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Season 4 - Episode 62 - Boredom or apathy? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermindset, coach, creative strategist, and also happened to
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  be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast to teach
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  distinctions, possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring
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  some joy. Into the world.
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  So welcome to the coop and let's start your day off in a
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  fantastic way. Hey everybody, good morning So
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  today we're talking about what is the biggest killer of making
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  yourself move. Do things, You know, it was
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  brought up to me that I, I constantly say to my child over
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  the weekend, one of my children that I love that he's never
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  bored. I love that he's never bored.
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  He always finds something to engage with him himself with,
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  whether it's tearing. This weekend it was tearing
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  apart a dirt bike that he has. And he decided, and he has never
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  done this before, he decided that he was going to rebuild the
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  engine because it was not working.
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  He said it wasn't working properly, so he was going to
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  rebuild it. And I said, that's interesting,
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  you've not done this before. And he's like, well, I have to,
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  I have to learn. So I'm going to go on YouTube,
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  I'm going to learn all about it and I'm going to get the parts
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  and I'm going to rebuild it myself.
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  And he took the whole bike apart and now he's painting it and
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  he's doing it from Ground Zero all by himself.
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  And I just love that he's never bored.
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  He always finds something to do. He always finds something to do
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  which is rich and let me. Be very.
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  Clear. I really do think that I am
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  never ever bored. That is not something that I
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  experienced. I learned very early on in my
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  life as an only child that you do not need to be bored.
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  There's always something to read, create, due process,
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  whatever. Boredom is not the problem.
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  And, and I think for most people, when they think, oh,
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  things are boring, it's not about being bored.
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  My experience has been it's about being apathetic.
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  It's for most of my clients, it's it that's the part that
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  kills them when they just don't care.
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  When you're in a state of apathy, that's the real killer
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  of dreams. That's the real killer of moving
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  forward, not boredom. And so when you're apathetic
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  about something, it's that's what steals the joy from it all.
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  So truly, when you feel like you just can't get yourself moving,
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  when you can't go, you have to ask yourself, is it because I'm
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  bored with this job? Or is it just you become
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  apathetic with it, you just don't care anymore?
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  Not caring really makes all the difference in the world.
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  Whether it's something you enjoy, something you don't enjoy
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  it it it it just seems to swipe out everything, whether it's has
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  to do with a thing, a project, a person, like just think about
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  it. When you don't care about a
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  person anymore, you don't care and you're just like, all right,
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  leave, go. I don't care.
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  And once you don't care, it changes everything.
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  And that really comes in with apathy.
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  It's just like, whatever happens, happens.
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  I'm just not even going to put my attention to it.
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  So this is how you reframe yourself.
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  If you were in this state, if you happen to be in that state,
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  you have to ask yourself, well, what would I do if I did care?
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  If I, if I was not in an apathetic state, how would I
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  act? What would I do?
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  What would be my thought process?
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  That's a great way to start to jump into it and reframe it so
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  that you can pull yourself out of it by asking a different
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  question. Well, if I wasn't bored, and
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  sometimes you have to go back to that word because if that's the
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  word you've been using, that's the word you've associated to,
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  you can go back and say, well, if I wasn't bored, what would I
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  be doing? Well, I don't know.
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  We'll see. That's part of the problem.
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  You don't know. And if you didn't know, what
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  would it be? What?
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  What takes away your boredom? What pulls you out of it?
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  So see, sometimes these words become conflated.
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  Things become muddled. You can't see.
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  It's like as clear as mud, as my dad used to say to me.
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  And you can't see through it. But when you ask the right
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  questions, you start to get moments of clarity.
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  The soil starts to settle and you can see through something.
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  So pull yourself to the point where you can at least identify
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  exactly what is going on. And then you can kind of merge
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  those thoughts together and say, OK, am I actually bored or am I
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  just apathetic? Do I just not care anymore?
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  Get clear on that fact and then go into, all right, well, what
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  would move me forward? What would make me break this
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  state? Because that's really what it
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  comes down to. You have to break the state to
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  get yourself out of it. Once you break that state, and
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  it doesn't have to be a lot, that's what people always think.
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  It's going to have to be some big thing.
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  I've got to take massive action. No, you can break it with small
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  trickles, little tiny things, remember, as a constant drip of
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  water onto a stone will eventually wear the stone down.
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  It's just the way it works. So even if it's a little tiny
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  bit it, it does make a difference.
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  So just start pulling apart at it, asking the right questions.
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  But but the point of all of this is staying in that state,
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  whether you identify it as boredom or being apathetic.
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  And again, I, I, my personal belief is that boredom is an
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  indicator, but underneath it's apathy.
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  But you know, everyone has their different strategies with this
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  stuff, but that's mine. In any event, once you get past
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  identifying that, there's always a way out of it.
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  All right, my friends, I hope you have a blessed day and I
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  will see you tomorrow. Bye.