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Understanding what Risk is (S5) S22:E4 Tues · Inspirations for Your Life

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Well, hello, everyone, and welcome to Inspirations of
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Your Life.
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It's so great to be with you here
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on, yeah, on Tuesday, May 26.
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Again, it is so very great to be
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here with you.
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And this is a milestone for me tonight.
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Tonight was the very first time that I
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got to share my story about my book,
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which you guys know about, Drained to Driven.
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It was my first author talk and signing.
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And yeah, it is so great to have
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told my story the first time, and it's
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going to be the first that I told
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it.
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And I'm going to tell it many other
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times.
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But it was really great giving the talk
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to talk with different people that were hearing
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and gentlemen, we know when we do this,
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life changes.
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And tonight, when I had this opportunity to
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share this with people, it was really an
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experience, guys.
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I mean a real experience.
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To be able to get up there and
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to share it was just such a privilege,
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a real, real privilege.
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And I have to tell you that you
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can think about becoming an author, you can
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talk about doing author work, but until you've
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actually done it, until you've actually gone on
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stage and actually told your story, and I've
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been on stage many times before, to be
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honest, but this is the first time I've
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gotten on stage with something personal like this.
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This was personal.
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And I think that's an important thing to
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realize, that it was personal.
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And I got to tell my story, and
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I got to tell you, the time flew,
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but it was so amazing to be able
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to connect with the audience and to just
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be genuine with them.
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I mean, it was a real special time.
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And I think a lot of people really
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appreciated it, a lot of people did buy
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my book.
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So again, I'm very grateful for that.
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And I have to tell you that it
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was amazing, absolutely, absolutely amazing.
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And so, yeah, oh, if you guys are
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thirsty, if you're hungry, feel free to go
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get yourself something.
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I have delicious RO water here, and I
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also have a cup of hot decaf tea.
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Really good.
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All right, guys.
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So without any further ado, let's kick this
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show off.
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Are you ready?
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I know I am.
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All right.
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So yeah, we are in our series five,
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can you believe that?
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Series five, understanding about risk, understanding what risk
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is.
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And this is show 22, and this is
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episode number four.
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Yeah.
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All right, guys.
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So there's a moment in every life where
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comfort stops feeling safe and it starts feeling
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heavy, almost like you can't handle it, where
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you realize the thing you're afraid of isn't
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failure, it's staying the same.
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Hey, guys, I'm John C.
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Morley.
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I'm a serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video
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producer, podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student,
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and a passionate lifelong learner.
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And now I'm so grateful to be a
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published author who has just given his first
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author talk and science talk, okay?
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You can't have deep relationships, real trust, or
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meaningful change without stepping into uncertainty.
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And that's exactly what I'm breaking down here
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today.
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Number one, connection requires risk.
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Surprise, surprise, surprise, surprise.
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Yes, it requires risk.
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And because it requires risk, some people might
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say, you know what?
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I don't want to bother.
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I don't want to get involved.
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That's the wrong attitude, guys, the wrong attitude.
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I think it's important to know what we're
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talking about.
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I think it's important to understand that you're
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going to be uncomfortable sometimes.
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That's going to happen.
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So we have to practice getting comfortable being
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uncomfortable.
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Yeah, we have to practice getting comfortable being
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uncomfortable.
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And I'll tell you, guys, this is a
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pretty amazing thing.
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Because when you do this, you start to
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understand where life is going, all right?
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Number two, honest people take social risk.
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They do.
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If you live your whole life and you
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have never taken a risk, well, you haven't
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lived.
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I'm not saying to be foolish, but I'm
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saying you have to take some calculated risks.
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That's the bottom line, all right?
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That is the bottom line.
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Number three, being seen is a risk worth
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taking.
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So just to be seen, to be heard,
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it's a risk.
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But if you don't take the risk, guys,
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how are you ever going to know?
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How are you ever going to possibly reach
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that opportunity?
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You're not.
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Being seen is a risk.
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Being heard is a risk.
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Get used to it.
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Get comfortable being uncomfortable.
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Number four, real close to starts with vulnerability.
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I don't care whether we're talking about building
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a personal friendship, a romantic relationship, or even
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a business relationship starting, it's important to understand
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what's going on, okay?
