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Domestic Violence....Why can't you keep your hands to yourself LADIES..Pt 3 · Black Girl Interrupted Podcast

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  What's up? What's up? What's up? Y'all. It's sugirl Ash.
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  Y'all know who it is? Your favorite girl from the follow for bringing you,
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  y'all, another episode of Black Girl interrupted. Y'all have to bear with
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  me um last night. I was supposed to do this episode last night,
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  but unfortunately my lupus is just not allowing me to be great. So I
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  pushed last night's episode to today, and then I really kind of struggle today
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  whether or not I wanted to do my episode today, but I said,
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  you know what, let me go ahead and push through. So yes,
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  I am currently having a Lucas flare up, y'all, my legs or killing
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  me my neck, my whole body is aching right now, but no fever,
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  nothing like that. So I was like, let me jump on tonight
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  because I promise, y'all, I said, I was gonna stay consistent.
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  We're doing this show. I'm so here. I am again, Happy Wednesday,
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  Happy Humped Day. We have made it halfway through the week. We
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  are two days away from the weekend. Y'all got the bed with your girl.
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  I'm trying to push through tonight, but this conversation is so imperative.
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  This topic is so so so imperative. What I want to discuss tonight when
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  it comes to men and whether it's sexual abuse, whether it's domestic violence,
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  Men are always the forgotten victim. We focus more on women and less on
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  the men when we need to be focused on men too because men are victims
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  as well, So hence the purple Tonight, I want to talk about domestic
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  violence yet again. Yes, I know Domestic Violence Awareness Month is October,
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  but domestic violence issues don't just happen in October. They happen every day.
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  And we're seeing more and more men being unlived by women than anything, So
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  we're seeing this more now, so I want to address it. But y'all
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  already know how I start my shows. Y'all already know y'all I gotta do
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  my mental health. Check in man, check in with your girl. Let
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  me know how you feeling today, Like I say, happy Wednesday. We're
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  two days away from the weekend. What are your plans? What are y'all
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  doing? But most importantly, how are you doing mentally? How are you
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  doing emotionally? How are you doing physically? How are you doing spiritually?
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  So I want to know. Dropping the comments, let me know again.
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  Y'all. Welcome tonight to another episode of Black Girl Interrupted. Y'all, I'm
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  here, I'm here tonight, I'm here. There's my sister, Hay Sissy.
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  I love you too, and thank you. Yes, my legs are
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  hurting so, so, so bad. I took a master relaxed earlier.
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  I think it maybe that that will help. I promised. I'm walking around
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  here like an old last woman. I promise. Hey, brother, My
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  brother says he's hanging in there mentally. I know it. It's a struggle
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  with everything that's going on in this world right now, it's a struggle and
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  we we're barely making it. So this is why you know. I do
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  these mental health check ins simply because if we don't check on each other,
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  who is who else is checking for us? Nobody? So I want to
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  know how you're doing mentally. I want to know what can I do to
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  help push you a little closer to the finish line? Mentally? What can
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  I do? Can I would you like for me to pray for you?
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  Do you want to have a conversation? Do you need me to continue to
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  empower you? Do you need me to encourage you? Do you need me
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  to uplift you. This is what we need definitely in these day and times.
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  I mean, we're seeing the youth is this world. It's crazy,
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  y'all, It is crazy. But we have to keep going. We have
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  to keep holding on to each other. We have to keep encouraging, we
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  have to keep empowering, we have to keep uplifting one another, because you
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  don't know what a person is going through. You know, you may see
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  a person that's smiling and laughing on the outside, but they may be slowly
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  dying on the ends side. So it's up to us to make sure that
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  we're checking on our loved ones, our friends. I mean, I tell
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  you every episode, I'll tell y'all it takes third and seconds to send a
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  text and say hey, I love you, I'm thinking about you, hope
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  you're having a great day. You never know that text message may change someone's
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  life. So y'all know what I do before I jump into any conversation.
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  Y'all know, I always have to drop some type of empowering video and uplifting
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  video, something to keep you encouraged. But let me go ahead and drop
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  this because I definitely want to hurry and jump into to nice conversation because by
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  bad, I'm sick of this. I'm really, really, really truly sick
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  and tired of this. So let's go ahead. Let me play you something
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  that's encouraging, uplifting, empowering in another way of me telling you that I
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  love you, and then we're gonna jump into to nice conversation. I want
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  to encourage somebody out there who's thinking about quitting and giving up, somebody who
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  has been praying for years for things to turn around. You're thinking about quitting,
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  You're thinking about giving up. You are folding, you are caving in.
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  This is for you. You're in this storm and you're down on your
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  knees and you're cold and you're weak, and you feel like this is the
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  end. You have a choice to either give up or keep going, give
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  up or get up. Don't give up, don't give up, stay in
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  it, stay focused. When you fail, try again and again and again.
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  You just take one step at a time. It's hard, but it's
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  worth fighting. Is worth believing, it's worth mustering yourself up, standing up
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  inside yourself. It's worth fighting relentlessly, never giving up. I love the
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  sun, but things don't grow because of the sun. You have to have
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  some rain, and you've got to stop looking at rain in your life as
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  something bad. My greatest moments didn't come from my greatest moments. My greatest
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  moments came from my greatest defeats, because it was doing my defeat that I
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  had to find a way to get back up. You thought for one minute
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  that you broke from me, You got me twisted. I am not phenomenally
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  killed, but phenomenally will. I will not give up. I will not
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  to render. I will not quit. God stop, coach, stop coach,
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  Stop running towards your dreams. Stay in courage, Stay in courage,
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  keep your head up, stick your chest out, continue to walk with clod
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  and know if it was easy, everybody would do it. It's not gonna
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  be easy, but we have what it takes. There are rough times are
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  gonna come, but they have not come to stay. They have come to
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  pass. Don't say I'm having a bad day. Say I'm having a character
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  building day. Don't look at night at darkness, look at night as a
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  new beginning. So as I keep on with my mental health check in,
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  I I'm gonna switch the video up next what tomorrow, I'm gonna have another
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  inspirational video. But y'all have to understand, every time I watch that video,
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  it pushes me a little closer to the finish line. Because every obstacle
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  that I've encountered in my life, I've always given up, always given up.
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  I've never sought to try to figure out how to make it through.
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  I've always thrown in a towel, you know. Like I was telling Myselster
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  earlier today, I'm having a whole loopas flare up right now and I'm sitting
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  right here talking to y'all. So I can't give up. You know.
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  Yes, I know y'all are gonna say, oh, Ashley, but your
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  health is important. Yeah, but I can't let Lupe's beat me. You
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  get what I'm saying. I have to beat lupas So that video, it
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  just encourages me. It just empowers me. It just uplifts me, and
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  it just makes me want to keep going over and over and over, no
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  matter how many times I fall down, I want to get back up.
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  I want to keep going. I have to keep going, you know it.
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  Just again, I've allowed depression to take me down. I can't loopus
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  take me there either, So I have to get up. I have to
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  push you. Yes, my legs are swollen. Yes, my neck is
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  stiff as a damn board. I feel like I have the flu right now,
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  But no fever, no, none of that. But anybody that's watching,
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  anybody that may be standing in the midst of a storm, keep going,
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  keep going, keep going, keep going. It does get better,
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  it gets easier, regardless of what you're going through. God is gonna always
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  make a way, to always make a way out of no way, and
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  I every day I have to trust and believe that God is gonna hear me.
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  I have to keep trusting. I have to keep believing that this is
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  what's gonna happen. So this is why I'm here tonight. Yes I'm a
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  Lucas Warrior, y'all, but I'm here. I'm here tonight to be with
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  y'all. I love y'all. You know y'all deserve it. So oh all
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  right, So let's jump into some of these comments, but keep dropping in
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  the comments. Let me know how you feeling mentally, How are you feeling
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  emotionally spiritually? I want to know. But just know that I love you
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  and we're gonna make it. We're gonna get through this. I promise you
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  we are so Brittany says, I came right on time. I needed to
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  see this video. Yes, I know these last few days, y'all,
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  don't even I'll talk about that tomorrow. Y'all can't even fathom what I've been
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  dealing with since Friday. But that's a conversation for tomorrow. She said,
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  come on, and during purple lips. It's really so let me tell y'all.
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  So I was trying to diet red right, okay, so let me
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  show y'all. So y'all know, my head was like a dark brown.
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  So I bought this red to put on top, right, and I was
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  like, okay, yes, it's gonna be red. And so once I
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  runs the color, I said, this ain't no damn red, It's a
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  ginger color. I look like pippy damn loan stockings. Do you with me?
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  I look like Pippy loan stockings. But the color is starting to grow
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  on me. But it's gonna be another color next week, so don't don't
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  get too comfortable with this one it because I'm gonna put another color on top.
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  It's crazy, y'all. So Britnan Brown says, BGI has the best
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  episodes this far. Keep them coming, sis. Yeah, um, and
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  they're gonna just keep getting better and better and better as the days, in
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  the weeks, some months, and the years go by. Um so um
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  goodness. So Britnan says that video definitely does it for me. I needed
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  to hear that today. Thank you, Sis for being the light you are
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  and thank you for never giving up. You are here for a reason.
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  I'm thankful all of the support and love you. Give you a my cup
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  of tea and I love it. I love you too, baby, and
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  uh yes, I am a Lucas Warrior. So I am here, y'all.
