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5 Min Pocket pep talk: Listen to This When Growth Feels Lonely (Not Everyone Comes With You) · The Nadia Chapman Show

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  Hey there, welcome to the Nadia Chapman show, the five-minute pocket pep talk,
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  a little quick pocket pep talk to put in your back pocket.
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  Maybe you need to hear this. There is a fear of our growing people.
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  Yes, I'm telling you, it is a real fear.
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  I want to talk about something that doesn't get say loud enough very often that
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  sometimes growth feels lonely.
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  Not because that you're doing something wrong, obviously not,
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  but because you are evolving.
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  And when you decide in your life to finally level up, train harder.
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  Think differently, do things differently, set huge goals and hold higher standards,
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  something subtle start to shift.
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  You change your habits, you start changing the conversations,
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  and maybe it changes the way you even look physically.
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  You change your intolerance for drama, excuses, and small thinking.
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  And then sometimes not everyone grows with you.
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  And that's the part that people don't prepare for.
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  You know, we talk about the hard work, we talk about discipline,
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  we talk about resilience, you know, we talk about that so much.
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  But we don't talk about the emotional discomfort of outgrowing your environment,
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  outgrowing friendships, or even old versions of yourself.
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  And here's what happens when you grow You hold a mirror up to others,
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  up to people around you, unintentionally, of course, but your discipline highlights
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  someone else's inconsistency.
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  Your ambition highlights someone else's comfort zone, right?
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  And your focus highlights someone else's distraction.
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  So not everyone will celebrate that with you. You know, some people will support
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  you, of course, but some will distance themselves.
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  Some will quietly try to pull you back to that version of you that kind of felt safer to them.
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  That doesn't make them bad. That makes them human.
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  But this episode is to remind you that growth disrupts dynamics,
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  especially if you were once, you know, the easy one or the one that didn't push
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  too hard or the one that stayed relatable, you know, by, you know, playing small.
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  Leveling up can feel like a betrayal for some people around you,
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  even when it's just an evolution of who you are.
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  If you never outgrow anything, you're not growing. And I want you to read that
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  again. Maybe that's the writer downer for today.
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  If you never outgrow anything, you're not growing.
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  So if your standards never change in your life, and if your circle never sort
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  of shifts, if your comfort zone never stretches, you're not expending.
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  You're maintaining. You're maintaining where you are. And maintenance doesn't
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  build extraordinary lives.
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  And I know that you've got big goals and you want amazing things to happen in
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  your life. You are allowed to evolve.
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  You are allowed to change your habits. You are allowed to get the new job.
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  You are allowed to lose the weight. You are allowed. You're allowed to want
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  more in life. You're allowed to start the business.
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  Even if you know that some people around you will judge you.
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  You are allowed to outgrow versions of your life that no longer match the future that you want.
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  And the key is this. Don't grow with resentment.
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  Grow with grace. You don't need to announce your evolution on social media and
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  to everybody around you. You don't need to prove anything.
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  You don't need to prove this. You don't even need to drag anybody in there with you. Just quietly.
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  All right? Just quietly keep becoming. And I'm telling you, the right people
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  will not feel threatened by the new version of you.
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  They will actually feel inspired. And the ones that stop talking to you or fall
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  away, well, they were part of a season.
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  They were just part of a chunk of your life. They were not part of the destination.
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  So if leveling up feels kind of lonely right now in your life,
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  take it as a sign that you are stretching so much.
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  And this comfort means expansion.
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  And expansion is where the next level lives. I promise.
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  I'm Nadia Chapman, Mindset and Life Coach. And this is your reminder,
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  growth will change your circle.
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  Don't shrink to keep everybody comfortable. All right. I'll see you next time.