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How to Believe in yourself when it’s not pretty (S5) S24:E3 Mon · Inspirations for Your Life

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Well, hello, everyone, and welcome to Inspirations of
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Your Life.
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So without any further ado, guys, let's kick
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this show off.
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But before I kick the show off, I
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want to share what this week is about,
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because this is a very important week with
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a lot of great information that I think
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a lot of you will definitely, how can
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I say, appreciate what we're doing and why
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we're doing this.
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And I think that's an important thing for
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a lot of people to understand, is that
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when we think about what's going on and
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we think about where things are happening, a
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lot of people don't realize all the potential
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that they have in their own lives.
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So the week's master topic is about understanding
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compassion over perfectionist series five show 24.
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This is episode number three, and we are
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talking all about how to believe in yourself
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when it's not pretty, guys.
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This is a Monday.
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And like I said, welcome back to Understanding
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Compassion Over Perfection, the show where we talk
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honestly about growth, hearing and healing execution and
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becoming, how can I say, ladies and gentlemen,
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the kind of person who keeps going even
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when the path is not clear.
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Hey, I'm John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
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podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student, passionate
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lifelong learner, and very grateful to now be
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a published author.
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Yes, very grateful for that.
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This week is all about something deeply personal,
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incredibly practical, learning how to believe in yourself
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when it's not pretty.
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Another important topic we'll talk about.
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Not when everything is polished, not when the
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results are obvious or known, not when everybody
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understands your vision, but in the messy middle,
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where growth is uncomfortable, progress is quiet, and
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self-trust has to be built, well, one
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step or one decision at a time.
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You know, a lot of people, guys, think
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confidence comes first and action comes later.
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In reality, it works the other way.
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You act, you learn, you stumble, you adjust,
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and over time, you build confidence.
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So don't think you're going to get confidence
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right away, and your confidence will begin to
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rise, not quickly, but slowly.
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And belief is not always a feeling.
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Sometimes belief is a choice you make while
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your hands are shaking and your mind is
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full of unpenetrable doubt, right?
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So today, I'm talking about what it means
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to keep moving, to keep building, and keep
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trusting yourself, even when perfection is appearing to
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be impossible.
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You see, this episode is for the dreamers,
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the builders, the leaders, the creators, and the
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people who are still trying to become something,
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right?
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So let's just dive right in, all right?
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I know you're ready.
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So growth feels uncomfortable up close.
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Yeah.
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And that's why sometimes people back away from
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it.
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When you're in the middle of change, it
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rarely feels graceful.
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It feels messy, awkward, and uncertain, but that
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does not mean that it's not working.
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Number two, guys, progress is not always visible.
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Some of the most important growth happens quietly
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before you can measure it.
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Just because you cannot see it yet does
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not mean nothing is happening under the scenes,
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right?
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Number three, belief is a decision.
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It's not just a mood.
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You will not always feel confident, and that
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is okay.
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What matters is that you choose to keep
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believing anyway.
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Number four, you could support your vision before
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proof arrives.
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You do not need full evidence to take
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the first step.
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Sometimes backing yourself is the first proof that
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matters.
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Number five, doubt is normal.
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Quitting is optional.
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Everyone doubts themselves sometimes.
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I think that's a normal thing.
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The difference is whether you let the doubt
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stop you from simply letting it pass through,
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and fear and movement can coexist.
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That's number six.
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Fear and movement can coexist.
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So you do not need to wait until
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fear disappears.
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You can be afraid and still move forward
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at the same time.
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I know that seems hard, but trust me,
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you can do it.
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Number seven, your first version is allowed to
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be bad, okay?
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The first version is allowed to be bad,
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and nobody starts with perfection.
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The beginning is supposed to be rough, and
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that is part of the process.
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And I think a lot of people, like
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I don't think people understand that it's not
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supposed to be easy.
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It's not supposed to be easy.
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Confidence, guys.
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Confidence grows, well, through action.
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Confidence is not built by overthinking.
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It is built by doing, learning and repeating
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over and over and over again.
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You know, ladies and gentlemen, you do not
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need permission to begin.
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Nope, you don't.
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Too many people wait for approval that never
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comes.
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Your life does not require a green light
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from everyone else around you, even though you
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think you need that permission.
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Small steps, guys, beat the random big bursts.
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Consistency matters more than the occasional intensity.
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Small actions, repeated over time, create real momentum.
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And I know that can sound daunting for
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people, like, oh my gosh, what step do
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I take?
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Just take a small, consistent step that's going
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to help you get towards your goal.