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  So y'all forgive me. Let me, let me scoop back a little
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  bit. So um tonight's conversation. I know everyone's life, but this is
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  it's only recognized in the month of October. But no, I have spoken
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  on this several times. I've had several episodes with regards to domestic violence.
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  But I want to talk to the men again. I want to speak on
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  the men again. So tonight's conversation domestic's violence against men? Why does this
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  keep happening? What at this and wanted me to bring and double back around
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  to this conversation is because a little over a month ago, a young lady
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  under by the name of Cadijia Brown was on Facebook Live and was arguing with
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  horror her husband and she was arguing over the fact that he did not cook
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  for the children. Mom is in the background, she's gas lighting the conversation.
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  Before you know it, a gun goes off and the husband is killed.
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  Let me say this to you, ladies, stop holding these men hostage.
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  If they want to walk out the door, let them go, because
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  in this situation there are no winners. Four children have lost both of their
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  parents. Four children witnessed their mother shoot their father in the back of the
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  head. Four children are definitely gonna need some intensive therapy. And I'm gonna
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  repeat this one more time. You women, stop holding these men hostage in
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  this how in these homes. If they want to go, Let these men
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  walk out the door. If they cheat on you, leave them, baby,
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  and let them go. What is killing them gonna do? What is
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  killing them they gonna do? You kill them? You're still not gonna be
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  with him. You're going to prison for the rest of your life. Children
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  are affected. It's so many circumstances around that that your freedom is not worth
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  all of that. That's like, if me and my fiance ever get to
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  a space where he's cheating on me, I'm not gonna kill him for what.
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  I'm gonna let you go and be with whoever you think so highly of
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  and let you become their heady. I'm not losing my freedom behind no man,
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  baby, let me tell you something. Only people I'm gonna lose my
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  freedom behind is Jaquari, Jamari and Chase them. The only three people I'm
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  gonna lose my freedom behind, and those are my children. Ain't no man
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  in this world worth me losing my freedom period. So if you feel like
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  you want to go by by, get the hell on out the door.
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  I'm not gonna kill you. I'm not gonna hold you hostage. I'm not
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  gonna beg I'm not gonna plead baby. If you feel like the grass is
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  greener on the other side, baby, feel free to go and wander in
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  the green pastures. Baby, go right on the head, because I'm not
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  losing my freedom behind that. Again. When I saw that video, y'all,
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  it made me sick in my stomach because I said, how could you
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  do that? And then you got the mother in the background that's gas lighting
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  the situation. That's instigating. That's throwing gasoline on the situation for what.
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  And then the first thing you ladies want to do, You want to jump
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  on social media. You want to get on social media. You want to
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  show your ass for what. Now they have evidence because I believe she said
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  she had a gun. She had a gun. It goes black on the
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  screen. Didn't you hear the gunshot? For what? You did? All
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  of that for what, ma'am? Because you were selfish, because you you
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  made a selfish decision, because you decided to kill your husband because he didn't
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  cook, denifer the kids. And then from some of the sources that I
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  spoke with, this is not the first incident amongst those two where she's been
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  the instigator. She's been the instigator. So let me jump into this video.
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  I want to keep the conversation going. But y'all let me know your
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  thoughts on this. We go back to the factor on censored Kadija. Michelle
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  Brown is accused of shooting her husband, Jeremy Brown, to death. This
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  happened in Mississippi Saturday morning over the weekend. Now, according to investigators,
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  they got into an argument about him not cooking for the kids before he had
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  to go to work, among other things. That argument turned physical and ended
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  with the fatal shooting, which played out on a Facebook live stream. Trying,
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  now you want to go tell your band about this, about that you
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  want to do this. I ain't trying to argue a tragic reminder that men
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  are also or could be victims in the domestic violence. But we have to
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  watch and see what happens and what plays out in this investigation. So we
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  don't want to be quick to say he was a victim of domestic vie.
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  We just don't know what happened. Now Brown isn't police custody tonight? That
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  mean that being the wife. Police say there was a history of domestic violence
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  between Brown and the victim. They didn't say who on which side who was
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  committing the domestic violence. Joining me now for the conversation tonight we have with
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  us trauma therapist Childwin and the director of Violence Prevention and Training at the Houston
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  Area Women's Center, Michelle Sachs. Got to have you all here on the
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  Factor on sense. You know, and I listened to that video and we
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  all listen and it in all honesty. You hear her say I didn't know
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  if there was a gun in the chamber, and you hear us say there
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  was something else. You said, I didn't mean to pull the trigger.
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  But it's it's it's like, we have to figure out what happen here.
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  We just don't know the details yet. But we do know a couple of
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  things, Isaiah. There was a predictator, there was a gun in the
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  house, and a history of domestic violence. Someone's going to die with a
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  gun, and a history of domestic violence. Whether the perpetrator was the wife
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  or the husband. Now we've got a family that's destroyed, kids who have
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  lost one or both of their parents potentially, But you're right, it could
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  go both ways. Was the woman a victim in this case and she perpetrated
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  this crime out of self defense? We know of a lot of justified homicides.
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  There are a lot of women coming out of the prison system killing their
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  intimate partner or spouses because of that history. So we don't know everything quite
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  yet. And we lost a video where we could see maybe what was happening,
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  but we only hear audio. So what did you ascertain from that audio?
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  Well? I heard it. Well, I think when she says that
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  she didn't mean to right, she didn't need to pull the trigger. I
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  think it's stating that she had it right, that she had the gun.
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  But you know, as child with and what we know now is that if
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  there's a firearm in the house and there's domestic violence going on, it can
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  be up to like five hundred times as likely that, like she said,
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  someone's going to die, there's going to be a homicide and typically the victim.
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  And when you guys, they throw in social media and they're on display
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  for the whole world to see, and they know this, So you get
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  more attitude, you get more violence with people because they know people are watching.
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  Yeah, they're putting the person front and center and saying, look at
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  what's happening. The kids are here, the whole world's watching, the internet,
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  my friends, my family members. Now you're more prone to seeing and
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  witnessing the violence. So it's not just within the family unit that domestic violence
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  is happening. Now people are exposed, people are terrorized watching this video.
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  And how sad that these kids have lost their parents. We don't know,
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  but we do know a lot about domestic violence, and I think few would
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  dispute that domestic violence is typically crimes committed by men against women. What makes
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  this unusual is the wifeful the trigger. So how do you help these children
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  recover from this? Michelle? This is this is a tough road that they
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  have to take. Yeah, No, it's definitely going to take a lot
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  of counseling, a lot of therapy, and a lot of support. You
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  know. Again, we just we don't know what the situation is. Um,
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  they've lost one parent, the other one's you know, been arrested.
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  So hopefully there's family that can you know, that can come in and we
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  talk about averice childhood experiences. Look, I'm a trauma therapist. When you
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  are in a family where you witness domestic violence, you can either become a
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  perpetrator yourself or you become a victim. That cycle perpetuates, it repeats itself
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  in the future. Very scary problem and really quick for both of you.
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  When we took a look at what they were arguing over, it was almost
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  frivolous to what we cover typically. You know, there is some violence,
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  there's something ugly going on in the family where one family member pulls the trigger
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  on another. But they're arguing what we heard is him not coming home cooking
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  for the kids before he goes to work. Yeah, there was probably a
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  history of other things going on that was probably that's what that argument was about.
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  Child. That's what they put on on social media, and that's what
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  they streamed live. It was almost frivolous. Yeah, yeah, it's really
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  unfortunate. Clearly there was something else going on there, right, and and
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  there's a history, like the history right there, and then I think whatever
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  it is that led to it, right, the decisions even put this on
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  Facebook live? You know, was it a cry for help? Was it,
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  like Child was saying, to expose it, right, so that other
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  people knew what was going on. It may seem frivolous to us, but
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  again we don't know what was going on in that house. And Isaiah,
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  I hope that when your viewers are watching and they go, oh my gosh,
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  this woman shot her husband, that at least they know that these things
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  are serious. Guns in the house make you more prone to dying, and
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  that there is help out there. We are talking about it in your very
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  big form. You know, Michelle works, they Houston Era, woman's in
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  aurmatroma therapist. There is help and there is hope to get out of this
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  cycle of violence. All right, ladies, thank you for joining us here
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  the factor. Can you hear me now? Can y'all hear me? Now?
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  Is that better? Y'all? I'm just talking. I'm thinking, y'all
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  can hear me? Can y'all hear me? Now? Let me know?
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  Can you hear me? It shouldn't be it shouldn't be muted? Wait,
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  let me hold on. Okay, is that better? Let me know if
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  y'all can hear me now, I'm just over here, just the talking.
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  But let me let me back up to what I was saying. So I
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  say this, let me let me double back. So for those that saw
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  the video, we saw all of this unfold on social media. And so
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  the man in the video clearly told her, I don't want to argue.
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  I'm just trying to get my stuff or I'm just trying to do whatever it
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  is, and I'm trying to go. I'm just trying to go. But
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  then you got her mommy in the background that's gas lighted the whole situation.
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  Mama is heightening the situation, and she's on Facebook. She's, Oh,
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  you want to tell your family, but you got your mama cheerleading for you.
