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Why Italian Influencer Giaco moved to TAMPA! · Scotty and Abby UNFILTERED

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  Speaker 1: Tampa Bay's best music is made.
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  Speaker 2: Welcome to another episode of Scotty and Abby Unfiltered. This
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  Speaker 2: is gonna be a special one because we have literally
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  Speaker 2: gone from the streets to the studio and now we
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  Speaker 2: have a special guest in studio because of it, Abby,
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  Speaker 2: go ahead and bring in our guests.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: So I've been doing this really fun series on Bayshore
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  Speaker 4: called Bays on Bayshore, where I interviewed just interesting people
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  Speaker 4: along of course Bay Shore, and I reached out to
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  Speaker 4: this guy I've seen on my for you page so
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  Speaker 4: many times. I was like, Oh, I feel like he'd
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  Speaker 4: be a really interesting interview. He's an Italian immigrant living
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  Speaker 4: in Tampa of all places, which I thought was like,
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  Speaker 4: so delightfully random because you just like, don't find a
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  Speaker 4: lot of people really outside Florida or New York and Tampa.
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  Speaker 1: Very true.
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  Speaker 4: And so he came on and he's about to edge out.
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  Speaker 4: Scotty is the most viewed on my page.
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  Speaker 2: My got it know its a competition in the studio now,
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  Speaker 2: Jot's fire.
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  Speaker 4: But anyway, welcome to the studio, our friend, Jaca.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you for having me. I real appreciate it.
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  Speaker 2: This is exciting because Jacko. I saw your video pop
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  Speaker 2: up immediately on Abby's page, and I was like, this
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  Speaker 2: dude is a bro. I was like, there are certain
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  Speaker 2: guys and I'm like, all right, that guy's got it.
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  Speaker 2: Obviously got the clean haircut, you got the smooth voice,
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  Speaker 2: but you also what I loved is in your video
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  Speaker 2: and we're going to get into this in the dating scene.
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  Speaker 2: A lot of women struggle with finding a man that
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  Speaker 2: like has a vision for what they want in their life.
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  Speaker 2: And immediately the thing that caught my eye was on
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  Speaker 2: your phone, what you have a vision board of your
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  Speaker 2: life and what you want to come in the next
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  Speaker 2: couple years And the rest.
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  Speaker 1: Of them look at that. Okay, so he showed me
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  Speaker 1: his phone right now, is that your family?
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  Speaker 3: That's like you always?
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  Speaker 5: I mean, it's a AI create it, but yeah, it's like,
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  Speaker 5: you know, my American house with the family that I
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  Speaker 5: want to have, you know, And just.
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  Speaker 1: Like, oh my god, that's incredible.
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  Speaker 5: The whole vision board kind of like what you were from,
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  Speaker 5: like from notion, like Italy everything that I want to have,
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  Speaker 5: my car, my cars, but yeah, it is more like
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  Speaker 5: every day like in my low screen, can of like
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  Speaker 5: really be motivated about why I'm doing it.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and yeah that's kind of like how I leave it.
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  Speaker 4: So where does that come from? Because a lot of guys,
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  Speaker 4: and I say this because I date straight men, they
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  Speaker 4: you know, they maybe they say that I want these things,
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  Speaker 4: but they don't. They're not like actively moving towards it.
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  Speaker 4: So where does that drive or purpose to have here
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  Speaker 4: the American dream come from?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah?
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  Speaker 5: You know, I feel like funny enough in my videos,
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  Speaker 5: I always try to be super funny, right, but actually,
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  Speaker 5: like in my private life, I'm very deep. I always
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  Speaker 5: thought that, I always say, you know, being broken, being
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  Speaker 5: an immigrant who was the biggest teacher of my life.
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  Speaker 5: You know nothing that you know, even my three degrees
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  Speaker 5: taught me or like school masters anything. And so whenever
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  Speaker 5: you are at like a rock bottom, you know, and
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  Speaker 5: you're in a new country with no family, like none
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  Speaker 5: of my family, people feel that like my family is
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  Speaker 5: here and it's just like oh it's a name, Like no,
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  Speaker 5: my family is like literally I come from a single mother.
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  Speaker 5: I don't have any brothers, so nobody's taking care of
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  Speaker 5: my mom. So whenever I came here, I was like,
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  Speaker 5: you know, I'm not gonna come here to play around.
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  Speaker 5: And I really understood that even like from my freshman year,
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  Speaker 5: like if I was not starting, I was a soccer player.
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  Speaker 5: For me, it was like very very impactful, which destroyed
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  Speaker 5: kind of my career because you know patients and you know,
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  Speaker 5: being humble is something that I learned it this past
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  Speaker 5: six years. But for me, it was like I'm here,
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  Speaker 5: like I don't want to waste not even one day,
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  Speaker 5: which you know made me very intense. But that's how
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  Speaker 5: you know, I approach my life. For me, everything that
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  Speaker 5: I do is very intentional. And so even if once
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  Speaker 5: you know, once you ask me, like even about dating
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  Speaker 5: and stuff, like I six months ago, you know, I
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  Speaker 5: went through a heartbreak and I know that like for me,
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  Speaker 5: I'm so intentional, I'm very deep that is going to
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  Speaker 5: take time for me to heal and so as a man.
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  Speaker 5: Funny enough, all the girls always are surprised when I
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  Speaker 5: say this, but especially in this past six months, I
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  Speaker 5: learned that having even my friends going through breakups, I
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  Speaker 5: don't think we know how to heal. I feel like,
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  Speaker 5: you know, we just want to go in the next
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  Speaker 5: thing right with the load, with the load hinge and
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  Speaker 5: like you know, let me take you out on a dinner.
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  Speaker 5: But like, brother, you know, what did you learn from
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  Speaker 5: what didn't work?
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  Speaker 3: You know?
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  Speaker 5: And that doesn't have to be that she was your wife.
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  Speaker 5: Maybe she was completely wrong about anything that happened, but
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  Speaker 5: like takes a month to understand, like, hey, can I
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  Speaker 5: be by myself? My biggest struggle in this past six
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  Speaker 5: months was that I really understood that first I was
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  Speaker 5: not able to be with myself, like I was starting
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  Speaker 5: to fidgeting, or like let me go for a walk,
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  Speaker 5: Like no, brother, you got to stay in your house
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  Speaker 5: with yourself. And the other one for me is like,
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  Speaker 5: you know, I feel like I was struggling even in
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  Speaker 5: my previous heartbreaks because I was struggle to be chosen,
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  Speaker 5: but I was not choosing myself. And so that's really
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  Speaker 5: what I learned I'd seen in the past two months.
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  Speaker 5: I was like, you know, I just got to have
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  Speaker 5: the best time with myself and then some other people
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  Speaker 5: are going to add to my life. They're not gonna
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  Speaker 5: make my life. So that is.
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  Speaker 2: So powerful because you got to take attention over your
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  Speaker 2: own self and you can't expect somebody else to fix you.
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  Speaker 2: I think that's where a lot of us go wrong.
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  Speaker 2: We're like I'm gonna get into a relationship. They're gonna
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  Speaker 2: help me become.
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  Speaker 1: My best self.
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  Speaker 2: It's like, no, no, you want to step into it as
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  Speaker 2: the best version and then they're just helping you continue
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  Speaker 2: to enhance that version. But I do want to step
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  Speaker 2: back because we talked about the move over to the States.
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  Speaker 2: What was life looking like when you're over growing up
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  Speaker 2: in Italy? Like what were you doing over across the world?
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  Speaker 2: And then how did you end up over now in
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  Speaker 2: Tampa Bay, Florida. So what was Italy looking like?
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  Speaker 5: No, definitely, definitely is my hometown, you know, is where
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  Speaker 5: my family is from. To be honest with you, I
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  Speaker 5: never felt like it was my place. I always say
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  Speaker 5: that everybody as a home. And that's why I played
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  Speaker 5: in Missouri before coming to Tampa. And that's seen people
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  Speaker 5: that loved Missouri, like they literally love it. And so
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  Speaker 5: you know, whenever I say, you know, they call it misery, right,
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  Speaker 5: But I I seem like a lot of happiness there. Yes,
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  Speaker 5: And then I went to Portland and you know, and
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  Speaker 5: I go back to the but like then I went
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  Speaker 5: to Portland and like literally it wasn't for me. I
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  Speaker 5: didn't enjoy one single day in Portland because it's rainy,
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  Speaker 5: it's cold, and that's not for me, right. Yeah, So
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  Speaker 5: going back to Italy, I said, a lot of Italians,
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  Speaker 5: a lot of Italy and it's a beautiful place to
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  Speaker 5: visit to leave for some people. But you know, for me,
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  Speaker 5: I just never had incredible friendships. I just always I
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  Speaker 5: always said, like, I want to play in the big leagues,
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  Speaker 5: and for me, speaking English and being in the United
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  Speaker 5: States is where the big leagues are. Right here is
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  Speaker 5: where things happen. You know, I work with Tesla and
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  Speaker 5: you know, like all the all the models in Italy,
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  Speaker 5: they arrive after the United States. So I'm like, why
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  Speaker 5: do I want to be after? I want to be
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  Speaker 5: like where the things had. But you know, it was
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  Speaker 5: it was good. At fifteen, I basically stopped hanging out
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  Speaker 5: in Italy. I wasn't living in Vizzerland, but I was
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  Speaker 5: playing in Fwitzerland. So fifteen I received this offer to
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  Speaker 5: go play in Vizzerland, and so basically every day I
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  Speaker 5: was driving going to plains Viziland, coming back late. I
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  Speaker 5: wasn't even hanging out with my mom.
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  Speaker 2: You know.
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  Speaker 3: It was just like it's it was tough.
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  Speaker 5: And then at nineteen, yeah, I didn't make the first
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  Speaker 5: team like for some reason, and I received this offer
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  Speaker 5: from Missouri, and I was like, like I always say,
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  Speaker 5: I would have went to play in Alaska. Like for
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  Speaker 5: me for soccer, I just wanted to play soccer.
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  Speaker 2: I didn't have so cool so you got to play.
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  Speaker 2: I mean you played professional sports like that is something.
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  Speaker 2: There's a very small section of people ever understand what
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  Speaker 2: that's even like. But you had the dream of doing
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  Speaker 2: playing professional soccer. Yeah you went you started living that dream. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: I mean it wasn't like really professionally, right. It was
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  Speaker 2: like I was third division in Vitzaan, which is like
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  Speaker 2: still high level. I still like whenever the grass gets
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  Speaker 2: a little bit like ruined, the gardener is going to
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  Speaker 2: be there after five minutes, which is like super powerful
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  Speaker 2: to see. But yeah, that was my dream, right, And
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  Speaker 2: I always felt that soccer was going to change my life.
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  Speaker 2: Funny enough, it's crazy how twenty eight to see that
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  Speaker 2: For me, if you ask me, I felt like, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: it's going to change my life because I'm going to
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  Speaker 2: be a pro. I'm going to make so much money
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  Speaker 2: and like you know, I help my family. But he
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  Speaker 2: actually did change my life because he brought me to
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  Speaker 2: the United States, and they do what I did today
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  Speaker 2: thanks to soccer. So did I really make the dream
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  Speaker 2: that I had five years old? Probably not, but it's
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  Speaker 2: still like, you know, helped me tremendously. And I feel
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  Speaker 2: the biggest thing for me is that it came me
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  Speaker 2: out of like bed routes, like a cole you know,
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  Speaker 2: all this stuff, all the type of stuff I've never done,
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  Speaker 2: and it just really gave me like a good discipline
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  Speaker 2: that I still use today with my businesses and all
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  Speaker 2: this stuff.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, what was the biggest culture shock? Coming from Italy
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  Speaker 4: to I mean Missouri is pretty rough because like the
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  Speaker 4: thought of that time, I'm American and the thought I'm
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  Speaker 4: moving to Missouri for me is like, oh god, that's
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  Speaker 4: a shock. For I'm like picturing you in Italy showing
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  Speaker 4: up to Missouri and there's like cows and cornfields and
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  Speaker 4: going like, oh my god.
