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Welcome to authentic living
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Hi, everyone.
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It's Roxanne Derhart again.
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Welcome again to authentically living with Roxanne.
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What I have today is a very, very special young man, I think, in my opinion, And, 22, he's kind
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of, moving and shaking in the world in a, in a way that I'm, was very curious when I met him.
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And, gotten to know him a bit better and hope to get to know him a lot better.
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His name is Andy O'Dea.
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So, Andy, thanks so much for joining us all the way from California.
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So I I wonder what her weather's, like, there to to tonight.
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Man, it's pretty warm here.
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I hear in Canada is actually snowing.
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Is that true?
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Yeah.
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It's was minus, like, 8s.
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And today, we're, like, plus 5, and we feel like we're, like, we're, like, walking around
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in in shorts, and it's not so nice.
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Oh, man.
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See, I see, last week, I was in Rhode Island.
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T.
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Rhode Island is my hometown.
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And I I landed on 1 I think I landed on Wednesday, And then on Thursday morning, it
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started to snow.
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I said, man, I gotta go back to the West Coast, man.
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This ain't for me.
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This ain't for me.
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Okay.
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I'm gonna come and visit you.
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Yeah.
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You gotta come over here on the West Coast.
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You gotta go over.
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That's it.
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That's it.
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So I wanna tell the the viewers a bit about the listeners a bit about you, Andy at the at, the
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young age of twenty two is a published author.
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He's a millennial motivational speaker and a serial entrepreneur.
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He's work recognized as an imminent speaker with a delivery of high end and human potential
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raised in an impoverished environment dropping out of college, with a bit little or, a bit of
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formal, but dropping out of education.
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He took a path of entrepreneurship, of course, of self education that landed him the successes
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that he has today.
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His this path has not allowed him to change his circumstances, but have allowed him to
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effectively communicate the desires to be great to others.
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And like I said earlier, he lives in, Cali, which we're all jealous about.
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So, Annie, welcome, welcome, and thank so much for taking the time.
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I know you're a busy guy and you're, you know, on planes, trains, and automobiles.
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I know you're heading to Vegas tomorrow.
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So I, like I said, wanted to have millennials get a bad name, right, you know, when you kind
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of go out there in the world and everybody's trying talk about millennials and how do you
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manage them?
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And so I want you to kinda tell tell us a bit about you and your path and how you can be a
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voice for millennials that are are trying to, find the way in this world today.
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First and foremost, millennials get a bad name.
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It's true.
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I believe that that does happen, but I believe that it's the decision that the millennial
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takes.
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We all have decisions, whether you're an adult, you're you're eighteen years old, you're, you
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know, you're fifteen.
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We all have decisions to make.
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And whether you're a millennial or gen x or gen y, it doesn't matter.
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It's about the decisions.
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The knowledge is there.
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The opportunity is there.
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It is for you to take it.
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And I discovered at a young age that I have to take I have to take what's mine and what's
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literally available for me.
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See, my parents came from Haiti.
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They came were born in Haiti.
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And I realized that date, like, what's successful to them was being in the middle
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class of being here.
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And they made that.
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They made a reality.
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Right?
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I didn't grow up.
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I grew up in a impoverished area, but I didn't grow up in the gutter.
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I didn't grow up homeless.
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Thank god.
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And I felt like I had a a a an innate desire to level up for my family, to level up for my name
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so I can take care of my parents.
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And that's what I do now.
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You know, that's what I focus on now is to help other people And that's my business, helping
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other people so therefore I could help my own family.
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So tell me, when did that start to happen?
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You're 22.
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So When did you kind of start and say, there's something bigger in me here, and I had this
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burning desire to make a difference in the world.
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And make things different, not just for my, obviously, for myself, but what I hear is that
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your belief is that in making it better for the people around you.
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Yeah.
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I mean, I I wish I could tell you, like, it started yesterday, but, no, I started at a
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young age.
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I was ten years old, And I asked my dad for, Nike Air Forces.
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Nike Air Forces to me was, like, the coolest thing.
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So I asked my dad for Nike Air Forces.
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And he couldn't get it from me.
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He did and he didn't get it from you.
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And I realized that I had to go get it myself, but I was grateful because I had a home to live
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in.
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I had a shelter and so on and so forth.
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And so I set out to, you know, start my own business to be able to make that money.
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And when I was out there, I started realizing that I'm not doing the same thing that other
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people are doing.
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I'm eleven years old, and I'm pretty much, you know, I'm pretty much running my own
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landscaping business because I would go door to door door to door during these, the winter time
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I was so old there's snow at 11, twelve, thirteen years old.
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So that that idea just kinda came about or you thought Well, I wanna be able to make my own
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money.
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I want to be able to build something.
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Do do you remember how you were thinking back then?
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I mean, consider consider it, like, consider it like this.
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Right?
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A ten, eleven year old young boy goes to his parents and he says, can you get me this?
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My friends have this this Xbox.
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My friend has this program.
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These games, can you get it to me?
