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Do All narcissists try and come back to you? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on? Beautiful people.
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  Welcome to another episode of The Narcissist code.
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  I'm your favorite self-aware narcissist mr.
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  Lee hammock better known as mental illness across all social
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  media platforms. If this your first time seeing
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  my face are here, my lovely voice.
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  I'm a diagnose Narcissus and they use my platform on social
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  media to raise awareness for MPD.
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  Get more people into the therapy and also validate the victim
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  survivors. And thrivers of said disorder
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  said times to people say taxi traits.
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  Today's episode is going to be answering the question do all
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  night. Assist try to come back or do
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  all. Nurses is come back.
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  self love and that's the identity and whatnot.
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  So there's this other way. So do all narcissist come back.
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  No in the video. Thanks for tuning in by mental
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  illness. Is out.
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  Peace, just kidding but there's always Little bit more to the
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  story out. So not all narcissistic.
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  People try to come back to you. Not all narcissist tried to
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  Hoover you now all narcissist we'll try to get back into your
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  life. Not all narcissist will try to
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  come back and get, you know, now dollars will try to get you back
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  or keep you on a hook and things like this.
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  Some narcissistic people will absolutely be done with you when
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  they discard you, or when you discard or break up with them,
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  the end, it might be the in, this might be the first, the
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  first discard might be the final Discard the first discard might
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  be the last time you see this person, you know I mean that's
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  how it goes sometimes because it's not all narcissist will try
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  to Hoover you back in and one of the main reasons that some
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  narcissist don't try to come back is shame.
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  So meet back in the previous years and my younger days, I
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  probably would have tried to Hoover more people, you know,
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  our decide to come back to because they were too broke up
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  with me. And I wasn't ready for them to
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  leave me if I wasn't ready for them to break up with me or I
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  wasn't ready to move on myself. I will try Whoever that person
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  back into my life. You and I would try to get them
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  back in some way shape or form because that's what they I want
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  them back, you know. I don't want to be but I don't
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  want to be by myself. I need that whatever I needed
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  validation or source of validation from somebody.
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  The word y'all would use is Supply, you know, so I'm not
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  ready. So, I will try to Hoover back
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  in. Those are my younger days, but
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  as I've grown older, and I'm a different in the different place
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  right now. Once it's over, it's over, I'm
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  not coming back to you because of the shame and I will not
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  grovel. I'm not begging.
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  I'm not Pleading I my ego is way too big for that type of stuff
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  right now I there is no way and some other narcissist feel the
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  same way their shame and the ego with this this too big too much,
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  shame too much ego for them to try to apologize or try to come
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  back to you. So once they are done, they are
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  done. They will not try to come back
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  to you, you know, me. But here like I said, not, once
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  they do it, they do it. I will be done because I'm
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  embarrassed. You broke up with me.
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  You ended the relationship, you discarded me, you Then me in
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  rejection makes me angry as hell.
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  It hurts so much so much, shame so, much pain, so much, just
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  goodness, gracious. I'm not trying to come back to
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  that again. I don't want that to happen
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  again, you know, so not on our sir, will try to come back
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  because the shame, the kicks into the shame kicks in so much.
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  They just say no or they moved on to a new permanent source of
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  Supply, you know, that's another reason.
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  Some narcissist don't come back, they find a permanent. imminent
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  source of Supply or somebody that they might fit that they
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  think might fit them better, so they move on, you know, They
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  move on to a different person. They feel like they might fit
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  them better and they get a fresh source of fresh Supply from this
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  person. You don't mean there's new
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  person provides me this source of Supply so I can keep moving
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  forward. I can be as say I can be safe, I
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  can be strong, I can do what I need to do.
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  I'm secure I don't think you want to leave me.
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  I'm good, you know, I mean so sometimes they don't come back
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  because they feel like it's over and done with and they have new
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  Supply you know me. So that is a that there's
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  definitely a possibility. They they just like, you know,
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  I'm done. Hey, come back.
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  Come back to you. What, why would I embarrass
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  myself by trying to come back to you?
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  You know me why would I do that? Why would I open myself up?