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  Speaker 3: You want to know what happened.
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  Speaker 5: So I don't think anybody ever said this because like
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  Speaker 5: it's pretty specific, but like I arrived in Missouri, right,
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  Speaker 5: and so I meet the team and you know, the
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  Speaker 5: captain who was like, you know, presenting me his girlfriend
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  Speaker 5: or something. I don't know if it was the captain,
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  Speaker 5: but like one of the guys, and so I go there.
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  Speaker 5: In Italy, whenever you meet someone, especially the girls, like
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  Speaker 5: you give like, you know, two kisses on the cheek
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  Speaker 5: and so you know, I went there for that, and
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  Speaker 5: they gave me like the weirdest look. Like this guy
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  Speaker 5: was probably thinking like, are you trying to take my
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  Speaker 5: girl show from there? As we're like did from that day.
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  Speaker 5: Even my friends Italians, like my Italian friends, when they come,
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  Speaker 5: they don't recognize me because now I'm super American, Like
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  Speaker 5: I just give a little hug, right, Hey, how you doing?
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  Speaker 5: You know, sometimes I don't even give the hogs. Sometimes
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  Speaker 5: I don't even give the hands. I really go based
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  Speaker 5: off energy, but yeah, I needly would just go like
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  Speaker 5: you know, you know, I kiss on the cheek and
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  Speaker 5: all this stuff, and any's super roma. But that was
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  Speaker 5: that was pretty scary. I was like, you know, how
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  Speaker 5: do you explain these?
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  Speaker 4: I mean because on the flip side, as an American,
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  Speaker 4: just because we we're so big on personal space that
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  Speaker 4: even the thought of like receiving it is very much like,
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  Speaker 4: oh my god, like what is going on?
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  Speaker 3: That was tough.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, to where I'm sure once you explained it, they're
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  Speaker 4: kind of like, Okay, I love.
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  Speaker 2: That because I feel like I'm being brought into your culture.
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  Speaker 1: When someone's like.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god, come here, I'm like, thank you. I
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  Speaker 2: don't know how to do it, and I'll never do
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  Speaker 2: it to someone because I'm like, I don't know that.
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  Speaker 2: It doesn't feel right from like a Florida boy.
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  Speaker 4: And I's still like in COVID times we're bumping elbows.
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, sometimes I don't even hug my family, so
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, oh my gosh, to go in and kiss
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  Speaker 2: somebody on the cheek. That's actually really cool. So you
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  Speaker 2: went from Missouri and then you move to Portland, and
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  Speaker 2: then it's Portland. Where'd you go from there?
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, so I played in Missouri. First of all, I
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  Speaker 5: was playing close to Kansas City. Then my girlfriend at
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  Speaker 5: the time she was from Siluis, So I moved to
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  Speaker 5: Seluis like I found a college there, and then in
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  Speaker 5: twenty twenty, I actually we won the championship. So I
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  Speaker 5: was like on a on a high and so I
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  Speaker 5: received My dream at that time was to be an actor.
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  Speaker 5: Like I don't know why because now it's not but
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  Speaker 5: I was like I wanted to be an actor, right,
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  Speaker 5: I knew. I was speaking like almost daily with I
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  Speaker 5: don't know if you know I've ever seen Ice Cool musical.
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  Speaker 4: Oh yeah, I love that movie.
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  Speaker 5: So you know Troy Bolton's dead. Yeah, so I was yeah,
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  Speaker 5: so I was friends with him, like you know, with
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  Speaker 5: bar Johnson. It was like an actor in LA and
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  Speaker 5: so I was telling him like I want to be
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  Speaker 5: an actor, and he was just telling me like, look,
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  Speaker 5: it's gonna be kind of hard because you have a
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  Speaker 5: strong accent. So they either find like a very specific
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  Speaker 5: role or it's just going to be especially with COVID,
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  Speaker 5: it's going to be hard. And so I was like, okay, cool,
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  Speaker 5: But I received this offer from LA. I was in
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  Speaker 5: Rancho Palos Verde, right, it was like my dream. I
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  Speaker 5: wanted to be in LA. I wanted to like you know,
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  Speaker 5: create stuff. And then you know, the big question arrived
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  Speaker 5: where it was really fifty to fifty, especially for Italians
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  Speaker 5: where you know, COVID in Italy was pretty tough. Was
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  Speaker 5: like you either go back to Italy and stay with
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  Speaker 5: your family because you never know what happens, or you
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  Speaker 5: keep living the dream, right, and I want to go
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  Speaker 5: back to my family just because, like you know, my
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  Speaker 5: grandparents are old, and I grew up with them, so
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  Speaker 5: I want to go back. That destroyed a lot of
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  Speaker 5: my opportunities because then in Italy you could not even
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  Speaker 5: leave your house, like it was not like Florida.
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  Speaker 3: I saw you, guys. You were just like chilling. You
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  Speaker 3: guys were chilling. You know what I'm saying. I was like, wow,
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  Speaker 3: it was.
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  Speaker 1: Like two weeks and we're like all right, we're good.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, and then we stopped. I remember specifically when June
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  Speaker 4: came around. That's when people stopped saying, oh, it'll be
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  Speaker 4: another week or two. We like didn't know. So thats
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  Speaker 4: of Florida was like.
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  Speaker 2: Well whatever, he opened up everything, like all right, we're
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  Speaker 2: just gonna go and act like normal.
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  Speaker 4: I had friends that had gone to the bar and
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  Speaker 4: they were on CNN like the next week because they'd
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  Speaker 4: gotten COVID. I think it was like Andrew Cuomo, who
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  Speaker 4: was like, see my friend was like we know, we know.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: In Italy you had to sign up paper even just
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  Speaker 5: to go buy grocery, Like you had to sign a
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  Speaker 5: paper if they stop you, like what are you doing.
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  Speaker 5: My grandpa started to develop alzimer at that time, so
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  Speaker 5: he really had to go and walk just like to
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  Speaker 5: get some hair and all this stuff, and every time
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  Speaker 5: the police was like, why are you doing? So after
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  Speaker 5: like the three they were like, Okay, it's him. You
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  Speaker 5: know what I'm saying. It's good, it's good, and you know,
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  Speaker 5: thank god they're still with me. But at that time,
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  Speaker 5: I really just I didn't think that I was going
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  Speaker 5: to go back to the United States because every college
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  Speaker 5: after that they were like, Okay, cool, that's who you were,
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  Speaker 5: but now you haven't played for a whole year, so
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  Speaker 5: how do we know you know how you play? And
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  Speaker 5: so after that there was this guy that before LA
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  Speaker 5: tried to contact me. I didn't want to go to Oregon.
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  Speaker 5: Like I knew myself for really a little bit in
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  Speaker 5: that time, and I knew this is not for me, right,
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  Speaker 5: I cannot I cannot do Connecticut, New York. I cannot
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  Speaker 5: do Oregon, just like it's it's not my vibe, no
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  Speaker 5: offense to Connecticut.
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  Speaker 3: Oregon.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, a lot of them moved down here right right.
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  Speaker 5: And so you know, he gave me like an amazing scholarship.
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  Speaker 5: And what I told him, I was like, if you
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  Speaker 5: get me, you got to get my friend as well. Uh,
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  Speaker 5: and he actually, I mean my friend was like a
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  Speaker 5: good a good US Italian Moroccan and he was like
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  Speaker 5: a good player. So he got us both, which was
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  Speaker 5: like a dream, right because then I'm going back to
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  Speaker 5: the United States with my friend, and so I went
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  Speaker 5: to play very close to Portland. It was it was Sealem, Salem,
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  Speaker 5: and I really didn't enjoy. I always say like we
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  Speaker 5: were like a lot of Europeans. I think we all
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  Speaker 5: left after the first year, like we was a Spanish
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  Speaker 5: guy and this and that. It was just a lot, right.
• 12:08
  Speaker 5: You get you get up and you're like, oh, I
• 12:10
  Speaker 5: feel sowmativated. No, because outside this cloud it's raining, and
• 12:13
  Speaker 5: I'm like that destroys me.
• 12:14
  Speaker 1: Like absolutely ruins your mood.
• 12:16
  Speaker 5: Yeah. After that, I actually got the agnes with compartment syndrome.
• 12:21
  Speaker 5: I don't know if you know that, but basically it's
• 12:22
  Speaker 5: like in my in my legs, the blood was not
• 12:24
  Speaker 5: circulating correctly, so they literally opened both of my legs
• 12:29
  Speaker 5: and you know. And so I stayed on a bed
• 12:31
  Speaker 5: for like a month, no family, like and it was
• 12:33
  Speaker 5: also spring break, so there was also no students. And
• 12:36
  Speaker 5: so I always say, I mean, shout out to Aubrey.
• 12:38
  Speaker 5: I don't know if she's gonna listen to this. But
• 12:40
  Speaker 5: ad this girl, she was not even like one of
• 12:41
  Speaker 5: my best friends, but she knew my story. Yeah, and
• 12:43
  Speaker 5: she was like every time, like just call me, I'm
• 12:45
  Speaker 5: gonna go buy food and I'm gonna bring it to
• 12:47
  Speaker 5: your door. Yeah, like not even my coach did that,
• 12:50
  Speaker 5: like she did that. So I honestly amazing person. Her
• 12:53
  Speaker 5: mom One day came and she was like, hey, by
• 12:55
  Speaker 5: the way, here's a hundred bucks for you, just like
• 12:57
  Speaker 5: I was like what why? Yeah, And so that these
• 13:00
  Speaker 5: things for me, they're gonna stay forever. Like if if
• 13:01
  Speaker 5: a fifty years old she calls me, I'll be there
• 13:03
  Speaker 5: for her, Like, you know, I'm really big into this stuff.
• 13:06
  Speaker 5: And so they sent me back to Italy, right because
• 13:08
  Speaker 5: thank god, the insurance you know, paid for the for
• 13:11
  Speaker 5: the surgery, which was a lot, but they sent me
• 13:13
  Speaker 5: back to it and once again I was like, Okay,
• 13:15
  Speaker 5: the United States dream is done. And every single day
• 13:18
  Speaker 5: since I went back to the United States, I was like,
• 13:20
  Speaker 5: I'm going to go back. I sent I think around
• 13:23
  Speaker 5: six hundred emails to every properly college in the United
• 13:25
  Speaker 5: States and I received three replies.
• 13:28
  Speaker 3: Yeah, three replies.
• 13:29
  Speaker 5: Two of them were just like Okay, you can come,
• 13:31
  Speaker 5: but you basically have to pay eighty five percent. I
• 13:33
  Speaker 5: was like, hey, I don't come from a rich family.
• 13:35
  Speaker 5: And then once again, long story short, like in a
• 13:37
  Speaker 5: few months, I actually received a full ride, like to
• 13:40
  Speaker 5: come here in Lakeland to go play in Lakeland. And
• 13:43
  Speaker 5: then when I was in Lakeland, just kind of let
• 13:45
  Speaker 5: to close this question. I went to Orlando because I
• 13:47
  Speaker 5: was like, Okay, once the college is done, where do
• 13:49
  Speaker 5: I want to live. I went to Orlando, didn't didn't
• 13:51
  Speaker 5: really like it. I went to Miami, didn't really like it,
• 13:53
  Speaker 5: and they went to Tampa and they really fell in
• 13:55
  Speaker 5: love with it.
