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You Better Pay ATTENTION! · Giving Pain Purpose with Lyndsay Soprano

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  This is Your Pain Game podcast where we talk about the game of living in
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  and with chronic pain and trauma, getting to the heart of how to heal.
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  I am your host, Lindsay Soprano. On the show, I plan
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  on discussing with doctors, chronic pain patients, holistic practitioners, loved ones,
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  and anybody that is interested in having their voice heard in the chronic pain and
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  trauma world that we live in. Well, it is twenty twenty four,
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  and what a bloody year twenty twenty three was? I mean, Jesus,
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  you know, we always see on insta at the end of every year those
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  little funny videos, you know, of us barely making it through twenty twenty
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  three, barely making it through the year. And it seems like every year
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  it gets a little sooner than the year, Like it feels like maybe July
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  this year, everybody was already ready for the year to end, and everyone's
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  just stoked to get rid of that year and start another, you know,
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  because why right, I mean, was twenty twenty three really all that bad?
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  Can we take nothing wonderful from the year and just have it all be
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  just like shitty stories about a shitty year. I just chose not to end
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  twenty twenty three that way. I just didn't want to do that, you
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  know, So I chose to embrace what twenty twenty three persented to me.
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  Not all of it was a walk in the park for anybody that's listened to
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  the show, you guys know, I mean, dear Lord. But one
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  of the things that was so amazing about last year, and this is what
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  I'm going to talk to you briefly about on this episode today, is last
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  year presented mindfulness into my life, mindfulness right to work on developing this meta
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  awareness. And I love that phrase, meta awareness of the content of my
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  mind, which is cuckoo up here, Okay, it is the It is
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  the meta awareness of the content of my mind, of my soul, of
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  my spirit, my surroundings, my relationships, but of within that mindfulness is
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  finding my true self, being mindful of this person, right, this person
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  who I only feel like I just kind of started to meet over the past
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  year of twenty twenty three, as I've peeled away so many layers of who
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  I was, and those layers that turned me into who I am, you
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  know, scary or not so, But through the meeting and melding of the
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  hearts of my guests here on this show, new friends that have entered into
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  my beautiful and dark and twisty world of mine, to taking a very thorough
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  and honest look at my health and my lifestyle choices from the very beginning of
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  time and how they have truly contributed to my health good, bad and ugly,
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  but also to the ongoing painful challenge that it is with my diagnoses.
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  Right, And I was truly introduced to this mindfulness and it's now forever role
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  in my life as I rolled into twenty twenty four because of this show.
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  And so when we talk about mindfulness and we figure out what is that to
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  you, right, you can google it. You can find out what mindfulness
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  means. You know, it's going to mean a little bit different to everybody
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  based on what you need to be mindful about. Right. Still on anybody
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  say you need to be more mindful of this, Well, there are some
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  things for shirt, like put your shoes on instead of your slippers before you
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  walk out the front door, sweetie, be mindful of those kinds of things.
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  But mindfulness is a state of action, right, It's a state of
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  open attention to the present. So if we're not paying attention to what's going
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  on in the present, then who gets a shit what's going on in the
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  past. We can't do anything about that, and we can't do anything about
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  the future really outside of make better decisions today. Right, and in this
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  mindfulness of being present with ourselves, it is an honest and very raw and
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  real place. It's non judgmental. It's a state that everybody should practice to
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  be in, in my personal opinion, and that's just something that I've been
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  trying to learn, right and in learning and practicing mindfulness. In order to
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  do so, you do have to take some guidance. You do have to
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  listen to people. You do have to read a little bit, you do
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  have to journal a little bit. Not You don't have to change your whole
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  world upside down to be more mindful. Just take some little baby steps in
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  a mind more mindful way and it changes things and pretty damn quickly. You
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  know, to listen more and observe more, and then of course dream and
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  dreaming incredibly large. So for me, I've always been a big dreamer.
