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- Lucas: There is a moment every senior leader eventually faces and most handle badly. It is the resignation conversation. Not the actual leaving, but the window between deciding to go and walking out the door. Luna: And by 'handle badly' you mean they either give too much notice and get managed out, or give too little and torch relationships. Lucas: Exactly. I have seen a CFO do it perfectly, and her approach is worth dissecting because it is replicable. She was at a Fortune 500 industrial company — let us call it Acme Industrial — and she had accepted a CEO role at a private equity backed firm in a different sub-sector. No direct conflict, but the board was sensitive. Luna: Sensitive how? Non-compete? Or just the optics of losing a CFO? Lucas: Both. The non-compete was eighteen months, geographically broad. Her new role was not a direct competitor, but the language in her contract was vague enough that the company could have made life difficult. She needed a clean exit, a signed release from the non-compete, and the CEO as a reference — not an adversary. Luna: That is a tall order. Most senior leaders I know who try that end up with a 'we accept your resignation effective immediately' and a security escort. Lucas: Right. And that is exactly what she avoided. She spent seven weeks on the exit, and structured it in three phases. Phase one: the quiet conversation with the board chair, not the CEO, and certainly not HR. Luna: Wait — she went to the board chair before the CEO? That is a risky move. Lucas: It is, but it worked because she had a relationship with the chair from prior board meetings and committee work. She scheduled a fifteen minute call, no agenda shared in advance. She said, 'I have an opportunity that I am going to pursue. I want to handle this in a way that respects the company, and I need your advice on how to approach Jim' — that was the CEO. She framed it as seeking counsel, not asking permission. Luna: That is smart. The chair becomes an ally before the CEO even knows. And the chair probably respects that she did not blindside him. Lucas: Exactly. The chair said, 'Take your time, let us do this right.' That gave her cover. She then had a one on one with the CEO three days later. She told him she was leaving, gave the reason — 'a CEO role I cannot pass up' — and emphasised that she wanted to help with the transition. She proposed a six week notice period, with a specific handoff plan. Luna: And the non-compete? When did she bring that up? Lucas: Not in that meeting. She waited until the CEO had processed the news. A week later, she sent him a one page memo outlining the transition timeline, the key risks she saw in the finance function, and a list of internal candidates who could step up. Buried on page two was a line: 'I would appreciate a mutual release from the non-compete to avoid any ambiguity.' She made it feel like a routine part of a clean exit. Luna: So she traded transition help for the waiver. That is a classic negotiation — give something concrete, get something concrete. Lucas: Exactly. And she had data to back it up. She calculated that the company would save roughly four hundred thousand dollars in search fees if they promoted internally, versus hiring an external CFO. She laid out that math in the memo. The CEO took it to the board, and within two weeks they agreed to the release and a reduced notice period of four weeks. Luna: Reduced? She originally proposed six, but ended with four? Lucas: Yes. And that was intentional. She knew that once the news was public, having her around for six weeks could be awkward. She offered four as a compromise. The CEO felt like he had won something, and she got out faster with the reference intact. Luna: And the reference? How did she ensure that? Lucas: She scripted the internal announcement. She drafted an email that the CEO sent to the organization, which included a line about her 'exceptional leadership and partnership.' She asked him to include that specific language. She also scheduled a thirty minute call with him two weeks after her last day to discuss the transition — that call became the moment he gave her the verbal reference she could use later. Luna: That is meticulous. Most people just hope the reference works out. She engineered it. Lucas: Right. And that is the difference between a senior leader who leaves gracefully and one who leaves scorched earth. The whole process took seven weeks from first call to last day. She walked away with the non-compete waived, the CEO as a reference, and her equity — which had a performance vesting cliff — she negotiated a pro rata acceleration for the months she worked that year. Luna: I want to pause on the equity piece. How did she get the acceleration? That is usually hard to negotiate on the way out. Lucas: She used the same framing: 'I want to leave the company in a strong position, and I need certainty on my own financial planning.' She pointed out that she had already