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Dusting For Dummy · Nick and Kristen in the Podcast

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  Hello, and welcome to Nick and Kristen in the podcast.
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  I'm Nick. That's Kristen.
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  It's a podcast and we have a daughter that's seven and we're
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  married. So there's your brief summary of
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  what you've stumbled upon in the weird world of podcasting.
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  And we're going to talk more about being married and having a
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  kid and, and the things that go along with that.
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  So we're going to kick it off with a new segment that I'm
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  going to call Married People's Problems.
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  So just fun quick questions that we get to ask our significant
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  other just to see how they react because we're getting to know
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  each other even though we've been married for now for 10
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  years. Yeah.
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  I think we know plenty about each.
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  Other we do, but there's questions like some of these
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  questions we've never asked each other, so I'm curious.
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  They're not going to be deep, not not at first.
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  We're going to have fun. With them, OK, sure, because.
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  Like, no one wants to go diving. Yeah.
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  So the first one is what is a household chore that you
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  secretly think you do the right way and I do wrong?
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  Well, all of them. All of them?
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  Yeah, all of the chores. You think I.
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  Do all of the chores right and you do them wrong and I can back
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  it up. OK, so you cleaned the house
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  today? I did.
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  OK. Great.
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  Very appreciative that. I feel like it.
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  That's not going to be what you're saying next.
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  So how was dusting? It was fine.
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  Oh yeah. Yeah.
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  Did you dust the upper cabinets in the living room?
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  No. OK so when I clean I dust all.
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  Parts of the house, everything when you clean every week.
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  Well, no, I haven't done that in a while.
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  But when I do clean, I take everything off the shelves and I
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  wipe it all down so it's nice and clean and then I put and I
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  dust the things and then I put them back up.
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  That's. What I call a deep clean.
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  I'm not deep cleaning every two. Weeks that's what actual
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  cleanliness looks like it doesn't I mean what did you dust
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  today I. Didn't dust anything.
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  Yeah, exactly. So you don't do it.
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  Right. I don't dust.
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  So you can say that the chore that I don't do to your standard
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  is dusting, but me cleaning it doesn't.
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  It's not all negated because it didn't.
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  Dust example #2 the shower that you clean.
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  Yeah, OK. It has had hair dye on it on
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  the, the, the the shower door. Since I dyed my hair over a
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  month ago, it has not been cleaned.
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  Every time I look I see that brown hair dye on it and I go,
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  huh, He's not cleaning the doors.
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  Go check out the door. Did you I?
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  Cleaned the door today, Yes, because I just noticed that
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  there's some ugly brown stuff on that door.
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  Yeah, 'cause it's a. Bad door.
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  It's my hair dye. It's been there since I dyed my
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  hair last, which could have. Been a month ago, could have
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  been a month ago. It's been there a month and
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  every time you've cleaned, I've looked and I've still seen it
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  there and I've gone. Huh.
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  Is he just not cleaning the shower?
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  But I'm. Grateful for you to do anything
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  so I'm not complaining. So the doors are the last thing
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  I cleaned. So I don't clean the doors
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  because I'm like, they're that, that like frosted glass.
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  And so you like can't really tell.
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  You can't really tell them you're dirty, but.
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  Like how? Many more.
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  Occasionally do you want? Occasionally I do clean the
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  doors, but I mostly clean the inside.
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  And this recent time I was like, hey, that door is gross, let me
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  try and clean it. And I bought a special like
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  cleaner because I didn't have anything to like scrub it with
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  because I've cleaned the door before and it didn't come off.
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  So I was like, oh, no, door screwed.
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  So I went and bought a scrubber and that today I used that
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  scrubber for the first time. It came right off.
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  Yeah, it was great. So what else do you got?
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  What else do you want to complain about?
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  What else don't? I do, I'm just saying like you
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  asked me what do I not clean to my specifications?
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  I've given you 2 very. Concrete ideas.
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  So now it's your turn. It is my turn.
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  That's right. You know what you don't clean
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  well? Dishes.
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  What? Do you mean?
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  Every time you clean the dishes, like the pots and the pans,
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  there's always some gunk left in the pan that I have to scrub
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  out. Like today you made or you clean
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  the one that we made her cheesy pasta in and like I pull it up
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  and there's a full cheese ball right in the middle.
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  So you scrub the edges. No, I don't.
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  And you leave the middle to be unscrubbed.
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  And so it's not the first time. And pretty much every time you
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  like hand wash dishes, there's something there.
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  So you don't do the dishes to my standard.
