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- Blake Holman: Welcome to Lead with Clarity. This is a space for leaders who want to grow without losing themselves in the process. Each episode is a short reflection on leadership, influence, and the inner work that shapes how we show up for others. Not hype, not noise, just clear thinking for the journey of leading well. Today's episode is entitled Clear Is Kind: The Leadership Case for Saying the Plain Thing. Here we go. Today I want to talk about a sentence that sounds soft but is actually one of the toughest standards a leader can hold themselves to. Brene Brown put it this way. She said, clear is kind, unclear is unkind. She wasn't talking about being blunt for the sake of being blunt. She was naming something a lot of us get backwards. We think vagueness is gentler. We think leaving room, softening the message, keeping things open ended, is somehow more considerate. It's not. It's usually just easier for us. Think about the last time you had to make a call that you knew someone would not love. A project priority had to shift, a deadline had to move, a role had to change. If you're honest, there's a real temptation in that moment to say something like let's see how it goes, or we'll figure out the details later when what you actually mean is this is decided. The vague version feels kinder in the moment, and it's not. It just moves the discomfort down the road and hands it to someone else to carry. I've watched this play out more times than I can count. A leader announces a change, but leaves the reasoning fuzzy, or leaves the next steps open to interpretation, hoping people will fill in the gaps in a way that feels less harsh. What actually happens is the team fills the gap with anxiety, or they guess. They read into tone. They spend energy trying to figure out what was really meant instead of doing the work in front of them. I've said for years that in the absence of clear information, people make things up. The unclear version, the one that felt kinder to deliver, ends up costing everyone more. Here's where a lot of people misread this idea. They hear clear is kind and think it means blunt, cold, no cushion. And that's not it either. You can be clear and warm at the same time. Clarity is not about stripping out care. It's about not making someone do the emotional labor of decoding what you actually decided. The unkindness is not in delivering hard news. It's in making people guess whether it's hard news at all. So here's a reframe. Clarity is a form of respect. When you tell someone plainly what was decided, why it was decided, and what happens next, you're trusting them to handle the truth. You're not protecting them by softening it into fog. You're just making your own job easier and calling it kindness. This is also a place where a lot of leaders lean too hard on their tools right now. It's easy to have an AI system draft the announcement, smooth out the edges, offer three gentler versions of the same message. What it cannot do is decide which version is actually true or sit with the discomfort of being the one who says the plain thing to a real person who's going to be disappointed by it. That judgment has always been the leader's job. The tools just make it easier to hide from it if you let them. Here's something to carry into this week. Before you send the next update, the next decision, the next piece of direction to your team, ask yourself one question. Could someone read this and reasonably think it's still open for debate? If the answer is yes and it's not supposed to be, that's not tact. It's unfinished work. Clear is kind, unclear is unkind. It's a short sentence, but it holds up a mirror to a lot of decisions we soften without meaning to. The leaders people trust most are not the ones who never deliver hard news. They're the ones who deliver it plainly, so nobody has to guess what they really meant.