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Michael Sartain - Lifestyle Strategist | The Hidden Skills Gap That's Holding Men Back · Success Story with Scott Clary

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  If you can't replace your job, your social circle, and your girlfriend in 15 minutes,
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  then you probably don't have enough abundance.
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  Michael Sartaine is a trader, mentor, podcast host, and philanthropist.
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  From mastering high-risk trading strategies to hosting red-carpet charity events,
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  he's built a name through precision and purpose.
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  When we were growing up, it was the Iron Sheik and Hulk Hogan.
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  We knew who the good guys were and we knew who the bad guys were.
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  And the world doesn't work like that anymore.
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  Getting a job, finding employees, and finding someone to date becomes its own easy mode.
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  Introduced to the stock market by his father,
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  Michael now averages seven trades a day,
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  attributing 0% of his success to luck.
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  As host of the Michael Sartaine podcast and founder of MOA Mentoring,
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  he teaches others to achieve success with strategy and discipline.
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  You think that your marketing has to reflect your logic,
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  reason, and accountability, but it doesn't,
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  because people will come out and just say crazy stuff in these ads
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  and make more money than you, and it's very frustrating.
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  I'm a U.S. Air Force captain.
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  I worked in counterintelligence for two years
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  and I flew spec ops for five.
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  This is how we talk every day.
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  Raising funds for underprivileged children and animal rescues.
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  How do you define what you do for a living?
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  Well, I would say I'm a performance coach.
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  I specialize in networking leadership communication and dating.
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  And the way I like to describe it is,
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  if you can't replace your job,
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  your social circle, and your girlfriend in 15 minutes,
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  then you probably don't have enough abundance.
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  And so a lot of people, they don't.
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  They just kind of, they deal with whatever their job gives them.
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  They hang out with whichever group of people will accept them,
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  and they settle for whatever partner they can get
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  because they don't have abundance.
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  Other ulterior alternatively,
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  what the other thing I'd like to teach is,
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  there's a certain mid-tier level of status
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  that people can attain now that wasn't available,
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  probably when you and I were growing up.
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  When I was growing up, back in the 80s,
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  you were Arnold Schwarzenegger,
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  or you were Mike Tyson, or you were Michael Jordan,
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  or you were Ronald Reagan, or whoever,
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  you were like 10 out of 10 level famous.
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  You were Hulk Hogan, right?
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  Or you were nobody.
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  You were basically just the gender.
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  There was no difference between you and the gender.
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  There was a 10 out of 10 level of fame and then a zero.
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  But because of social media,
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  there's like a one out of 10, a two out of 10.
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  So like, you say some of these big streamers
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  who make a lot of money, they're like a five out of 10 famous.
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  They're not as famous as the rock,
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  but they're still pretty famous.
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  There's like the personal injury attorney in your city
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  who's got the billboards up everywhere.
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  He's like a three out of 10 famous.
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  My old point is, if you're like a one out of 10,
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  where you go out to different social events
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  and everyone's at least seen your face and know your name,
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  which is very, very easy to do,
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  then getting a job, finding employees
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  and finding someone to date becomes,
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  it's on easy mode.
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  It's really, really simple.
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  And I also teach you how to do that
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  through concepts and networking
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  that weren't available to us not even 20 years ago.
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  Even walking through your own journey and your own story,
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  maybe for people that do not understand
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  like an Oxford dictionary definition of status.
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  Because that's a, like you're in your world
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  and that word makes so much sense to you
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  for a lot of people.
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  They're like, what does that mean?
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  I have to have more Instagram followers like,
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  think somebody who, yeah, they don't get what status means.
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  That's the issue.
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  Yeah, so the reason why there's this confusion,
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  Scott is because people think status is real
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  and it's not.
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  Status is never, ever real.
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  So what I mean by that is status can only be perceived.
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  I'll use an example, Chris Williamson,
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  who's got one of the biggest podcasts in the world.
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  How did he start off?
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  He was on a reality TV show.
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  Was that real Scott?
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  On reality TV shows, is that all authentic?
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  Or do they tell you what to say?
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  What do you think that is?
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  So he took what we would consider to be fake fame
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  and he transmuted that into real status
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  where he made real money.
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  So was the status fake?
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  All status is perceived.
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  It's very difficult for a lot of people
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  who live in a very logical meritocracy,
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  like the meritocracy mindset,
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  which by the way inside of my company,
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  I live in a meritocracy mindset.
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  If my, if people who work with me perform better,
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  I reward them with more money and responsibility.
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  But the world doesn't work like that
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  because the reality situation is,
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  you know, Logan Paul went and ripped a bunch of people off
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  with some shill coin and he's still more famous than you.
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  Right? We had a man transition to become a woman,
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  run over somebody, kill them,
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  and then four months later named Woman of the Year
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  after winning a decathlon in 1976.
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  Like, we don't care, Caitlin Jenner,
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  he's still more famous than you.
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  We, like, OJ Simpson, I had a conversation with him
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  at a, I was at law office now bumped into one time
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  and he told me he was getting offers for millions of dollars
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  to host a fantasy football podcast.
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  And he stabbed his wife and another guy 56 times allegedly.
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  And he's still more famous than you.
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  You think that status comes from a meritocracy.
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  It comes from you earning it because you were good.
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  You were a good little boy.
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  And that's just not how the world works.
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  And so a lot of times what,
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  well, there's a big conflict a lot of times
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  when people, like, first find out about my program
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  because they can't deny that it works.
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  They just want to deny why it works.
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  And that is they want to believe that status
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  is a stumbling that is imbued upon you by angels and unicorns
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  because you were a good little boy.
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  And that's just not how the world works.
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  It's just what you'll find out in reality is like,
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  you wanted Megan Fox and Megan Fox chose machine gun Kelly,
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  the bad boy.
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  You, you, when we were growing up, bro,
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  it was the Iron Sheik and Hulk Hogan.
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  We knew who the good guys were and the bad guys.
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  It was Rocky and Ivan Drago.
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  We knew who the good guys were and we knew who the bad guys were.
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  And the world doesn't work like that anymore.
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  The world is this, it's funny.
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  I use wrestlers all the time
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  because there used to be good guy wrestlers and bad guy wrestlers.
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  And now we don't know who the good guys are, the bad guys aren't anymore.
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  No, it's it all up.
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  And when you think about it, like,
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  when you think about like Donald Trump's a great example,
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  he gets bullied and then he bullies back.
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  So he's either good guy or the bat is like,
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  these, these things have become so androgynous.
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  And the only thing that matters is like, how many eyeballs you get
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  that hawk to a girl made a video about a sexual act
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  and became it for a while had a bigger podcast than Joe Rogan.
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  Look it up if you don't believe me.
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  It's not, there's no good guy status or bad guy status.
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  But if you had that much status,
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  if you had that much fame or infamy,
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  I don't even think infamy is a thing anymore.
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  If you had that, you could become fabulously wealthy from that.
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  And I can give you 100 examples of people.
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  Again, Jake Paul went around, dab, dab, dab,
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  just making these silly vine videos and got paid $40 million
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  for a sham fight with Mike Tyson where he could barely move.
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  He's 57 years old, like $40 million.
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  What did you do this week for $40 million?
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  As is people have made for,
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  I haven't made 40 million this week, yeah, bro, yeah.
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  As my point, it's like, it's like, but people don't,
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  people, so I think people, what happens is initially,
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  they tell me I'm wrong.
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  And then begrudgingly, they tell me I'm right.
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  It's very much like Galileo talking to the Pope in the 16th century,
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  explaining to him that the earth goes around the sun.
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  What did the Pope do?
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  He put him on house arrest for the rest of his life.
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  It's very simple, like in the beginning, you don't believe me.
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  And then later on, you're like, well,
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  I kind of have to believe because everything he's saying is true,
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  but it's still not right that we should only,
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  it still should be a meritocracy.
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  And people just like, they're holding on,
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  they're gnashing their teeth and clinching their buttole.
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  No, it has to be a meritocracy.
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  Only the good people win who work the hardest.
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  And the reality is, if you have a bunch of status,
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  regardless if it's a good guy status, good status is like,
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  I'm a cardiologist, I've performed several hard surgeries.
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  I've patented a certain type of hard surgery
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  that saves people's lives.
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  That's triple good status.
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  That guy goes on to run for mayor.
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  That's an incredible form of status.
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  You're a benefit to the world.
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  Everyone will agree, you're a wonderful person.
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  And then there's the guy who does prank videos
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  on rumble in YouTube and pranks his girlfriend
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  and makes, does it like exploding whatever's in the toilet
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  and just runs his car off the road
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  and makes these stupid videos
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  and benefits the world in no way whatsoever
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  other than making a couple people laugh.
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  And he makes just as much money as the cardiologist.
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  And until you can wrap your head around that,
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  you're always going to have trouble and be behind,
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  especially as an entrepreneur, especially as an entrepreneur.
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  Because the entrepreneur, what he wants to do
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  is that you use logic reason and accountability
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  to develop your product or your service
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  and you used it to solve a problem.
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  And you did so effectively.
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  And so you were paid adequately
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  or you were paid abundantly for solving that problem.
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  And so now you think that your marketing
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  has to reflect your logic,
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  reason and accountability, but it doesn't.
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  Because people will come out just say crazy stuff
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  in these ads and make more money than you.
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  And it's very frustrating
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  until you understand the first thing I said,
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  which is that status is only perceived.
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  And when you can grasp that that monster,
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  you understand how to control it,
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  just the sky is the limit on how much you can grow
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  as an individual.
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  Like even the bad publicity that some people get,
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  I'm good friends with Tai Lopez.
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  How many times I've heard Tai Lopez has done Tai Lopez
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  is over Tai Lopez is a scam.
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  Can't tell if it's all, yeah.
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  Yeah, he's canceled all this kind of stuff.
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  And then I just saw it like I get hang out with him
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  and it's just like nothing but celebrities at his parties
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  and it's like there's all these people.
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  I was like, I thought he was canceled.
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  And none of it turns out to be true.
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  And let's just say every bad thing
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  that people say about Tai is true, say it's all true.
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  He's still gonna make more money this year than you are.
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  So what, how does that make you feel?
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  Oh, it makes you feel bad and the world's not fair.
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  I got bad news for you, man.
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  The world is only moving in that direction.
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  I saw a program, men of action,
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  that I can 100% stand behind, but not only that,
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  I put 200 video testimonials from my clients
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  that are satisfied from doing it.
