
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so funny. And little Katie LeClerc does a little
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frown. Little frown. She said skull and crossbones.
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That's not me. I'm not a pirate. That's Bay.
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I was like, oh, she's acting. And yeah. Also,
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I noticed in the bedroom there's a poster for
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a documentary called See What I'm Saying, which
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is a documentary about deaf entertainers. You
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know what I'm saying? That's a fun little nod.
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That is fun. Threw that poster up in the bedroom.
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I've never seen the documentary, but you guys
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should go watch it. Yeah. Maybe we should check
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it out. Yeah. And I think. And then she gets
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a call on the. Yeah, she gets a call on, well,
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he calls her, and then she answers through the
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VRI headset. Also, yeah, VRI is the video relay
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interface. Basically, when someone calls you
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on, like, their cell phone, there's an interpreter
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on my FaceTime, basically, interpreting for Daphne.
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Very cool to see on TV. Yeah, very cool. I remember
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at the time we, after watching that episode,
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asked our sign language teacher about it. And,
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like, wanted to learn more about it. Yeah. And
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then I think at one point, because in 2011, FaceTime,
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like, wasn't really a thing yet, I feel like.
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No, it wasn't. So they had to use VOIs. But now
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deaf people mainly just use FaceTime. Yeah. Or,
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I guess, text more. But VRIs are still helpful.
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Like, for example, Liam doesn't have signs. Yeah.
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A VRI would still be very helpful in this situation.
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Yeah. Yeah. And Liam calls and, I guess, is like,
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let's hang out. And Daphne does the same thing
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she said last episode. Like, you're not getting
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this deaf thing, are you? And Liam is not understanding
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how interpreters work. It's not comprehensive.
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I thought this was cute and funny, personally.
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This annoyed me. Okay. See, there's the difference.
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I thought it was kind of sweet how, like, I don't
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know, like, ruffled he was getting over it. Like,
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he was really flustered. I had no patience for
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him. I mean, that's true of me either. I think
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this was the funniest thing that he's done. Because
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he was like, wait, tell her. He starts talking
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to the interpreter. That's not how the interpreter
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works. I know. Just talk to Daphne and your interpreter.
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But again, he's not getting it. But at the same
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time. Why would he get it? Daphne likes this
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super rich sheltered kid from Mission Hills.
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I mean, yeah, he. Why would he understand how
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the VRI works? Yeah. I am also curious,
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like. How he, did he have to set up that? No.
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When Daphne answers it on her side. It will just
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automatically go through to, I should know this
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because my sign language teacher's friend was
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an interpreter for one. So. And like came and
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talked to us about it. I don't have one on my
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app because I'm mainly FaceTime. But if you called
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me and I had the VRI app on my phone, when I
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answer the phone, it will like automatically
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connect to the VRI. And an interpreter will come
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up and I'll look at the interpreter while you
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talk. Yeah, but would I get any kind of warning
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that that was happening? I don't think so. Then
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how does he even know that's what's happening?
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That's what I'm so curious about. She said, do
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you know there's an interpreter? And he said,
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someone's interpreting this? Tell her this. Wait,
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no, don't tell her that. Okay, thank you. I kind
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of thought that he knew that he'd gotten a...
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crash course somehow before no there was a disclaimer
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yeah they only did like the lip reading game
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and that was about it i'm kind of obsessed with
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that then because why did he call her like if
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he thought that she was going to answer and there
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wasn't going to be a middleman how did he think
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that was going to work maybe he just thought
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oh maybe she has hearing issues she can probably
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hear that's this is the equivalent of like when
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the hearing person sends me an audio message
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guys i can't hear that But it auto -transcripts
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it now. It does auto -transcribe, which is nice.
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Yeah, that's true. But I remember way back when
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I was dating me, I would get audio messages and
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I said, you can't. You can't send it to a deaf
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person. I'm also very anti -audio message unless
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you have explicitly stated in the relationship
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that you want that. I'll only do it if you tell
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me beforehand that you need to do an audio message
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for like a saga you have to tell me. Yeah. But
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otherwise, text or FaceTime me. Yeah, I have
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friends that used to send me like 20 minute long
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audio messages unprompted. And I was like, that's
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like putting someone in jail. Because also I
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have to like, the phone doesn't auto stay on.
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Like I have to sit there for 20 minutes and like
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lock into this. My issue with the audio messages
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when it comes, that's taught me, oh, I have to
21:18
put on my cochlear implant. It's just work. Yeah.
