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Push Yourself Every Day: The Power of Consistent Action · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: Self talk and visualization. Are there two keys to my success?
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  Speaker 1: I believed for that last time nineteen miles I was
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  Speaker 1: indestructible because I took myself in that chair, crapping up
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  Speaker 1: my back, peating blood on my leg, shin splint stress fractures.
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  Speaker 2: I use all that for motivation versus negativity.
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  Speaker 1: I use it for motivation. I said to myself, who
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  Speaker 1: on this fucking earth would still be going right now?
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  Speaker 1: You are? You? Are?
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  Speaker 2: You gotta be the hardest mother girl on the planet.
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  Speaker 2: Is it true? I don't give up. At that time,
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  Speaker 2: it got me to the finish line of that fucking race.
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  Speaker 2: I believed it. I believe it today.
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  Speaker 1: I believed it enough to where my body said he's
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  Speaker 1: not gonna stop.
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  Speaker 2: And that's I took all the negative things. I need
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  Speaker 2: to go to the hospital, this and that, and I
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  Speaker 2: use this all Who the hell could you even get on
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  Speaker 2: that chair?
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  Speaker 1: You did? Who the hell would even think about taping
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  Speaker 1: stretch fractures up?
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  Speaker 2: You didn't?
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  Speaker 1: All those things I use for motivation when you really
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  Speaker 1: sit back at your life and you are in that
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  Speaker 1: dark room and you're looking at where you started from,
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  Speaker 1: and you tell yourself, God, damn man, my mom is
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  Speaker 1: this way?
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  Speaker 2: I assume as stepdad got murdered, my dad beat me.
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  Speaker 1: I can't read and write to say, my soul, I
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  Speaker 1: ride about it to everybody.
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  Speaker 2: I've cheated on all these tests.
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  Speaker 1: My god, man, and then you put a goal in
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  Speaker 1: your mind. How you gonna feel, man, when you accomplish
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  Speaker 1: this goal coming from that, come in from the fucking
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  Speaker 1: hell you came from.
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  Speaker 2: A lot of people. Start from a good starting point,
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  Speaker 2: have a good foundation. What if you can surpass all
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  Speaker 2: these money flers?
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  Speaker 1: If everybody who was way up here started up here
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  Speaker 1: and you started with no legs, you had to go
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  Speaker 1: legs to even.
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  Speaker 2: Start walking, and then crawling and then running, and then.
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  Speaker 1: You start passing people with all this given to them.
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  Speaker 1: I had to use all this negative ship that was
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  Speaker 1: making me weak.
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  Speaker 2: And horrible as a person. I had to use this
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  Speaker 2: as the power that now few of me.
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  Speaker 1: Had to flip it on his head and say, hold up,
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  Speaker 1: this might be exactly what I need.
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  Speaker 2: The darkness is exactly what I need.
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  Speaker 1: It's how you look at your situation, and I was
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  Speaker 1: looking at.
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  Speaker 2: It all fucked up. These are the facts, and they
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  Speaker 2: are undisputed.
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  Speaker 1: Your problems and your past aren't on anybody else's agenda.
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  Speaker 2: Not really.
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  Speaker 1: You may have a few people in your inner circle
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  Speaker 1: who care about what you're going through, but for the
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  Speaker 1: most part, no one gives a shit because they're dealing
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  Speaker 1: with their own issues and focused on their own lives.
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  Speaker 2: I learned that the.
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  Speaker 1: Hard way on our drive from Buffalo to one hundred
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  Speaker 1: and seventeen South MacGuire in Brazil, Indiana when I was
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  Speaker 1: eight years old. I assumed I was going to walk
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  Speaker 1: into the biggest pity party of all time. I expected balloons, cake,
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  Speaker 1: ice cream, and big, warm hugs. Instead, it was as
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  Speaker 1: if all the pain and terror never happened. Sergeant Jack
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  Speaker 1: didn't deal in pity.
