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Holy Spirit Warning_ 5 Types of Relationships You Need to End · truthunedited

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Speaker 1: Picture this, a shepherd in the Judean wilderness, watching his
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Speaker 1: flock under a sky painted with stars that witnessed creation itself.
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Speaker 1: The wind carries whispers of an ancient truth, a truth
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Speaker 1: that has echoed through every generation since the Garden of Eden.
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Speaker 1: It's the voice that warned Noah before the flood, that
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Speaker 1: pulled Lot from Sodom's destruction, that separated Abraham from his
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Speaker 1: father's house, the same voice that speaks today. But here's
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Speaker 1: what most believers never discover. The Holy Spirit has been
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Speaker 1: trying to tell you something about the people in your
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Speaker 1: life right now, this very moment. There are relationships draining
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Speaker 1: your destiny, poisoning your purpose, and blocking the very blessings
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Speaker 1: God promised you. The question is, are you listening before
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Speaker 1: we step into this ancient mystery that could change everything
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Speaker 1: about your spiritual future. I need you to do something crucial.
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Speaker 1: what you're about to do discover has been hidden in
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Speaker 1: plain sight for centuries, and you cannot afford to miss
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Speaker 1: what comes next. Now, let me show you what the
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Speaker 1: Spirit has been whispering to your soul in the dust
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Speaker 1: covered archives of biblical wisdom. Lies a pattern so consistent,
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Speaker 1: so undeniable, that once you see it, you'll never view
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Speaker 1: your relationships the same way again. From the moment God
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Speaker 1: walked in Eden's garden, calling where are you, he established
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Speaker 1: a fundamental spiritual law. Proximity matters who you walk with,
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Speaker 1: determines where you end up. The ancient Hebrews understood this
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Speaker 1: with crystalline clarity. Their entire social structure was built around
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Speaker 1: the concept of hava, sacred fellowship. They knew that iron
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Speaker 1: sharpens iron, but rust corrupts both blades. Throughout Scripture, we
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Speaker 1: witness this divine principle in action. God commanding Abraham to
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Speaker 1: leave his country, his people, his father's household, Moses leading
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Speaker 1: Israel away from Egyptian bondage, not just geographically but relationally.
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Speaker 1: Jesus carefully selecting twelve, knowing one would betray him, Paul
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Speaker 1: warning Timothy about those who have a form of Godliness
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Speaker 1: but deny its power. These weren't casual suggestions. They were
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Speaker 1: life or death instructions. And today, in this hour of
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Speaker 1: unprecedented spiritual warfare, the Holy Spirit is sounding the same
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Speaker 1: alarm he's always sounded. There are five specific types of
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Speaker 1: relationships that right now are standing between you and everything
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Speaker 1: God prepared for your future. Let's begin with something most
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Speaker 1: Christians never learn in Sunday School. The Holy Spirit speaks
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Speaker 1: in frequencies your flesh cannot understand. It's that unexplainable discomfort
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Speaker 1: you feel around certain people, that spiritual unrest you can't
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Speaker 1: quite name. The ancient prophets called it discernment, the ability
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Speaker 1: to sense what exists beyond the visible realm. And here's
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Speaker 1: the shocking truth. You've been ignoring it for years. Think
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Speaker 1: about Elijah on Mount Horeb. He didn't hear God in
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Speaker 1: the earthquake, the fire, or the mighty wind. God spoke
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Speaker 1: in a whisper, a still small voice. That same whisper
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Speaker 1: has been trying to get your attention about someone in
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Speaker 1: your life. Maybe it's that friend who always leaves you
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Speaker 1: feeling empty, that family member who twists your words, that
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Speaker 1: colleague who drains your energy like a spiritual vampire. The
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Speaker 1: Holy Spirit has been warning you, but you've been too polite,
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Speaker 1: too accommodating, too afraid of what others might think to
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Speaker 1: actually listen. Here's what the Spirit is trying to tell
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Speaker 1: you about the first type of relationship you need to end.
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Speaker 1: Those who distract you from your divine purpose and waste
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Speaker 1: the irreplaceable currency of your time. Let me paint you
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Speaker 1: a picture from scripture that will make this crystal clear.
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Speaker 1: When Neemiah was rebuilding Jerusalem's walls, his enemies tried everything
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Speaker 1: to stop him. But notice their strategy. In Neemiah six
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Speaker 1: two Soot three, Sanbalat and Gesham sent me this message,
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Speaker 1: Come let us meet together in one of the villages
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Speaker 1: on the plane of Ono. But they were scheming to
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Speaker 1: harm me. So I sent messengers to them with this reply,
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Speaker 1: I am carrying on a great project and cannot go down.