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  On the side. Your mama's on the side cheerleading for you. She's
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  egging on. The situation, which has gotten you excited, has gotten you
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  more angry. Now you've got a gun. He's trying to go. Your
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  four children are in the house, your mama's in the house's eated. Then
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  the gun goes off, the gun goes on. Now you have four children
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  without their parents, all because you made a selfish decision. Then you arguing
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  with him over the fact that he didn't cook dinner for the kids because he's
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  getting ready to go to work. I feel like in a related in a
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  partnership, doesn't it go fifty to fifty? Okay, he didn't coope for
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  the kids. Okay, get up and go cookee for the children so he
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  can go and go to work because bills have to be paid. Hey,
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  let's get a ga. What's good? Good? Good to see your baby,
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  Good to see you? Hey, sis, say hey, So he's
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  telling you, I don't want to argue. I want to go. There's
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  a gun in the house. There's a history as you as as you heard,
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  there's a history of domestic violence. He's leaving shot to fire. Dad
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  is dead. You're gone to jail. Now you've got four children without their
• 30:52
  parents. I'm gonna say this over and over and over and over and over
• 30:57
  again, laid ass, keep your goddamn hands to yourself. Stop trying to
• 31:03
  fight these men. Let them go, Stop trying to hold them hostagen your
• 31:07
  house. Whatever. If he's cheating, let him go. If you don't
• 31:11
  want to, if the relationship is not working, people, let him go.
• 31:14
  What is killing them gonna do? You're still not gonna win in the
• 31:18
  end, because guess what. Now you're sitting in prison and now he's dead.
• 31:23
  Now what you did all that for? What? What point are you
• 31:30
  trying to prove? I'm just I'm lost. I'm so baffled right now because
• 31:37
  we see this far too often. I've had conversations with men that are victims
• 31:45
  of domestic violence, and no one takes them serious. And that's the sad
• 31:52
  part of this, is that there are really men that are really in abusive
• 31:57
  relationships, and it does not always have to be physical. You have men
• 32:02
  that are being verbally abused, mentally abused, emotionally abused. You have women
• 32:09
  out here that are dragon men and making men feel like they are about this
• 32:14
  big and then you wonder why you by yourself, because at what point do
• 32:23
  men get tired of that? And it goes with and vice versa. But
• 32:29
  right now I'm addressing the men. I'm speaking to my brothers, because there
• 32:34
  are men out here that are real life domestic abuse victims, and no one
• 32:39
  takes it seriously. Men don't talk. Men are afraid because it's not believable
• 32:46
  according to society. You know, when a man is saying, oh,
• 32:50
  I'm an abusive relationship, the first thing in society says is how And you're
• 32:54
  a man. You're supposed to be strong, You're supposed to take all of
• 32:57
  that. No, not one man on this earth deserves to be abused,
• 33:01
  whether it's verbal, whether it's physical, whether it's emotional, whether it's mental.
• 33:06
  No one, no man deserves that. But some of you women can't
• 33:10
  get that through your thick ass head. You feel like that's cool. Then
• 33:15
  you get on Facebook live, you get on Instagram, you get on TikTok
• 33:20
  insulting your man, putting your man down, while your home girls are cheering
• 33:24
  you on. Oh girl, yeah, yeah girl, you yeah. Like
• 33:30
  this young lady's mother was in the background gaslight in the situation, and now
• 33:34
  this young man's life is old. You got the gun and then you say,
• 33:38
  oh, I didn't know it was a bullet in the chamber. What
• 33:40
  did you pick up the gun for? But what these four children that have
• 33:50
  lost both of their parents are going to definitely need some intense therapy. My
• 33:58
  heart goes out to these children because they're the real victims in all of this,
• 34:04
  because they witnessed their mother un alive, their father arguing. Again,
• 34:13
  we don't know what happened prior to her jumping on Facebook Live, but we
• 34:16
  saw what happened once she got on Facebook Lab up until we heard the gunshots.
• 34:24
  But you're gonna live this man for what, Jules says. They suffer
• 34:30
  in silence. Absolutely, I got my honey, Hi baby, I hope
• 34:36
  you're having a good night at work. I love you. But we see
• 34:40
  this far too often women that are killing these men. Some go do jail
• 34:50
  time, some get a slap on the wrist. I remember when I did
• 34:55
  my story on Duwayne Haskins, God Rest his soul. Him and the wife
• 35:00
  got into an altercation in the hotel and he was hit in the mouth and
• 35:05
  the tooth was knocked out, and some of the comments were sickening to me
• 35:08
  because some of the women in the in the comments were congratulating this lady on
• 35:13
  her jumping on this man, saying, oh, he probably deserved it.
• 35:19
  And I'm gonna say this again, and I maype if some people off,
• 35:22
  but it doesn't make I don't care you keep that. Let me say this
• 35:27
  to you ladies, for the ladies that that congratulate women that are verbally,
• 35:31
  mentally, physically emotionally abusive to their to their husbands or wives or girlfriends or
• 35:38
  boyfriends, I hope you keep that same energy when that when karma comes back
• 35:42
  around to you. And I'm gonna stand on that because I think it's absolutely
• 35:49
  disgusting for you women to think that it's okay to verbally, mentally, physically,
• 35:57
  and emotionally assault men. I think it's sick if you think that's okay,
• 36:02
  because when it's done to you, you want us to sympathize and empathize
• 36:07
  with you. We need to give that same and return to these fellas because
• 36:10
  it happens far too often. But a lot of y'all don't are not ready
• 36:15
  to have that conversation. A lot of you women sit up here and try
• 36:21
  to justify why you do what you do. There's no justification and being abusive
• 36:24
  to your partner, male or female, there's no excuse, there's no justification
• 36:30
  for that. You cannot sit up here and tell me that it's okay to
• 36:34
  be abusive to someone. I don't give a damn where you come from.
• 36:37
  I don't care how much trauma you've been through. It's not cool to inflict
• 36:42
  that onto someone else intentionally. Let me say that intentionally, it's not cool
• 36:50
  to do that. I can speak for myself because I am a domestic abuse
• 36:54
  survivor. I was with a very abusive man and for five years and it
• 37:01
  wasn't cool. So, ladies, I want you to keep that same energy
• 37:09
  that you put out when men say that they are victims of domestic abuse.
• 37:15
  I want you to give them the same energy and love that you expect for
• 37:20
  us to give to you. And I'm gonna stand on that. I'm standing
• 37:24
  tintoes down on that. If you are a man that is a domestic abuse
• 37:30
  survivor, do not suffer in silence. Baby, Bring it to the forefront,
• 37:36
  Put it on the table, because we need to know, because we
• 37:38
  as a community need to figure out what we can do to help you get
• 37:43
  out of your situation. And I stand on that. There are a lot
• 37:49
  of people that just can't believe men are victims of domestic violence, and they
• 37:55
  are. I pulled up some stacks and it says one in four women and
• 38:09
  one in nine men have experienced domestic violence such as physical violence, sexual violence,
• 38:15
  and or stalking. So it happens. We see this, we hear
• 38:22
  about this. We got home girls that do this, and guess what,
• 38:28
  we ride right on along with him to drive past this house. Old girl,
• 38:31
  let's put sugar in his gas. Team, let's do this. Let's
• 38:35
  bust out a window. We're complicit to that behavior with our homegirls. We
• 38:42
  engage in that. But when the tables turn, why is no one helping
• 38:50
  me? Why is no one helping me? So tonight, this is from
• 38:59
  my fellas. This is for my brothers tonight, this is for y'all.
• 39:02
  I'm talking to y'all tonight. I'm addressing these women for y'all. I'm putting
• 39:07
  this ship on the table. I'm waking this conversation up because any woman that
• 39:15
  sits and says that she's okay with doing this to a man, I hope
• 39:21
  something happened. I hope they lock your ass up. I hope you'll keep
• 39:29
  that same energy when them tables turn, because let me tell you some karma
• 39:31
  does not have an expiration date. So when your time comes, keep the
• 39:37
  same energy. So let's get a GA says, I've been going through this
• 39:45
  right now. That's why I'm going through a divorce. My soon to be
• 39:49
  ex wife punched me in my face. She calls a police and tells them
• 39:52
  I was hitting her. She did not get arrested. I was done,
• 39:57
  he says. The police told me to my face, we cannot take her
• 39:59
  to jail because I did not have physical bruises on me. The laws do
• 40:02
  not favor men. I stand by what. I stand by that when it
• 40:06
  comes to domestic violence, forwards men, and you know what, bless get
• 40:09
  a GA. I wholeheartedly believe that because when I lived in Georgia, I
• 40:15
  was in a relationship with a young man and one particular night they got physical,
• 40:23
  and I lived in and this was in Atlanta, and the night it
• 40:29
  happened. I could speak on it now because I, you know, then
• 40:34
  did the time and everything for the assault. But they took both of us
• 40:38
  to jail that night. He went to jail because I had like a little
• 40:44
  like a little bit of tinis scratch across my nose. They took me to
• 40:46
  jail because his shirt was torn and he told the police that I had chased
• 40:51
  them around the apartment with a knife. I did, but it was a
• 40:57
  trigger for me because the guy that I was in a domestic violence relationship with
• 41:02
  was an alcoholic and a drug at it. So whenever he would come home
• 41:07
  drunk, it all depends, it depended on what day of a week it
• 41:14
  was. But anytime he came home drunk or high or whatever, I was
• 41:19
  afraid. It was almost like I had to I had let me, not
• 41:22
  even say almost, I had to walk on eggshells. And so this particular
• 41:30
  night the guy was dealing with when I lived in Atlanta, up had been
• 41:35
  drinking and you know, he won't thet no go to bed, you know,
• 41:42
  and that was a trigger for me. So it led to an argument
• 41:47
  and then it got physical. You know, once he pushed me. I
• 41:52
  wouldn't grabbed that knife, and all I saw was was read because I wasn't
• 41:58
  gonna allow you to do that to me. But this is not even about
• 42:02
  me. I've shared my story. I'm talking to men tonight. But I
• 42:08
  did not mean to venture off and veer off of what you were saying.
