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Ep. 326 - Why So Many Divorced Women Don’t Trust Their Own Intuition · Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce

• 0:49
  SPEAKER_01: One of the most confusing wounds women carry into divorce is the feeling that they can't trust themselves.
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  SPEAKER_01: So you compensate, you analyze everything, you read every book, you build the perfect routine, and then try to become disciplined enough to finally feel safe and secure.
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  SPEAKER_01: But sometimes the reason you don't trust your intuition is actually because you spent your childhood being told your intuition was wrong.
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  SPEAKER_01: And when that happens long enough, something inside you learns to go quiet.
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  SPEAKER_01: In today's premium episode, you're gonna hear a coaching session between Coach Tiffany and one of our premium listeners about what it looks like when that voice finally starts coming back online.
• 1:37
  SPEAKER_01: Hi, love.
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  SPEAKER_01: Welcome to Dear Divorce Diary, the podcast helping divorcees go beyond talk therapy to process your grief, find the healing you crave, and build back your confidence.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm your host, Don Wiggins, a therapist, coach, integrative healer, and divorcee.
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  SPEAKER_01: Join me for a fresh approach to healing grief and building your confidence after divorce.
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  SPEAKER_02: So welcome in today.
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  SPEAKER_02: How are you?
• 2:09
  SPEAKER_02: It's good to be here.
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  SPEAKER_02: I'm excited and a bit nervous, of course.
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  SPEAKER_02: Awesome.
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  SPEAKER_02: Awesome.
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  SPEAKER_02: Very, very understandable.
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  SPEAKER_02: All right.
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  SPEAKER_02: So let's talk about the part that you want to focus on today.
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  SPEAKER_02: So this is going to be a manager part that is kind of rare.
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  SPEAKER_02: And it was funny because when you sent this over to me originally and you were like, this is the part that I want to work on.
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  SPEAKER_02: I looked at that and I was like, whoa, that's been me most of my life.
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  SPEAKER_02: And I think that when I'm running through IFS with clients, this is the one that they don't normally choose.
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  SPEAKER_02: But I feel like this is so true for so many people.
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  SPEAKER_02: So this manager is known as the stoic.
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  SPEAKER_02: And so this is the part of you that feels like they have to hold it all together and not feel too much and just keep moving.
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  SPEAKER_02: So tell me about how you feel like this part shows up for you in your daily life now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, I am kind of perpetually in survival mode.
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  SPEAKER_00: Especially I have like a lot of financial scarcity stuff going on.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have issues with my kids.
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  SPEAKER_00: And where I run is a discipline, not with like the kids, but with within myself.
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  SPEAKER_00: I feel like if I can just be better, if I can just get all these routines perfect, if I can have the perfect morning routine and self-discipline that everything's gonna be easier, everything will be better, everything.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I think I use that manager to you know to manage that, of course.
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  SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_02: So definitely it's a manager that helps protect you against overwhelm, shame, and also vulnerability.
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  SPEAKER_02: So I would ask you in your life now, how vulnerable do you feel like you can be with people that are in your circle?
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