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Episode 57-MY Pre-conversation with Thayne Martin about the Balance between the Conscious Mind and the Subconscious Body. · You Minding Your Own Business

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  Speaker 1: Okay, mister thing, tell me about you, your journey, your story,
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  Speaker 1: and how you got to the place where now you're
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  Speaker 1: helping people through their journeys of where there it's healing, recovery,
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  Speaker 1: all of those things.
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  Speaker 2: All those amazing things, all right, So thank you for
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  Speaker 2: asking that question and give me an opportunity to share
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  Speaker 2: my life story. I grew up in a little neighborhood
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  Speaker 2: in East Phoenix, wonderful family, amazing dad, mother's older brother,
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  Speaker 2: younger sister. I was the troubled middle child. So that
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  Speaker 2: should have been the first indicator that life was going
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  Speaker 2: to be interesting for me because I was in the
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  Speaker 2: middle and I was raised in an offshoot of Christianity, Mormonism.
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  Speaker 2: It's been in my family for two hundred plus years.
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  Speaker 2: My family crossed the Plains, all that good stuff. But
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  Speaker 2: I should have been safe there. I should have been
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  Speaker 2: safe there, but I wasn't safe. And ultimately my life
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  Speaker 2: changed at about eight years of age when I was
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  Speaker 2: brutally assaulted by an adult and that was the beginning
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  Speaker 2: of the end of the life that I could have had,
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  Speaker 2: because unfortunately, you know, when you abuse children and they're
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  Speaker 2: young like that, their minds are easily to manipulate and
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  Speaker 2: adults know that. And so I found myself for six
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  Speaker 2: years at the hands of a pedophile ring that ran
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  Speaker 2: in my neighborhood and also inside of the church that
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  Speaker 2: I went to. I was actually abused in the building,
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  Speaker 2: which is rather disgusting when you think about it. So unfortunately,
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  Speaker 2: when you have repeated trauma, the kind of trauma that
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  Speaker 2: I had as a child, my brain did what it
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  Speaker 2: was designed to do, and it protected me by creating
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  Speaker 2: multiple personalities. So I began splitting as a little boy
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  Speaker 2: to cope with what was happening to me. And I'm
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  Speaker 2: grateful for that experiences. Most of my life I looked
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  Speaker 2: at life from a victim perspective, and I was angry
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  Speaker 2: that all of those things had happened to me, because ultimately,
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  Speaker 2: you know, I was diagnosed very late in life with
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  Speaker 2: d ID. I had ten personalities on which were co conscious.
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  Speaker 2: I did not know that they existed. I was not
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  Speaker 2: aware of them, and bipolar one ADHD severe on this scale.
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  Speaker 2: And then I was also complex PTSD with a disassociation
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  Speaker 2: catatonic states. So I was a hot mess. And then
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  Speaker 2: at the same token, I had a very high profile
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  Speaker 2: career and so I would be on a stage, working
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  Speaker 2: with people in large audiences, demonstrating software, closing deals, managing
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  Speaker 2: half of a country, and then going back to my
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  Speaker 2: hotel room and then literally sleeping in the closet because
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  Speaker 2: that's where it was safe for me, inside of a small,
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  Speaker 2: confined space. So I did my best through life. Ultimately,
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  Speaker 2: when you try and outrun your trauma, it does come back.
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  Speaker 2: And it did came back, and it came back in
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  Speaker 2: the ugliest of ways, and it hijacked my career. Eventually,
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  Speaker 2: my depression is what led to the demise of my
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  Speaker 2: professional career because I couldn't function in the way that
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  Speaker 2: the world needed me to function while I was still
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  Speaker 2: trying to cope with the demons of my past. So
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  Speaker 2: you know, I did your traditional route. I will say
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  Speaker 2: that I'm grateful for my therapist. I started with a therapist.
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  Speaker 2: Had I not started there, I don't know that I'd
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  Speaker 2: be talking today. So I'm grateful for that that skill
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  Speaker 2: that she brought, and she used a technique called emdr
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  Speaker 2: on me, and three months of sitting in the chair crying,
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  Speaker 2: one day I had a breakthrough moment from that protocol
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  Speaker 2: and it unlocked my past. And then I realized late
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  Speaker 2: in my life as a forty year old man that
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  Speaker 2: I had been, you know, essentially trafficked and horrible situations.
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  Speaker 2: And then literally my life became unraveling because now I'm
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  Speaker 2: dealing with these demons that are out of the box,
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  Speaker 2: and my DID became very pronounced, and I was switching
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  Speaker 2: on a pretty regular basis, sometimes by the hour, sometimes
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  Speaker 2: by the week, sometimes by the month. But it made
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  Speaker 2: my life really challenging because I was married to the
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  Speaker 2: most amazing woman on the planet and I'm still married
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  Speaker 2: to that same woman, and I'm so incredibly grateful. And
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  Speaker 2: that's part of our story is that we burned together
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  Speaker 2: as a couple because when I had DID, I didn't
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  Speaker 2: always identify as a heterosexual man married to a woman,
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  Speaker 2: and that was challenging for her. But we worked through it,
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  Speaker 2: you know, and ultimately, here's where my story took a
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  Speaker 2: dramatic turn. At one point, I had seven pillboxes. That
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  Speaker 2: was what the doctors had prescribed me. And I was
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  Speaker 2: over medicated, that was obvious, and I didn't like that.
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  Speaker 2: I had no feeling at all. I had become completely
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  Speaker 2: numb to the world around me and severely depressed, suicidal
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  Speaker 2: all of those things. But I don't know if you're
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  Speaker 2: a spiritual person. I like to let everybody to decide
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  Speaker 2: what matters to them. And you know, I left Christianity
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  Speaker 2: and I became an atheist because of what had happened
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  Speaker 2: to me by a church that was supposed to protect
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  Speaker 2: me was the same church that was assaulting me and
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  Speaker 2: then judging me for moral cleanliness. That's how twisted and
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  Speaker 2: messed up that was. So I had a hard time
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  Speaker 2: believing in anything, really difficult time. But the crater upstairs
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  Speaker 2: that everybody gets to define, has plans for every single
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  Speaker 2: one of us, and there was a plan for me,
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  Speaker 2: and that plan for me was a reset. That plan
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  Speaker 2: for me was an accidental drowning. I drowned in my
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  Speaker 2: swimming pool. I was given medication I shouldn't have been given.
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  Speaker 2: I had an allergic reaction to that while swimming alone
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  Speaker 2: late at night, and I literally died and I went
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  Speaker 2: to the bottom of my pool and I had a
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  Speaker 2: near death experience there and a miracle, to be honest
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  Speaker 2: with you, that's what turned me around, because when I
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  Speaker 2: came out of that water, my brain wasn't the same.
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  Speaker 2: My brain was different, and suddenly, for the first time
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  Speaker 2: in my life, I could see every altar that I
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  Speaker 2: could never see before. So something happened in the pool.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know if it was the lack of oxygen
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  Speaker 2: that caused my brain to reset, I don't know, but
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  Speaker 2: I came out of that water a different person, and
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  Speaker 2: I didn't have all the skill sets. I had to
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  Speaker 2: learn to walk, I had to learn to talk, I
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  Speaker 2: had to learn to play the piano. I had to
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  Speaker 2: learn all those skills over again because my body didn't work,
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  Speaker 2: didn't like where I was, it didn't like any of that.
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  Speaker 2: So that experience led to a great discovery. And I've
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  Speaker 2: spent the last two and a half years and a
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  Speaker 2: quarter of a million dollars studying something that I discovered
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  Speaker 2: in my end, and it's how to heal our own mind,
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  Speaker 2: doing it naturally. And the two most powerful tools are
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  Speaker 2: unconditional love and gratitude. And I don't mean them as words,
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  Speaker 2: I mean them as experiences. So I've developed a way
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  Speaker 2: that you can actually heal your own mind, yourself using
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  Speaker 2: unconditional love and gratitude. And here's the kicker. It's with strangers.
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  Speaker 2: It's with strangers. Okay, So I've studied neuroscience, and I
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  Speaker 2: started out with no knowledge, didn't even know what neuroscience was.
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  Speaker 2: But I can tell you that it is the wave
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  Speaker 2: of the future, and that mental health protocols are going
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  Speaker 2: to be developed from the work that I have done
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  Speaker 2: and the research that I've done. I've brought on a
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  Speaker 2: full time neuroscientist and we're going to be taking my
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  Speaker 2: protocol and the results that we're getting from people that
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  Speaker 2: have actually experienced this technology, and we're going to have
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  Speaker 2: a study, and then my goal is to be able
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  Speaker 2: to offer it to human beings at the lowest possible cost.
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  Speaker 2: I'd like to be in a position where I can
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  Speaker 2: teach this to people for free. That's the that's the
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  Speaker 2: endgame for those that want to live again, to have
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  Speaker 2: the life that they have, because that's me today with
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  Speaker 2: that protocol. I no longer had D I D I have,
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  Speaker 2: I do not have CPTSD, I'm not ADHD, and I
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  Speaker 2: no longer have bipolar one. I am completely free of
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  Speaker 2: seven pillboxes. I'd been free off of meds for two
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  Speaker 2: and a half years. And I'm the poster child for
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  Speaker 2: a new way of living and it and it's and
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  Speaker 2: it's through love and kindness, and gratitude that you heal
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  Speaker 2: your mind, because that's literally what healed my mind. And
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  Speaker 2: and there's another story. It's a social media experiment. I
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  Speaker 2: wanted to find out what would happen if I got
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  Speaker 2: up every morning and celebrated the sun because I had
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  Speaker 2: taken a photograph of a morning sunraise and I posted
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  Speaker 2: it on next door and had all these neighbors tell
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  Speaker 2: me how thankful they were for number one positive social media.
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  Speaker 2: And the second thing was how grateful they were about
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  Speaker 2: the things in their life. And it made me realize
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  Speaker 2: that I didn't really know gratitude because I would roll
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  Speaker 2: my eyes if you said that word, because my grandmother
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  Speaker 2: and my mother used that to scold me when I
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  Speaker 2: wanted more, and that became a negative word for me.
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  Speaker 2: So you say gratitude at me, I'm going to give
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  Speaker 2: you an eye roll and you're probably going to get
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  Speaker 2: some behavior you're not going to like from me. That
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  Speaker 2: was my relationship with gratitude. So I started a social
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  Speaker 2: media experiment September twentieth of twenty twenty four. Today is
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  Speaker 2: day five hundred and seventy eight. For me, I have
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  Speaker 2: not missed one sunrise in five hundred and seventy eight
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  Speaker 2: days and that includes hospitals days. It's that important to me.
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  Speaker 2: And then I poured myself into this word called gratitude,
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  Speaker 2: and I tried everything else like everybody else did. I
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  Speaker 2: wrote a list that lasted about three days. I gave
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  Speaker 2: up on that unloaded an app. Maybe I'll use that
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  Speaker 2: if an interact with my phone, since I'm always on
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  Speaker 2: my phone. I deleted that at because it was annoying.
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  Speaker 2: And then one day I was studying gratitude trying to
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  Speaker 2: figure out, asking God, you got to teach me this
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  Speaker 2: because I'm not learning it. And then God introduced me
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  Speaker 2: to an angel named Carla. And Carla changed my life
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  Speaker 2: in one day, one day, one day, And it was
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  Speaker 2: an interaction that I had with a stranger that touched
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  Speaker 2: my heart in a way that I did something I'd
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  Speaker 2: never done before, and I got vulnerable with a stranger
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  Speaker 2: in public. And that little teeny exercise was the beginning
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  Speaker 2: of this incredible protocol. Because I started, I got something
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  Speaker 2: that we call it gratitude cocktail, all right. Gratitude cocktail
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  Speaker 2: is a physiological neurobiologic reaction that happens in the body
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  Speaker 2: in a certain situation. And I have since learned exactly
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  Speaker 2: what it does to make the body, make the body
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  Speaker 2: create hormones on demand, and I teach people how to
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  Speaker 2: do it, and it's a combination of hormones, and when
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  Speaker 2: you have a seat of choline, vasapress and oxytocin and
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  Speaker 2: dopamine in your bloodstream and high concentrations, it magically heals
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  Speaker 2: your mind. And that's what I've learned how to do.