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  And you'd be surprised
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  because the logic, reason and accountability part of my brain
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  is like, well, if you just go look at the 200 testimonials
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  and the 3000 people who have gone through the course,
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  you should immediately say, well, obviously this course works.
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  And of course they doesn't work like that, does it Scott?
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  There's just a bunch of people,
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  there's like still naysayers and deniers
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  because I use reason, accountability and logic
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  then therefore it doesn't work out.
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  But then some other guy comes out with some other course
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  and I'm not to say these people are bad,
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  but there's these self-improvement courses
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  where it's like feel good about yourself.
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  You're enough, say affirmations in the mirror
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  and you'll just be enough.
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  And these people make two orders of magnitude more revenue
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  than I do in my company and they're selling nothing.
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  Nothing and they're crushing it.
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  But why is it is because they have more status than me?
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  It's just true.
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  It's just a function of status.
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  That's what there has to be this like spectrum of
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  or this continuum of what?
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  So yes, you can have good status, bad status.
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  You can be the most ethical entrepreneur
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  and build a company and be successful that way
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  and that like to your point of the cardiologist.
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  I mean, yeah, there's definitely a sad
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  status where you're just in an asshole.
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  Is Mark Zuckerberg an ethical entrepreneur?
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  He stole your information.
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  Is he an ethical entrepreneur?
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  No, I don't think he's a,
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  I don't think he's the avatar of ethical entrepreneur,
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  but he would seem to have good status.
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  My question is, if he needed to get in front of venture capitalist
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  or you did Scott, you've been an ethical entrepreneur Scott
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  and he hasn't, who can get in front of venture capitalist faster?
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  You, me or Mark Zuckerberg, you, me or Joe Rogan,
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  you, me or you, me or Jake Paul.
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  Jake Paul can get in front of venture capitalist faster
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  than 99% of the entrepreneurs you know.
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  And he has nothing to do with venture capital.
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  He's just more famous than you.
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  And it sucks that the world is like that,
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  but that's just the way the world is.
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  So where does, where does like conscious and reputation
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  and all of this?
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  Cause now people are listening to this.
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  Obviously, a super sort of provocative point of view.
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  And I don't, I don't disagree with you at all.
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  People will have a hard time reconciling,
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  especially people that are young,
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  starting out, they're like, I don't want to,
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  well, I think, I think it's old.
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  No, I don't think it's young people.
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  Young people actually have very, like,
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  like, look at the way young people like crave attention
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  on social media.
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  I don't think it's young people at all.
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  It's older people who have a problem with this.
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  Cause they're used to the Soviet Union
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  versus the United States.
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  They're used to the good guys versus the bad guys.
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  They're the ones who have the biggest problem with this.
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  When I deal with older entrepreneurs,
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  those are the ones I have an issue with.
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  Young entrepreneurs, they sit there
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  and they watch Grant Cardone,
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  who's done, who, who sits there and like talks trash
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  about his competition on different podcasts.
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  And he's a billionaire.
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  He floods the market with his ads.
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  Have you seen that one thing where he,
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  that one ad where he's like in a G wagon
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  and he's showing off all of his cars
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  and that, can you imagine how ostentatious?
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  Can you imagine going to Warren Buffett
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  and saying, here's a great way to advertise
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  show all your jets in your car?
• 16:42
  That old school group of people
• 16:44
  would look back at him like they're crazy.
• 16:46
  No, it's very different now.
• 16:48
  It's like, I actually think it's the younger group
• 16:50
  of people who get it.
• 16:51
  They actually understand.
• 16:53
  It's like the people who have more,
• 16:55
  who can get more eyeballs on social media,
• 16:57
  the ones who actually do really well.
• 16:59
  Yeah, but you're,
• 17:00
  so I actually think you're not giving yourself
• 17:01
  enough credit because what you're talking about
• 17:04
  is, is really just creating provocative content.
• 17:08
  That, yeah, it's a spiky point of view.
• 17:10
  No, no, no, but I want to tell you,
• 17:11
  you're out of my idea and then I know you'll have an answer.
• 17:14
  But my point is, what the Paul Brothers do,
• 17:17
  what Grant Cardone does, they're not like evil people.
• 17:21
  Some people I'm sure think they're not great,
• 17:22
  but they're not evil people.
• 17:24
  Being an asshole on social media is very different
• 17:26
  than being like doing illegal shit
• 17:29
  and building a business that way.
• 17:31
  So I think there is still a line between good and evil.
• 17:34
  There's, there's shades of, of course, good.
• 17:37
  Of course, yes.
• 17:38
  That's what I know.
• 17:39
  Of course, what you're saying is correct.
• 17:40
  I'm not telling you to be evil.
• 17:42
  When I'm telling you is to give yourself permission.
• 17:46
  That's all I'm saying.
• 17:47
  It's like so many people don't want to take action
• 17:49
  on social media because they're afraid
• 17:51
  to give themselves permission,
• 17:53
  yet we just put a man in office
• 17:55
  who fucked a porn star while his wife was pregnant
• 17:58
  and we elected him twice, okay?
• 18:00
  And I'm not criticizing him because I voted for him too.
• 18:02
  My point is, you're worried about a meme you were gonna post
• 18:06
  or an Instagram account you were gonna make
• 18:07
  or a YouTube video because you cared so much
• 18:10
  about what the people at work thought about you
• 18:12
  and your fat aunt that you go see at Thanksgiving every year.
• 18:15
  By the way, just in case you're wondering,
• 18:16
  you join my program, this is how you get spoken to every day.
• 18:19
  Okay, I'm a former US Air Force captain
• 18:22
  and I worked in counterintelligence for two years
• 18:23
  and I flew spec ops for five.
• 18:25
  This is how you will get spoken to.
• 18:26
  This is how we talk every day.
• 18:28
  But like you watch this over and over again
• 18:31
  and I just hear these excuses about,
• 18:32
  I just care so much about what other people think about you.
• 18:35
  When I say all this stuff, of course,
• 18:37
  I don't want you to do any of these things.
• 18:38
  I don't want you to start a shill coin.
• 18:40
  I don't want you to sit there and start a,
• 18:43
  what is the other one that's just complete?
• 18:46
  Forex, I mean.
• 18:47
  Forex, yeah, yeah.
• 18:48
  100% of retail Forex is a scam.
• 18:51
  There you go, I'll say it.
• 18:52
  You can come after me, I'll be more than willing
• 18:54
  to debate you 100%.
• 18:55
  Not Forex, Forex is not a scam
• 18:57
  because there actually are sovereign
• 18:58
  for well funds that need to use it.
• 19:00
  But 100% of retail Forex is a scam.
• 19:02
  I say this and people get pissed at me,
• 19:04
  but it's still true.
• 19:05
  But now I'll tell you something to do
• 19:06
  with the amount of money my friends have lost
• 19:08
  in retail Forex, I'm not disagreeing with you.
• 19:10
  Yeah, I'm not disagreeing with you.
• 19:12
  But my point is, do you see what I've done?
• 19:13
  No, like by doing no, I've taken aside
• 19:16
  and now I've become a little bit scandalous in here.
• 19:18
  Even though what I'm saying is objectively true,
• 19:20
  you wanna know another place where I get like huge hate
• 19:22
  and I could get hundreds and hundreds of comments,
• 19:24
  I've debated flat earthers before.
• 19:26
  One, something that's objectively true,
• 19:28
  I studied astronomy and college,
• 19:29
  I know the earth is round and I can prove it.
• 19:31
  And I sit there and I have a debate with them
• 19:32
  and I just completely dunk on these guys
• 19:34
  for like three hours.
• 19:35
  And I get all these views and comments
• 19:37
  and all this kind of stuff.
• 19:38
  And people are like, I don't know why you do this
• 19:40
  and I'm like, well, look at the algorithm.
• 19:41
  I just got 100,000 views for this video that I just made.
• 19:44
  But most people don't wanna take any chances like that.
• 19:46
  What my point of everything that I just said
• 19:48
  about good guy status and bad guy status
• 19:50
  are you giving yourself permission?
• 19:52
  Or are you listening to the same platitudes
• 19:54
  over and over again?
• 19:55
  It's like every time you fall down, you gotta get back up.
• 19:57
  Have you ever seen some of the stuff
• 19:59
  that Gary Vaynerchuk writes, some of his tweets?
• 20:03
  Like I like Gary Vaynerchuk, I'm sure we all do.
• 20:05
  He's an inspiration to all of us.
• 20:06
  But his tweets are very much,
• 20:08
  if you believe in yourself and do you do what you think
• 20:10
  is right and you stay the course,
• 20:12
  eventually you'll be successful.
• 20:13
  And I'm just thinking, if I said some shit like that,
• 20:15
  nobody would listen and if you said some shit like that,
• 20:18
  it would get no one would care.
• 20:20
  No, can you imagine being so famous
• 20:22
  that all you have to do is like be Alex from Ozzy
• 20:25
  and just tweet work harder.
• 20:26
  And then you just get like 5,000 retweets.
• 20:29
  Can you imagine me?
• 20:30
  But you know what, we're not.
• 20:31
  We're not that famous, Scott, we're not.
• 20:33
  And so for the rest of us,
• 20:34
  we are going to have to be disruptive.
• 20:36
  And if we're not disruptive,
• 20:37
  the world will pass us by and they will forget us.
• 20:40
  And because of the way the fractal nature,
• 20:42
  you know, Prado's principle,
• 20:43
  because of the fractal nature
• 20:44
  of the way social media works now
• 20:46
  and the way marketing works
• 20:48
  that you start to come to this realization very quickly
• 20:50
  is that you have to do something
• 20:52
  to separate yourself very quickly,
• 20:54
  which goes back to my original point.
• 20:55
  You have to give yourself permission to try different things.
• 20:58
  And when you do, then you can start to figure out ways
• 21:01
  to get a leg up on your competition.
• 21:03
  But if you don't and it's just like,
• 21:05
  I'm going to be the ethical salesperson
• 21:06
  and I'm just going to say platitudes over and over again
• 21:08
  and feel good about myself
• 21:09
  and tell myself that I'm good enough.
• 21:12
  Yo, here's the thing.
• 21:13
  Internally, all of you are watching this.
• 21:14
  You are enough internally.
• 21:16
  Externally, someone will take your partner
• 21:18
  and someone will take your girl.