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  Well, I'm the person that would put my pots and pans in the
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  dishwasher. The fact that I'm washing them
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  by hand at all is because of you.
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  I'm trying to accommodate your request well and I will try and
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  I will try. Expensive pots and pans so
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  you're accommodating your. Wallet I will try to.
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  I thought I was doing a good job.
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  If I'm not doing a good job, this is how I know and learn.
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  I yes, but it doesn't bother me enough that I would bring it up
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  to. You exactly.
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  I'm not bringing up the other things.
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  Well, just because that's the only thing I have in life and
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  you're going to take that away from me.
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  But yeah, if you want me to dust, I I've never been a fan of
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  dusting, but I know that it needs.
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  To be done now I. Just I don't, we don't have
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  like, I'm not saying it doesn't need to be done, I just don't.
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  Like I'm not a fan. Of.
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  Dusting, like I understand nobody's a fan of anything, like
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  nobody's a fan of vacuuming unless you're a weirdo.
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  OK, like but if you if you notice that the carpets need to
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  be clean like you have to dust because that's also getting on
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  top of the cabinets and all that stuff like.
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  Well, in our house, dusting is such a, it's such a pain in the
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  ass because we have, well, you have 1000 books and I have 1000.
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  Like if I needed to dust my nerd room, like that's a once a year
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  thing because, well. You also don't spend any time.
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  In there, dusted, like it's like a rearrangement.
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  It's just a whole thing. They don't have a cluttered
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  room. I don't, I just have a shelf and
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  like I'm assuming you want us to dust the blinds.
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  I don't know if our blinds are dusty.
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  They're incredibly dusty. Are they?
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  Well, I'm sure they're dusty, but they're not like the foldy
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  blinds. Those get dusty.
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  All dines all all blinds get. Dusty.
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  Yeah. So everything's kind of dusty
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  but you. Know and that's like that's 90%
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  of cleaning well then. It's not oh, that's like the
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  it's. 51% because the dust. Disagree.
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  The dirt. But everything else is clean.
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  I wipe down the counters, I vacuum, I sweep.
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  All the things that we touch are clean and that's the important.
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  I think that's. 90. Percent is dusting.
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  But you understand that even if you can't see it, it still needs
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  to be cleaned, because then you can't call it.
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  Clean once he's. Sneezy everywhere.
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  Oh gosh, my allergies. It's like, oh, I'm allergic to
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  the house. It's no, because you're not
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  dusting. Go.
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  Ahead and ask your significant other this same question and see
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  how they respond. See what fight it brings you.
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  Yeah, this is your own therapy at home that you it's like a a
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  fun play at home game now. Yeah.
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  So this is the thing that I popped up on Reddit that I
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  thought would be a fun conversation for us.
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  Well, what do you think your most uttered phrase is as a
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  parent? So some of the answers that we
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  had was please keep your hands to yourself.
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  Who's turning to take a bath first?
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  Bring your plate to the counter. Please say that.
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  So yeah, we don't ever say that. So what do you think is your
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  most uttered phrase as a parent? Yeah, it's probably can we, can
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  we lower the volume? Did you know that I was going to
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  say that? No, I didn't know, but I I
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  understand. That of the music of the person.
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  It's all the things, everything that you and the child do are at
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  full volume all the time. And there's just no reason for
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  the TV to be that loud. There's no reason for me to have
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  to yell over the music. There's no reason that the the
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  singing in the back of the car has to be so loud.
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  The singing is loud. And I'm always like, can we turn
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  it down like, and I've been treating it like an Amazon Alexa
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  device. I've been going volume 5 like
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  you're at an 8 right now. It's it's a volume.
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  I needed it a volume 5 because I'm trying not to be
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  discouraging like when. She's singing.
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  And stuff like that. Like I want to encourage her
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  creativity because she's making up songs in the back of the car.
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  It's just at like ear piercing level.
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  And I'm already like on edge from having a difficult day or
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  whatever it is. Or it's like we drove to the
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  beach over the weekend. It's a 2 hour drive, both the
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  air and back. Like there's like so much, so
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  much that I can tolerate in a small vehicle.
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  It's like volume 5. You would drive with silence.
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  I do. And so I would, I would drive
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  blasting music and so would Lily.
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  And so but Lily does her own music while I'm blasting music.
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  So it's like a it stacks on you. What's your most uttered phrase
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  from her? Let's see, as a parent, can you
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  put your pants on? I think is 1.
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  I say a lot. The amount of times I have to
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  remind her to get dressed in any situation, just any clothes at
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  all. Not that she's like running
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  there the house naked she does after her bath but like it's the
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  girl would live in PJS all day if we could and it's just like
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  it's. I've never realized what a
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  hassle it is to get her to get into like regular clothes.