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  Speaker 2: And that's why my protocol is going to be studied,
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  Speaker 2: because I've now taught this to many people and the
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  Speaker 2: qualitative results are off the charts, and that's why we're
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  Speaker 2: going to study it professionally and then ultimately offer it
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  Speaker 2: to people as a way to heal and get people
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  Speaker 2: off of the pillboxes that I'm convinced some people do
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  Speaker 2: need meds. I do know that because the bodies just
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  Speaker 2: can't produce it. And if you're one of those people,
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  Speaker 2: then stay on those meds because you need it. But
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  Speaker 2: I will tell you that I had the worst mental
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  Speaker 2: health on the planet, and most of it came from
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  Speaker 2: being over medicated. That was my experience. And when I
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  Speaker 2: got off of those meds and found out how to
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  Speaker 2: heal my soul naturally using love, and kindness and gratitude.
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  Speaker 2: That's all I needed. That's all I needed. And now
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  Speaker 2: I don't have any pillboxes and I do not have
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  Speaker 2: did And I am the poster child of turning around
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  Speaker 2: the ugliest mental health into positive living. Right.
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  Speaker 3: I love that.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I started. I started my company. It's called It's
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  Speaker 2: Pure Love. And the fun thing about that is when
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  Speaker 2: I died in the pool, I met something and we'll
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  Speaker 2: leave it at that, okay. And when I came back,
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  Speaker 2: I realized that I couldn't return to corporate America because
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  Speaker 2: that wasn't my purpose. My purpose was to take what
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  Speaker 2: God had shared with me and grow it and teach
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  Speaker 2: it to others so that they could have the life
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  Speaker 2: that I have, which is an abundant life. I never
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  Speaker 2: have a bad day, no matter what you throw at me.
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  Speaker 2: I have learned how to balance my emotional energy using
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  Speaker 2: a protocol that I teach people. And once you learn
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  Speaker 2: it and you start applying it in your life, you
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  Speaker 2: have a life that is magical.
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  Speaker 3: It is my Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Every day I wake up and I pinch myself. I'm
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  Speaker 2: grateful to have another day to make a difference in
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  Speaker 2: the world. So that's a story story, that's what I do,
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  Speaker 2: and I started a podcast. You know, I did two
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  Speaker 2: hundred and seventy five live podcast episodes from the park
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  Speaker 2: with Strangers in the Park. It was amazing. It didn't
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  Speaker 2: go into distribution on purpose. I didn't want to. This
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  Speaker 2: was my little experiment. I didn't need to share it
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  Speaker 2: with the world. It was mine. This was healing me,
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  Speaker 2: and every episode I produced a topic on mental health.
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  Speaker 2: There's two hundred and seventy five really awesome episodes out
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  Speaker 2: there on Instagram, and nobody knows how to find them.
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  Speaker 2: So someday I may take those and repost them, have them,
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  Speaker 2: have the audio cleaned up, and all the things that
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  Speaker 2: you need to do. But that podcast and that social
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  Speaker 2: media experiment changed my life.
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  Speaker 3: That's a beautiful thing, though, And you know what, your
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  Speaker 3: story is so much like mine, Bless your heart, because I.
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  Speaker 4: Couldn't walk and almost had emergency golb treated, almost.
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  Speaker 3: Almost left this earth.
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  Speaker 4: And it was like a couple of days before Kobe
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  Speaker 4: Kobe Bryant died the.
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  Speaker 3: Same week.
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  Speaker 4: Surgery, and I was recuperating from surgery, and I found
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  Speaker 4: out maybe a day or two late that he had
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  Speaker 4: passed away. And I was in a hospital matter of
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  Speaker 4: fact goes home right. And I kept saying to myself
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  Speaker 4: that could have been reversed.
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  Speaker 3: And some people.
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  Speaker 4: Wonder why when it come to Kobe while his death
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  Speaker 4: was so traumatizing to me because it could have switched.
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  Speaker 4: And I remember I was in the hospital and I
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  Speaker 4: was sick, and somebody died right beside me at the hospital,
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  Speaker 4: and I said, that could have been me. My father
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  Speaker 4: passed away February twelfth of this year, walked outside he
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  Speaker 4: was earlier that day, went outside, passed out, he died.
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  Speaker 2: Wow.
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  Speaker 4: And I tell people that type of death is so
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  Speaker 4: different than a shooting.
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  Speaker 3: Somebody falls asleep and then they don't wake up the
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  Speaker 3: next day.
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  Speaker 4: First and going into the doctor's office and they're being
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  Speaker 4: told you only got six weeks to live. And when
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  Speaker 4: you talked about that experience, I remember I was throwing
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  Speaker 4: up for like six months straight at night, having this
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  Speaker 4: really bad pain in my stomach, and I couldn't explain
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  Speaker 4: why I was hurting. They never thought to check my
• 15:37
  Speaker 4: gall black, never try to check it to find out
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  Speaker 4: if it was infected. Going to the doctor looking for answers,
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  Speaker 4: and they're telling me you can't find anything, because pain
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  Speaker 4: is not something you can see, and.
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  Speaker 3: I got tired of when it happened. When I couldn't walk,
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  Speaker 3: they said, well, you sure it's.
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  Speaker 4: Not in your mind, and I'm like, excuse you, how
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  Speaker 4: you gonna tell me how I feel in that it's
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  Speaker 4: in my mind now. Don't get me wrong. There are
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  Speaker 4: people that are very much victims where they use pain
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  Speaker 4: as a way to victimize, or a lot of people
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  Speaker 4: go from being victims to abusers.
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  Speaker 3: And you know, I was.
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  Speaker 4: I was assaulted also when I was sixteen and when
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  Speaker 4: I was seventeen, and I know how it feels to
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  Speaker 4: be violated. And then I lost the ex when I
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  Speaker 4: was sixteen years old going on seventeen, and you know,
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  Speaker 4: it was just one of those things where when I
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  Speaker 4: was sitting in the hospital and I couldn't walk, and
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  Speaker 4: they sent me home and I still couldn't walk, and
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  Speaker 4: I went to unc hospit middle.
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  Speaker 3: Ten hours later.
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  Speaker 4: They told me they said, you're not getting proper circulation
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  Speaker 4: through your body for some reason, and it's like we
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  Speaker 4: don't want you to work right now, which is how
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  Speaker 4: I ended up gaining weight. It was like we don't
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  Speaker 4: want you working out right now. And then I remember
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  Speaker 4: in twenty eighteen, twenty seventeen, I got really really sick,
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  Speaker 4: gave me wrong medicine, like yourself almost died. Yeah, And
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  Speaker 4: I remember I was so scared and I said, Lord,
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  Speaker 4: I'm not ready.
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  Speaker 3: I'm not ready to go. I still got I'm more
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  Speaker 3: to do. I got a child that loved.
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  Speaker 4: Me, I got so many things, so many things I
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  Speaker 4: haven't done in my life. And God was like, just
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  Speaker 4: go to sleep those links. And I went to sleep,
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  Speaker 4: and it was like I could see angels fighting over me,
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  Speaker 4: like something was trying to pull my spirit, but the
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  Speaker 4: angels were fighting for me to keep my spirit. And
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  Speaker 4: I woke up and that was like a life changing experience.
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  Speaker 3: And it was like.
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  Speaker 4: Now that I look back and the same thing, we're
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  Speaker 4: go and celebrate the same thing with.
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  Speaker 3: I tell people I felt like the story of Job.
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  Speaker 4: And recently, like six months ago, I got down on
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  Speaker 4: my knees like the story of Job, and I said, Lord,
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  Speaker 4: I felt like the story of Job. I feel like
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  Speaker 4: everything is being stripped of me. I feel like everything
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  Speaker 4: that could possibly go wrong. And I'm sorry, but everything
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  Speaker 4: that could possibly go wrong, what's.
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  Speaker 2: Going wrong in my life?
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  Speaker 3: I said, I was always this person that, Lord, I
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  Speaker 3: try to do what's right. I try to do right
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  Speaker 3: by people. I try to help people in the way.
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  Speaker 4: You wou want me to God said, is that the
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  Speaker 4: way that I want you to do? I want to do.
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  Speaker 4: I want you to help people, and you're destroying yourself.
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  Speaker 4: Do I want you to help people and you're luring
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  Speaker 4: yourself to be abused, to be hurt. How do you
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  Speaker 4: know that these are people that I'm sending you.
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  Speaker 3: The people you chose?
• 19:03
  Speaker 4: Or was it that because you were alone you just
• 19:08
  Speaker 4: wanted someone.
• 19:09
  Speaker 3: To love you but it wasn't reciprocated.
• 19:12
  Speaker 4: And then when I started reading the Bible and started
• 19:15
  Speaker 4: getting into my scriptures, it was one where I was
• 19:19
  Speaker 4: thinking about Jesus and I asked, I'm won day. I
• 19:23
  Speaker 4: was just sitting there and I said to myself, we
• 19:26
  Speaker 4: praised Jesus every day. Jesus died for our sins, and
• 19:30
  Speaker 4: yet we continue to sin, We continue to do everything
• 19:34
  Speaker 4: that goes against him, which I think is part of
• 19:36
  Speaker 4: the reason he has not returned. And then I looked
• 19:38
  Speaker 4: at saw Him and Gomore and I started really listening
• 19:42
  Speaker 4: to people breakdown and dissect the Bible, and I was like,
• 19:49
  Speaker 4: wait a minute, what what in the world? So instead
• 19:55
  Speaker 4: of me reading just scriptures. I started reading the chapters
• 19:59
  Speaker 4: then started to make sense, and I'm like, well, maam man,
• 20:01
  Speaker 4: this isn't about scriptures, It's about the story itself. So
• 20:07
  Speaker 4: I started reading a lot of you know, paying attention
• 20:09
  Speaker 4: to a lot of the stories, and I remember looking
• 20:14
  Speaker 4: at Moses and Moses left to get the tasty moments,
• 20:19
  Speaker 4: and I.
• 20:20
  Speaker 3: Noticed a pattern.
• 20:21
  Speaker 4: I said, every person in the Bible was alone for
• 20:24
  Speaker 4: a period of time, Right, they were all alone, just
• 20:28
  Speaker 4: them and God, nobody else.
• 20:29
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 20:30
  Speaker 4: And when you said strangers, it hit me and I
• 20:32
  Speaker 4: just started crying.
• 20:34
  Speaker 3: Oh my god.
• 20:35
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I said, it isn't about your family being with
• 20:40
  Speaker 4: you on your journeys. It isn't about your loved ones
• 20:42
  Speaker 4: or your children being on your journeys, because they may
• 20:46
  Speaker 4: be your greatest enemies.
• 20:48
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I said, isn't that so true right in your
• 20:51
  Speaker 2: own family that you that you sometimes you know, you
• 20:54
  Speaker 2: allow people to do things because their blood. You know,
• 20:59
  Speaker 2: your families. So I'm not going to set that boundary
• 21:02
  Speaker 2: that I should have set because you're family, you know. Yeah,
• 21:06
  Speaker 2: And you see that so often, especially in families where
• 21:09
  Speaker 2: there's abuse in the family. It's almost like because your
• 21:13
  Speaker 2: blood related, I can't do anything about it, because why
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: because you're my dad, Why because you're my mother, you know,
• 21:21
  Speaker 2: and I and at least in my situation, you know,
• 21:24
  Speaker 2: like the strangest thing for me was I was being
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: abused by ugly people, but yet I lived in a
• 21:30
  Speaker 2: very loving, kind home with like literally storybook parents. So
• 21:34
  Speaker 2: I had this massive dichotomy and shift that I would
• 21:38
  Speaker 2: have to do, which is actually where the disorder came from,
• 21:41
  Speaker 2: having to having to you know, be assaulted and then
• 21:46
  Speaker 2: go to school the next day or go to church
• 21:48
  Speaker 2: and act as if nothing happened. I became the best
• 21:51
  Speaker 2: actor in the business. And that's literally what did starts
• 21:55
  Speaker 2: out at is acting, and then the acting turns into
• 22:00
  Speaker 2: a personality, and then the personality takes over. You know.