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  I mean, I thought I was gonna be Gwen Stefani. That didn't really
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  end up working out. The way that I intended it too. Now I'm
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  in a wheelchair doing podcasts talking about pain and trauma, so things kind of
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  shifted. But when you get into that true and authentic place within you that
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  can come from mindfulness, it will make you dance. Might not be on
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  your feet, but it will make you dance in a wheelchair, can make
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  you dance in bed, It can make you dance right as soon as you're
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  starting a little bit more in touch with yourself. I mean, we all
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  know here on this show that I cry. I mean, I'm a complete
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  EmPATH, cry baby. I cry in places I probably I shouldn't, but
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  I'd rather get rid of it all than suppress it. And we've talked about
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  suppressing, We've talked about guilt, and we've talked about shame on this show.
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  But as we go into this new year, I encourage all of us
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  to dare right, to be true and authentic to yourself, because what's the
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  other way? Blows man, you know. And and on this mindfulness journey
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  that I have embarked on, I got to this place of finding out what
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  mindfulness was and what it meant and how it can actually change my life in
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  the lives of others, through you, through my guests and listeners. Awike,
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  you know you guys have helped me get to this place today. Do
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  I need to do a little bit more work on myself? Hell? Yes,
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  I do, we all do, you know. But I wake up
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  in the morning and I have to be mindful of how I'm going to use
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  my day, how I'm going to use my legs, what I'm going to
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  put my energy towards them. I suck at it, guys, I suck
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  at choosing wisely on where I should put my energy because I still put myself
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  at the bottom of the list most of the days. And I keep saying
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  that I'm working on it. I am am I great at it? No,
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  I am not. But I am more mindful about why I'm not doing
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  something or why something might not be working out the way that I expect it,
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  because I'm like, well, I'm doing the same thing expecting different results.
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  Right, Let's dare that dare each other to just do a little bit
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  more mindful in our day. And you know, with my CRPS my line
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  disease, which are my two biggies, obviously, I'm continuously battling a force
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  that I just might not win. And you know, that's okay. I've
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  accepted the destiny that may or may not be in front of me. But
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  god, you know what, we don't know. We don't know until we
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  know. And at that point, I mean, I guess we're dead.
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  So we can't really change much with that. And anyway, but you know,
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  it is okay. We have our battles. Some of them we might
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  not win, and that's okay. Maybe some of them we shouldn't at least
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  go into every single day winning, walk in winning. I don't know what
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  else we should do instead of wake up and go, you know what,
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  I'm just gonna be a big fucking loser today. Don't do that, you
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  know. So here are a couple takeaways, right, Okay, So I
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  want us to reflect on the lessons that were brought into our lives in twenty
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  twenty three. Reflect on them. Celebrate the friendships that we have gained.
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  Celebrate the friendships we have gained those that we have lost as well. Because
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  those friendships or those relationships or those things, the stuff, the experiences,
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  the places we don't want to go, the things we don't want to do.
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  Get rid of them. If it doesn't serve you, then get rid
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  of them, right, So celebrate that elimination of toxicity as well. Dare,
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  like I've been talking about, dare to be greater than we were an
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  hour ago. Just I dare you stretch a little bit farther. Get out
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  of your comfort zone. Get out of it. Comfort zone is boring,
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  perfect is boring. Get out there, push boundaries, break glass ceilings,
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  all the cliches that you can think of, do it, do something scary,
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  and do it now. What are you scared of? What are you
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  scared of failing? All right? Be scared of failing, and you won't
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  do anything. So I'm more scared of that than I am of actually failing.
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  Right, Tackle something that makes your soul, saying that makes the soul
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  fit, that makes your heart full and happy, and love with that heart
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  harder than you ever dreamt. You could fall in love with this mindfulness that
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  I'm talking about, because it's a love affair that you will not want to
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  miss out on. It is one of the best loves I've ever had.
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  Face things that you don't necessarily want to face, one of them being betrayal,
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  and that's a hard one. And we've got some episodes that are coming
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  out that are specifically about betrayal and how that just eeks into every single disease
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  state that we have in our globe right and take your life and its wellness
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  and health into your hands. If there's anything that I've learned by doing this
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  show and meeting my guests, is I'm it. I mean big picture.