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  It's so frustrating. Yeah, it's brush your teeth.
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  I say that a lot. Yeah.
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  What is the problem? Can you, can you put your pants
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  on some of the other phrases were we can go straight to bed.
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  If you're going to have an attitude, I don't say.
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  That I've never said. That get your finger out of your
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  nose. Never said that, but I say it.
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  Get your fingers out of your mouth.
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  Yeah, where she's. A nail biter.
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  Where are your socks? I've.
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  Said that plenty of times. Said that twice today.
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  Yeah, we have sticks at home. Oh my gosh, I.
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  Thought that was. That is a hard one because I I'm
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  constantly like, how many more sticks do we need?
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  She's like, but this stick is really great.
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  I'm like granted it's a great stick but.
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  I watched some videos back from when she was a kid and she has
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  been a forager her whole life. It's the weirdest thing.
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  Even as like a tiny baby, she sees something sparkly, she
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  picks it up and she takes it home and we have just areas of
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  just piled rocks. And she comes home like she
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  would come home from school with like, garbage, but it was shiny
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  garbage, yes. And like rappers of things that
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  were, she's a, she's a crow. It's yeah, she sees little
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  things and she's creating like little nests with these.
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  And I, I I throw it all away. When she sleep like she doesn't
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  really remember it all most of the time but she like just picks
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  up I mean. The girl's got eyes like a hawk.
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  I'm all the bird metaphors are coming out today.
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  Eyes like a hawk, scavengerness like a crow.
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  Like she's just constantly like seeing little things.
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  And then she picks it up and puts it in her pocket and I'm
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  like, do we need to take that? And lately I've been having a
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  lot of success with like we leave the parks as we find it.
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  So like the leaves and the, the rocks and the sticks, like if
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  everybody took a stick home, if everybody, everybody took a rock
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  home, there'd be nothing left in the forest.
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  Like we leave the forest as is. If we have a snack, we bring the
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  trash with us. We don't leave it in the forest.
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  We leave the rocks and everything as it is.
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  But even her first grade teacher was like, boy, she really loves
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  nature, doesn't she? And I was like, yeah, why?
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  She's like, she's always coming in from recess with all kinds of
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  sticks. And then she has like these name
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  tags that were on her desk. I don't even know if you know
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  this. Yeah.
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  Like, they have the name tags. If you lifted up her name tag,
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  there's tiny pebbles and little little leaves and stuff
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  underneath it that she was keeping but then she forgets
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  about. Yeah, it's wild.
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  It's the weirdest thing. Like, I don't know if kids do
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  this. I don't see any other kids doing
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  this. No.
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  And so we thought rock hunting was perfect for her because she
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  loves going around picking up rocks.
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  But now she's accumulating just a like a butt load of rocks that
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  aren't agates. Like we're like, agates only,
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  please. Yeah.
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  Which is sports or something like, you know, really, really
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  like not valuable but like interesting, right?
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  But she picks up just. Granite.
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  This one's Yeah, Granite. Like how much yellow Jasper do
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  we need, kid? But like my mom got her a rock
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  and mineral book for for the end of school.
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  And so it's like she likes looking through that and like
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  categorizing it. We need to get a wildflower one.
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  We need to get a plant 1 so she can like learn about these
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  things. Yeah, she's going to do
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  something, something with nature at some point, I think.
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  Or what she said one time she's like, I want to be a geologist.
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  I was like, that checks out. You love looking to the ground
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  and picking up stuff and it's your whole thing.
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  Yeah. And I worry that it's hereditary
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  like you know, cuz I have broken tendencies or I have like a
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  habit of collecting things. Yes.
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  And you're a broken. Man who's trying to be fixed.
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  I thought it was damaged, like, I thought it was like, no, no, I
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  have to hold on to these things. Yeah, because.
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  And I have to treat them nicely or I'll lose them forever.
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  And I don't. It doesn't seem like that's the
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  case. Like it seems that we have just
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  a foraging attitude in the blood where she's just like forage or?
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  Foraging. I think the thing in the blood
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  is ADHD because that's the foragingness.
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  This like the accumulation, the little the little trinkets, the
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  little piles of things. Surrounding by clutter.
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  Yeah, like that's what it really kind of is.
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  That's symptomatic of it. Again, I'm not like diagnosing
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  anybody, but like that it's not that you just have a gene.
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  So wait of forging. I'm not passing down the singing
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  of myself, making up songs, being loud all the time.
