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Entering Your Wild Era: DIABOLICAL Life Lessons (PART 4) · Two Broke Chicks

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  Speaker 1: This podcast is recorded on gadigal Land. Always was, Always
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  Speaker 1: will be Aboriginal Land. Heytisime out and this is two
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  Speaker 1: broad chicks show that shares life, listens and tips to
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  Speaker 1: help make you rich in life. And Welcome back, sour Welcome.
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  Speaker 1: One week it was horrible. I felt so lonely. Lonely,
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  Speaker 1: I know, but you've got practice doing a solo pod.
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  Speaker 1: So I still missed you.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, no, I missed you guys too. Glad to be
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  Speaker 2: back fresh off the live show. The group chat tool
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  Speaker 2: was all done and dust it.
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  Speaker 1: I know, it went so quickly. It went so quick,
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  Speaker 1: I actually can't believe. It feels like a fever dream. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: so much fun. It was so cool seeing like the
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  Speaker 1: mixes before the show. Yeah, so we like organized venues
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  Speaker 1: and a bar tab for all the solo chicks like
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  Speaker 1: go and meet up and make friends. And I was
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  Speaker 1: seeing like the stories of where people tagged us of
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  Speaker 1: them like going out after the show as well.
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  Speaker 2: And I was just like, it's so cute. Yeah, And
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  Speaker 2: we like run into some chicks who had gone and
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  Speaker 2: they were like, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: We made like a group chat after we're all.
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  Speaker 2: Going to catch up, and I'm like, yes, like that
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  Speaker 2: was exactly what we wanted to come out of those
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  Speaker 2: mixes so exactly.
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  Speaker 1: And at the show, we had you chicks send in
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  Speaker 1: your diabolical stories dilemmas, and we could only read four
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  Speaker 1: per show, so we were like, do you know what,
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  Speaker 1: let's bring that segment to the potty and we're going
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  Speaker 1: to be reading even more of your diabolical confessions, storytimes
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  Speaker 1: and advice. So before we get into it, though, what's
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  Speaker 1: your obsession of the weeks? Yea, my obsession of the week?
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  Speaker 2: I was actually just inspired because Al and I were
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  Speaker 2: talking about cozy games and one that I've probably got
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  Speaker 2: maybe like a month or two ago now, but I
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  Speaker 2: haven't mentioned on the show. Yeah, is the Tales of
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  Speaker 2: the Shire, which is the Hobbit game that you can
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  Speaker 2: play on Nintendo Switch. And it's like the perfect cozy game,
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  Speaker 2: especially if you're a fantasy girl. Like all of the
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  Speaker 2: tasks and things that you have to do are like
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  Speaker 2: really cute and simple and comforting, Like you get some
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  Speaker 2: of them. You have to go meet certain people in
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  Speaker 2: the town and find like the rule book of the town,
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  Speaker 2: and you have to go fishing, and you have to
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  Speaker 2: like garden.
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  Speaker 1: Don't you make like a herb garden as well.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, like a garden, and then you move into like
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  Speaker 2: an old Hobbit hole and then so as you do
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  Speaker 2: more challenges, you also can like fix up and customize hole.
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  Speaker 1: It's just such a cute fun game. It's like very
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  Speaker 1: like Animal Crossing ESQ, but it's like Lord of the
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  Speaker 1: Rings fantasy kind of more like that realm exactly. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I'm on my Animal Crossing bullshit, like let's let's get
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  Speaker 1: the fruit. Everybody in trees so into it in like lockdown,
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  Speaker 1: lockdown and everything. Yeah, I reckon, let's bring it back.
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  Speaker 1: I'm I'm in. It was an impulse purchase, like it
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  Speaker 1: was the Sunday after the live show, and I was
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  Speaker 1: like I deserve a treat. Yeah, I deserve a little something.
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  Speaker 1: And went to all three shops and like got it
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  Speaker 1: price matched and I saved like two hundred bucks what
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  Speaker 1: of like six hundred dollars. That's so good. I know.
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  Speaker 1: The cheek there was an absolute legend. She was like, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I have one of these, and I was like, look,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not like hardcore game of girly. Yeah, it'll be
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  Speaker 1: like I'm just a little loser that wants to play
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  Speaker 1: like my CRO's little game. So I was like, do
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  Speaker 1: I need the new one or do I just get
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  Speaker 1: the old one because that's obviously on sale because the
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  Speaker 1: new ones come out. She was like, let me look
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  Speaker 1: online because normally in store they only price match if
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  Speaker 1: you can go and get it, like in store somewhere
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  Speaker 1: in that center right Like it'd be like if there's
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  Speaker 1: a Jbi Hi Fi, what's the BONDI Harvey Norman doing?