• 22:04
  Speaker 2: That's literally where D I D comes from. And that's
• 22:07
  Speaker 2: what happened to me as a child. So I I
• 22:11
  Speaker 2: you know, when you say that and you talk about
• 22:13
  Speaker 2: the pain that comes inside of families, like what I'm
• 22:16
  Speaker 2: feeling is I can relate to that only in that like,
• 22:21
  Speaker 2: because there's certainly been things in my own family. So
• 22:24
  Speaker 2: you know, you had shared something around autism, and that's
• 22:29
  Speaker 2: a recent thing for us and our family. We've had
• 22:32
  Speaker 2: some leaden life diagnosis of autism and a son in law,
• 22:37
  Speaker 2: and it explains so much about the behavior of this
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: this man that I currently have as a son in
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: law but will probably not likely be my son in
• 22:47
  Speaker 2: law in the future. And and and then but also
• 22:50
  Speaker 2: looking at my grandson who I have, I have three
• 22:55
  Speaker 2: in that family, and and one for sure, we're fairly,
• 22:59
  Speaker 2: fairly sure he's also autistic. And so the beautiful thing
• 23:04
  Speaker 2: is now that we understand that, it helps us understand
• 23:08
  Speaker 2: his behavior better because prior to the diagnosis of autism,
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: I feel like I saw a young man that just
• 23:16
  Speaker 2: hadn't been parented correctly. And the reality is that he
• 23:20
  Speaker 2: did get parented correctly, but his little brain doesn't run
• 23:23
  Speaker 2: like everybody else's and and he doesn't, you know, he
• 23:28
  Speaker 2: doesn't have the same ability to regulate his emotions that
• 23:33
  Speaker 2: some of us do. And yes, he's gonna always be autistic,
• 23:38
  Speaker 2: but yes, it's my responsibility as a grandfather to teach
• 23:42
  Speaker 2: him the coping skills to help him regulate that nervous
• 23:45
  Speaker 2: system which is naturally unregulated. And it's like, so it's
• 23:50
  Speaker 2: kind of interesting when I got your email and you mentioned,
• 23:53
  Speaker 2: you know, autism and I'm like, well, that's timely because
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: I give in my family. You know, I don't. I
• 23:59
  Speaker 2: don't considered myself autistic, but I do have it, you know,
• 24:03
  Speaker 2: in my family now, and you know, it makes me
• 24:07
  Speaker 2: again realize how important the emotional regulation skills are. Unless
• 24:14
  Speaker 2: you have a parent that teaches you emotional regulation and
• 24:18
  Speaker 2: teaches you how to stand back up when you get
• 24:20
  Speaker 2: knocked down, you learned that, no and uns unless somebody
• 24:25
  Speaker 2: takes that interest in you and says, hey, you fell
• 24:28
  Speaker 2: off your bicycle and you bloodied your knees, but that's
• 24:31
  Speaker 2: because you weren't balancing correctly. Right, you want to jump
• 24:34
  Speaker 2: off that ramp, you got to lift up on the
• 24:36
  Speaker 2: bars when you jump so you don't end go and crash. Well,
• 24:39
  Speaker 2: that's exactly what happened to me. That's a true story
• 24:41
  Speaker 2: from when I was a little boy and I crashed,
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: and I wrote the story that I sucked at bicycles,
• 24:47
  Speaker 2: and so I took that bicycle and I parked it
• 24:49
  Speaker 2: on the side of my house and I verrely, very
• 24:52
  Speaker 2: rarely would I ride it because I wrote the story
• 24:54
  Speaker 2: as a young boy that I couldn't balance things on
• 24:57
  Speaker 2: two wheels and I was going to fall and hurt myself.
• 24:59
  Speaker 2: So how many things in my life that were on
• 25:01
  Speaker 2: two wheels that I could have enjoyed and got the
• 25:04
  Speaker 2: fullness of my life that I never got to see
• 25:06
  Speaker 2: because of that selfoning belief that I formed when I
• 25:09
  Speaker 2: was six years old and I did not have a
• 25:11
  Speaker 2: brain that was capable of understanding long term decision making.
• 25:15
  Speaker 2: And there was an adult there at that moment to go, hey,
• 25:18
  Speaker 2: dust yourself off and get better. What happened was a
• 25:21
  Speaker 2: bunch of boys standing around there started laughing at me.
• 25:25
  Speaker 2: So what did I do? I felt humiliated. I wrote
• 25:27
  Speaker 2: the wrong story, and then it became self and belief
• 25:30
  Speaker 2: that I embellished. My brain does that. That's the amygdalah,
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: and that's subconscious creating the safety to keep you safe. Yeah,
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: what I've learned, the very thing that is what keeps
• 25:41
  Speaker 2: us safe is the very same system that keeps you trapped. Right,
• 25:45
  Speaker 2: we have sixty eight thousand thoughts a day, sixty thousand,
• 25:50
  Speaker 2: Only ninety five percent of those are done in the subconscious,
• 25:54
  Speaker 2: which means that your body is making decisions for you
• 25:57
  Speaker 2: all day long, letting you see certain things and not
• 25:59
  Speaker 2: other things, and you don't even know what's in there.
• 26:03
  Speaker 2: And that's what I found when I got into my shadow.
• 26:06
  Speaker 2: I had no idea. I had so many self and
• 26:09
  Speaker 2: and beliefs and limitations. And so the way that I
• 26:13
  Speaker 2: work is I developed. My near death experience taught me
• 26:17
  Speaker 2: something called the equation of life, an abundant happiness that
• 26:20
  Speaker 2: came from my near death experience. And it's not mine,
• 26:23
  Speaker 2: it belongs to the Creator. I'm just sharing what I know.
• 26:27
  Speaker 2: And it goes like this. When I died that night,
• 26:30
  Speaker 2: and I ended up getting out of the pool miraculously
• 26:33
  Speaker 2: and I lived. I laid on the side of that
• 26:35
  Speaker 2: pool for about two hours. I wasn't able to move,
• 26:38
  Speaker 2: my body wasn't functioning. I was alone, and I spent
• 26:41
  Speaker 2: two hours staring into the cosmos. It was a perfectly
• 26:44
  Speaker 2: clear night, sun was full or the moon was full,
• 26:48
  Speaker 2: and I could see some of the stars. I live
• 26:50
  Speaker 2: in the city, so it's not like magical like it
• 26:52
  Speaker 2: is when you're out in the dark. But yeah, I
• 26:54
  Speaker 2: became obsessed laying there with how does God keep this
• 26:59
  Speaker 2: balanced everything? It's perfectly balanced. That moon is over there
• 27:03
  Speaker 2: and it goes around this thing perfectly every day. How
• 27:07
  Speaker 2: does this happen? And so I literally had this experience
• 27:11
  Speaker 2: where God showed me and it was basically this. When
• 27:14
  Speaker 2: it sounds crazy, but this is the truth because I'm
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: laying there looking at the world and understanding that this
• 27:21
  Speaker 2: is physical matter. That's physical matter, and it's sitting in
• 27:26
  Speaker 2: perfect balance. Okay, So what else is physical matter? Human emotion? Yes,
• 27:35
  Speaker 2: human emotion is made up of atoms, the same atoms
• 27:38
  Speaker 2: that make up that planet that is sustained in perfect balance.
• 27:42
  Speaker 2: So I became obsessed with this idea that you could
• 27:47
  Speaker 2: apply mathematical and scientific principles to human emotion because it's
• 27:52
  Speaker 2: also physical matter and therefore it has to follow the
• 27:55
  Speaker 2: same scientific properties. So I learned that the four operators
• 28:01
  Speaker 2: in math, which we all learned in grade school, actually
• 28:05
  Speaker 2: the symbols we need to use to solve any problem
• 28:09
  Speaker 2: that we have in life. Literally, yeah, it's out simple. Yeah,
• 28:13
  Speaker 2: So it goes like this. You, I'm going to show
• 28:16
  Speaker 2: you that you already know it. What's the first thing
• 28:19
  Speaker 2: you remember from grade school? The first mathematical express and
• 28:22
  Speaker 2: you learned was what do you remember addition? Addition? Exactly?
• 28:27
  Speaker 2: An addition is about adding those things in life that
• 28:30
  Speaker 2: brings forth goodness and joy. That's addition. What did you
• 28:33
  Speaker 2: learn next? Attraction exactly, and subtraction is about letting go
• 28:38
  Speaker 2: of those things that don't serve us, that don't help us,
• 28:41
  Speaker 2: that ultimately hold us down, and let them go so
• 28:44
  Speaker 2: we have a responsibility. Most people think of balance like this.
• 28:49
  Speaker 2: Mm hm, that's incorrect. This, yeah, is perfect balance, constantly
• 28:54
  Speaker 2: in motion, capable, capable of balancing my emotional energy in
• 29:00
  Speaker 2: the here and now every second of the day. Because
• 29:02
  Speaker 2: if I can manage the here and now, I can
• 29:05
  Speaker 2: manage a minute, and then an hour, and then a day,
• 29:08
  Speaker 2: and then a week and a month and a year later,
• 29:10
  Speaker 2: I can look back and see that I have maintained
• 29:12
  Speaker 2: focus and balance from that one second, and I go.
• 29:16
  Speaker 2: So you're right, Addition and subtraction, that's what's balancing. So
• 29:20
  Speaker 2: then you take action and attention, and you let the
• 29:24
  Speaker 2: creator know what you're trying to accomplish, and you engage
• 29:27
  Speaker 2: your family and friends and whatever it is that you
• 29:29
  Speaker 2: need to do to achieve that objective. That is multiplication.
• 29:33
  Speaker 2: God is the multiplier. The multiplier is God. Okay, So
• 29:38
  Speaker 2: now I took that hundred bucks and I became a
• 29:41
  Speaker 2: co creator with God and then made AE thousand dollars
• 29:45
  Speaker 2: all Right after that thousand dollars gets bigger, there's another
• 29:49
  Speaker 2: rule that gets applied, and that's division that after multiplication,
• 29:53
  Speaker 2: and division is about taking that greater abundance and sharing
• 29:58
  Speaker 2: it with the world of which it came from. Now
• 30:02
  Speaker 2: there's something important that we're not doing, and it goes
• 30:05
  Speaker 2: back to this word abundance and specifically something that God
• 30:09
  Speaker 2: taught me called heartfelt abundance. Here's the print. So out
• 30:14
  Speaker 2: of that thousand, I need six hundred dollars to pay
• 30:17
  Speaker 2: my rent this week. That's what I need. God also
• 30:21
  Speaker 2: knows that human beings need a sense of safety because
• 30:24
  Speaker 2: life has ebbs and flows. So God says, look, I
• 30:27
  Speaker 2: know you need the six hundred, what else do you
• 30:29
  Speaker 2: need for a rainy day? And say that how much
• 30:32
  Speaker 2: of this do you need? Of this thousand, Well, my heart,
• 30:35
  Speaker 2: my heart felt abundance says that it's actually another one
• 30:39
  Speaker 2: hundred and fifty. So if it's okay with you, got
• 30:42
  Speaker 2: I'm going to take the seven fifty. I'm the six
• 30:44
  Speaker 2: hundred for the rent, the one fifties going into my savings,
• 30:47
  Speaker 2: and that means that I've got two hundred and fifty
• 30:50
  Speaker 2: dollars of excess abundance. And love that was created by you,
• 30:53
  Speaker 2: the world around me and me, and the right thing
• 30:56
  Speaker 2: to do is to give it back. That's what we're
• 31:00
  Speaker 2: supposed to do when we.
• 31:01
  Speaker 3: Have more than we need.