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Now you're saying, well, John, I don't know
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what step to take.
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Is this going to be right?
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Is this going to be perfect?
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It may not be right.
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It may not be perfect.
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But you know what?
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You're going to learn on the journey and
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have some faith in yourself.
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I think that's a real important thing.
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Have faith in yourself, because when you have
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faith in yourself, life changes.
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Well, life does change.
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So definitely, definitely enjoy that, OK?
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You know the phrase, guys.
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I'll figure it out.
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It's very powerful.
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You do not have to know everything right
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now.
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A resilient mindset often begins with a simple
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decision to keep solving, to keep working, keep
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believing.
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And our thoughts create our reality, OK?
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Our thoughts create our reality.
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Ladies and gentlemen, you know, you can never
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just enter rooms once you only watched.
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The spaces you admire from a distance are
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not off limits forever.
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Growth means becoming the person who belongs there,
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too.
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And I think that's an important thing, is
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that growth will happen differently in different people's
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lives.
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Let's dive into self-trust, shall we?
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Of course, self-trust is built through tiny
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promises.
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Now, if you remember before, we talked about
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something very interesting.
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We talked about promises, right?
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And we talked about commitments.
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So promises are usually something that you make
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to someone else.
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But they may not be things you want.
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Commitments are things that you are wanting to
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do.
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Every time you keep a promise to yourself,
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you strengthen your inner confidence.
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Small wins matter more than people ever will
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realize.
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I think that's an important one for us
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to, you know, put in the books.
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Invisible progress is still progress, guys.
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Just because no one applauds, says thank you.
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Or gives you a standing ovation does not
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mean it has no value.
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Internal change can be real.
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As real as external results.
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You're probably closer than you think right now,
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but you're also probably second guessing yourself like,
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oh, I can't do this.
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I don't have this.
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I don't have that.
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And you're sabotaging yourself.
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You're kicking yourself in the foot.
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You know, ladies and gentlemen, when you are
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tired, the finish line can feel so far
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away.
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But often you are much nearer than your
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emotions make it seem.
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You know, that few extra steps I know
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doing exercises every day, whether it's push ups
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or, you know, whether it's let's say that
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they're like, you know, like half of like
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crunches or whether it's planks.
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And that few extra seconds is like, OK,
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you can do it, just that few extra
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seconds is all it's going to take.
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Right.
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Do not, do not, do not, do not
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restart.
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Continuing.
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A lot of people lose momentum because they
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think they need to have a perfect reset.
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So they keep restarting over.
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They keep saying, all right, let's do it
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over.
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Maybe you remember when you were younger, you
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were working on a sandcastle.
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It didn't come out right.
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Oh, I just want to start over again.
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But you keep starting over.
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How many times?
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I mean, eventually you get it right.
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But, you know, you're never going to have
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a perfect start.
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OK.
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And you can't keep restarting every time.
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A lot of people lose momentum because they
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think they need that perfect reset.
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It's a fallacy.
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Often what they really need is to keep
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going, to keep realizing, oh, wait a minute,
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I can make this better, I can change
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this.
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You know, Bob Ross, much of you guys
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remember Bob Ross, an amazing painter.
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And I remember taking my very first, they
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call it paint and sip, although I had
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these just use.
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And I remember going to quite a few
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of them.
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But my first one was I had the
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oil, you know, the canvas and the oil
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paints.
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And I made a mess.
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OK.
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But then the instructor comes over and says,
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oh, no, no, no.
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We can just do this and we can
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do this and see how lovely that is.
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I'm like, oh, OK.
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So the point is, you can make anything
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lovely.
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You can make anything beautiful.
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You just have to look at what you
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have and you have to just move from
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there.
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Right.
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You don't throw away the canvas.
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You don't get frustrated because you didn't paint
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in the lines.
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Right.
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Take a lesson, not the self-hate.
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See, failure can teach you something useful.
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It should not become a weapon you use
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against yourself, because if it does, it's going
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to disempower yourself.
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It's going to make you frustrated.
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It's going to make you depressed.
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It's going to kill any ounce of confidence
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that you had.
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Ladies and gentlemen, this is important.
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Other people may not understand your vision yet,
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and that is perfectly OK.
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This is not a sign that you are
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wrong.
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It just means your vision is still unfolding.
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And many times people don't want to support
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your vision because, well, it's not clear enough
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for them.
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Right.
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It's not clear enough for them.
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You know, ladies and gentlemen, also wanting more
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is not delusional.
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I think that's an amazing quality to want
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more.