• 13:56
  Speaker 4: What was it about Tampa that made you fall for it?
• 13:58
  Speaker 5: You know, always people always ask me this. It's I
• 14:00
  Speaker 5: think is the perfect combination, at least for what I like.
• 14:04
  Speaker 4: Like.
• 14:04
  Speaker 5: It really has a lot of values and type of
• 14:06
  Speaker 5: things that I like. Like it's low paced, but it's
• 14:08
  Speaker 5: fast paced, right, Like, it's low paced, but it's growing.
• 14:10
  Speaker 2: Actually, it's not a Miami fast paced where you can't
• 14:12
  Speaker 2: even move anywhere, yes, or not sitting there and you
• 14:15
  Speaker 2: know a rock and chair.
• 14:16
  Speaker 1: We got some movement here.
• 14:17
  Speaker 5: Yeah, and then I'm beg into like recharging. So if
• 14:20
  Speaker 5: I'm like stressed. I'm literally gonna go to Riverwalk, right,
• 14:23
  Speaker 5: I don't like Riverwalk, I go to Bay Shore. I
• 14:25
  Speaker 5: don't want to go to Bay short. I'm actually gonna
• 14:26
  Speaker 5: stay in Westley Chapel where I live and it's beautiful, right,
• 14:29
  Speaker 5: And so I really think there's there's a lot of
• 14:31
  Speaker 5: things to do without having the kales of Miami. Like
• 14:34
  Speaker 5: generally I cannot be in Miami more than two days.
• 14:36
  Speaker 5: And that's why I feel a lot with it, Like
• 14:37
  Speaker 5: it's the first time that I literally see my kids here,
• 14:41
  Speaker 5: and so it never happened to me before in my life.
• 14:43
  Speaker 5: I actually was when I was important. I was like,
• 14:45
  Speaker 5: I love the United States, but I don't see myself
• 14:48
  Speaker 5: settling anywhere.
• 14:49
  Speaker 1: So I was kind of scared, Oh yeah, you didn't
• 14:50
  Speaker 1: find your area.
• 14:51
  Speaker 3: And with Tampa that changed.
• 14:53
  Speaker 4: Yeah. That's the cool thing about our country is there's
• 14:55
  Speaker 4: so many different vibes. Like Denver is so different from Miami, Utah.
• 15:00
  Speaker 1: It's like, oh my god, the Mormons and the people
• 15:04
  Speaker 1: are different too.
• 15:04
  Speaker 2: It's like you go up to like a New York
• 15:06
  Speaker 2: and you're gonna get a very different vibe than what
• 15:07
  Speaker 2: you're gonna get if you go over to an Orlando,
• 15:10
  Speaker 2: like very different people even.
• 15:12
  Speaker 4: Within Florida, Like people always compare Tampa and Miami, and
• 15:15
  Speaker 4: Tampa might kind of look like Miami because it's coastal
• 15:18
  Speaker 4: and there's a lot of new high rises coming, but
• 15:20
  Speaker 4: it's very much a southern city. Like when you talk
• 15:22
  Speaker 4: about values and it's it's very much like down home
• 15:26
  Speaker 4: good values, morals. Not that's saying that Miami's a moral less,
• 15:29
  Speaker 4: godless place, but it's definitely a little little more of
• 15:32
  Speaker 4: the hustle, you know, I.
• 15:35
  Speaker 1: Mean a little more going out late till six in the.
• 15:37
  Speaker 4: Morning, more club vibes. And there's not a single club
• 15:40
  Speaker 4: in Tampa.
• 15:40
  Speaker 2: And I don't think they would disagree with that either.
• 15:43
  Speaker 2: Everyone in Miami's like, yeah, no, you're right, Yeah, you're right.
• 15:45
  Speaker 2: You got to move to the suburbs after you live
• 15:47
  Speaker 2: in downtown Miami. Yeah, that's incredible. So you feel like
• 15:49
  Speaker 2: you found a home here in Tampa and you're everywhere
• 15:52
  Speaker 2: now on social And I want to really acknowledge your
• 15:55
  Speaker 2: social platform because when I looked you up, I was like,
• 15:57
  Speaker 2: oh my god, I mean you have You're over one
• 16:01
  Speaker 2: hundred k on social just on Instagram alone. Was that
• 16:05
  Speaker 2: something that is now your vision of building and just
• 16:07
  Speaker 2: becoming like a Instagram influencer, is that the career right now?
• 16:12
  Speaker 2: Like what is that looking like and how you put
• 16:14
  Speaker 2: a lot of work into it? Did anyway teach you
• 16:16
  Speaker 2: how to do that properly?
• 16:16
  Speaker 5: Because absolutely no good I wish. Yeah, so more than
• 16:20
  Speaker 5: more than Instagram. I have for under thirteen K on
• 16:23
  Speaker 5: TikTok and and I abandoned them because that was all
• 16:26
  Speaker 5: Italy in Europe, right, so whenever I signed with the management,
• 16:29
  Speaker 5: they were like, we got to restart. We're gonna be
• 16:31
  Speaker 5: brand new, We're gonna do the United States. So right
• 16:32
  Speaker 5: actually right now on TikTok have five K, but I
• 16:35
  Speaker 5: built you know, four under k in Europe and stuff.
• 16:38
  Speaker 5: You know, I always had a problem with the word
• 16:40
  Speaker 5: influencer just because, like, at least from my experience, whenever
• 16:43
  Speaker 5: people said like, oh, I'm an influencer, it's more like
• 16:46
  Speaker 5: more like shallow you know what I'm saying, That's what
• 16:48
  Speaker 5: I see right for me. The perfect example is like
• 16:51
  Speaker 5: I think his name is Simon something, you know, the
• 16:53
  Speaker 5: guy that goes around and as for a dream, right,
• 16:55
  Speaker 5: So he's the first person that I've seen that he
• 16:56
  Speaker 5: calls himself an influencer. So I'm like, Okay, I'm actually
• 16:59
  Speaker 5: then I'm fine because that's what I want to do.
• 17:01
  Speaker 5: Like for me, you know, I'm an immigrant. Nobody told
• 17:03
  Speaker 5: me how to edit. Like, actually, how I learned to
• 17:05
  Speaker 5: reply to your question? I was training at five am
• 17:08
  Speaker 5: in Portland. My coach was he had these opinions whatever.
• 17:12
  Speaker 5: We were like training at five am, and then we
• 17:14
  Speaker 5: had class like from nine to let's say twelve, right
• 17:16
  Speaker 5: then we had to study, and then at night I
• 17:20
  Speaker 5: think like in my whole college career, I probably went
• 17:22
  Speaker 5: to i would say ten parties like in six years wow,
• 17:26
  Speaker 5: because at night I was editing until three am. And
• 17:28
  Speaker 5: so how did I learn? Honestly, the first view that
• 17:31
  Speaker 5: I watched, I remember clearly was like final cut pro tutorial,
• 17:35
  Speaker 5: like seven hours of videos. I've seen that in the
• 17:37
  Speaker 5: whole day, and then of course you make mistakes. But
• 17:40
  Speaker 5: I had nobody to talk with, especially because in twenty eighteen,
• 17:43
  Speaker 5: let's talk about it, like, you know, right now, it's
• 17:44
  Speaker 5: kind of cool to be an influencer. But when I started,
• 17:47
  Speaker 5: like people were talking Matt crap about me.
• 17:49
  Speaker 3: You know, I'm saying, oh, I'm sure.
• 17:50
  Speaker 5: Even important, you know, twenty twenty COVID once again, So
• 17:53
  Speaker 5: TikTok still hasn't really arrived.
• 17:54
  Speaker 3: Actually sorry, it's after that.
• 17:55
  Speaker 5: So yeah, there was a little bit of TikTok, but
• 17:57
  Speaker 5: people were like, what is this guy recording himself?
• 17:59
  Speaker 3: Right?
• 18:00
  Speaker 5: But for me, I just like this bigger vision of like, man,
• 18:02
  Speaker 5: I'm an immigrant that come from nothing, and I really
• 18:04
  Speaker 5: want to show that as possible. And so that's kind
• 18:06
  Speaker 5: of how it happened. Like I really feel like, you know,
• 18:08
  Speaker 5: God put me in this position for a reason and
• 18:10
  Speaker 5: for me right now, that's why in my social media
• 18:12
  Speaker 5: try to be funny, because that's my side.
• 18:14
  Speaker 3: But I also want to talk about.
• 18:15
  Speaker 5: You know, anxiety, immigration, you know, being an old child,
• 18:19
  Speaker 5: coming from a single mother and stuff like that, because
• 18:21
  Speaker 5: I didn't have that voice whenever I was growing up.
• 18:23
  Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying, I do.
• 18:25
  Speaker 2: And I'm so happy you brought that up because I
• 18:26
  Speaker 2: think a lot of people would look at somebody like
• 18:28
  Speaker 2: your channel and be.
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: Like, oh, I could do that too, and you can.
• 18:31
  Speaker 2: But I think it's very important to acknowledge all the
• 18:33
  Speaker 2: work that you put in and how long like that
• 18:36
  Speaker 2: for me that sticks out You're like, Okay, that's nearly
• 18:39
  Speaker 2: a decade of just diving in and doing the work,
• 18:41
  Speaker 2: and if you're willing to be patient enough, well then
• 18:44
  Speaker 2: you're able to get the first of that labor at
• 18:46
  Speaker 2: the end of it.
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you do.
• 18:47
  Speaker 5: You want to talk about the fact that, like, you know,
• 18:48
  Speaker 5: for eight years, I've done it, but I couldn't make
• 18:50
  Speaker 5: money because of my visa.
• 18:52
  Speaker 2: Mm hm.
• 18:52
  Speaker 5: So imagine I having eight hundred thousand followers, but you
• 18:55
  Speaker 5: make zero dollars per monthent.
• 18:57
  Speaker 4: It's so insane to me. And I was shocked at
• 18:59
  Speaker 4: the cost of what it would you would have to
• 19:02
  Speaker 4: pay to stay here because there's not like a lot
• 19:04
  Speaker 4: that I understand about the immigration process, Like I think
• 19:08
  Speaker 4: we hear a lot about it in politics, but we
• 19:09
  Speaker 4: don't really understand them neus of it. How much if
• 19:12
  Speaker 4: you wanted to stay here, if you want to pay
• 19:13
  Speaker 4: for a visa, how much is it?
• 19:15
  Speaker 5: I mean, it depends you know what you can do.
• 19:17
  Speaker 5: You know, right thanks to my platforms, you know, I
• 19:19
  Speaker 5: could have like a visa. It's going to be probably
• 19:21
  Speaker 5: like around thirteen kges, like you know for lawyers and
• 19:23
  Speaker 5: stuff like that. The normal route, of course is it
• 19:26
  Speaker 5: really depends on the scholarship that you receive, Like I
• 19:29
  Speaker 5: don't know outside of that, just because like I haven't
• 19:30
  Speaker 5: lived there, but I could have never honestly afford not
• 19:34
  Speaker 5: even probably community college, just like if I was coming
• 19:36
  Speaker 5: from like no scholarship. And so it really depends, like
• 19:39
  Speaker 5: with colleges, even if you have a scholarship, you can't
• 19:41
  Speaker 5: have to showcase that you can maintain yourself. You know,
• 19:44
  Speaker 5: you have to sign this letter and say, like you
• 19:45
  Speaker 5: know in case you have those money. But overall it's
• 19:50
  Speaker 5: an expensive process. Like yeah, there's a lot of talented
• 19:52
  Speaker 5: kids that you know, they just cannot afford it, you know.