21:21
Thankfully, no, I can just read the transcription.
21:23
But then I think it takes away from the audio
21:25
message experience. I'm not hearing the cadence.
21:29
I'm not. Totally. Just tell them to use voice
21:32
to text if they don't want to, if their thumbs
21:34
are tired. That also exists. Because they can
21:36
still voice to text, and then it comes through
21:38
to you. Yeah. Anyways, yeah, Liam is not getting
21:41
this. And then he introvert does the same, which
21:44
introverts do not do in real life. But he, like,
21:47
scolds Liam. Yeah, that was... Mid -interpretation,
21:51
he's like, don't tell a girl, don't be mad, or
21:53
something like that. Yeah, he said, and then
21:56
Liam says, trust me, I've got this. And the guy
21:59
says, your funeral. Yeah, for context, interpreters
22:02
do not do this. And if they do, that's not allowed.
22:04
That is not a good interpreter, yeah, if they're
22:07
breaking that barrier. They cannot insert themselves
22:09
in the conversation. Their job is just to provide
22:12
access and interpret. That was silly. Yeah. What
22:16
are we up to now? Katherine's friend shows up
22:18
at the salon and is a total cunt. That's Denise
22:21
now. That's Denise now. This is how we meet Denise.
22:24
Yes. Oh, yeah. She shows up and Regina does her
22:26
hair. And she is fishing for gossip. Yeah. She
22:29
is talking shit. She's, like, throwing it out
22:32
there. Yeah. And Regina's being very diplomatic.
22:35
She is. And then she'll warn Katherine. And then
22:38
she'll, yeah, she's going to warn Katherine.
22:40
Which is good. Regina's ultimately, like, for
22:43
everything about, like, About Katherine that
22:46
she has an issue with. She stands by her. Like
22:49
she's not interested in. Engaging with Denise.
22:53
Regina does not want drama. No. And then Daphne
22:58
brings Bay her skull and crossbones shirt.
23:02
And says I think this is for you. Yeah I think
23:05
this is for you. And then Bay's like oh yeah
23:07
I got some of your stuff too. And it's beautiful
23:09
floral pastel. Yeah it's all floral. It honestly
23:13
looks like. a nursing room like wallpaper print
23:18
to me. I hated it but it is funny to show the
23:22
difference between the girls and Bay is like
23:27
this is a good time to ask you about my father
23:29
and Daphne's like no it's not yeah she said actually
23:33
fuck you he left when I was young and Bay's like
23:37
well he left you not me I think is kind of a
23:41
fair point like Yeah, he left you. Also, he didn't
23:45
know that you weren't the bio daughter. Or, I
23:48
guess... He had a lot of stuff going on. Yeah,
23:51
he maybe had an inkling. Yeah. And I think Daphne's
23:56
take on this is he left because I was deaf. Yes,
23:59
that is clearly how she feels. Bae immediately
24:02
is like, well, that's not how I feel because
24:03
I don't know yet. I think she has the right to
24:07
know. Yeah. Daphne is getting spoiled like crazy.
24:11
She's got, you know, some wallpaper clothes.
24:14
And she's getting all the time in the world with
24:16
John. Yeah. And Bay is getting nothing. Yeah.
24:21
Daphne's not giving her anything. And then Bae
24:22
later goes to Adriana while Adriana's doing yoga.
24:25
Nothing. Yeah. Like, immediately. Daphne says,
24:28
fuck you, don't ask again. Leaves. Bay immediately
24:32
goes, finds Adriana. She's like, hey, Grandma.
24:36
The way she says it is so funny. She's like,
24:38
I think she was maybe looking for Regina. Maybe.
24:41
And so she goes up, sees Grandma, sounds so disappointed.
24:44
Hey, Grandma. Sad. And Adriana says, nope, don't
24:49
ask me either. Yeah. I hate that man. Strike
24:51
three, you're out. Yeah. Then Melody comes over
24:55
for a bang trim. Lots of bang stuff. Lots of
24:58
bang action. Yeah. Melody have bangs. Not really.
25:02
She has sideswept bangs. Like curtain bangs.
25:05
The little, but only on one side. She has one
25:09
curtain bang. Okay. That's the 2011. That's what
25:13
I'm talking about. She has a less extreme version
25:15
of what I had. Okay. That's kind of what Regina
25:17
has, too. A side part with one curtain bang.