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It's important to understand that because when you
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understand that, your life will change every single
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day.
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Real close to starts with vulnerability.
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But most people don't want to be vulnerable.
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They're so afraid of being vulnerable, you know?
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They feel like the world's going to end
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if they're vulnerable.
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But it's not, ladies and gentlemen.
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It's actually going to get better.
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But sometimes it gets scary, all right?
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Sometimes it gets scary, and that's something we
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have to understand.
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So you have to practice being comfortable being
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uncomfortable.
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Number five, risk is the price of belonging.
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I'm doing that right now.
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I'm building a group.
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When I reach out to these people, I'm
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taking the risk.
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I'm talking about, are they going to accept
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what I'm talking about?
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Or take the way you have to do
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it.
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I'm going to say take the way.
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In a way, it's not going to harm
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or hurt people.
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In a way, it's not going to make
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them feel good.
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In a way, it's going to be casual,
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low pressure, okay?
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Low pressure.
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There's no low pressure in the case of
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success.
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People grow when they step forward.
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People grow when they step forward.
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But a lot of people are afraid of
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taking a step.
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They think a step is going to make
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them fall off the earth.
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It's not, guys.
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I got news for you.
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It is not going to make you fall
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off the earth.
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Nope, it's not going to do that at
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all.
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It's not going to make you fall off
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the earth.
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But I can tell you this, guys.
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It's going to make a difference for you.
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It's going to make a difference.
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And that difference, I feel, is going to
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help you be the person you want to
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be.
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And that might sound a little bit crazy.
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But it's important to understand what that really
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means.
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And what that means is you have more
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potential than you even think is possible.
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You have more potential than you even think
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is possible.
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That's pretty wild.
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So it comes from belief, guys.
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All right?
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Number seven, no risk, no depth.
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You don't take a risk, you're not going
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to grow.
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You may not lose anything, but you also
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may not gain anything either.
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And I think that's a very big challenge
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for a lot of people to have to
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undertake.
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No risk, no depth, no change.
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You stay exactly where you are.
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Not higher, not lower, exactly where you are.
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Number eight, courage opens doors.
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It really does.
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When we know that courage opens doors, we
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do it more.
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We do it more.
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I think that's a very important thing to
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understand that it opens doors.
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It really does.
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Number nine, speaking first is a risk.
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People don't do it because they're afraid of
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something that might happen to them.
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Yeah.
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So they figure, I'll just be quiet.
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I just won't say anything.
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And when I don't say anything, then I'll
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be okay.
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I'll be okay.
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But I can tell you a lot of
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people get scared.
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And they get scared because of what's happened
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in the past.
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And that doesn't mean you shouldn't go for
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it, but it really scares people.
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It petrifies them.
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I'm not talking about just scares them.
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It literally stops them dead in their tracks
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that they wouldn't think about doing anything else.
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That's important, guys.
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Showing up is a risk, number 10.
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Every day you show up, there's a potential
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you're going to go somewhere.
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But if you don't show up, you may
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go nowhere.
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Number 11, letting people in is a risk.
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We talked about entry a few days ago.
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Letting people in your life and how much
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you let them in, how close, what boundaries
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do you keep, that's a risk.
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It's a risk.
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Number 12, risk makes relationships real.
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Before I remember, I was texting myself, okay,
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should I delete this?
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And by accident, I actually typed, should I
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delete this, I guess there, and hit Enter,
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and he probably saw that I tried to
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delete it.
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But he got back to me very respectfully
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and said, just an answer to my question,
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but didn't chastise me or anything over the
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text.
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See, a lot of people, they get petty.
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And I think sometimes we worry about the
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stuff that's never going to happen.
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When you have somebody that's grounded and mature,
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it games like a kindergartner or a high
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school kid, okay?
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Risks make relationships real.
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And I think when something's real, we treasure
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it more.
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Number 13, the safe path is often the
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shallow one.
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That's the one that most people don't take,
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it's the path least taken.
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Important, guys, yeah, it's
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very important, very important.
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And I can tell you guys that if
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you understand this, then maybe you'll be like,
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wait a minute, now I get it.
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And when you start to have a little
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bit of understanding, you realize why the safe
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path is often the shallow one, but the
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safest isn't the one that's going to bring
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you success, guys.