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All happy and excited.
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The parents say, Yes.
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And they never get it.
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Mhmm.
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But in worst case scenario, sometimes the parents say no, and they they don't get it for
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him.
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Then he comes back.
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Can you get me these clothes?
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I want these clothes and the parents say, no.
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Then he comes back.
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You know, he leaves sad, but he comes back another day.
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He says, can you give me a computer, dad?
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Please, my friend got a computer.
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I want a computer, and the parents say no.
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And then the kid realizes through conversations that the parents don't have the money.
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They they they're they're at a level where, you know, they're just getting by because the
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parents really don't have the money.
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So I knew that I had to go get the money myself.
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And who has my money?
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My neighbor has my money.
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I, you know, I gotta do something good for my neighbor for him to give me money.
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Right.
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So across the street, is the guy must have been, like, sixty, eighty years, seventy years
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old.
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And, to me, any anything above eighteen was
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old.
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Woah.
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Hey.
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Like, like, I remember seeing to to myself, oh, that guy, like, 20 years old.
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I will take that personally, Andy.
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I'm just listening.
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I'm 20 I'm 22.
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So, therefore, at myself, I was old.
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So, So then I I look across the street.
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I'm like, well, this guy is, you know, he's pretty old.
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If I show up with the snow and he doesn't have to, Maybe he'll give me a few bucks.
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I go across and I ask him.
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I say, hey, John, his name is John.
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I say, hey, John, can I, shovel your yard for you?
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And I'll charge you $10.
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He's like, no.
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Thank you.
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And I'm like, okay.
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Maybe he's just not my customer.
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So let me go to the next door.
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I go to the next door and they said, yes.
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And they pay me 10 bucks.
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And I'm like, woah.
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I I got I got the money in my hand.
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You know, I'm looking at the money.
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I'm like, I got the money in my hand.
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Okay.
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Okay.
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There must be more out there for me.
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The sneakers cost 200 bucks.
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There must be more out there for me.
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So I keep on going door to door, door to door, door to door, to get that money.
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And our and in the interim, I'm helping other people.
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I'm helping people who don't wanna be out in the snow, getting frostbite.
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And and, you know, I was out there late at night.
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I'm telling you, I was eleven years old, Roxanne, when I did that.
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Wow.
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Wow.
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So I realized at a young age that there was more for me.
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And was those type of situations that kind of propelled the mindset of there's more.
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There's more.
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There's more.
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There's more.
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So you started a cell phone business, when I read your bio, not to how old were you when you
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started the cell phone, business.
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And I I know at the prior to starting, speaking and, working a lot with a lot of, speakers that
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you had, quite a lot of staff working for for you.
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So tell tell us a bit about that.
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I I I I go in the story very deeply in my book no no more average where your audience can get
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the book at no more average book.com.
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I go very in the book.
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And I what happened really was because because of these experiences of giving a product or
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giving a service that actually helps someone else that people give me money for, I learned
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that I can actually become my own boss.
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So when I I entered the workforce at age sixteen, I started working at Wendy's.
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Right?
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And even while I was working at Wendy's, I still had the side hustle of making my own
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money based on, my own thoughts and my own ideas.
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So I was working at Wendy's getting paid $200 a week and I was selling cell phones on the site.
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So and I'll have a psychic at a time or whatever phone is Android.
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And I would use it, then I would sell it, get a new phone, and so on and so forth.
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And then I started selling sneakers.
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I got I realized there was a need a need or a want for sneakers in my school.
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This is around when I was in high school.
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And people were paying ridiculous amounts of money rocks in, ridiculous amounts of money.
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So what I tell you that a sneaker that costs a $160.
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Somebody would pay $300 for it.
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I said, wait.
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I might have myself a business here.
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And I use that money to propel my other business, my other businesses.
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So here's an example.
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I worked for 4 weeks at, Wendy's.
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I make $800.
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A sneaker is set to release in in in 4 weeks.
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So I use that $800 and I go out and I buy sneakers.
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$800 worth of sneakers.
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And then I flip each sneaker for an extra $100 in profit.
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That's how my business really started working.
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And but I I know that, you know, there's levels to business.
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You could be making a couple $100 and that's a business.
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You could be making a couple 1,000,000.
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That's a
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business.
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Right.
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So I wanted to expand.
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And I knew that if I go into commission sales, I might be able to make more money in a shorter
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amount of time.
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Right.
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So I go into commission sales working at MetroPCS.
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Got a job at MetroPCS.
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I work at MetroPCS.
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I get a mentor that his he owned a company.
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He owned 10 businesses of MetroPCS.
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And I was working in the front of the store that his office was behind me.
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And I would notice and pick up little things as to how he's operating his business.
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I would listen to him training employees.
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I would listen to him firing employees, and he would tell me, you know, this is he this is how
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you hire a person.
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This is are you, you know, fire person?
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And then I remember walking in the back, like, hey.
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What are you doing?
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Oh, I'm doing payroll.
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What is payroll?