met the performance targets for the year based on the Q3 results. The board agreed to accelerate sixty percent of the unvested shares. It was not a full acceleration, but it was significant. Luna: And the board probably saw that as cheap compared to the cost of a bad exit or a lawsuit. Lucas: Exactly. The total cost to the company was negligible — a few hundred thousand dollars in share dilution — versus the risk of her leaving and badmouthing the firm or, worse, suing over the non-compete. They chose the path of least resistance. Luna: It sounds like she controlled every step. What about the handoff itself? How did she make sure the transition was smooth? Lucas: She created a handoff document that was almost a manual for the role. It covered ongoing projects, key stakeholder relationships, pending decisions, and her recommended timeline for each. She shared it with the interim CFO and the CEO two weeks before she left. Then she held two half day overlap sessions with the interim person where she walked through the document and introduced her to the external auditors and the board audit committee chair. Luna: That is a serious investment of time. But it probably made the interim CFO's life much easier and reduced the chance of a post departure fire drill. Lucas: Exactly. And it paid off in reputation. Six months later, when she needed a reference for her new board seat — she was joining a public company board — the CEO gave her a glowing recommendation. The interim CFO also became a reference. She turned a potential adversarial departure into a network strengthening event. Luna: Alright, let us step back. What are the key takeaways for someone in a similar position? Say a VP or C-suite leader planning to leave in the next six months. Lucas: Three things. One: talk to the board chair or a trusted director before the CEO if you have that relationship. It creates a safety net. Two: give more notice than you think you need — four to six weeks — and offer a specific handoff plan. That gives you leverage for the non-compete and equity conversations. Three: script the narrative. The internal announcement, the reference call, even the goodbye email — write them yourself and get the CEO to sign off. Luna: I would add a fourth: know what you want before you walk into the first conversation. She knew she wanted the non-compete waiver, equity acceleration, and a reference. She did not negotiate from a position of 'I hope this works out.' She had a list. Lucas: Absolutely. And that list came from talking to her personal board — the mentors and peers she consulted before making the decision to leave. She did not go in blind. Luna: Which brings up a question for our listeners: if you are a senior leader, odds are you have helped others transition out. But have you actually planned your own departure as carefully as you would plan a major acquisition? Most people have not. Lucas: And that is the gap this episode is meant to close. Because the cost of a bad exit is not just the lost equity or the non-compete fight. It is the relationships you burn — and those take years to rebuild. Luna: If we have helped you think through a career move or decision, a couple of dollars a month is genuinely what keeps these going — buy me a coffee dot com slash fexingo, if you have gotten something out of them. Lucas: Yeah, that is exactly right. And we mean it — small amounts, real difference, and it helps us stay independent and ad free. Luna: So back to the CFO's playbook: one more detail that struck me. She did not resign on a Friday afternoon. She did it on a Tuesday morning, after the board meeting. Why does that matter? Lucas: Because Tuesday morning gives the company the rest of the week to process and plan. A Friday resignation forces the CEO to sit over the weekend with the news and usually leads to a worse reaction. She wanted the CEO to have time to talk to the board and HR while the wheels were still turning. Luna: And she also timed it after the board meeting so that the board already had the Q3 numbers and knew the company was in good shape. No one was panicking. Lucas: Right. She controlled the context. That is the theme of this whole approach: control the context, and the content takes care of itself. Luna: I think the biggest takeaway for me is that a resignation is not the end of a relationship. It is the start of a new phase of that relationship. And how you handle that phase determines whether you have an ally or an adversary. Lucas: And that ally can open doors for years. The CFO I mentioned — she is now on two public boards and her former CEO is a reference for both. That is the payoff. Luna: Alright, next episode we are going to look at the reverse: how to handle a peer who resigns and leaves you with their responsibilities. It is a different set of challenges. Lucas: That is a good one. For now, if you are planning a move, take the seven week approach. Talk to your board, write the handoff memo, and negotiate the terms before you announce. It works.