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  The first the first rejection already hurt me enough.
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  Why would I do this to myself again?
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  Why would I bring myself back into the situation again?
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  Only for you to open for me, to open up to you.
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  Try to get you back into you hurt.
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  You break me down and hurt me. Why the hell would I do that to
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  myself? This is something our sister
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  people think. I'm not going to do that to
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  myself. You don't mean.
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  That's the dynamic. That's the place.
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  That's the space. Did they?
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  They go into, you know. So somebody will not some of
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  them will not try to come back and for those that do come back,
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  some of them until you wear it real quick.
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  Y'all, some of them will try to come back to you just to save
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  their ego just to try to avoid the shame.
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  Believe, what do you mean by the, how can you avoid ego by
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  trying to come back? If I try to come back to you and
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  it works and I get you back. Now, I can be the one to break
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  up with you that that toxic narcissistic person you have.
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  I can be the one who breaks up with you, nowadays not ain't
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  Protected Their ego, they guarded themselves against
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  shaved and now they say they feel they feel safe except that
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  now I feel better about myself like I broke up with you.
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  So some of them that come back only want to come back to hurt.
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  You only want to come back to calls you to make, you feel the
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  same pain that they felt. Even if they even if they were
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  the reason that you broke up with them, even if they cheated
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  on you, even if they lie to you, even if they beat on you, they
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  do not care. They don't.
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  They want to cause you as much pain as they feel like you calls
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  them. They want, you know what the
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  kids say, the kids say they want to get their lik back.
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  They want to hurt you because you hurt them.
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  That's the way it goes sometimes y'all.
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  No, no, okay, I'm not proud of but sometimes that's what
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  happens. They want to get you back.
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  They want to love bomb you and didn't want to take the love
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  away and they might ghost you they might, we want to leave you
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  broken. So some of them that do try to
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  connect, only one to come back, because they hurt you and some
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  people that come back, the ones that do come back.
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  Y'all, the ones that do try to her only try to Hoover you, the
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  one that do Hoover try to Hoover you because like the one to do
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  Hoover you Try to Hoover you just to my mind just went
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  completely blank. Go, my mind just went completely
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  blank. They try to Hoover you back in
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  because you allow it. It's hard to say.
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  I wasn't cut the video about, you know, could they be?
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  I like this one clean slate, one take one, take hammock, some of
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  them to do come back. They try to Hoover you because
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  you allow them to. Yeah, let's be real and this is
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  not now y'all know. I'm not.
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  Oh, no, victim-blaming type of stuff.
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  But sometimes narcissistic people come back because they
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  are allowed to come back and they will do it as many times.
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  As you allow them to, they will come back into your life as many
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  times as you allow them to and they don't care if their yeah.
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  Narcissistic people do not care about wasting your time, as long
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  as there is a long as that quote unquote needs are being met in
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  some way shape or form, they don't care about wasting your
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  time. They don't care about taking
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  money from you. They don't care about
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  embarrassing themselves, as long as they getting their needs met
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  as long as if you can long. As you keep the door open, you
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  keep communicating with them in some way, shape, or form.
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  They're going to try to take advantage of you y'all.
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  That's just the way it goes. L.
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  Not fairy tale. Why did he come back?
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  Y'all shut the door. Yo, even if you even if you shut
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  the door on some of them, they won't leave you alone.
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  Sometimes, you'll hear me say this before, sometimes you have
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  to force them to leave you alone, you know?
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  And I don't know what. I don't know how you for some
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  people. You know, sometimes you have to
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  force them by threatening about getting restraining orders.
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  You might have to protect yourself.
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  Y'all believe I get a restraining order.
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  I ruined their life. You are not ruining their life.
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  They are doing it. That's it.
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  Like it. We if you've ever said that if
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  you've ever said that out loud, I don't want to ruin their life.
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  You are not ruining their life if they're stalking you.
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  If they're popping up at your house, with a pop of your job,
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  they're calling you 150 times a day there.
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  You are not ruining their life. They are ruining their lives.
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  You are not. Do you are protecting your peace
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  because if you don't protect your piece, they'll take it away
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  from you. Let's just keep it up.