• 31:03
  Speaker 2: That is excess abundance, and the system was originally designed
• 31:07
  Speaker 2: to put it back in, put it back into the
• 31:10
  Speaker 2: lives of the people that helped create it. Make a donation. Hey,
• 31:14
  Speaker 2: I've got an extra fifty bucks this week I don't need,
• 31:16
  Speaker 2: but my sister's struggling financially. I'm going to give her
• 31:19
  Speaker 2: that fifty bucks and make her day. And that that
• 31:22
  Speaker 2: a one hundred dollars that I don't need because I
• 31:24
  Speaker 2: know that God will provide what I need when I
• 31:26
  Speaker 2: need it every day. So I'm going to take that
• 31:28
  Speaker 2: hundred bucks and a donate to the Homo shelter down
• 31:30
  Speaker 2: the street and feed a couple people. All right, that's
• 31:33
  Speaker 2: what we wus to do. So add, subtract, multiply, divide,
• 31:38
  Speaker 2: and if I do all of those things perfectly, I
• 31:41
  Speaker 2: hit the equal sign. And the equal sign is gratitude,
• 31:46
  Speaker 2: and it's the secret sauce that makes everything perpetuate. Gratitude
• 31:51
  Speaker 2: is the spark and fuel for love, and I live it.
• 31:55
  Speaker 2: I have a motto I teach in the course that
• 31:57
  Speaker 2: I teach people called dare to be second. And I
• 32:00
  Speaker 2: use the word dare because it takes courage to live
• 32:03
  Speaker 2: in gratitude. Truth. It's court, it's knowing that I'm not
• 32:08
  Speaker 2: always going to be first, that sometimes I'm good being
• 32:11
  Speaker 2: second so somebody else can be first. That's a framework,
• 32:15
  Speaker 2: it's a way of living, so it does take courage.
• 32:18
  Speaker 2: The number two is a reflection of the fact that
• 32:20
  Speaker 2: gratitude is bi directional. It is about giving and it
• 32:24
  Speaker 2: is about receiving, and more importantly, it's amongst strangers. The
• 32:28
  Speaker 2: most powerful gratitude in the world is unconditional love with strangers.
• 32:34
  Speaker 2: And that's actually how I teach. And in my course,
• 32:38
  Speaker 2: you are going to go into the world and you
• 32:40
  Speaker 2: are going to meet strangers and you're going to have
• 32:42
  Speaker 2: the most amazing conversation you've ever had, and you're going
• 32:46
  Speaker 2: to be taught how to get a gratitude cocktail. And
• 32:49
  Speaker 2: once you learn how to get a gratitude cocktail, you're
• 32:51
  Speaker 2: gonna find that that is the most addictive substance on
• 32:55
  Speaker 2: the planet. Okay, I've done a lot of drugs in
• 32:58
  Speaker 2: my prior years. When I was making bad choices, and
• 33:01
  Speaker 2: I will tell you that nothing compares to the love
• 33:04
  Speaker 2: that comes from up there. When you exercise unconditional love
• 33:08
  Speaker 2: with strangers in a very specific way, you're gonna get
• 33:12
  Speaker 2: touched by that light up above. And once you get
• 33:15
  Speaker 2: touched one time, that's all you need, because from that
• 33:18
  Speaker 2: be forward, you're going to be in an addict towards
• 33:21
  Speaker 2: what I call experiential gratitude, and you'll meet the most
• 33:26
  Speaker 2: amazing people alone the way, and eventually that mere practice
• 33:31
  Speaker 2: alone will actually convert your brain into a new neural
• 33:35
  Speaker 2: network that's based upon positive So I've figured out how
• 33:40
  Speaker 2: to rewrite our own brains naturally using love, kindness, and gratitude.
• 33:44
  Speaker 2: And it happens real fast most people. My course runs
• 33:48
  Speaker 2: five days, and after the end of the five days,
• 33:51
  Speaker 2: you are a new person, and you show up in
• 33:53
  Speaker 2: the world full of love and kindness and gratitude, and
• 33:56
  Speaker 2: you let go of every shadow that you once had.
• 33:59
  Speaker 2: Because I use I teach experientially because we learn best
• 34:04
  Speaker 2: when we experience. That's how most human beings are, and
• 34:06
  Speaker 2: we actually retain ninety percent when we experience it versus
• 34:11
  Speaker 2: if we read something. So yeah, imagine going into the
• 34:15
  Speaker 2: world with exercises. There's one hundred and one exercises in
• 34:19
  Speaker 2: my deck of cards, and when you start with me,
• 34:22
  Speaker 2: I start you out on simple exercises that anyone can do.
• 34:26
  Speaker 2: So I'll give you an example. The first one I
• 34:28
  Speaker 2: usually played at people's called Smile Marathon. And the only
• 34:31
  Speaker 2: thing I'm going to ask you to do in this
• 34:33
  Speaker 2: exercise is go to the mall, go to a busy hospital,
• 34:36
  Speaker 2: a place where lots of people are walking by, find
• 34:39
  Speaker 2: yourself a good seat, and for the next thirty minutes,
• 34:42
  Speaker 2: you are going to do nothing but look at people,
• 34:45
  Speaker 2: smile at them, and make eye contact. That's it for
• 34:50
  Speaker 2: thirty minutes, and you're going to learn a lot about yourself.
• 34:53
  Speaker 2: You're going to learn about what your feelings were like
• 34:55
  Speaker 2: before you begin smiling at people. And then you're going
• 34:58
  Speaker 2: to check in at the end of that thirty minute
• 35:00
  Speaker 2: and realized that thirty minutes of smiling actually lifted your
• 35:03
  Speaker 2: spirits and made you feel better. Then you're also going
• 35:06
  Speaker 2: to learn that there's many people in the world that
• 35:09
  Speaker 2: are not happy today, and it's sad and that came
• 35:12
  Speaker 2: from COVID and we've never reconnected as human beings because
• 35:16
  Speaker 2: now if we make eye contact with people, the first
• 35:18
  Speaker 2: thing they say is are you going to hurt me?
• 35:21
  Speaker 2: Are you on the other side? Are you a democrat
• 35:23
  Speaker 2: or you're a Republican? Like that's what we're saying to
• 35:25
  Speaker 2: each other instead of Hey, you got a great smile,
• 35:29
  Speaker 2: and thank you so much for smiling back at me
• 35:31
  Speaker 2: and sharing that joy that still exists in the world.
• 35:34
  Speaker 2: So you're going to see human behavior in a different way.
• 35:37
  Speaker 2: When you're just working, people come by and smile at you,
• 35:40
  Speaker 2: Some will smile back, some will look at you and
• 35:43
  Speaker 2: look away. But it teaches you a lot about you,
• 35:46
  Speaker 2: and it teaches you a lot about human behavior and
• 35:48
  Speaker 2: the importance of putting love into the micro movements of
• 35:52
  Speaker 2: our world. We can all live this way if we
• 35:55
  Speaker 2: choose to. And thus my motto dare to be second
• 35:59
  Speaker 2: right B is because gratitude is a state of B.
• 36:03
  Speaker 2: And then the word second test dual meaning in my motto.
• 36:06
  Speaker 2: One of them is the reference to the precious here
• 36:09
  Speaker 2: and now, which is where I live. I start with
• 36:12
  Speaker 2: awareness training, and I train with this bracelet. You're looking
• 36:15
  Speaker 2: at it, so that's cue yeap. I put this bracelet
• 36:18
  Speaker 2: on you, and then I teach you a cognitive pattern
• 36:21
  Speaker 2: interrupt sequence. And when I put this on you, this
• 36:24
  Speaker 2: bracelet will train you to be aware in about twenty
• 36:27
  Speaker 2: four to forty eight hours. It'll change how you show up.
• 36:30
  Speaker 2: From a bracelet and a simple cognitive powdern interrupt and
• 36:33
  Speaker 2: a Habian sequence, I can literally retrain your brain to
• 36:36
  Speaker 2: be aware using this. Then I take the same bracelet
• 36:40
  Speaker 2: and I teach you what's called balance thought, because when
• 36:43
  Speaker 2: I reset your brain with kindness and love and gratitude,
• 36:46
  Speaker 2: which is going to reset your brain, you're going to
• 36:49
  Speaker 2: have a new neural network that is positive and it
• 36:51
  Speaker 2: will start showing you instead of the crappy things in
• 36:55
  Speaker 2: your life. Your brain is now your best friend, and
• 36:57
  Speaker 2: it's pointing out what we call glimmers, which is evidence
• 37:01
  Speaker 2: of your greatness. It's evidence of this new life that
• 37:04
  Speaker 2: you have. And we learn to use glimmers to help
• 37:08
  Speaker 2: us navigate where we are in life and on the
• 37:11
  Speaker 2: wave of creation, which is a whole nother subject. But
• 37:14
  Speaker 2: the reality is, you know, anybody can heal, and you
• 37:18
  Speaker 2: can heal with kindness, unconditional love and gratitude with strangers.
• 37:24
  Speaker 2: That's how you do it. That is the secret sauce.
• 37:26
  Speaker 2: And there's a very specific thing that I teach so
• 37:30
  Speaker 2: that you learn how to get the hormones in the
• 37:33
  Speaker 2: right order. So it's funny how it works. I can
• 37:36
  Speaker 2: teach every human being how to create vasive pressing in
• 37:39
  Speaker 2: their own blood system.
• 37:41
  Speaker 3: And that's important. That's very important because.
• 37:45
  Speaker 4: You know when you hit like somebody said, there's me
• 37:50
  Speaker 4: and somebody had a conversation recently just last week, well yeah,
• 37:54
  Speaker 4: last week we talked about the subconsciousness and a conscious
• 37:58
  Speaker 4: mind and about dopamine.
• 38:01
  Speaker 3: And the one thing that.
• 38:03
  Speaker 4: I learned is that I told a friend of mine
• 38:09
  Speaker 4: every sense, everything that happened, I said, I'm sticking just
• 38:14
  Speaker 4: takes me back to spiritual where God pulled me from
• 38:19
  Speaker 4: the world because I was being that seat filler. I
• 38:23
  Speaker 4: was being that person that was building seeing that Captain
• 38:27
  Speaker 4: saber home. I'm trying to save people. I'm trying to
• 38:30
  Speaker 4: make sure everybody else is good. I suffered from post
• 38:34
  Speaker 4: traumatic slave disorder.
• 38:35
  Speaker 3: People was like, what the world is that? I said.
• 38:39
  Speaker 4: Slave disorder is when you were the invisible child, and
• 38:44
  Speaker 4: you were the child that was always the reliable one.
• 38:48
  Speaker 4: You were the one that no matter what you did,
• 38:51
  Speaker 4: it was expected. You were the one that you couldn't
• 38:56
  Speaker 4: make bad grades.
• 38:58
  Speaker 3: You couldn't you? Could you always want trying you?
• 39:03
  Speaker 2: That was Yeah, So you you lived the life of
• 39:09
  Speaker 2: creating stability in your family and you became a perfectionist
• 39:16
  Speaker 2: along the way. Yeah, perfectionism ultimately turns out to backfire
• 39:22
  Speaker 2: on you because deep down you're harboring your own feelings
• 39:26
  Speaker 2: and things, but you're never truly seen and you never
• 39:31
  Speaker 2: get to fail because you're perfect. I know exactly what
• 39:35
  Speaker 2: you're talking about. That's the exact story of my oldest daughter,
• 39:39
  Speaker 2: oldest daughter, the same exact thing she was. You know,
• 39:42
  Speaker 2: when I was struggling with my mental health, you know,
• 39:44
  Speaker 2: thankfully you know I was never physically abusive at all,
• 39:48
  Speaker 2: and even verbally abusive, not not so much. But but
• 39:51
  Speaker 2: you were watching on eggshells with me because I had
• 39:53
  Speaker 2: a really horrible temper, explosive temper again anger and rage
• 39:58
  Speaker 2: from being abused as a child. I never or got
• 40:00
  Speaker 2: it out, never resolved it. And if you looked at
• 40:03
  Speaker 2: me the wrong way and I didn't know you, then
• 40:05
  Speaker 2: I would crucify you like That's how I showed up.
• 40:08
  Speaker 2: I was a complete Karen, just an asshole. I hate
• 40:11
  Speaker 2: to say that word, but that's the truth. So changing
• 40:15
  Speaker 2: that you know I like the newest version of me
• 40:18
  Speaker 2: my life. Yes, today I don't have any enemies. I
• 40:21
  Speaker 2: love everybody, including my enemies. And I've learned that gratitude
• 40:26
  Speaker 2: is an amazing thing of literally healing every situation because
• 40:30
  Speaker 2: it creates instant respect. Yeah, like, think about think about
• 40:35
  Speaker 2: how that works. How gratitude creates respect when you think
• 40:39
  Speaker 2: somebody authentically, you know. I teach anger management as part
• 40:44
  Speaker 2: of my curriculum because, especially men, we struggle with anger.