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Speaker 1: Why should the work stop while I leave it and
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Speaker 1: go down to you? Did you catch that? Neemiah understood
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Speaker 1: something most modern believers have forgotten. Every invitation is not ordained,
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Speaker 1: Every relationship is not from God, every connection is not
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Speaker 1: divinely appointed. His enemies wanted a meeting, just a conversation,
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Speaker 1: just a little of his time. But Nehemiah recognized the trap.
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Speaker 1: The plane of Ono would become the plane of oh
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Speaker 1: No if he accepted. They tried four times, four different invitations,
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Speaker 1: four clever approaches, and four times Neemiah said no, because
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Speaker 1: he understood that his time was not his own. It
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Speaker 1: belonged to God's purpose. It belonged to the wall that
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Speaker 1: needed building. It belonged to the destiny he was called
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Speaker 1: to fulfill. Now, let me bring this into your life
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Speaker 1: with laser precision. You have people right now, perhaps reading this.
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Speaker 1: You can see their faces who consume hours of your
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Speaker 1: day with meaningless chatter, surface level entertainment, gossip disguised as
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Speaker 1: catching up, drama masquerading as friendship. These aren't necessarily bad people.
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Speaker 1: They might be kind, funny, even generous. But here's the
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Speaker 1: deadly truth. The Holy Spirit wants you to understand good
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Speaker 1: people in the wrong season become weights that sink your ship.
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Speaker 1: You're not called to save everyone, you're not responsible for
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Speaker 1: everyone's emotional well being, and you cannot fulfill God's purpose
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Speaker 1: for your life while carrying people he never assigned to
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Speaker 1: your journey. Let me show you how serious this is
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Speaker 1: through the lens of eternity. The average human life span
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Speaker 1: is roughly seventy five years. That's about twenty seven, three
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Speaker 1: hundred and seventy five days. If you're fifty years old,
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Speaker 1: you have a approximately nine thousand, one hundred and twenty
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Speaker 1: five days left. Every day you spend in purposeless relationships
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Speaker 1: is a day you'll never get back, a day stolen
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Speaker 1: from your calling, a day lost to eternity. King David
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Speaker 1: understood this when he cried out in Psalm ninety twelve,
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Speaker 1: teach us to number our days, that we may gain
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Speaker 1: a heart of wisdom. He wasn't being morbid. He was
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Speaker 1: being spiritually mature. He recognized that time is the only
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Speaker 1: resource you cannot earn more of, save, or recover once spent.
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Speaker 1: Think about Jesus in three and a half years of
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Speaker 1: public ministry, he transformed human history. But notice what he
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Speaker 1: didn't do. He didn't attend every party, he didn't accept
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Speaker 1: every invitation. He didn't maintain relationships with everyone who wanted
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Speaker 1: access to him. In fact, Scripture records multiple moments when
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Speaker 1: Jesus deliberately withdrew from crowds, from disciples, even from family,
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Speaker 1: to protect his time with the Father and focus on
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Speaker 1: his mission. Mark one thirty five shows us this pattern.
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Speaker 1: Very early in the morning, while it was still dark,
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Speaker 1: Jesus got up, left the house and went off to
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Speaker 1: a solitary place where he prayed. He understood that his
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Speaker 1: time belonged to his purpose, not to everyone's preferences. And
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Speaker 1: here's the part that will sting. Some of the people
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Speaker 1: you're clinging to are the very distractions Jesus would have
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Speaker 1: cut from his life. Let's go deeper into this first
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Speaker 1: deadly relationship type, because the Holy Spirit wants you to
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Speaker 1: understand exactly how these time wasters operate. They come in
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Speaker 1: many disguises, and their tactics are often so subtle that
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Speaker 1: you don't realize you're being robbed until years have vanished.
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Speaker 1: There's the friend who calls every night with the same
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Speaker 1: problems but never takes your advice. The family member who
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Speaker 1: creates constant emergencies that only you can solve. The colleague
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Speaker 1: who wants to just talk for a minute, but monopolizes
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Speaker 1: your entire lunch break with trivia and complaints. These people
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Speaker 1: have one thing in common. They're going in circles while
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Speaker 1: you're support to be advancing. God's Kingdom. Scripture gives us
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Speaker 1: a devastating example of this. In One Kings twenty, King
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Speaker 1: Ahab had just won a miraculous victory over Benhadad, king
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Speaker 1: of arm. God delivered Israel's enemy into Ahab's hands with
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Speaker 1: explicit instructions to destroy him completely, but instead Ahab made
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Speaker 1: a treaty, He entertained the enemy, He negotiated when he
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Speaker 1: should have eliminated, and a prophet came with this piercing
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Speaker 1: message in verse forty two. This is what the Lord says.