• 21:20
  Someone will take your money
• 21:21
  and someone will take your clients
• 21:22
  if you don't do anything about it.
• 21:24
  Sorry, I'm sorry to be the one to tell you this.
• 21:26
  If I'm the first entrepreneur to tell you
• 21:28
  that other people are out to get you,
• 21:29
  I have, especially if you're successful.
• 21:31
  If you're not successful,
• 21:32
  you're just starting up,
• 21:32
  forget everything I'm saying.
• 21:33
  You've got a while to go.
• 21:34
  But for those of you who get like a couple million impressions
• 21:37
  on social media every week,
• 21:38
  I've got bad news for you.
• 21:40
  People are going to come after every single part of your life.
• 21:42
  They will, they're going to make reaction videos
• 21:46
  about you doing normal life stuff.
• 21:48
  And when they do so,
• 21:49
  how are you going to deal with it?
• 21:50
  Are you going to sit there and deny it?
• 21:52
  Are you going to block them all?
• 21:53
  Or are you going to take that new found status,
• 21:58
  that new found in for me and transmute that
• 22:00
  into a way to get more clients,
• 22:02
  in a way to get more business,
• 22:04
  in a way to improve your business.
• 22:06
  Because that's what you're going to have to do.
• 22:08
  And if you just want to ignore it
• 22:09
  and just say everything that I'm saying is wrong,
• 22:10
  that's fine.
• 22:11
  You can keep your head in the sand as long as you want.
• 22:12
  But there's some of you out there.
• 22:13
  I'm sure that are watching this right now.
• 22:15
  That deep down, you know that what I'm saying is true.
• 22:18
  You know that the guys who make the,
• 22:20
  we have a personal injury attorney here in Vegas
• 22:23
  and the guy drives around into $4.3 million
• 22:25
  Bugatti and puts like hot girls in the passenger seat
• 22:27
  and he's crushing it.
• 22:29
  He's crushing, well wait a second.
• 22:30
  I need a personal injury attorney.
• 22:32
  I don't need a guy with the Bugatti
• 22:33
  who has a bunch of hot girls in his car.
• 22:35
  But why does everyone call him?
• 22:37
  Because he's famous.
• 22:39
  And I don't know what.
• 22:40
  He gets attention, that's it.
• 22:42
  That's, that's the main thing.
• 22:43
  The other part that I'm going to tell you
• 22:44
  as far as entrepreneurship is concerned
• 22:46
  is the biggest disease you can catch.
• 22:49
  We call it procrastination,
• 22:50
  but it's actually something else.
• 22:52
  It's inaction.
• 22:53
  It's not procrastination is giving a word,
• 22:56
  another word to something else.
• 22:57
  The disease is inaction.
• 22:59
  My course is called Men of Action
• 23:00
  because I watch too many people
• 23:02
  take other self-improvement courses
• 23:04
  and then they would, they would cry.
• 23:05
  Oh my God, this life changing.
• 23:07
  Thank you so much.
• 23:08
  The giant within, like of whatever.
• 23:10
  And we take Tony Robbins and it's not Tony Robbins fault
• 23:12
  because he teaches a really great program.
• 23:13
  But a lot of people will take his program,
• 23:14
  feel fucking incredible about themselves
• 23:17
  and then just go right back to living
• 23:18
  in their mom's basement being overweight.
• 23:20
  They won't take any action
• 23:21
  and not the scary part of my course
• 23:24
  is I force you to take action.
• 23:26
  There's a thing in science,
• 23:27
  we know about in psychology,
• 23:28
  it's called cognitive behavioral therapy.
• 23:32
  We use CBT or DBT,
• 23:34
  dialectical behavioral therapy for people
• 23:36
  who have like borderline personality disorder.
• 23:38
  We've seen it's being a very effective treatment.
• 23:40
  I think for men, the most effective treatment
• 23:42
  is called behavioral activation therapy,
• 23:45
  which is basically when you feel depressed,
• 23:47
  you go to the gym.
• 23:49
  When you feel depressed, you go take an action
• 23:52
  and that action then creates dopamine release
• 23:55
  and you start having rewards in your mind.
• 23:57
  I think the male brain and the female brain are different
• 24:00
  and so the way that we treat some of these symptoms
• 24:03
  for depression or sadness or melancholy is different.
• 24:06
  I think for men, the one of the main things you have to do
• 24:08
  is go and take action.
• 24:09
  Rather than read a book, do a breathing exercise
• 24:11
  and look in the mirror and tell yourself that you're enough,
• 24:14
  I think you need to go hit a personal record
• 24:15
  on the bench press and go talk to a beautiful woman
• 24:17
  that you would have been afraid to talk to before.
• 24:19
  I think you do that,
• 24:20
  you're going to feel a level of happiness
• 24:22
  that you've never recognized before
• 24:23
  because that's what your ancestors did
• 24:25
  in order to survive.
• 24:27
  And when you do the same thing,
• 24:28
  you're also going to have that same feeling.
• 24:31
  So then what is the issue with all of the self-help advice
• 24:35
  that's out on the internet right now?
• 24:37
  And I know you probably have 1,000 issues with most of it,
• 24:40
  but I just want to tie a knot in the status thing
• 24:43
  because I think that's important.
• 24:44
  So, and then we'll talk about sort of self-help.
• 24:46
  We can talk about what men should do.
• 24:48
  And by the way, in terms of mental health,
• 24:53
  if I ever get a stressful call, a stressful email,
• 24:55
  I do go to the gym and I'll go deadlift,
• 24:58
  I'll go bench, I'll go squat,
• 25:00
  I'll go kick my own fucking ass.
• 25:01
  Beat me in there, hold on.
• 25:02
  God, that sounds like a very traditional masculine answer.
• 25:05
  You're going to get canceled if you say that too loud.
• 25:07
  You better be careful, Scott.
• 25:09
  This is a thing of, I mean, this is,
• 25:11
  but this has always been how I, how I decompress
• 25:15
  because that gives me the room to think through the problem.
• 25:17
  It removes the emotion out of the situation too.
• 25:20
  Your response is just going to be in that positive way.
• 25:22
  Way to self it, it removes the emotion.
• 25:24
  You mean you come up with logical answers dispassionately?
• 25:27
  You better be careful saying this stuff on the internet, Scott.
• 25:30
  You are going to get canceled.
• 25:31
  You better be careful saying stuff like this, bro.
• 25:33
  You're the American psychological cessation,
• 25:35
  if they get a hold of you,
• 25:36
  they're going to get you canceled, buddy, watch out.
• 25:38
  I think we're in an era of non-cancelation.
• 25:41
  I think we've got through it a bit.
• 25:42
  Oh, dude, I hope so.
• 25:43
  I hope so.
• 25:44
  I really do, man.
• 25:45
  When he said there made those promises about,
• 25:47
  you will no longer have your account taken down for no reason
• 25:49
  and you're going to get a right to a speedy appeal.
• 25:51
  I was like, I voted for the right person.
• 25:53
  As soon as I saw that, as soon as I saw that,
• 25:55
  it's like, you mean I can tell the truth
• 25:57
  and I'm not going to get ratioed because of it?
• 25:59
  That's incredible.
• 26:00
  No, no, the whole point I was going to make was like,
• 26:04
  whatever, whatever you're building,
• 26:06
  whatever attention you're trying to find,
• 26:08
  you have to have spiky points of view.
• 26:10
  You have to have an opinion on shit.
• 26:12
  And listen, you're not going to get canceled.
• 26:17
  If you're not being a complete fucking asshole,
• 26:19
  like I know you take it to an extreme to a degree
• 26:22
  where you're saying you can still build an audience that way.
• 26:25
  But where you are right now
• 26:28
  and where 99% of people are building audiences,
• 26:31
  it's so far, even like a small amount of opinion
• 26:35
  is uncomfortable for most people.
• 26:37
  They take a fucking baby step,
• 26:39
  like put an opinion on anything in your life
• 26:42
  in your world relevant to what's happening in politics.
• 26:45
  Just have a fucking opinion.
• 26:47
  Because if not, who are you, you're vanilla.
• 26:50
  You're not going to attract anybody.
• 26:52
  Do you know how hard it is to get leverage on YouTube right now?
• 26:55
  Very. So start from scratch.
• 26:56
  Like you have to do something with an incredible cover photo
• 27:00
  and an incredible title to even get any traction whatsoever.
• 27:04
  And you have to post consistently.
• 27:05
  And I just keep reminding people,
• 27:07
  it's like when you use platitudes,
• 27:09
  like trust yourself, feel better, trust your intuition.
• 27:12
  Yo, I don't believe, you're ready here.
• 27:15
  You can make a clip out of this.
• 27:16
  95% of you watching this should stop fucking trusting
• 27:19
  your intuition.
• 27:20
  It has not led you down the right path.
• 27:22
  If you are a pilot and you've done 2000 landings,
• 27:25
  then you get to trust your intuition.
• 27:27
  Look up the definition of what intuition is.
• 27:30
  It has to do with domain expertise and lots of experience.
• 27:34
  If you're a cardiologist and you've cracked open
• 27:36
  100, like 500 people's chests and actually looked at the heart
• 27:40
  and be like, oh, there's something wrong here.
• 27:41
  You get to trust your intuition.
• 27:44
  If you're a psychologist and you are a psychiatrist
• 27:46
  and you dealt with maybe 500 people
• 27:48
  that have had schizophrenia, you get to trust your intuition.
• 27:51
  The rest of us who have no domain expertise
• 27:54
  are like, my intuition tells me that I need to start a restaurant
• 27:58
  that makes paint tacos that are vegan.
• 27:59
  And like, no, you're doing that for you.
• 28:01
  That's not your intuition, bro.
• 28:02
  That's your ego.
• 28:04
  That's what's going on.
• 28:05
  Most of you have no right.
• 28:07
  You have how dare you.
• 28:09
  You do not have the right to trust your intuition
• 28:12
  because you don't have the domain expertise to do so.
• 28:15
  You do have the right to study.
• 28:18
  You do have the right to become a subject matter expert.
• 28:21
  You do have that right, which then will lead you
• 28:24
  to proper intuition.
• 28:25
  But what happens instead is people who have no clue
• 28:28
  what they're talking about are just like, follow your passion.
• 28:31
  Do you think that Wayne Heizingo won't woke up one day
• 28:34
  when he had a waste management open,
• 28:37
  your waste management the company and he's like,
• 28:39
  you know what, I know he was, he's from here.