• 40:48
  Speaker 2: And the key with anger is just to understand that
• 40:52
  Speaker 2: it's just a signal from the body. It's just that.
• 40:55
  Speaker 2: And most people, when we get the feeling of anger
• 40:58
  Speaker 2: the amigdal of fire, and then we rage from the
• 41:01
  Speaker 2: old story, because that's what we always do. We get big,
• 41:03
  Speaker 2: we get loud, we yell, and everybody runs. That's what
• 41:06
  Speaker 2: we do. But what if I could take that physiological
• 41:09
  Speaker 2: response to the body and change it real time in
• 41:13
  Speaker 2: an exercise. So I deliberately make you angry on purpose,
• 41:16
  Speaker 2: and then I deliver love in kindness, which your brain
• 41:19
  Speaker 2: does not does not predict. So we love and kindness
• 41:23
  Speaker 2: from me. When you're expecting to get a mouthful of crap,
• 41:26
  Speaker 2: your brain goes way in a minute, I think I
• 41:28
  Speaker 2: may have done the wrong response because they track with
• 41:31
  Speaker 2: kindness in the situation, and maybe that's the right way
• 41:34
  Speaker 2: to go. So that's exactly what happens in an exercise.
• 41:38
  Speaker 2: You just updated an old memory and an old tape
• 41:40
  Speaker 2: real time in what's called memory reconsolidation. There's a very
• 41:44
  Speaker 2: specific window in our own minds when the brain is malleable.
• 41:48
  Speaker 2: So what I've learned how to do in these exercises
• 41:51
  Speaker 2: bring it to the point where the brain is malleable
• 41:53
  Speaker 2: and the brain predicts something that's going to be average
• 41:56
  Speaker 2: or failure. But then what you get in every exercise
• 41:59
  Speaker 2: is and kindness and recognition. So I'm literally rewriting live
• 42:05
  Speaker 2: through experiences and training your nervous system to a different response.
• 42:11
  Speaker 2: And that's what makes it sticks because ninety percent of
• 42:15
  Speaker 2: what I teach you experience it. You don't read it, yea.
• 42:18
  Speaker 2: And when you experience it, you embody it. It becomes you.
• 42:22
  Speaker 2: And that's why you know I teach it experientially. A
• 42:25
  Speaker 2: lot of people have said, then you need to write
• 42:27
  Speaker 2: a book. Everybody would read that book, But I don't
• 42:30
  Speaker 2: read a book because that's ten percent retention. I'd rather
• 42:33
  Speaker 2: you experience my course and experience the fullness of life
• 42:38
  Speaker 2: than read a book and only get ten percent. So
• 42:40
  Speaker 2: that's why.
• 42:41
  Speaker 4: Unless you decide to, like, for example, give it to
• 42:45
  Speaker 4: your clients because they're actually going through it. And you
• 42:48
  Speaker 4: know what, when you said that, I would think about
• 42:51
  Speaker 4: that as far as coaching, and I said, you know what,
• 42:54
  Speaker 4: a lot of people that I've seen that do coaching
• 42:58
  Speaker 4: don't have teaching a teaching degree. It's more so about
• 43:02
  Speaker 4: selling a product. Why not let it sell itself? Because
• 43:07
  Speaker 4: my whole thing for me was, you know, with my
• 43:12
  Speaker 4: healing and recovery, it was about relinquishing, like you said,
• 43:16
  Speaker 4: adding its attraction, multiplying and dividing, and you know, but
• 43:23
  Speaker 4: the one thing also was there's one hundred and twenty
• 43:27
  Speaker 4: negative and positive emotions, and then also there's ten levels.
• 43:31
  Speaker 4: So I told people, you know, we as human beings,
• 43:35
  Speaker 4: we're supposed to elevate, grow, evolve, we're supposed to mature,
• 43:39
  Speaker 4: We're supposed to research. And I said, we don't apply
• 43:43
  Speaker 4: research in real life.
• 43:44
  Speaker 3: So for example, when.
• 43:48
  Speaker 4: I found out my son was autistic, and I said
• 43:50
  Speaker 4: to myself, I'm not going to tell him that he's autistic.
• 43:53
  Speaker 4: And they was like, why, I said, because once he
• 43:56
  Speaker 4: hears it, it's the label. And I said, one day
• 44:01
  Speaker 4: I said, I don't need I said.
• 44:06
  Speaker 3: Somebody asked me what am I. I said, I'm a
• 44:08
  Speaker 3: human being? They said, but it was like, what do
• 44:12
  Speaker 3: you mean?
• 44:13
  Speaker 4: I said, I don't do labels. And it was like,
• 44:15
  Speaker 4: what do you mean? Some things I don't have to say.
• 44:20
  Speaker 4: You can see it. You don't have to I mean, yeah.
• 44:25
  Speaker 4: And so I said, once you and this, and this
• 44:28
  Speaker 4: is where the negativity comes in at you know, when
• 44:31
  Speaker 4: you have somebody calling you ugly, I said, define what
• 44:34
  Speaker 4: ugly is?
• 44:35
  Speaker 3: Define define the definition of what it means. You don't
• 44:39
  Speaker 3: know me. So how would you think that I'm ugly?
• 44:41
  Speaker 4: When you have people running around and alive and people,
• 44:43
  Speaker 4: wouldn't that make them ugly too?
• 44:45
  Speaker 3: When someone is assaulting somebody, wouldn't.
• 44:47
  Speaker 4: That be ugly because that would be negative, right, I said, So,
• 44:53
  Speaker 4: you know, I learned that. The one thing that I
• 44:57
  Speaker 4: learned dopamine. And that's one of the things that the nervousness,
• 45:00
  Speaker 4: if it's so important with it's the communication between the mind.
• 45:03
  Speaker 2: And the body.
• 45:04
  Speaker 4: And when it came to my body shutting down, I
• 45:10
  Speaker 4: was like, one day I've got in a car and
• 45:14
  Speaker 4: I said, we gotta get here, we gotta get we
• 45:18
  Speaker 4: gotta get here, and my throat will get really dry.
• 45:21
  Speaker 3: When I get in a car.
• 45:22
  Speaker 4: My mom was like, why do you keep watering the car?
• 45:24
  Speaker 4: I said, because my throat swells for some reason when
• 45:27
  Speaker 4: I'm driving. And I said, we have to get here,
• 45:30
  Speaker 4: because we don't. We're not We're not going to get there.
• 45:33
  Speaker 4: And I said it out loud. And I talked to
• 45:37
  Speaker 4: myself a lot, and people was like, well, why do
• 45:39
  Speaker 4: you talk to yourself. I said, I'm not talking to myself,
• 45:42
  Speaker 4: I'm talking to my body. Yes, because my mind can
• 45:47
  Speaker 4: sit there all day and think something.
• 45:51
  Speaker 3: My brain is not gonna move until I say it.
• 45:53
  Speaker 3: And if my.
• 45:54
  Speaker 2: Brain so, so you know what you are, right, Yeah,
• 45:58
  Speaker 2: we're meta cognitive, which it's the highest form of intelligence,
• 46:02
  Speaker 2: and it's the skill that has to be taught. Most
• 46:05
  Speaker 2: people don't understand that who we are is just energy.
• 46:11
  Speaker 2: That's our soul, right, and that energy, which is what
• 46:14
  Speaker 2: we call our soul, is the higher self, and it
• 46:18
  Speaker 2: is separate from the body, right. And it's like, in
• 46:21
  Speaker 2: my course, I teach people this very simple delineation. If
• 46:25
  Speaker 2: it's a negative thought, it always comes from the subconscious
• 46:29
  Speaker 2: mind and the body always yeah, because the body is
• 46:34
  Speaker 2: naturally wired negative and your subconscious is also wired negative.
• 46:38
  Speaker 2: So when you have a positive thought, you know that
• 46:42
  Speaker 2: that thought came from your soul. And the reason you
• 46:45
  Speaker 2: know that is because God gave us that ability. Our
• 46:48
  Speaker 2: soul will never speak bad about itself. It is not possible.
• 46:53
  Speaker 2: So once you understand that the highest voice that you have,
• 46:56
  Speaker 2: the one that can overturn anything served up by body
• 47:01
  Speaker 2: and mind, now you're metacognitive. Now you realize that my
• 47:05
  Speaker 2: body and mind is a monkey that is separate from me,
• 47:10
  Speaker 2: the observer. I'm the soul that drives that body, and
• 47:14
  Speaker 2: I understand that my body makes responses based upon pattern recognition,
• 47:19
  Speaker 2: but it's often wrong. So I can also train that
• 47:23
  Speaker 2: body to a different response that's habing. Yeah, if I
• 47:29
  Speaker 2: experience it live, I actually update the memory in the body.
• 47:34
  Speaker 2: And that's why I teach through experiences. So you go
• 47:38
  Speaker 2: into the world with a deck of one hundred and
• 47:39
  Speaker 2: one cards. They go from anything as easy as smile marathon.
• 47:44
  Speaker 2: You know some of the more difficult cards. One of
• 47:47
  Speaker 2: them is called A day without Convenience. And when I
• 47:50
  Speaker 2: play that card on you, you're going to lose your
• 47:52
  Speaker 2: phone for the rest of the day. So for six
• 47:55
  Speaker 2: hours from this point forward, you no longer have a phone,
• 47:58
  Speaker 2: So you better communicate. You better figure out how you're
• 48:00
  Speaker 2: going to communicate in this world without this little device
• 48:04
  Speaker 2: that also distracts you and you're obsessed with. That's one
• 48:08
  Speaker 2: of the most difficult exercises I play on people. Yeah,
• 48:11
  Speaker 2: take away their car, whether their phone or their laptop.
• 48:14
  Speaker 2: It's called a day without convenience. So you pick, but
• 48:18
  Speaker 2: whatever you pick, it has to be sacrificed in the ecercise.
• 48:21
  Speaker 2: So you've giving up your car, are you giving up
• 48:25
  Speaker 2: your phone, You're giving up your computer, but for the
• 48:27
  Speaker 2: rest of the day, you don't get it, okay, And
• 48:31
  Speaker 2: how do you show up now that you don't have that?
• 48:34
  Speaker 2: That's a difficult card, but it also shows you. Like
• 48:37
  Speaker 2: when I did that exercise, I gave up my phone,
• 48:40
  Speaker 2: and what surprised me was how much my body and
• 48:43
  Speaker 2: my nervous system reached for my phone without me saying,
• 48:47
  Speaker 2: check my phone. Yeah, consciousness constantly grabbing, looking for a notification, grabbing,
• 48:52
  Speaker 2: oh I think it banged. Okay. That was really a
• 48:55
  Speaker 2: league wake up call for me that my monkey brain
• 48:58
  Speaker 2: and my monkey body was really separate from me, and
• 49:02
  Speaker 2: I to do better to control that monkey body, in
• 49:04
  Speaker 2: that monkey mind, and that's where you know, and that's
• 49:07
  Speaker 2: where you truly master meta cognition to be able to
• 49:11
  Speaker 2: adjust your behavior real time. That's the strongest intelligence in No,
• 49:17
  Speaker 2: you are the highest form of intelligence when you're metacognitive.
• 49:20
  Speaker 2: So atcha, you're one of the smartest people in the world.
• 49:24
  Speaker 2: Isn't that amazing? And don't it is? It is and
• 49:28
  Speaker 2: it feels amazing to be in charge. I'm in charge
• 49:32
  Speaker 2: of this body of mind now me, not the other
• 49:35
  Speaker 2: way around, right, And that's the real strength and power
• 49:38
  Speaker 2: of transformation And why I do what I do. I
• 49:41
  Speaker 2: love watching people get their lives back because I did
• 49:44
  Speaker 2: not have a life. I would have been dead by
• 49:46
  Speaker 2: now for sure.
• 49:47
  Speaker 4: Yeah, because now I think now people are to appoint
• 49:51
  Speaker 4: to where I tell people, this whole economy, everything that's
• 49:58
  Speaker 4: going on, to me, I don't even look at it as
• 50:00
  Speaker 4: a bad thing.