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  Like all of this is those classic ADH.
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  That's not genes, I'm just the distracted gene.
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  It's. An ADHD Jane and you've passed
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  it on to our kid. You're unmedicated.
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  And at one point she, if she if this continues and we realize
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  that this is what it is, there will be medication involved.
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  But yeah, but there is a it's funny because there's a forest
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  camp and it's like a summer camp.
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  No, it's, it's not a summer camp.
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  It's an actual school. And they spend 90% of the class
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  outside. I told you about this.
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  And like, they learn what all the flora and fauna is.
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  They walk through the nature stuff.
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  They have all, they do all their homework out there.
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  And then like they go inside and do some like educational.
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  She would die for that. But it's in Portland and I'm not
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  driving every day to Portland. It does feel like Portland.
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  But it's like, I would love like she would flourish in that
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  environment, but it's also like not traditional education and
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  like I kind of want her to have a traditional.
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  Education. Like if you could have a
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  traditional education in nature, would that would be cool.
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  We're just open the windows at your school and that would be
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  cool too. I know she's the typical like I
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  want, can't we have class outside like that's essentially
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  what this is. Barefoot on the grass kind of
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  kid. She would do so, so well, and I
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  wish that I could pull the trigger on something like that.
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  But first of all, it's too far. I'm not driving.
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  I'm not driving to Portland every day.
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  And 2nd, that's like, I'm like, OK, well who's graduating?
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  Like what have they gone on to? Like I.
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  Want to make sure that like, oh all of our graduates go on to
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  four year educations because we do instill a love of learning.
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  All of our graduates are artists.
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  Right. And then there's nothing wrong
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  with that. And she wants to be an artist
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  and that's fabulous. But I want there to be some sort
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  of living within the structure and finding the creativeness
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  within it. Something to fall back.
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  On yes, as as sort of education as our present current situation
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  goes, it was yes. We can't put all our eggs in one
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  basket. She can be an artist and also
• 14:45
  learn how to program. AI and also own a business or.
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  Something like that. Take a business.
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  Class. Something well, this podcast is
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  brought to you by Yeah, that's right, we have a sponsor.
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  I know you've got through this. You went.
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  How the hell is anybody paying? For this, my mom actually asked
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  me. She's like, is the Clark County
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  Trash Panda is actually paying you guys?
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  And I was like, yes. Yes, I've tried to tell them to
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  stop, but they won't. They keep sending me money.
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  So Clark County Trash Pandas, They're coming to Clark County
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  and they're going to be a basketball team with the
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  Basketball League 40, three teams in that league and you can
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  go see them for like less than 20 bucks.
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  You can go and get these tickets to this game.
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  They're going to be in the community supporting everything
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  that they do here in the community.
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  They're popping up. Look for Bandit, the Trash
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  Banda. They're looking for a dance
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  coach and all sorts of things like this.
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  They're putting this team together.
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  March is when they're launching the whole thing 2027 so you got
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  to be a part of this. You got to go look at Clark
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  County Trash pandas.com and just to read the official copy, the
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  Clark County Trash Pandas where community, passion and
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  professional basketball come together.
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  And it's true. The guy behind it really wants
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  to do something in this community and really thinks that
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  it's a shame that there's a other big basketball team here
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  in the. Area Blazers.
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  That don't do anything so. Yeah, they.
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  Don't do anything. You never see the Blazers do
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  anything, and it's such a shame because other cities have these
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  basketball teams where they're like always going to the
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  schools, meeting the kids. The Golden State Warriors are in
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  the community, like everywhere I know so.
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  They actually win. And, well, they don't start
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  throwing shade. I don't need people coming
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  after. Us now look, I'm not from here,
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  OK, I'm not like I love the Blazers no matter what like I
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  didn't grow up with the Blazers, OK All I know is they that you
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  rarely see them and like you see these other teams that have like
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  Steph Curry on it who's like a household name he's on the
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  Wheaties boxes and he's like going down to the schools and
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  meeting the kids. It's like, OK, can we have?
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  Maybe we just don't know about these.
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  They're maybe they're visiting Portland.
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  I don't know. They don't.
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  They need a better publicist then.
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  I don't know. All right, I'm sorry, Trail
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  Blazers. I'm just this is a perception.
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  Problem. But either way, the Clark County
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  Trash bandits are on the perception train.
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  Like we're here to tell people that they're out there and
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  they're taking pictures and stuff, so follow them.
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  On social. Media take a picture, but yes,
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  go follow them and make sure you get your tickets, the tickets.
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  Season tickets go on sale in October.
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