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Birthdays: Story, Hot Takes, Best Places to have a birthday party · Absolutely KNOT Another Podcast

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SPEAKER_03: All right, welcome to Absolutely Not another podcast presented by Forever and More Event Planning.
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SPEAKER_01: It's worth it.
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SPEAKER_03: And happy 20th episode.
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SPEAKER_01: I think it's crazy that we're at 20 episodes.
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_03: Technically 21 because we did record one that will never see the light of day.
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SPEAKER_03: The first one we ever did.
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SPEAKER_01: I feel like our first one was a little, it wasn't bad.
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SPEAKER_01: It was just we had flip-flopped.
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SPEAKER_03: Yeah, the way that we structured it was similar.
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SPEAKER_03: Instead of you reading our stories, I was the one reading the story.
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SPEAKER_03: And not that I'm not a good storyteller, but a lot of them are wedding related.
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SPEAKER_03: Yeah, as a wedding professional guest, not a wedding professional.
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SPEAKER_03: It just didn't seem right.
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SPEAKER_03: And then the other segments that we do, typically I kick them off and like get your take.
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SPEAKER_03: I'll chime in.
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SPEAKER_01: You're more of a host.
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SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_01: Like a game show host.
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SPEAKER_03: Game show.
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SPEAKER_03: Game show Garrett.
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SPEAKER_03: Do, do, do, do.
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SPEAKER_03: But it's been fun.
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SPEAKER_03: 20 episodes, and we've had four wonderful guests.
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SPEAKER_03: Yes.
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SPEAKER_03: Within those 20 episodes.
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SPEAKER_03: We've had some really fun wedding stories.
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SPEAKER_03: I don't even know which one would be like my absolute favorite that we have done.
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SPEAKER_01: They've all been really different and all been really crazy.
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SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_03: We try to do that in terms of the story.
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SPEAKER_03: So if it's your first time listening, every go back and listen to the other ones.
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SPEAKER_03: All of the stories can relate to weddings or some sort of fun event that's happening.
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah, like a milestone celebration or like a gathering of some sort.
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SPEAKER_03: Right.
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SPEAKER_03: And then we'll base the segments off of that.
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SPEAKER_03: Sometimes we go off the beaten path, like we just had my cousin Kayla, our co-owner of our trailer, and we finished with Best Spongebob quotes, just because that's how we connect with each other.
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SPEAKER_03: We've had Erica on.
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SPEAKER_03: It was best musicals because we had that relation with that sex boy with best karaoke songs.
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SPEAKER_03: He's not even a karaoke singer, but he's known for his hit song.
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SPEAKER_03: His hit song.
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SPEAKER_01: Puerto Rico.
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SPEAKER_03: Puerto Rico.
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SPEAKER_03: He's been traveling around a lot, I have noticed.
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SPEAKER_03: So maybe we'll get him back on to see other insights.
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SPEAKER_03: But it has been fun.
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SPEAKER_03: I feel like from episode one up until now, we've gotten ourselves in a little bit of a groove of how we're planning for each episode, what we need to, what you do, what I do in terms of the behind the scenes things.
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SPEAKER_01: And I feel like our comfortability of like recording and just getting through the episode, timing ourselves, it's getting better.
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SPEAKER_01: Sometimes we both like to blab.
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SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_01: But most of the time we we try to stay on topic.
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SPEAKER_03: We'll look at the timer and be like, oh, I think people might start tuning out before the VIP table and we got to get them on.
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SPEAKER_03: So yeah, if you uh have been listening all 20 episodes, thank you very much.
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SPEAKER_03: I would highly recommend anyone that might want to tune in to give them a little nudge and say, Hey, you want to listen to an episode?
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SPEAKER_03: Pick your favorite one.
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SPEAKER_03: At least when I recommend a podcast, I'm like, you gotta listen to this episode.
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SPEAKER_03: It'll get their wills turning and then they can look at any of the other ones that they can tune into after that.
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SPEAKER_01: I feel like our podcast is a no-stakes podcast.
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SPEAKER_01: Like you could hop in at any time and you're not like missing anything.
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SPEAKER_01: Right.
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SPEAKER_01: You know how there's podcasts where it's like, oh, you have to listen to episode one, two, three, so that when you listen to episode four, it makes sense.
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SPEAKER_01: Ours is like, you want something entertaining just to fill your ears for 45 minutes to an hour.
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unknown: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_01: Tune in.
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SPEAKER_03: Sometimes a little I feel like the only time we go over is when we have a guest.
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_01: We want we want the guests to share about themselves.
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SPEAKER_01: It takes a little bit longer.
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SPEAKER_03: And we will continue having guests.
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SPEAKER_03: I think we've decided more of you know once a month, once a month we should see a guest on here, whether it's someone that's wedding related, someone that's uh within the Pittsburgh community, whether they are a newscaster or influencer.
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SPEAKER_03: So you will be seeing some of those.
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SPEAKER_03: I have one special guest in mind for December that I'm really hoping for.
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SPEAKER_03: I think I mentioned it before.
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SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_03: Like before he starts to get prepped for his big day.
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SPEAKER_03: I would love to get him on and share like what goes through Santa Claus's prep work and day of like how does he go through it?
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SPEAKER_03: So excited for whenever he comes on.
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SPEAKER_03: December can't come soon enough.
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SPEAKER_03: Soon enough, we'll be decorating in November.
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SPEAKER_03: But we are um celebrating something special.
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SPEAKER_03: It just happened on Sunday.
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SPEAKER_03: It was our son's fifth birthday.
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SPEAKER_03: That's why I'm wearing my Tomatoa shirt because it was a Tomatoa themed birthday party.
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SPEAKER_03: Not Moana, Tomatoa.
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SPEAKER_01: I was gonna say if you're not familiar with Tomatoa, it's the shiny crab from Moana One.
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SPEAKER_01: He's in the second one too, but really not.
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SPEAKER_01: He is?
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SPEAKER_03: I didn't watch.
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SPEAKER_03: I'll be honest, I have not watched the second one.
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SPEAKER_01: Well, our son always loves either the villains or the side characters, like the interesting characters from the movie.
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SPEAKER_01: So the fact that he's into Tomatoa is no surprise.
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SPEAKER_03: But we've he is taking his love for villains to the next level when it comes to Tomatoa.
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_01: It's all day.
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SPEAKER_01: We listen to all different kinds of versions of the song.
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SPEAKER_01: He knows all the words.
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SPEAKER_01: Both of our kids know all the words.
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_01: And when we asked him for his birthday party, it first was I want a Moana birthday.
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SPEAKER_01: And I was like, cool, I can I can swing that.
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SPEAKER_01: We always do a very themed birthday, and his party is like kind of like a block party on our street.
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SPEAKER_01: Like all of our neighbors come, all of our family come.
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SPEAKER_01: It's it's very fun and like no scheduled activities, it's just decorated kids playing, people eating.
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SPEAKER_03: Scheduled as an eventually we will sing happy birthday.
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SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_03: Water balloons come out of at some point.
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SPEAKER_03: But not you know, set times.
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_01: It's not like, oh, we're doing coloring here, then we're gonna do bracelet making, then we're gonna do this.
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SPEAKER_01: It's like that he's still too young.
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SPEAKER_01: But I always have fun decorating, like prepping the decor.
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SPEAKER_01: So this year for his decorations, I've created large tomatoas out of sleds.
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SPEAKER_01: We hot glued items, we've been spray painting them.
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SPEAKER_01: So there's two big ones, and I'm excited to see.
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SPEAKER_01: Like on his second birthday, we did I made that giant Mac truck.
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_01: That was like a fun thing.
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SPEAKER_01: I always have fun with it.
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SPEAKER_03: Yeah, he's done a what, buzz light year, one year, he's done cars.
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SPEAKER_03: He has done a we did the first theme.
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SPEAKER_03: It's like a rodeo.
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_03: But now Tomatoa.
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SPEAKER_01: Tomatoa.
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SPEAKER_03: I was doing prep work on the more of the aesthetic of the house.
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SPEAKER_03: So I got the we have he's got a new playground in the backyard.
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SPEAKER_03: So shout out Steve for assisting.
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SPEAKER_03: My neighbor, our neighbor, got the fire pit prepared without an actual fire pit, but just trying to make the place look good.
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SPEAKER_03: However, I don't know.
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SPEAKER_03: We're recording two days prior to the birthday party, and the weather is looking like it's gonna rain.
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SPEAKER_03: And you hired something you've done you've mentioned on here, an Etsy Witch.
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SPEAKER_01: I I hired an Etsy Witch.