25:20
Very big back then. You're right. It was the
25:22
2011 fashion. Yeah. And John is like, y 'all
25:26
want to play horse? And Melody says, no, I do
25:30
not. Nope. And he gets, he plays with Daphne
25:34
and gets way too competitive about it. Two, he's
25:37
got, like, he's gone, like, coach mode. He's
25:40
no longer in dad mode. And she is. It's not fun.
25:43
Yeah. She has to do homework. Yeah, right. She
25:45
has homework to do. He's like, you're not going
25:47
to quit, are you? Whatever. She's like, what?
25:51
Regina's upstairs and she's doing, she finishes
25:54
doing Melody's hair and then Melody really forces
25:56
her to. Hang out with your daughter. To hang
25:59
out with her daughter and just, like, open up
26:01
a little. Like, I think we get a little bit of
26:03
insight into the fact that Regina's maybe scared.
26:06
Yeah, she's afraid of disappointing her. And
26:08
she says out loud, like, right now, I'm the cool
26:11
mom. It's really sweet. That's true. I just think
26:15
I need a little more from her. Like, what is
26:18
she so scared about? What's the disappointment?
26:21
And then I guess this is when Bay is on a little
26:25
search for the funds to help Ty with his broken
26:27
down car. Well, first John comes inside from
26:31
playing horse and him and Katherine have this
26:34
exchange of like, he's like, she's so great.
26:37
Like talking about Daphne, like she's perfect
26:39
basically. And Katherine nicely is like, don't
26:44
put that on her. Yeah. Like she's not going to
26:46
be perfect. She's just as flawed as Bay. She
26:50
is. And Katherine is, and I see this later on
26:54
in the season, she's the much more empathetic
26:56
parent. Yeah. Surprise, surprise, right? Yeah,
27:00
John is really idealizing his brand new daughter.
27:03
Yeah, and then Bay, meanwhile, is waiting for
27:07
Ty to pick her up. Yes. And he calls and says,
27:10
my car has broken down. And he decides to go
27:14
searching for the funds to help with his broken
27:16
car without asking him. And she doesn't have
27:18
to search hard. No, because she goes right to
27:21
Toby. Yeah, that was really surprising to me
27:23
that he just like handed her a lot of cash. Where'd
27:26
he get that money? Where did he get that money?
27:28
She says, like, they're for paintbrushes. Why
27:30
would she not just ask her parents then? Like,
27:32
wouldn't Toby be like... Because I don't think
27:33
they'd believe her. No, I know why. I'm saying,
27:36
why would Toby believe that she would ask him
27:38
for, like, secret illicit cash? Because he won't
27:41
rat on her. Because he knows it's not for ostrich
27:44
eyelash paintbrushes or whatever they were for.
27:47
I guess maybe he deep down does know. Yeah. And
27:50
then Daphne is up late. She's... Because she's
27:54
working on her paper. Because she was playing
27:56
basketball. Dad kept making her play horse. And
27:59
Regina said, you can't. You've got to learn to
28:01
say no. She said, don't let him push you like
28:03
that. Don't be a people pleaser. And I think
28:05
she said, like, I think that's just what dads
28:07
do. Yeah, well, Daphne doesn't know. She doesn't.
28:10
She doesn't understand, like, how dads work.
28:13
And then Daphne and Emmett, the next day, they're
28:17
at Carlton. Yes. Emmett has printed out full
28:21
-size, glossy. versions of all of those photos
28:25
from their silly little photo shoot and he's
28:27
back is not in it. So I guess, yeah, they turned
28:30
out fine but Daphne is pulling the most insane
28:34
Willem Dafoe level pose in front of Carlton in
28:39
one of the in the photo like the giant one that
28:41
he's got and she's like oh that one came out
28:44
great what is this for is this for a project
28:48
I think he's just goofing around. He likes photography.
28:51
It costs a lot of money to get photos developed.
28:54
Well, you see Emmett's house later. I think he's
28:56
well off. I don't think that's true. They have
28:59
a river view. Do they? Yeah, you'll see later.
29:03
Okay, I'll see. But Liam keeps calling. Liam
29:05
keeps calling and Emmett takes this moment to
29:09
be like, deaf -hearing relationships do not work.