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  Speaker 1: And that's what they price match. But she went through
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  Speaker 1: all the internet, and all the internet. She went through
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  Speaker 1: the web. She like found some random website and found
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  Speaker 1: it for like the absolute cheapest. And the thing is,
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  Speaker 1: the Nintendo One was being sold for like four hundred
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  Speaker 1: and seventy six dollars, and then she got me the
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  Speaker 1: Nintendo Switch to for six hundred dollars. She was like,
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  Speaker 1: there you go. And I was like, hey, I love you. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: she was like, yeah, you might as well get it.
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  Speaker 3: Two.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, do you have a kiss? Literally, come
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  Speaker 1: on now you stop that. But also keep going, Oh,
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  Speaker 1: what's the day. Oh my god, I just realized the
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  Speaker 1: new Witch season's out in three days. I know, I know,
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  Speaker 1: we don't care because it's not Henry cavill, But like,
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  Speaker 1: I just want to just finish it. You know, I
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  Speaker 1: don't know if I'm going to bother Oh, come on,
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. I'll see, Okay. My obsession of the
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  Speaker 1: week is it's sales season. It is it's coming, dude' dude.
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  Speaker 1: The twenty twenty four season sounded exactly the same, I know,
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  Speaker 1: but we we are bringing back the Two Broke Chicks
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  Speaker 2: Of the year.
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  Speaker 1: We collect all the best sales from fashion, beauty, lifestyle, home, travel, accessories.
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  Speaker 1: If it's on sale, you name it, you know it's
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  Speaker 1: in there. And this year we are going to be
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  Speaker 1: doing our charity initiative again, so we will be donating
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  Speaker 1: one hundred percent of affiliate revenue that we own from
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  Speaker 1: the cheat sheet to charity. So what I want to
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  Speaker 1: know from the chicks is what charities would they like
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  Speaker 1: us to donate to, because last year we picked them,
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, so let us know in the comments where you
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but that's my obsession. I'm obsessed with us. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I love that. Yeah, it's queez. Seriously all right, shall
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  Speaker 1: we get into our diabolical confessions. It's high sound. Now,
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  Speaker 1: this isn't exactly a convention, but it is a crazy
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  Speaker 1: story and I know you guys will appreciate it. I
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  Speaker 1: love the podcast. Listening to a new episode is my
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  Speaker 1: favorite part of the week. I hope this story gives
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  Speaker 1: you a good love and a jaw drop. My favorite.
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna eat feed us okay. My ex boyfriend and
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  Speaker 1: I met in high school around year eight. We were
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  Speaker 1: in the same year, but had never I knew that
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  Speaker 1: within his friend group, he was the runt of the litter,
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  Speaker 1: the one that the boys would always pick on. One lunchtime,
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  Speaker 1: I saw him sitting on the oval by himself for
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  Speaker 1: I felt bad, so I went up to ask him
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  Speaker 1: if he was okay. After hesitation, he told me that
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  Speaker 1: his mum had just been diagnosed with cancer and it's
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  Speaker 1: not looking good and he didn't know who to talk
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  Speaker 1: to or what to do. I comforted him and told
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  Speaker 1: him I would be there for him if he needed anything.
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  Speaker 1: Fast forward, five years of friendship later, we started dating.
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  Speaker 1: His mum beat cancer and we were happy. We then
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  Speaker 1: dated for three years. Our relationship was great. It was
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  Speaker 1: smooth sailing. We didn't fight much, and we had lots
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  Speaker 1: in common. I was close with his mom as he
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  Speaker 1: was the oldest son and he had triplet younger brothers,
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  Speaker 1: so I was the only other female around. Wow. We
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  Speaker 1: chatted about shopping and clothes, and I had helped her
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  Speaker 1: do her hair for events she attended with her husband.
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  Speaker 1: But I never brought up the cancer, as it felt
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  Speaker 1: like their family had left it in the park. Oh God.
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  Speaker 1: Around the three year mark of our relationship, we started
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  Speaker 1: to drift. We were young and on very different parts.