• 50:01
  Speaker 3: And people are like, why don't you look at it
• 50:02
  Speaker 3: as a bad thing?
• 50:03
  Speaker 4: I said, because I said, my dad worked twenty two
• 50:07
  Speaker 4: years in the military, thirty something years and for the state,
• 50:11
  Speaker 4: the solid waste management. My daddy when he retired he
• 50:16
  Speaker 4: did not travel when he retired.
• 50:19
  Speaker 3: He worked. And then when you look at and people
• 50:22
  Speaker 3: like I said, you don't understand when you're retired life,
• 50:27
  Speaker 3: Yeah you don't.
• 50:28
  Speaker 4: Yeah, and you don't get when you were see And
• 50:31
  Speaker 4: it's the part when now that he's passed away and
• 50:34
  Speaker 4: now they were going through everything.
• 50:37
  Speaker 3: I tell people when you.
• 50:38
  Speaker 4: Look at their retirement or if they didn't have retirement,
• 50:42
  Speaker 4: or whatever the case may be, when you look.
• 50:45
  Speaker 3: At how much they get. My dad was being taxed
• 50:49
  Speaker 3: for his retirement.
• 50:51
  Speaker 4: He wasn't getting, you know, the same amount that he
• 50:55
  Speaker 4: was getting paid per hour.
• 50:58
  Speaker 3: He was getting pennies to be able to pay bills.
• 51:03
  Speaker 4: But if you started late as far as buying a house,
• 51:08
  Speaker 4: or you refinanced your house like my father did, I said,
• 51:13
  Speaker 4: then you're.
• 51:14
  Speaker 3: Bringing all of these things to your children.
• 51:16
  Speaker 4: Because my dad said, before you passed away, he said,
• 51:19
  Speaker 4: I'm not trying to put you out in any type
• 51:21
  Speaker 4: of debt. But he never got a chance to make it.
• 51:25
  Speaker 4: So things were in place. And so now with the
• 51:30
  Speaker 4: younger generation, I try to tell them, get get your
• 51:35
  Speaker 4: life insurance while you're young.
• 51:37
  Speaker 3: Get your.
• 51:40
  Speaker 4: You know, instead of you focusing on you know like
• 51:44
  Speaker 4: you said, instead of you focusing on relationships where you're
• 51:49
  Speaker 4: chasing that part chasing, because that's God was.
• 51:53
  Speaker 3: I was chasing. Yeah, you're constantly chasing.
• 51:57
  Speaker 4: And the problem is what you're chasing doesn't want you.
• 52:01
  Speaker 3: What you're chasing, it's going to continue to move.
• 52:05
  Speaker 4: And then when you think that.
• 52:08
  Speaker 3: You got it, when it sucks the life out of you.
• 52:12
  Speaker 4: And these people take everything they can take because they
• 52:15
  Speaker 4: know you're chasing them.
• 52:17
  Speaker 3: It's just like a negative.
• 52:18
  Speaker 4: Person, for example, when you don't react the way they
• 52:22
  Speaker 4: want you to react.
• 52:24
  Speaker 3: Like let's say they're saying all.
• 52:26
  Speaker 4: Of these things and you're like, are you done? Do
• 52:29
  Speaker 4: you feel better now that you said all of that,
• 52:31
  Speaker 4: you have a good day?
• 52:32
  Speaker 3: What do they do?
• 52:34
  Speaker 4: They keep coming and you're like, why are you still
• 52:38
  Speaker 4: bothering me?
• 52:38
  Speaker 2: It's like a kid being bullied, like listening, So why
• 52:43
  Speaker 2: do you keep bringing it up?
• 52:45
  Speaker 3: The kid is being bullied every day at school. Why
• 52:47
  Speaker 3: are you.
• 52:48
  Speaker 4: Bullying somebody that you feel is younger or beneath you.
• 52:52
  Speaker 4: But the thing about it is I told people, y'all
• 52:54
  Speaker 4: almost want somebody to die, and they was like, what
• 52:57
  Speaker 4: do you mean? I said, because the way you're attacking
• 53:00
  Speaker 4: this person, it's like you don't want this person to
• 53:03
  Speaker 4: end up on this planet. But then when that child
• 53:06
  Speaker 4: takes their lives because they go to their parents and
• 53:08
  Speaker 4: they say, I'm being bullied and the parents says, well,
• 53:11
  Speaker 4: just ignore it, just suck it up.
• 53:13
  Speaker 3: I'm like, a child. Can't do that.
• 53:15
  Speaker 4: I said, look, child can't do that because negative people
• 53:20
  Speaker 4: are not going to allow you to walk away from
• 53:23
  Speaker 4: them because for two reasons, they either want to see
• 53:26
  Speaker 4: you fall or they want to play victim.
• 53:29
  Speaker 3: You not gonna win with negativity.
• 53:32
  Speaker 4: No matter what you do, no matter if you don't
• 53:34
  Speaker 4: say nothing, you cuss them out, you put your hands
• 53:37
  Speaker 4: on them, if.
• 53:38
  Speaker 3: You try to be a symbol, you not gonna win
• 53:42
  Speaker 3: because it's not the reaction that they want.
• 53:45
  Speaker 4: What they want you to do is attack them. What
• 53:48
  Speaker 4: they want you to do is baby them. What they
• 53:50
  Speaker 4: want you to do is be their safety net. They
• 53:53
  Speaker 4: want you to be the person that takes the fall
• 53:56
  Speaker 4: for everything they do.
• 53:58
  Speaker 3: And no matter in what way.
• 53:59
  Speaker 4: And it took me when I went after going a
• 54:02
  Speaker 4: sex coach.
• 54:03
  Speaker 3: To understand that and I said, you know what, I said.
• 54:07
  Speaker 4: No matter what I do in this situation, y'all are
• 54:11
  Speaker 4: going to attack me.
• 54:12
  Speaker 3: And I said, you know what, you're actually.
• 54:16
  Speaker 4: Doing me a favor. And somebody said, what do you mean?
• 54:18
  Speaker 4: Do you know every person that you took out my life?
• 54:21
  Speaker 4: Every person? Do you know when you told my story
• 54:24
  Speaker 4: you didn't tell it correctly? But what you did you
• 54:27
  Speaker 4: didn't expose me. You exposed everybody in my life. And
• 54:31
  Speaker 4: they was like, what do you mean? I said, when
• 54:35
  Speaker 4: you expose people, it isn't the person you're exposing, it's
• 54:40
  Speaker 4: the reaction of everybody when they hear it. That person
• 54:44
  Speaker 4: may already have closure, which I did. Everything in my
• 54:47
  Speaker 4: life had closure, Every chapter had been closed because I
• 54:50
  Speaker 4: forgave everybody, I made amends, I repented for my wrongs.
• 54:55
  Speaker 3: And I said, do you not.
• 54:57
  Speaker 4: Understand you were my greatest healing And what do you
• 55:00
  Speaker 4: mean because not only did you break my chains of fear,
• 55:04
  Speaker 4: not only did you break the bonds that is, the
• 55:07
  Speaker 4: insecurities and the doubts.
• 55:09
  Speaker 3: Do you not understand you open the cage? You set me?
• 55:19
  Speaker 3: I said, you set me free.
• 55:21
  Speaker 4: I don't know why because everything that was keeping me
• 55:26
  Speaker 4: in that chain. Because I go back to Sam when Samson,
• 55:31
  Speaker 4: when Delilah cut his hair and he was in he
• 55:35
  Speaker 4: was chained blind and he was in his his weakest moment,
• 55:42
  Speaker 4: she cried. His strength came back, and what.
• 55:46
  Speaker 3: Did he did?
• 55:46
  Speaker 4: He do He destroyed everything because he was set free,
• 55:50
  Speaker 4: and he destroyed everybody who hurt him. I said, what
• 55:54
  Speaker 4: people don't understand is when people expose you.
• 55:58
  Speaker 3: They're not exposing you. They're setting you free.
• 56:03
  Speaker 4: And just like with Jesus, when Jesus didn't say anything,
• 56:07
  Speaker 4: Jesus sat quiet the whole.
• 56:08
  Speaker 3: Time he was crucified. He knew that he was going to.
• 56:12
  Speaker 4: Be betrayed by someone from one of the disciples.
• 56:17
  Speaker 3: He knew that.
• 56:18
  Speaker 4: He knew it, and he said, God, why did you
• 56:21
  Speaker 4: forsake me? And people don't understand if he would have
• 56:26
  Speaker 4: stayed in this world, no matter what he did, he
• 56:30
  Speaker 4: would have never.
• 56:31
  Speaker 3: Been able to they had never been satisfied.
• 56:35
  Speaker 4: No, And he knew that. So when he was crucified
• 56:39
  Speaker 4: and then resurrected from the dead, I tell people, when
• 56:43
  Speaker 4: people expose you, or when people you know accuse you
• 56:49
  Speaker 4: of things like a court, look at it as Jesus,
• 56:53
  Speaker 4: because all they're doing is setting you free because you
• 56:57
  Speaker 4: can overcome the punished. You can overcome if you survive.
• 57:04
  Speaker 4: But see that's difference.
• 57:05
  Speaker 3: You survived.
• 57:06
  Speaker 4: Jesus was resurrected from the dead, despite the beatings, despite
• 57:11
  Speaker 4: all of that, he was resurrected from the dead. So
• 57:14
  Speaker 4: when I was going through that and they were going
• 57:16
  Speaker 4: after my family, my job, and going through all of
• 57:18
  Speaker 4: these things, I said, do you not know you're releasing
• 57:22
  Speaker 4: me from society standards? Do you not know you're releasing
• 57:25
  Speaker 4: me from the world, because I don't want to be
• 57:26
  Speaker 4: a part of the world.
• 57:27
  Speaker 3: I just want to be in the world.
• 57:29
  Speaker 4: And it went over people's heads and they was like,
• 57:32
  Speaker 4: you just so calm. I said, yeah, because their commerce
• 57:36
  Speaker 4: gonna come back on them, because everything they did to me,
• 57:38
  Speaker 4: I'm not gonna touch them because somebody else is sure enough.
• 57:42
  Speaker 4: A year later found out all of these people went
• 57:46
  Speaker 4: through the same thing, and they didn't understand. I said,
• 57:49
  Speaker 4: for me, it was the best thing, because, like you said,
• 57:52
  Speaker 4: now I'm doing what I love now coaching. Now I'm
• 57:54
  Speaker 4: doing podcasting. I'm not working for anybody anymore. I have
• 57:58
  Speaker 4: the money now to that's in my business. And I said,
• 58:03
  Speaker 4: for you, man, good for you that. Yeah, And that
• 58:06
  Speaker 4: was because if that wouldn't have happened that, if.
• 58:09
  Speaker 2: That that set you free, that's set me free. Yeah.
• 58:14
  Speaker 3: It's just like domestic.
• 58:15
  Speaker 4: If you go through mystic violence and lack your situation
• 58:17
  Speaker 4: when you were a kid, if that wouldn't have happened,
• 58:21
  Speaker 4: not only wouldn't have you if you would have never
• 58:23
  Speaker 4: found out all of these things that you were dealing with, yep,
• 58:26
  Speaker 4: and also it set you free because you met people
• 58:29
  Speaker 4: that like the same thing.
• 58:30
  Speaker 3: Here. I met people that I didn't know.
• 58:33
  Speaker 4: And that's how I got into podcasting because.
• 58:35
  Speaker 3: It's like I look at things in threes.
• 58:38
  Speaker 4: I kept seeing all this stuff about podcasting, and I said, well,
• 58:41
  Speaker 4: I've never done podcasting before.
• 58:44
  Speaker 3: If somebody said you need to do it, I just did.
• 58:47
  Speaker 4: I wouldn't think of the millions I'd be sitting here
• 58:49
  Speaker 4: talking to you.