• 19:55
  Speaker 5: And so I was very lucky because I believed in
• 19:58
  Speaker 5: this process, like I was one of the first ones.
• 19:59
  Speaker 5: Like now there's so many internationals. When I came here,
• 20:02
  Speaker 5: I wouldn't say the word that many. Like you, you
• 20:04
  Speaker 5: found a lot of Americans in the teams. Now if
• 20:06
  Speaker 5: you could play like even UT against USF, I don't
• 20:09
  Speaker 5: know how many of them are from the USA, you know,
• 20:11
  Speaker 5: just because like there's a lot of talents and they
• 20:12
  Speaker 5: come here, you know you can do I mean I've
• 20:15
  Speaker 5: met a lot of people that they come here just
• 20:16
  Speaker 5: for even tiktoks, right, because then you can be like,
• 20:18
  Speaker 5: oh a Spanish guy in the United States and you
• 20:20
  Speaker 5: go viral probably like in two months. So you know,
• 20:22
  Speaker 5: it really depends what you come what you come here for.
• 20:25
  Speaker 5: For me, it was always like for a bigger reason,
• 20:27
  Speaker 5: like you know, to change my uh just my history,
• 20:29
  Speaker 5: like my family, you know, like I always say, like
• 20:31
  Speaker 5: right now, it's been you know hard, but it's like
• 20:33
  Speaker 5: I'm not doing it for myself anymore as well, I'm
• 20:36
  Speaker 5: doing it for like, you know, my next generation. So
• 20:37
  Speaker 5: that's why I'm here.
• 20:38
  Speaker 4: Yeah, absolutely, well, I mean that's so cool, and it's
• 20:41
  Speaker 4: it's it's a tough process. I mean, especially just knowing
• 20:43
  Speaker 4: that there might be an end date to where you
• 20:45
  Speaker 4: like have to leave, which I'm sure is scary. Maybe
• 20:48
  Speaker 4: it makes you embrace the moments more, like you know,
• 20:52
  Speaker 4: you because you have a clock you have to keep pushing.
• 20:54
  Speaker 4: But I think you can do it.
• 20:56
  Speaker 2: You know.
• 20:57
  Speaker 4: I'm wondering who do you feel more comfortable around? Americans?
• 21:00
  Speaker 4: Are Italians?
• 21:01
  Speaker 3: Oh? Yeah? Yeah?
• 21:03
  Speaker 5: I Mean people don't like when I say this, but
• 21:05
  Speaker 5: I feel like ninety percent American. But really yeah, I
• 21:08
  Speaker 5: just like, like if I go to Italy, I'm not
• 21:10
  Speaker 5: going to kiss anybody on the chic It feels weird
• 21:12
  Speaker 5: to me now, you know, I've been here eight years,
• 21:14
  Speaker 5: kind of like six and a half with the injuries whatever,
• 21:16
  Speaker 5: But I've been here a lot. All my friends are Americans.
• 21:19
  Speaker 5: I lost a lot of friends, you know, from Italy
• 21:20
  Speaker 5: just because, like you know, it's a long time. But
• 21:23
  Speaker 5: that's why I feel like I've been enduring, even in
• 21:26
  Speaker 5: the hard moments. It's like I really fund in love
• 21:27
  Speaker 5: with the United States. I feel like that is the
• 21:29
  Speaker 5: best country, you know, for me. I love, you know,
• 21:32
  Speaker 5: like how you guys think. I love how people are
• 21:34
  Speaker 5: nice here, and so I really like when I say that,
• 21:37
  Speaker 5: like I really came here.
• 21:38
  Speaker 3: I came here.
• 21:39
  Speaker 5: You know, a lot of people from other countries, they
• 21:41
  Speaker 5: try to make groups and stay with them, but that
• 21:43
  Speaker 5: doesn't make you evolve and really embridge the culture. I
• 21:45
  Speaker 5: always try to found fine teams with no Italians. I
• 21:48
  Speaker 5: was like, give me a team with no Italians. And
• 21:50
  Speaker 5: that's why I feel like, you know, what made me
• 21:52
  Speaker 5: grow and really get attached to the United States.
• 21:54
  Speaker 4: What's your favorite thing about being an American?
• 21:57
  Speaker 3: What's the favorite thing about being an American?
• 21:58
  Speaker 4: And what do you think is like the most American
• 22:00
  Speaker 4: thing about it?
• 22:00
  Speaker 3: You can be whatever you want whenever you want.
• 22:02
  Speaker 2: Ah see, I think that's a big part. And whenever
• 22:04
  Speaker 2: you talk to somebody that's moved over to America, like
• 22:06
  Speaker 2: we honestly we lose sight of that if we've just
• 22:09
  Speaker 2: always been in America, Like we complain about things and
• 22:12
  Speaker 2: we get used to it because it's all we've ever known.
• 22:14
  Speaker 2: But if you come from a place that, like literally
• 22:16
  Speaker 2: that's not an option. Yeah, and to be able to
• 22:17
  Speaker 2: see at firsthand, you're like, no, no, no, you guys aren't
• 22:19
  Speaker 2: getting it, Like you do have the option for an
• 22:21
  Speaker 2: American dream.
• 22:22
  Speaker 4: But also I feel like in Europe, I feel like
• 22:24
  Speaker 4: there's a big like crapping on other people culture, Like
• 22:27
  Speaker 4: if someone's trying to do something different, they're like they
• 22:30
  Speaker 4: don't want to be happy for you. They're like, stay
• 22:32
  Speaker 4: in your lane, which has it just does not compute
• 22:35
  Speaker 4: in my head. I'm like, why wouldn't you want someone
• 22:36
  Speaker 4: to go after their dreams?
• 22:37
  Speaker 3: Yeah?
• 22:38
  Speaker 2: God, if there's something that we could take from, let's say,
• 22:40
  Speaker 2: I mean you've traveled the world, but let's say Italy
• 22:43
  Speaker 2: in general, because I always say when I've traveled, I'm like,
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: oh my god, I do love so many parts of
• 22:47
  Speaker 2: Like when I went to Spain and I was like,
• 22:48
  Speaker 2: oh wow, you just go there and people are chilling
• 22:50
  Speaker 2: at dinner for like three hours. I'm like, I wish
• 22:52
  Speaker 2: we'd adopted that, Like what is something that you think
• 22:54
  Speaker 2: us here in America could use a little more of
• 22:57
  Speaker 2: that you have maybe over in Europe or that's the way.
• 23:00
  Speaker 5: I really feel like depth. Right, the example that I
• 23:03
  Speaker 5: give I don't play anymore. But the example that I
• 23:04
  Speaker 5: give is that in Italy you can go to like,
• 23:06
  Speaker 5: let's say a pickup, right, we can go tomorrow, we
• 23:08
  Speaker 5: go to a pickup, like you know, seven versus seven whatever.
• 23:10
  Speaker 5: We don't know anybody, but at the end of the game,
• 23:12
  Speaker 5: I promise like at least five people they're gonna go
• 23:14
  Speaker 5: grab a pizza or they're gonna go like you know,
• 23:16
  Speaker 5: it's like a guys, okay, who's down after that? Like
• 23:19
  Speaker 5: I wouldn't say that you guys are friends, but you
• 23:21
  Speaker 5: know something about that guy because you're gonna spend one
• 23:22
  Speaker 5: hour right here, I swear, like, you know, even in teams,
• 23:25
  Speaker 5: so we're like, if it's a pickup, who cares about
• 23:28
  Speaker 5: who you play with at the end of the day, right,
• 23:29
  Speaker 5: But if it's a team, you really got to know
• 23:31
  Speaker 5: who you have, you know on your left and on
• 23:33
  Speaker 5: your right. I probably played like four months where people
• 23:35
  Speaker 5: like at the end of the day training was done
• 23:37
  Speaker 5: by guys. I'm gone and I'm like onto the next
• 23:40
  Speaker 5: I have no idea who this guy is, Like I
• 23:41
  Speaker 5: said of like, oh, you know it can score this
• 23:43
  Speaker 5: and that, but like, ooh he is it, you know,
• 23:45
  Speaker 5: And that's that's big. I feel like in life, that's big.
• 23:47
  Speaker 5: That's why you know, kind of like to touch like
• 23:49
  Speaker 5: you know, Spain by Italy as well Italy on Sunday
• 23:52
  Speaker 5: you stay four hours, like you know, you get a
• 23:53
  Speaker 5: little expressed, so you spoke four hours. You speak for hours, sorry,
• 23:56
  Speaker 5: and it's just like you create such a depth you
• 23:58
  Speaker 5: know between people that like then you really like if
• 24:01
  Speaker 5: you are in need, people are gonna come and help you. Well,
• 24:04
  Speaker 5: in the United States, I don't. I don't feel like
• 24:05
  Speaker 5: there's the same thing. It's it's rare. It's more it
• 24:07
  Speaker 5: maybe takes longer. Yeah, that's what I will say.
• 24:11
  Speaker 4: That is the downside of hustle culture because that person
• 24:13
  Speaker 4: probably isn't just bouncing from the pickup game to be rude,
• 24:15
  Speaker 4: but they're like, oh I have four I run two
• 24:17
  Speaker 4: businesses or I have to go get on this team's
• 24:19
  Speaker 4: call or something. But I think Tampa, I will say that.
• 24:22
  Speaker 4: It's a criticism I have of Tampa's. I do think
• 24:24
  Speaker 4: this city is a little shallow. It's a little bit
• 24:27
  Speaker 4: of like entrepreneur.
• 24:29
  Speaker 3: I hear that a lot, you know, I hear that
• 24:30
  Speaker 3: a lot.
• 24:31
  Speaker 5: Yeah, because I'm doing my interviews, so I hear that
• 24:33
  Speaker 5: word a lot about Tampa, and it kind of scares
• 24:35
  Speaker 5: me not gonna lie, so I don't want to interrupt it.
• 24:37
  Speaker 3: But I hear shallow a lot, and.
• 24:39
  Speaker 4: By all means expand, I mean that's all I I
• 24:40
  Speaker 4: mean when I that was my I see a lot
• 24:43
  Speaker 4: of like very similar type of guys online specifically, and
• 24:47
  Speaker 4: we were kind of joking about like the red flags
• 24:49
  Speaker 4: on Instagram of like the typical Tampa douchebag guy. And
• 24:53
  Speaker 4: you know, I think there's something to be said about,
• 24:55
  Speaker 4: like when hustle becomes a little bit too toxic that
• 24:58
  Speaker 4: I do think.
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: Tampa becomes your personality.
• 24:59
  Speaker 2: I think that's where we actually have a downfall on
• 25:01
  Speaker 2: Instagram because you feel like everybody you swipe through is like, oh,
• 25:04
  Speaker 2: you got.
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: To do more, and if you're not doing more, well,
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: then you're falling behind.
• 25:07
  Speaker 2: I've fallen into that trap many times, and that's why
• 25:09
  Speaker 2: I mean again, we always joke about the differences in
• 25:11
  Speaker 2: Tampa and Saint Pete. But when I was moving over
• 25:14
  Speaker 2: to Saint Pete, as soon as I went to downtown,
• 25:16
  Speaker 2: I was like, oh, we don't really do that here.
• 25:18
  Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, people are hustling and then people have
• 25:20
  Speaker 2: their own businesses. But people in Saint Pete could say, you.
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: Know what, I'm not doing it.
• 25:23
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna sit at this table and we're just gonna
• 25:25
  Speaker 2: hang out for a couple hours, Whereas Tampa it's like
• 25:27
  Speaker 2: everyone's dressed up very nice and going out on the
• 25:30
  Speaker 2: scene and it's handshakes and it's business deals. Yeah, there's
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: a time and a place for that. But if it's
• 25:34
  Speaker 2: all the time, oh my god, Like where's the actual depth?