• 42:12
  Let's get a ga. But I'm surprised that they did not take her to
• 42:17
  jail. That's really surprising to me. But then again, it's not surprising
• 42:22
  because they don't believe that men are victims of domestic violence. So I can
• 42:27
  see why they didn't take her, you know. And it's sad that women
• 42:36
  there are women out here that actually do this. That's the sickning part of
• 42:42
  all of this is that there are women really out here that do this and
• 42:45
  got home girls that are clapping for them in the background, that are celebrating
• 42:51
  them being abusive to their spouse. And men don't have a safe space to
• 43:00
  tell this too because they're not believed. People don't believe that men are victims
• 43:05
  of domestic violence, and they are. You can argue with me all day,
• 43:10
  but numbers don't lie, you know. I look at this right here,
• 43:19
  let me move this banner out of the way, and it says men
• 43:22
  can be victims too. Women are not the only victims of domestic violence and
• 43:27
  abuse. Men also suffer from domestic domestic abuse, especially verbal and emotional abuse.
• 43:32
  And maybe even a shame to seek help. And I don't feel like
• 43:39
  a man should have should be afraid if he's if he's in a domestic violence
• 43:45
  relationship, he shouldn't have to fear going and telling someone about this. And
• 43:53
  I and I get why men don't do it because they're not believed pull least
• 44:00
  don't believe this. The laws don't believe this. They don't believe it until
• 44:06
  he's killed, and then it's old. The wife was a she was a
• 44:09
  this was a history of domestic violence, and this was self defense. Some
• 44:15
  of them are justified, some of them are not. You have women that
• 44:21
  are stalking these men. When the men break up with them and say they
• 44:23
  don't want to be with them anymore, they go start stalking the men.
• 44:28
  They go to the man's job, they're going, they showing up at events
• 44:31
  that the man is that that's crazy. But you got the home girls in
• 44:37
  the background. That's like, old girl, come on, let's go,
• 44:39
  let's pull up on it. I feel like the home girls that are complicit
• 44:49
  to this, I feel like they asked me to go to jail two.
• 44:54
  I feel that way too. I know it may not be right, but
• 45:00
  I feel like if you are riding with your home girl while she's doing this,
• 45:06
  you need to catch your case to an accessory. I just period.
• 45:13
  I'm gonna stand on that, whether you agree with me, whether you disagree
• 45:15
  with me. That's the way I feel. You're ride with your home girl,
• 45:21
  why she's doing this. You need to be arrested to as an accessory.
• 45:25
  You really truly need to. And so let's get a jays as my
• 45:34
  EXAs trifling and she gets that mindset from her trifling ass mama. And that
• 45:37
  doubles back to the video of Caudijia Brown killing her husband. I believe his
• 45:45
  name is Jeremy. I'm so sorry. The mama is in the background gaslight
• 45:51
  in this situation. Mama needs to be charged to because you could have de
• 46:00
  escalated that situation. You should have pushed your daughter. You should have said
• 46:04
  you should have pushed your daughter in the room and allowed the husband to go
• 46:07
  on out the door and go and go to work, and four children would
• 46:10
  not be without their parents. Because that's who's really suffering that those are the
• 46:15
  victims, is the children, because not only had they witnessed their parents arguing
• 46:22
  in front of them, but now the mama has killed the husband has killed
• 46:25
  the father in front of them, and now the grandmother standing over there looking
• 46:31
  crazy. I want to know why the grandmother was not arrested. This happened
• 46:37
  in Mississippi, y'all. This happened in Mississippi. Here's another story, y'all
• 46:45
  that I found, and this was in Atlanta. So let me roll this
• 46:53
  and let's keep this conversation rolling, y'all. Let me know your thoughts.
• 46:57
  Domestic violence against men? Why does this happen? Why? Sisters say they
• 47:04
  are heartbroken tonight and shocked after finding out the woman who admitted to killing their
• 47:08
  brother will not be tried in his death. Investigators say Bret Zachary was stabbed
• 47:14
  to death by his wife, Roxanne, back in twenty twenty. Police called
• 47:16
  it a domestic altercation, and Roxanne said it was self defense. She was
• 47:22
  released from jail yesterday. Our Palla Sero was joining us now in studio,
• 47:25
  and Pella, you spoke with his family today. Absolutely, you know.
• 47:28
  Bret Zachary's sisters and mother have been seeking justice for nearly three years now.
• 47:34
  They felt some relief when his wife was arrested and charged with voluntary manslaughter the
• 47:38
  day after his death, but they tell me they believe the judge's decision to
• 47:43
  not allow this case to go to trial takes all the relief away. I've
• 47:46
  never felt more betrayed by the justice system ever. Bret Zachary's family shocked that
• 47:52
  the woman responsible for stabbing him leading to his death is now free. That
• 47:57
  woman, Roxanne Zachary, was his wife and was charged with voluntary manslaughter,
• 48:00
  but this week, a Grenette County judge granted her immunity after a January hearing,
• 48:06
  and she was released from jail Tuesday. Growing up, I saw a
• 48:08
  lot of injustice, but never in a million years would I have thought that,
• 48:15
  with the preponderance of evidence that was against her, that she would walk
• 48:20
  out of jail. Court documents showed Roxanne claimed she acted in self defense.
• 48:23
  His sisters say that while the couple had a history of domestic violence, multiple
• 48:28
  witnesses who were not allowed to speak in the immunity hearing saw Roxanne beating Brett
• 48:32
  multiple times before his death, and I just saw her swing and when she
• 48:37
  swung, she connected and she hit him in his face and he began to
• 48:40
  bleed. For that judge to not even consider hearing testimony from if he didn't
• 48:47
  want to hear from me as one of the co workers. They believe the
• 48:52
  judge made this decision because of a double standard. Roxanne is like five five
• 48:55
  maybe one hundred and twenty pounds. Maybe my brother was six one six two
• 49:02
  military veteran which trained skills heavier than her and could completely have defended himself,
• 49:10
  but he wasn't that person. Documents also show Roxanne gave different versions of what
• 49:15
  happened. Quinnette County District Attorney Patsy Austin Gatson tells The Love and Alive that
• 49:20
  her office asked the court to not grant Roxanne immunity and the DA wanted the
• 49:24
  case to go to trial. She says the judge and her office did not
• 49:29
  see ey'd eye on this decision. Is just the overwhelming feeling let down her
• 49:37
  no justice. Now, we reached out to Roxanne's attorney, but having heard
• 49:40
  back. Meanwhile, the DA tells me her office will reach out to bred
• 49:44
  Zachary's family to schedule a face to face meeting to discuss the judge's decision.
• 49:49
  Meanwhile, his family is holding out hope for justice. And that's right there
• 49:58
  is what I'm talking about. Had the evidence she stabbed this man to death,
• 50:10
  and you walked out of a courthouse. He walked out of jail free.
• 50:16
  And we see this far too often. This happens way, way,
• 50:22
  way too often. What do we do, y'all? What do we do?
• 50:35
  So let's get a GA says in that video, your should system.
• 50:37
  The shoe was on the other foot and he turned up, turned up on
• 50:40
  her. The mama would have died nine on one quick fascining in a hurry.
• 50:44
  And that's what I mean when with regards to a double standard, is
• 50:50
  if it's the man that's that excuse me, that has instigated the situation,
• 50:55
  he's going to jail, no questions about it. They're not trying to hear
• 51:00
  him beg and plead and say old she did that. He's going to jail.
• 51:07
  Nine times out of ten, he's going to jail, or if the
• 51:10
  police leaven have to come back, he's going to jail. Period. And
• 51:21
  the sad part about that story, right there, was the fact that they
• 51:27
  had all the evidence that proved that it was not self defense. But she
• 51:32
  still walked out of that jail house a free woman, and this man's life
• 51:39
  is over. I remember yesterday, a couple of days ago, I scrolled
• 51:46
  apostle across another video where a man was saying he was shocked by his wife
• 51:53
  while he was holding their child. So, of course, you know the
• 51:58
  wife went to jail, she got out, and when she shot him,
• 52:02
  he was holding their child, their son. I believe in in his arms.
• 52:07
  Wife gets out, she moves on, she's in a new relationship.
• 52:12
  She kills her boyfriend and buries him in her grave because she found out he
• 52:17
  was cheating on her. So that's what I mean when I say, if
• 52:24
  he's cheating on your baby, ain't no man out here worth my freedom.
• 52:31
  I'm not gonna kill for what. I'm not gonna kill you for what,
• 52:37
  Because who really wins? Who really wins in that? I find out you're
• 52:44
  cheating on me, I kill you, I go to prison for the rest
• 52:46
  of my life. My children are without him a mother who really wins?
