Latest / Walking Manifestator Podcast- Aligning Mindset with Spirituality / 112: Master the Meaning, Change Your Life
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- Alexa Pena: Life is not just happening to us, it's actually constantly shaping us through the situations that we're facing. And the meaning we assign to pain, to failure, rejection, setbacks, relationships, delays, uncertainty. that becomes the emotional reality that we are living in. Two people can experience the exact same event, but the bottom line is that one person is going to become bitter because of that event. Meanwhile, the other person is actually going to become wiser. Think about it. The circumstances were exactly the same. The only difference was the meaning that each person gave to this particular situation. Now what if the thing that's actually ruining our life isn't actually the circumstance itself, but the meaning that we keep assigning to it, right? So a breakup can mean in this energy of lack and scarcity and fear, we can assign meaning to it saying, I'm not lovable, I'm unworthy. Or we can actually believe that God is redirecting us to the person that we're supposed to be with. Or maybe it's time for us to work on ourselves and our self worth and our love. Or maybe we go through a failure, right? And we assign meaning to it and automatically say, well, I'm not good enough. Meanwhile, somebody else could actually say, well, this experience is actually shaping me. This experience is actually making me stronger. And something geared around be a painful experience, right? We assign meaning to it in a negative way, which can be everything is going against me, everything is happening to me, or actually understanding that maybe it's refining you and making you a better version of who you currently are. And you see, this is why mastering the meaning is one of the most important things that we can actually learn in our journey, because our brain is actually wired to repeat familiar stories. And this is really where I'm driving some of the work from Dr. Joe Dispenza. He talks about neurons that fire together are wired together, meaning the stories that we repeat become neurological pathways. So if we're constantly telling ourselves, I'm not good enough, nothing ever works for me, people are always leaving, I'm always struggling, nothing ever works out for me, this is why I never have money. your brain actually starts treating those thoughts as if they're truth and you know the even crazier part is that our subconscious does not know how to distinguish between what is real and what is fake. So every time you talk about that experience neurologically what you're doing to your entire nervous system is that you are putting yourself back in that moment and you're actually releasing the those exact same fluids, those exact same experiences that at one point were triggered, the amygdala is now firing again and now you're back in that state. So here's the crazy part. Neuroplasticity proves that our brain adapts to repeated throats through the emotion of the states that we're going through. So, your brain is constantly learning what you're focusing on, what you're expecting out of a situation, and what identity to reinforce. Just think about that for a second. If we're always focused on lack, if we're always focused on nothing ever works out for me, and we identify as I'm just a unlucky person, everything is always happening to me, everything is always falling apart, everybody always leaves, I never have enough money, I'm always falling behind, that becomes your identity. And in scripture, it actually says in Proverbs 23, 7, that as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he. So that actually ties directly into the way that you are thinking in your heart, in your brain, in your soul. That is who you are. And in Romans 12, 2, it talks about be transformed by the renewing of your mind. So let's dissect this. When it comes down to my own journey, I sometimes struggle with having patience for my kids, right? And this is really where I see what's happening in that moment, right? Maybe I tell myself, you know what? This is a perfect opportunity for me to practice patience. And it's so crazy how your... system, right? Our nervous system is designed to also keep us safe. So if we say we want something, but we are so wired to the familiar, unconsciously, we self-sabotage it. So what we end up doing is the moment that we signal to the universe, yes, I am going to be patient today and I'm not going to get upset, the universe in that moment is going to test us and we're going to experience something that is actually going to try and keep us in the identity of who we know to be. Meaning we're going to experience something that's going to test our patience. If maybe you're in a situation where You want to make more money and you're like, I'm done settling with this life. And you tell the universe, you tell God, you know what? I'm ready for this next level. What's going to happen is the testing phase to see really how much do you really want that new identity. And there's going to be things that are going to be thrown your way. And the goal is not perfection. The goal is just to be aware of it and grow from that experience. And this is really where You want to understand that pain is not your enemy. Okay, we cannot Appreciate the light without the darkness. We cannot appreciate peace without chaos without turbulence love without knowing what a heartbreak feels like Growth without discomfort think about it when you go to the gym I always use this example because it's so relatable But when I go to the gym, I do not enjoy it like that is not something that I'm like, ⁓ I look forward to getting my butt kicked by my trainer. No, but guess what? Because that's something that I identify with because that's something that I currently believe that that's part of my identity I actually end up telling myself, you know what I am going to go and while I'm there everything becomes easier for me And here is also something that you need to understand. You cannot have wisdom, like actual experienced wisdom, without going through mistakes. So pain itself is actually not a punishment. Pain becomes the vehicle in which we