29:13
Yeah, there's some statistic, which I think is
29:15
a little antiquated. It's something like 80 or
29:17
85 % of deaf -hearing relationships won't work
29:20
or, like, end up not working out. I think he's
29:24
totally right. Like, a hearing person would not
29:27
understand my culture or my family or my friends.
29:29
Yeah, my perspective. And I think it's just,
29:32
like, an extra barrier. For sure. Oh, for sure.
29:36
Well, also, he's just jealous because he likes
29:38
deafness. Yeah. Because then he describes his
29:40
type, which is... A smart, hot, funny girl that's
29:44
into motorcycles and Deaf. Which is Daphne.
29:48
Yeah. That's Daphne on paper. I know. Yeah, he
29:51
loves her. But I do think he's right that Liam
29:54
is not that guy. Like, Emmett's being like, Liam
29:56
is not the guy that's going to make the effort.
30:00
No, I think basically my wife is here. But, like,
30:04
I think she gets my perspective on things. Maybe
30:08
not 100 % because she... That's not how being
30:12
a human works. But, like, she's able to empathize
30:16
with, like, how me being deaf affects my daily
30:19
life. Yeah. And she understands my language and
30:22
my culture. And, yeah. And she communicates with
30:26
me and my friends perfectly. But that took work.
30:28
Yeah. That takes work and commitment. So I understand
30:32
that maybe Emma is, like, that's... He hasn't
30:35
really seen that. Yeah, he's, like, Liam the
30:37
loser. Liam the loser. Correct. And I agree.
30:41
I don't think Liam would ever understand, like,
30:44
what Daphne is going through. No, he's already
30:47
fumbled it so many times. Yeah. Bae's back in
30:50
her studio then, and she's working on a new piece
30:54
that's quite interesting, and she is now rocking
30:58
a black lace jacket. Oh, instead of a white.
31:01
Yeah. We went to black. Okay. Yeah. And Ty calls
31:05
her and is like, I was coming over to apologize.
31:10
For yelling at you. Oh, yeah. Well, Bay brought
31:12
the money to Ty. Yeah. It was just so insignificant.
31:15
I didn't even write it down. It was so quick.
31:17
It was like, of course he's mad. He goes, I'm
31:19
not going to take your money. And then she leaves.
31:22
He wasn't being nice about it, though. He wasn't.
31:25
I think he was being nicer. She is 15. And, like,
31:28
that's such a 15 -year -old thing to do. And
31:30
Toby later says, that was so your mom.
31:33
That was so Katherine. Yeah. Bay liked that.
31:35
I think it made her happy. I know. I think it
31:37
did. But Ty's like, I was going to come apologize,
31:40
but my truck's still broken. Can you come to
31:42
me? So she does. And this is, I think, the first,
31:45
like, full shot of the truck. And I just wanted
31:48
to say that it looks exactly like Bella's truck
31:51
in Twilight. I wonder if that was on purpose
31:53
because this was 2011. That truck was everywhere.
31:56
I love that. For the tweens. You have such beautiful
31:59
attention to detail. They make up. They make
32:02
out a little bit, whatever. Make up and make
32:04
out. John becomes the basketball coach, kind
32:06
of, because Melody's like, I'm tired. I don't
32:09
want to do it. She said, here's the clipboard.
32:11
I'm sick of you. Yeah, he was being a lot. He's
32:13
getting very perfectionist about this high school
32:16
basketball team that I'm sure is not that good.
32:20
Something that I took comfort in in that scene
32:24
where he starts coaching and yelling at them
32:27
so much is that most of those girls probably
32:29
can't hear him. Yeah. And thank God. He's doing
32:33
a huddle with them. He's speaking. No interpreter.
32:35
Yeah, no interpreter, no signing. He's, like,
32:38
getting too coachy. He's, like, yelling at them.
32:41
He's yelling at Daphne. He's like, come on, guys.
32:43
Like, you're messing this up. Thank God. I hope
32:45
none of those girls could fucking hear him. I
32:46
hope none of them hear him. Yeah. But Daphne
32:49
can tell. Daphne can tell he's being an asshole.
32:51
Those girls do not understand what he's saying.
32:53
Also, he yells at them from the sidelines. When
32:55
I played basketball, I could not hear a thing
32:57
my coach said from the sidelines. It's just not.
33:00
It's not helpful for anyone. And then, yeah,
33:03
he drives her home later and he's facing her,
33:07
but it's a dark car. Yeah. And we're supposed
33:09
to think that Daphne understands him perfectly.