• 52:50
  Your children are without a dad who really truly is the winner in this?
• 52:57
  Nobody, nobody wins in this? Why, I tell you so? What
• 53:08
  goes into Why is it so hard for women to keep their hands to themselves?
• 53:19
  Why is it so difficult ladies? Why is it so hard for you
• 53:22
  to walk away? Why is it so hard for you. When a man
• 53:24
  says, you know what, I'm not trying to argue with you. I'm
• 53:28
  just trying to go, why do you why? Why do you why do
• 53:30
  we walk up behind the man? Why do we continue to gas like the
• 53:36
  situation? Oh, I know why because that's learning behavior, because we want
• 53:40
  to get our point across, because you're gonna listen to what I'm telling you,
• 53:45
  this is what we do, and then't guess what, Before you know
• 53:51
  it, someone ends up, her police are called, someone's going to jail.
• 53:54
  Then you got a ton of legal feats when you could have just simply
• 54:00
  out the way and say, you know what, You're right, baby,
• 54:00
  you're right, you got this, you got this. You could have simply
• 54:06
  just walked away. But you women, you think you can stand tote a
• 54:12
  toll with a man. No, stop doing that. Stop verbally assaulting that
• 54:19
  man. Stop mentally and emotionally abusing this man. Why why are you doing
• 54:25
  this? Why are you tearing this man down for the next person. I
• 54:37
  just I really try to wrap my mind around these situations. When he's telling
• 54:50
  you just let me go. I don't want to argue, man, just
• 54:53
  I'm just trying to go, man, just move man, move, Get
• 54:58
  the hell out of that man. Wait, Let that man get out the
• 55:00
  door before it escalates into something worse, before someone's life ends, and then
• 55:06
  someone's going to prison. But no one but you women, some of y'all
• 55:13
  cannot get again. You can't get that through your thick ass skull. You
• 55:15
  want to run behind him because you want to get the last word. You're
• 55:20
  trying to prove a point for what what point are you're trying to prove?
• 55:28
  Let the argument in. Let it play out the way it's gonna play out.
• 55:32
  Stop trying to hold these men hostage. Baby, Let that man go.
• 55:37
  It's devastating. Every time you turn on the news, you see where
• 55:44
  woman finds out husband is cheating and shoots him, and the mistress woman finds
• 55:52
  boyfriend had a baby on her, shoots the husband or boyfriend or whatever for
• 55:57
  what. Then you lose your freedom. Then you're sitting behind bars, looking
• 56:05
  crazy, talking about could have shot a water, what you could have done,
• 56:10
  what you would have done, or what you should have done. You
• 56:15
  should have walked away, You could have walked away, you wouldn't be sitting
• 56:21
  in jail. But now you're locked up because you and your ego, because
• 56:30
  ain't no man gonna play with you. You're not gonna do me like this.
• 56:36
  So you're trying to prove a point. Some of your women be on
• 56:40
  that thin line between love and hate. Shit, man say he don't want
• 56:47
  to be with you, and I'm old. You're pulling up to his job.
• 56:50
  You're calling his phone. He blocked you. You're calling from a different
• 56:52
  number. He blocked you again. You're all on his social media page.
• 56:58
  You're talking in social media page. You got your home girl, You're gonna
• 57:00
  look at this page? Who is that beachy with? That's sickening to me,
• 57:07
  disgusting to me, all because this man says, I don't want to
• 57:15
  be with you anymore, or I'm not trying to argue with you, So
• 57:22
  you instigate the fight. You push and push and push and push to the
• 57:30
  man pushes back and out. He's going to jail because now all of a
• 57:32
  sudden, you're the victim, when really you were the antagonist. You provoke
• 57:37
  this, you're the little girl that cried wolf. And then when this really
• 57:45
  happens, if you really truly are a victim of the mess about, no
• 57:50
  one's taking you Seriously, Why is this so hard for women to keep their
• 57:58
  hands to themselves. What is hitting him gonna do? What is slapping him
• 58:02
  gonna do? What is all that gonna do? What is jumping in his
• 58:07
  face gonna do? My brother, let's get a gas sharing his story.
• 58:14
  He's a victim. The wife. It's almost like your women. I don't
• 58:37
  know if you're seeking some type of control? Is this a control thing?
• 58:40
  What is it that you feel like you have to you have to treat your
• 58:45
  spouse this way? Let me know, fellas, like, what do you
• 58:52
  think why why do you think women do this? Women? Why do you
• 58:57
  think we do this? I think it's more for a sense of control,
• 59:04
  you know, when you go back and like I said, you look at
• 59:07
  Dawayne Haskins. I just was reading a story the other day, the girl
• 59:13
  Loving Hip Hop or whatever. Brittany Taylor was accused of allegedly beating a baby
• 59:22
  daddy with a bag, but she says old he was abusive to me.
• 59:27
  But if he's ABC D E F G, then why do you stay?
• 59:34
  I know it's not easier to walk away from a domestic violence relationship. I
• 59:37
  know it's not. I've been in one, so I understand wholeheartedly. But
• 59:45
  if he's doing all of this. Why keep having babies with him? Why
• 59:49
  stay with him? No man deserves to be abused. No man, And
• 1:00:01
  I'm telling you this, fellas, you don't deserve this. You deserve to
• 1:00:07
  be happy, just like we women want to be happy. You have friends
• 1:00:15
  and family that instigate this, that gas like these situations. Girl, get
• 1:00:23
  him, get him, girl. He probably deserved it. Anyway, those
• 1:00:27
  are some of the comments that I saw when Dwayne Haskins was assaulted by his
• 1:00:32
  wife. The comments the women, Oh he probably deserved it. What did
• 1:00:38
  he do? Now? Your victim blieming, regardless of what he did,
• 1:00:45
  does not warrant you women to put your hands on these men. So keep
• 1:00:47
  your hands to yourself. Stop playing in these men face. Stop all of
• 1:00:52
  that. But what maybe God, God didn't stop at that one man.
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  I know you love him, or you in love or lust or whatever you
• 1:01:01
  want to call him a baby. It's it's many men out here that are
• 1:01:06
  gonna do right by you, but you want to be abusive to this.
• 1:01:17
  So again, ladies, why is it so hard for you to keep your
• 1:01:23
  hands to yourself? Why what is that gonna prove? You're slapping him in
• 1:01:30
  the face? What is that gonna prove he gonna get up and leave you,
• 1:01:37
  and then you're gonna be sitting out that boy yourself, looking crazy and
• 1:01:40
  trying to figure out why did he leave you? Because he got tired of
• 1:01:43
  you. He got tired of you talking to him like he was crazy.
• 1:01:45
  He got tired of you hitting on him, slapping him all in the face.
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  He got sicker all of that. That's why he left you. Then
• 1:01:58
  you're trying to play the victim in your next relationship and say, oh,
• 1:02:00
  well, you know he was this, he was that, when really it
• 1:02:04
  was you for some of your ladies aren't ready for that conversation. Some of
• 1:02:09
  your ladies aren't ready to take accountability for some of the things that you do.
• 1:02:16
  I know that's a tough pill to swallow, baby, but I'm telling
• 1:02:19
  you, let let accountability to set you free. Walk away. If a
• 1:02:28
  relationship gets to a point where it's physical, somebody needs to walk away,
• 1:02:31
  because you know what's gonna happen. Nine times out of ten, someone's gonna
• 1:02:36
  end up dead or behind bars for a very long time because someone did not
• 1:02:40
  choose to walk away. Because we, as a woman, we have to
• 1:02:45
  get the last word. He says something we got to come back. What
• 1:02:50
  I thought, that's what you say, and you been out saying nothing,
• 1:02:52
  and we just keep going and going. We don't know when they'll be quiet.
• 1:03:00
  We don't know when, but we're glad we gassed. Like a lot
• 1:03:07
  of these situations, and then we want to jump on social media, we
• 1:03:10
  want to get family involved for what to escalate him and make this even worse,
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  which in the case of Kadisiah Brown, your mother made it worse.
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  The mama should have said, pull up, Kadisia, k Now, we're
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  not gonna do this. The mama should have stepped in. But guess what,
• 1:03:36
  I'm almost willing to bet that the mama asks just like this. I'm
• 1:03:40
  almost willing to put money on it. This is the way the mama asks
• 1:03:43
  that. The mama asks just like this, foolish, just like this.
• 1:03:50
  I'm willing to believe that. But again, in that situation, there's no
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  winners because again, like I told you, you have four children without a
• 1:04:01
  mama and a daddy. Yeah, mama maybe out of out of jail for
• 1:04:06
  temporarily, but when she goes to regular court, Mama's going to do some
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  time. Again, we don't know what happened prior to that, but again
• 1:04:23
  there were reports of just being a history of domestic violence in this relationship.
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  Why do we hold I guess maybe I'll never understand why we hold onto toxicity.