transform. And this is really where we can assign an empowering meaning to what we're going through. And I talked in our last podcast about Viktor Frankl's Lobotherapy. And he mentions how suffering without meaning is actually what destroys people. But suffering with meaning is the very thing that can transform you. Going back to the renewing of the mind scripture that we just talked about, this is the part where we renew the identity that we have been. Also in Romans 5, 3, 4, We also glory in our sufferings because suffering produces perseverance and perseverance, character and hope. So when we're going through these experiences, when we go in through these emotions, that's the very thing that is actually shaping the new identity. Now, the storm isn't actually here to destroy us. Sometimes it's actually just here to reveal how much strength we actually have within us. Now our ego is designed to keep us safe. So our ego actually loves familiarity, meaning everything that you know to be true. It loves the fact that you like your schedule at a certain time. It loves the fact that you have your meals at a certain time. It loves the fact that you already know what you're going to do on the weekend. It loves the familiar. So the moment that you say, I'm actually not going to go party this weekend and I'm going to work on my business because I genuinely want to live something different in my life. I want to leave a legacy behind or I just want to contribute more and I want to be a better version of me. I'm tired of waking up hangover every single Sunday or Saturday, whatever it is for you, or I'm tired of accepting lower energy than I should be accepting. am tired of accepting actual even myself, treating myself in a way that I'm not proud of. Maybe you're neglecting yourself by not eating what you should be eating. Maybe you're neglecting yourself by not going to work out, by not loving yourself, and you're actually holding on to all of that. Even though you might think, like, consciously you don't want that, subconsciously your ego loves that because it knows what to expect. This is why people stay in the toxic relationship. They stay broke. They stay fearful because they don't want to be seen, so they play it small. And they actually stay disconnected from their purpose. I've been creating this new series called Your God-given Gives, and I've been talking a lot about them on my TikTok. And basically the whole purpose of this is I created a low ticket offer where I'm now sharing with other women how to actually create digital products by tying them into their purpose in life. And the reason I did this was because I was like, you know what? I love the fact that I started my podcast and I love the fact that I'm teaching women how to create a new identity and sharing the things that I'm learning. this whole podcast is about. But I was like, want to teach them how I've also been able to create more abundance in my life because it could be a Friday, it could be a Monday, it could be a Thursday, it could be whatever day of the week. And if I want to take the day off, I can take the day off. And it's so beautiful to me that I was able this week to go to my son's graduation in the middle of the day. It was like at 10, 11 a.m. and most parents weren't able to go. And it's been two times this past month that they've had a little event that I was able to attend. So it actually really broke my heart thinking back at the times where I wasn't able to be there for my first child because I had to work because I didn't have that freedom. And why does this tie into, again, staying small and staying disconnected from your purpose? Well, because I said, you know what, I want to teach other women how to do the thing that I've been able to do. And I want to help them in actually understanding their purpose because we all have a purpose. For me, it's different than what it is for you. Maybe you're an amazing chef. Maybe you're an amazing designer, maybe you're an amazing creative person that likes designing ⁓ sketches and whatnot. So this is the part where for me it's very important to you to understand how when you actually let go of your ego, whether you want to call it a lower vibration, whether you want to call it fear consciousness, the flesh, the devil, this mechanism is similar because it pulls you away from alignment. It makes you stay small. And this is a part where if we read Timothy 1,7, actually talks about, God has not given us a spirit of fear, but a power and love and a sound mind. So sometimes we get so consumed by the thing that is actually there to keep us small that we forget. And I've mentioned this before in the podcast where I've always been a little hesitant to talk about, you know, my relationship with God and calling it as it is like for me it's God like God created the stars, God created the universe, God created the moon, God created the crystals, everything and sometimes we get so diluted in the truth that we worship the things that were created by God and I was like you know what I this is part of me sipping into my purpose and the people that are going to resonate with it amazing and the people that are not that's okay and why does this tap into what I just read well because sometimes we give so much energy to fear that we self-sabotage where we really want to be. And this is the psychological part of this. The brain prefers to be in the familiar suffering over the unfamiliar growth. And this is why transforming yourself is so uncomfortable. And we need to really just have the power, the will to recreate the story that we're living in. Healing actually begins when we stop identifying with the past. When we stop identify with this person hurt me, my parents left me, we were broke, I was bullied, these things happened to me. Like I am not discrediting any of those things, I am not downplaying any of those things because I know what it's like to go through a lot of these things. But what I am saying is that that doesn't serve me and it doesn't serve you. Your past. is not meant to define you. And here's something that most people unconsciously rehearse over and over. They feel abandoned, unworthy, rejected, unseen, not good enough. And this is because your body has