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Keep Grinding, Never Give Up: Unlock Your Full Potential · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: If you could define happiness for you, what would that be.
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  Speaker 1: It's overcoming yourself at all costs, whatever that takes, to
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  Speaker 1: be at the point of your life where you don't
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  Speaker 1: care about being judged. You can be in a room
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  Speaker 1: of a million people and they all hate you, and
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  Speaker 1: you walk in and you like this not because you're
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  Speaker 1: angry at them, because you know yourself inside and out,
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  Speaker 1: and you know that you've put yourself to hell to
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  Speaker 1: be where you're at today. You've walked the walk, You've
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  Speaker 1: talked to talk, and you've walked the walk. And that's
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  Speaker 1: to me what it's all about. It's all about putting
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  Speaker 1: those boots on the ground and getting after it every day.
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  Speaker 1: And once you do that, you have a feeling about
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  Speaker 1: yourself that no one can ever take away or even understand.
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  Speaker 1: We all have one thing in common. We are here
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  Speaker 1: stuck in the game of life, often subject to the
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  Speaker 1: whims of forces beyond our control, but we never train
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  Speaker 1: for it. We dedicate ourselves to external goals, whether they
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  Speaker 1: are rooted in fitness or school or work, as if
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  Speaker 1: they are isolated events, somehow disconnected from the totality of
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  Speaker 1: our lives, when everything we do is an opportunity to
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  Speaker 1: get better at the game of life itself, my life,
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  Speaker 1: and my commitment to do what needs to be done.
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  Speaker 1: I am a student of life. I carry around a notebook,
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  Speaker 1: I keep logs. I study all the upswings and down
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  Speaker 1: currents in my days as if the final exam is tomorrow.
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  Speaker 1: Because we all have an exam tomorrow, whether we realize
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  Speaker 1: it or not. Every interaction, each task is a reflection
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  Speaker 1: of your mindset, values, and future prospects. It's an opportunity
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  Speaker 1: to be the person you've always wanted to be. You
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  Speaker 1: don't have to have survive trauma or become a physical
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  Speaker 1: beast to train for life. We've all been challenged physically, emotionally,
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  Speaker 1: and intellectually, and we've all failed. Don't be shy about
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  Speaker 1: digging through your lost archives. No matter how irrelevant those
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  Speaker 1: experiences seem. Now they count because they were all dry
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  Speaker 1: runs for whatever comes next. This awareness that everything we
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  Speaker 1: do is merely training for the next episode is like
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  Speaker 1: a filter that expands your perception. When you get assigned
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  Speaker 1: something at work or school that you don't want to do,
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  Speaker 1: step into a conflict you didn't see coming, someone close
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  Speaker 1: to you get sick or dies, or our relationship falters.
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  Speaker 1: You will see these challenges as new chapters and life's textbook,
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  Speaker 1: which you can study to make sure that the next
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  Speaker 1: season of loss won't be such a kick in the knees,
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  Speaker 1: not just for you, but more so for the people
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  Speaker 1: around you. We all know that training is required to
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  Speaker 1: make the cut in competitive sports, get into the best schools,
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  Speaker 1: and compete for the most coveted jobs, because that's what
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  Speaker 1: it takes to be prepared. Most of this generation quits
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  Speaker 1: the second they get talked to you did this wrong,
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  Speaker 1: you did this wrong, or they get yoed at. It's
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  Speaker 1: so easy, you know, to be great nowadays because everybody
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  Speaker 1: else's Most people are are weak. This this is a
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  Speaker 1: softened generation. So if you have any mental toughness, any
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  Speaker 1: any ability, if you have any fraction of self discipline,
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  Speaker 1: the ability to not want to do it but still
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  Speaker 1: do it, people have a hard thing to understand. I
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  Speaker 1: hate to run and it makes me so crazy.
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  Speaker 2: It doesn't need more people.
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  Speaker 1: Well why do you run if you hate it? What
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  Speaker 1: are you talking about? H I don't want to take
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  Speaker 1: showers and eat either. I hate that too, the whole
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  Speaker 1: That's a life man, that and and it wasn't until
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  Speaker 1: I changed that mentality that I became somebody I hate
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  Speaker 1: it going to school. So guess what I was dumb
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  Speaker 1: is that's what one plus one is two. But if
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  Speaker 1: you can get through to doing things that you hate
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  Speaker 1: to do on the other side is greatness. That's what
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  Speaker 1: people a understanding by me running. I am callous in
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  Speaker 1: my mind. I'm not training for a race. I'm training
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  Speaker 1: for life. I'm training for the time when I get
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  Speaker 1: that two o'clock in the morning call that my mom
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  Speaker 1: is dead or something happens tragic in life. I don't
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  Speaker 1: fall apart. I'm training my mind and my body and
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  Speaker 1: my spirit so it's all one so I can handle.
