Latest / Dits & Dahs / the consonance of stoicism
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- Sue: For me, as I was processing my grief for my late husband and becoming more aware of the importance of being fully present in every nanosecond of my life from that point, the hardest thing that I learned was how to control a non-reaction. Every time an energy comes towards me, I've taught myself to the best of my ability. I'm sure I'm not gonna be perfect every time, as a human isn't, just be silent, not flinch, not react. Be aware, engaged, but just not speaking, in order to process an appropriate reaction. And what I'm talking about here is nanoseconds of time. Anybody that is intentionally projecting energy towards you that is negative, your best response is to stand silently, see it, remove your emotions, and then decide how you wish to react. There was a point in my life when somebody threw me negative energy and my first response was was it my fault? What did I do? How do I rebalance? Going through all of these questions of discerning the truth, to understand that sometimes people knowingly or unknowingly project negative energy. There may not be anything malicious about it, but in case there is, understanding that your non reaction is the best reaction possible returns everything to balance quicker. Because here's the thing. Those that are intentionally projecting negative energies, they want your reaction. They want you to be upset. They want you to feel off, to resonate in a way that creates d more dissonance in the universe. I talk about music terms of when you perform in unison, it doesn't matter how many people are playing the same note in unison if they're doing it well together, they will all be in tune with one another and it just sounds like one note. You don't hear any vibrations outside of that one note. That's what to me balance is in the universe. So when you have the realization that no matter what you do in order to keep your life in balance and keep yourself experiencing joy and happiness, the realization that other people might be doing it intentionally, sending negative energy to Get you out of that vibe, well, it's important not to give him a response. There is no way that it's appropriate. There's no situation in which retribution or vengefulness or revenge is an appropriate response ever. It can be really difficult to train yourself to not react. But once you do, there is no place for those energies to land on you and hurt you. And understand that by doing a conscious non reaction, You're potentially protecting all of your loved ones and the people around you because you may be used to pass that energy through to someone else. And it might not be anybody that you even know. It could be this someone in the grocery store where you shop, unbeknownst to you. That's where it all comes back to understanding that we're all equal. We know right from wrong, and we intentionally would not treat others less than the way that we would treat ourselves. But in the event that that happens and we recognize that we're a vessel being used to convey those negative energies, the best thing you can do then is to shut it down with your non-reaction. It does one of several things, besides restoring balance, which is the most important. The second thing is this. They will accuse you with gossip and slander of being the one that sends out the negative energies in the first place. And if you don't react, it's not you. It shows them up for their actions. It exposes them. After all, you wouldn't intentionally wish harm to another soul because you know right from wrong. And those that defy that by intentionally, whether it's consciously or not, projecting negative energies, are not in control of themselves. There may be an entity attachment that is controlling them. That is an even bigger reason to non react. I can't control the malicious deeds of those who choose to speak ill on my name and gossip. The fact that they don't see that it's an invasion of privacy is on them. Those that choose to engage in intentionally sending negative vibes towards another, because there is absolutely no reason to do that. If there is a belief seated deeply somewhere in someone that says, ⁓ yes, there is, they did this to me. Again, I will come back to, given that we are all created equal. Why would you retaliate? And th there are those who will project energies as illusions just to siphon your energy with your response. Well, you don't want to give ⁓ that. Your energy is precious. Gotta hold that in. You're the one that controls who you share your energy. Like now. Thank you. I value that deeply. And thank you for listening. What I speak on is the ability of us all to take a more proactive, positive view of generating positive vibes outward. Because we are taking care of ourselves on the inward. We're filling our brain with the stuff that gives us passion. We embark on those activities so that no matter where we are at in the phase of our lives, of our age, we have something to engage us. And by doing that and being about your self-care spiritually first, you're then generating that good vibe that others benefit when they are associated with you and your soul tribe. Or those that