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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: What’s the Best That Could Happen? · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: We made it to Friday, which means that as you
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  Speaker 1: listen to this, I am either en route to the
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  Speaker 1: airport or at the airport or I mean, you could
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  Speaker 1: be listening to this years from now, so who knows what,
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  Speaker 1: but I am on my way to the Final four. Baby,
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  Speaker 1: it's Emily. You're listening to five minute Friday. And this
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  Speaker 1: is one of the most spontaneous decisions I've made in
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  Speaker 1: some time. I am so excited because this weekend I'm
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  Speaker 1: going to be in Phoenix for the NCAA Championship March
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  Speaker 1: Madness Final four ukon all the way. For those of
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  Speaker 1: you that aren't familiar, I graduated from the University of
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  Speaker 1: Connecticut back in twenty ten.
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  Speaker 2: Go ahead do the math there, and I have.
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  Speaker 1: Never been to a final four, So I'm so excited
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  Speaker 1: that after the girls one last week Ezy final game.
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  Speaker 2: I want to see Sarah Strong. I'm excited about Gino.
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  Speaker 1: I'm excited about all the people that are going to
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  Speaker 1: be down in Phoenix. So if you are listening to
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  Speaker 1: this and you are going to be around, say what's up.
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  Speaker 2: I can't wait. I'm still looking forward to it.
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  Speaker 1: I'm taking the trip with my dad and we've never
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  Speaker 1: been on a father daughter, just the two of us
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  Speaker 1: overnight trip that either of us can really remember or
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  Speaker 1: think of. I mean, we've traveled with family before, but
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  Speaker 1: never just the two of us. So I'm really I'm
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  Speaker 1: really looking forward to it. It's it's funny because I
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  Speaker 1: definitely had my reservations about making this decision. I threw
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  Speaker 1: it into the universe after the girls one in the
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  Speaker 1: Allite eight, I was like, Dad, what if we went
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  Speaker 1: to Phoenix?
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  Speaker 2: And then my life coach and I.
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  Speaker 1: Talk about this idea often, this concept of a whisper,
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  Speaker 1: And sometimes there are things that you feel in your
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  Speaker 1: chest and you know, you have these thoughts and you
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  Speaker 1: wonder what if? And this whisper not you know, a
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  Speaker 1: life or death situation, but something that I heard and
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  Speaker 1: I thought, hmm, what if. So often when we ask
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  Speaker 1: ourselves what if, we think about the worst case scenario.
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  Speaker 1: We think about, what if, you know, I spend all
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  Speaker 1: this money and the girls don't make it to the championship.
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  Speaker 2: That's a good example here.
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  Speaker 1: Or we think of what if the only flight available
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  Speaker 1: is the red eye coming home and I'm going to
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  Speaker 1: be so tired on Monday.
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  Speaker 2: That's exactly what I'm doing. By the way, it's.
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  Speaker 1: More often than not, the worst case scenario isn't that
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  Speaker 1: bad at all. So what if instead, when you think
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  Speaker 1: about the things, and you think about the whispers that
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  Speaker 1: you're hearing, you ask yourself, what what's the best that
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  Speaker 1: could happen?
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  Speaker 2: Right?
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  Speaker 1: What is the best case scenario here? And you might
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  Speaker 1: just be surprised exactly what doors open for you when
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  Speaker 1: you think positive. Now, I want to reiterate that so
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  Speaker 1: many studies and sources have indicated that approximately eighty percent
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  Speaker 1: of our thoughts are negative on any given day, with
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  Speaker 1: around ninety five percent of those thoughts being repetitive. So
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  Speaker 1: this would be a thought that you had on Thursday
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  Speaker 1: and now you're having it on Friday, And because you
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  Speaker 1: experienced sixty thousand to eighty thousand thoughts daily, that means
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  Speaker 1: that a lot of our mental chatter is self defeating
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  Speaker 1: or pessimistic. But we do not need to be our thoughts.
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  Speaker 1: Our thoughts are just that they are thoughts. They are
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  Speaker 1: not fact. Get that on a shirt, get it tattooed.
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  Speaker 1: You got this, So just think about the best case scenario.
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  Speaker 1: Think about maybe your crazy idea isn't so crazy after all.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe this whisper is something worth listening to? My thought
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  Speaker 1: prompt for you this week, what's the best case scenario?
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  Speaker 1: What is something that you've been mulling over, perhaps something
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  Speaker 1: that maybe you've been hesitating on, and what is the
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  Speaker 1: best case scenario of that thought?
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  Speaker 2: I want you to write on it.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, I want you to ask yourself what's the best
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  Speaker 1: that could happen? Okay, counteract a little bit of that
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  Speaker 1: negativity and now a listener question. Hey, Emily, I just
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  Speaker 1: want to reach out and say a huge thank you
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  Speaker 1: for being so open about your egg freezing journey. Hearing
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  Speaker 1: you talk about the physical and emotional toll and the
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  Speaker 1: necessity of slowing down really resonated with me during a
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  Speaker 1: tough season. I'm currently coming off a mandatory break from
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  Speaker 1: running myself, though mine was due to a lingering injury.