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SPEAKER_01: I put a spell in for I didn't ask for beautiful sunny skies.
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SPEAKER_01: I said calm, nice weather so that the guests could enjoy the outside and the inside because our house isn't like large enough for 60 people to be piling inside.
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SPEAKER_01: So I I put that spell in on Thursday.
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SPEAKER_01: So we'll see if it comes to fruition on Sunday.
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SPEAKER_01: We'll report back on the on the following episode.
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SPEAKER_01: I'll let you know.
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SPEAKER_03: It says on the AccuWeather, which I think is the best app when it comes to weather.
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SPEAKER_03: Like don't use the if you have an iPhone, iPhone.
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SPEAKER_03: Don't go off the weather on that.
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SPEAKER_03: If you have weather bug, delete the app.
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SPEAKER_03: Acuweather.
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SPEAKER_03: It works wonders.
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SPEAKER_03: It says six hours of precipitation on Sunday, whether that's from midnight to midnight.
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SPEAKER_01: I hope it's I hope it's midnight to twelve.
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SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_03: Well, that would be 12 hours.
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SPEAKER_03: So hopefully within that stretch of time, because then we still got to prep some other things outside, like putting up a tent.
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SPEAKER_03: I don't want to put up a tent when it's pouring down rain.
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SPEAKER_03: Right.
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SPEAKER_03: It's not gonna go good.
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SPEAKER_03: Besides the birthday party this weekend, we do have a wedding that you are the planner for.
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SPEAKER_01: Yes, I'm very excited.
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SPEAKER_01: Garrett's gonna be assisting me for part of the wedding, and it's at the aviary, which is will be my first time.
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SPEAKER_01: Like our kids love the aviary.
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SPEAKER_01: We go there all the time.
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SPEAKER_01: But this couple's super fun.
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SPEAKER_01: They've picked a lot of cool things, but they have like a cannoli station, they have a greeter bird.
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SPEAKER_01: So when their guests come in, there's gonna be like a bird there.
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SPEAKER_01: Welcome.
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SPEAKER_00: Yeah, like I love that.
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SPEAKER_01: Um, I think that's fun.
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SPEAKER_01: They'll have all the animal exhibits open so people can go see the birds and the penguins and everything else.
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SPEAKER_01: Peacock.
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SPEAKER_01: I hope the sloth is out because I'm gonna try to get some videos for our kids because they love that sloth.
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SPEAKER_01: They love the sloth.
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SPEAKER_03: And Tyson likes the peacock from a distance.
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
8:32
SPEAKER_01: Some well, he's Gus.
8:34
SPEAKER_01: Gus the peacock.
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SPEAKER_01: You know him by name.
8:36
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, his name's Gus.
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SPEAKER_01: I don't, he's not actually a peacock, he's like a pheasant peacock or something.
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SPEAKER_01: Like he loves that thing.
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SPEAKER_01: So if he's out, I'll get some videos, but we'll report back how the wedding goes.
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SPEAKER_01: It's the kickoff to like our busy wedding season.
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SPEAKER_01: It's two a month for the next until Christmas time.
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SPEAKER_01: Like, so we'll be very busy.
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SPEAKER_01: We'll be hearing and seeing lots of cool wedding things.
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SPEAKER_03: Great.
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SPEAKER_03: All right.
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SPEAKER_03: So beyond the wedding, as the birthday happening, figure that we make uh all of our segments, including the story, birthday.
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SPEAKER_03: Birthday themed.
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unknown: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_03: Happy birthday to this person.
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SPEAKER_01: Well, this is kind of like a sad but good and dramatic story.
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SPEAKER_01: So let's dive right in.
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SPEAKER_01: Ever since my brother Jake passed at the age of 15 on his birthday, I know it's a sad start.
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SPEAKER_01: During his birthday party, it was a tragic accident.
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SPEAKER_01: My family decided to never celebrate birthdays again.
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SPEAKER_01: It was my mom and dad's decision.
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SPEAKER_01: Very extreme, I know.
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SPEAKER_01: But honestly, it was the way that they dealt with their grief.
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SPEAKER_01: They chose to shut out the birthday celebrations because every birthday cake and happy birthday sung was a reminder of the day my brother was hit by a car.
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SPEAKER_03: On his birthday.
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SPEAKER_01: On his birthday.
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SPEAKER_03: It's very sad.
9:46
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I will spare you the details, but ultimately at 8 p.m.
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SPEAKER_01: we were singing him happy birthday, and by 8 30 p.m.
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SPEAKER_01: he was gone.
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SPEAKER_01: I was younger, nine, when this happened, and I agreed to not celebrate birthdays any longer in our house because of how much the family loved my brother.
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SPEAKER_01: My extended family decided to do the same.
10:03
SPEAKER_01: And we all stood in agreement with this decision.
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SPEAKER_01: It was a very sad day when his birthday rolled around, and I got used to not celebrating any of our birthdays.
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SPEAKER_01: We acknowledged the birthdays, but we just didn't celebrate them.
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SPEAKER_01: I didn't want to, I didn't even get to go to any of my friends' birthday parties growing up.
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SPEAKER_01: I always felt it was bad luck to celebrate, and that's how my parents made me feel about the situation.
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SPEAKER_01: I don't even want to like it's kind of sad, but it does end on like a happier note.
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SPEAKER_01: Okay, good.
10:31
SPEAKER_01: Because my goodness.
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SPEAKER_01: I know.
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SPEAKER_01: I know the story, the opening of it, I was like, oh.
10:36
SPEAKER_01: I met my now husband in college, a whirlwind romance.
10:39
SPEAKER_01: We dated for about a year and a half before we got engaged.
10:43
SPEAKER_01: At first, my husband thought the whole thing was extremely weird about the no birthday policy, but he honored my family's decision to not celebrate our birthdays.
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SPEAKER_01: I remember the first year when we were together and it was his birthday, I did nothing because that is what we did.
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SPEAKER_01: Nothing.
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SPEAKER_01: No parties, no gifts.
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SPEAKER_01: It was just another day where you gained a notch on your belt.
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SPEAKER_01: He was so upset and didn't understand why I didn't do anything special for him.
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SPEAKER_01: My husband would refuse to follow my family's decision, and he kept celebrating his birthday with his friends and his family.
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SPEAKER_03: You can celebrate your birthday, but also but it's a weird rule.
11:18
SPEAKER_03: But did he not did she not inform him why they don't celebrate birthdays?
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SPEAKER_03: Because that's a pretty extreme reason to not celebrate a birthday, and like you should be a little understanding of why they don't want to.
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SPEAKER_01: It kind of says it in the next part a little bit.
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SPEAKER_03: Okay, good.
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SPEAKER_01: Um, me and the family didn't say a thing about it since he's not blood family.
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SPEAKER_01: Obviously, he hadn't signed up for the birthday strike.
11:39
SPEAKER_01: He was just dating me.
11:41
SPEAKER_01: I had to explain everything, and I really trauma dumped on him.
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SPEAKER_01: He understood, but was still weirded out by it.
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SPEAKER_01: As the years passed, he didn't seem to mind as much, and I figured he had sec accepted my family's odd quirk.
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SPEAKER_01: That was up until the day we found out we were having a beautiful baby girl, Lily.
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SPEAKER_01: We started dreaming and talking about life and our future, and he randomly said how excited he would be for the birthday parties, the sports, the late nights, and everything in between.
12:06
SPEAKER_01: I was a bit shocked that he mentioned the birthday.
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SPEAKER_01: He knew better.
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SPEAKER_01: My family would never allow us to throw a birthday party for our daughter.
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SPEAKER_01: It was a family pact.
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SPEAKER_01: We weren't celebrating anyone's birthday, not even my beautiful daughter, that I was growing in my belly.
12:20
SPEAKER_01: The argument about celebrating our daughter's birthday occurred.
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SPEAKER_01: It was brief and it ended on, I guess we will deal with that bridge when we have to cross it.
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SPEAKER_01: I confided in my friend who agreed that the whole no birthday thing was weird.
12:31
SPEAKER_01: But at the end of the day, I would have to choose what was best for my little family, meaning for myself, Ben, and Lily.
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SPEAKER_01: I just think it's weird when I read the story.
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SPEAKER_01: I'm like, I get it, but I'm also like, what?
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
12:44
SPEAKER_01: But we're big birthday celebrators when it comes to like our kids, and we celebrate lots of things.
12:48
SPEAKER_01: So I do find it weird when people like don't.
12:51
SPEAKER_01: But I'm like, I get it.
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SPEAKER_01: It's a personal family choice.
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SPEAKER_03: Again, it's a very valid reason to not celebrate a birthday.