aren't in your soul tribe, they'll think that your light is irritating them, and that's all right. Doesn't stop you from shining your light, just shows that there are folks out there who are motivated by dark energies, and the only thing that we can do effectively to help each other is to non react. The esoteric end of friendship groups and folks gathering to come together to pray for their own selfish prosperity. They're not considering everybody equal. They're thinking themselves should be more receiving of that prosperity over others. Well that's not equal. So when they take to gossiping and creating slander about others who are over the light, they're acting out. And the best reaction is a non-reaction. I trained myself to non-react with empathy. And the simplest way to do it, without having to go that deep for yourself, is just to be aware and in control. Knowing full well that each and every one of us can temporarily be controlled by external entities. And that once you're aware that you did something, you show up and act on it. You acknowledge it for what it is by forgiving yourself. There's no point in forgiving other people if you forgive yourself. My point here is that the focus on self is not selfish. It's about health and all phases mind, body, and spirit. If you can't take care of yourself first, you're not in control. And that any thought that you have that isn't about your self care as a means to unconditionally loving everybody around you is a falsehood then. And in my world, once somebody is a liar, they're always a liar. I forgive them because I've forgiven myself for being sucked into that belief falsely, and I know that I can't stop people from lying. So the only thing that I can do is ensure that I am healthy in my mind, body, and spirit. It's what I talk about the dissonance of energies. In music it's this close proximity to one pitch, but not quite playing in unison or singing in unison. It's a grinding, grating sound that is disturbing. Recognizing that for what it is, which is a non-local negative energy that's lurking around you, will help you see it, and then once you see it, you know what it is and to shut your spiritual stoma and not let that in. I found I got to a place really quickly, being able to figure out who was supportive and who wasn't. And those that found out that they were no longer receiving my energy gossiped in a way that said, ⁓ she changed. She's not as warm and fuzzy as she used to be. You know, we used to drop over at her house without having to make a date beforehand, and now I no, she's not friendly at all. No, I haven't changed in that way. I'm extremely generous and friendly with those souls that deserve to receive my energy because when we come together, we are consonant. We adjust ourselves on the fly to ensure that our consonance continues to create harmony. To create an acknowledgement that doing all of those things that make you happy and fill your brain with stuff that engages you, keeps you aware and focused is where it's at. And to have the general view that balance between being able to manage the dark energies with a light is simply because you know you're in control. And that if you're not in control, there are remedies that you should take to regain your control. And those remedies might be stemming from whatever is driving those negative vibes. There may be a, you know, physical health problem. There may be a mental health problem. That's not what I'm saying is just, ⁓ just think positive, everything's fine. No, I understand. There are reasons within our mind, body, and spirit realm that make it challenging for us to stay positive. Nonetheless, our greatest form of love for yourself is taking care of you. And what you're gonna see Is that for all of those people that have chosen the slanderous gossipy route to tell you that you're changed or you're not the same or you're stay away, well you'll see it immediately. That's more negative energy thrust upon you, looking for some sort of reaction. Not having it. Neither should you. Because once we all start paying more attention to our positivity, the more balance in the universe we create and restore. Confirmation with the doe leaping in front of Rita. Unlike the doe in the woods, you don't react. You just move to another part of the woods and have a nice day over there. It's never confrontational. Those that gossip and slander against you are looking for a confrontation. That's why your non reaction is the reaction to give. I remember when I first started doing this, one of my colleagues who's always looking for reactions, actually called me out for having a non reaction. To which I non reacted to his comment, I don't hold any animus or angst or any negative eyes, it's just I'm not playing that game. I repeat these words as I experience such incoming projections and do my best to repeat it as I experience it, because I'm not the only one that feels it. And it may be that you only feel it in an undescribable way other than you just feel off and don't know why. Well, I'm talking to you. This is how I deal with it. If you find it useful, go on and be stoic. You'll experience life more fully. That's been my experience. Thanks for listening. I appreciate your energy.