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My Controversial Thoughts on Flowers and Gifts! · Secrets They'll Only Tell a Matchmaker with Gina Hendrix

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  Here's my controversial opinion on flowers and gifts in the
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  early stages of dating. All right, hang on.
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  So first of all, I think when a man brings a woman flowers and
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  he doesn't even know where it's a first date and he's never even
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  spent time with her, it's a very empty gesture.
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  I had somebody on one of my lives recently, say, but it's a
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  kind, considerate. It's not kind or considerate.
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  It's more at that point about him, I think you know, than than
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  you. So, you know, I think that I
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  think showing up on time, asking the right questions, really
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  being present in the moment is, is way more considerate and
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  appropriate than just showing up with these empty flowers Like,
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  oh, I hope you like me, I don't know you at all.
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  But here's the and it's like, I don't mean to sound like a
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  bitcher about it, but you know what?
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  It's just an empty, false gesture.
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  And it's it's insincere, so I hate it.
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  Send somebody flowers. Give them flowers once you know
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  them, once you like them first. Get to know somebody and let
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  them get to know you. Not without the distraction.
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  And plus, flowers can be awkward on a first date, especially if
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  you show up to the restaurant. Like, where's she going to put
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  it? Where's she going to put it?
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  I know a guy once, he was a nice guy but a little clueless.
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  He he said when he goes out on a first date, he always brings
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  flowers but he keeps them in the trunk.
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  And then that way, after the date, if he likes her when
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  they're walking out, he'd open the trunk and give her flowers.
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  Holy moly. Talk about insincere gestures.
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  OK, Same goes for gifts over the top.
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  Expensive gifts when you don't know somebody.
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  OK, ladies, don't be a person who takes these gifts.
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  Like, I would never, never in a million years would I ever take
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  a gift from a man that's an extravagant gift or an expensive
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  gift if I didn't know him extremely, extremely well
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  Because I don't want him spending money on me.
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  I I don't want him wasting his money.
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  I would feel bad taking it and it's just not who I am.
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  I'd rather know the depth of a person.
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  I want to know the substance of a person.
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  I want to know their soul, their personality, their brains, their
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  wallet and gifts that they're giving me matter nothing to me.
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  If a guy showed up and he said hey Gina, I know your favorite
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  animal charity is XYZ, Rover Ranger Rescue, for example, and
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  I just donated $5000 or $1000 or $500, I would be like, now that
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  guy's impressing me, right? So don't get distracted by these
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  superficial flashy things unless you want a superficial flashy
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  person and a superficial flashy life.
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  If you want to be a person of substance and depth, then don't
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  focus on this. Focus on this.
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  Focus on this. Getting to know somebody, OK?
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  And when they want to give you the expensive gifts, just gosh,
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  I'm so flattered. But you can donate to my
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  favorite charity. That would mean more to me than
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  even a gift. Boom.
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  You want to score points with somebody?
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  You do that. All right, open up.