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Speaker 1: You have set free a man I had determined should die.
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Speaker 1: Therefore it is your life for his life, your people
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Speaker 1: for his people. Read that again. Ahabs misplaced mercy. His
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Speaker 1: inability to cut off what God said to remove cost
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Speaker 1: him his life and his nation's future. You're doing the
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Speaker 1: same thing with relationships God has marked for removal. You're
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Speaker 1: negotiating when you should be separating. You're being merciful when
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Speaker 1: you should be obedient. Here's how to identify these destiny
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Speaker 1: drainers with prophetic accuracy. First, they consume your time but
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Speaker 1: contribute nothing to your growth. Every conversation leaves you depleted,
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Speaker 1: not deposited into They take and take and take, but
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Speaker 1: when you need support, they're nowhere to be found. Second,
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Speaker 1: they have no vision for their own future, and they
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Speaker 1: resent yours. When you talk about your dreams, goals, or
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Speaker 1: God given assignments, they either mock, minimize, or subtly discourage.
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Speaker 1: Proverbs thirteen twenty warns walk with the wise and become wise.
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Speaker 1: For a companion of fools suffers harm. Notice it doesn't
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Speaker 1: say might suffer harm. It says suffers harm. It's not
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Speaker 1: a possibility, it's a guarantee. Third, they keep you trapped
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Speaker 1: in the past. Their conversations are constant replays of remember
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Speaker 1: when and back in the day. They're comfortable with yesterday
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Speaker 1: because they're terrified of tomorrow, and if you stay connected,
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Speaker 1: you'll be stuck in yesterday with them. But here's where
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Speaker 1: this gets spiritually dangerous. These time wasting relationships don't just
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Speaker 1: steal your schedule, They steal your anointing. Every hour spent
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Speaker 1: in purposeless connection is an hour you didn't spend in prayer,
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Speaker 1: in the word, in developing the gifts God placed inside you,
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Speaker 1: in building the very thing he called you to build.
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Speaker 1: Esther understood this. When Mordecai told her about Hayman's plot
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Speaker 1: to destroy the Jews, he didn't just give her information.
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Speaker 1: He gave her a deadline for such a time as this.
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Speaker 1: He said in Esther four fourteen. This wasn't a generic
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Speaker 1: motivational phrase. It was a prophetic alarm. Your time is now,
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Speaker 1: your moment is here, and if you waste it. Relief
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Speaker 1: will come from somewhere else, but you and your father's
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Speaker 1: family will perish. Esther had a choice maintain comfortable palace
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Speaker 1: relationships or risk everything for her purpose. She chose purpose,
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Speaker 1: and it's saved a nation. You're at the same crossroads
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Speaker 1: right now. The Holy Spirit is asking you. Will you
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Speaker 1: continue entertaining relationships that contribute nothing to your calling, or
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Speaker 1: will you make the hard choice to protect your time
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Speaker 1: like the precious resource it is, because let me tell
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Speaker 1: you something that's going to shake you. There are people
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Speaker 1: in your life right now who ten years from now
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Speaker 1: will be in the exact same place they are today,
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Speaker 1: same complaints, same cycles, same emptiness, and if you don't
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Speaker 1: cut the cord, you'll be right there with them, wondering
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Speaker 1: where your destiny went. You'll be sixty seventy eighty years
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Speaker 1: old looking back at wasted decades spent maintaining connections that
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Speaker 1: God never ordained, while the dreams He planted in your
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Speaker 1: spirit died of neglect. Consider the apostle Paul's words in
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Speaker 1: Philippians three on thirteen to fourteen. Forgetting what is behind
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Speaker 1: and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward
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Speaker 1: the goal to win the prize for which God has
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Speaker 1: called me heavenward. In Christ, Jesus Paul use the word
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Speaker 1: straining the Greek word epectinomeno, which means stretching forward with
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Speaker 1: intense effort, like a runner leaning into the finish line
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Speaker 1: with everything they have. You cannot strain toward your future
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Speaker 1: while being anchored to people who belong to your past.