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Ambition is not the same as fantasy.
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Sometimes wanting more is simply a sign that
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you are ready to grow.
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And most people don't understand that when you're
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getting these ideas to have these big dreams,
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it's not to make you depressed.
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It's not to say, hey, I don't have
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it today.
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It's to motivate you forward.
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It's to give you the fuel to push
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your butt forward.
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Lower self-abuse.
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Not standards.
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You do not need to settle for less.
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You just need to stop speaking to yourself
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so harshly.
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You need to be kind.
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I have found that when you are kind
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to yourself, guess what happens?
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You become kind to others.
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That's pretty cool, right?
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It's a boomerang effect, right?
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Remember, ladies, gentlemen, remember what you have already
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survived right now.
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You're here.
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You're living right.
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And you've gone through challenges.
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You've gone through trials and tribulations.
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And you're here, right?
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Your history right now contains evidence of the
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strength of the character you are.
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If you made it through this far.
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That says something about what you can do
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now.
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You might say, well, John, that was different.
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No, it isn't.
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The fact that you are now here, the
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fact that you are standing or sitting before
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me, the fact that you're able to even
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celebrate that moment tells me you've already got
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some resilience going for you.
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You know, ladies, gentlemen, another important one is
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your past self would be really proud of
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you right now.
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If you could talk to your past self,
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it would probably give you a hug, probably
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a big pat on the back.
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Think about the version of you that hope
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for better days.
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You are further along than that version may
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have imagined.
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And I think that's something we all have
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a hard time doing.
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You know, we all like chastise ourselves.
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We all say, you know, we should've been
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here.
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We should be there.
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And I think that's nice, but it's also
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hurting our current progress.
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Right.
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If I look at where I am now,
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I look at where I was 10 or
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15 years ago, it's like, wow, I've made
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some big strides.
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Am I exactly where I want to be
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today?
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No.
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Do I want to keep getting further?
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Yes.
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But that tells me that I'm on the
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right path.
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Ladies and gentlemen, perfectionism just delays action.
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I've known lots of people that strive to
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protect perfectionism.
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I don't fault them, but I will tell
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you that perfectionism.
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Often causes procrastination.
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Causes stagnation, it causes people to never finish,
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causes people to never start because they're never
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happy with what they've done.
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Waiting for perfect timing.
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Perfect words, perfect confidence, perfect people can keep
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you stuck.
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You see, ladies and gentlemen, I'm going to
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give you a secret.
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Progress starts when perfection stops being the goal.
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Well, John, but I want to make it
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better.
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You can make it better.
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You don't have to make it perfect on
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day one.
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Right.
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I said before, done is better than perfect.
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And I mean that you can always make
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something better.
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Aim for this, ladies and gentlemen, aim for
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1% better next time.
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You do not need an automatic transformation overnight,
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but if you could just get 1%
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better, you'll probably get better than 1%.
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But 1% better is is good, right?
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Small improvements compound and create real change.
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See, most people think that if they only
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make a 1% change.
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And it's like nothing.
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But if you stayed stagnant, you'd never you
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would never change.
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So if you made a 1% change
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and you kept doing this every day.
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And that was your slow rate, you'd be
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100% better.
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In basically.
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99 more days after your first.
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So a continual progression.
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You need consistency and you need structure.
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You can't look at the fact, well, you
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know, I'm not where I want to be
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today.
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I get it.
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But don't let that get in the way
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of where you want to go.
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And I think that's the one thing I
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want to tell you is that you need
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to be your own cheerleader.
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I know that sounds crazy, but you do
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you need to be your own cheerleader.
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And ladies and gentlemen, you can rewrite your
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story mid chapter.
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You don't have to finish the book, but
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you can rewrite it any time, whether you're
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an author like myself or not.
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You still are the author of your own
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life, even if it doesn't get into a
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book.
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No matter what your history looks like, your
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future is still being written as we speak
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and as we live.
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You, ladies and gentlemen, are allowed to pivot,
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to grow and to change the direction you're
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currently on.
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But I know a lot of people say
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to me, John, I can't do it.
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And my question to them is why?
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Because maybe they're stubborn, because maybe they're trying
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to be a perfectionist, because maybe they're worried
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about what the Joneses said and the Johnson
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said.
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Because they're not having enough belief in themselves.
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Ladies and gentlemen, you are allowed to surprise
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yourself.
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Sometimes the people who limit you most are
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the old versions of you.
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You know that?
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The old version of you.
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I want you to do something for me,
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if you would, please break that pattern, break
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that pattern, break that pattern, break that pattern.