12:59
SPEAKER_03: But also like whenever their daughter is born, are they celebrating her legit birthday in the grand scheme thing?
13:08
SPEAKER_01: Oh, you mean like the day she's born?
13:10
SPEAKER_01: You're like, oh yay, we the had they call it, they do call it a birthday in the hospital.
13:13
SPEAKER_03: I mean it is a birthday, but then the next year, you have a year to like cross that bridge again.
13:18
SPEAKER_01: Well, they've come to the bridge.
13:20
SPEAKER_03: Okay.
13:20
SPEAKER_01: When our daughter is about 11 Is it a slide bridge like they have here in Pittsburgh?
13:23
SPEAKER_01: It's not the slide bridge.
13:25
SPEAKER_01: When our daughter is about 11 months old, my husband brings up the party and how he wants to celebrate Lily while we had guests over.
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SPEAKER_01: My mother-in-law was over and was looking at her calendar trying to nail down a date with Ben.
13:37
SPEAKER_01: She offered to cook food and help decorate the house, and I was shocked that this conversation was happening, acting like I had agreed with him about having a party.
13:46
SPEAKER_01: I wasn't responding, and my mother-in-law asked if I was okay.
13:49
SPEAKER_01: And I couldn't respond, so I just went in my room.
13:51
SPEAKER_01: I was mad, livid, actually.
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SPEAKER_01: I felt very betrayed and mad at Ben.
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SPEAKER_01: He knew we couldn't throw this party.
13:58
SPEAKER_01: I just think that's such a weird thing.
13:59
SPEAKER_01: Like when you are parents and then you have a child, you have to talk about those things and decide, like, hey, not even a birthday party, but anything in your life.
14:07
SPEAKER_03: And he still doesn't know why they don't celebrate.
14:09
SPEAKER_03: I feel like it's not a good thing.
14:10
SPEAKER_01: Well, no, he knows because she said she trauma dumped on him.
14:12
SPEAKER_01: So she must have been like, This is why.
14:15
SPEAKER_01: And he understood, but still he continued to celebrate his birthday like with his side of the family.
14:20
SPEAKER_01: Which is it I would be like, that's fine.
14:24
SPEAKER_01: I don't know.
14:24
SPEAKER_01: Let's get into the next part.
14:26
SPEAKER_01: I immediately called my mom and she told me to just use the excuse to just not celebrate her birthday since she's a baby and won't even remember it anyways.
14:34
SPEAKER_01: And then next year, when it comes back around, make up something else.
14:38
SPEAKER_01: I agreed, but my husband threw a fit and insisted that we celebrate our daughter's first birthday.
14:44
SPEAKER_01: It wasn't fair to deprive him and his family of celebrating her life.
14:48
SPEAKER_01: I caved in eventually, but told him we would have to have a small secret celebration so that my family would not find out.
14:54
SPEAKER_01: I told him no pictures, no posting, just a small party.
14:57
SPEAKER_01: I could probably take pictures, but the posting is what it is.
15:01
SPEAKER_01: He agreed and we planned a little princess party.
15:03
SPEAKER_01: I felt sick to my stomach going behind my family's back.
15:06
SPEAKER_01: And to be completely honest, I was nervous something bad was going to happen, almost like being punished for celebrating.
15:12
SPEAKER_01: It's like sad she feels like that.
15:13
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
15:14
SPEAKER_03: That's the very traumatic thing that she went through at nine.
15:18
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, at like a young age.
15:19
SPEAKER_03: Oh, to have that memory come back and worrisome.
15:23
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
15:24
SPEAKER_01: The party day rolled around.
15:26
SPEAKER_01: My anxiety was at an all-time high.
15:28
SPEAKER_01: My husband's family showed up and helped to decorate.
15:30
SPEAKER_01: They cooked, and we celebrated Lily's first year of life.
15:33
SPEAKER_01: It was honestly one of the happiest days of my life.
15:36
SPEAKER_01: I remember while we were singing happy birthday, I was looking at a room full of Lily's favorite people and I burst into tears.
15:43
SPEAKER_01: Happy tears, of course, but a lot of them.
15:45
SPEAKER_01: I realized that I had almost deprived Lily from this moment.
15:48
SPEAKER_01: Her party was perfect.
15:50
SPEAKER_01: I was so happy we decided to celebrate her.
15:52
SPEAKER_01: And I no longer felt nervous or guilty, just happy.
15:56
SPEAKER_01: After the cake, I went into the bathroom and I locked the door and I really broke down.
16:00
SPEAKER_01: I realized that I had a big problem I needed to deal with.
16:03
SPEAKER_01: And I promised myself to book an appointment with a therapist to work through whatever baggage I was carrying.
16:09
SPEAKER_01: Three days later, I got a call from my mom.
16:12
SPEAKER_01: She was so upset saying that my word meant nothing and that I have no respect for my brother's memory nor my family.
16:18
SPEAKER_01: I asked what she was talking about, and she told me that she saw the birthday pictures my mother-in-law posted on Facebook.
16:24
SPEAKER_01: I didn't realize my mother-in-law had shared them.
16:28
SPEAKER_01: While we're talking on the phone, I started scrolling on my phone, and I got lost in the happy memories looking at the pictures from Lily's birthday.
16:35
SPEAKER_01: My mom was still yelling at me in the background when I finally came to and basically snapped and told her that she had no control over my life and my family, and her no birthday rule was stupid.
16:45
SPEAKER_01: It made no sense, and honestly, I was mad at her now for taking away years of potential happy moments I could have had with my friends and family.
16:53
SPEAKER_01: She was silent for a while and tried to rebuttal that it was her way of honoring Jake in our last moments with him.
16:59
SPEAKER_01: And I cut her off because that excuse was BS and she knew it.
17:03
SPEAKER_01: She needed to deal with her grief and her trauma, the grief she had been shoving down for the 18 years prior.
17:09
SPEAKER_01: Which I agree.
17:10
SPEAKER_01: It's like I get it that something traumatic happened, but then to tell everybody, oh, you're not allowed to celebrate birthdays for for forever.
17:18
SPEAKER_03: Like what?
17:19
SPEAKER_03: Especially like a daughter being born, like let her sell be able to celebrate her birthday.
17:25
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
17:26
SPEAKER_01: Like the mom made her rules for her family.
17:28
SPEAKER_01: They made that rule.
17:29
SPEAKER_01: But now she has grown up.
17:30
SPEAKER_01: She's an adult.
17:31
SPEAKER_03: It's somewhat like the theme of Coco, like no music.
17:34
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, no, no music.
17:38
unknown: Papa.
17:40
SPEAKER_01: I love that scene.
17:41
SPEAKER_01: It always makes me laugh.
17:42
unknown: Papa.
17:45
SPEAKER_01: I had to go no contact with my mom for a couple of months.
17:48
SPEAKER_01: And one one day my therapist reminded me that some people take more time to see the damage that has been done.
17:53
SPEAKER_01: And no one person's opinion on moving through grief will be the same as another's.
17:57
SPEAKER_01: I eventually wrote her a letter explaining my feelings about the situation.
18:01
SPEAKER_01: And my mother was extremely receptive and remorseful.
18:05
SPEAKER_01: We were able to eventually work through our disagreement and both continue going on in therapy.
18:10
SPEAKER_01: My mom isn't a huge celebrator now, but she does attend my daughter's birthday each year, and she makes an effort to send me flowers on mine.
18:19
SPEAKER_01: A big step for her, and something that I acknowledge.
18:21
SPEAKER_01: I really do appreciate it as my household now celebrates everything big, loud, and lots of pictures.
18:28
SPEAKER_01: And I will continue to do that for my whole life.
18:30
SPEAKER_01: I feel like I have 20 years of celebrating to make up for.
18:33
SPEAKER_01: And that was it.
18:34
SPEAKER_01: That was the story.
18:42
SPEAKER_01: I just like can't imagine.
18:43
SPEAKER_01: Like, I'm not a huge, I don't like to celebrate my birthday usually, huge, but like the kids.
18:48
unknown: Yeah.
18:49
SPEAKER_01: I'm like, I want them to know like, happy birthday.
18:52
SPEAKER_01: This is your birthday.
18:53
SPEAKER_03: Growing up, my birthday, like I look forward to it.
18:57
SPEAKER_03: Some people do look for like my one niece, Mia.
19:00
SPEAKER_03: She really like her birthday.
19:02
SPEAKER_03: Her birthday ends, and the very next day after her birthday makes everyone aware that I'm looking forward to next year.
19:10
SPEAKER_01: Can't wait for next year.