• 28:41
  He's from Miami.
• 28:43
  Yeah.
• 28:44
  Do you think that Wayne Heizingo was like,
• 28:45
  you know what, my passion is Scott?
• 28:47
  I just want to tell you, portapoddies,
• 28:50
  I've just been wanting to clean shit out of portapoddies
• 28:52
  my whole life to clean diapers and feces.
• 28:54
  I've been so excited about creating dump trucks.
• 28:57
  Do you think that Wayne Heizingo's passion
• 28:59
  was waste management?
• 29:01
  Or do you think he solved someone else's problem
• 29:04
  and made billions of dollars because of it?
• 29:06
  Again, I want you to think about the attorney Harvey Spector
• 29:09
  on the show suits.
• 29:10
  I don't know if you got some of you guys watch the show suits.
• 29:12
  But what made him so great is not that he's a great litigator.
• 29:15
  It's that he makes problems go away.
• 29:18
  If those of you are watching this,
• 29:19
  if all you do is make problems go away for other people
• 29:23
  and you can't do that with platitudes,
• 29:24
  you can only do that with action.
• 29:26
  If you can just make problems go away from other people,
• 29:29
  give away as much free stuff as you can
• 29:31
  and ask for 1% of your audience to buy your product,
• 29:34
  you will become outrageously wealthy.
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• 32:14
  Status, where does it play into all the other parts
• 32:17
  of your life?
• 32:18
  Because even before we press record, I said,
• 32:20
  one thing that people are really good at doing
• 32:22
  is excelling in one area.
• 32:24
  They figure out how to make money.
• 32:26
  For example, that's, you know, everybody who's entrepreneurial
• 32:29
  at some point wants to do it to make money
• 32:30
  even though you can talk about why you should be building
• 32:32
  a company and all your, you know,
• 32:33
  other reasons in your own personal nor star.
• 32:35
  Maybe it isn't money.
• 32:36
  But they figure out to make money.
• 32:38
  And then all the other parts of their life fall apart.
• 32:41
  This is not a hard and fast rule,
• 32:42
  but it happens more often than not.
• 32:43
  Where multiple divorces, kids hate them,
• 32:46
  no health, physical, mental, any of it.
• 32:49
  And now they haven't figured out how to do anything
• 32:52
  except make money, which is a great problem to have.
• 32:55
  But what is, what's the answer to this?
• 32:58
  Where does status play into this?
• 32:59
  You're talking about dating multiple women,
• 33:01
  some people care about that, some people just want.
• 33:04
  One woman that actually loves them, like the point is,
• 33:07
  they're fucking up across the board
• 33:08
  because they've only focused on one thing
• 33:09
  for the past 20 years.
• 33:11
  If you guys don't believe me,
• 33:13
  go check Brittany Renner out.
• 33:15
  She is the woman who had a baby with PJ Washington,
• 33:18
  who's the power forward for the Dallas Mavericks.
• 33:20
  And then wrote a book teaching women,
• 33:22
  instructing them how to trap wealthy men
• 33:26
  into having babies with them.
• 33:27
  Women are out there.
• 33:28
  If you do not understand
• 33:30
  intersectional dynamics with women
• 33:31
  and you've made a lot of money,
• 33:33
  you don't have game, you have negative game,
• 33:35
  you are a target, you are below zero.
• 33:38
  You're actually better off not having any money
• 33:40
  with women than you are having money
• 33:42
  and then dealing with women and not understanding them.
• 33:45
  So you're absolutely right.
• 33:46
  The other part is the guys, you just get out of shape,
• 33:49
  out of buddy of mine.
• 33:50
  Dude, this guy was like a male model
• 33:51
  when we were in college.
• 33:52
  He was like a model for JC Penney.
• 33:53
  He was on the bat's are at.
• 33:54
  Super good looking dude.
• 33:55
  He goes, dude, I haven't worked out in five years.
• 33:57
  He goes, I haven't been to the gym in five years.
• 33:58
  I'm like, what?
• 34:00
  That's crazy because that's what happens to us, right?
• 34:03
  We get really good at a couple areas of our life
• 34:05
  and then we let other areas of our life go.
• 34:07
  I work so hard on social dynamics for so long
• 34:11
  that I actually let my business like not do well.
• 34:13
  You know, it happens to all of us.
• 34:15
  We become kind of obsessed.
• 34:17
  There is never a point in your life
• 34:19
  where it's too early to actually understand
• 34:22
  networking communication, leadership and dating.
• 34:25
  There's never a point.
• 34:26
  And even if you are someone who is in a committed relationship
• 34:29
  right now, you're in a marriage.
• 34:30
  And by the way, everyone's goal is to find,
• 34:33
  every man's goal is to find a woman who loves them.
• 34:36
  Even the guys who right now are dating multiple women,
• 34:38
  eventually the goal is to find someone who loves them.
• 34:40
  My point has always been,
• 34:42
  you don't need to be with a bunch of women to do that,
• 34:44
  but you need a bunch of women to want to be with you.
• 34:46
  So I teach attraction.
• 34:47
  That's when it comes to the dating aspect of my program,
• 34:51
  it's 100% men don't understand concepts in attraction
• 34:55
  or attraction triggers when it comes to women.
• 34:57
  And because of that, you see about a third,
• 34:59
  the bottom third of men right now who are out dating
• 35:03
  have no options with women whatsoever,
• 35:05
  about two thirds of men under the age of 30 or single
• 35:08
  while as one third of women are single
• 35:10
  and on dating apps, men match with women
• 35:13
  six out of every 1,000 swipes.
• 35:16
  Women match out of 100 out of every 1,000 swipes.
• 35:20
  This is about 16 times more.
• 35:21
  Tinder right now has nine men for every women on there.
• 35:25
  Men are in a mode of desperation right now.
• 35:28
  So a lot of guys are getting good at becoming sound financially,
• 35:32
  you know, building their business,
• 35:33
  but when it comes to intersectional dynamics,
• 35:34
  they like not only have they not been taught anything
• 35:38
  that's going to help them,
• 35:38
  they're actually being taught the opposite.
• 35:40
  You need to earn the right to be vulnerable
• 35:43
  in front of a woman.
• 35:44
  And yet they're being told by content creators
• 35:46
  like Chris GQ Perry, Will Hitchens
• 35:48
  or Justin Baldoni, they're being taught by these men
• 35:51
  to go out and be vulnerable to women that they just met
• 35:53
  and let these women know how you feel.
• 35:55
  I don't know how much you like them the first time you meet them.
• 35:58
  And I'm like, that works for the male model.
• 36:00
  I agree that doesn't work for the five, six Filipino guy
• 36:03
  who just came over here, you know,
• 36:04
  from the United States, he's a second generation Filipino.
• 36:07
  He doesn't have the same ability like the male model
• 36:09
  to just walk up to women.
• 36:10
  There are different answers for different men.
• 36:12
  And if you don't understand these answers,
• 36:14
  if you're a guy who just isn't classically good looking
• 36:17
  or doesn't classically have a bunch of status
• 36:18
  but you have a bunch of money, you are a target.
• 36:23
  And you either realize that what I'm saying is true now
• 36:25
  or you're going to very quickly, you are a target.
• 36:29
  Men who use a money in lieu of attraction
• 36:33
  are some of the most difficult clients I have to deal with
• 36:36
  because when I explain to them,
• 36:38
  this girl that you're talking to didn't stop liking you,
• 36:41
  she never liked you.
• 36:43
  It's really hard for their ego to deal with that.
• 36:46
  Those are some of the most difficult clients that I have.
• 36:47
  The ones that use money in lieu of ability to be attracted.
• 36:52
  That is a really difficult thing.
• 36:55
  But the other one of all the things that I go over my course,
• 36:58
  the most important thing is fitness.
• 36:59
  Like physical fitness.
• 37:01
  You can't, like it really starts with physical fitness.
• 37:03
  I'm 47 years old and I've never been in better shape
• 37:06
  in my entire life.
• 37:08
  You know, I just finished 75 hard.
• 37:10
  I only eat two meals a day.
• 37:11
  I do intermittent fasting, cold plunge.
• 37:13
  I do sauna every single day.
• 37:14
  I'm in the gym.
• 37:15
  I do five days splits.
• 37:16
  I work out seven days a week.
• 37:17
  I do a paintball like once a week with some of my buddies.
• 37:20
  It's really high cardio and I play basketball
• 37:22
  maybe three or four days a week.
• 37:23
  I do this every day because I understand fitness
• 37:26
  is going to come first.
• 37:27
  And then, and then my relationships with other people,
• 37:30
  my ability to network is going to allow me to build a business
• 37:33
  which then helps my finance.
• 37:34
  So remember health, wealth and relationships, right?
• 37:38
  Those are the three pillars when it comes to self-help.
• 37:42
  Health is the most important.
• 37:44
  Relationships are actually the next most important.
• 37:46
  And then those two then lead to wealth.
• 37:48
  If all you do is worry about wealth
• 37:50
  then you have a problem because now it's like,
• 37:52
  where do I, like, if I lose one of my closures,
• 37:54
  where do I go?
• 37:55
  I know where to go because I know Cole Gordon
• 37:57
  and Jeremy Minor are two of my good friends.
• 37:59
  I know where to go.
• 38:00
  I couldn't just call Brad Lee or Tyler as an asset.
• 38:04
  They're my friends because I worked on relationships first
• 38:07
  and then afterwards you work on wealth
• 38:09
  and so that's the way that whole thing works.
• 38:10
  But I think, one thing I did five years ago
• 38:14
  was I created the most comprehensive self-help course
• 38:16
  in the world for men.
• 38:17
  Everything that we've talked about in this conversation right now
• 38:21
  is what we teach in the course.
• 38:22
  It's networking, leadership, relationships, and dating.
• 38:26
  And so that's the most people that I've found in the space,
• 38:30
  especially in the dating space,
• 38:31
  they don't teach your leadership at all.
• 38:33
  Except like Jaco Willix, the only guy in the space
• 38:35
  I really think who's truly teaching leadership
• 38:37
  and the same thing in the entrepreneurial space,
• 38:38
  they don't really go over leadership
• 38:40
  and then they also have a bunch of guys
• 38:41
  who just become targets for predatory women
• 38:46
  who are just after them financially.