• 25:37
  Speaker 5: Like you said, yeah, no, I you know I heard
• 25:39
  Speaker 5: that as well, Like people tell me like, oh just
• 25:41
  Speaker 5: try Same Pete. I don't read engouting, same Peach, just
• 25:44
  Speaker 5: like I don't really have anything there. But I hear
• 25:46
  Speaker 5: that it's more relaxed, more kind of like I don't
• 25:48
  Speaker 5: mind the whole like hassle, you know, type of culture
• 25:51
  Speaker 5: that we have in Tampa for me, New York is
• 25:53
  Speaker 5: too much for Sam, right, So Tampa said it'd be like,
• 25:55
  Speaker 5: you know, slow down compared to that. But I hear
• 25:58
  Speaker 5: shout out like, oh, my guest, that's how they define it, right,
• 26:00
  Speaker 5: whether it's like dating, whether it's like you know, relationship friendships,
• 26:04
  Speaker 5: And it's got as scary honestly to have that label
• 26:06
  Speaker 5: as a CT you know for sure.
• 26:08
  Speaker 4: I mean I can even speak from like the I've
• 26:09
  Speaker 4: only been on two dates in Tampa. I went out
• 26:11
  Speaker 4: with a guy a couple months ago and he just
• 26:13
  Speaker 4: like left me at the bar while I was calling
• 26:15
  Speaker 4: my uber. I was like, where you go? I thought
• 26:16
  Speaker 4: it was a joke. I was like, he just like
• 26:17
  Speaker 4: got up and left.
• 26:19
  Speaker 3: That's crazy without making sure that you were Yeah.
• 26:21
  Speaker 4: Well, I was like, oh, my uber's here, you can
• 26:22
  Speaker 4: sit here for a couple more minutes. And then he
• 26:24
  Speaker 4: like just sat there for a minute and then left,
• 26:26
  Speaker 4: and I was like, we were having a great time.
• 26:28
  Speaker 4: And so I don't know, Like I don't know. I
• 26:30
  Speaker 4: think there's a parasite in the water, something that may
• 26:32
  Speaker 4: be infultraits the brains.
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: I mean, how long have you been in the Tampa area?
• 26:37
  Speaker 3: Uh? One year.
• 26:39
  Speaker 2: Okay, so one year and you're seeing like, okay, where
• 26:41
  Speaker 2: do you find like our I say this for your
• 26:43
  Speaker 2: side abbey, looking for good men, like good good quality humans.
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: Where have you found that those areas have been for you?
• 26:52
  Speaker 2: Even if you're making friendships or you know, you're talking
• 26:54
  Speaker 2: to women, where are they seeing that like, oh it's
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: the better quality?
• 26:57
  Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean that's a hard question. Just is like,
• 27:00
  Speaker 5: you know, I was in a relationship for a long time.
• 27:02
  Speaker 5: So whenever I'm in a relationship, I don't really like
• 27:04
  Speaker 5: tor and go like I just like, I mean we
• 27:05
  Speaker 5: can we can go out and stuff like you know,
• 27:06
  Speaker 5: movie stuff like that. Right, So whenever more like networking
• 27:09
  Speaker 5: events or like making friendships. That really has been probably
• 27:11
  Speaker 5: the past five months. And you know, from what I see,
• 27:15
  Speaker 5: I always I feel like what these five months told
• 27:17
  Speaker 5: me is that you really want to go out where
• 27:19
  Speaker 5: you think you might find the right partner.
• 27:21
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 27:21
  Speaker 5: So for example, for me, I used to go just
• 27:23
  Speaker 5: because of my friends. So you know, if you go
• 27:25
  Speaker 5: to the club, I don't think that's where my personal
• 27:27
  Speaker 5: wife is going to be, right. I don't want to
• 27:29
  Speaker 5: see it like at five eleven behind the DJ book.
• 27:32
  Speaker 2: That's that's seeing this thing about the DJ boot.
• 27:36
  Speaker 4: Sometimes I'm just friendly. I hate an insecure my it's
• 27:40
  Speaker 4: told I just listening to music.
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: I just want to dance jerky.
• 27:46
  Speaker 5: But so you know, whenever I was thinking about even
• 27:48
  Speaker 5: talking with friends, they were like, you know, like maybe
• 27:50
  Speaker 5: having a walk at Bay Shore because that's show that
• 27:51
  Speaker 5: you're you know, you're active or you know, like I
• 27:54
  Speaker 5: don't know, like as long as you have like a purpose,
• 27:57
  Speaker 5: you know that that's big. But to be honest with you,
• 27:59
  Speaker 5: I'm strung going to have to find an answer to
• 28:01
  Speaker 5: your question. Like if you ask me, like where would
• 28:02
  Speaker 5: you go? I have no idea because I thought that,
• 28:05
  Speaker 5: like I mean, once again, I don't want to like
• 28:07
  Speaker 5: talk about too many places. But like I had heard
• 28:09
  Speaker 5: good things about lower Deck and then oh who.
• 28:11
  Speaker 4: Was telling you good things about lower.
• 28:13
  Speaker 3: Night right right? And then and then and then.
• 28:14
  Speaker 4: The past few people that those friend Terrence.
• 28:17
  Speaker 5: I cannot say or I cannot say it than but no,
• 28:20
  Speaker 5: like different people, I was like, oh, like lower Deck
• 28:22
  Speaker 5: is more like you know, it's open space, more like
• 28:23
  Speaker 5: you know, big vibe.
• 28:24
  Speaker 3: And then I hear.
• 28:25
  Speaker 5: Good like bad things about it right then I personally,
• 28:28
  Speaker 5: so I'm gonna gonna stay in my opinion, Like I like,
• 28:29
  Speaker 5: I'm Bird. I think it's a good situation. Then I
• 28:32
  Speaker 5: have some people that really don't like him Bird, right,
• 28:34
  Speaker 5: So it's like it's really is fifty to fifty, Like
• 28:36
  Speaker 5: there's really not a place where you're like, oh, that's
• 28:38
  Speaker 5: high level. Actually if you guys know, then then you know. Yeah.
• 28:40
  Speaker 3: Well I was.
• 28:41
  Speaker 4: Pushing him towards Saint Pete and I was like, have
• 28:42
  Speaker 4: you ever been out in Saint Pete because I feel
• 28:44
  Speaker 4: like it's a little bit more of a mature crowd,
• 28:46
  Speaker 4: not old fogies, but like okay people late twenties, early thirties,
• 28:51
  Speaker 4: a little bit more chill, not so much like the
• 28:54
  Speaker 4: five to eleven culture.
• 28:55
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 28:55
  Speaker 2: Yeah, we want to have a little more in depth conversation.
• 28:59
  Speaker 2: And also I think a lot of the activities and
• 29:01
  Speaker 2: I like what you're saying, Like I like to do
• 29:02
  Speaker 2: activities that are like even like health driven. Like after this,
• 29:06
  Speaker 2: my date is literally like we're going to a workout class.
• 29:08
  Speaker 2: I'm like, that's so dope. I'm so excited. Yeah, I
• 29:14
  Speaker 2: set them up. Oh wow, I'm dating someone. And it's
• 29:16
  Speaker 2: like that that thought process is really what I'm looking for.
• 29:19
  Speaker 2: Some of that we could go We're gonna have a
• 29:20
  Speaker 2: beautiful dinner tonight, but also like we're kicking off the
• 29:22
  Speaker 2: day by getting to work out in ye mi.
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: Hell yeah, Okay, so we have the same values.
• 29:26
  Speaker 4: That is the good thing about Tampa is everybody's outside,
• 29:28
  Speaker 4: So I feel like it pushes everyone to be like
• 29:30
  Speaker 4: super fit and active and take that seriously. But I
• 29:33
  Speaker 4: do want to ask you about your healing journey because
• 29:35
  Speaker 4: when you came on based on bage sor we got
• 29:37
  Speaker 4: to talk about it a little bit and you went
• 29:39
  Speaker 4: through a tough breakup and feel free to like stop
• 29:42
  Speaker 4: me say like that's too personal or whatever. But I
• 29:45
  Speaker 4: am curious what that breakup really how that breakup impacted you,
• 29:49
  Speaker 4: Like what did it really push you towards? What did
• 29:51
  Speaker 4: you really think like you wanted to focus on after
• 29:53
  Speaker 4: it happened, Like what what was something that really struck
• 29:56
  Speaker 4: you about the ending of that relationship that you knew?
• 30:00
  Speaker 4: I feel free if you want to like pause and record.
• 30:02
  Speaker 5: Like, yeah, I feel like, you know, I'd been through
• 30:07
  Speaker 5: a break up before. But what, especially now that I
• 30:10
  Speaker 5: can have like a bigger view about this old hit
• 30:12
  Speaker 5: in personal it's been six months, is that I really
• 30:15
  Speaker 5: feel there's like heartbreak and heartbreak, and there's like also
• 30:18
  Speaker 5: love and love, right, And actually saw a very good
• 30:20
  Speaker 5: video that really I felt like, you know, was speaking
• 30:22
  Speaker 5: to me. I feel it can help a lot of men,
• 30:24
  Speaker 5: but I feel there's a difference between you go through
• 30:27
  Speaker 5: a heartbreak, you know, because like you're with someone and
• 30:30
  Speaker 5: you go through a heartbreak because you thought that she
• 30:32
  Speaker 5: was still one and so you know that that that
• 30:36
  Speaker 5: never happened to me. You know, I never saw myself
• 30:37
  Speaker 5: as a father, especially coming from having no father, right,
• 30:41
  Speaker 5: It was always like a very sensitive topic, and so
• 30:43
  Speaker 5: I think that's why it was very hard, right, Like
• 30:45
  Speaker 5: it was the first time that I saw myself having kids,
• 30:47
  Speaker 5: you know, being a father, just someone like you know,
• 30:49
  Speaker 5: I trust completely, like I always say, and literally this
• 30:52
  Speaker 5: type of example, I have weird examples just because I'm Italian,
• 30:55
  Speaker 5: but I always say, like, you know, the ten best models,
• 30:57
  Speaker 5: like the ten you know, most good looking dude like
• 31:00
  Speaker 5: in the room could have been with her and they
• 31:03
  Speaker 5: would have had one hundred percent trust, you know, which
• 31:04
  Speaker 5: is something that like I feel like trust is pre
• 31:06
  Speaker 5: huge in today's age just because like I don't know,
• 31:08
  Speaker 5: you see like a lot of stuff, right, there's so
• 31:10
  Speaker 5: much so many options. That trust is very huge and
• 31:13
  Speaker 5: so I already knew whenever it is just confirmed it.
• 31:16
  Speaker 5: But it was like sometimes whenever you're in a relationship,
• 31:18
  Speaker 5: especially now that you know, I went through therapy and
• 31:20
  Speaker 5: you know, I read books because I really want to evolve,
• 31:23
  Speaker 5: sometimes you're just entangled, right, So whenever the relationship ends,
• 31:26
  Speaker 5: you actually realize, oh, we were just entangled, you know
• 31:28
  Speaker 5: now that I'm alone. Honestly, she was not the person
• 31:30
  Speaker 5: for me, right, But sometimes it was actually like you know,
• 31:33
  Speaker 5: real hard, you know, love and it just didn't work
• 31:36
  Speaker 5: out right now personally, why I think it didn't work
• 31:38
  Speaker 5: out as well just because being an immigrant, I was
• 31:40
  Speaker 5: always dressed like you know, you like you said, we
• 31:43
  Speaker 5: live with a clock on our head, like you know,
• 31:45
  Speaker 5: you can you make one mistake and you know you're
• 31:47
  Speaker 5: you know you're gone or you know once again, you
• 31:49
  Speaker 5: don't find like an opportunity between that timeline you're gone.