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Quick story, I was doing something a while
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back.
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And I was with a mentor and I
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kept talking about something and it was a
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negative thing.
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And I was talking to him and we
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were just there and I was going on
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and on.
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And he's like, tell me more.
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And I did.
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And all of a sudden he took his
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like, we had war in his class.
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He just threw it in my face like,
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oh, what'd you do that for?
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No reason.
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I said, um, so where were we?
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Well, I was telling you about, you know,
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what happened and how I never.
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Oh, so I'm sorry.
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OK, so I was.
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Oh, so go ahead.
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I was going on.
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I was talking about my situation, your situation.
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Great.
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And I was talking about the fact how
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I never.
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I was like, please, can you please stop
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it, stop what?
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I don't know.
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He said, continue.
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So I'm just saying that I'm never going
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to.
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OK, I say, like, dude, like enough.
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Is it enough of what?
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What are you doing?
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I'm not doing anything.
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Hey, you keep throwing water in my face.
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You keep going down the wrong path.
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Why are you throwing water in my face?
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To break your pattern.
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And I got tired of it after a
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while.
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I'm like, OK, let's not go there anymore.
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Break that pattern, ladies, gentlemen, break it today,
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break it tomorrow and see what unfolds, what
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now becomes possible.
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You see, the impossible becomes possible.
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Ladies and gentlemen, belief feels awkward.
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I know before it feels natural.
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But.
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That's how it works.
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I remember the first time I had to
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tie a tie.
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It was very awkward tying a tie or
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maybe, you know, trying to tie your shoelaces.
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It didn't feel comfortable, did it?
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It felt uncomfortable.
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So you got to practice getting kind of
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being uncomfortable.
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So belief feels awkward before it feels natural.
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Success doesn't feel comfortable in the beginning.
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Confidence can feel strange at first, especially if
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you are not used to claiming your space.
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But I tell you this, ladies and gentlemen,
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I tell you to keep going anyway, anyway.
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Anyway, momentum comes from repetition, OK?
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What you repeat becomes your rhythm.
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What the guy do, he kept throwing water
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in my face.
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So I was getting tired of this water
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getting thrown in my face every like minute.
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So I stopped doing that.
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Show up often, guys, but show up enough.
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And your life will start to move in
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the direction for success.
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Compassion keeps you in the game, guys.
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Harshness may push for a moment and make
21:09
you feel like a hero, but it's not
21:11
long term.
21:12
See, compassion helps you endure and kindness toward
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yourself.
21:16
It's not weakness, guys.
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It is the fuel.
21:19
The fuel that will propel you forward.
21:22
Keep going, even when it's not pretty.
21:24
That's what today's episode is about.
21:26
It's not always going to be pretty.
21:28
It's not always going to be comfortable.
21:29
See, ladies and gentlemen, that is where real
21:31
character is built.
21:33
It's not in those polished moments, but in
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the decision to continue when it is hard,
21:39
when it's hard.
21:42
Hard means it's not comfortable.
21:44
Hard means it's not something you maybe enjoy
21:47
at the moment, but it's something you do.
21:50
And then life changes for you, but it
21:55
doesn't change overnight.
21:57
You see, if you have all these beliefs
21:59
and you change it, right?
22:01
Now you're in the right mindset, but now
22:03
you've got to implement that mindset over some
22:06
time.
22:07
It could take a few weeks, could take
22:08
30 days, 60 days, 90 days or even
22:09
more, because now you're operating from that different
22:13
plane.
22:14
Before, you were just thinking about it.
22:16
Now you're actually making decisions based on it.
22:18
I think that's a real whirlwind.
22:21
I'll call it a complete 180.
22:23
I won't say a 360 because a 360
22:25
would bring you back exactly where you are.
22:26
So it'd be a complete 180 to turn
22:28
you around from where you are right now.
22:31
And that's important.
22:32
And I think these are important things to
22:34
know.
22:35
As I get ready to close the show
22:37
for today, we've talked about a lot of
22:41
things.
22:43
We've talked about belief, right?
22:47
We talked about how this belief in your
22:49
life can shape things and believing yourself when
22:54
it's not pretty, when it's not easy, even
22:57
when no one's around, maybe when it's lonely.
23:01
You still got to do it.
23:04
You, ladies and gentlemen, do not need to
23:06
be perfect to be powerful.
23:08
Stop thinking that.
23:10
You do, however, need to start.
23:14
You do not need to have it all
23:16
figured out to take the next step.