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  I can wake up and I can make bad decisions for myself, where I
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  can make good decisions for myself. All of them affect my well being and
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  my health. My brain, my sleep's the RPS, any disease state,
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  my heart, you name it, right, It's all affected by that.
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  And then part of this to end this part is serve. Whatever that means
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  to you doesn't have to be at a soup kitchen, doesn't have to be
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  at a church. It could be anything that you want to do that is
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  of service to me. This show, the Paying Game podcast is a portion
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  of me serving. I feel like I'm serving, even if it's one person
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  every day that I have a conversation with on this show that I'm helping in
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  some way, shape or form, And That's what I'm here for. So
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  serve and be mindful about how you do so. So every single guest on
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  this show has been has added incredible value to me in some way, shape
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  or form. Some of these guests I've become lifelong friends with and they will
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  forever be people that I text crazy show with. These people that have spilled
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  their guts with me, you know you are brave. Thank you, Thank
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  you for being part of this journey. And every single one of them is
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  serving you as a listener and me as a host. So don't forget about
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  serving. If you're new to the show, go start somewhere in the middle
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  of twenty twenty three and just keep on trucking. If you've been listening,
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  thank you so much for continuing to do so, and to share in this
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  community and this journey that we're all on. We all need to share these
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  messages with people. We all know somebody that needs to hear them, So
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  please keep on. Sharon. I really love you guys and appreciate you for
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  doing that free job. Episodes every Tuesday morning at five am Pacific Standard time,
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  and we covered a lot in twenty twenty three, and we're only going
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  to uncover more in twenty twenty four. I've got some incredible guests lined up
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  for you, guys that are just going to skyrocket us into the next phase
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  of the paying game. Podcasts so much coming up. So some of the
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  messages that I want to leave you with from twenty twenty three are these.
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  Vibe, heal the roots of your soul, release shame and read yourself of
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  the danger of suppression. Advocate for your health, health and the health of
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  our globe. Put stress in the rear view mirror, and stop participating in
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  it. That's one of our biggest flaws as women, as we continuously participate
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  in stressful stuff. So we need to knock that off. Be more mindful
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  about that right, move from crisis to stillness. There is space and stillness
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  for us to just be and to be mindful. Right, we can reverse
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  cognitive decline. We can even prevent it. We can work on fighting the
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  monsters that are within us that lead us down to the roads of guilt and
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  shame and jealousy and addiction. Let's heal ourselves from the ancient traumas that have
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  been far before us and unfortunately we'll be far ahead of us as well,
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  and live in that abundance of mindfulness. Do it? I dare you,
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  and my Biggie is giving my pain purpose and that's what we do here every
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  single day. So I wanted to take a quick minute to thank my producer
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  Steve for everything that you've done for me for twenty twenty two, twenty three
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  and onwards. Rachel, my director of marketing, for not just my agency
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  Bound By Marketing, but also for this show. You have been nothing but
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  insane for me this year of twenty twenty three. I don't know where my
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  year would be without you, and I simply cannot wait to see where all
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  of our big, huge, grandiose dreams that we've been talking about end up.
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  Abby. Thank you so much for being with me for twenty wild and
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  crazy years. You are an incredible developer, You're incredibly talented. Thank you
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  for always making me shine online. And of course last was certainly not least,
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  my sweetie, you guessed it. Without you, my crazy love,
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  I'm unable to live out that, giving my pain purpose, that part of
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  my life to live purposely, truly and fully. And you are my other
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  half in this life. And thank you for sacrificing what you have for me,
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  for us, for the puppies, for this journey that we are on
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  before now and forever. I love you with all I got and I can't
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  wait to see what twenty four is gonna do for us. We have a
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  lot in store for twenty twenty four, you guys, So it's time to
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  cowgirl and cowboy up. Get ready to rumble and meet some of the most
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  incredible people that you ever will. You are exclusively invited to share this twenty
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  twenty four mindful Vip pain journey together. Let's get to the heart of how
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  to heal with you by my side. Please follow the Pain Game Podcast wherever
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  you digest your podcast content, we will be there. Visit us at the
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  Pain gamepodcast dot com and follow us on all the socials. Happy New Year,
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  my little VIPs. Catch you on the other side.