19:12
SPEAKER_03: But as a kid, I really look forward to my birthday and having my friends over.
19:17
SPEAKER_03: Like I had my birthdays growing up.
19:20
SPEAKER_03: I was in the football, football.
19:22
SPEAKER_03: Football.
19:23
SPEAKER_03: In basketball, of course, but it was during the football season, November.
19:27
SPEAKER_03: Right.
19:27
SPEAKER_03: I would my sisters were in high school.
19:30
SPEAKER_03: I was still in elementary school.
19:32
SPEAKER_03: They're a little bit older.
19:33
SPEAKER_03: But they, our football team was really good.
19:36
SPEAKER_03: So, like in my mind, they were like superstars.
19:39
SPEAKER_03: And they would invite the football players from our team, our high school team, to my birthday party.
19:46
SPEAKER_03: Like those were the special guests, and they would play football with all of us in like this big, it was always at my grandma's house, and it would be in this big field in front of it.
19:56
SPEAKER_03: Like that was a good memory.
19:57
SPEAKER_03: I always look forward to my birthday party because I knew and a couple of the guys went division one.
20:01
SPEAKER_03: One of them uh kind of went pro, but it was like always look always look forward to that.
20:07
SPEAKER_01: You knew they were gonna be at your birthday party, and your birthday's like in football season.
20:11
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, but then getting the gifts, having like I would have a friend birthday party and a family birthday party, both of them would be a good time.
20:20
SPEAKER_03: Like I don't care about what the food was, but it was just fun to have everyone there to celebrate.
20:25
SPEAKER_03: Not that and I also look forward to whenever my cousins would have a birthday party or my sisters, because I knew it was gonna be Oh my mic's gonna be there, all these people are gonna all be hanging out.
20:34
SPEAKER_03: Like it's like a it's a family holiday.
20:37
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
20:38
SPEAKER_03: That you can celebrate whenever.
20:40
SPEAKER_01: I feel like I had more birthday parties as a kid, like younger, but then once I started competitive dance, every year on my birthday was like dance competition season.
20:50
SPEAKER_01: So like almost always I was at a dance competition when my birthday happened.
20:54
SPEAKER_01: But that was fun because I was like with my friends and we would like get a cake or do something like that.
20:58
SPEAKER_01: Or we'd do like a sleepover after like a separate day.
21:01
SPEAKER_01: Um but I do remember I had similar, like our dance teacher would dress up as Barbie and like come to our birthday parties as Barbie, and I'm like, she was our babysitter and our dance teacher.
21:11
SPEAKER_03: I I the one thing I feel, oh my gosh, I feel bad for the people, not so much.
21:16
SPEAKER_03: Maybe they don't care as I like where my birthday falls because it's mid-no mid-late November, and then whatever like I asked for something for my birthday, but I know Christmas is right around the corner.
21:28
SPEAKER_03: So if there was something that maybe I didn't get that maybe like slide that into Santa Claus's wish list, yeah, I can just But I feel bad for the people that might have a birthday that is like besides the week of Christmas, the day of Christmas, like you what do you do?
21:43
SPEAKER_01: Happy birthday, Jesus.
21:44
SPEAKER_01: Happy birthday to you.
21:45
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
21:46
SPEAKER_03: Any lot like some holidays I feel like like a fourth of July birthday party.
21:52
SPEAKER_03: You can celebrate both and if not feel like one like your birthday has been compromised by that holiday.
21:58
SPEAKER_03: But there are some holidays.
22:00
SPEAKER_01: holidays that I feel that I'm not close to St.
22:03
SPEAKER_01: Patrick's Day.
22:05
SPEAKER_03: Which is a good holiday to have a birthday.
22:13
SPEAKER_03: Like somewhere in between.
22:14
SPEAKER_03: Whether it's exactly a week, maybe it's a week and a half.
22:18
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
22:18
SPEAKER_03: I'm glad that they're able to now celebrate a birthday.
22:21
SPEAKER_03: Still don't know whether or not like I they are in the right to not celebrate when something that traumatic does happen.
22:28
SPEAKER_03: But to hold that over everybody.
22:30
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I think it's like it's almost like I don't know.
22:34
SPEAKER_01: I thought it was whole weird.
22:35
SPEAKER_01: Even if like the brother died, I would still want to celebrate my birthday.
22:39
SPEAKER_03: Like I understand not celebrating his birthday or not like Yeah maybe they attempted to celebrate a birthday and it just that like the first one after was like really emotional.
22:47
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
22:48
SPEAKER_01: That wasn't in the story but you're right.
22:50
SPEAKER_03: Within the first like year of that happening I'm sure that there was something like the next birthday that hit everyone was very upset.
22:59
SPEAKER_03: And like I don't know.
23:00
SPEAKER_01: It is like that though like after you lose someone important the first few holidays after are tough.
23:08
SPEAKER_03: Or like the day that it happened that scared me.
23:11
SPEAKER_03: Like if it like if you like the passing happens within family like and that day hits again and then you like no like oh it's been a year it's been five years.
23:21
SPEAKER_03: Sad.
23:21
SPEAKER_03: Sad.
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23:54
SPEAKER_03: Okay next segment these are birthday hot takes okay so it'll be I'll read the statement aloud we'll have our take okay I'm ready.
24:06
SPEAKER_03: Ice cream cake is greater than regular cake.
24:11
SPEAKER_01: I do not agree with that.
24:13
SPEAKER_01: I do agree with that I like love a giant eagle cake.
24:17
SPEAKER_01: Yeah I need it.
24:19
SPEAKER_03: I'm the thing about cakes is I like it being ice cream.
24:25
SPEAKER_03: I don't that sometimes the icing there's too much icing on a regular cake I don't want too much icing I just prefer a nice like dairy queen cake over a giant eagle or a grocery store cake.
24:38
SPEAKER_01: See like I love buttercream icing so that's why I'm like I love giant eagle cake and I like the flavor of their icing so it makes sense.
24:44
SPEAKER_01: But I do love a dairy queen ice cream cake like the chocolate crinkle in the middle it's good.
24:50
SPEAKER_03: I get a little cookie dough cake.
24:52
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
24:52
SPEAKER_01: Oh my gosh.
24:53
SPEAKER_03: But now any like you sing happy birthday and then someone takes the lead on cutting the cake and it's like who needs a piece and everyone I don't raise my hand and then I'm one of very few people if it's regular cake to be like I'm good.
25:09
SPEAKER_03: I'm also just I'm already eating unhealthy as it is at a birthday party because it's like pizza or just like a cavalcade of food when it's but if when it's ice cream cake I'm I'm gonna raise my hand you're like I'm getting some of that.
25:24
SPEAKER_03: If it is like uh my Kayla last week she was on her pap on her side on her mom's side of the family makes this delicious chocolate cake and I would I got to have that yeah for my birthday I would always ask for Sam's chocolate cake chocolate cake because that was that's the exception to this but otherwise agree to disagree I guess.
25:49
SPEAKER_01: Fine.
25:50
SPEAKER_03: Kids don't need 50 presents asking for money is okay.
25:55
SPEAKER_01: I feel like this one's I agree kids don't need they don't need 50 presents.
26:01
SPEAKER_01: No.
26:01
SPEAKER_01: And like I feel like a trend that's going on now especially for kids' parties is sometimes it will say like um no gifts please if you'd like to give a gift contribute to this and you can like either give cash or a Venmo for them to do like experiences.
26:17
SPEAKER_01: So if it's something like that I'm like I guess like I totally get it because our house is filled with a bazillion toys and I'm like sometimes the toys you get at birthday parties there's no space for them.
26:27
SPEAKER_01: Yeah you're like what do I do with this?
26:29
SPEAKER_03: Yeah I mean I think for on a kid's perspective if they are below like a below a teenager they prefer opening up a toy sometimes it'd be nice I would get a little toy and then birthday card from grandma or my uncle or whomever and there's a little bit of cash in there like$20 as a kid that goes a long way to a candy store.
26:55
SPEAKER_03: Yeah I can get you a lot of brown paper bags of candy at a penny candy store.
27:00
SPEAKER_03: But opening up a gift as a kid I would prefer that over getting money.
27:04
SPEAKER_01: But I don't like now we're I don't get gifts from anybody really no and I do feel like this is more a kid related question so I feel like if we go to kids' birthday parties like our kids are usually not giving they're not giving gift cards or clothes like what the kid usually needs.
27:22
SPEAKER_01: They pick out a toy for their friend so I'm like I don't know I'm like 50-50 on that.