23:20
You don't have to know where the next
23:21
puzzle piece is going to go, but you
23:23
start, you work at what you can.
23:25
And ladies and gentlemen, you do not need
23:28
to wait until your life looks prettier from
23:31
the outside before you start believing in the
23:34
person you are becoming.
23:37
The person you are becoming starts on the
23:40
inside.
23:41
It's very beautiful.
23:42
That person on the inside will eventually come
23:45
out on the outside.
23:48
But we start from within, from what we
23:51
start from within.
23:52
Naturally, we'll come to the outside.
23:56
Ladies and gentlemen, this whole week is about
23:59
release.
24:00
It's about movement.
24:02
It's about truth.
24:03
It's about perspective.
24:04
It's about proof.
24:07
Some people call proof of concept.
24:10
It's about having a hope.
24:14
And I know hope is something a lot
24:16
of people are like.
24:18
Where do I find hope?
24:20
What do I get?
24:20
Where do I get the energy for hope?
24:22
I think the best way to get hope
24:26
is to close your eyes.
24:29
And to imagine the life you've always wanted.
24:33
But to believe yourself that you can do
24:35
it and the renewal of you, you can
24:38
rewrite your chapter, ladies and gentlemen, any time
24:41
you want.
24:44
You know, I was watching a good movie
24:45
the other day.
24:47
You probably know the movie Tommy.
24:48
And his father had passed away.
24:51
And it was all about this couple, basically.
24:56
She had said she was marrying Tommy's husband.
25:01
Tommy's father, excuse me.
25:03
And this guy, Paul, who was going to
25:07
be his brother, supposedly, was actually married to
25:11
this lady already.
25:12
So she was kind of lying so she
25:15
could get his money.
25:15
And the interesting thing about this, when we
25:20
think about, you know, reading people and stuff,
25:24
and it was something very interesting.
25:26
The guy that was mentoring him, the person
25:30
that his father put in place to kind
25:31
of hopefully keep track and hopefully get him
25:34
on the right path.
25:37
And he was happy with getting a D
25:39
or D plus in college, but.
25:42
His mentor was saying his kind of the
25:44
person he was working with there at the
25:46
office, which was like one of the accounting
25:48
people.
25:49
He said that, you know.
25:52
It's not just about the school stuff.
25:55
School stuff's important.
25:57
But he says, right now, what you need
25:59
to be able to sell is not going
26:01
to come from the classroom.
26:03
It's going to come from street smarts.
26:05
And how did he get him to do
26:06
that?
26:08
Well, he wound up hitting him with a
26:13
pole or something and then hit him in
26:14
the face.
26:15
And then they go to a restaurant and
26:17
it sounds by face.
26:18
Everything looks fine.
26:19
And then the waitress comes over and.
26:23
What happened to your face?
26:24
He's like, I knew it.
26:27
And she's like, you know, the fryer's closed.
26:29
And then he starts very casually just telling
26:31
her about the situation and what happened, and
26:33
she decided to go back and turn the
26:36
fryer's back on, even though they already were
26:38
closed and off.
26:40
How you read people can make a difference
26:42
to how you're going to move forward in
26:44
life.
26:44
So reading the room is a big key,
26:47
a big skill.
26:48
And you choose the version of you that
26:50
rises.
26:51
That's what you have to do.
26:52
And you have to be a little playful
26:53
in life.
26:55
That's important, guys, if you're not playful.
26:57
People are going to take you like everything's
27:00
so serious.
27:01
Got to lighten up just a little bit.
27:04
All right.
27:05
When you treat life a little bit as
27:07
a game.
27:09
You'll find that people.
27:12
Are not so, let's say, apprehensive around you.
27:17
They let their guard down.
27:20
Because you're being a lot more light.
27:23
Ladies and gentlemen, you can catch the full
27:25
episode replay at BelieveMeAchieve.com as well as
27:29
more inspirational content again at BelieveMeAchieve.com.
27:33
Ladies and gentlemen, I want to encourage you
27:34
to keep building, to keep learning and please
27:37
keep going.
27:38
You see, the choice of you stopping and
27:42
starting is no one else's but you.
27:46
So because of input you get, don't you
27:48
dare let that.
27:51
Get you to stop.
27:53
If anything, it should motivate you to keep
27:55
going and realizing that there should be nothing
27:59
that stops you.
28:00
Ladies and gentlemen, I'm John C.
28:01
Morley, serial entrepreneur.
28:02
Be sure to check out BelieveMeAchieve.com and
28:03
I'll catch you real soon.
28:04
Be well, everyone.