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You know, what what is that?
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I'm a 8 head.
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This is me being eighteen.
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What is payroll?
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And he'll tell me payrolls when you do this, you do that, you do this, you do that.
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I was saying, okay.
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Awesome.
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So I started learning more about business.
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After a year of learning that information from my mentor, a coworker of mine who was a friend
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as well.
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He said I believe in you, Andy, I think you should open up your own self control.
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You just have so much knowledge.
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After overcoming some fear and battling that fear and winning over that fear, I opened up my
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first store at 19.
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That first store became, that first store generated about a $100,000 6 months.
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And I said, I got something in my hands right now.
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I grew the business to 4 businesses, to four locations with, 14 employees, in in 30 people
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at its peak.
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So fourteen people on on average.
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And I was twenty years old running that running that business.
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So, yes, that is my background in the cell phone business.
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You said something kind of important, and I think I'm curious.
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So I'm I'm gonna assume that the listeners are also curious.
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You said you felt the fear And what did you do with the fear?
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Because you know what?
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Whether you're 22 or 50 or 60, as an entrepreneur, There's always that kind of place
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in the back of your mind going, I don't know who, you know, who thinks they can do it.
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I'm not so sure.
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That fear crops up with all of us when we're gonna do something big.
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So how how'd you how'd you kinda get past that?
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Look, I realized this at a young at a young age, really, that we're all gonna die.
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You know, I realized, and that's how I'm a lot of fear is that we're we're gonna die.
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You know, I'm very fearful.
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I'm a very fearful human being as many other people are because it's navy how my body wants
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to survive.
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It says that you might go broke if you, you know, if you join this venture or, you know,
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you whatever whatever, you know, my brain thinks.
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But I realized that at one point, I was born, but I also at one point, I'm dying.
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And no one's gonna get out alive, so I'm gonna die.
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And when I get scared, I just think about that point that I'm gonna die regardless if I do it
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or not, I'm gonna die.
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And I just I just do it.
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Whether it be a large investment of myself.
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That's probably the most fearful things I've ever had where I had to invest into myself.
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So give us give us an example.
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Of something that you did and you thought, oh, wow.
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How I don't know how I'm gonna do this, but I'm gonna take this step and you did it anyway.
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Give give tell tell the viewer tell the listeners what you did.
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Like, like, an example of that.
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When I was when I was nineteen years old and I saved up $7000.
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Right?
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I saved it at $7 to move out of my parents' home.
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I wanted to leave.
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So I had the money.
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And then when my friend suggests that I opened up that business, Boom.
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It's like a rush of fear smacking in the face.
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Why would you do that?
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You know, you don't know.
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You're like, you you never ran a business before.
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You never got out there, why would you do that?
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And it starts rushing into my head, and I started thinking of reason why it won't work.
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Okay.
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Okay.
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Which I which I think is kinda normal, right, for most people when they're when they're
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stepping into something big, all of a sudden, the ego kinda step in and says, oh my god.
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You can't do this.
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And when you take that step into it, things shift.
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100100 percent 100%.
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But I'm happy I made that investment because I wouldn't be here because my mindset wouldn't
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have ex expanded to what I'm what I'm working on right now and what I believe that I can go
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towards.
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Cause if I didn't start there, I would still be trying to flip, you know, cell phones for a
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hundred bucks or I would still be working on some sneakers or things on the side.
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You know what I'm saying?
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Right.
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But you have to you started somewhere and you expanded your mindset to believe that the next
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step is bigger, and that's where I need to be.
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And even though I'm feeling the fears from what you're saying, however you motivate yourself,
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whether it's by I'm afraid, or, or I'm fearful of death, you did something that shifted that
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ability to go up the next step.
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And since then, you've obviously written the book.
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So tell us Tell us what kind of how did that idea come about?
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Like, did you come up with it on your own?
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Did you I know you hang out with some pretty heavy hitters, speakers and stuff like that.
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Tell me where the the birth of the idea for the book came from.
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Okay.
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So so but, you know, to finish up the conversation about fear, yes.
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I still feel the fear.
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I still feel it.
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And I still decide to go after what it is that I'm pursuing regardless of how I feel of that
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fear because I know that my dreams lie on the other side.
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So I go after my dreams, not not after the sickness mesa coming to the fear, the feeling
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of fear.
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Now, now, about about the book, about about the book no more accurate.
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I was smoking weed.
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I was actually smoking a smoking a blunt, and I'm around I'm around a few individuals, and
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they're passing the blunt.
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In in a in a circular in a circular pattern.
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That's how you take your hit.
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You pass it to the to the left.
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You take your hit.
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You pass it to you pass it with your left hand to the right.
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So I passed it, and I'm like, thinking to myself, I'm like, yo, this this people that I'm
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around, this is as I'm a business owner, I'm I'm a nineteen year old business owner.
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I have employees.
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I have payroll, and I'm saying to myself, I'm not supposed to be here.
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Like, I I'm looking at these individuals.