• 1:04:40
  I never understand that. And men are suffering in silence. They can't
• 1:04:45
  talk to anybody because no one's listening to them. They don't believe that men
• 1:04:50
  are victims when they are. Look at the Rcally tribe. Everyone forgot about
• 1:04:57
  the two boys that testified against our Kelly because they were so focused on the
• 1:05:01
  women. Because that's what society has betrayed. That's the narrative that men are
• 1:05:08
  not victims of domestic violence. We saw it unfold right in front of our
• 1:05:12
  very eyes with Johnny Depp and Amber heard. We saw it unfold. We
• 1:05:21
  saw it, We saw it, but yet nothing's being done. So I
• 1:05:34
  want to play this last video, jump into the last comment for tonight,
• 1:05:40
  and then I want to talk about share my final thoughts and talk about some
• 1:05:44
  of the upcoming episodes or a Black Girl Interrupted Soul. Here we go,
• 1:05:49
  and welcome back to the factor. I'm sentured. It's a strong reminder that
• 1:05:54
  there is a two way street when it comes to domestic violence. Police say
• 1:05:58
  Gregory Kirk was shot and killed while visiting his three year old son in Pasadena,
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  Texas. Kurt's family said he was a victim of domestic violence and abuse
• 1:06:08
  by his ex wife before she allegedly shot and killed him in front of their
• 1:06:13
  child. Now Samantha Washington reportedly had plans to kill herself, but she was
• 1:06:17
  arrested by police before she could do that. Joining us now on the factor
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  on censi to talk about domestic violence and abuse when it comes to men is
• 1:06:27
  Shall Win with the Houston Area Women Center. A lot of people chow almost
• 1:06:31
  joke about men being the victims of domestic violence, but this case is a
• 1:06:38
  strong reminder of how serious and how deadly it can be. Men are victims
• 1:06:44
  too. That's what people need to know. They are not excused from domestic
• 1:06:49
  violence. They don't get a hall pass. In this case, it is
• 1:06:53
  really no joke. Somebody died allegedly at the hands of his partner because he
• 1:06:58
  was a victim of domestic violence. People need to know that men oftentimes are
• 1:07:04
  afraid to come forward because of the stigma or the ridicule we are in the
• 1:07:11
  society where we think a man needs to man up and buck up, and
• 1:07:14
  how could a woman harm him when we know one and four of men is
• 1:07:17
  a victim of domestic violence. Wow, that's a huge number when you think
• 1:07:23
  about it, one and four. And it's also a major societal problem that
• 1:07:28
  we have this stigma attached to men being victims of domestic violence. And so
• 1:07:34
  we all as a society will have to work on this problem so people won't
• 1:07:40
  fear coming forward telling their story and their situation of abuse. We hear it
• 1:07:46
  all the time. Not only do they fear coming forward or facing stigma,
• 1:07:50
  but they fear not being believed that somebody will think they're the perpetrator and not
• 1:07:57
  the victim. We've got to change that narrat Men suffer in silence. Oftentimes
• 1:08:02
  they don't even report to the police because they are afraid that the evidence won't
• 1:08:08
  weigh against them or people won't believe them. We need to know that men
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  can be victims because it's not a gender issue. This is an issue domestic
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  violence is an issue of power and control. Who wields and exerts their threats,
• 1:08:21
  intimidation, physical violence over another person, and sometimes it can be women.
• 1:08:30
  In this case, Gregory Kirk has already gone dead, the victim of
• 1:08:35
  domestic violence and a deadly shooting by his ex wife, according to police and
• 1:08:41
  his family. If someone is going through a situation like that, that chow,
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  we're talking about men, what should they do? What should be their
• 1:08:49
  first step? You know, we talk about this a lot in the space
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  we work. If it's predictable, it is preventable. And by that I
• 1:08:59
  mean what were some of the warning signs? Was there stocking, verbal threat,
• 1:09:03
  intimidation? Was there a history of violence? We need people to know
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  you don't have to be a woman to call the Houston Area Woman Center.
• 1:09:11
  Who can be a man called for support. Our hotline is twenty four seven,
• 1:09:15
  free of charge, confidential. That's where you can learn about safety planning,
• 1:09:20
  planning your safety. Is there a gun in a house? Do you
• 1:09:24
  have an exit plan that may save you your life? People need to know
• 1:09:30
  that if it's predictable, there's a history of violence, there's a gun in
• 1:09:33
  the house, it could be preventable. And just because we're the Houston Area
• 1:09:38
  Woman Center doesn't mean that you can't call if you're a man or you know
• 1:09:42
  somebody who might be suffering. Now I'll listen, look at the people around
• 1:09:45
  the victim. If it's a male, what should we be doing. If
• 1:09:48
  we're family members or friends and we see that they're going through a situation like
• 1:09:54
  this. Apparently in mister Kurt's case, his family apparently knew, So what
• 1:10:00
  advice would you give? Family members? And France, we often talk about
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  something we call the three rs to recognize, respond, and refer. Listen
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  without judgment, be that compassionate ear that he needs. If he's talking about
• 1:10:17
  a history of violence, say this doesn't have to happen to you. You
• 1:10:23
  don't deserve this. The worst thing that anyone can hear is how could he
• 1:10:27
  do that to you? How could she do that to you? Why don't
• 1:10:29
  you just leave? Those aren't reassuring. It doesn't come from a place of
• 1:10:33
  support. It comes across as judgmental. So listen, respond with kindness,
• 1:10:39
  with compassion, and then finally refer, tell alone that helps available, that
• 1:10:45
  they're not alone, that they can be believed, and that resources like the
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  Houston Area Women's Center are available for them to just pick up the phone.
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  We have a live chat now on our website as well. There are avenues
• 1:10:57
  where people can get support and healing so they can live a life free of
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  violence and end the violence that they might be endured. All right, child,
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  when with the Houston Area Women's Center, and we want to send our
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  condolences to the family of Gregory Kirk. We'll be back with more factor I'm
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  censored in just a moment. So again we're seeing and hearing you men being
• 1:11:27
  afraid to speak out for fear that they won't be believed, for fear that
• 1:11:35
  no one's gonna take them Seriously, men feel like they have nowhere to turn,
• 1:11:43
  which needs to change the stigma when it comes to domestic violence against men
• 1:11:56
  I think needs to be taken as seriously as domestic violence again as women,
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  because as you just heard, they don't take domestic violence against men seriously.
• 1:12:09
  They don't believe that this can happen to men. They just they don't believe
• 1:12:13
  that men are y'all are supposed to toughen. Y'all are big, bad,
• 1:12:17
  tough guys. Do you know how you letting this woman do this to you
• 1:12:20
  or that to you? It happens. And again, when it comes to
• 1:12:25
  domestic violence, it does not necessarily mean it's physical. It could be verbal
• 1:12:30
  abuse, it could be emotional abuse. So it's not always physical. I
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  don't you know, and I can understand why when they say domestic violence,
• 1:12:41
  we automatically think physical. But we also have to throw in the in the
• 1:12:45
  fact that you can verbally abuse your partner, you can mentally and emotionally abuse
• 1:12:50
  someone telling them that they're worthless. That's mental abuse, that's emotional abuse because
• 1:12:58
  you're tearing down a person of esteem. And yes, it happens to men
• 1:13:05
  more times than your guys cared a thing. It happens. So leads me
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  to this last scenario. Would you want a woman to treat your son this
• 1:13:26
  way? So, ladies, I'm talking to you because you have you may
• 1:13:33
  or may not have a son the way you mistreat this man. How would
• 1:13:39
  you feel if this was your son? How would you feel if you had
• 1:13:42
  a woman that was doing this to your son. You'd be ready to go
• 1:13:45
  over there and fight and kill her and all types of stuff, wouldn't you.
• 1:13:54
  But if that's how you feel, you need to stop and think that
• 1:13:58
  this is someone's son that you're doing and this too, this is someone's child,
• 1:14:02
  this is somebody's brother that you're doing this too. So before you decide
• 1:14:09
  you want to be physically emotionally abusive to a man. Think about your son,
• 1:14:18
  and how would you feel if a woman mistreated your son that exact same
• 1:14:24
  way. Would you like it? Would it feel good to you? Or
• 1:14:30
  would you be encouraging your son to leave that situation? Would you be trying
• 1:14:32
  to make it, help help plan an escape to get your son out of
• 1:14:36
  that situation. That's what we need to do, y'alls. As a people,
• 1:14:45
  we have to start addressing these issues head on. We have to start
• 1:14:51
  bringing conversations like this to the forefront. We have to continue doing this.
• 1:14:59
  We have to start allowing our fellas to feel safe to share their stories because
• 1:15:04
  men are embarrassed. Men. Men can't tell excuse me, they can't tell
• 1:15:11
  people that I'm being abused because they're not taken seriously. And as you heard
• 1:15:17
  one and four men are victims of domestic violence. Whether it's a straight relationship,
• 1:15:25
  whether it's gay, bisexual, whatever, whatever it is, men are
• 1:15:31
  going through the same thing. And what can we do better to help these
• 1:15:39
  men? What can we do to say you know what I got you,
• 1:15:45
  I believe you. How can I help you? But we got to create
• 1:15:51
  some safe plait, safe spaces for these men to be able to come sit
• 1:15:55
  down and talk to us and say, hey, and my wife or my
• 1:15:59
  girlfriend, my husband and my boyfriend, whatever the situation is. We need
• 1:16:02
  to make it safe for these men to be able to sit down and talk
• 1:16:05
  to us and say, hey, you know what, I'm a victim.
• 1:16:12
  So again, ladies, you have a son, you may have two sons,
• 1:16:15
  You may even you know a daughter. Would you want your child?