actually memorized these emotions and it keeps replaying them in your brain, in your heart, in your life. And that's actually the part of you that creates the reality that you're living in. Now, this is part of how our nervous system becomes addicted to those emotions, whether you realize it or not. And I've mentioned this book before, Becoming Supernatural is one of my favorite books by Dr. Joe. And he talks about how our nervous system becomes so familiar to stress, chaos, suffering, and the cortisol levels that were actually being boosted by every single time that we have those emotions, unconsciously our body actually craves them. Now here is something that I want you to identify with. You are not your thoughts. You are the awareness above your thoughts. And in scripture, it actually says in Isaiah 43, 18 through 19, forget the former things. Do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing. How beautiful is that? Like, forget the formal things that you've done, forget who you've been, forget what you've identified with, forget the things that you did that you're not so proud of, and see that I am literally working on you right now. The moment you stop rehearsing your old identity is the moment your future actually starts. Now, here's the bottom line, and here's what I hope you can take away from this message today. When you stop fighting life, when you actually start fighting, When you stop fighting with that version of you that is geared around resentment and victimhood, this is the moment where you actually start feeling lighter because you're aligning with the true divinity that you are connected to, the true power that God has harnessed within you. Not because life is going to be perfect, but because you stop carrying everything alone. And this is the part where I was actually talking to somebody today about this, where they were talking about how a lot of the time, you know religion wants to share with you that the only way to connect with God is to go to a church or go to a priest and that through them you can actually connect to God and that is a lie because if you actually read and Look at the story of Jesus Christ. He came number one to teach us the power that we really hold inside and manifest But furthermore, he actually came to teach us that we did not have to connect through a priest, through the Pharisees, through the prophets, to actually connect with divinity, with God. And here's a part where if you read Matthew 11, 28, come to me. all who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest. And personally, I do believe that in the times in my journey where I've just been so consumed with me being the center of my, what I had to go through, right? Like if I was going through something, I felt like it was on me to have a solution. It was on me to create my reality. So I felt a lot of stress. The moment I started aligning more with God and just saying, know what, God, like I am here. I'm not going to be one of those passive people that says, I believe in God. And I'm just sitting in my room praying all day and not doing anything with my life. Like that's not what I'm advertising here. But what I am saying is that when you're walking in alignment with the word of God, when you're walking in alignment with being the best version of you that you can be, then there's nothing that I should be worried about. You see, because here's the thing, that when you understand that you are creating a relationship with the creator of everything, You can actually connect, can trust, you can surrender and know that you can trust the Lord, you can trust God, you can trust the fact that everything is going to work out. And I know some of us have had our ups and downs with believing in something greater than us, like I've mentioned this before, but for those of you that are new listening to the podcast, like there was a time where I believed in nothing and that was one of the darkest times of my life. Like I'm talking about dark. And if you guys are interested in hearing more about that story, follow me on Instagram and I would love to hear from you guys so that I can actually make a whole story talking about that again because I Know exactly what it feels like to be in the darkness I've seen some really crazy things and I believe that God allowed me to go through these things so that I can actually speak from Experience and not just speak from something that I read not just something that I saw somebody else talking about something that I actually lived so Here's the the thing that for me at least I want you to just understand that we need to stop focusing so much on what we're missing, on what's wrong, what we don't have, because that is how you remain in survival. But when we actually practice presence, gratitude, faith, purpose, this is the thing that actually shifts our internal state. And eventually our external reality also follows. So I want you to ask yourself today, what meaning have you been assigning to your pain? What story are you continuing to repeat about yourself? Is that story that you're repeating about yourself, is it empowering or is it actually limiting you? And what would you change if you had the opportunity to change the meaning? What identity would you actually need to let go of in order for that to be your new truth? You may not be able to control every part of your life, but what you can control is the meaning that you're assigning to it. And when you change the meaning, you change your emotional reality. When you change your emotional reality, you change your life. Maybe life isn't actually trying to break us. Maybe life is actually trying to inspire us and to show us how beautiful we can be redefined and transformed through the moments that we've been through. And the most powerful thing that you can do is stop asking, why did that happen to me? And start asking, what is this actually teaching me? You see, I've often quoted this verse here, but it says, a dream is simply a thought. Energy is what brings it to life. So thank you for hanging out with me today. If nobody has told you this, remember that you are loved, you are worthy, and you can absolutely manifest anything you want. I love you and I will talk to you on the next one.