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  Speaker 2: He was out to harden my shell, and that's exactly
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  Speaker 2: what he did.
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  Speaker 1: Pity is a soothing bomb that turns toxic at first
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  Speaker 1: when your family and friends commiserate with you and validate
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  Speaker 1: the reasons you have for grumbling about your circumstances.
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  Speaker 2: It lands like sympathy.
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  Speaker 1: But the more comfort pity brings you, the more external
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  Speaker 1: validation you'll crave and the less independent you will become,
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  Speaker 1: which will make it that much more difficult for you
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  Speaker 1: to gain any traction in life.
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  Speaker 2: That's the vicious cycle of pity.
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  Speaker 1: It SAPs self esteem and inner strength, which makes it
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  Speaker 1: harder to succeed, and with each subsequent failure, you will
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  Speaker 1: be more tempted to pity yourself. Look, I get it.
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  Speaker 1: Life isn't fair or easy. A lot of us are
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  Speaker 1: doing a job that we don't want to do. We
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  Speaker 1: feel we are above the tasks coming our way, and
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  Speaker 1: that the world, or God or the fates have sentenced
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  Speaker 1: us to.
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  Speaker 2: Live in a box we do not belong in.
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  Speaker 1: When I was a night shift security guard at a
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  Speaker 1: local hospital, I felt that work was beneath me, so
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  Speaker 1: I showed up every night with a voice in my
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  Speaker 1: head screaming I don't want to be here, and that
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  Speaker 1: infected everything about my life. I ate my feelings, blew
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  Speaker 1: up and slipped into a deep depression. I wanted a
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  Speaker 1: different life, but my shitty attitude made it impossible to
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  Speaker 1: create one. Every minute you spend feelings sorry for yourself
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  Speaker 1: is another minute not getting better. Another morning you miss
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  Speaker 1: at the gym, Another evening wasted without studying, Another day
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  Speaker 1: burned when you didn't make any progress towards your dream,
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  Speaker 1: ambitions and deepest desires, the.
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  Speaker 2: Ones you've had in your head, and heart your entire life.
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  Speaker 1: Every minute you spend feeling sorry for yourself is another
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  Speaker 1: minute spent in the dungeon thinking about what you lost
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  Speaker 1: or the opportunities that have been snatched away or squandered,
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  Speaker 1: which inevitably leads.
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  Speaker 2: To the great depression. When you are depressed, you are.
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  Speaker 1: Likely believe that nobody understands you or your plight. I
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  Speaker 1: used to think that way, but when Sergeant Jack banged
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  Speaker 1: that trash can lit inches from my ear in the morning,
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  Speaker 1: he was telling me I wasn't the only little boy
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  Speaker 1: who got whipped or suffered from toxic stress. Sometimes the
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  Speaker 1: emotions we feel are a product of a past. Sometimes
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  Speaker 1: we just don't want to get up at five am
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  Speaker 1: and do hours of chores before school because it sucks.
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  Speaker 1: Sergeant Jack expected me to perform, no matter what I've
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  Speaker 1: been through or what time it was.
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  Speaker 2: In response, my feelings got hurt.
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  Speaker 1: I stalled getting out of bed until the last possible
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  Speaker 1: moment and half passed my way through my mourning is
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  Speaker 1: as part of a mindless MOPI rebellion. He didn't give
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  Speaker 1: a rats ass that grass still needed to be cut,
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  Speaker 1: the leaves needed to be raked, and the weeds needed
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  Speaker 1: to be pulled. No matter how much I belly ached.
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  Speaker 1: This work needed to get done, and it would get
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  Speaker 1: done by me. My feelings were costing me a ton
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  Speaker 1: of time because no matter how I felt, there was
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  Speaker 1: a task in front of me. And that's all that
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  Speaker 1: mattered in the present moment. The only thing that ever
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  Speaker 1: matters is the present moment. Yet too many people let
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  Speaker 1: their depression or regret hijack their day. They let their
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  Speaker 1: feelings about the past hijacked their lives. Perhaps their fiance
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  Speaker 1: left them at the altar, or they got fired without cause.