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I'm like, they're, you know, they they they may have some love for me that you care for me, but
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I'm not supposed to be here.
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I'm thinking to myself, look, I'm average.
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This I'm just like them.
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Yeah.
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I'm doing the same thing that they're doing.
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It's cool.
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I got my own business school.
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I got my own car that I'm paying people.
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I got my own money, but I'm average.
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And scenarios like that played throughout my life a lot.
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Where I realized that innately, I'm supposed to be living a different life, but outside
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externally, I'm doing what everyone else is doing, which is average.
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Average is defined as mimicking the efforts and ideas of other people.
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So the people that are around me had an an influence on me to do what they were doing,
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smoking weed, chilling and relaxing all day when I knew that I was supposed to be doing
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something greater with my wife.
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And that's what the book is really based on.
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Doing what you know that you wanna do, now what people have you doing around them.
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And it all starts with the different types of influences that you have.
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So I I'm assuming you you made that change, with the people that you hang around.
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I mean, we were just in New York, and I kind of saw the people that you hung with, and they're
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got they're people, not just men, but also women that are be doing big things in the
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world.
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Yeah.
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11100%.
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I don't hang around with the same type of individuals that I hang around, that I hang
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around with many years ago.
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I've expanded my network so much that I I really don't have the time to even fathom those
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thoughts to hang around with this type of individuals anymore.
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And my caliber of friends have changed as well.
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Absolutely.
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So tell us what tell us, you know, for the and I know I'm picking on millennials and it
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doesn't, but I think you really have a voice speak to young people because what we know is
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happening today, unfortunately, that a lot of younger people are having issues with anxiety,
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depression, They're they're they're concerned about their future.
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You know, they're thinking, how am I gonna make it in the world?
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You know, so many jobs are not, you know, getting lost Right?
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So you hear a lot of negativity and that they're entitled.
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Right?
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You hear that a lot.
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I they're entitled the world owes them a living.
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So if you were to be speaking to millennials directly right now, and you could give them a
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message, what would you tell them?
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Look.
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I don't have the answer for the fight on millennials.
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Alright?
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I don't have the the the the and I'll be, oh, this is the answer.
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Donald Trump, give me a call.
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I'll tell you.
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I don't have I don't have that that answer.
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But I do have opinions and As a millennial, I think we have a choice.
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And we we are knowledgeable.
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See, We are knowledgeable human beings that has a choice to make.
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You know exactly what it is that you want to do with your life.
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Now this is why I believe that millennials are so so much directionless.
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They they they think they don't have directionless because they're living in the
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average fear of being told what to do and going after that.
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Right?
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So here's an example of what millennials actually go through a real world example.
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You're eighteen years old.
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You just graduated, college.
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High school.
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You know in the back of your brain that you wanna go and you wanna do dance.
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You wanna be a dancer.
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This young girl wants to be a dancer.
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Her mom says, no.
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You're going to school to be a doctor.
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Doctors are where the people make money.
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Now this girl wants to make her mom happy.
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So she says, okay.
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I'll go to school.
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I'll be I'll go to school.
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I listen to what you say.
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You never stand me wrong.
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I'll go to school and do that.
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Now here's why they don't succeed in both.
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It's because they're half heartedly.
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They go to school to become the doctor but in the back of their brain, I should be doing
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this.
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I should be dancing.
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I don't know why I'm here.
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And then, therefore, they're not actually going after the doctor the way that they should be,
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and they're not going after the the dancing the way that should be.
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So now they became they become stuck.
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Right.
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And they live their life stuck for so long that now they're depending on other people's
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information.
21:25
Ma'am, what do I do now?
21:26
Like, you told me to be a doctor.
21:28
There's no doctor jobs.
21:29
Like, what do I do now, ma'am?
21:31
You know, gotta give me something because you're telling me go get money.
21:33
I can't get money because there's no there's no work for me, but I wanted to be a dancer and I
21:37
would have been great at it, but I didn't do that because I listened to you.
21:40
So, you give it to me.
21:41
Do I do now?
21:43
And it's given to them.
21:46
These things are given to them.
21:48
When you look at, you know, homeless personalities, even homeless people get help.
21:53
So it's like everyone is entitled to something now.
21:55
It's like this feeling of I'm entitled to something.
21:58
When you're homeless and living on a skid row, people give you food.
22:01
So it's like, I want the food that you're supposed to give me.
22:03
You know, I want I want the food that you're supposed to give me.
22:06
So what I was trying to say is that if you go after what it is that you truly want, you'll
22:12
realize the hard work that it actually takes to get there.
22:15
You'll realize that you're not entitled to anything.
22:17
But if you are going with us, you are going to ride the other people tell you to go to.
22:21
And when you start hitting those roadblocks, you look at other people to tell you what to do
22:26
next or to just give it to you.
22:28
Really?
22:28
And what what you're you're talking about is really what this show is based on, which is to
22:32
live authentically, right, which is to listen to what is deep down inside like the dancer,
22:38
right, to to really live that value, because, you know, if we live outside of ourselves, and
22:46
we hit those bumps.