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  Speaker 1: I was in UNI studying medicine and he was a
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  Speaker 1: trade We stopped prioritizing each other. Eventually we went our
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  Speaker 1: separate ways on good terms. We still saw each other
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  Speaker 1: occasionally as we had the same friendship group, but we
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  Speaker 1: decided that it would be best that we stopped texting
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  Speaker 1: good gear. Six months past and all was well. We
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  Speaker 1: still had a nice friendship when we spoke at the
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  Speaker 1: odd event until one day I got a message from
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  Speaker 1: his best friend. He told me that my ex was
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  Speaker 1: not doing okay and that his mom's cancer had come back.
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  Speaker 1: He said he didn't know what to do and asked
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  Speaker 1: me if I would message him, as I helped him
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  Speaker 1: deal with it last time. I of course agreed. I
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  Speaker 1: loved his mum. I messaged and said we should meet
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  Speaker 1: for dinner, as this wasn't an over the phone conversation.
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  Speaker 1: We went to dinner. I cried and he cried about
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  Speaker 1: the thought of losing his mum. He told me she
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  Speaker 1: had a forty percent chance of surviving and the cancer
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  Speaker 1: was much more aggressive. I spent the next five months
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  Speaker 1: bending over backwards to be there for him, from driving
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  Speaker 1: to canber for a concert with him so he wouldn't
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  Speaker 1: be alone, to help him swim train for a triathlon.
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  Speaker 1: He told my parents and my mum cooked meals for
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  Speaker 1: his whole family to take some of the pressure off.
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  Speaker 1: When his mum was booked in for surgery, he told
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  Speaker 1: me he took the day off work. He sent me
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  Speaker 1: photos of him sitting in a hospital room all day waiting,
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  Speaker 1: and that he had bought her a blueberry muffin for
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  Speaker 1: when she came out. He sent me pictures of paperwork
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  Speaker 1: the receipts were there. He told me they were starting
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  Speaker 1: chemo because they couldn't remove all of it during surgery.
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  Speaker 1: It was hard news to hear, and I was devastated
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  Speaker 1: for him and his family. I feel like I know
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  Speaker 1: where this story is going, and I'm, like him, not ready.
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  Speaker 1: A week after surgery, my best friend and I ran
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  Speaker 1: into one of his younger brothers out at the shops.
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  Speaker 1: I asked him how his mum was doing and if
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  Speaker 1: he was coping okay. He told me he was fine
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  Speaker 1: and his mum was fine. The confass put a little
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  Speaker 1: red flag in my head. I thought, why does he
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  Speaker 1: seem so chill about his mom's starting chemo? But I
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  Speaker 1: brushed it off. Five hours later, I got a call
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  Speaker 1: from my ex's dad. I answered while I was in
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  Speaker 1: the car with my best friend. I was polite and
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  Speaker 1: said hi, and he said Hi, I hope you're well.
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  Speaker 1: It has come to my attention that my son has
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  Speaker 1: been spreading news about my wife that isn't true. Yes, dad, Oh, speechless,
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  Speaker 1: he said, his wife has never had cancer, She's completely healthy,
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  Speaker 1: and they have no idea why he's been going around
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  Speaker 1: saying these rumors. Oh my god. And the best friend
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  Speaker 1: what the fuck? But he's probably lied to the best friend.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god.
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  Speaker 1: I was shocked. I said, I'm glad she wasn't dying
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  Speaker 1: and hung up. I tried to process the fact that
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  Speaker 1: the last eight years of our friendship was based on
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  Speaker 1: a lie. Our relationship was based on a lie he
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  Speaker 1: kept going for eight year. I texted his best friend
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  Speaker 1: asking if he knew. He also had no idea he
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  Speaker 1: had fooled everyone.
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  Speaker 3: Oh my god.