• 38:49
  I think the issue is that you have all these content creators
• 38:53
  that just focus on, again, one aspect of the person's life
• 38:57
  and they make it seem as if you kill it in that area,
• 39:00
  you're gonna be happy in everything else
• 39:02
  just because you figured out one part, which is wrong.
• 39:04
  It's completely wrong, dude.
• 39:06
  Like you know this.
• 39:07
  So I know the answer and I feel this way strongly
• 39:13
  but I feel like we're letting a lot of young men down
• 39:15
  because we only focus on certain kinds of content
• 39:18
  and certain kinds of lifestyle.
• 39:19
  We don't help level them up in all the other areas
• 39:22
  of their life and this is why you mentioned
• 39:23
  some of these ridiculous dating stats
• 39:25
  where you know the numbers, I don't know the numbers
• 39:30
  but I'm sure this is why mental health, suicide, depression
• 39:35
  is at an all time high with young men
• 39:36
  because we don't have good role models
• 39:38
  teaching them how to live this like fulfilled life.
• 39:41
  Well, we have good role models
• 39:43
  it's just they're being drowned out by the louder role models
• 39:46
  who make $60,000 an hour streaming on Twitch.
• 39:50
  Like that's where the problem lies, right?
• 39:53
  There's this, I'll give you an example.
• 39:54
  This is kind of a microcosm.
• 39:55
  There's this funny video of Jason Momoa
• 39:59
  and he is talking to this couple
• 40:01
  and he grabs the girl and he starts hugging her
• 40:03
  and then he starts forearming the guy and pushing him away
• 40:06
  and he's like pushing to, and the audience is laughing.
• 40:09
  He's on some talk show.
• 40:10
  I forget which one it is and the audience is laughing
• 40:13
  and the funny thing is is that Jason Momoa
• 40:16
  doesn't realize that he's being disrespectful to that guy
• 40:19
  because what he's being taught
• 40:21
  is that that type of behavior is totally acceptable.
• 40:24
  And so because of that,
• 40:26
  it's like if Chris Hemsworth came up and grabbed Jason Momoa's girl
• 40:29
  then it would just be fine.
• 40:30
  It's not, why are you so insecure, bro?
• 40:32
  And the reality is that isn't a good boundary
• 40:35
  to have in a relationship.
• 40:36
  If my girlfriend was off hugging some other dude at a party
• 40:39
  and he was pushing me away, we're gonna fight.
• 40:42
  Sorry to let you guys know this
• 40:43
  and I'm sorry if that seems like it's very immature
• 40:46
  but that's what men, that's how men used to do.
• 40:49
  I used to manage, I used to be the door guy
• 40:51
  at a bar in Austin, Texas called Amazon Shotbar
• 40:54
  back 25 years ago and you know what happened every day
• 40:56
  during the summer, there'd be a fight
• 40:58
  and you know what happened after the fight?
• 40:59
  The guys would shake hands afterwards,
• 41:01
  no one would call the cops, no one would go to jail
• 41:03
  and you'd go back in there and get your credit card
• 41:04
  and nobody cared.
• 41:05
  Now it's like, oh my God, billy push,
• 41:08
  billy push Steve in elementary schools
• 41:10
  like now we have to suspend everybody.
• 41:12
  Now we've gotten to a very different place
• 41:15
  where like regular traditional masculine roles
• 41:18
  don't exist anymore and they're being shunned.
• 41:24
  Listen, I just want you to consider anybody's watching this.
• 41:27
  I want you to consider that your house is on fire
• 41:29
  and when it's on fire, your family members are inside the house
• 41:32
  or on the second floor, you can't get to them.
• 41:34
  The fire department shows up
• 41:36
  and the men in the fire department, they show up
• 41:38
  and you can see their faces.
• 41:39
  Do you want their faces when they walk up
• 41:41
  to save your family members, to be full of emotion?
• 41:45
  Do you want the fire chief to come up to you
• 41:47
  and be like, Scott, I've been having a rough week.
• 41:50
  Really I've been having a difficult time dealing
• 41:52
  with the stress of just being this fire chief
• 41:55
  and it's just been very, very hard for me.
• 41:57
  Or do you want stoic, hard looking men
• 42:02
  to kick in the fucking door and save your family?
• 42:05
  Which do you want?
• 42:07
  And then when you answer this question correctly,
• 42:10
  I want you to read that the American Psychological Association
• 42:13
  said that traditional masculinity
• 42:15
  and specifically stoicism was harmful.
• 42:19
  They said it was harmful.
• 42:21
  No, it is stoic men who built the world that were in today.
• 42:25
  It was stoic men who created Riverside FM,
• 42:28
  who created all this stuff, who created Zoom,
• 42:32
  who created this lab, like it was stoic men
• 42:34
  who just sat there, went to work every day
• 42:36
  and created these things.
• 42:38
  That's what happened.
• 42:39
  It's not this idea that traditional masculinity is harmful.
• 42:42
  That is part of the problem.
• 42:44
  So now I can't express, like, I just one of these things
• 42:47
  where it's like, I can't compete with other people
• 42:50
  because that might hurt someone's feelings.
• 42:51
  We need to give Billy a trophy, participation trophy
• 42:55
  for just participating.
• 42:56
  We've got into this place where it's become very difficult
• 42:59
  for you to succeed.
• 43:01
  And I think the over correction,
• 43:03
  I think things had gotten too far to the left
• 43:05
  and then the over correction was what we saw
• 43:07
  a couple of days ago with the inauguration.
• 43:09
  That is the sign of the over correction.
• 43:11
  We've gone too far in one direction
• 43:12
  and now we're coming back in the other direction.
• 43:14
  So, I mean, I just think that's just the main issue
• 43:17
  that I see people having.
• 43:18
  And along with, like I said before,
• 43:19
  giving yourself permission to express yourself,
• 43:21
  understanding that status is just perceived.
• 43:23
  You do these things and like, you are going to have more success.
• 43:27
  The one idea that I think is important to talk about
• 43:31
  is, yes, I do believe that traditional masculinity
• 43:35
  is demonized to a degree and I don't agree with that at all.
• 43:39
  I think we are correcting now.
• 43:41
  But what happened was when we demonized traditional masculinity
• 43:45
  and young men had no role models,
• 43:48
  it turned into, and they had no sexual partners,
• 43:51
  it turned into this anger and this incel behavior
• 43:57
  for lack of a better term.
• 43:58
  And that's also not masculinity either.
• 44:01
  That's not what people should aspire to be.
• 44:03
  So, what's the fix?
• 44:06
  Like, who are the people, I mean, outside of you,
• 44:08
  your content, the people in your community,
• 44:10
  what's the fix for someone young, trying to figure out,
• 44:15
  how do I conduct myself as a man?
• 44:17
  How do I build status properly?
• 44:18
  How do I not hate the other sex?
• 44:20
  So these are not good, right?
• 44:23
  You understand what I'm saying?
• 44:24
  Because you saw that as well.
• 44:26
  Yeah, so one of the issues is a lot of men,
• 44:30
  they were told that their relationships
• 44:34
  with the opposite sex were going to be a certain way.
• 44:36
  They were told by Disney, the church, and their family
• 44:38
  that if I'm just good to her,
• 44:39
  if I do unto others as they would do unto me,
• 44:42
  then what I will receive is one free wife, right?
• 44:45
  I'll have one Cinderella story
• 44:47
  because that's what I deserve
• 44:49
  because I worked hard in school.
• 44:50
  And so therefore, if I just do what,
• 44:53
  you know, if I just, if I'm just a good little boy,
• 44:55
  then I'll get a girl and then they get into the real world
• 44:58
  and then all of a sudden rock the bartender
• 44:59
  steals their girlfriend and then they're very angry.
• 45:01
  Like you said before, the anger
• 45:03
  and then we talk about the incel culture.
• 45:05
  For me, the ultimate thing that I learned
• 45:07
  and remember the first thing I said about status
• 45:09
  is I don't judge people.
• 45:11
  I like, it is actual non-judgment with discernment
• 45:14
  that actually gets you through this,
• 45:15
  which is why I try to teach people.
• 45:17
  Like for instance, you saw that crazy news
• 45:20
  about that one woman who had sex
• 45:21
  with like a thousand people in a day
• 45:23
  or something like that.
• 45:24
  It was like headline news when it happened.
• 45:26
  And I did a reaction video
• 45:27
  and I just watched the audience
• 45:28
  the way they reacted and they're like,
• 45:30
  this is the downfall of society, this is horrible.
• 45:32
  And I'm like, no, I just don't think I want my daughter
• 45:35
  to do this, but I don't think she should like die
• 45:37
  because of what she did.
• 45:38
  Like I don't think she's gonna have a happy relationship
• 45:40
  but that's just my opinion.
• 45:41
  Maybe she will.
• 45:43
  Yeah, I don't really know.
• 45:44
  Funny enough I'm gonna bump into Lily Phillips tonight
• 45:46
  here in Las Vegas.
• 45:47
  She's going to a party I'm going to tonight.
• 45:49
  But the thing about is when you do that,
• 45:51
  what happens is if you watch the Candace Owens interview
• 45:54
  with her, she needed this woman to be wrong
• 45:57
  for Candace to be right.
• 45:59
  And I'm not saying Candace is an incel,
• 46:00
  but it's that same mechanism that causes people
• 46:03
  to become hateful.
• 46:04
  And my whole thing is when my competition does something
• 46:06
  to like steal one of my ideas and they do something better,
• 46:09
  I don't hate them.
• 46:10
  I'm just, I'm non-judgmental towards it.
• 46:12
  When you can learn to be non-judgmental
• 46:14
  and understand, yes, the world may be falling apart
• 46:16
  around you.
• 46:17
  Yes, the good guys don't always win.
• 46:19
  Yes, the world is not fair.
• 46:20
  Yes, social media is fake.
• 46:22
  When you come to that realization
• 46:23
  and you're just non-judgmental,
• 46:24
  you're except like Eckhart Toll talks about
• 46:26
  in the power of now.
• 46:27
  I accept the moment exactly the way that it is.
• 46:29
  And then, but you can still be discerning
• 46:31
  and take right action.
• 46:32
  I think that's ultimately the key.
• 46:33
  That's how you keep from becoming an incel.
• 46:35
  For me, all of the experiences I've had with women
• 46:38
  in my entire life have been almost entirely positive.
• 46:40
  And because of that, I love women.
• 46:41
  And you'll notice, I do shows with 10, 12 women.
• 46:44
  Most of my friends are women.
• 46:45
  I love being around women.