• 1:16:20
  Would you want this for your child? Again, ladies, I want you
• 1:16:26
  to think about this. The next time you hop up in that man's face,
• 1:16:29
  the next time you slap that man, the next time you throw something
• 1:16:32
  at that man, I want you to put your son in those very same
• 1:16:35
  shoes because that man that you're doing that too, that's someone's son. And
• 1:16:43
  then you come back and you let me know if you feel like that's acceptable.
• 1:16:48
  If you don't feel like if it's acceptable, then stop doing it,
• 1:16:56
  because baby, I'm here to tell you them table's gonna show enough turn you
• 1:17:00
  do this to somebody's son. Somebody's gonna do this to your son, and
• 1:17:05
  that's not fair. There's no man that walks this earth that need that should
• 1:17:14
  be mistreated verbally, physically, mentally, emotionally. He doesn't deserve that even
• 1:17:23
  you mothers that are abusive to your children, that have torn your son's self
• 1:17:28
  esteemed out, he doesn't deserve that. He deserves to be happy and healthy
• 1:17:35
  in a beautiful relationship, not having to come home and listen to you scream
• 1:17:40
  and yell and arguing. You're slapping him in the face and you're telling him
• 1:17:44
  he ain't worth shit. Because we show empathy to you, so that needs
• 1:17:53
  to be reciprocated to our men, because our men are really truly out here
• 1:17:59
  suffering silence. So again, ladies, would you want a woman to treat
• 1:18:05
  your son the same way? Do you think that it's acceptable for you to
• 1:18:11
  mistreat these men the way that you do and not expect it to come back
• 1:18:15
  to your son or sons? It's not acceptable. And to you fellas that
• 1:18:26
  are going through this, it's not your fault because I know people love to
• 1:18:30
  victims shame or they love to point the finger and say, oh, what's
• 1:18:34
  the victim's spout? But what did you do to provoke her? No,
• 1:18:41
  I don't care what you did. What's the oil of saying? Sticks and
• 1:18:46
  stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me. They do.
• 1:18:56
  The external bruises may go away, But it's the internal bruise using that
• 1:19:00
  lasts a lifetime. But some of you women are ready to have that conversation
• 1:19:08
  though. Some of you are that homegirl that rides around with your homegirl to
• 1:19:13
  go stalk this man. Y'all are stalking in social media sites. That's why
• 1:19:19
  some of y'all ain't saying okay, because this is what you do. You
• 1:19:28
  think it's acceptable for her to go up there and put sugar in this man
• 1:19:32
  gass ting. You think it's acceptable to go and poke holes in its tires.
• 1:19:36
  You think it's succeptable to put a snick up on his gas team.
• 1:19:40
  You women, some of you women that ride along with your home girls and
• 1:19:43
  you know what her intend is. Y'all feel like this is okay. But
• 1:19:45
  when those tables turn, when karma turns around to bite you in your ass,
• 1:19:49
  I want you to keep that same energy. That's what I want to
• 1:19:56
  happen. So again, it's not acceptable, ladies. If you don't want
• 1:20:01
  it done to you, then don't do it to anybody else. If you
• 1:20:04
  don't want that carment to come back to your children, then stop stop doing
• 1:20:08
  that that bull caring that you're doing. Stop playing like that. You men
• 1:20:18
  walk away from those types of relationships. Stop sitting in the midst of toxicity,
• 1:20:24
  because I see it all the time on social media. We see it
• 1:20:27
  on these reality shows where men stay or they leave and the woman gets mad
• 1:20:36
  because he decides he's ready to go. He decides he's tired of you beating
• 1:20:42
  him down. So now you're mad because he left, So now you're stalking
• 1:20:46
  him. Now you're up there at his job acting a fool. So he
• 1:20:49
  loses his job. So guess what, he can't pay child support, So
• 1:20:54
  now you even more mad. Now, oh you're a deadbeat. Oh now
• 1:20:59
  you don't take care of your kids. Well, he lost his job number
• 1:21:02
  one because you carriage your ass up there to his job and clown because this
• 1:21:11
  man said he no longer wanted to be with you. So your figure,
• 1:21:19
  I'm gonna go up and I'm gonna make him want me. No, baby,
• 1:21:23
  let me tell you something. Anytime you gotta make a man, won't
• 1:21:25
  you let him go? Stop getting out here, y'all risk again. Y'all
• 1:21:30
  out here risking your freedom for what. In the case of Kadizia Brown,
• 1:21:39
  four children have lost their parents. Four mama's going to prison. Dad is
• 1:21:45
  in a cemetery, So who's really the victims? Those children, those babies
• 1:21:55
  didn't deserve that. Those those children deserve to grow old with their daddy.
• 1:22:02
  But because the mama made a very selfish decision that has not only affected her,
• 1:22:11
  but those four children that you're gonna one day have to sit down and
• 1:22:15
  explain to them why you kill their daddy. And I don't think you.
• 1:22:19
  I don't even believe you know why you did so, sad, I just
• 1:22:32
  let me put these resources up to any man that is in a domestic violence
• 1:22:43
  relationship. Let me move this this banner out of the weight. You're never
• 1:22:51
  alone. What I have up here on the screen is the National Domestic Violence
• 1:22:58
  Hotline. This number, it's available twenty four hours, seven days or week,
• 1:23:03
  three hundred and sixty five days, three to sixty six y'all of his
• 1:23:06
  leap year. And those are phone numbers you could text or call. You
• 1:23:17
  can text if you feel uncomfortable with talking, you could chat, call somebody.
• 1:23:29
  Fellas, you don't deserve this. Your men don't. Y'all, y'all
• 1:23:36
  don't deserve to be abused, no matter the circumstance. You men don't.
• 1:23:55
  But again y'all. One in four women and one in nine men have experienced
• 1:24:00
  domestic violence, whether it's physical, sexual violence and or stalking. That's all
• 1:24:12
  domestic violence. Sickening, y'all, sicker knee? Why why, ladies again,
• 1:24:34
  that man said he don't want to be with your baby. Let that
• 1:24:36
  man go. Let that man go his way. If he say he don't
• 1:24:41
  want to August, stop arguing with him, let him go. Let's let's
• 1:24:44
  let me, let me say this. Pola has always prevailed because in the
• 1:24:49
  heat of the moment, you may say or do something that you may or
• 1:24:53
  may not regret. So we have to be mindful of where we are in
• 1:24:58
  our thoughts and our feelings and our emotions. We have to learn how to
• 1:25:00
  control those emotions and stop reacting over things that are just so minor, because
• 1:25:10
  we end up with situations such as the case of Kadizia Brown. She and
• 1:25:17
  our feelings on Facebook. She wants the whole world of being our business.
• 1:25:24
  You're un alive, your husband in front of your four children. They didn't
• 1:25:33
  deserve that. Those babies did not deserve that. Those children did not ask
• 1:25:38
  for that. But because you so selfishly took their father away from them,
• 1:25:43
  because you were mad, the kids were mad. You were mad when you
• 1:25:47
  could have just simply went an erra, just fixed something. You didn't have
• 1:25:50
  to. What was the gun for? Because to me, that sounds like
• 1:25:55
  intent. To me, that sounds premeditated. To me, it sounded like
• 1:25:58
  you wanted to do something too. And that's just my perception. That may
• 1:26:01
  not be the truth, but that's what that sounds like to me. What
• 1:26:04
  did you need to you know, the gun for? What made you go
• 1:26:09
  pick up the gun anyway? Was it to scare him? What was it
• 1:26:12
  to do? I guess maybe we just have to wait until the trialncy what
• 1:26:21
  the outcome isn't let the jury decide. I feel like you need to go
• 1:26:29
  to prison for the rest of your life. That's how I feel. You
• 1:26:36
  Let me know what you think. Let me know how you feel. What
• 1:26:41
  do you think? Because I really feel like this woman and her mamma need
• 1:26:48
  to be charged. The wife has already been trying to believe that. I
• 1:26:53
  feel like the mamma needs to be as an accessory because you gasped at the
• 1:26:57
  situation. You did nothing to de escalate the situation. But now you can
• 1:27:01
  have four children without their mom and they dad four children, so they're no
• 1:27:10
  winners and no winners because you found out he was cheating, so or you
• 1:27:18
  find out he's doing this, you find out he had a baby on you,
• 1:27:23
  whatever, but now you want to un alive him. But what it's
• 1:27:31
  not worth the baby, it's not worth doing no time behind no man,
• 1:27:35
  It's not worth risking your freedom behind the man who you're losing the end anyway,
• 1:27:43
  because he's moved on to someone else. And you're sitting up here in
• 1:27:45
  jail, and now this woman is laughing at you, calling you the dummy,
• 1:27:56
  and she is out here living her best life with your with the person
• 1:28:00
  it should have been your man. Now who really won? Who is really
• 1:28:05
  the winner? Which brings me to my final thoughts, y'all, Domestic violence
• 1:28:20
  is never okay. It's never okay. It's never okay to put your hands
• 1:28:26
  on someone. Then your parents teach you to keep your hands to yourself.
• 1:28:34
  And yeah, I'm addressing you women because I've addressed you men. But you
• 1:28:43
  women, stop running up on these men when they're trying to go, Stop
• 1:28:45
  running up on them. Let them go, let them go, let them
• 1:28:46
  go out the door, girl, let them go. And then when you
• 1:28:50
  calm down. When he calms down, then y'all sit down and have a
• 1:28:54
  conversation. But all that jump it on social media? What was the point
• 1:28:58
  you were trying to prove? Why is that always the first thing we do
• 1:29:04
  when when things not going right? That's all we want to do is jump
• 1:29:08
  on social media for what we witness you kill your husband. Well, I'm
• 1:29:18
  sorry, we didn't physically see, but we heard it. We heard it.