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It's going to give you the most comfort,
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but it's not going to give you the
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potential to grow.
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Number 14, courage changes the room.
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When you have courage, everyone around you knows.
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It's not a loud speaker or a megaphone
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where it's like, hey, I got courage.
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No, having courage comes off loud, but it's
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soft.
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In other words, it's not screened at someone,
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but it's felt.
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People can tell when you have courage.
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Courage is in a leader.
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Certain qualities will get people to realize, hey,
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wait a minute.
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I see him or her differently now.
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I didn't know that he spoke.
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I didn't know that he could do that.
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Courage changes the room.
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Courage.
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Number 18 is small risks build bigger confidence.
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When we're trusted to do something small and
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we do it right, we will get more
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responsibility next time because we've demonstrated that we
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can be trusted.
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A lot of you only know want to
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start way at the tippy top, but they
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haven't even started at the bottom.
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How can we even start them in the
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middle?
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They haven't even done the first step yet.
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Number 19, being open is a choice.
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Lying is a choice too.
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Being honest is a choice.
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Being accountable is a choice.
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Being reliable is a choice.
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Being somebody who goes to bed at night
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and knows he or she did the right
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thing is a choice.
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The choice they've made not then.
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The choice they made when they did something.
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When they go to bed, they're regretting.
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That's not the choice.
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The choice is them making the action before.
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Number 20, guys, risk is how new bonds
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form.
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Risk is how new bonds form.
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New bonds form.
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And when that happens, life gets challenging.
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Some people want to just jump ship because
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they can't handle a little bit more, shall
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we say, responsibility.
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Or the fact that now you've got to
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be truthful.
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Truth shouldn't be something you have to do.
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It should be something you want to do.
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Number 21, guys, the fear is usually louder
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than reality.
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People worry so much about things.
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More than half of them don't even ever
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happen.
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But when you put energy on something and
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you focus on it, you direct toward it
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and it will happen.
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Number 22, guys, risk can be respectful and
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grounded.
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I agree to disagree with you.
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Number 23, growth lives past hesitation.
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Somebody who's hesitating about what step to take,
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when you have growth, you just move through.
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You know that you know that you know,
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and you just do it.
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That's a key insight, guys.
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Number 24, people respect truthful courage.
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Not everyone has truthful courage.
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Not everyone has it.
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But those that do walk softly and they
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carry a very big stick.
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Important, guys.
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If you could make a change right now
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in your life and figure out how to
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muster courage to do something, the next time
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you do something, it'll be easier.
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But now you'll have the courage to do
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something even harder.
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Number 25, guys, one brave move changes the
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dynamic.
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One brave move changes the dynamic.
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So bravery and courage go together.
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But your desire to take a step with
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intention is a choice.
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That's a choice.
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Number 26, taking a chance can unlock community.
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It can unlock commodity.
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Number 27, the moment before the risk is
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the one that matters.
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That split second before you take the risk,
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that's when it all culminates.
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That's when your brain's like, ah, I get
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it now.
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Number 28, risk is part of being real.
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If you tell me you don't take risks,
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you're not real.
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You're living a superficial life.
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Everyone tells me you don't risk, you're not
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being real.
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You're not being honest.
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And risk is part of being real.
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Number 29, guys, connection rewards courage.
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When you connect with somebody, your courage is
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rewarded and you wanna do more of that.
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Number 30, guys, belonging asks for bravery.
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You can't hide it.
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It's never gonna show up unless you truly
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are brave.
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And I want you to reflect on something.
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If you ever wanted deeper friendships, stronger trust,
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or a life that feels real.
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If you tell me you don't, you're lying
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to yourself.
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You're lying to yourself.
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I mean, that's just the truth.
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This, ladies and gentlemen, is your reminder.
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The fear is usually louder than the actual
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reality.
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And the right risk can change everything like
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that.
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Everything.
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Ladies and gentlemen, this is John C.
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Morley.
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And this has been Inspirations for Your Life.
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Thank you so much for stepping forward with
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me.
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Because life is about choices.
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And the choices we make allow us to
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celebrate later or regret the things we've done.
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Taking a risk can sometimes be a hard
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thing, but it also can be very rewarding.
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Have a great one, everyone, and be well.