• 46:46
  So as a dating coach, I'm very different
• 46:48
  than the most of the other ones.
• 46:49
  I tell men to friend zone as many women as you can.
• 46:51
  Have a ton of female friends.
• 46:52
  They'll introduce you to other women.
• 46:54
  They'll get you into cool parties
• 46:55
  and they'll get you calibrated
• 46:56
  towards being around women.
• 46:57
  I teach something that is very different
• 46:58
  than one of a lot of guys who does no hatred at all.
• 47:00
  Do I admit that some of the females
• 47:02
  that I may be friends with, I'm like,
• 47:03
  hey, that seems like kind of toxic behavior.
• 47:05
  And I probably wouldn't want to date you, sure.
• 47:07
  But I just don't date them.
• 47:08
  I don't hate them though.
• 47:10
  That's where the problem comes.
• 47:11
  Does that make sense?
• 47:12
  Yeah, it's not.
• 47:13
  It's the early age.
• 47:13
  It's the hatred.
• 47:15
  Again, if somebody does something
• 47:17
  like like if we were to study Pablo Escobar, right?
• 47:20
  I'm Colombia, my family's Colombia.
• 47:22
  I've got to study Pablo Escobar.
• 47:23
  I can look at him in a non-judgmental way
• 47:25
  and then at the end say,
• 47:26
  I don't think I need to sell cocaine.
• 47:28
  You see what I'm saying?
• 47:29
  Like I can do that.
• 47:29
  I can look at him and be like,
• 47:31
  again, if I were to look at certain battles
• 47:33
  during World War II,
• 47:34
  there were despicable people
• 47:35
  that were executing those battles.
• 47:37
  I can still look at them and say,
• 47:39
  okay, this is what he did, right?
• 47:40
  This is what he did wrong.
• 47:41
  But like still, but not hate him
• 47:43
  and then go back and say, okay,
• 47:44
  this is what, I'm saying this is a form of military officer.
• 47:47
  I can look at and I can study previous generals
• 47:49
  and say, okay, this is what he did, right?
• 47:51
  This is what he did wrong.
• 47:52
  With a dispassionately look and try to learn.
• 47:55
  Again, you guys might have,
• 47:56
  I know a lot,
• 47:57
  I'm friends with a very controversial content creator,
• 47:59
  Wes Watson.
• 48:00
  And Wes, he goes off, he goes after people,
• 48:03
  he's a lot of profanity.
• 48:04
  People have a hard time.
• 48:05
  Like he's very,
• 48:06
  he makes himself very difficult to digest sometimes, right?
• 48:10
  He really becomes very polarizing.
• 48:12
  If you were to look at Wes Watson though,
• 48:14
  without judgment and say, okay,
• 48:15
  what are the things he does well?
• 48:16
  Well, he has a fucking fully automated sales process
• 48:19
  where he has no sales team
• 48:21
  and his expenses are incredibly low.
• 48:23
  And he's done four million a month in revenue
• 48:25
  with like 80, 90% profit.
• 48:27
  Those are crazy numbers.
• 48:28
  I wanna learn that.
• 48:30
  I wanna learn that part about instead of judging him,
• 48:33
  I'm gonna use discernment to figure out,
• 48:34
  okay, what are the parts that I can learn
• 48:36
  and what are the parts that I don't wanna learn?
• 48:37
  And that's the main thing that I've done with my company
• 48:39
  is just try to understand,
• 48:40
  what are the things I need to learn
• 48:42
  and what are the things that I can just like leave behind?
• 48:44
  So the term we use is judgment,
• 48:46
  it's discernment without judgment,
• 48:49
  discernment without judgment.
• 48:51
  Just because like you can learn a lot of crazy things
• 48:54
  from people,
• 48:55
  but you don't have to be exactly like them.
• 48:58
  And that's one of the main things
• 48:59
  that I try to teach people.
• 49:00
  And when you do so, you don't become hateful or resentful.
• 49:03
  You know, this is a hard thing
• 49:04
  for a lot of people to swallow.
• 49:06
  Ladies who are watching this,
• 49:07
  every guy who ever cheated on you isn't a narcissist.
• 49:10
  Some of them just cheated on you, just happened.
• 49:12
  And fellas, if you're out there,
• 49:13
  if there's a lady who cheated on you,
• 49:15
  she isn't a psychopath.
• 49:17
  Sometimes they are, but a lot of times,
• 49:20
  they just, things didn't work out.
• 49:22
  And people don't wanna hear that.
• 49:24
  It's the number of women that I hear tell me
• 49:26
  that they got cheated on by a guy who was a narcissist,
• 49:29
  doesn't match up with the number of narcissists
• 49:31
  that there are in the world.
• 49:32
  You know what I'm saying?
• 49:33
  It just says that the numbers don't match up.
• 49:35
  And so if you can learn to have discernment without judgment,
• 49:38
  then just come to the realization
• 49:40
  that sometimes relationships don't work,
• 49:41
  just because they don't work.
• 49:42
  Some guy quit your company because it wasn't a good fit.
• 49:44
  It doesn't mean that there were a bad person.
• 49:46
  If you can truly have that attitude
• 49:47
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• 49:49
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  You know, this sort of brings it back
• 52:05
  to what I mentioned about removing logic,
• 52:07
  removing emotion out of decisions
• 52:10
  and proceeding with logic.
• 52:12
  This is what it's all about.
• 52:14
  It's about two things.
• 52:15
  It's about removing emotion out of decision making,
• 52:19
  out of the content you consume and trying to understand
• 52:22
  the context that information comes from.
• 52:25
  But it also is about understanding that social media's
• 52:29
  fake, the content that people put out
• 52:31
  is not their entire personality.
• 52:33
  Just because you heard one good piece of advice
• 52:35
  from one person does not mean you consider them God
• 52:37
  and put them on this pedestal.
• 52:39
  There's a lot of issues with them too.
• 52:41
  And I'm just, I think the whole goal of this show
• 52:45
  is to understand that whether or not
• 52:47
  you're trying to improve in your business,
• 52:49
  in your relationships, dating, marriage,
• 52:53
  related with kids, health, well,
• 52:55
  there's so many different ways to do the thing
• 52:57
  you're trying to do.
• 52:58
  And the most successful people,
• 53:00
  they understand all the different ways
• 53:02
  and they do have a discerning eye
• 53:04
  when they try and figure out something you they have to.
• 53:07
  Because if not, then you're gonna say that,
• 53:08
  hey, just because this work for one person
• 53:10
  is gonna work for me, that's not how the world works.
• 53:12
  And it's not true.
• 53:13
  And I see this a lot with, I don't come from
• 53:16
  like a lot of dating content.
• 53:18
  I see a lot with a lot of health and wellness content.
• 53:20
  People say, I did the keto diet
• 53:22
  and that's how I lost my weight, right?
• 53:24
  Did this split?
• 53:25
  I did a push pull or I did a chest tries back buys
• 53:27
  or I did, hey, for 15 minutes a day
• 53:30
  or only did stair master or contest prep.
• 53:32
  There's all these different things
• 53:33
  that the creator, the content creator,
• 53:36
  they say that it's the only way that it'll work.
• 53:39
  Yeah, yeah.
• 53:39
  Exactly.
• 53:40
  That's incorrect.
• 53:41
  Yeah, that's totally incorrect.
• 53:43
  I wanna just bring up one more idea.
• 53:45
  You mentioned, sort of gone through
• 53:47
  a couple different pillars of what makes a man successful.
• 53:53
  What were some ideas that you have
• 53:55
  or some points of view that we didn't discuss yet
• 53:58
  about just sort of overall success in a man's life?
• 54:01
  Yeah, I'm finding mentors.
• 54:02
  I mean, you mentioned it before,
• 54:03
  like be discerning enough.
• 54:04
  So I look at it like, when you think about an NFL team,
• 54:08
  they have a front office and that front office,
• 54:10
  one of the things their job to do
• 54:12
  is to identify talent that other people missed, right?
• 54:16
  Or being able to tell when someone can actually
• 54:17
  perform the job.
• 54:18
  When the guys are really good quarterback
• 54:20
  or if he just has good measurables at the combine, right?
• 54:23
  And so I think becoming a good talent scout
• 54:25
  for finding mentors is an incredible ability.
• 54:28
  Finding guys who actually can do the job
• 54:30
  that they say they can do
• 54:31
  and then kind of identifying which guys can't.
• 54:33
  I just got bad news for those of you who are watching this.
• 54:35
  Most of the people trying to teach you how to make money,
• 54:37
  don't know how to make money,
• 54:38
  but they do know how to sell you a course
• 54:40
  on how to make money.
• 54:41
  That's essentially what's going on.
• 54:42
  I have bad news for, I have even worse news
• 54:44
  for you those in the dating space.
• 54:45
  I'd say 95 to 99% of them don't get anywhere near the results
• 54:49
  that they claim that they get for their clients.
• 54:52
  That's one of the first things I did in my courses.
• 54:53
  I put up hundreds and hundreds and hundreds
• 54:55
  and hundreds of testimonials to absolutely
• 54:58
  unequivocally prove that every single thing I said was true
• 55:01
  and none of it was an exaggeration.
• 55:03
  And you would think that the entire market
• 55:05
  would like flock to my idea,
• 55:07
  but it actually made people more insecure.
• 55:08
  It really did.
• 55:09
  It's like if you're a shorter guy
• 55:11
  and you just believe in your heart
• 55:12
  that short guys just cannot date pretty girls
• 55:14
  and you see my program
• 55:15
  and I show you 100 short guys dating pretty girls,
• 55:18
  they become very difficult.
• 55:19
  So instead of it's saying,
• 55:20
  hey, maybe I need to take this guy's course.
• 55:22
  It's like, fuck this guy, he's a liar.
• 55:24
  This must be fraud and I'm like, bro,
• 55:26
  there's hundreds of testimonials there.
• 55:28
  The guys are literally saying that what I'm saying is true
• 55:30
  and they don't want to hear it.
• 55:32
  Finding being able to scout out mentors is a big one.
• 55:35
  The other thing I will tell you is
• 55:37
  we spend a lot of money on courses personally
• 55:40
  and men of action learning from other people
• 55:42
  who are smarter than us.
• 55:43
  I mean, I can tell you right now,
• 55:44
  Cole Gordon, we spent money on,
• 55:46
  Tyler Lopez, we spent money on these guys
• 55:48
  have helped us inmeasurably.