22:47
Guess what happens?
22:48
We we fall down, we smack our face, and then we get up, and we think, my life sucks.
22:54
But if we fall down when we've got a vision and we're listening to the fact that I want to you
23:00
know, I want to play the piano, I want to be a lawyer, or I want to own my own business and
23:04
you fall down, you still have that deep down inside desire.
23:09
To make a difference with what you do.
23:11
So you're talking about listening, and that listening becomes focus.
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Is that correct?
23:17
Listening to yourself, sir.
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Yes.
23:19
Absolutely.
23:19
Absolutely.
23:20
Listening a 100% to to yourself.
23:24
So so tell us a little bit about you speaking because, I I had the privilege
23:29
of, you know, coming out to see you in
23:29
New York, with Les Brown and, Omar Perio, some really, you know, big guys, you know, and, what
23:40
lovely people, by the way, and had an amazing experience.
23:43
So tell tell you know, I kind of know the story, but I I'd like the the the listeners to
23:48
to know kinda how you kind of here's this new circle, and you're you're the person connecting
23:54
with me that gets me on stage with Les Brown you know, and I'm like, this guy's 22, and he's
24:00
getting me on stage with Les Brown.
24:01
Wow.
24:01
I gotta I gotta get to know this young man.
24:03
So tell.
24:04
Tell them that there's a little bit about how you kind of got around, these individuals and
24:09
some of the the circles that you're continuing to get, introduced to.
24:14
A similar to similar to what's going on.
24:21
I hear, like, a echo.
24:23
Is that what you're saying?
24:24
I don't know.
24:25
I don't hear it on my end.
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I'm okay.
24:27
Okay.
24:28
Okay.
24:28
I think I think we're good.
24:29
I'm good.
24:30
Okay.
24:30
We're good.
24:31
We're good.
24:32
We're good.
24:32
So, like, similar to when I was scared to make that investment, of that $7000 in the in my
24:37
business when I first started, right, in the cell phone business.
24:41
And I had that fear.
24:42
I had to make an investment in myself to to kind of like join the the Les Brown Institute
24:48
and join the inner circle of of Les Brown.
24:52
And I because I I noticed that there's a lot of people that talk, but there's not a lot of
24:57
people that show up.
24:58
And as as I get more and more into this business, like, you're someone who you showed
25:02
up, you invested into yourself to to to start speaking and start developing your brand as
25:07
well as I did with myself.
25:09
And there were perks that you got for, for doing that, and as well as myself.
25:12
So when I invested into myself, earlier, the earlier last year, to start working with Les
25:19
Brown, I I had to overcome a lot of fear and a lot of doubt.
25:23
I think what blocks me is, or blocked my progress was my doubt and and and my abilities.
25:30
Being 21, being black, And and the and all these things that I, like, that came to my
25:36
mind, like, all these reasons that came to my mind.
25:37
So I had to overcome the fear and overcome the doubt and actually invest myself on a continual
25:43
basis in order to grow my to grow my business.
25:46
So when I grew, when I invested myself, it didn't stop there.
25:51
I started work.
25:52
I started getting in the in a circle, not necessarily.
25:56
I started getting, like, around the type of people who were, you know, less Brown and less
26:02
Brown's children and and, the the exec using his company.
26:06
I started getting around them That wasn't part of it.
26:09
Just yeah.
26:09
It took a lot of time, and it took a lot of work, and it took a lot more investment.
26:13
But eventually, when I kept on working my way in, I was around so much that I became part of
26:20
the circle.
26:21
Right?
26:21
I kept on continually investing to the point that I I became part of the circle.
26:26
And it came to a point where it's, like, without Andy, something's missing, you know,
26:31
like, like, some something's missing.
26:33
So so, therefore, I can't I became part of the team that way.
26:37
I had just continued to show up.
26:38
You know, nothing's gonna happen to like, I think about it that I thought about it the
26:43
other day.
26:44
I live in Los Angeles, the office, the Les Brown office, when, they were there most of the
26:50
time, was in Miami.
26:52
And I remember sitting in the office one day, and someone says, hey.
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Where do you live?
26:57
I said Los Angeles.
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And they said, how do you live in LA?
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You're always here.
27:02
You must live, like, down the street or something.
27:04
I was like, no.
27:06
I live in LA.
27:07
I live in on the other side of the country.
27:09
And I was I was showing up as much as someone who lived in Florida was.
27:13
I just kept on showing up.
27:14
And I focused on I focused on, like, one core group to to be with.
27:21
Because I realized, like, if I want, if, like, less, Tony Robbins has programs and, Grande
27:28
Cardon has programs and, who else?
27:30
Who else is it?
27:32
That there's there's another guy.
27:33
That'd be all.
27:34
Canfield, maybe?
27:36
Jan.
27:36
Canfield.
27:36
Yeah.
27:37
Jack had he has programs.
27:38
So, Chris, Greg Reed, Greg Reid, who he has programs as well.