27:26
SPEAKER_01: Yeah yeah surprise parties they are overrated no I like a surprise party yeah I you gave me my first surprise party like whenever we whenever we wasn't a birthday it wasn't a birthday but whenever we came back from Tamron Hall you had organized that little surprise party for me and I was like no we gotta get back.
27:48
SPEAKER_00: I forget what you wanted to stop at Taco Bell you wanted to do all the makeup like all my professional makeup was like crusting off I was like real tired and you were like oh I gotta stop at the beer distributor to pick up some alcohol or something.
28:01
SPEAKER_03: And then you're like let's stop at Taco Bell too I'm like no we're good like I'll just let's just order it.
28:05
SPEAKER_03: We'll get it doorbashed and then you were about to can you please not because I knew I had food waiting at the house.
28:11
SPEAKER_03: It wasn't Taco Bell.
28:12
SPEAKER_01: I wish it would have been like I love a surprise party and I like being a part of a surprise party.
28:16
SPEAKER_01: I think it's exciting.
28:17
SPEAKER_03: Yeah I don't I don't know if I ever had one that I went to as a kid.
28:22
SPEAKER_03: I never had a surprise party myself like kids a kid's surprise party you don't really I don't know you want to tell the kid hey we're celebrating a party I feel like it's kind of rude to yeah tell a kid they're not having a party and then have it be a surprise party unless you're saying hey we're gonna go get dinner somewhere and then they also a a younger kid doesn't understand a surprise party like they would be like we uh this was like 10 years ago my grandma she was turning 80 and we had a surprise like lun or dinner at a restaurant and all of her relatives came in and such so that was cool an 80th surprise birthday party my mom did a big like surprise 40th birthday for my dad and it was like it's a memory I have of like yeah that was a good time.
29:09
SPEAKER_03: We also did a surprise party for our dog.
29:11
SPEAKER_03: Yeah we did Bo.
29:13
SPEAKER_03: Took him on a walk and then everybody came in he was excited he I I've never seen a dog act surprised like that before he door open I don't know if we still have the video it's somewhere out there where I opened the door it was a Starbucks theme because he loved it like getting the pup cups but he I opened the door he didn't open the door he goes in he sees everybody and then he runs back outside he's not a he's not a runner in a sense of running away but he got so excited that he didn't know what to do with himself.
29:45
SPEAKER_03: And then he went to everybody and was like so happy.
29:48
SPEAKER_03: Did he know it was his birthday?
29:49
SPEAKER_03: I don't think so but we did Chuck E.
29:53
SPEAKER_03: Cheese is either magical or your worst nightmare this is a bad take maybe but I think worst nightmare always when it's busy with the kids on my It's only when it's busy you gotta go at the right time.
30:05
SPEAKER_03: If you're going on a weekend or a Friday night it's probably miserable if you're going during a good time during the week it's not that bad.
30:18
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
30:19
SPEAKER_03: This is my gripe when it comes to any com like place that anyone can go to is there are always parents or grandparents or aunts or uncles that take their kid there and they don't supervise.
30:34
SPEAKER_03: And then those kids are acting rude to other kids they're not paying attention they're just like all over the place.
30:42
SPEAKER_03: And then you feel guilty watching them be bad and like it's not my kid.
30:48
SPEAKER_03: You're not gonna yell at a kid that's not yours at a place like that.
30:52
SPEAKER_03: So that's my only issue for it.
30:54
SPEAKER_03: And it's not really just Chuck E cheese.
30:56
SPEAKER_03: I like their pizza.
30:57
SPEAKER_01: Yeah and our kids like to go to Chuck E cheese on a weekday when there's nobody there.
31:02
SPEAKER_03: Yeah very easy to win those games yeah you win every time like I think there's no losing no no adults deserve themed birthday parties too I think in terms of like if there's an adult that's like I'm hosting a Moana themed birthday party that might be a little bit too much.
31:23
SPEAKER_03: But if you're hosting a I don't know masquerade you're hosting a casino night you're doing it theme I love it when I watch a video and it's somewhat it maybe is just a themed party it might not even be a birthday party but if it's the people host a Shrek themed party and they all dress up as characters.
31:46
SPEAKER_03: I like that I would love to come to an event like that.
31:48
SPEAKER_01: But if it's them hosting it and you're not dressing up to the theme it's probably all they don't need it but I also feel like for adults there's like classier themes.
32:01
SPEAKER_01: Like a very popular one that you'll see for women is like a teeny bit older and it's like a martini yeah themed party for that I'm like yeah I'm also like however you want to celebrate I guess but I think it would be weird to receive an invitation in the mail and it's like an Alice in a Wonderland birthday party for like a 40 year old I'd be like oh okay like cool thanks for inviting me but I more for adults it's like hey let's grab dinner or drinks.
32:24
SPEAKER_03: Right.
32:24
SPEAKER_01: It's it's not as much a party unless it's a milestone part birthday.
32:29
SPEAKER_03: We mentioned it before at 30 after you turn 21 I think the milestones of the 30 40 50 60 those once it after that that's when you cut it off yeah yeah I'm not celebrating I'm not having a a birthday party for my 33rd 35th birthday this year.
32:48
SPEAKER_01: I might I might well I want to throw a cooking I want to throw a cooking school.
32:53
SPEAKER_03: Yeah but that's not necessarily it's a it's not a themed birthday party it's a experience.
33:00
SPEAKER_03: Kids' birthday parties are getting out of control I would agree with that statement.
33:06
SPEAKER_01: Like even for our own kids I'm like oh it's not going to be anything big and then we're inviting 50 people and we have decor and there's a theme and it's it is a big deal.
33:15
SPEAKER_01: And for me I'm like I want I want them to remember it and I do feel like social media impacts that because you see all these really cool fun ideas.
33:24
SPEAKER_01: Yeah and it makes you want it makes me at least want to be like oh we should do that at the party.
33:29
SPEAKER_03: Yeah it'll get I think it's uh neither out of control not out of control but whenever once our kids start going to school not preschool but being able to they go to school every day and that's when it splits like you can have a half half one party is family one party is with just friends because it does for us his him having his birthday in August as long as the weather's good and we're like yeah we'll have a backyard party it's fun once they get to the age of they have their own set of friends that they see every day at school and then they have their family split that up so that way it doesn't have this jumbo amount of people happy birthday.
34:18
SPEAKER_01: It is just a lot and it's a lot of work on our end because we host it at our house but I'd say I agree they're getting out of hand.
34:25
SPEAKER_01: The expectations for a birthday party is high.
34:27
SPEAKER_01: Yeah we're doing so much to like make the house look clean and nice just for it to get the shrimp well our birthday parties I remember growing up it would be like family would come over you'd have cake presents and like that was it there was no decorations there was no banners there was no balloon setup.
34:42
SPEAKER_03: Now it's like you have to be theming it it has to be over the top that's how I feel not that the they see it online the kids themselves but we see it parents wise it might be out of control from the parent side not necessarily the kids.
34:56
SPEAKER_03: No Tyson would be happy if we just like had people over yeah it's okay to blow out someone else's birthday candles.
35:02
SPEAKER_03: Absolutely not you can't do that our son did that at a birthday party two or three years ago and I felt like he has no clue from here on after that happened.
35:15
SPEAKER_03: Because he was two turning he was two turning the birthday party that he went to was also the same weekend as his birthday.
35:21
SPEAKER_03: The day yeah day before maybe it happened around his birthday it was at a fun slide park that's in the area and he sat next to the kid that's birthday was for the singing of Happy Birthday and Tyson blew out the candle but then we repeated at his birthday.
35:37
SPEAKER_03: Yeah at his birthday party we sang that kid a birthday and let him blow out a candle and let him blow out a candle because we felt so bad.
35:44
SPEAKER_03: It is at that age it's like that was a parenting mistake we should have just been like oh I always feel it's not necessarily blowing out candles but it's people mainly like mainly siblings might do it but they'll sit next to their siblings it's their birthday they blow out the candle and then they smash their face in the cake come on you can't do it's a fun viral video to watch but I hope that never happens yeah parents should be staying with their child at a birthday party if they are six or younger 100% it's kind of goes into that Chuck E.
36:18
SPEAKER_03: Cheese talk of could you imagine just supervise your kid.
36:21
SPEAKER_01: Could you imagine just dropping off like your four year old like okay in a couple hours.
36:26
SPEAKER_03: The if you go somewhere that is not someone's house you 100% have to be there because you probably have to sign a waiver any kid even after the age of six but if you were going the only thing I would say is if it's somebody that you're like related to but you probably would be going to it as well.
36:45
SPEAKER_01: So you gotta watch your kid maybe at the age of like eight or nine would be like just time that you start dropping them off.