• 31:53
  Speaker 5: So it's a lot like you really, like, I don't
• 31:55
  Speaker 5: think I can remember one day where I relaxed in
• 31:57
  Speaker 5: the past probably two years, Like I just don't do that.
• 32:00
  Speaker 5: Even if I'm on vacation, I'll try to work off
• 32:01
  Speaker 5: of the day So I feel like the difference in
• 32:04
  Speaker 5: that that I really hope men can understand because you know,
• 32:07
  Speaker 5: I really feel like, you know, it made me evolve,
• 32:09
  Speaker 5: is just like you gotta find the time with yourself
• 32:11
  Speaker 5: to be like either way, you know what, you know
• 32:13
  Speaker 5: what went through and what did what didn't work out?
• 32:15
  Speaker 3: What can I do better? And I just feel like, once.
• 32:18
  Speaker 5: Again, I'm not missing anybody, and I'm good in my
• 32:21
  Speaker 5: healing journey. But I feel like I had this beautiful
• 32:23
  Speaker 5: flower and I didn't know how to put water on it.
• 32:26
  Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying.
• 32:27
  Speaker 5: It's just like because I was too focused on, like,
• 32:29
  Speaker 5: you know, trying to keep my flower my own flower.
• 32:32
  Speaker 5: But you know, whenever you're with a woman, you know
• 32:34
  Speaker 5: you got to give you got to be present, you
• 32:35
  Speaker 5: got to give attention, you got to be like, you know,
• 32:37
  Speaker 5: fultful and yeah, you know this is what this is
• 32:41
  Speaker 5: what happened, you know what I'm saying.
• 32:42
  Speaker 4: So that sounds so poetic with the accent. If I
• 32:44
  Speaker 4: heard Scott say that when you were a woman.
• 32:47
  Speaker 2: That flower, I mean, when you're with a woman's not
• 32:51
  Speaker 2: the same way. I think that's powerful though, because when
• 32:55
  Speaker 2: I went through my break up, one of the biggest
• 32:56
  Speaker 2: things I learned is I needed to really learn how
• 32:58
  Speaker 2: to point the finger at myself. A lot of us
• 33:00
  Speaker 2: get out of a breakup and we're like, they did this,
• 33:02
  Speaker 2: and I can't believe they did that. I would never
• 33:04
  Speaker 2: want somebody like that. And it was the biggest moment
• 33:06
  Speaker 2: I had where I sat and I went to a
• 33:07
  Speaker 2: conference and really dove into who I was as a
• 33:09
  Speaker 2: human and I was like, oh my gosh, I was
• 33:13
  Speaker 2: wrong here, this is where I could be better in
• 33:15
  Speaker 2: another relationship. Here's where I need to grow as a man,
• 33:17
  Speaker 2: and where I need to step up and having that
• 33:19
  Speaker 2: acceptance in me. And as soon as you could turn
• 33:21
  Speaker 2: and look inward, then you could be ready to step
• 33:24
  Speaker 2: back outward. Which it sounds like you're doing that. You've
• 33:27
  Speaker 2: done that, and you'll continue doing that. But that's also
• 33:29
  Speaker 2: why I love your platform because you're helping other men
• 33:31
  Speaker 2: do that as well. To take a moment to say,
• 33:33
  Speaker 2: wait a second before you rush into the next business
• 33:35
  Speaker 2: deal or you rush into work in your body, which
• 33:37
  Speaker 2: is still part of it.
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: Let's also talk about.
• 33:40
  Speaker 2: The mind, what's going inside that we don't always express,
• 33:42
  Speaker 2: especially as men.
• 33:43
  Speaker 4: Yeah, where do you think, what area do you think
• 33:46
  Speaker 4: other men should be focusing on, like where do you
• 33:48
  Speaker 4: if you could speak to the gens listening, what's like
• 33:51
  Speaker 4: advice or.
• 33:52
  Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean in these pus months it can be funny,
• 33:55
  Speaker 5: but I always say I really feel it like women
• 33:57
  Speaker 5: on average reno al to heal men don't. And so
• 34:00
  Speaker 5: what I really I just saw it, Like I cannot
• 34:02
  Speaker 5: say anything, but I just saw it.
• 34:04
  Speaker 3: Right, you do you go through a breakup.
• 34:06
  Speaker 5: This person went through a breakup just probably two months
• 34:08
  Speaker 5: before me, right, and so after like two three months
• 34:10
  Speaker 5: I really saw him doing good. I was like, damn,
• 34:12
  Speaker 5: you know, maybe they were just really not meant for it, right.
• 34:15
  Speaker 5: But it's also like a person that you know, you
• 34:16
  Speaker 5: go on dating apps and like you know, it's you know,
• 34:18
  Speaker 5: it's kind of like a just like fast type of
• 34:22
  Speaker 5: uh he say reward right, and you go, you know,
• 34:24
  Speaker 5: you go there there, their life is good and you know,
• 34:26
  Speaker 5: events and all this stuff. But then in the meanwhile,
• 34:29
  Speaker 5: you know, usually women are are home, right, they're like,
• 34:31
  Speaker 5: you know, suffering and they're really going through it. And
• 34:33
  Speaker 5: then what happens is that after six months, eight months,
• 34:35
  Speaker 5: ten months, the woman you know, maybe it's ready to
• 34:38
  Speaker 5: move forward or did move forward like it happened in
• 34:40
  Speaker 5: this situation and then the guy's like, oh wait, she
• 34:43
  Speaker 5: was not waiting for me, like you know what I'm saying.
• 34:45
  Speaker 5: And so I just feel like, you know, men, like
• 34:47
  Speaker 5: he's like really taking the time, like you said, to
• 34:49
  Speaker 5: look in ward and be like either way, what did
• 34:51
  Speaker 5: they do wrong?
• 34:52
  Speaker 3: Right?
• 34:52
  Speaker 5: And just how can I be at least like worst
• 34:54
  Speaker 5: case scenario if she wasn't the one? Really, how can
• 34:57
  Speaker 5: I be the best possible father or husband for my
• 35:00
  Speaker 5: person which has to be out there somewhere right, And
• 35:02
  Speaker 5: so it's retaking the time and be uncomfortable with the
• 35:05
  Speaker 5: you know, with the silence. You know, like being being
• 35:07
  Speaker 5: at home it was hard. It's like, you know, I
• 35:09
  Speaker 5: was fidgeting once again, it was it was a lot.
• 35:11
  Speaker 5: But I really feel like, you know, being a home
• 35:13
  Speaker 5: in silence is probably like the biggest like thing that
• 35:16
  Speaker 5: helped me going through it.
• 35:17
  Speaker 4: Really, what is it about the silence that's helping you?
• 35:19
  Speaker 5: It's just like, you know, you just with your thoughts
• 35:21
  Speaker 5: and you really realize that you know, no headphones, no hairpods,
• 35:24
  Speaker 5: no music, no you know, no anything, you really understand like, wait,
• 35:27
  Speaker 5: why are my thoughts on negative? We're like why are
• 35:29
  Speaker 5: my thoughts are telling me like, ooh do this? You
• 35:31
  Speaker 5: know what am I thinking? Because you know, at the
• 35:32
  Speaker 5: end of the day, we are the person that notices
• 35:35
  Speaker 5: the thoughts. We are not our thoughts, right.
• 35:37
  Speaker 3: I read. I read a lot of books.
• 35:38
  Speaker 4: I like that.
• 35:38
  Speaker 2: But that's because we are constantly surrounded by distraction. Every
• 35:42
  Speaker 2: time we got on our phone, we're simply distracting ourselves.
• 35:45
  Speaker 2: Every time we're listening to music, we're distracting ourselves. And
• 35:47
  Speaker 2: so it is so fascinating because I've done this a
• 35:49
  Speaker 2: lot recently, where you just go on a walk and
• 35:52
  Speaker 2: you think, no other stimulus, Oh, yeah, what's your thoughts?
• 35:55
  Speaker 4: When we were walking back we went to the Lightning
• 35:57
  Speaker 4: game on what was it Wednesday? My phone had died.
• 36:00
  Speaker 4: I had to raw dog that entire walk back on
• 36:02
  Speaker 4: Bay Shore, and I was like, oh, this city is
• 36:04
  Speaker 4: really beautiful.
• 36:05
  Speaker 5: It was also like a little bit uncomfortable for you, right, yes, yeah,
• 36:08
  Speaker 5: And I noticed that. You know, it's like there's all
• 36:10
  Speaker 5: these memes about like, you know, you go to a
• 36:11
  Speaker 5: party and then you open the phone and you look
• 36:13
  Speaker 5: for the weather, right just like because it's just like
• 36:15
  Speaker 5: it's just so usedful. So that's when in I feel
• 36:18
  Speaker 5: like I started what with December. Yeah, every day at
• 36:20
  Speaker 5: seven pm, I go for a walk. Like every day
• 36:22
  Speaker 5: at seven pm, I go for a walk, no phone.
• 36:24
  Speaker 5: I just have my Apple Watch just because like my
• 36:26
  Speaker 5: door is like digital. Otherwise I willed to leave even
• 36:29
  Speaker 5: the Apple Watch there because sometimes I have some identification.
• 36:31
  Speaker 5: I'm like, damn, I forgot to put on silence. But honestly,
• 36:34
  Speaker 5: it's super helpful, and I don't see a lot of
• 36:36
  Speaker 5: people doing it, to be honest, Like even when you
• 36:38
  Speaker 5: go to Bay Shore and you know, once again, maybe
• 36:40
  Speaker 5: they're just living life right, but everybody has a hair puts.
• 36:43
  Speaker 3: Everybody.
• 36:43
  Speaker 4: Oh, I'm always on my phone. I always make the joke.
• 36:45
  Speaker 4: I'm like, oh, I'm going out to pay sure to
• 36:47
  Speaker 4: be my husband, and then I'm just sitting on my
• 36:48
  Speaker 4: phone right right to music, being like I hope he
• 36:51
  Speaker 4: notices me.
• 36:53
  Speaker 1: Being intentional about it's so important. I think it is.
• 36:56
  Speaker 2: It sounds so simple, and I know somebody is listening,
• 36:58
  Speaker 2: Like I'm going to change my life by silence?
• 37:01
  Speaker 1: Truthfully, you can. Yeah, it just takes time, It takes patience.
• 37:05
  Speaker 5: I would definitely say that was the biggest thing for
• 37:07
  Speaker 5: me because just like I really realized how my thoughts
• 37:10
  Speaker 5: were like really controlling me, and I wasn't controlling my
• 37:12
  Speaker 5: thoughts right, and so even like normal it doesn't have
• 37:15
  Speaker 5: to be about a breakup. But like you know, sometimes
• 37:17
  Speaker 5: you wake up and you're like, oh but you forgot
• 37:18
  Speaker 5: these It's like why do you have to start to
• 37:20
  Speaker 5: really like you know, be this fast pace. And so
• 37:22
  Speaker 5: now I actually take things even slower, just like to
• 37:24
  Speaker 5: bother my mind. You know, maybe I'm going crazy.
• 37:26
  Speaker 2: What does your morning look like? How does it How
• 37:27
  Speaker 2: do you slow it down in the day.