33:12
Well, she doesn't at first because he apologizes.
33:14
He's like, I realized like I took it too far.
33:17
I'm so sorry. This is just how I get. And she
33:20
goes, did you say something? I think she's lying.
33:22
You think she's lying? I think she just doesn't
33:26
want to talk. But then they continue to work
33:29
it out. That's true. But he doesn't repeat it
33:32
is what makes me mad. Oh, did the never mind?
33:36
He doesn't say never mind. He says a true apology
33:38
the first time and then she goes, what was that?
33:41
Did you say something? And he is like, I just
33:45
realized that I was like being too hard. But
33:49
he doesn't say the words I'm sorry again. Yeah.
33:52
Which he really should if she didn't fucking
33:55
catch anything he said. But then he says. that
33:59
he thinks Daphne plays scared sometimes. And
34:03
that really piques her interest and inspires
34:06
her to go visit Liam at his food truck for a
34:09
free trip. I guess. You said scared? Yeah. I'll
34:12
show you scared. I'm going to go to the food
34:15
truck. Yeah. A lot of food trucks in the show.
34:17
A lot of food trucks. Food trucks were such a
34:20
new thing also. Yeah. Not new. They were trendy.
34:24
They were really trendy. They got really trendy
34:26
in the 2010s. So that tracks, I guess. They make
34:28
up. She eats a shrimp and he says they're spicy.
34:31
And she says, I like to live dangerously. Not
34:34
like other girls. Okay, whatever. Yeah, that's
34:36
kind of the end of the Daphne Liam plot here.
34:39
And then we are back at the house with Katherine,
34:42
who this whole episode, it's so irrelevant, so
34:45
we haven't brought it up, is planning a charity
34:47
event. This is the fundraiser for Buckner that's
34:50
going to be, we're going to see it in the next
34:52
episode. But her and Denise have been hanging
34:55
out so much because she's wanted to bounce ideas
34:58
for the fundraiser off of Denise. Why? They're
35:01
thinking of themes. She wanted to do a thousand
35:03
and one nights. And Denise goes, that's crazy
35:07
with everything going on in the Middle East.
35:09
Okay. Okay. I don't think the people of Kansas
35:11
City really give a fuck. She just wants to put
35:14
paper lanterns up. That's literally all Katherine
35:16
wants. Yeah, paper lanterns and some fun lights
35:18
and some blues and purples. They don't say explicitly
35:22
what the new theme that she's moved on to is,
35:24
but earlier in the episode, Regina swings by
35:26
to warn her about how Denise kind of sucks. Right.
35:30
And she sees Catherine unfolding these paper
35:32
lanterns and makes a joke like, oh, what is Friday
35:35
night? Celebrate the Orient night? Jesus. And
35:39
Katherine's like, ha ha, like you're making fun
35:42
of my fundraising efforts, whatever. I'm so curious
35:45
what the theme ends up being because all we hear
35:48
from this planning session that Denise and Katherine
35:51
are having at the house is Katherine going, and
35:54
then I think it would be cool if we projected
35:56
Chinatown, the movie, outside. So is the theme
36:01
Chinatown? Just like so wild and out of left
36:05
field. What is the theme? It doesn't even need
36:07
the, just fundraise for Buckner. As if they need
36:10
the money, but that's another problem. Whatever.
36:13
Yeah. And then she's like, okay, I'm going to
36:15
tell Denise because Denise is gossiping. So she
36:18
tells Denise the truth. The girls were switched
36:20
at birth. And Denise says, oh, we thought that
36:22
Daphne was John's love child and that Regina
36:25
was his mistress. And she said, oh, that's worse.
36:28
Yeah. Not really empathetic about it. She just
36:30
said, okay. Yeah. She's kind of like, oh, sweetie.
36:34
yeah that's kind of it and then John goes to
36:37
Bay for a much more empathetic heart to heart
36:39
i'm not gonna lie i teared up a little when they
36:41
have this little moment i was just so distracted
36:44
by her painting because she's painting the letters
36:47
man question mark and it's the shape of a man's
36:51
side profile it's so on the nose i'm gonna be
36:54
honest though it's one of her better pieces in
36:57
this first season but i like that john does not
37:00
get it No, he does. Oh, he does. That's right.