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  Speaker 1: I then had to go into work, so I wasn't
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  Speaker 1: on my phone for five hours. I finished work and
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  Speaker 1: had a message from him saying he was sorry and
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  Speaker 1: he will always love me Rose. I never responded and
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  Speaker 1: never spoke to him again. Two months later, he started
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  Speaker 1: dating another girl. It has now been two years since
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  Speaker 1: I found out he was lying, and just last month
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  Speaker 1: they both came into my work. It was the first
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  Speaker 1: time I had seen him since. I scanned their license
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  Speaker 1: and didn't say a word to him. I just smiled
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  Speaker 1: and chatted to other people in the line to come
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  Speaker 1: into the venue I work at. I then watched them
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  Speaker 1: leave separately. One of my friends messaged me and told
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  Speaker 1: me they broke up at my work. Hilarious. I got
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  Speaker 1: to witness that, And honestly, it is Colma for being
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  Speaker 1: a bad human life lesson. Always get the full facts,
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  Speaker 1: don't believe everything that comes out of someone's mouth, and
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  Speaker 1: always be able to see the red flags no matter
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  Speaker 1: how in love you are. What the fuck that is crazy?
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  Speaker 1: The thing though, is that like he gave all of
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  Speaker 1: these alleged receipts and made them up. That's like, that's
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  Speaker 1: compulsive liar.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, the photos of the documents the hospital room, like
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  Speaker 2: the details.
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  Speaker 1: Did he go to the hospital? Did he get them
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  Speaker 1: from the internet? How did he get that. Yeah, what
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  Speaker 1: the hell? That would be so fucked because exactly what
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  Speaker 1: she said, you'd be like, the whole thing was a lie.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and like when you have been in a relationship
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  Speaker 2: with someone and you get close to their family, like
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  Speaker 2: they do become part of your family too.
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  Speaker 1: And even he's then made that story up to get
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  Speaker 1: her back into his life.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, well he's like it worked the first time, which
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  Speaker 2: like he was in the eight the first time?
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  Speaker 1: Here, can you sue? Did you sue for that? Can
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  Speaker 1: you sue for like a way of time? All right,
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  Speaker 1: Kerry did it? I would sue him. I would sue
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  Speaker 1: him for wasting my time. I would seek compensation for
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  Speaker 1: all this shit I did for you that was a lie,
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  Speaker 1: Like driving down to Camber for the concert, petrol money
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  Speaker 1: told they add up accommodation. That's so fun. Ill, do
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  Speaker 1: you know what? Do you know what would suck? Imagine
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  Speaker 1: finding out that your son was such a fucking loser
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  Speaker 1: that he lied about you being sick to get a girl.
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  Speaker 1: I know, those poor parents. I love that the dad
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  Speaker 1: was the dad was like I'm.
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  Speaker 2: So embarrassed and told the dad and was like I
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  Speaker 2: just had a conversation. She was asking about this, which
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  Speaker 2: is so wild. It feels like everybody either knows or
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  Speaker 2: knows of somebody who has lied about something like that. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: and I know that it obviously comes from like a
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  Speaker 2: deep rooted issue. Yeah, you need to get attention from that.
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  Speaker 2: But as you know, somebody whose parent has had cancer
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  Speaker 2: before like that is so fucked yeah to lie about.
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  Speaker 2: And I would just encourage anybody to go get help
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  Speaker 2: if they, like legitimately, if you know they are experiencing that,
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  Speaker 2: because what the hell.
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  Speaker 1: Oh my god, I'm so glad that she is out
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  Speaker 1: of that relationship for you, Jick and love that was
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  Speaker 1: like married or something. I know, I love that she
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  Speaker 1: just never spoke to him again. Yes, say they're like,
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  Speaker 1: I'll always love you. Get out of here. Diabolical, diabolical.
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  Speaker 1: Hey Chix. Firstly, I love your podcast and I'm so
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  Speaker 1: excited for the Melbourne Show. Now to the good stuff.
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  Speaker 2: How do you deal with a breakup you initiated when
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  Speaker 2: you're not entirely certain it was the right decision for context,
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  Speaker 2: My ex and I were together for two years.
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  Speaker 1: It was a roller coaster.
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  Speaker 2: We enjoyed long distance, then live close together, then faced
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  Speaker 2: a pregnancy that we chose not to continue. I hold
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  Speaker 2: the belief that a child deserves a stable, loving and
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  Speaker 2: supportive home, and at that time we simply did not
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  Speaker 2: have that. He was on his own mental health journey,
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  Speaker 2: unofficially diagnosed with OCD, he had seen a psychologist earlier
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  Speaker 2: this year. He traveled overseas, only to return within a
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  Speaker 2: week because he was having mental health issues, which followed
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  Speaker 2: which was followed by a spiral. He cut off communication
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  Speaker 2: and slipped into some bad coping mechanisms that didn't serve him.
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  Speaker 1: I stayed.