• 37:29
  Speaker 5: Yeah, so I used to like I used to have
• 37:31
  Speaker 5: like you know, a bad peer, especially like you know,
• 37:33
  Speaker 5: through the breakup. You know, you wake up, you have
• 37:34
  Speaker 5: you look for the phone, just like you know, to
• 37:36
  Speaker 5: have something. Actually right now, I wake up around you know,
• 37:39
  Speaker 5: seven am, and then the first thing that I do,
• 37:40
  Speaker 5: of course, like you like drinking the glass of water
• 37:42
  Speaker 5: like classic, you know, it takes a routine. I actually
• 37:46
  Speaker 5: actually journal and pray right away. I used to do
• 37:49
  Speaker 5: it at night. But then what I noticed is that
• 37:50
  Speaker 5: you know, if I have a new working event or
• 37:52
  Speaker 5: if I have something, then I forget. And I don't
• 37:53
  Speaker 5: want to forget about God, you know, in my day,
• 37:55
  Speaker 5: so I would, you know, wake up in the first thing.
• 37:57
  Speaker 3: I want to do that.
• 37:57
  Speaker 5: So you know, I write what I'm grateful for, what
• 37:59
  Speaker 5: I'm praying for, I pray, uh, you know. I journal
• 38:02
  Speaker 5: if it's something like you know specific, like today, I
• 38:05
  Speaker 5: journal about like, hey, I have my first podcast in
• 38:07
  Speaker 5: the United.
• 38:07
  Speaker 3: States, right are we?
• 38:09
  Speaker 5: The first second actually second said yeah, sorry, sorry, sorry sorry,
• 38:15
  Speaker 5: So you know, kind of like that, and then I
• 38:17
  Speaker 5: like to do There's some people that prefer to go
• 38:19
  Speaker 5: to the gym and then do the content creation.
• 38:21
  Speaker 3: I formed.
• 38:22
  Speaker 5: My creativity is right in the morning, so that's when
• 38:24
  Speaker 5: I do my videos, partnerships and stuff. Then I have
• 38:26
  Speaker 5: I actually have like I work remote. I work for
• 38:28
  Speaker 5: a company, so I do my job for them, and
• 38:31
  Speaker 5: then I go to the gym. That's kind of pretty
• 38:32
  Speaker 5: much it, to be honest, a night I removed like
• 38:35
  Speaker 5: all the series and stuff. I prefer to like you know,
• 38:37
  Speaker 5: read or just like you know, just be with myself,
• 38:40
  Speaker 5: meditate things like that. It's pre boring, Like it's pretty boring,
• 38:43
  Speaker 5: but helpful. Yeah, alfo, Like I really felt like I
• 38:46
  Speaker 5: was just like on this you know, like what what
• 38:48
  Speaker 5: do they call it?
• 38:48
  Speaker 1: You know, like they aster wheel.
• 38:50
  Speaker 5: Yeah, yes, yes, the answer wheel and constantly you got
• 38:54
  Speaker 5: to get off.
• 38:55
  Speaker 3: That's that's why I did it, and that.
• 38:56
  Speaker 1: Is honestly, it's so inspiring.
• 38:58
  Speaker 2: It's so cool to see and what I love to
• 38:59
  Speaker 2: see is how it's helped in so many ways for you.
• 39:02
  Speaker 1: It's like living.
• 39:03
  Speaker 2: You see these people on TikTok talking about about to
• 39:06
  Speaker 2: literally be in your presence right now.
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: You can feel it.
• 39:08
  Speaker 2: It is an energy of like you have purpose, you
• 39:10
  Speaker 2: know where you're going. You're somebody that has gone through
• 39:12
  Speaker 2: trials and tribulations and life has thrown hard things your way,
• 39:16
  Speaker 2: and it's so easy for us in those moments to say, well,
• 39:19
  Speaker 2: it's just not meant for me, and instead you said, Okay,
• 39:21
  Speaker 2: these are the things that are happened to me.
• 39:22
  Speaker 1: What am I going to do about it?
• 39:24
  Speaker 2: To get myself in a better position, even if it's
• 39:26
  Speaker 2: one percent better today so I could have a better tomorrow.
• 39:29
  Speaker 1: And those are all just examples.
• 39:31
  Speaker 5: Yeah for me, Just like about once getting vision boards right,
• 39:33
  Speaker 5: I mean, they'll think about having a good femine. Other
• 39:36
  Speaker 5: things always been in my vision board, but I never
• 39:38
  Speaker 5: felt right. So thanks to my old relationship, which I
• 39:40
  Speaker 5: have nothing bad to talk about, but it's like, you know,
• 39:43
  Speaker 5: I felt like, oh, this is going to be in
• 39:44
  Speaker 5: that direction. And then when that ended and I worked
• 39:47
  Speaker 5: on myself, it was okay, then I can just prepare
• 39:49
  Speaker 5: myself for you know, whenever that's going to happen on
• 39:51
  Speaker 5: it that that's my only job. And so I used
• 39:53
  Speaker 5: to wear actually like a ring on my left hand.
• 39:55
  Speaker 5: That's why I was talking with Heavy two days ago
• 39:58
  Speaker 5: at this video that went by, because like I used
• 40:01
  Speaker 5: to wear a ring on my left hand, first of all,
• 40:02
  Speaker 5: because they don't want to be approached whenever I go out,
• 40:05
  Speaker 5: And second of all, just because like personally, I'm big
• 40:07
  Speaker 5: on symbolism. So for me to see it was really
• 40:09
  Speaker 5: almost like manifesting, right. And then my therapist kind of
• 40:12
  Speaker 5: like trash talk to me because she was like, well,
• 40:15
  Speaker 5: first of all, you are stopping your possible wife from
• 40:17
  Speaker 5: approaching you.
• 40:18
  Speaker 1: That's a good boy.
• 40:19
  Speaker 4: If you see someone that you think is interesting, maybe
• 40:21
  Speaker 4: you're at like a coffee shop, then it's like if
• 40:23
  Speaker 4: you approach me, I'm going, what is the sleeping Yeah.
• 40:27
  Speaker 5: And second of all, which I'm very sad to say,
• 40:29
  Speaker 5: it's true, I was getting approached more with the ring.
• 40:32
  Speaker 1: I was thinking that because you didn't mention that that's crazy.
• 40:34
  Speaker 3: I don't know that was a thing.
• 40:35
  Speaker 4: Now I'm gonna I'm gonna switch my or ring to
• 40:37
  Speaker 4: my left hand, and I'm finally gonna get a boyfriend.
• 40:39
  Speaker 2: When we were talking about this earlier, and let me
• 40:41
  Speaker 2: just go ahead and ask this really quick, are you
• 40:42
  Speaker 2: looking to date right now? No?
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: I'm okay. So that alone, that sentence is the challenge.
• 40:47
  Speaker 4: We have to talk about the elephants in the room though,
• 40:48
  Speaker 4: because he came in and you were on my page,
• 40:50
  Speaker 4: you're on another girl's page, and your DMS must be like,
• 40:54
  Speaker 4: you must be swimming in it, dude, So talk to
• 40:58
  Speaker 4: me about are you reading them? Do you read them
• 41:01
  Speaker 4: for entertainment? Has there been anyone where you're kind of
• 41:03
  Speaker 4: like maybe I should you know, has there any you know,
• 41:06
  Speaker 4: not at all?
• 41:07
  Speaker 5: It's yeah, I mean I done the video for you,
• 41:09
  Speaker 5: right and done the video for me, not for you
• 41:11
  Speaker 5: with you and you know, with the other girl. And
• 41:13
  Speaker 5: I was like, I just like to collaborate. I was like,
• 41:15
  Speaker 5: you know, if I can give some content, like you know,
• 41:18
  Speaker 5: talk about this that that was about my message and
• 41:20
  Speaker 5: literally in both of the videos I will say hopefully,
• 41:22
  Speaker 5: I mean, it didn't get wrong, But it's like I'm
• 41:24
  Speaker 5: not dating right, I'm in my healing process now once again?
• 41:27
  Speaker 5: Can you meet your person tomorrow? Sure, but it's like
• 41:28
  Speaker 5: I really know that I'm not ready, you know. So
• 41:31
  Speaker 5: I feel like I'm so intune thanks to this healing
• 41:33
  Speaker 5: process with myself that I know kind of where I'm at.
• 41:36
  Speaker 5: And so I was I went through the messa because
• 41:38
  Speaker 5: I was actually scared. I was like, how did how
• 41:41
  Speaker 5: did they pick up on like, oh, let me, let
• 41:42
  Speaker 5: me slide in his DMS?
• 41:43
  Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying.
• 41:44
  Speaker 5: And so yeah, I mean honestly, yeah, probably like twenty
• 41:48
  Speaker 5: five thirty in the past few days, twenty.
• 41:49
  Speaker 1: Five thirty, like shoot shot.
• 41:51
  Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean some of them, some of them were nice,
• 41:54
  Speaker 5: some of them were kind of weird.
• 41:55
  Speaker 2: Not gonna lie, you know, it's like the weirdest one
• 41:57
  Speaker 2: you got, oh Jesus.
• 42:01
  Speaker 3: I mean there's one.
• 42:02
  Speaker 5: I mean, I don't know if he's the weirdest because
• 42:03
  Speaker 5: I don't really read them all, but there's one just
• 42:06
  Speaker 5: because like she was pretty old, like no offense, she
• 42:08
  Speaker 5: was pretty old, and she was like, well, so when
• 42:10
  Speaker 5: are you gonna make me some pasta?
• 42:13
  Speaker 3: Like that?
• 42:14
  Speaker 4: Because you just associate all Italians.
• 42:16
  Speaker 2: With the ability everything you got.
• 42:19
  Speaker 3: Yeah, so that that was probably like yesterday.
• 42:22
  Speaker 5: But yeah, I just like I generally, you know, I
• 42:25
  Speaker 5: have some friends that they really are single, they want
• 42:27
  Speaker 5: to date, or like, you know, they feeling I'm like, bro,
• 42:29
  Speaker 5: I wish I can't.
• 42:30
  Speaker 1: You know, they're not even not even entertaining it. Yeah,
• 42:32
  Speaker 1: that's hard to.
• 42:32
  Speaker 4: Be upfront and to know where you're at because I
• 42:35
  Speaker 4: mean I even feel like a month ago, I was
• 42:36
  Speaker 4: in a place where I was like, yeah, I'm in
• 42:38
  Speaker 4: a mental health crisis. I don't want to bring anyone
• 42:40
  Speaker 4: into this. I think it'll lonely.
• 42:42
  Speaker 1: And you're like okay, You're like I'm ready.
• 42:43
  Speaker 5: I'm ready.
• 42:44
  Speaker 4: Now maybe I'm just going to pretend that I'm ready. No,
• 42:47
  Speaker 4: But that's so interesting that, like just the way the
• 42:49
  Speaker 4: people that think that they can challenge a little bit,
• 42:52
  Speaker 4: Like I think women see that and go they see
• 42:54
  Speaker 4: the ring and they.
• 42:55
  Speaker 5: Go, you know, I had no idea about that, And
• 42:57
  Speaker 5: you know, after my therapy s told me, then I
• 42:58
  Speaker 5: speak with my friends about I mean, even you guys
• 43:00
  Speaker 5: like that's actually a thing, like you have a ring.
• 43:02
  Speaker 5: Girls are like, oh, let me you know what I'm saying,
• 43:03
  Speaker 5: Like that that's crazy.
• 43:04
  Speaker 4: It doesn't compute with me because once I see the ring.
• 43:07
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know.
• 43:08
  Speaker 2: I think for some people to say, it becomes more
• 43:10
  Speaker 2: alluring because you're not available.
• 43:12
  Speaker 1: So they're like, wow, I mean, let me just see.
• 43:15
  Speaker 2: It's like you want what you can't have, right, and
• 43:18
  Speaker 2: so they're gonna see you. There's awesome Italian dude. They're like, well,
• 43:22
  Speaker 2: I'll go say, hello, what do I have to lose?