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  Speaker 2: What life is gonna throw at me.
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  Speaker 1: Because the life I've lived, it throws a whole bunch
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  Speaker 1: at you. And if you're not physically immensely prepared for that,
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  Speaker 1: you're just gonna crumble and you're good for nobody. You
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  Speaker 1: said I can be me. The second you say that,
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  Speaker 1: I can cuss and be me and cussing, people are saying, man,
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  Speaker 1: you cuss all the time?
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  Speaker 2: Why well, I hate to say it.
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  Speaker 1: The best way for me to get how I feel across.
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  Speaker 1: I can't see and say you know what I went
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  Speaker 1: through hell weekend. Man, it was really hard. No, that
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  Speaker 1: takes your damn soul, rips it inside out, and then
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  Speaker 1: they say, now we're going to start. It allows me
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  Speaker 1: to express where I was at at a point of
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  Speaker 1: my life. If I don't give you all of me,
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  Speaker 1: why the hell am I here? Why? How will you
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  Speaker 1: learn from me? People take so much offense to me.
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  Speaker 1: You will never learn from people if we always tap
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  Speaker 1: dance around the truth. We tap dance around the truth
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  Speaker 1: by finding the right words. I don't hurt you because
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  Speaker 1: you have thin skin. No tighten up people. The only
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  Speaker 1: thing more infectious than a good attitude is a bad one.
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  Speaker 1: The more you dwell on the negative, the weaker you feel,
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  Speaker 1: and that weakness infects those around you. However, the reverse
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  Speaker 1: is also true. I knew that if I could control
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  Speaker 1: my attitude and read direct my attention, I gained control
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  Speaker 1: of the entire situation. I was disappointed, but I wasn't
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  Speaker 1: surprised that my knee gave out. Now it was on
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  Speaker 1: me to learn what I could from the setback, adapt
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  Speaker 1: and move forward. It's an unwritten natural law of the
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  Speaker 1: universe that you will be tested, you will get smacked
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  Speaker 1: in the fucking face. A hurricane will land on your head.
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  Speaker 1: It's inevitable for.
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  Speaker 2: All of us.
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  Speaker 1: Yet we are not formally taught how to handle unexpected adversity.
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  Speaker 1: We have sex education, fire drills, active shooter drills, and
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  Speaker 1: curriculum on the dangers of alcohol and drugs, but there
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  Speaker 1: is no rug just got pulled out under U class.
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  Speaker 1: Nobody teaches how to think, act and move when disappointment,
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  Speaker 1: bad news, malfunction, and disaster inevitably strike. All the advice
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  Speaker 1: floods in only after we are already lying dazed on
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  Speaker 1: the canvas, which means it's up to you to cultivate
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  Speaker 1: your own strategy and have the discipline to practice it.
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  Speaker 1: Mine is simple, no matter what life serves me. I
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  Speaker 1: say Roger that most people think roger that simply means
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  Speaker 1: order received. However, in the military, some people infuse Roger
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  Speaker 1: with a bit more intention and define it as received
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  Speaker 1: order given expect results. When used that way, it is
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  Speaker 1: so much more than an acknowledgment. It's an accelerant. It
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  Speaker 1: bypasses the over analytical brain and stimulates action because in
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  Speaker 1: some situations, thinking is the enemy. I'm not suggesting that
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  Speaker 1: you should follow every order like a robot. After you've
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  Speaker 1: been knocked down, it's important to take some time to
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  Speaker 1: understand what happened and strategize your way forward, but you
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  Speaker 1: also must act. If you stay stalled out sifting through
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  Speaker 1: the wreckage, you may find that you've been swallowed by it.
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  Speaker 1: We all love comeback stores because they teach us that
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  Speaker 1: setbacks have the power to propel us forward to our
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  Speaker 1: greatest successes. But your fate depends on your approach. After
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  Speaker 1: an injury or failure, your mind wants to either spin
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  Speaker 1: out into overthinking or fall back into numbness and complacency,
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  Speaker 1: and it takes practice to short circuit that process. Roger,
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  Speaker 1: that is a ticket back to your life. No matter
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  Speaker 1: what happens. You may be laid off, run down, flunked out, cut,
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  Speaker 1: or dumped. You could be a stressed out, bullied young
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  Speaker 1: kid and overweight veteran with no prospects, or simply handed
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  Speaker 1: a pair of crutches and told to sit tight on
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  Speaker 1: the sidelines for as long as it takes to heal.