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  Speaker 1: Guess what one day they were paying back and realize
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  Speaker 1: that nobody cared about any of that.
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  Speaker 2: But then I don't care what you've been through.
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  Speaker 1: I can feel bad for you, I can have sympathy
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  Speaker 1: for you, but my sympathy won't get you anywhere. When
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  Speaker 1: I was a young, damaged kid, feeling sorry for myself
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  Speaker 1: didn't help me. What help was cleaning those white walls
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  Speaker 1: right the first time. We cannot get time back, so
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  Speaker 1: we must be minute hoarders. The earlier I get up,
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  Speaker 1: the more I do, The less time I stay in
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  Speaker 1: pity party, feel sorry for my self, land the stronger
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  Speaker 1: I become and the more daylight I see between me
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  Speaker 1: and everyone else. When you separate yourself from the pack
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  Speaker 1: by cultivating the values and priorities that lead to greatness,
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  Speaker 1: mountains of adversity and hardship becomes speed bumps, and that
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  Speaker 1: makes it easier to adapt to the road ahead and
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  Speaker 1: build a new life or sense of self you crave.
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  Speaker 1: When I went to live with Sergeant Jack, I was
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  Speaker 1: forced to adapt extremely fast. Everyone was hard on me
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  Speaker 1: my whole life, but I came out of all that
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  Speaker 1: with lessons learned stuck with me. Those who learn to adapt,
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  Speaker 1: survive and thrive. Don't feel sorry for yourself, get strategic
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  Speaker 1: attack the problem. When you adapt, you will begin to
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  Speaker 1: see everything that comes your way as a stepping stone
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  Speaker 1: on your progression toward a higher plane. High paying esteem
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  Speaker 1: jobs are generally not entry level.
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  Speaker 2: You have to start somewhere, but most people see.
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  Speaker 1: The thankless tasks that must be completed in order to
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  Speaker 1: advance as burdens instead of opportunities.
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  Speaker 2: That makes it impossible for them to learn.
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  Speaker 1: You've got to find a lesson in every shitty task
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  Speaker 1: or low wage job that requires humility. I wasn't humble
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  Speaker 1: enough to appreciate my experience and security. So my attitude
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  Speaker 1: was foul as I thought I deserve much better, oblivious
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  Speaker 1: to the fact that almost everybody starts at the bottom
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  Speaker 1: and from there its attitude action that determine the future.
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  Speaker 1: Humility is the antidote to self pity. It keeps you
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  Speaker 1: rooted in reality and your emotions in check. I'm not
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  Speaker 1: suggesting you should be satisfied with an entry level job.
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  Speaker 1: I'm never satisfied, but you must appreciate what you have
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  Speaker 1: while staying hungry enough to learn everything you can.
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  Speaker 2: You need to learn to.
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  Speaker 1: Wash the dishes, flip the burgers, sweat over the deep fire,
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  Speaker 1: sweep up the job site, work in the mailroom, and
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  Speaker 1: answer the phones. That's how you build proficiency. It's important
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  Speaker 1: to learn every aspect of any business before you move up.
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  Speaker 1: You can't rise if you're weighed down by bitterness and entitlement.
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  Speaker 1: Humility hardens your spine and encourages you to stand tall,
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  Speaker 1: secure in yourself no matter what anyone else thinks, and
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  Speaker 1: that has tremendous value. I once heard a story about
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  Speaker 1: a master sergeant in the Army name William Crawford that
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  Speaker 1: exemplifies the power of humility. He retired in nineteen sixty
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  Speaker 1: seven and took a job as a janitor at the
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  Speaker 1: Air Force Academy in Colorado Springs. The cadets he cleaned
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  Speaker 1: up after paid him little mind, in part because he
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  Speaker 1: was reportedly painfully shy, but also because these cadets were
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  Speaker 1: elite students on an officer track, and Master Sergeant Crawford
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  Speaker 1: was just a janitor, or so they thought.