27:43
So it's like, If I if I was hopping around, I would have gotten the the best exposure because
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it would have been like, oh, I came once and like, who was that person?
27:52
Who was that black guy?
27:53
So I didn't want that.
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I knew that to commit.
27:56
I remember saying to myself, I'm committing to do whatever it takes.
28:00
I said to myself, bandwidth, by any means, whatever it takes, by doing any means necessary
28:05
by and doing whatever it takes.
28:07
So I kept on showing up, kept on showing up, kept on showing up to the point where they were
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like, Yeah.
28:11
Without ending, this is kinda weird.
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Like, why is it ending here?
28:13
Now I became part of part of the team because I kept on so I kept on being there.
28:18
And then eventually, that's really how it it all started for me.
28:21
She kept on showing up, continually investing myself, being there so much that Where's Andy?
28:27
You know, Connor?
28:28
That's why that's the kind of what I wanted to happen.
28:30
Where's Andy at?
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Like, where's Waldo?
28:34
Where's Andy?
28:35
Yeah.
28:35
Yeah.
28:35
Yeah.
28:35
If I'm not there, it's like, it's like, where's Andy?
28:38
And people thought I lived in Miami, what I actually lived in, I lived in LA.
28:43
I just was always there.
28:44
So you just hopped on a plane as much as possible and you were available and learning
28:48
and and just kind of downloading all the information that you needed to kind of get
28:52
where you are today?
28:54
Yeah.
28:54
I hopped on a plane.
28:55
Like, if I if I can tell you how many times I've been on a plane, from LA to Miami early,
29:00
earlier this year, it's I couldn't count my fingers.
29:02
I can tell you that one.
29:03
I can't count my fingers.
29:05
We're we're only talking about a few months.
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We're only talking like, like, I was on the phone.
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I'm I'm betting speakers right now, working with different speakers who wants to get off
29:13
stage.
29:14
And I was on the phone with someone, and I was telling them about how many times that I'll
29:19
travel to go after, you know, what it is that I want.
29:23
How many times do I get on a plane to go, you know, get what I want?
29:26
So, yeah, hop on the plan as much as you can.
29:29
If it if the people that are listening, hop on the plan as much as you can and get around the
29:32
right people and watch your business propel.
29:35
I've only been doing this for, since February.
29:40
It's not it hasn't been here yet.
29:42
February.
29:42
Wow.
29:43
I I wouldn't have known that.
29:44
I thought it was longer than that.
29:46
So you've done massive things in in less than a year.
29:51
Yeah.
29:52
Yeah.
29:52
100%.
29:53
First and foremost, I gotta give it to god because you know, I believe that this vision
29:57
was given to me.
29:59
I remember when I was last year, when I was running on Figueroa Street, and I saw myself on
30:04
stage with Les Brown, I believe that vision was given to me.
30:07
Right?
30:08
And it was, like, my job to actually fulfill that.
30:10
I don't know.
30:10
You've been
30:11
writing and you saw an image of being on on stage with Les Brown.
30:15
It just came in your mind.
30:16
Well, actually, actually, this is what happened.
30:19
I was running on Figuero.
30:20
I was, you know, trying to lose weight I was listening to a lot of rap music in my ear.
30:24
And I remember listening to, Ace Hood, and he was talking about motivation going out and get
30:29
hungry.
30:29
And I was running about 22 to 24 minutes per mile.
30:33
Every mile was 20, you know, 24 minutes long.
30:36
I changed the stuff that I was listening to, and I started listening to Les Brown,
30:41
motivational stuff, Eric Thomas, motivational things on on YouTube.
30:46
That time of 22 minutes decreased after, you know, doing a few weeks of training, that time
30:51
decreased all the way to 8 minutes.
30:53
And minutes per mile now.
30:55
I'm I I remember I was running.
30:58
I was like I was like, am I really You know, I'm really doing this.
31:02
I remember that, like, today.
31:04
I was working with You
31:05
diced it in a third.
31:07
What's that?
31:08
You diced your time in the third.
31:10
I was I was so shocked as to what my body was able to do.
31:15
I went home and I said, look.
31:17
Look, this is crazy, dude.
31:18
I've never ever ran under 10 minutes in my life.
31:22
And that's a power of visualization.
31:24
And and I I'm gonna tell the story of how I met you.
31:27
And, I I'm trying to remember, initially, if I reached out to you or you had reached out to
31:32
me, And you had offered me the opportunity to get on stage, with less, and I didn't realize
31:39
it.
31:39
You just reached out.
31:40
I don't know if you explicitly said it.
31:43
At at which one?
31:44
Say say that one more time?
31:45
The first the first event that you had in California.
31:48
Yeah.
31:49
You had reached out, and we I when I look back, there was a dialogue between me and you.
31:55
And I didn't realize at that point, you know, the extent of what you were doing.
31:59
And I didn't realize that Les Brown was one of the speakers at that time.