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  Speaker 1: The answer is always, Roger, mat scream it out loud,
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  Speaker 1: tell them all that you heard what they had to say,
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  Speaker 1: and that they can expect your very best in return,
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  Speaker 1: and don't forget to smile, a smile that reminds them
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  Speaker 1: that you are most dangerous when you're cornered. That is
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  Speaker 1: how you respond to a setback. It's the most efficient
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  Speaker 1: way to deal with adversity and come out clean.
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  Speaker 2: We are, but we go, we go, we go.
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  Speaker 1: I start talking to my fiance, Hey, I'm doing too much.
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  Speaker 1: You start now like I did in hell week, like
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  Speaker 1: I do all the time. The one second decision. It's
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  Speaker 1: that decision when your mind starts to get so amped up.
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  Speaker 2: Whenever you can't hear yourself think, you gotta slow down.
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  Speaker 2: Whenever you're living off a schedule. Every day's a schedule.
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  Speaker 1: Everyday's a schedule.
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  Speaker 2: You have no time for yourself when you start, and
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  Speaker 2: we all know it.
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  Speaker 1: I don't have time for this anymore. I have time
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  Speaker 1: for that anymore. That's when your mind and your body
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  Speaker 1: are saying.
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  Speaker 2: Think about that. I'm neglecting my fiance. I'm neglecting my
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  Speaker 2: disciplines of life. I'm neglecting my reading, my learning, my workouts,
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  Speaker 2: my When you start neglecting all of that, you neglect
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  Speaker 2: one of them. You can you can neglect all of
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  Speaker 2: them a long time. It's gonna haunt you when you
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  Speaker 2: start seeing that, like I haven't eaten right a long time,
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  Speaker 2: haven't been sleeping right along to it. It go only
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  Speaker 2: be one of those things to take you off. So
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  Speaker 2: I'm I'm very aware of my eating, my sleeping, my my,
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  Speaker 2: my disciplines of life, and I started to get too
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  Speaker 2: far away from them.
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  Speaker 1: It's a hard stop because what made me me are
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  Speaker 1: the self, not just disciplines, the self disciplines of life,
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  Speaker 1: and those are always in front of you, if you
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  Speaker 1: have any they're always in front of you.
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  Speaker 2: That's so that's my heart stop.
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  Speaker 1: I'm afraid a lot, but I've learned to flip fear
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  Speaker 1: by facing whatever it is i'm scared of head on.
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  Speaker 1: When I first started to face my fears, I was tentative,
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  Speaker 1: as that's normal, and the emotions and discomfort I felt
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  Speaker 1: were proof of how potent this process can be. Anxiety
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  Speaker 1: stirred and my adrenaline pump as my mind edged closer
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  Speaker 1: to what I was so desperate to avoid. But within
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  Speaker 1: all that energy is a mental and emotional growth factor
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  Speaker 1: that can lead to self empowerment. Just as stem cells
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  Speaker 1: produce a growth factor that stimulates cellular communication, muscle growth.
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  Speaker 2: And wound healing in the body.
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  Speaker 1: Fear is a seed pod packed with growth factor for
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  Speaker 1: the mind. When you deliberately and consistently confront your fear
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  Speaker 1: of heights or particular people, places and situations that unsettle you,
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  Speaker 1: those seeds germinate and your confidence grows exponentially. You might
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  Speaker 1: still hate jumping off high things or swimming beyond the waves,
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  Speaker 1: but your willingness to keep doing it will help you
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  Speaker 1: make peace with it. You may even be inspired to
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  Speaker 1: try to master it. That's how a kid who was
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  Speaker 1: afraid of the water his whole life became a navy seal.
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  Speaker 1: Some people take the opposite path and hide from their fears.
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  Speaker 1: They are like villagers terrorized by rumors of a dragon
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  Speaker 1: to the point that they cannot leave their own property.
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  Speaker 1: They cower, and that dragon, who they have never seen themselves,
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  Speaker 1: only gain strength and stature in their minds. Because when
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  Speaker 1: you hide from whatever it is that freaks you out,
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  Speaker 1: that growth factor works against you. It will be your
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  Speaker 1: fear that grows exponentially while your possibilities become ever more limited.
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  Speaker 1: I had forty miles of steady altitude gain in front
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  Speaker 1: of me. That is a lot of time to contemplate
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  Speaker 1: last year's breakdown, and quick cuts of me doubled over,
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  Speaker 1: begging for breath, it flashing my head, but each step
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  Speaker 1: up onto another hump of the dragon's spine confirm my
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  Speaker 1: commitment to the task at hand. Until I became the
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  Speaker 1: knight who turned up in that village one quiet evening,
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  Speaker 1: sharpened my sword and sl ate the mother dragon h