36:53
SPEAKER_03: Because I no one birthday parties that I had or went to growing up when I was in elementary school my parents didn't stay for the party.
37:02
SPEAKER_03: Yeah once you're a little older yeah come back in two hours and get me.
37:06
SPEAKER_03: Last one pizza is the only acceptable birthday party food.
37:10
SPEAKER_03: 100% for a large gathering yeah it's the easiest everyone loves it.
37:14
SPEAKER_03: Pizza's good for any event not just birthday party agreed we're having pizza but then we'll get like you know chicken some kids don't like we have it split you know cheese pepperoni sausage we get a mushroom one for parents are the grandparents of the kids because some reason people like mushrooms I'm all right with no mushrooms.
37:33
SPEAKER_03: That's a that's a take for another time all right next segment is rapid fire birthday questions I'll ask the question we can both answer.
37:43
SPEAKER_00: Okay.
37:43
SPEAKER_03: We might have the same answer.
37:45
SPEAKER_03: Okay favorite birthday cake flavor chocolate with vanilla icing okay well like I mentioned it has if chocolate on with chocolate icing but it's a different type of icing that uh Kayla's Pat made uh favorite birthday cake flavor for me would just be an ice cream cookie dough cake ice cream cookie dough cake from Dairy Queen.
38:10
SPEAKER_03: It still comes with it all vanilla ice cream there's a layer of cookie dough there's that layer of that uh like I said like a chocolate cookie crumble oh my gosh yeah so good we should get that for Tyson favorite birthday present that you ever got you got 34 years to I don't let's show your age sorry you I'm 34 I feel like I've talked about it before okay I don't I don't even know about a gift that I'm like oh wow that was like the best gift I can't remember gifts that I got as a kid like I really truly can't I don't mind it was it was uh Xbox Ooh it just came out and it was you know you blessing of having a November birthday all of the gaming systems that come out for people to get at Christmas came out early November mid November so people can buy it for Black Friday sales and such but that one because then I would get a few games that came with it play those ones until Christmas but then you got like new ones new games.
39:15
SPEAKER_03: I feel like game system for Christmas.
39:17
SPEAKER_01: Mine technically wasn't a gift but it was whenever I found out like the day after my birthday that we were pregnant with Bennett.
39:26
SPEAKER_03: Like it was like one day after and I was like oh a little birthday gift for myself I guess maybe best birthday present I got was Benny when she was two days before me.
39:34
SPEAKER_03: Like that's probably a better answer I should have gave well no I can't think of a physical gift.
39:38
SPEAKER_01: Like I'm sure I got so many great gifts like from my family like whatever toys I was into like a gaming system but like I have no memory of like what my gifts were clothes.
39:47
SPEAKER_03: I did think Benny was going to be born on my actual birthday and then scheduled it scheduled it two days prior.
39:54
SPEAKER_01: Worst birthday memory I have a worst birthday memory.
39:59
SPEAKER_01: Before my 13th birthday the day before my grandmother passed away and then they didn't celebrate the birthday.
40:05
SPEAKER_01: Well no we went and it was sad like kind of like how we were saying and it was like we called her nanny but she was born or she was uh like very sick and I remember I was at a dance competition my mom left and like on the day of my birthday they didn't tell me that she died and then the day of my birthday I started getting ready and my mom's like what are you doing?
40:23
SPEAKER_01: And I was like I'm getting ready can we go see nanny at the hospital and my mom was like had to tell me then and there on my 13th birthday like yeah or no maybe I wasn't I wasn't 13.
40:32
SPEAKER_01: It might have been 11 or 12 but it was sad.
40:34
SPEAKER_01: And then me and my cousin are a couple days apart it was also his nanny and we went to a restaurant to celebrate and it was just like kind of somber sad day.
40:45
SPEAKER_03: I don't know if I have a worst birthday memory well it was I on you were trying to host a surprise party for me for my 30th.
40:57
SPEAKER_03: Oh yeah it was a surprise but then yeah we have happened yeah so my dad this was during 2020 and he it was the week maybe that Sunday I was at supposed to travel for a work event I had an event in maybe like Louisville yeah and then I get a call from my mom that earlier in that day that you know dad's not feeling well they took him to a Med Express and then he got rushed to the ER because he had COVID.
41:26
SPEAKER_03: While he was at the hospital he had a heart attack yeah and they that whole week was they didn't think he was going to be he was on a ventilator on the ventilator like and at that stretch of time it was not very few people made it after they were put on a vent and he did survive but it was my birthday was middle of that week and I still didn't have an answer whether or not like on my actual birthday.
41:50
SPEAKER_03: And then maybe it was like midway through that day because we were planning on going for a dinner with my mom.
41:56
SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
41:56
SPEAKER_03: And then she we ended up going we only had Tyson at the time but by the time it hit that weekend I was like he's gonna make it and then it was maybe three days later he like called us very spaced out on a FaceTime call.
42:11
SPEAKER_01: But like he was it was 2021 because it was the year Tyson was born.
42:14
SPEAKER_03: Oh yeah 2021 so that would probably be it but it ended up being good because he did make it out but like but I had to reveal the surprise because that came out and I was like I don't think I should host this yeah yeah your favorite birthday party theme as a kid okay this was actually my 13th birthday so whenever my grandma died it must have been like my 11th birthday.
42:36
SPEAKER_01: My 13th birthday me and my other cousin we are also a month apart we hosted a 13th Hawaiian birthday party together and it was at a roller skating rink and like we both it was huge it was like a huge party we both had tons of people there.
42:49
SPEAKER_01: We played all kinds of games like musical chairs and I don't know limbo whatever games you play at birth kids' birthday parties but that was one of my favorite memories ever.
42:59
SPEAKER_03: There's two I mentioned the one of having the football players from the high school team when I was in elementary school come and we would play football with them like play two hand touch maybe tackle I don't remember exactly but then my 16th we hosted maybe five of us that hosted a joint birthday party on Halloween.
43:23
SPEAKER_03: So my birthday was in November there was someone else that was in November Cody and Corey was in September and someone else was in September.
43:30
SPEAKER_03: So we were like let's just all have it happen for a Halloween birthday party yeah sweet 16 that would have been a fun party was it dress up dress up I went as Link Link Larkin from hairspray.
43:45
SPEAKER_03: Oh of course you did I got into my Halloween costumes then one year we went as blue man group and we had a guy he uh did our makeup for Beauty and the beast but he He was super talented and he made us bald caps.
44:05
SPEAKER_00: I love that.
44:05
SPEAKER_03: And then we painted ourselves blue.
44:07
SPEAKER_03: And then Goob was also one of them.
44:09
SPEAKER_03: And he I had the horror hot rod, the HHR, and he got his blue, like because he's so tall, he got the blue paint on the top of my HHR, and it was there for years.
44:21
SPEAKER_03: But that guy, Jake, he ended up being on one of those makeup shows on maybe like Stage FX makeup competition.
44:29
SPEAKER_03: He's really, really talented.
44:30
SPEAKER_03: I feel like he's done a couple movies too.
44:32
SPEAKER_03: Very cool.
44:32
SPEAKER_03: Pool party or a sleepover?
44:35
SPEAKER_03: I for a birthday, I would like a pool party.
44:39
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I feel like pool parties more fun, but as growing up, I loved a grow like a sleepover with my friends.
44:45
SPEAKER_03: Stay up late and giggle, maybe prank one of the friends that fell asleep first.
44:52
SPEAKER_03: I don't like you had to make sure that you were not the first one that went to sleep.
44:55
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, you didn't want to.
44:56
SPEAKER_03: You had to stay up.
44:57
SPEAKER_03: And I don't care if it was 4 a.m.
44:58
SPEAKER_03: and I'm the last one up, but I was not gonna get pranked on.
45:03
SPEAKER_03: There you go.
45:05
SPEAKER_03: Your take on the fake out birthday candle.
45:09
SPEAKER_00: I hate them.
45:10
SPEAKER_03: The worst.
45:13
SPEAKER_03: It might have happened to me one time now that I'm reading this question aloud.
45:17
SPEAKER_03: It definitely happened to me once, and I got so mad that I got up and stormed away.
45:22
SPEAKER_00: I feel like if we did that to Tyson, he'd be so upset.
45:25
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, like don't do that.
45:27
SPEAKER_00: I don't think I ever had a fake out birthday candle, but I do hate them.
45:30
SPEAKER_00: And people are like, oh, it's so funny.
45:31
SPEAKER_00: I'm like, it's stupid.
45:33
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
45:33
SPEAKER_03: It's just whoever invented the fake birthday candle, get out of here.