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  Speaker 2: I supported him even when it consumed me. Eventually I
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  Speaker 2: ended the relationship. The decision came from fear, from exhaustion,
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  Speaker 2: and from a realization that I was sacrificing my own
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  Speaker 2: mental health entirely. Yet breaking it off left me haunted
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  Speaker 2: by the idea that I was abandoning him, leaving him
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  Speaker 2: to his demons, and perhaps betraying my role as his anchor.
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  Speaker 1: He says he felt blindsided.
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  Speaker 2: I question if I gave up, but I also know
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  Speaker 2: I had to choose myself, perhaps for the first time. Now,
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  Speaker 2: I am stuck in the limbo of doubt. Am I
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  Speaker 2: the villain for ending it instead of pushing through and
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  Speaker 2: communicating everything I had suppressed or was this a necessary selfish.
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  Speaker 1: Act of survival?
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  Speaker 2: What is the right way to navigate a breakup that
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  Speaker 2: carries this much emotional weight?
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  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, that is a huge, huge question.
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  Speaker 2: But it sounds like you were there for him, Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: through a lot of it, you know, like, and you
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  Speaker 2: did really try and support him, and you were there
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  Speaker 2: for him through a lot of it, So I.
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  Speaker 1: Don't think you've abandoned him at all. The biggest disservice
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  Speaker 1: you can do to someone is by staying with them
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  Speaker 1: purely out of guilt, you know, by staying in a
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  Speaker 1: relationship where you don't necessarily feel that love anymore, where
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  Speaker 1: you don't feel like they're the person for you, where
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  Speaker 1: you don't really want to be there, but you're only
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  Speaker 1: staying because you feel guilty to break up with them,
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  Speaker 1: or you feel like they need you but you don't
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  Speaker 1: necessarily need them, And that's the only reason you should
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  Speaker 1: absolutely break up with them. You haven't abandoned them at all.
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  Speaker 1: But it's like you do have to look out for yourself,
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  Speaker 1: and it's also not fair for someone who has, you know,
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  Speaker 1: mental health problems or is struggling with you know, bad
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  Speaker 1: coping mechanisms. It's not fair to make you then number
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  Speaker 1: one and only anchor. That is too much pressure to
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  Speaker 1: put on someone that I'm not surprised that you were like,
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  Speaker 1: I can't do this. Yeah, that's so true.
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  Speaker 2: And you said that he felt blindsided, but that doesn't
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  Speaker 2: mean that you weren't giving him signs which he either
• 17:52
  Speaker 2: was ignoring or wasn't capable of seeing.
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  Speaker 1: Because yeah, what he's going through. But also, what are
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: you supposed to do, like edge someone for a break up? Yeah, Like,
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  Speaker 1: it doesn't really matter if he saw it coming or
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  Speaker 1: he was blindsided. The way you feel is the way
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  Speaker 1: you feel.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, And I think he would need to do some
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  Speaker 2: serious work to work on himself and show that he
• 18:14
  Speaker 2: is making those active decisions to work on himself for
• 18:19
  Speaker 2: you to rekindle.
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  Speaker 1: She wants to like the confusion about whether or not
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: it was the right decision. It sounds like it's more
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: about being there for him as like a karra and
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: an anchor and not abandoning him, rather than I think
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: I got overwhelmed. I'm still so in love with him
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: and I want to be with him and I know
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: we can work through it together. I didn't get that vibe,
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: did you.
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  Speaker 2: I guess because she has this sense of guilt and
• 18:48
  Speaker 2: they had been through a lot together. I was just saying,
• 18:50
  Speaker 2: if she does still have love for him, and she
• 18:54
  Speaker 2: was questioning that like those feelings as well, like they
• 18:58
  Speaker 2: would have to show that they're at work and as
• 19:03
  Speaker 2: much as you can be there for somebody, and of
• 19:05
  Speaker 2: course when you're going through hard times, it's really important
• 19:08
  Speaker 2: to lean on the people around you for support.
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  Speaker 1: At the end of the day, you have to do
• 19:12
  Speaker 1: the work. And she can also still have love for him,
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: but she's just not in love with him, like she's
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: she doesn't want to be in the relationship anymore. You
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: can absolutely still have love for someone, but it's just
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: no longer the right fit. Yeah, exactly.