• 43:24
  Speaker 2: He's married?
• 43:25
  Speaker 4: But you also, this is interesting. You have a bracelet
• 43:27
  Speaker 4: with your maybe future daughter's.
• 43:31
  Speaker 1: Name is as well.
• 43:32
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 43:32
  Speaker 5: I always like once again, I just I went into
• 43:35
  Speaker 5: like you know, meditation all the stuff, and I see
• 43:37
  Speaker 5: myself having two daughters, you know, like so I always like,
• 43:41
  Speaker 5: you know, I especially for the first one I see her,
• 43:43
  Speaker 5: like you know, I mean, if you ask me, it's
• 43:44
  Speaker 5: kind of crazy. But like, of course her name is
• 43:46
  Speaker 5: going to be clear. I mean, of course, maybe my
• 43:49
  Speaker 5: possible wife. You know, it's gonna have problems, but we're
• 43:51
  Speaker 5: gonna talk.
• 43:52
  Speaker 4: The heck I'm carrying this kid, and give me the
• 43:54
  Speaker 4: middle name. What made you choose Claire?
• 43:58
  Speaker 5: I always loved it, like, yeah, this little like French sound,
• 44:01
  Speaker 5: but you know it's here in the United States. I
• 44:03
  Speaker 5: want my I want my daughters to feel American. You
• 44:05
  Speaker 5: know you're gonna put her like, well you're Italian, No,
• 44:07
  Speaker 5: You're you know you're gonna tell yeah, yeah, So you know,
• 44:11
  Speaker 5: I always loved clear and and they see her if
• 44:14
  Speaker 5: you ask me like that, that's how deep I went.
• 44:16
  Speaker 5: I see her going to our bird. I don't know
• 44:17
  Speaker 5: why I have nothing with our birth.
• 44:19
  Speaker 2: And I'm such a believer in the vision. Like I
• 44:22
  Speaker 2: envisioned this. I drew a picture of where I'm standing
• 44:24
  Speaker 2: right now. Really in twenty eighteen, I showed people and
• 44:27
  Speaker 2: they're like, get out of here, and here we are,
• 44:29
  Speaker 2: Like it literally came by the year.
• 44:31
  Speaker 3: It happens.
• 44:31
  Speaker 1: Three years, I'm gonna be a host. Three years there
• 44:33
  Speaker 1: was a host.
• 44:33
  Speaker 3: It happens. It happens under percent.
• 44:35
  Speaker 1: I believe in the vision.
• 44:36
  Speaker 2: I think it's cool that you have the symbolism attached
• 44:39
  Speaker 2: to it, and I know it does definitely sound a
• 44:41
  Speaker 2: little odd to some people that are like, you already
• 44:42
  Speaker 2: have your daughter's name, you're in a picture of your family.
• 44:45
  Speaker 2: But at the same time, if that's what helps you
• 44:46
  Speaker 2: and stays motivated towards the purpose of what you're working toward, yeah,
• 44:50
  Speaker 2: this is your life.
• 44:50
  Speaker 4: You girls have that too. I mean you can be like, Okay,
• 44:52
  Speaker 4: you're gonna pick the name, but like every girl has
• 44:54
  Speaker 4: the notes apps, they like.
• 44:57
  Speaker 3: Yeah it's yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.
• 44:58
  Speaker 5: But it's like I go like kind of like you said,
• 45:00
  Speaker 5: like I mean just like but like I go very
• 45:02
  Speaker 5: like this is my actual vision board when I have
• 45:04
  Speaker 5: the car, the monitor that I'm going to use, my wallet,
• 45:06
  Speaker 5: the you know, the partforms that I use. Like I
• 45:09
  Speaker 5: go very very deep and that that helps me.
• 45:11
  Speaker 3: You know.
• 45:12
  Speaker 5: I hope people it's like they just like live life
• 45:13
  Speaker 5: and they go with the flow. And if I feel like,
• 45:15
  Speaker 5: if you're motivating, you have a purpose, you're gonna achieve
• 45:18
  Speaker 5: it like one hundred percent. But for me, like in
• 45:20
  Speaker 5: the days where I don't feel like it, that's what
• 45:22
  Speaker 5: it helps, right because like, oh, this this is actually
• 45:24
  Speaker 5: who I want to be.
• 45:24
  Speaker 3: So today I got to still you know, be on track. Man.
• 45:26
  Speaker 1: I'm inspired by you.
• 45:27
  Speaker 2: I look forward to continue to follow you, especially on
• 45:29
  Speaker 2: all the different platforms.
• 45:30
  Speaker 1: I wish you nothing but the best ship.
• 45:32
  Speaker 4: I know.
• 45:33
  Speaker 2: Eventually, whenever you decide to step out on the dating world,
• 45:35
  Speaker 2: you're not gonna have a problem at all.
• 45:36
  Speaker 4: That's one of these coups that's gonna slide me up.
• 45:38
  Speaker 4: I'm not looking for anything, and he's like, well, I
• 45:40
  Speaker 4: do make a good pass.
• 45:41
  Speaker 3: Where do you think are the best women in Tampa? Then?
• 45:44
  Speaker 4: Ah, you know what?
• 45:44
  Speaker 3: That's ask me for the men so well.
• 45:46
  Speaker 4: I mean, I feel like, in a weird way, I
• 45:48
  Speaker 4: feel like new women to Champa kind of have to
• 45:50
  Speaker 4: figure that out too, because I do feel like there
• 45:52
  Speaker 4: is also kind of a specific type of woman that
• 45:55
  Speaker 4: lives here too, because I'll criticize the men, but I
• 45:57
  Speaker 4: will equally criticize the women, and there is first you're
• 46:00
  Speaker 4: a wanna be influencer type that moves here and lives here.
• 46:04
  Speaker 4: And I say that would love as somebody who's in
• 46:07
  Speaker 4: the Instagram space. I also feel very weird about the
• 46:10
  Speaker 4: word influencer.
• 46:11
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel more as you are one.
• 46:13
  Speaker 4: I know, it's just weird because there's very much like
• 46:16
  Speaker 4: the shop. I like to know it and someone who
• 46:19
  Speaker 4: posts on like to know it.
• 46:20
  Speaker 1: I know.
• 46:22
  Speaker 4: That I'm also trying to figure that out. I would
• 46:24
  Speaker 4: guess maybe like religious spaces, I know your faith is
• 46:27
  Speaker 4: very important to you. Radiant Church is like if.
• 46:31
  Speaker 1: I want to go too. I was joking with Avy
• 46:33
  Speaker 1: the other.
• 46:33
  Speaker 2: I was like, you got to join like an organization,
• 46:35
  Speaker 2: like a like a club sport kind of.
• 46:37
  Speaker 4: Don't put me down for athletics, Like no, but it's.
• 46:39
  Speaker 2: Just the social gathering because it's not going out to
• 46:41
  Speaker 2: a bar on a Friday, which is nothing wrong we're doing,
• 46:43
  Speaker 2: but you're just setting yourself up in a different setting
• 46:45
  Speaker 2: where it's more casual, like oh, we're gonna go play
• 46:47
  Speaker 2: volleyball on a Tuesday. Now you're surrounding yourself with fifteen
• 46:50
  Speaker 2: people that who knows. One person's maybe the athlete, one
• 46:53
  Speaker 2: person's maybe the escape who knows.
• 46:55
  Speaker 4: I will say, so we have a mutual friend La,
• 46:57
  Speaker 4: who runs the run club, and I met some really
• 46:59
  Speaker 4: cool rolls there at this at the Saint Pete one. Yes,
• 47:02
  Speaker 4: so I mean maybe that, but also like you're Italian.
• 47:05
  Speaker 3: I mean I'm not looking. I was just curious, you know, I.
• 47:07
  Speaker 4: Just iury fine, I know, nobody asks, and so he's like,
• 47:14
  Speaker 4: look at all the fifty year olds and my DM.
• 47:16
  Speaker 4: So I guess what I'm trying to say is that
• 47:18
  Speaker 4: same bay like women who are looking for friends are
• 47:20
  Speaker 4: still like and they all live in Saint Pete. I
• 47:22
  Speaker 4: think they all live in Saint Pete.
• 47:23
  Speaker 1: I'm telling you right now. Yeah, there's a reason I moved.
• 47:25
  Speaker 4: To say listen, I came in high like I was
• 47:29
  Speaker 4: here a month and I was already criticizing Tampa.
• 47:31
  Speaker 5: Okay, I gotta hang out morning the same, Pete.
• 47:34
  Speaker 1: Then I'm telling you, anytime you come over, let me go.
• 47:37
  Speaker 3: But you just got to go on this what he's
• 47:38
  Speaker 3: called the street, but what is called Central?
• 47:41
  Speaker 2: Okay, you like a good walk, walk Vanoy, walk the
• 47:44
  Speaker 2: pier and then walk Central and depending on the time
• 47:47
  Speaker 2: of day, you'll get a different vibe of people.
• 47:49
  Speaker 1: But it's so nice.
• 47:51
  Speaker 4: We need to do like a big not influencer, but
• 47:53
  Speaker 4: creator dinner and maybe we all go to Saint Pete
• 47:56
  Speaker 4: or something. We get like La Terrence, you me who else?
• 48:00
  Speaker 4: Street Grath, Oh my god, j Grath. I'm just thrown
• 48:02
  Speaker 4: out names.
• 48:03
  Speaker 1: I know anybody? Yeah wow, I don't know.
• 48:07
  Speaker 2: I know.
• 48:07
  Speaker 3: I know them. Move.
• 48:07
  Speaker 5: I know them move because all my followers they send
• 48:09
  Speaker 5: me like cool this name because of you know this
• 48:11
  Speaker 5: year that I do.
• 48:11
  Speaker 3: So I know them. I know them. I don't know
• 48:12
  Speaker 3: what we're talking about, like to.
• 48:13
  Speaker 4: Become the Tampa Avengers. I then go out and sat Pete.
• 48:18
  Speaker 2: Well, you know what I look forward to whenever we
• 48:20
  Speaker 2: can connect again. And I think obviously you're going to
• 48:23
  Speaker 2: continue to rise and do all the things and appreciate it. It
• 48:25
  Speaker 2: was all started because of Abby's new page, which of
• 48:28
  Speaker 2: course you could check out he is on base Sure
• 48:31
  Speaker 2: did Abby do a good job interview.
• 48:32
  Speaker 5: On Yeah, amazing. I like people with like are seample,
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  Speaker 5: you know, they go with it. So I had a
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  Speaker 5: great time.
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  Speaker 1: Absolutely say there it is. Well, Abby, what is your
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  Speaker 1: social so people can follow along?
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  Speaker 4: You can catch me out the Abb Murphy Jago.
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  Speaker 2: What's your social so people can follow along your whole journey?
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  Speaker 5: Oh man, I mean I'd say, like my t he's
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  Speaker 5: like g O g I A c O, So it's
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  Speaker 5: go Jocko. My my instagram is like my name and
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  Speaker 5: last name is super Italian, so it's kind of a long,
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  Speaker 5: but it's Jocko mosam vitadi. It's like g I A
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  Speaker 5: c O M O s A N v I T
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  Speaker 5: A l.
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  Speaker 4: So if you didn't have your notepad out, just go
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  Speaker 4: to base on base Shore. He's linked there.
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  Speaker 3: Do that, do that? Do that? Do that?
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  Speaker 2: And mine is at Scott Tablin s C O T
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  Speaker 2: T T A V L I N Jacko, thank you
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  Speaker 2: so much for.
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  Speaker 3: Having me A hundred percent. Thank you, guys,