37:02
He does get it. That's what's so sweet. And then
37:05
she said, I thought no one would get it. It's
37:07
very obvious. It is very obvious. And he goes,
37:10
I know, let's just put aside the fact that it's
37:12
very obvious because it made me emotional. When
37:14
he goes, like, you know, I love you. I'm so proud
37:17
of you. Like, just because me and Daphne have
37:18
more things in common on the surface doesn't
37:21
mean that I love you any less or that I'm less
37:24
your dad. I love the stuff you do. I think it's
37:26
so cool that I can't understand it at all. I
37:29
could never have done this piece like man with
37:33
a question mark. And she goes, you saw the question
37:35
mark? I thought nobody would get that. And he
37:39
says, well, maybe not anybody would. But I would
37:42
because I'm your dad. And then they hug. It's
37:45
really sweet. It is. I teared up a little. It
37:48
was nice. And it's just so nice for Bay. And
37:51
then they, it's like a long hug. It's really
37:54
nice for Bay. It is. And then Bay is inspired
37:57
by that interaction to go talk to Daphne. I think
38:01
because she is reminded like, hey, I have a really
38:03
great dad that I've had my whole life. And Daphne
38:06
has had no dad. Yeah. A dad so bad that they
38:10
don't even speak of him. I do think a little
38:12
bit of her was also hoping that Daphne would
38:15
decide to open up more about. this missing father
38:19
but she does not which she doesn't but she gives
38:23
her this iconic photo of Regina pregnant Regina
38:26
in front of presumably her dad's truck and she
38:30
said your dad took this and it's Bay is inside
38:33
yeah she says that's you in there it's really
38:36
sweet it's really sweet and that's how the episode
38:38
ends i don't know i was thinking about this this
38:41
morning i don't know that i've ever seen a photo
38:43
of my mom pregnant with me huh i'm sure There's
38:47
plenty of pictures of my mom pregnant with me.
38:51
You're the first. You're the oldest. I was also
38:53
the first. I think because I'm the youngest.
38:55
Oh. They were like, we already did the pregnancy
38:57
thing once. We don't need to take pictures of
38:59
it. But your mom didn't go out and do anything?
39:01
Well, she was pregnant with you? I think. I'm
39:04
sure there are photos in existence of her pregnant
39:06
with me. But nothing like big tummy? No, like,
39:09
official photo shoot photo. No photo that's clearly
39:13
my dad being like, let's capture a photo of you
39:16
pregnant. There's not one of those. I don't think
39:17
there's anything like that with my mom, too.
39:19
There's, like, pictures of my mom at her baby
39:21
shower for me. But, like, I just know I'm in
39:25
there. Yeah. No, I've never seen one. I think
39:28
it'd be cool to see one. I don't think there's
39:30
anything for my brother. Sorry, my brother. Yeah.
39:32
So, see, that's how it works. Yeah. If it's the
39:35
second pregnancy, it's like, okay, we already
39:37
have pictures of you pregnant. Who cares? I also
39:39
was supposed to be a boy. Like, they misread
39:42
the sonogram. That was still a thing back then.
39:44
I love that. And they were both, everyone in
39:47
my family was not low -key, very high -key disappointed
39:50
about the fact that I was a boy. They said we
39:52
wanted a different kind of Dani. I think they
39:54
wanted two kids and they wanted a girl and a
39:58
boy so that, like, they wanted one of each. You
40:00
know how, the classic. Yeah. That's sort of the
40:03
classic thing. So. Like my family. Yeah. And
40:06
so. When they realized that, I think my mom,
40:09
who really wanted a daughter, was like, fuck,
40:11
I think I have to have a third kid now just to
40:13
try again. And then my brother was like, I don't
40:16
want a brother. I want a sister. So, yeah. So
40:19
when I came out a girl, everyone was thrilled.
40:22
But I think part of them not taking a lot of
40:24
photos is maybe because they were like, whatever,
40:26
it's just another boy. Yeah. Who cares about
40:28
boys? Who cares about boys? Yeah. Anyway, guys.
40:33
Love you. Thank you for listening. Yeah. We appreciate
40:36
it. And... Tune back next week. Tune back next
40:39
week for episode four. What painting is it? Do
40:41
we know? Ooh, let me see. Let's see. Dance Amongst
40:45
Daggers. And comment down below which painting
40:48
you think they're referencing for Portrait of
40:50
My Father. Oh yeah, the Dali painting or the
40:53
Kahlo painting. All right, bye. Bye.