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  But when it comes to domestic violence against the men, this needs to
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  be taken more. This needs to be taken a little more seriously. If
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  we have that same energy that we pour into women who are victims of domestic
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  violence, we need to continue that when it comes to men. I think
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  empathy and sympathy needs to go across the board for both men and for women
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  because they're victims, are both genders. So what do we do? I'm
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  just it took it, just you know, this conversation and night took me
• 1:30:11
  all the way back to my life as a domestic abuse survivor listening to this
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  woman kill her murder her husband on live Looking at a lot of these stories,
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  excuse me, y'all, looking at a lot of these stories where these
• 1:30:23
  women have killed their husbands because the husband's no longer don't want to be with
• 1:30:28
  them anymore, They've caught the husband cheating or whatever the situation is. We've
• 1:30:31
  seen this, and Noah doesn't always result in ending death, but someone ends
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  up going to jail for what? For what? Some of you ladies need
• 1:30:53
  some intense damn therapy, baby, I tell y'all. On that note,
• 1:30:59
  I'm gonna say his ladies, keep your damn hands to yourself. You don't
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  want that man putting his hands on you, then don't put your stop putting
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  your hands on him, period. Fellas. I understand, baby, I
• 1:31:12
  get it, but stop letting these women be abusive to you, whether it's
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  physical, whether it's verbal, whether it's mentally. That's not right. That's
• 1:31:27
  not right. It is not not not right, and it needs to end.
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  Oh, y'all. On that note, I'm sorry I rushed through this
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  episode tonight, but y'all know, like I said, like I stated earlier,
• 1:31:45
  I'm literally having a lupa's flare up and I just have to get on
• 1:31:49
  here and push through soul. Upcoming episodes for a Black Girl interrupted Soul tomorrow
• 1:31:58
  night again, I wanted to discuss relationships. But I have to bring another
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  story to the forefront, and this is a near dear personal situation and encounter
• 1:32:06
  that I'm going through right now, and that is the man that un alive
• 1:32:13
  my niece is now contacting me. So I want to talk about this tomorrow.
• 1:32:19
  I want to know what more can we do as a family to prevent
• 1:32:27
  this from happening to someone else? What can we do to stop this man
• 1:32:30
  from contacting as tomorrow's conversation. And then, of course, y'all, Monday
• 1:32:39
  made the first kicks off Mental Health Awareness Month, so every episode for the
• 1:32:45
  month of May will be in regards to mental health. I am gonna put
• 1:32:51
  together a special Mother's Day episode because I want to salute the mothers, whether
• 1:32:57
  you are biological mother, whether you're a stepmother, whether you're a firm mom,
• 1:33:02
  either way it goes. I want to give all the moms across the
• 1:33:05
  world their flowers. You deserve it. And then June we will start our
• 1:33:14
  panel on relationships. I cannot wait. I'm excited for that one for June.
• 1:33:23
  But yeah, May first kicks of Mental Health Awareness Month, and again
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  I will be addressing every topic with regards to mental health, anxiety, depression,
• 1:33:36
  schizophrenic, bipolar PTSD, and I will continue to fight to help remove
• 1:33:46
  the stigma from around the black community when it comes to mental health because it's
• 1:33:55
  being swept under the rug. Y'all are uncomfortable talking about it. Manner committing
• 1:34:00
  suicide, that black men are committing suicides at higher rates than white men.
• 1:34:05
  So I'm gonna address that. I want to wait that conversation up. So
• 1:34:15
  those are the upcoming episodes for Black Girl Interrupted. Again. Tomorrow night,
• 1:34:19
  I'm gonna be discussing the man that murdered my niece has now been contacting me,
• 1:34:28
  has recently been contacting me, sending me messages. But we'll get deep
• 1:34:33
  into that conversation tomorrow. But again, if you are wanting to be a
• 1:34:40
  guest, let me put this out here right now. I am not looking
• 1:34:45
  for a co host for Black Girl Interrupted. I've had a co host,
• 1:34:50
  it did not work out. So I want to collectively be in control of
• 1:34:57
  a show that I created, of a podcast that I create it. That's
• 1:35:01
  not to say that I do not want guests, but I do. I'm
• 1:35:06
  not looking for a co host. If you are wanting to be a guest,
• 1:35:12
  all Black Girl Interrupted at the If you look at the bottom of your
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  screen, you will see black Girl Interrupted one at gmail dot com. Send
• 1:35:20
  me an email. If you have a topic, idea, if it's something
• 1:35:25
  you want to come on a show and you want to talk about, send
• 1:35:28
  me an email to a black Girl Interrupted one at gmail dot com. I
• 1:35:32
  will say this. Please allow me twenty four to seventy two hours to respond.
• 1:35:38
  That way we can I can set up a meeting time where we could
• 1:35:42
  sit down and discuss what topic you would like to address, and set the
• 1:35:47
  date down, you know, put a date on the calendar for us to
• 1:35:50
  do this episode. But again, I'm not looking for a co host.
• 1:35:57
  Let me put that out there, you know. Again, if you would
• 1:36:01
  love to be if you would like to be a guest on Black Girl Interrupted.
• 1:36:04
  At the bottom of the screen there is the email. Please send me
• 1:36:08
  an email. I do not discuss anything with regards to being a guest or
• 1:36:13
  topics through instant Messenger. I only do it through email so that way I
• 1:36:18
  can respond to you, I can keep up with the thread. I can
• 1:36:21
  put it on a calendar for us to set up a meeting where we are
• 1:36:25
  able to discuss the topic and or the conversation topic conversation, same thing,
• 1:36:31
  and the date that you would like to come on a show. Also to
• 1:36:36
  keep up with any upcoming events for a Black Girl Interrupted at the bottom of
• 1:36:41
  your screen. Oops, there, we're gonna let me go this way.
• 1:36:43
  Here we are. Um, there's the website www dot black Girl Interrupted podcast
• 1:36:48
  dot com. Um. I need to actually go and upload some of the
• 1:36:51
  most recent UM episodes. Um. But uh, that will let you know
• 1:36:59
  what events or what things are coming up for a Black Girl Interrupted. That
• 1:37:04
  will keep you updated. I'm also when the process are putting together a newsletter
• 1:37:10
  so I can start sending emails out. So again, if you want to
• 1:37:15
  be on the email list, please send me an email. I'm so sorry.
• 1:37:18
  Go to the website, send it in the box at the bottom.
• 1:37:23
  I will receive the email. Again, Please allow me in twenty four to
• 1:37:27
  seventy two hours to respond. I do have a new work schedule, so
• 1:37:33
  I'm really working to start responding to all my emails on Saturdays, really dedicating
• 1:37:39
  and setting a time where I'm you know, just responding to any emails or
• 1:37:44
  any inquiries that I may receive. So y'all be patient with me. I
• 1:37:47
  am trying to get acclimated and working in my new working my new schedule.
• 1:37:53
  But again, any updates with regards of what's going on with the show,
• 1:37:57
  there's the link to There is the part website down at the bottom, y'all
• 1:38:01
  www dot black Girl Interrupted podcast dot com. Again, if you are looking
• 1:38:06
  to be a guest on the show, If there's a topic you want me
• 1:38:11
  to address, if it's something that I may not have discussed and you want
• 1:38:14
  me to bring it to the table, send me an email y'all at black
• 1:38:17
  Girl Interrupted one at gmail dot com. And I'm gonna stress stress dresses enough.
• 1:38:24
  Please allow me twenty four to seventy two hours to respond. So,
• 1:38:30
  oh yeah, that was tough. Normally these topics go a little longer.
• 1:38:34
  But your girl is not feeling good, as y'all can see. My neck
• 1:38:38
  is like so stiff, uh and my legs hurt so again tomorrow night.
• 1:38:46
  Oh yeah. Also, the timing for the podcast will change. I will
• 1:38:50
  now be going live at eight thirty due to my work schedule. So I'll
• 1:38:56
  still be going live every Tuesday, every Thursday, but it will be eight
• 1:39:00
  thirty Central time, nine thirty Eastern time. Again, I just want to
• 1:39:05
  say thank you. I love you guys so so much for all the continuous
• 1:39:10
  support that you guys show me day in and day out. I appreciate the
• 1:39:15
  patience and the grace that y'all continue to give me. So again, tomorrow
• 1:39:20
  night, eight thirty Central time, nine thirty Eastern time, I will be
• 1:39:27
  discussing and going into a little more detail with regards to the murder of my
• 1:39:30
  niece and how this murderer, this monster, this demonic spirit is now starting
• 1:39:35
  to contact me and I will be posting some of the messages that he's been
• 1:39:42
  sending. So I love you, guys, I really do. I hope
• 1:39:46
  you guys have a great rest of your night. Again, Happy Wednesday.
• 1:39:50
  I hope tomorrow is better for you regardless of what happened today, Leave it
• 1:39:57
  on today and praying know that tomorrow will be a better day. And I
• 1:40:02
  love your love, Your love you, and I will see y'all tomorrow night.
• 1:40:06
  See you later.