• 55:49
  These different courses that we've taken,
• 55:51
  some courses you guys would never heard of.
• 55:52
  Like we have a course specifically
• 55:54
  we're taking on YouTube algorithm right now.
• 55:56
  We have all these different courses that we're taking.
• 55:59
  One of them was basically how to grow
• 56:01
  social media accounts.
• 56:02
  We've taken these different courses
• 56:03
  and we're constantly reinvesting in ourselves.
• 56:06
  And by the way, it's a tax write off
• 56:07
  for those of you that didn't know.
• 56:08
  We're constantly reinvesting in ourselves
• 56:10
  by taking these courses as opposed to what other people doing,
• 56:12
  which is getting these formal college degrees
• 56:15
  that don't tell you anything about how to like
• 56:17
  level up your row ads on your ad spend
• 56:20
  or anything to do with like meta ads.
• 56:22
  They don't tell you anything.
• 56:23
  Taking a course, learning how to copyright,
• 56:25
  learning how to run meta ads,
• 56:27
  learning how to do SEO, far, far, far greater ROI
• 56:31
  than you going out and just going
• 56:32
  to regular a regular university.
• 56:34
  It's just that's another thing that I've learned.
• 56:35
  And then lastly, I listen to audiobooks
• 56:37
  like double or triple speed and I take notes.
• 56:40
  So like that's another thing I do.
• 56:41
  And anytime that I'm one of the reason why talks so fast,
• 56:45
  whenever I'm in the car, whenever I'm eating
• 56:47
  or whenever I'm in the gym,
• 56:48
  I am always listening to an audiobook.
• 56:50
  Right now I'm listening to the sad truth
• 56:52
  about happiness by Gadsad.
• 56:54
  You know, I probably this year,
• 56:56
  I'll probably get through about 50 books.
• 56:58
  And so that's another thing I'll tell you
• 56:59
  so that you can continue to educate yourself
• 57:01
  and become a subject matter expertise,
• 57:03
  a subject matter expert.
• 57:04
  This is a thing that I think a lot of people,
• 57:06
  especially once you hit 35, 40,
• 57:08
  there's this thing that happens
• 57:09
  where the plasticity in your brain starts to decay.
• 57:12
  It becomes your brain becomes a little bit more crystalline.
• 57:16
  And in order to keep that plasticity from happening,
• 57:18
  I don't know if you guys listen
• 57:20
  when Elon Musk went on Joe Rogan,
• 57:22
  he talked about he's one of the top
• 57:25
  Diablo players in the world.
• 57:26
  I believe Elon Musk right now
• 57:27
  is the number one Diablo player in the world.
• 57:28
  I'm in the top 100 in the world at Madden.
• 57:30
  I play Madden in a football.
• 57:32
  I don't like I do it because it keeps me sharp.
• 57:34
  I go out and I go to nightclub sometimes
• 57:37
  and I go to these massive social events
• 57:39
  because it keeps these parts of my brain,
• 57:41
  these neurons and axions continue to fire
• 57:44
  so that my brain can remain young and plastic.
• 57:47
  When you guys get really good at one thing,
• 57:49
  you've just been an accountant for 25 years,
• 57:51
  the plasticity of what you're able to learn
• 57:53
  starts to decay over time.
• 57:54
  So I'd highly recommend that you guys learn,
• 57:57
  you continue to learn for the sake of learning.
• 58:00
  I read The Guns of August.
• 58:01
  This is a great book, it's about World War One.
• 58:03
  I use this book as an example
• 58:04
  because it has no bearing on my life whatsoever.
• 58:06
  In the book it has to do with the first month of World War One
• 58:08
  or like why the whole thing started incredibly fascinating book,
• 58:12
  won the Pulitzer Prize, a phenomenal book.
• 58:14
  The book has no bearing on my personal self improvement.
• 58:16
  Yet learning it, what it did though
• 58:18
  is expand my brain's ability to continue to learn.
• 58:22
  This is really high level stuff.
• 58:24
  So you guys need to continue
• 58:26
  and I would also recommend a breath of different knowledge points.
• 58:30
  For me, my favorite subjects are astronomy
• 58:32
  and evolutionary psychology.
• 58:33
  Those are the main things I study,
• 58:35
  but I also worked at a hedge fund for several years
• 58:37
  in finance selling stock options.
• 58:38
  I try to learn a polymath.
• 58:40
  I try to learn a lot about a lot of different ideas
• 58:43
  and then put them together as a CEO of my company
• 58:45
  to try to solve problems that way.
• 58:47
  And so that's another thing.
• 58:49
  And then like again, every time you're dealing
• 58:51
  with a problem as an entrepreneur,
• 58:52
  instead of panicking, find someone else
• 58:54
  who dealt with this problem previously
• 58:56
  and you'll be shocked at how you can determine
• 58:58
  what the solution is.
• 58:59
  And this is the last one of the last piece of advice
• 59:01
  because I know we've gone a little bit over here.
• 59:04
  The social media algorithm is basically astrology
• 59:07
  at this point.
• 59:08
  You're going to get millions of people.
• 59:09
  They're going to get people to ask you
• 59:11
  for thousands and thousands of dollars
• 59:13
  trying to tell you that they know how to get you
• 59:15
  to blow up on YouTube or Instagram.
• 59:17
  And you guys are going to take these courses
• 59:19
  and you're going to hire these consultants
• 59:20
  and you're going to find out what everyone else has found out
• 59:22
  that nobody knows shit.
• 59:24
  It is complete and total astrology at this point.
• 59:27
  The best thing that you can do right now
• 59:29
  is to make quality content for free
• 59:32
  that helps people and solves a problem.
• 59:34
  You're probably not going to get a ton of views
• 59:36
  and you're probably not going to get a ton of comments
• 59:38
  but you will be able to get clients.
• 59:41
  You will.
• 59:41
  You will be able to get qualified clients
• 59:43
  by going on social media and solving other people's problems
• 59:47
  and stop worrying about how many likes or views it gets.
• 59:50
  A lot of times somebody will post on me
• 59:51
  and get a thousand views and like,
• 59:53
  I only got a thousand views.
• 59:54
  Do you know how many people a thousand people is?
• 59:56
  That's a lot of people.
• 59:57
  You don't recognize.
• 59:58
  I see people running seven and eight figure companies
• 1:00:01
  with 10,000 Instagram followers.
• 1:00:03
  You don't need a ton.
• 1:00:04
  Stop being beaten down whenever you post something
• 1:00:08
  and it doesn't go viral.
• 1:00:09
  Stop.
• 1:00:09
  But one more time.
• 1:00:10
  You may have posted the greatest content of all time.
• 1:00:13
  This algorithm that Meta has is total astrology
• 1:00:16
  at this point.
• 1:00:17
  No one can figure it out.
• 1:00:18
  And anyone who tells you that they can
• 1:00:20
  take it with a grain of salt.
• 1:00:21
  Yeah, no, I appreciate that.
• 1:00:23
  Can I ask you one last question then?
• 1:00:26
  Yeah, no, I think that this is the last thing
• 1:00:28
  I wanted to leave the audience with
• 1:00:30
  because we touched on this at the beginning.
• 1:00:33
  But I want people to have a playbook
• 1:00:35
  for if they want to start to build status.
• 1:00:38
  If you're going off about all these different ideas
• 1:00:40
  about, you know, controversial content
• 1:00:42
  and ethics and stuff like tomorrow,
• 1:00:45
  I want to build more status in my life.
• 1:00:47
  What are the steps that I take?
• 1:00:50
  I would pick one of these different branches.
• 1:00:52
  Some of them are very easy and some more complicated.
• 1:00:54
  So you're doing a podcast.
• 1:00:55
  See, this is a great way for you to meet people
• 1:00:58
  right now, Scott, that you might want to meet
• 1:00:59
  so you can find mentors this way.
• 1:01:01
  And you can build status.
• 1:01:03
  You can show a level of subject magnet or expertise.
• 1:01:05
  And you can show a level of relevancy
• 1:01:07
  and competency by doing this.
• 1:01:09
  This would make you not only professionally viable,
• 1:01:11
  but depending on the podcast,
• 1:01:13
  it makes you actually attractive,
• 1:01:14
  more attractive to the opposite sex
• 1:01:16
  because they're going to look at you
• 1:01:17
  and be like, this is a competent, relevant individual
• 1:01:19
  who can take care of his own shit.
• 1:01:21
  So that's one way is the podcast.
• 1:01:23
  Another way that I've seen that's worked really well,
• 1:01:25
  it's very inexpensive, very easy to do.
• 1:01:27
  OBS is free.
• 1:01:28
  It's your reaction videos.
• 1:01:29
  You guys can go on and make these simple reaction videos.
• 1:01:31
  They're very simple to do.
• 1:01:33
  You just react to other people's content.
• 1:01:35
  You can use Riverside for it.
• 1:01:36
  I will say the only weakness with Riverside FM
• 1:01:39
  is that when you play reaction audio,
• 1:01:41
  it's a little bit muffled.
• 1:01:42
  Whereas for StreamYard, it's a little bit better,
• 1:01:44
  but Riverside actually, they download everything in 4K.
• 1:01:47
  I'm sorry to get too technical.
• 1:01:48
  I'm actually building a course on building pod.
• 1:01:50
  I'm actually starting a course on building podcasts
• 1:01:51
  right now in my, it's a sub course in my course.
• 1:01:54
  But so number one is build a cup of hot gas.
• 1:01:57
  Number two would be reaction videos.
• 1:01:58
  Number three, this is a really great one,
• 1:02:00
  especially if you have any kind of social anxiety,
• 1:02:02
  is try man on the street videos.
• 1:02:03
  These are terrific.
• 1:02:04
  Go to a like a popular area.
• 1:02:06
  We do first Fridays here in Las Vegas,
• 1:02:08
  down in the arts district.
• 1:02:09
  We do it like from five to 11 pm.
• 1:02:11
  You can just go out there and just interview people.
• 1:02:12
  It all it takes is two iPhones.
• 1:02:14
  Use one iPhone as a microphone
• 1:02:15
  and use the other iPhone to take video.
• 1:02:17
  And then watch yourself on camera.
• 1:02:19
  And you can learn so much about yourself
• 1:02:21
  talking to other people to see whether or not
• 1:02:23
  your voice and flexion changes.
• 1:02:24
  This is very common Scott for a normal dude
• 1:02:27
  talking to a very beautiful woman.