• 58:50
  Speaker 2: And but isn't that the most beautiful thing? Though? Yeah,
• 58:54
  Speaker 2: it's like that's what I love about. Like you know,
• 58:57
  Speaker 2: when you when you walk in goodness, that's what I
• 58:59
  Speaker 2: call it, all right, when you walk in goodness, it's
• 59:02
  Speaker 2: a lonely road, and there's a lot of people that
• 59:04
  Speaker 2: are friends and family that are going to leave your
• 59:07
  Speaker 2: your orbit because they're not walking where you're at. They're
• 59:10
  Speaker 2: vibrating in a lower state of existence. And you were there, right,
• 59:15
  Speaker 2: so you you lovingly set the best example of what
• 59:18
  Speaker 2: life can be when you walk in light, in goodness.
• 59:21
  Speaker 2: And you know, I've learned that. You know, I don't
• 59:24
  Speaker 2: tell people my company is called It's Pure Love, and
• 59:27
  Speaker 2: the its is It's And when I named my company,
• 59:31
  Speaker 2: I named it because everybody comes from different persuasions in life.
• 59:36
  Speaker 2: And while I was raised a Christian, you know, a
• 59:38
  Speaker 2: Christian and generally adopt most of the Christian principles, I
• 59:42
  Speaker 2: also recognize that there's other people that have their own
• 59:46
  Speaker 2: religions and belief system and I got to let them
• 59:48
  Speaker 2: love the God that they worship. At the end of
• 59:52
  Speaker 2: the day, we're all united in love. We are all
• 59:54
  Speaker 2: united because at the top of the food chain of
• 59:56
  Speaker 2: every religion is the source for love. So let's just
• 1:00:00
  Speaker 2: all agree that we can align in love and we'll
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 2: let everybody name what that is. So you name it God,
• 1:00:07
  Speaker 2: you name it Jesus, you name it Jehovah, you name
• 1:00:10
  Speaker 2: it Allah. Doesn't mean yahweh exactly. None of that matters.
• 1:00:15
  Speaker 2: What matters is that we can unite in love and
• 1:00:17
  Speaker 2: we can walk in goodness. And when you make that decision, yeah,
• 1:00:21
  Speaker 2: you do notice a degradation and all the people in
• 1:00:24
  Speaker 2: your life and you realize that they were wearing you
• 1:00:27
  Speaker 2: down and they're not going to be part of the
• 1:00:29
  Speaker 2: new life that you're in. But what's beautiful is when
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 2: you meet cool people. Yep, Like you know what I mean.
• 1:00:36
  Speaker 2: Like I say the same thing, like I never thought
• 1:00:38
  Speaker 2: that I would be fifty eight years old starting a
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 2: neuroscience company and literally when I should be retiring. I'm
• 1:00:46
  Speaker 2: getting into the biggest stage of my life and I'm
• 1:00:49
  Speaker 2: super happy about it and I'm grateful, thankful for everything
• 1:00:53
  Speaker 2: that happened to me in my life because all that
• 1:00:55
  Speaker 2: shit made me a better man. I'm a better man.
• 1:00:59
  Speaker 2: I'm a bound I understand the importance of maskaline energy,
• 1:01:04
  Speaker 2: and I understand as a man, I also have to
• 1:01:06
  Speaker 2: embody feminine energy. And the perfect man is the one
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 2: that can balance both as necessary in the moment. I
• 1:01:14
  Speaker 2: got to protect my family when I need to, and
• 1:01:16
  Speaker 2: the I need to be tender for that little one
• 1:01:19
  Speaker 2: or for that moment when my wife needs that little
• 1:01:22
  Speaker 2: extra tenderness from me. That's the perfect man. My hope
• 1:01:27
  Speaker 2: is to is to you know, again, I stand up
• 1:01:30
  Speaker 2: because one in six boys were abused and nobody talks
• 1:01:32
  Speaker 2: about it. That's important. I stand up because mental health
• 1:01:36
  Speaker 2: is important in this country and we're all suffering and
• 1:01:39
  Speaker 2: there's a better way to heal, and it's not always mets. Okay,
• 1:01:42
  Speaker 2: I don't. I don't. Like I said earlier, some people
• 1:01:45
  Speaker 2: have to have meds, but I'm convinced most people do not.
• 1:01:49
  Speaker 2: What they need is better emotional regulation, and that is
• 1:01:52
  Speaker 2: a skill that can be taught, and that's what I
• 1:01:54
  Speaker 2: teach through my course. You know, at it's pure love.
• 1:01:57
  Speaker 2: So I'm always grateful. I'm thankful for the time that
• 1:02:01
  Speaker 2: I got to spend today meeting you and the goodness
• 1:02:04
  Speaker 2: that you're putting into the world and the advice you're
• 1:02:07
  Speaker 2: giving people from the heart. Like I can feel the
• 1:02:09
  Speaker 2: love that you put into the world. That I applaud
• 1:02:11
  Speaker 2: you and I think.
• 1:02:12
  Speaker 3: Thank you and lackwise.
• 1:02:13
  Speaker 4: Then that's why I say I never put my son
• 1:02:16
  Speaker 4: on any medications, and it's been more holistic, and I
• 1:02:22
  Speaker 4: think that holistic lifestyle and I think, Mama, yeah, because
• 1:02:31
  Speaker 4: the the.
• 1:02:33
  Speaker 3: I when I got away from the world, I also
• 1:02:37
  Speaker 3: got away from the world when it came to raise
• 1:02:39
  Speaker 3: my son. It wasn't I said, you know what, all this,
• 1:02:43
  Speaker 3: all of this.
• 1:02:45
  Speaker 4: School don't matter, because when you graduate, you're not going to.
• 1:02:49
  Speaker 3: Use majority of it. I mean, it's good.
• 1:02:52
  Speaker 4: It's good to know about history, good to know about science,
• 1:02:55
  Speaker 4: good to know.
• 1:02:57
  Speaker 3: But the one thing that's.
• 1:02:59
  Speaker 4: Not incorporated thinking, common sense and common judgment, quantum physics,
• 1:03:04
  Speaker 4: the subconscious and the conscious mind about decision making as
• 1:03:08
  Speaker 4: far as actual behavior, choice and decisions, and then also
• 1:03:12
  Speaker 4: consequences and repercussions, and what is the correct way of
• 1:03:17
  Speaker 4: the mind as far as thinking when it comes to that,
• 1:03:21
  Speaker 4: and my first instinct now because of my body, is
• 1:03:26
  Speaker 4: how does my mind, body and spirit? How are they
• 1:03:28
  Speaker 4: going to be affected? Who am I impacting? Who am
• 1:03:31
  Speaker 4: I affecting? Let me let me like this picture behind me, black,
• 1:03:36
  Speaker 4: you're a picture. Let me let me put all these
• 1:03:39
  Speaker 4: jigsaw pictures and puzzles together. Because somebody asked me, They said, well,
• 1:03:43
  Speaker 4: how do you go about weakness? I said, I don't
• 1:03:46
  Speaker 4: have weakness. They said, what do you mean. I don't
• 1:03:48
  Speaker 4: look at anything as a weakness. I look at things
• 1:03:50
  Speaker 4: as a challenge. I look at it as something.
• 1:03:52
  Speaker 2: That I can roll over throth.
• 1:03:54
  Speaker 3: It's an opportunity for growth. I said.
• 1:03:55
  Speaker 4: If I think about it as a weakness, then I'm
• 1:03:58
  Speaker 4: gonna have depression and anxiety and then I'm gonna think
• 1:04:01
  Speaker 4: I'm not good enough, and then I'm gonna have low
• 1:04:02
  Speaker 4: self esteem, low self work, low self value.
• 1:04:05
  Speaker 3: This lady was blown away. She said, I never thought
• 1:04:09
  Speaker 3: about it that way.
• 1:04:10
  Speaker 4: I said, the minute you label yourself, then your belief
• 1:04:16
  Speaker 4: system is gonna hold on to that and you cannot.
• 1:04:20
  Speaker 4: And I tell people about going forward and backwards. People say,
• 1:04:25
  Speaker 4: why don't you ever like the word or the prefix
• 1:04:29
  Speaker 4: are e. I said, because once you start read anything,
• 1:04:34
  Speaker 4: if you don't do it with a new mindset, if
• 1:04:37
  Speaker 4: you don't do it with a new frame of mind,
• 1:04:40
  Speaker 4: if you don't know how to add, subtract, multiply, like algebra.
• 1:04:45
  Speaker 4: I mean, algebra is the same thing how I deal
• 1:04:49
  Speaker 4: with negative people.
• 1:04:50
  Speaker 3: Negative and negative will always equal negative. It don't matter
• 1:04:52
  Speaker 3: if you add as attractive.
• 1:04:54
  Speaker 4: Negative and positive will always equal negative. So you're still
• 1:04:57
  Speaker 4: gonna be subtracting positive and positive if it's gonna always
• 1:05:01
  Speaker 4: be positive, because no matter if you multiply or divide it,
• 1:05:05
  Speaker 4: it's still gonna be positive because it's gonna lead the
• 1:05:07
  Speaker 4: positive and people's like I never thought, I said, if
• 1:05:12
  Speaker 4: people taught algebra that way, and you incorporate decision making
• 1:05:16
  Speaker 4: into algebra, if you incorporate decision making into math, you
• 1:05:22
  Speaker 4: will be amazed how people will make decisions because you're
• 1:05:25
  Speaker 4: always going to be programming and deprogramming.
• 1:05:29
  Speaker 3: But when you.
• 1:05:29
  Speaker 4: Say the word are eli if I'm going to read
• 1:05:33
  Speaker 4: program myself, I don't mean say I say I newly
• 1:05:36
  Speaker 4: programmed myself.
• 1:05:37
  Speaker 3: I said I can do something over and over and
• 1:05:39
  Speaker 3: over again, but I'm not read anything.
• 1:05:44
  Speaker 2: Yeah. I like that. That's really nice.
• 1:05:46
  Speaker 3: I like that.
• 1:05:47
  Speaker 4: Yeah. So I'm definitely looking forward to going more in
• 1:05:52
  Speaker 4: depth inness because that that thing that we're missing is balance,
• 1:05:59
  Speaker 4: that word, and so I really would like to get
• 1:06:04
  Speaker 4: into that because a lot of people don't don't understand
• 1:06:07
  Speaker 4: that that puzzle and the one thing we're missing is
• 1:06:12
  Speaker 4: research validation. And you're trying to find validation and people,
• 1:06:18
  Speaker 4: but you're not finding it in yourself.
• 1:06:20
  Speaker 3: And I tell people you're healing and recovering.
• 1:06:23
  Speaker 4: It isn't about Okay, I lost fifty pounds, I lost
• 1:06:27
  Speaker 4: twenty pounds.
• 1:06:29
  Speaker 3: How do you maintain it?
• 1:06:31
  Speaker 2: How?
• 1:06:31
  Speaker 3: What? What is it? What is this?
• 1:06:34
  Speaker 4: Because here's the thing, it's not about whether you lose
• 1:06:37
  Speaker 4: the weight. It's your foundation. What is your whole entire
• 1:06:41
  Speaker 4: life gonna look like when you lose the weight, what
• 1:06:45
  Speaker 4: is your new what is a new mind frame?
• 1:06:47
  Speaker 3: What is your new self esteem gonna look like?
• 1:06:50
  Speaker 4: So you're not just losing the weight. It's not just
• 1:06:53
  Speaker 4: about the weight. It's also about a lifestyle. So everything
• 1:06:57
  Speaker 4: that you do incorporates with that foundation is your lifestyle.
• 1:07:01
  Speaker 4: So if you how do you maintain that new version
• 1:07:03
  Speaker 4: of you along.
• 1:07:05
  Speaker 3: With the weight, because some people lose weight and they
• 1:07:08
  Speaker 3: still have low self esteem.
• 1:07:09
  Speaker 4: So I always want to go into Yeah, I really
• 1:07:12
  Speaker 4: want to go into that, how do we maintain these
• 1:07:17
  Speaker 4: new versions of our healing?
• 1:07:19
  Speaker 3: How do you maintain you know, not going through cancer.
• 1:07:23
  Speaker 4: So I really will like for that episode to be
• 1:07:27
  Speaker 4: based upon that, and I'm really looking forward to doing.
• 1:07:30
  Speaker 3: That with you.
• 1:07:31
  Speaker 4: So I'm going to send you the calendar and then
• 1:07:34
  Speaker 4: whenever you're available.