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  Speaker 2: They had no clue that he was also a war hero.
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  Speaker 1: In September nineteen forty three, the thirty six Infantry Division
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  Speaker 1: was getting blitzed by German machine gun fire and mortars
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  Speaker 1: during a pivotal World War II battle for a piece
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  Speaker 1: of Italian real estate known as Hill four hundred and
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  Speaker 1: twenty four. The Americans were pinned down with no escape
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  Speaker 1: route until Crawford spied three machine gun nests and crawled
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  Speaker 1: beneath rivers of bullets to toss the grenade into each
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  Speaker 1: of them. His bravery saved lives and allowed his company
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  Speaker 1: to advance to safeground, and after the third direct hit,
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  Speaker 1: the Germans abandoned Hill four hundred and twenty four, but
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  Speaker 1: not before they took Crawford prisoner.
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  Speaker 2: Presumed to be killed in action.
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  Speaker 1: Tales of his heroism spread among infantrymen and traveled up
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  Speaker 1: the chain of command.
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  Speaker 2: In nineteen forty four, he was.
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  Speaker 1: Awarded the Medal of Honor, the highest decoration in the
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  Speaker 1: US military. Because everyone thought he was dead. His father
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  Speaker 1: accepted the medal on his behalf. Later that same year,
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  Speaker 1: he was found in a liberated pow camp, oblivious to
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  Speaker 1: the hype surrounding his name. In nineteen seventy six, an
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  Speaker 1: academy cadet and his roommate read about that battle and
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  Speaker 1: connected the dots. Their humble janitor had won the Medal
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  Speaker 1: of Honor. Can you imagine what went through their heads?
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  Speaker 1: The Medal of Honor speaks to everything a military person revers,
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  Speaker 1: not the medal.
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  Speaker 2: Itself, but the courage and selflessness inside the human being
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  Speaker 2: who earned that medal.
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  Speaker 1: Those students wanted to be him, and there he was,
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  Speaker 1: mopping their floors and cleaning their bathrooms every day.
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  Speaker 2: Master Sergeant Crawford.
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  Speaker 1: Was a walking lesson of self esteem, courage, character, and
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  Speaker 1: especially humility. The way I see it, Master Sergeant William
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  Speaker 1: Crawford had figured it the gut.
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  Speaker 2: The Medal of Honor didn't change him.
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  Speaker 1: He rose to prominence by staying humble and risking his
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  Speaker 1: own life to save others and retired into the service
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  Speaker 1: of others. It was never about him, and that gave
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  Speaker 1: him strength. People who feel sorry for themselves are obsessed
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  Speaker 1: with their own problems and their own fate. Is that
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  Speaker 1: really much different than the greedy and egotistical people who
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  Speaker 1: want to feel better than everybody else. The higher I
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  Speaker 1: climb in my life, the more I realize how much
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  Speaker 1: I need to mop that floor, because that's where all
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  Speaker 1: the knowledge is. There is no grit at the top,
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  Speaker 1: no tests to resolve in state dinners, five star hotels,
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  Speaker 1: or spa treatment.
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  Speaker 2: Once you make it in this world, you have to free.
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  Speaker 1: Fall back to the bottom in some way to keep
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  Speaker 1: learning and growing. I call this trained humility. It's a
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  Speaker 1: shedding of your skin that allows you to take on
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  Speaker 1: a mission that no one else can see and do
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  Speaker 1: whatever needs to be done next train. Humility is service
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  Speaker 1: but also strength, because when you are humble enough to
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  Speaker 1: remember that you'll never.
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  Speaker 2: Know it all.
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  Speaker 1: Each lesson you learn only makes you hungrier to learn more,
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  Speaker 1: and that will put you on a path that guarantees.
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  Speaker 2: You will grow all the way to the grave.
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  Speaker 1: Continued growth only comes when you are willing to be humble,