45:37
SPEAKER_00: I hope you stub your toe every morning.
45:38
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
45:39
SPEAKER_03: Short in public.
45:41
SPEAKER_03: Last one store bought or homemade decorations.
45:45
SPEAKER_01: You know me, I'm picking homemade.
45:47
SPEAKER_01: I like I like to customize.
45:49
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, get in your creative mind.
45:52
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
45:53
SPEAKER_01: And it's fun.
45:53
SPEAKER_01: Like well, it's hard because sometimes Tyson picks themes that you cannot buy it in the store.
45:59
SPEAKER_01: Even like you can't even go on Etsy and get something personalized.
46:01
SPEAKER_01: The shirt was able to get on there though.
46:04
SPEAKER_01: You have to create it yourself, which is fine.
46:06
SPEAKER_01: And I I also love a lot of people will create like banners or birthday crowns that are like more keepsake homemade stuff, but I love that too.
46:14
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
46:15
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, definitely.
46:16
SPEAKER_03: Like when it comes to a store bot or you buy it online or whatever, they're always kind of just a little tacky.
46:23
SPEAKER_03: It's the same designs, it's those same wall ceiling things that instead of it, if it's Moana theme, it's Moana hanging on it with weird streamers.
46:33
SPEAKER_03: Like we would host events at the club we worked at, and the New Year's Eve party would be Toy Story.
46:42
SPEAKER_03: We would custom make some of the things, but then some of the stuff just looked really tax.
46:46
SPEAKER_01: I feel like you have to mix when you store buy stuff, which is fine if you're doing the a theme that you can go and buy all the Spider-Man stuff.
46:52
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
46:52
SPEAKER_01: That's definitely like the route to go.
46:54
SPEAKER_01: It's easier.
46:54
SPEAKER_01: But I do love when there's like a personal touch that like you make something.
46:58
SPEAKER_01: I think it makes it special.
46:59
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
47:00
SPEAKER_03: All right.
47:01
SPEAKER_03: This is VIP table.
47:03
SPEAKER_03: These are best places to celebrate your birthday.
47:07
SPEAKER_03: My list is between whenever I was a child to now to whenever.
47:14
SPEAKER_00: Okay.
47:14
SPEAKER_03: It's all stretches.
47:15
SPEAKER_03: It could even happen after, like later in life.
47:18
SPEAKER_03: Some of these.
47:19
SPEAKER_03: You want me to go first?
47:21
SPEAKER_01: Yes, please, because I want to make sure I'm on the uh correct path here.
47:24
SPEAKER_03: Okay.
47:26
SPEAKER_03: My first pick, this is would be for any time.
47:31
SPEAKER_03: I can go at my birthday this year.
47:34
SPEAKER_03: I could have gone 10 years ago, 20 years ago, 10 years from now.
47:37
SPEAKER_03: It is Dave and Busters.
47:39
SPEAKER_00: Okay, that was on my list.
47:40
SPEAKER_00: I was like, okay, I'm gonna make sure I'm doing the right thing.
47:43
SPEAKER_03: Now that I'm above um the age limit, I can have a couple adult beverages, I can win a couple prizes.
47:50
SPEAKER_03: I love good DC games.
47:52
SPEAKER_03: Like I would I I go there now with our kids and I look forward to playing some games.
47:58
SPEAKER_01: And they call it Pizza Planet, which I think is so cute.
48:00
SPEAKER_03: But Dave and Busters, anytime I go, I would just cannot wait.
48:06
SPEAKER_01: I agree.
48:07
SPEAKER_01: That was on my list, so I'm kind of sad that would have been my number one.
48:10
SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
48:11
SPEAKER_01: All right.
48:12
SPEAKER_01: So I'm gonna stick on the theme of more it could be for any age.
48:18
SPEAKER_01: I've never gone to a birthday party here or had a birthday party, but I feel like it could be a very fun and cool experience, which would be at a movie theater doing a private screening.
48:29
SPEAKER_01: Like if you're an adult, you could do a little cocktail party beforehand.
48:32
SPEAKER_01: Or if you're a kid, you're having a pizza party and then going in to see the movie.
48:36
SPEAKER_01: I feel like that could be a good experience.
48:38
SPEAKER_03: And I don't know if this was always a thing, but recently you can rent out a theater and not even watch a movie.
48:45
SPEAKER_03: You can play Mario Kart on it.
48:46
SPEAKER_03: You can play Mario Party.
48:48
SPEAKER_03: I don't know if it happens at ours in particular, but we did see that could be a good birthday party.
48:54
SPEAKER_03: But there's a site, there's a little it's at the theater by us at the Cinemark.
48:59
SPEAKER_03: And as you and after you go through like showing your ticket, there is a little room that is for a kid's birthday party.
49:06
SPEAKER_03: So it'd probably be fun.
49:07
SPEAKER_03: And there's some arcade games that you can play in between.
49:10
SPEAKER_01: I'm sure that they make it like I've never been to one, but I'm like, I feel like I would love that.
49:14
SPEAKER_01: But I also love the movies, so I'm like, that would be a good party.
49:16
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, not on my list, but that's a good pick.
49:19
SPEAKER_03: You have another one?
49:20
SPEAKER_01: Sure.
49:21
SPEAKER_01: Okay, so the next one is probably not cost effective for like a parent's perspective, but I feel like a kid would love this.
49:31
SPEAKER_01: I did attend one of these as a child, and now I'm like bless up to those parents.
49:36
SPEAKER_01: But a Build-A-Bear birthday party.
49:38
SPEAKER_01: Like we it was like a mall birthday.
49:41
SPEAKER_01: So we were all together.
49:42
SPEAKER_01: We did Build-A-Bare and then we did a sleepover.
49:44
SPEAKER_01: So we were like, you know, not teenagers, but not little kids.
49:48
SPEAKER_01: Okay.
49:49
SPEAKER_01: Is that a bad pick?
49:50
SPEAKER_01: No, it's not a bad pick.
49:51
SPEAKER_03: It's an interesting pick there.
49:55
SPEAKER_03: Okay.
49:56
SPEAKER_03: All right.
49:57
SPEAKER_03: Uh I have two.
49:59
SPEAKER_03: My first one, my second one, would be at a any restaurant where they sing or dance for you on to sing you happy birthday.
50:12
SPEAKER_01: Where did you we go last year for mine?
50:13
SPEAKER_01: Texas Road.
50:14
SPEAKER_01: Texas Roadhouse.
50:15
SPEAKER_03: Just the uh not they all have a different song that they do.
50:20
SPEAKER_03: I don't know if I have one in particular that I think is the best one.
50:24
SPEAKER_03: As a birthday person, like on my actual birthday.
50:28
SPEAKER_03: Texas Roadhouse, they didn't get you on a saddle, did they?
50:31
SPEAKER_01: No, but I was so nervous they were going.
50:33
SPEAKER_01: Remember, it was so busy though when we went.
50:35
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I was very nervous that they were gonna make me get up on a saddle, and I'm like, I'm really not trying to do that on my birthday.
50:40
SPEAKER_03: Like, I necessarily don't this is maybe more for the congregation of people.
50:45
SPEAKER_03: I like going to someone's birthday and we're sitting and they come up, like you walk away, and like, hey, it's their birthday, by the way, and you know it's coming.
50:53
SPEAKER_01: Happy, happy birthday.
50:56
SPEAKER_01: Or like at the Mexican restaurants, they'll give you a shot of tequila with the hat on.
51:00
SPEAKER_03: Like just something that has something going on at that restaurant.
51:05
SPEAKER_03: Good pick.
51:06
SPEAKER_03: Okay, my second pick or my my third pick, I don't think these exist anymore, but I never had one.
51:14
SPEAKER_03: But anytime someone had a birthday party here, it's at the Discovery.
51:20
SPEAKER_03: Discovery Zone.
51:21
SPEAKER_03: Discovery Zone.
51:22
SPEAKER_01: My aunt worked at a Discovery Zone.
51:23
SPEAKER_03: We had a few Discovery Zone parties.
51:26
SPEAKER_03: They're a lot of fun.
51:27
SPEAKER_03: Like the everything about it.
51:29
SPEAKER_00: Oh, yeah.
51:30
SPEAKER_03: I see it pops up on my TikTok and it has that old aquatic theme sound in the background.
51:36
SPEAKER_03: It's that nostalgic sound that everyone knows.
51:38
SPEAKER_01: It's like boo-doo-doo-doo.
51:40
SPEAKER_03: And it's a slideshow of showing Discovery Zone.