32:03
I went back after accepting the opportunity in December and looked back at my old email, my
32:10
the old's messengers, and it said, you and I could it said the opportunity to speak with
32:15
speak with let my mindset, obviously, I must have missed it.
32:20
Something happened.
32:21
And what happened to me was talking about visualization and the power of mindset was
32:27
probably about, well, I was in we were on stage in December on 6th.
32:33
And about 6 weeks before that, I had done a vision board.
32:37
And I'm the vision board.
32:39
I had written who I wanted to be on on stage with.
32:42
And in the middle, of a couple of names was Les Brown.
32:46
And I completely I would look at the vision board, but not every day.
32:49
And not until you and I talked again, and I was actually making the the the, arrangement to go
32:57
I look back at my vision board, and I'm like, oh my goodness.
33:02
Here's Mister Les Brown right on my vision board, and I hadn't stopped to realize it.
33:09
Right?
33:10
So that was 7 weeks prior to me being in New York City.
33:14
So so what I remember is that you contacted me, You contacted me earlier in the year for my
33:20
first event.
33:21
Right.
33:22
And we talked about you investing to speak at my first event.
33:25
Right.
33:26
And you declined and you, for some reason, you declined.
33:29
But then you after that event you put on your vision board that you wanted to speak on a same
33:33
stage of Les Brown.
33:34
Right.
33:35
And then at after my event, you reached out to me again.
33:39
You we were talking about you speaking on one of my stages and you said And then and then
33:45
what and then what happened?
33:46
Realize the first stage was was with Les Brown.
33:49
Gotcha.
33:50
Gotcha.
33:50
I didn't even realize that.
33:52
Nor did I realize that I really wanted to speak with Les Brown until I looked back at my vision
33:56
board and I went, I'd put, you know, a couple of names on there, like, Mary Folio and, you
34:03
know, different people, and then I put Les Brown.
34:05
So it's a power of that visualization, even though you're maybe not doing it every single
34:10
day.
34:11
And, you know, when I came back, after speaking, I pulled it out again, and it's a
34:15
little bit rubbed off, but it's right there.
34:18
You did reach out to me, and and we did.
34:21
I did get you on stage and you did speak, on stage with less ground.
34:24
Like, how was your experience with
34:25
this?
34:26
It was it was, you know, all I can say is what amazing one, that that was an amazing
34:32
experience for me.
34:33
And what made my day even further was when, I was telling less about my son who is just he
34:41
listens to motivational tapes.
34:42
I told him I was going to New York, and he says, mom, of course, I know Les Brown.
34:46
I've been living listening to him forever.
34:48
So I'm telling less historic, because I'm, you know, I know I figure this man's gonna be busy.
34:52
He's not gonna be able to have time.
34:54
And then what does he do?
34:57
He calls RJ.
34:59
Did you call yes.
35:01
He
35:01
called he called your son.
35:02
Okay.
35:03
Yeah.
35:03
I don't know if you knew that.
35:05
No.
35:05
I He
35:06
spoke to him, and he said so he said, I heard your mom says you're doing amazing things.
35:10
You listen to motivational tapes all the time.
35:13
They had a conversation and then less said to him, look, you're a driven young man.
35:18
If at 16, you've been doing this.
35:20
He says, if you want me to mentor you I will mentor you because you sound like the kind of
35:24
kid that's gonna do big things in the world.
35:26
And I was I I was speechless.
35:29
Because I, you know, I did not ex here I am.
35:32
Obviously, I'm going there, you know, to, you know, build my brand, to be around, you know,
35:37
these individuals, especially less.
35:38
And then he does this, and I'm, I'm low.
35:41
I am, like, speechless.
35:42
And all I get from my son after is, mom, You're the bomb.
35:47
That's all I got.
35:48
I went I went alright.
35:50
If I
35:50
got to a sixteen year old, I think I've I've been I've been doing pretty good.
35:54
So it's just amazing.
35:56
That experience blew my mind.
35:59
Being on stage was fantastic.
36:02
I was completely in the moment.
36:04
You know, the business that I've gotten from there has been outstanding.
36:08
And I'm I'm I've I've created a lot of contacts since being in New York.
36:14
So without a doubt, like you're right, it's it's about mindset, expanding what you what you
36:20
think is possible, feeling the fear because we all like to stay in that comfort zone.
36:24
Right?
36:24
Cause that's the that's the that's the brain trying to protect us.
36:28
And as soon as we get out of that comfort zone, what happens It says step back.
36:32
Don't get off the sidewalk.
36:33
You're gonna get smart.
36:34
Right?
36:35
And then we feel like that, and then we wanna kinda run away.
36:38
And you're so right when you say stepping into it means feeling the fear and just going with
36:43
it because, that's where, real things happen is on the other side.
36:48
100%.
36:49
Man, I'm happy to, you know, get you experienced that.
36:51
And that's the thing.
36:52
I can't, you know, I wish I could have told you that, you know, ahead of time that, hey, this
36:56
is what's gonna happen, and I can't All I know is this one thing, and I know this one thing I
37:01
believe in this.