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  Let's keep it hot, you know, that's why I would say.
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  You keep it hydrated like a Little Caesars Pizza, if you are
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  not Apiece. They will take it from you.
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  They will absolutely snatch your piece from you and they will not
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  care. At the end of the day, they will
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  not care. They will snatch your piece from
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  you. They will hurt your heart, they
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  will break your ear and it will hurt your feelings.
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  They will snatch your piece from you don't protect your peace,
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  they'll come snatch it from you. So narcissistic people like
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  said, not all of them will come back to this but the ones that
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  do come back out, they feel like they aren't allowed to come
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  back. Some of them come back because
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  they feel like they own you, they feel like there's a claim
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  of ownership on your own. On your body, on your space, on
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  your time, on your Dominion, whatever you want to call it,
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  they feel like they own every bit and piece of you and they
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  feel like they are indeed entitled to your space.
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  They feel like they're entitled to your life and they will keep
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  consistently coming back into your life until you put a stop
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  to it. When it.
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  When are you done ask yourself, the question, doesn't matter?
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  Whether the orders come back. When are you done?
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  Brent, Brent bubble. I haven't had a red bubble on a
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  long time. Y'all, when are you done?
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  What have you had enough? When has the women Steve?
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  What if you cross the threshold of pain to, when you get to the
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  point where you say I've had enough, I've had enough, I'm
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  done. When are you going to get to the
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  point? When you say I'm done, I've had
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  enough. I'm throwing in the towel and
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  this relationship, I'm calling me quits, I'm choosing me, I'm
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  protecting my peace. I'm choosing love such love,
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  self-care self-appreciation. I'm done wasting time.
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  Wasting energy wasting love and wasting my life on you.
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  When are you going to say that? Because it's not done until you
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  say it's done. It's not done until you say it
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  when it's Google. When is he going to be done?
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  Yeah. It's up to you.
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  It's 100,000 percent up to you. When the relationship is done,
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  believe they keep coming back to won't leave me alone.
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  Call the police. You might have to protect your
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  piece but we have kids. Yeah, if you have kids, you can,
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  you don't have to communicate with them 100 times a day.
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  You want to communicate the Necessities if it's necessary.
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  How did he is doing? If something goes wrong with the
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  kids? I would tell you, trust me, I
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  would tell you I'm not trying to keep The kids from you hey
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  co-parent. If something was wrong with the
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  kids. I would tell you there's no need
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  to text me asking about the kids.
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  I will tell you I will update you if something happens I
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  promise you. Thank you have a great day.
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  What if you had enough y'all? Because the narcissist that come
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  back or not coming back with good intentions.
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  The ones that come back on coming back to redirect your
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  life, ruin your life, waste your time or put you on.
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  Put you up on the Shelf until they find somebody a permanent
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  solution to replace you with and they don't care what you've done
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  for them. They don't care what you would
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  you sacrifice for them? They don't care, they don't
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  care, they don't care, they don't care, they don't care.
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  At the end of the day, most narcissistic, people are going
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  to be so serving people, and they're going to take their
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  going to take, take take to give to themselves and they don't
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  care what the records. Did they leave?
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  Bubble. Pop the right bubble is over
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  y'all who Power up y'all. It's okay to pick you.
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  It's okay to choose you. I chose me a long time ago when
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  I started battling narcissistic personality disorder on a part
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  only on a public platform. I chose me in public, you know
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  me. But again you have to choose
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  you. You have to empower you.
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  You are the only person that can tell you what to do.
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  I'm not here to tell you what to do.
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  I'm not here to try to, I'm not here just to try to chastise
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  you. I just want y'all to win.
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  And the crazy thing is, I want you out.
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  I want you to win more than you want you to.
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  Win sometimes and that's crazy. The Narcissist want you to win
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  more than you want you to win power of y'all.
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  Take your strength back, take your energy back.
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  Be you be the best version of yourself that you can be.
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  Those you got to do be the best version of you that you can be.
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  Those you got to do be the best version of you that you can be.
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  Anyway, shall Orlando? Florida matey 20th.
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