51:43
SPEAKER_03: I wrote Discovery Cove.
51:44
SPEAKER_03: I thought it was Discovery Zove.
51:45
SPEAKER_03: Discovery Zone.
51:46
SPEAKER_01: I remember my Aunt Andy worked there, and we always we frequented the Discovery Zone when she was there.
51:52
SPEAKER_03: A lot of fun.
51:52
SPEAKER_01: Okay, do I do one or two?
51:54
SPEAKER_03: You have two.
51:55
SPEAKER_01: Okay.
51:55
SPEAKER_01: My next one is more adult themed, and I believe we did this in Key Largo, but I cannot remember if we actually did or not.
52:03
SPEAKER_01: An escape room.
52:04
SPEAKER_01: Like, did me and Kyle host an escape room for our birthdays, right?
52:08
SPEAKER_03: We we were a little tuned up.
52:10
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, and he's the guy.
52:12
SPEAKER_03: I would host escape experiences for the kids, and I would never go there, obviously, like this.
52:19
SPEAKER_03: I was there on the clock, and then he saw me in a whole different light because we were.
52:25
SPEAKER_00: I remember like I thought I remember being in the moment like, I solved this.
52:29
SPEAKER_00: And you guys were like, Cassie, we solved that like 20 minutes ago.
52:32
SPEAKER_00: I was trying to solve something that was already done.
52:34
SPEAKER_01: I'm like, I think that's good though for like a group of people if you have like an intimate group that's fun.
52:40
SPEAKER_01: Um, and then my last one, which I guess could be for kids or adults, but like indoor putt-putt, indoor golf, something where there's like different activities to do inside, not a discovery zone.
52:52
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
52:53
SPEAKER_01: But like there's putt shack puttery near us that would could be fun for like a birthday.
52:57
SPEAKER_01: I like when you're doing an experience and you're not just sitting around if you're going somewhere.
53:02
SPEAKER_01: That would be my last pick.
53:04
SPEAKER_01: Okay, good pick.
53:05
SPEAKER_03: All right.
53:06
SPEAKER_03: My last pick is something that we did a few years ago.
53:10
SPEAKER_03: It's at a karaoke bar.
53:12
SPEAKER_00: I have that on my list.
53:13
SPEAKER_03: Because we went to it was the Korean karaoke bar that's somewhere in like the shady side area.
53:20
SPEAKER_03: It we walked in and it didn't have the songs that we thought we were gonna do, and we just oxcorded my phone and just sang.
53:30
SPEAKER_01: Distract too was like almost sang out in full.
53:32
SPEAKER_03: Because the a karaoke bar, there's that place you had your own private room to sing karaoke, and then there was a bar on the outside of it that you can just keep filling up drinks, shots, whatever.
53:42
SPEAKER_03: Like it at the start, when at that birthday when we arrived, what the heck are we doing?
53:47
SPEAKER_03: By the end, yeah, we were singing.
53:50
SPEAKER_03: We were singing whatever it was.
53:51
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, the system that they had was just kind of old.
53:54
SPEAKER_01: I feel like if you went you went to several places that was like the karaoke bar was very updated and you could pick any song.
53:59
SPEAKER_03: If I was traveling for work and I spotted a karaoke bar, I was there.
54:04
SPEAKER_03: As long as I was there with like people, not just by myself going to a karaoke bar.
54:08
SPEAKER_03: You're like, I'm gonna go.
54:08
SPEAKER_03: You gotta go with the crack results.
54:10
SPEAKER_03: You can't just randomly show up.
54:11
SPEAKER_03: They would have like again, they would have their own private rooms.
54:14
SPEAKER_03: There was a stage at some of them where you can be with everybody, or if you wanted to go to like a private section, you can do that too.
54:22
SPEAKER_03: A lot of fun.
54:23
SPEAKER_01: Some honorable mentions.
54:25
SPEAKER_01: I had like a water park or a pool, like a fun pool.
54:29
SPEAKER_01: I think those are always good birthdays when you're a kid.
54:32
SPEAKER_01: And then I also had for an adult, like a sunset cruise, a boat cruise, something like that.
54:36
SPEAKER_01: I would love.
54:37
SPEAKER_01: And my last one was like a cooking or cocktail hour make or a cocktail making class, which is what I want to do this year, a pasta making class.
54:44
SPEAKER_03: The other ones that I had was uh like growing up, if someone had a birthday party at McDonald's that had a play place.
54:51
SPEAKER_01: Our kids would actually love a McDonald's party.
54:54
SPEAKER_03: A just a fancy steakhouse, like going to get a nice juicy steak or an Italian restaurant.
55:01
SPEAKER_03: Rico's Rico's.
55:02
SPEAKER_03: We just went to Rico's restaurant right off of McKnight.
55:05
SPEAKER_01: Best Italian food I've ever had.
55:06
SPEAKER_01: Very good.
55:06
SPEAKER_03: I had a homemade rotolo, and it was the first time I ever got a rotolo before, and it certainly won't be the last.
55:14
SPEAKER_01: The food was so good we didn't even talk for like 15 minutes.
55:17
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, we're just silent eating.
55:18
SPEAKER_03: It was that good.
55:21
SPEAKER_03: I put a local fire haul.
55:23
SPEAKER_03: So if you are someone that's having a sweet 16, it's a good spot to do it.
55:26
SPEAKER_03: I did that.
55:27
SPEAKER_03: It's very cheap.
55:29
SPEAKER_03: You can hire a DJ and you're ready to deck it out with whatever decor.
55:33
SPEAKER_03: Kids don't really grind anymore, but I just remember that.
55:41
SPEAKER_03: I also put like if you just go to like your favorite, if your birthday falls on your favorite sporting team and go into a Steeler game.
55:48
SPEAKER_03: I've gotten to go to a few Steeler games around my, it's always around it to go watch them live.
55:54
SPEAKER_03: Hopefully they win.
55:55
SPEAKER_03: They have been on a stretch of winning on my birthday weekend, yeah.
55:58
SPEAKER_03: Which is good, very good.
56:01
SPEAKER_03: And then the last one I had was just a outdoor birthday party at your house or your grandparents.
56:09
SPEAKER_03: Like I said, I got to do those.
56:10
SPEAKER_03: Those are a lot of fun.
56:11
SPEAKER_01: But I feel like too, there's obviously the classic spots like at the park, like at a pavilion, the zoo, and you have like the zoo and museums.
56:18
SPEAKER_01: I'm like, oh, those would be fun.
56:19
SPEAKER_03: I've never been to ones there, but like other ones that have I maybe went to one, like a laser tag spot.
56:26
SPEAKER_03: Like Discovery Zone does have it.
56:28
SPEAKER_03: But sometimes you gotta pay extra.
56:30
SPEAKER_03: Like I didn't even care if I went to Discovery Zone and didn't have an extra experience with it.
56:34
SPEAKER_03: As long as I was just playing in those the playplace and doing whatever.
56:39
SPEAKER_03: A lot of fun.
56:40
SPEAKER_00: A lot of fun.
56:40
SPEAKER_03: A lot of yeah, so there's a lot of ideas for future birthday.
56:43
SPEAKER_01: In case you're planning a birthday bowling.
56:44
SPEAKER_03: Bowling alley was another one I did see.
56:47
SPEAKER_01: And I'm like, well bowling alley, I think would be more fun as an adult.
56:51
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
56:51
SPEAKER_01: But I feel like I went to I definitely went to kids' bowling parties growing up.
56:55
SPEAKER_01: Go to but like ice skating rank and roller skating rank are also very popular.
56:59
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, definitely roller skating.
57:01
SPEAKER_03: But I wouldn't go to roller skating for a birthday party, so to say.
57:04
SPEAKER_03: We would just go open skate night.
57:06
SPEAKER_03: Open skate night on Fridays or Saturdays, and everyone in town went.
57:09
SPEAKER_01: Yep.
57:10
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
57:10
SPEAKER_03: A lot of fun.
57:11
SPEAKER_03: I wasn't really a good roller skater, I fell a lot.
57:13
SPEAKER_03: So I spent a lot of my time at the arcade, and sometimes when it was couple skating, I would go out there.
57:18
SPEAKER_01: You'd go out there with your pretty lady in fifth grade.
57:22
SPEAKER_03: It wasn't you, surprise.
57:24
SPEAKER_03: Sorry.
57:24
SPEAKER_03: Sorry.
57:25
SPEAKER_03: All right, that wraps up our birthday episode.
57:28
SPEAKER_03: Happy birthday to our son.
57:31
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57:38
SPEAKER_03: We will see you next week.
57:40
SPEAKER_01: Bye.