• 1:07:36
  Speaker 3: I'm really looking forward to it.
• 1:07:37
  Speaker 2: Likewise, and I'm a reality person and putting goodness into
• 1:07:41
  Speaker 2: the world. And the thing I'll always find is I
• 1:07:44
  Speaker 2: connect most with authentic people. And I thank you for
• 1:07:48
  Speaker 2: being authentic with me today and sharing your story and
• 1:07:51
  Speaker 2: your life. And I just want you to know that
• 1:07:54
  Speaker 2: I see you, and I'm grateful for the love and
• 1:07:56
  Speaker 2: the life that you're putting into the world, and I
• 1:07:58
  Speaker 2: certainly will have a better day because I'm at you.
• 1:08:02
  Speaker 4: Thank you, and likewise, I love what you're doing as well.
• 1:08:05
  Speaker 4: And our stories are so similar in the fact that
• 1:08:07
  Speaker 4: we're overcoming it and we're constantly elevating, evolving, and now
• 1:08:12
  Speaker 4: the things that we're learning through those elevations and those
• 1:08:15
  Speaker 4: evolving because what I want to teach my clients is
• 1:08:17
  Speaker 4: how to maintain their healing and their recovery no matter
• 1:08:21
  Speaker 4: what you go through.
• 1:08:22
  Speaker 2: Yes you don't. That's where most programs fail, all right.
• 1:08:28
  Speaker 2: And what makes what I teach different is that once
• 1:08:32
  Speaker 2: you've got this deck of cards all right, there, there's
• 1:08:36
  Speaker 2: ten things that you learn in these cards. I'm sorry,
• 1:08:39
  Speaker 2: eight things that you learn in those cards. They're broken
• 1:08:41
  Speaker 2: out into systems, but they're designed to teach a behavior.
• 1:08:45
  Speaker 2: So like, for instance, some of the exercise are about courage.
• 1:08:48
  Speaker 2: So I've got to have the muster. Oh you want
• 1:08:51
  Speaker 2: me to wait a minute, okay, wait, So in this exercise,
• 1:08:56
  Speaker 2: you want me to go into a public place, put
• 1:08:59
  Speaker 2: on some music, and start dancing in the middle of
• 1:09:03
  Speaker 2: the park, in the middle of the grocery store. Yeah,
• 1:09:05
  Speaker 2: that's exactly right. That's what I'm asking you to do.
• 1:09:08
  Speaker 2: I'm not gonna do that. People will stare at me,
• 1:09:10
  Speaker 2: people will laugh at me. Uh huh, yes they will,
• 1:09:13
  Speaker 2: And that's humiliation. And the mere fact that you were
• 1:09:16
  Speaker 2: resisting this card tells me that somewhere in your childhood
• 1:09:19
  Speaker 2: you were humiliated. Because there should be no reason right
• 1:09:23
  Speaker 2: now that you cannot put on music and dance and
• 1:09:26
  Speaker 2: celebrate your own life. And yes, people will look at you,
• 1:09:30
  Speaker 2: but you don't give your power away. You're celebrating because
• 1:09:33
  Speaker 2: you're full of joy. That's what you're doing. So let's
• 1:09:37
  Speaker 2: go do this exercise and watch what happens. Right. So
• 1:09:40
  Speaker 2: I had a lady that I was working with and
• 1:09:43
  Speaker 2: that that was the card that was going to end
• 1:09:47
  Speaker 2: her journey. She is like, there is no way that
• 1:09:51
  Speaker 2: I'm doing this, and I said, look, I understand, but
• 1:09:54
  Speaker 2: I want you to pay attention because what you're actually
• 1:09:57
  Speaker 2: resisting is the very thing that I'm trying to to
• 1:10:00
  Speaker 2: teach you. Okay, the fact that you're not willing to
• 1:10:03
  Speaker 2: do this tells me that there's other things in your
• 1:10:06
  Speaker 2: life and in your shadow that you are not seeing, feeling, doing,
• 1:10:10
  Speaker 2: and it's because you're not willing to take a little
• 1:10:12
  Speaker 2: bit of risk. So let's let's try it again, find
• 1:10:17
  Speaker 2: a different location. Well, eventually, because I do everything by video,
• 1:10:22
  Speaker 2: so she finished it. She actually recorded herself dancing. And
• 1:10:27
  Speaker 2: what she did was she went near a busy street,
• 1:10:31
  Speaker 2: she pulled up into a gas station, she opened the
• 1:10:33
  Speaker 2: doors on her car, she cranked the stereo, and she
• 1:10:36
  Speaker 2: stood there and she danced while she filled it in.
• 1:10:39
  Speaker 2: And what I love was that she used her own
• 1:10:41
  Speaker 2: thought process to solve and create a sense of safety
• 1:10:45
  Speaker 2: which she needed to do the exercise. And like, congratulations,
• 1:10:48
  Speaker 2: I didn't tell you how to do it this way.
• 1:10:50
  Speaker 2: You created a safe place for you and then you danced. Okay.
• 1:10:54
  Speaker 2: So the funny thing was she picked a gas station
• 1:10:57
  Speaker 2: because there was nobody in it. So now she's dancing
• 1:11:01
  Speaker 2: and a young man pulls up at the pump next
• 1:11:03
  Speaker 2: to her, and he's a good looking young college kid
• 1:11:06
  Speaker 2: street you know, ready to have a good time. And
• 1:11:09
  Speaker 2: she's over there dancing and he looks at her, and
• 1:11:12
  Speaker 2: she was instantly embarrassed. And then she thought to myself, no,
• 1:11:16
  Speaker 2: I'm feeling joy and happiness right now. So she says
• 1:11:19
  Speaker 2: to the guy, I'm actually taking a course right now
• 1:11:22
  Speaker 2: and experiential learning, and I'm dancing in public to convince
• 1:11:25
  Speaker 2: myself that it's okay to be humiliated, and now I'm
• 1:11:28
  Speaker 2: gonna be all right. So the guy heard that and
• 1:11:31
  Speaker 2: he started laughing and he's like, I'll dance with you.
• 1:11:34
  Speaker 2: So that guy joined the fun, and now everybody's dancing
• 1:11:37
  Speaker 2: at the gas pump.
• 1:11:38
  Speaker 3: So yes, it goes.
• 1:11:40
  Speaker 2: And then she sent me the video and the video
• 1:11:43
  Speaker 2: was full of tears of joy because she now realized
• 1:11:47
  Speaker 2: that I'm not going to be humiliated like that anymore.
• 1:11:51
  Speaker 2: And that feeling that came from my childhood, that my
• 1:11:53
  Speaker 2: psyche over embellished was not a story that I can
• 1:11:57
  Speaker 2: keep playing, like Wow, this is amazing. I'm like, okay,
• 1:12:02
  Speaker 2: so now go take that feeling that you have right
• 1:12:04
  Speaker 2: now and triumph and go do the next card okay,
• 1:12:08
  Speaker 2: because this is about learning who you are, So go
• 1:12:11
  Speaker 2: do the next card.
• 1:12:12
  Speaker 4: Man.
• 1:12:13
  Speaker 2: She knocked it out of the park. Once she got
• 1:12:15
  Speaker 2: over that initial hump, she realized that she could do anything.
• 1:12:19
  Speaker 3: Now you can break both early, and.
• 1:12:21
  Speaker 2: She learned in one exercise, I took her through the
• 1:12:25
  Speaker 2: entire psychological profile in a number of minutes, and the
• 1:12:28
  Speaker 2: brain updated that story. So she's never gonna worry about
• 1:12:33
  Speaker 2: being seen in public anymore. She's gonna remember that time
• 1:12:36
  Speaker 2: I danced and I became vulnerable and it worked out amazing,
• 1:12:40
  Speaker 2: and I met a nice stranger and I had a
• 1:12:42
  Speaker 2: fun time. And that is the new memory associated with
• 1:12:46
  Speaker 2: this thing that fear is serving up now.
• 1:12:49
  Speaker 3: And that's what I want to talk about with you
• 1:12:51
  Speaker 3: next time we get together. I'll look forward to it.
• 1:12:54
  Speaker 2: Yeah, absolutely, yep, because these are the experiences. Right. So
• 1:12:57
  Speaker 2: now you've got that deck of cards. So that was
• 1:13:00
  Speaker 2: the first time you pulled that card. But next year,
• 1:13:03
  Speaker 2: you're using the deck of cards. You randomly pull and
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  Speaker 2: it's stance out loud again. But this time you're not
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  Speaker 2: at a gas station. This time you're in a grocery
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  Speaker 2: store and you pull the card. Okay, that's going to
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  Speaker 2: be a different experience, isn't it, Because I'm in a
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  Speaker 2: different place with different people, and I'm also at a
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  Speaker 2: different time of my life. So the cards. What's cool
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  Speaker 2: about the exercises is they change because your life changes,
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  Speaker 2: and you'll never get tired of them. Like I puy
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  Speaker 2: these cards. I pull two cards a week, and that's
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  Speaker 2: what keeps me locked into goodness. It keeps my heart open, right,
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  Speaker 2: So I pull two cards a week. Anybody in my program.
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  Speaker 2: We load these cards onto your phone, and that's ultimately
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  Speaker 2: what you pull from that deck. You randomly let God
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  Speaker 2: show you what you need to work on, and God
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  Speaker 2: will show you in that deck of card something you
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  Speaker 2: need to strengthen. That's how it works, right, and then
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  Speaker 2: we use the protocol. We call it the Neurogratitude Reset.
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  Speaker 2: And once you learn how to do it, you go
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  Speaker 2: out into the world and you find God will show you.
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  Speaker 2: He will light your heart of the person that needs
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  Speaker 2: to hear your message, and then you pour your authentic
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  Speaker 2: self into that person and let them know how they
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  Speaker 2: showed up for you and the difference it made in
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  Speaker 2: your life beyond the obvious. I understand you're just selling
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  Speaker 2: coffee at the front register to Starbucks, but you're actually
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  Speaker 2: changing my life. Let me explain that's what I do,
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  Speaker 2: and then I explain that that they aren't just selling coffee.
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  Speaker 2: You're giving me twenty minutes of my life. And with
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  Speaker 2: that twenty minutes of my life that I'm going to
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  Speaker 2: get coming here, I'm going to get a hot breakfast,
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  Speaker 2: a hot cup of coffee. And that all happened because
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  Speaker 2: you rolled out of bed at four point thirty in
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  Speaker 2: the morning. That was a sacrifice that you made so
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  Speaker 2: that I could come here and purchase this cup of coffee.
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  Speaker 2: So you didn't have to get out of bed. You
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  Speaker 2: chose to come out, to get out of bed and
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  Speaker 2: come to a place where people aren't always nice. They're
• 1:14:53
  Speaker 2: not always nice to you at the front desk. So
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  Speaker 2: I want to acknowledge you today for the hard the
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  Speaker 2: hard work, And that's what it's about, you know what
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  Speaker 2: I mean. Just acknowledging people for what they do. Like
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  Speaker 2: acknowledging you, because I know how hard it is to
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  Speaker 2: do a podcast. I did two hundred and seventy five
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  Speaker 2: episodes of Those Bad Boys, and I know how much
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  Speaker 2: time it takes to edit, put together, create the script,
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  Speaker 2: all that stuff, and everybody gets to listen for free,
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  Speaker 2: for free. And when you start a podcast, you're making nothing,
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  Speaker 2: but you stick with it and eventually you find an
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  Speaker 2: audience and you find a niche and then people start
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  Speaker 2: following you, and then you monetize and then you grow
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  Speaker 2: your business. So girl, hots off to you.
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  Speaker 3: I'm impressed you.
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  Speaker 2: I'm impressed. I look forward to the conversation. So shoot
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  Speaker 2: me an email, let me know I will hop on
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  Speaker 2: your calendar and we're gonna have a lovely time.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you so much. I appreciate it. And you have
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  Speaker 3: a very very beautiful, beautiful day.
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  Speaker 2: I sure will, and thank you for making mine beautiful
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  Speaker 2: as well.
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  Speaker 3: Like Wise, thank you.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, we'll be in touch. I look forward to it.
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  Speaker 3: You too, Take care time.
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  Speaker 2: Bye bye,