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  Speaker 1: Now that I'm finally clear to move again, I feel
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  Speaker 1: like I'm starting from zero out of shape, and honestly,
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  Speaker 1: the mental hurdle of not being where I used to
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  Speaker 1: be is harder than the physical one, since you've had
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  Speaker 1: to navigate your own shifts in intensity, Lee, They do
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  Speaker 1: you have any advice for getting back into the swing
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  Speaker 1: of things? How do you give yourself grace when your
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  Speaker 1: body feels different, and what are your best tips for
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  Speaker 1: rebuilding that fitness based without getting discouraged by the comeback?
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  Speaker 2: Oh this is good?
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  Speaker 1: Okay, Well, firstly, I want to say thank you. I'm
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  Speaker 1: I'm really glad. This is an understand that my openness
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  Speaker 1: helped you and hopefully other women feel a little less
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  Speaker 1: alone in let's call it the slowdown. There is just
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  Speaker 1: so much power in acknowledging that our bodies are not machines.
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  Speaker 1: I'll say that again. Our bodies are not machines. They
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  Speaker 1: are systems, and they require maintenance and rest and sometimes
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  Speaker 1: a complete change of pace. And that is exactly what
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  Speaker 1: I just went through. So I can relate to you
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  Speaker 1: with that said, whenever you're in a comeback season, you're
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  Speaker 1: not just recover. You're in this place where you're rebuilding
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  Speaker 1: trust with yourself. So I would say there's a couple
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  Speaker 1: of things to keep in mind. The first thing is
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  Speaker 1: that this is how it is now, and you are
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  Speaker 1: different now than you were five seconds ago, five minutes ago,
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  Speaker 1: five days ago, five weeks ago.
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  Speaker 2: You get the.
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  Speaker 1: Point, you need to meet yourself with where you're at.
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  Speaker 1: So the best way to do That might be not
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  Speaker 1: looking at old data. Maybe you're turning pace alerts off
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  Speaker 1: on your watch, you're not looking at last month's Strava.
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  Speaker 1: You are in a different season now, So treat this
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  Speaker 1: moment as a reintroduction to sport instead of a comparison project.
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  Speaker 1: And the key word there is reintroduction to sport, which
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  Speaker 1: means don't take on too much too soon. The last
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  Speaker 1: thing that you want to do is put yourself back
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  Speaker 1: on the bench when that could be avoided altogether.
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  Speaker 2: So start slow. You'll be better for it.
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  Speaker 1: The next thing that really helps me is commit to
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  Speaker 1: the ten minute rule. So basically with the ten minute
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  Speaker 1: rule is is that you go out for ten minutes,
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  Speaker 1: whether you're running, whether you're lifting, whether you're in a class.
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  Speaker 1: Although I would never encourage you to leave the class
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  Speaker 1: unless your safety was at risk, but give yourself ten minutes.
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  Speaker 2: Commit to ten minutes, which.
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  Speaker 1: Just starting can be the hardest part, especially when you're
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  Speaker 1: feeling a little out of shape. My experience tells me
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  Speaker 1: that it's going to be rare that you get ten
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  Speaker 1: minutes in and you think to yourself, I just shouldn't
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  Speaker 1: be doing this anymore. What happens is that those endorphins
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  Speaker 1: start to kick in. You realize maybe it's not as
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  Speaker 1: hard as I made it out to be, and you
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  Speaker 1: keep going. Now, if you do get ten minutes in
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  Speaker 1: and you're still feeling discouraged and sluggish, you have my
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  Speaker 1: full permission to stop.
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  Speaker 2: But I'm I'm gonna.
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  Speaker 1: Tell you probably won't want to, the last piece of
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  Speaker 1: advice I'll give on this topic is you've gotta practice
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  Speaker 1: radical grace. Because you didn't lose your fitness, You just
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  Speaker 1: you know, put it on a shelf for a little
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  Speaker 1: bit while you took care of something more important. It
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  Speaker 1: is still there in your muscle memory. One more time
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  Speaker 1: for the people in the back. It is still there
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  Speaker 1: in your muscle memory. It just needs an invitation to
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  Speaker 1: come back out. So don't rush the process. Sport will
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  Speaker 1: always be there. Take it one mile at a time,
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  Speaker 1: one lift at a time, one walk at a time,
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  Speaker 1: and know that you've got this. And when you're feeling
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  Speaker 1: really like you don't, then that's when you call in
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  Speaker 1: the reinforcements. That's when you summon your accountability buddy. Trust me,
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  Speaker 1: your people. They want what's best for you. They've got
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  Speaker 1: your back, and you do not need to be the
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  Speaker 1: only thing standing in your WAYE make sure you're following
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  Speaker 1: installment a five Minute Friday, Another Hurdle conquered.
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  Speaker 2: Catch you guys next time.