• 1:02:29
  All of a sudden his voice goes up like this.
• 1:02:30
  Hey guys, where are you guys from?
• 1:02:33
  Can't you guys want to get a drink with me?
• 1:02:35
  What a nice dress.
• 1:02:37
  That looks good.
• 1:02:38
  I'm like bro, what happened to your voice?
• 1:02:40
  I don't understand.
• 1:02:41
  I can't believe what I'm watching.
• 1:02:42
  But it's because of man on the street videos
• 1:02:44
  that I'm able to do that.
• 1:02:45
  And then you'd also use the man on the street
• 1:02:47
  to go viral.
• 1:02:48
  You saw the Hock to a thing.
• 1:02:49
  That's a great example of man on the street going viral, right?
• 1:02:52
  Alternatively, you have directed camera videos.
• 1:02:55
  This is a lot where I think a lot of entrepreneurs should start.
• 1:02:58
  And so when you think of directed camera,
• 1:02:59
  just go look at anything Alex Hermosi is doing now.
• 1:03:01
  These are five things in 2025
• 1:03:03
  that you can do to build your company to eight figures.
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  That would be the hook for a direct to camera video.
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  These are very simple to do.
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  You can just copy what other people are doing.
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  But more importantly, it just gets,
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  it lets other people understand what your expertise is.
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  And the last one, and this is the hardest one.
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  But if you can pull this off, it is incredible.
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  It's a panel show.
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  You need to do a panel show.
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  I don't know if you know like zoom or I think on Riverside,
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  you can do 10 panelists at one time or something like that.
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  On I can't remember how many people zoom you can have.
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  Like infinite panelists, whatever.
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  But live panel shows, which is what I specialize in doing.
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  So all it'll be me and Rollo Tomasi.
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  I'll have maybe one other male guests
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  and 10 girls on the show.
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  And we'll react to viral videos.
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  So it's a reaction show and a panel show at the same time.
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  These are the hardest to do,
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  but they do really, really well if you want to grow a channel.
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  And then along with everything I just said,
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  doing live streams, really good photo content,
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  and then really good video recaps.
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  Those would be like the seven ways
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  I would say you could build a brand right now
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  and becoming good at those seven ways.
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  You're pretty much going to be a,
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  when I say photos like you're either photographing real estate,
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  cars, beautiful women, scenery, whatever, or video recaps.
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  I have some friends of mine.
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  All they do is they go to these really huge parties.
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  And then they make these video recaps using like a steady cam
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  and a drone or whatever.
• 1:04:13
  And then they make the recap and give it to the content creator
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  and then they do a collab.
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  And these guys have blown up because they do that as well.
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  So those are, those are the different ways to build a brand.
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  So anybody who's watching this, I'm an accountant.
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  Okay, cool.
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  I would do direct a camera.
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  These are five things that you think you can write off,
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  but you can't.
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  And then you go into like the drug dealer
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  trying to write off his mistress's boob job.
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  And like everyone's like, oh my God,
• 1:04:34
  I was like, I can't wait to see what number two is.
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  That making content like that is how I would build a brand in 2025.
• 1:04:40
  I know people wanted like a, like an overarching sort of vague answer.
• 1:04:44
  I'm going to give you a specific, I don't do vague answers.
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  Everything in my program is specific.
• 1:04:48
  When you, I used to fly a KC 135 as a navigator in the military.
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  There's no vague answers when you fly an airplane
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  that are specific answers or you die.
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  And that's the reason why my course is very, very specific
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  and why it's called mental action.
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  I love it.
• 1:05:01
  And that's, I mean, I asked for, I asked for how to build status
• 1:05:05
  but brand and status, I guess, are synonymous when you start.
• 1:05:08
  That's how it's a little brand on all.
• 1:05:10
  If I'm, but you're asking because some of your audience
• 1:05:14
  may actually be men trying to date more attractive women,
• 1:05:16
  but I imagine most of your audience are entrepreneurs.
• 1:05:19
  And so it's funny.
• 1:05:20
  The mechanisms for the highest level of dating
• 1:05:22
  and for entrepreneurship are the same mechanisms.
• 1:05:24
  If you ever listen to Ornclaf's book,
• 1:05:26
  what is it pitch anything?
• 1:05:30
  It would read, read the book and then read them.
• 1:05:32
  He goes, avoid beta behavior.
• 1:05:35
  What? Ornclaf said avoid beta behavior
• 1:05:39
  when he's pitching anything?
• 1:05:40
  Where else have you heard avoid beta behavior, Scott?
• 1:05:43
  That's a dating term.
• 1:05:45
  That is direct.
• 1:05:46
  There's so many of the terms for Ornclaf's book
• 1:05:48
  are directly out of dating programs.
• 1:05:51
  It's crazy.
• 1:05:52
  The highest level of dating, the best book on dating
• 1:05:54
  I've ever read, you know what it is?
• 1:05:55
  100 million dollar offer by Alex Hermozzi.
• 1:05:58
  People are like, what are you talking about?
• 1:05:59
  I was like, no, that's what I throw insane events
• 1:06:03
  where people cannot feel stupid saying no.
• 1:06:05
  And then I end up like going out,
• 1:06:06
  like I'm going out tonight with six girls to a party.
• 1:06:09
  And like, that's not date.
• 1:06:10
  At that point, it's just fish and a barrel.
• 1:06:12
  It's a doing.
• 1:06:14
  Yeah, no, I love it.
• 1:06:16
  Okay, where can people go, website, social, all that?
• 1:06:19
  Yeah, easiest place to find me is on Instagram
• 1:06:21
  and Michael Sartain.
• 1:06:22
  You guys really, if you are an entrepreneur,
• 1:06:23
  you need to have some presence on Instagram.
• 1:06:26
  I know you guys, like a lot of people
• 1:06:27
  are really heavy on Twitter
• 1:06:28
  and they're kind of afraid of Instagram.
• 1:06:30
  I got bad news.
• 1:06:31
  Like this is the only thing about Twitter.
• 1:06:32
  I love Twitter.
• 1:06:33
  I go on Twitter is a lot,
• 1:06:34
  but there seems to be a little bit more anonymity
• 1:06:36
  and a little bit more of a victim mentality on Twitter.
• 1:06:38
  And those are bad leads when you're running a company.
• 1:06:40
  If you want good leads,
• 1:06:42
  for people to have a bit more optimism
• 1:06:43
  and a more of an abundance mentality,
• 1:06:45
  I would highly recommend using Facebook and Instagram.
• 1:06:47
  Those are a little bit better.
• 1:06:48
  And then also YouTube has the best leads,
• 1:06:50
  but because they don't have a DM feature,
• 1:06:53
  YouTube is one of these things where like you,
• 1:06:55
  you get them brand aware after a while.
• 1:06:57
  And then you take them down the funnel
• 1:06:58
  with your link tree or your Hooby or whatever it is.
• 1:07:00
  For us, we just go directly to the VSL.
• 1:07:03
  If you guys want to learn a bunch about that stuff,
• 1:07:05
  that's what I teach also in my course.
• 1:07:07
  Guys, yeah, that's the easiest way to find me
• 1:07:08
  is on Instagram, Michael Sartain,
• 1:07:10
  or you can go to moamentoring.com
• 1:07:12
  and you can see our offer.
• 1:07:13
  Okay, awesome.
• 1:07:14
  Last question I like to ask,
• 1:07:15
  out of all the wisdom that you have accumulated over your life,
• 1:07:19
  if you could only pass one lesson onto your kids,
• 1:07:22
  everything that you've learned, put it aside,
• 1:07:24
  the most important thing, what would it be?
• 1:07:26
  Yeah, the world isn't all about you.
• 1:07:28
  The reason why you feel frustration is because the world
• 1:07:30
  is not most people are interested in their own problems.
• 1:07:33
  And you're going to feel frustrated and things aren't fair
• 1:07:36
  and like when it was actually,
• 1:07:37
  I think it was Neil Strauss who told me this,
• 1:07:38
  the guy who wrote the book, the game,
• 1:07:39
  The New York Times VSL.
• 1:07:41
  I had a conversation with Neil and he was like,
• 1:07:42
  the number one thing I learned was the world isn't about me.
• 1:07:44
  Once I really, truly grasp that the world isn't about me,
• 1:07:47
  that all I have is this present moment
• 1:07:49
  and the incredible gratitude that I should have
• 1:07:51
  for the fact that I'm born after, like, say,
• 1:07:53
  antibiotics and high speed internet.
• 1:07:55
  Do you understand, you want to know a funny stat?
• 1:07:57
  Do you know that syphilis had a 57% mortality rate
• 1:08:01
  before antibiotics?
• 1:08:02
  I want you to think about your buddies in college.
• 1:08:04
  57% mortality rate.
• 1:08:07
  You want to talk about being grateful
• 1:08:09
  before the year 1850,
• 1:08:11
  half the earth's population died before the age of five.
• 1:08:13
  You should be so grateful that you're alive right now.
• 1:08:16
  The only thing that you have is this present moment.
• 1:08:18
  There is no past, there is no future.
• 1:08:19
  I have a call after this.
• 1:08:20
  I'm not thinking about that call.
• 1:08:21
  The only thing that matters is this moment.
• 1:08:24
  There's nothing else other than this moment.
• 1:08:26
  And then the other part is the reality,
• 1:08:28
  the realization of your own mortality.
• 1:08:30
  In 300 years, 300 years from now,
• 1:08:32
  Elon Musk and myself will be just as dead.
• 1:08:34
  We'll be in the exact same place.
• 1:08:36
  We'll be equally as dead as one another.
• 1:08:39
  And when you come to that realization,
• 1:08:40
  you're like, okay, what more can I make while I'm here now?
• 1:08:43
  And then also what things can I do to set up my family
• 1:08:45
  to protect them after I'm gone?
• 1:08:47
  Those are the only things you should be worried about.
• 1:08:49
  If you can concern your life with that,
• 1:08:51
  the gratitude for the fact that you get to live this life,
• 1:08:54
  you're actually wealthy enough to watch us
• 1:08:56
  on the internet right now.
• 1:08:57
  This beat is a beat being beaten to you
• 1:08:59
  at 186,282 miles a second.
• 1:09:02
  That you have gratitude and present moment awareness.
• 1:09:04
  And then finally, you are aware of your own mortality.
• 1:09:07
  That would be the thing that I'd pass along to my kids.