• 19:27
  Speaker 2: So I think it's so normal to feel that guilt
• 19:31
  Speaker 2: and have those questions and wonder have I done the
• 19:33
  Speaker 2: right thing? But you said you chose yourself, probably for
• 19:38
  Speaker 2: the first time, and I think that is the right
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: thing to do at the end of the day. Yeah,
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: you can't be living your life for someone else. Yeah,
• 19:46
  Speaker 2: as probably tough love as that is. Yeah, totally, you
• 19:50
  Speaker 2: did good job. Kick Yeah, forehead, kiss for you.
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: Okay, next one, this is funny hajigs so excited to
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: be a so at the live show My Wild Dilemma
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: or My Diabolical Story. I moved to Melbourne recently single
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: and met a bunch of friends via bumble Bff. Side note,
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: get onto bumble Bff Best thing ever? I am a
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: friend's app fan. This episode is sponsored, but I'm kidding this.
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  Speaker 1: One friend and I were quite the drinkers and we
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: went out one night to a bar in Melbourne, drinking it.
• 20:26
  Speaker 3: Up, smoking cigars and living my best, reckless single yolo life.
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  Speaker 1: I love that. We started chatting with an Italian guy
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: who spoke broken English and he introduced us to his
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: friend or brother I don't remember whoopsie. We hit it
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: off and they joined us for our night of fun.
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: I had started to get quite flirty with the Italian
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: man and his friend. Oh my god, where's this scar?
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: I had a diabolical dilemma, which one It's a good
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: problem to have. I met my friend at the bar
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: and discuss which one should I go home with. Our
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: Italian friends joined us at the bar mid comfo, and
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: I drunkenly confessed I was unsure on which one to
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: go home with because I liked them both.
• 21:18
  Speaker 3: Oh my god, I got asked why not both dead gagged,
• 21:25
  Speaker 3: and I was like, wait, yolo. I went home with
• 21:29
  Speaker 3: both of them, sorry to the uber driver, who would
• 21:32
  Speaker 3: have been very.
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: Confused watching me kiss both of them, and we.
• 21:35
  Speaker 4: Had an absolutely insane Italian trio extravaganza. I think I
• 21:41
  Speaker 4: slept for about forty minutes before I had to uber home,
• 21:44
  Speaker 4: shower and leave.
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: Straight for work. Oh my god. Ironically, I was told
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: I was on my best game at work the next day.
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: Maybe that's the secret key no regrets. I am a
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: settled down granny now, but I have that saucy story
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: in my back pocket, a reminder of the hot bitch
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: I once was. Love you girls.
• 22:06
  Speaker 2: Oh my god, Brava, there is a standing ovation in
• 22:11
  Speaker 2: my sulvye right now.
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: That's amazing. Oh my god. At the same damn time,
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: the same damp time. What a good story, What a
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: great fucking story. You're still a hot bitch, she said,
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: was present tense. Please, I love that. What a good story.
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: Oh my god, that's amazing. We need can Oh she
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: wouldn't have any photos. I want to know what they
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: look like. I know I'm really picturing the guy from
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: three hundred and sixty five days being like you lost
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: baby girl, get it. I love that I slept for
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: forty minutes. I'm imagining her as well, like walking into work,
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: like whistling, Like she has a beautiful glow and she's
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: like hi everyone, and they're like, Meanwhile, the night before
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: she was getting dicked the fuck down. Oh my god.
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: I love that. I love that. That's amazing. You can
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: send us any further details on what they like look
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: like like celebrity look alike. I'm sure you don't have
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: any photos because that would kind of be weird, but yeah,
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: like maybe they took a selfie together, yeah, post imagining,
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: like I'm imagining like a drunken snapchat like on the night.
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: Also the guys one of us. Yeah, sorry, I like,
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: I wonder if they discussed it. Oh my god, that
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: was amazing. Okay, Well, I think that's probably like the
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: perfect note to end on. It's a positive note, a
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: positive life. Yeah, I would love to know how many
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: of our chicks have had three comment below. I mean,
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: I hope a lot of you. Yeah, they've all been
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: as iconic as that one as two Italian stallions quietly
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: taking you for the right of your life. Well, thank
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: you chicks for having us in your eh hols. We
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: absolutely love to be here. Shout out to the cheeky
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: jocks who have sent in their diabolical dilemmas, and you
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: can also send in your diabolical dilemmas. You can email us.
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: We'll put the details below, But yeah, thanks for having
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: us in your e holes. By Chie