37:01
There is opportunity in the show up.
37:04
Mhmm.
37:05
That investment actually made in in my opinion was was nominal compared to what you received
37:10
with less getting starting a relationship with your son and and, you know, the the
37:14
relationship that you're starting with less there's opportunity in the show.
37:18
And when this op when they really show up, you receive opportunities.
37:21
And I the thing is I can't tell someone, like, I'm I just got off the phone, a few minutes ago
37:26
with a potential speaker, and I can't tell someone, hey.
37:29
You're gonna receive this opportunity.
37:30
That's why it doesn't work that way.
37:33
Just show up.
37:34
Well, I mean, and and when he did that, I thought he was kidding.
37:37
Right?
37:38
I thought, minimally, I'll get a picture.
37:39
Maybe I'll take a little video.
37:41
And then when he took the time, that showed me the depth of the people that you were really
37:46
surrounded with.
37:47
When I saw what he was like, he was so gracious and kind And, you know, for me, that just made
37:53
my experience just one of those, pinnacles of, things that I can I will remember in in in my
37:59
kind of, my foray into, you know, speaking full time?
38:03
So so tell me tell me, what What, do you wanna leave with the viewers?
38:10
Is there anything I keep saying viewers, listeners, and, obviously, the viewers, when
38:15
this goes on YouTube, What would you like people to, walk away knowing about you?
38:21
I also want you to tell them where they can buy your book, where they can get ahold of you,
38:26
those types of things.
38:28
Well, 1st of foremost, look, I'm about to write a bill that's called that.
38:31
Like, there's opportunity in a short Right?
38:35
I've I found my business repelling very at a rapid pace because I continue to show up.
38:41
To the point where people are gonna be like, wait.
38:43
I don't want to be the person that people are like, what happened to that one person?
38:48
You know, I wanna be the person that they know my name and they know my story, they don't, and
38:52
so on and so forth.
38:52
So you gotta continue showing up.
38:54
And I believe there was opportunity when you show up.
38:57
You just gotta do that.
38:58
So that's the that's my that's my biggest take this.
39:01
If you if you get anything from me, if your viewers get anything from me, it's you gotta
39:05
show up.
39:07
When I touched that stage, for example, on December 6th, And all the stages that I've been
39:10
on this year is I realized that I'm the youngest person to touch those stages.
39:16
And I and I I always think about, you know, why?
39:20
Why?
39:20
How am I am I doing this?
39:22
It's because I continue to show up in comparison to when others don't.
39:27
Right?
39:27
I continue to show up.
39:29
So when you show up, there's gonna be an opportunity for you.
39:32
Just waiting for you.
39:33
Absolutely.
39:34
And and where people can buy my book, no more average.
39:38
It's at no more average book.com.
39:40
That is no more average book.com.
39:43
And you could've, you know, get in contact with me at NDR date, a n d y a u d a t e n d r date
39:50
on all social media platforms.
39:53
Awesome.
39:53
Well, it's been a pleasure as usual.
39:55
And, I know I know This is a beginning of a friendship, you know, I don't know if I have
40:01
many twenty two year olds as friends, but I'm telling you you're an old soul for sure.
40:06
You you you've been here before.
40:07
You've probably heard that.
40:08
Right?
40:10
And it's it's a pleasure.
40:11
And, I know I'll probably be seeing you very soon.
40:15
Actually, I remember I was on the phone with Eric Solar and Charlie Chino.
40:19
I was on the phone with both of them, but I I introduced them together.
40:22
And they were, you know, having a little talk with each other back and forth, and it was
40:27
about to be, Eric's birthday.
40:30
The day we had an event in New York.
40:32
We had a we had a bigger event in New York.
40:34
It was Eric's birthday at that time.
40:35
And we're we're celebrating his birthday.
40:37
And Charlie's like, happy birthday.
40:39
How old are you?
40:39
Eric's like, I'm 2051.
40:41
And Charlie's like, oh, I'm 51.
40:43
I'm good.
40:44
I did this myself.
40:45
I said, I'm quitting too.
40:48
You know, I'm I'm cool.
40:50
I I do get around this type of people, so you are my friend.
40:53
It's both.
40:53
Well, you know what?
40:54
And I'm 51, and I'm gonna be 52.
40:56
So I can I can join the the club with the other 2 guys?
41:00
So Enjoy the 50 plus group in my phone.
41:02
That's it.
41:03
You know, the the that's a new 40, for sure.
41:06
50 is a new 40.
41:08
So I again, thank you and I wanna thank the listeners for, you know, listening and please
41:14
reach out to Andy.
41:15
If you have any questions, I know he would he would be as gracious he was with me, to answer
41:20
any questions that you have.
41:22
And thanks again for listening to, living authentically with Roxanne, and I hope to chat
41:28
with you again soon.
41:29
Take care.
41:30
Thank you so much for asking.
41:31
Okay.
41:31
Take care.
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Stop it altogether.
41:38
You know, no.
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