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I pause before I react. · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places for chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So today we are doing our fourth installment, in our week-long,
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  moving towards the light, and today, we're going to talk about
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  not reacting so quickly, so it's going to look something like, I
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  paused before I react. Now, this is such an incredibly
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  important piece of this puzzle because most of us have
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  immediate reactions, and as soon as we have a reaction, something
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  else goes down, we have to pause and we have to control the
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  driver on the bus. So, to Speak.
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  We've got to pull ourselves to the place of just that poop.
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  I got to put the brake on a little bit.
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  I've got to go into neutral before I make our definitive
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  Direction here, and we're terrible.
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  As human beings were terrible at pausing.
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  Before we react, we just react, we are even, we can't even have
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  conversations with each other without formulating an answer to
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  what we think the person is going to say before we even have
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  all the information because we want to be prepared, we want to
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  be ready. We want to be like right on top
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  of it. And once we do that, we lose all
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  our power because we've given it up, we haven't been able to make
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  a true Choice. We've been living in reaction.
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  I mean, imagine when you think about this, you can't truly give
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  somebody your honest opinion. When you're reacting, all you're
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  doing, is giving them what emotion you're in in that moment
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  and then you're showing up that way that's where that's where
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  the whole thing comes from. It's just like you're reacting,
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  you're hitting something and you're like, okay, well I'm just
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  going to do this and before, you know, it, you may even Have time
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  afterwards to sit and think and say, geez, if I had just stopped
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  and pause and contemplated, I wouldn't have reacted that way,
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  but the truth is, that's not what happened.
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  You didn't pause, you didn't contemplate and you did react
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  that way. So in the path of finding peace
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  in our life, in the path of moving towards the light being
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  in neutral is incredibly important.
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  I say this constantly to everyone that I coach, I talk
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  about it all the time. Saying, you have to go to
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  neutral, you have to go to neutral, Is from neutral, you
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  can make qualified decisions from neutral, it you're much
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  more capable of seeing clearly because the other emotions are
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  not in the way and they're not Jaden, your focus, they're not
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  putting you in a position where you're just emotionally reacting
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  you're taking your power back. So putting yourself on pause is
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  important. I mean, even taking the time and
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  saying, okay, before I react this might be 24 hours.
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  Before I have an answer, I have been Known to say a people, I
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  can't give you a feedback on this for at least 24 hours and
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  I've had clients say well why do you give that answer when I'm
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  teaching them how to do this? And the truth is I give that
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  answer because I need 24 hours to go through a myriad of
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  emotions that will be driving my bus.
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  Once I go through those emotions, then I can get to
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  neutral sometimes, I can't just go to neutral, I've got to get
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  through the negative emotions of frustration, or fear, whatever
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  it might be. First then once I'm through it
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  then I can make a decision. Then I can go from there.
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  So it's it's much more productive, proactive, much more
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  thoughtful. If you pay attention and say,
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  well, I want to go to neutral first because from there I can
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  make any smart decision if I'm in neutral.
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  I can shift to any certain gear from that point.
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  So just think about this focus. On the fact that you want to be
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  in that position, you want to pause, you want to You know, the
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  big scheme is going to pause but we're going to say I'm going to
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  hit neutral and then I can make a decision from there.
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  It puts you in a leadership position.
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  When you do this for yourself first, it puts you into the if
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  you're in a group of people and you're doing this, it puts you
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  in a position where you're able to observe others.
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  And before you answer, you can actually observe what other
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  people are doing, which also gives you more information.
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  It's just a true position of power.
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  So I mean, you got to do it, you got just put yourself in that
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  position. So hopefully, this is helpful on
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  day four. And I will see you guys tomorrow
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  as you pause today, and put yourself in neutral and just hit
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  that pause button a little bit. All right guys.
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  We'll see you tomorrow. Bye.