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Speaker 1: You cannot press forward while being pulled backward. And you
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Speaker 1: absolutely cannot win the prize God prepared for you while
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Speaker 1: carrying people He never assigned to your race. The time
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Speaker 1: has come to stop being polite and start being obedient,
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Speaker 1: To stop being available to everyone, and start being faithful
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Speaker 1: to your assignment. To recognize that no is a complete sentence,
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Speaker 1: and walking away is sometimes the most spiritual thing you
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Speaker 1: can do. Now we arrive at the second type of relationship.
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Speaker 1: The Holy Spirit is warning you to end immediately the gossips,
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Speaker 1: the betrayers of confidence, the people who weaponize your secrets.
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Speaker 1: And I need you to understand something before we go further.
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Speaker 1: This isn't just about hurt feelings or broken trust. This
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Speaker 1: is about spiritual warfare, biblical prophecy, and the destruction of
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Speaker 1: your testimony. In Proverbs sixteen twenty eight. Solomon writes, a
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Speaker 1: perverse person stirs up conflict, and a gossip separates close friends.
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Speaker 1: But the Hebrew word for separates here is palla. It
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Speaker 1: means to divide, to distinguish, to make a distinction between.
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Speaker 1: What Solomon is revealing is that gossip doesn't just damage relationships.
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Speaker 1: It changes how people see you. It creates divisions that
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Speaker 1: never existed. It plants seeds of doubt in minds that
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Speaker 1: trusted you. And here's the devastating part. Once words are spoken,
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Speaker 1: they can never be unspoken. Once your private pain becomes
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Speaker 1: public entertainment, you can never make it private again. Let
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Speaker 1: me show you how deadly this is through the story
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Speaker 1: of Absalom and David in Second Samuel fifteen. Absalom didn't
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Speaker 1: overthrow his father with an army. He overthrew him with
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Speaker 1: workords Verse six tells us Absalom behaved in this way
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Speaker 1: toward all the Israelites who came to the king asking
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Speaker 1: for justice, and so he stole the hearts of the
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Speaker 1: people of Israel. He stood at the city gate, listened
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Speaker 1: to people's problems, and whispered, if only I were king,
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Speaker 1: I would give you justice. He gossiped about his own
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Speaker 1: father's supposed failures. He betrayed family confidences for political power,
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Speaker 1: and it worked. It worked so well that David had
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Speaker 1: to flee Jerusalem barefoot and weeping, betrayed by his own
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Speaker 1: son and the people he'd served faithfully. The gossip didn't
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Speaker 1: just hurt David's feelings, it cost him his kingdom, his peace,
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Speaker 1: and nearly his life. You have people in your life
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Speaker 1: right now who operate exactly like Absalom. They smile to
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Speaker 1: your face while sharpening knives for your back. They ask
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Speaker 1: how you're doing, not because they care, but because they're
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Speaker 1: mining for material. They positioned themselves as your confidant, your
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Speaker 1: safe space, your trusted friend, and then they turn your
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Speaker 1: transparency into their entertainment. They take the struggles you shared
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Speaker 1: in vulnerability and broadcast them to anyone who will listen,
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Speaker 1: always prefaced with I'm just concerned, or pray for them,
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Speaker 1: or I'm only telling you this because and here's how
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Speaker 1: you know the Holy Spirit is warning you about them.
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Speaker 1: You feel uneasy sharing anything real. Your gut churns when
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Speaker 1: they ask personal questions. You instinctively hold back, even though
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Speaker 1: you can't explain why that's not paranoia, that's discernment. That's
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Speaker 1: the Holy Spirit protecting you from people whose tongues are
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Speaker 1: set on fire by Hell itself. James three to six
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Speaker 1: says it plainly. The tongue also is a fire, a
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Speaker 1: world of evil among the parts of the body. It
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Speaker 1: corrupts the whole body, sets the whole course of one's
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Speaker 1: life on fire, And is itself set on fire by Hell?
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Speaker 1: Did you catch that? Set on fire by Hell? Not Heaven,
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Speaker 1: not God Hell. When someone gossips, they're not just being careless.
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Speaker 1: They're being used by the enemy to destroy what God
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Speaker 1: is building. And if you remain in close relationship with
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Speaker 1: a gossip, you become guilty by association. Your reputation becomes
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Speaker 1: collateral damage in their spiritual warfare. Your testimony becomes a
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Speaker 1: casualty of their careless words. Proverbs twenty nineteen warns a
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Speaker 1: gossip betrays a confidence, so avoid anyone who talks too much.
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Speaker 1: The word avoid there is arab It means to mix,
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Speaker 1: to take on pledge, to become surety. For the wisdom
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Speaker 1: is clear. Don't just distance yourself from gossips, refuse to
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Speaker 1: be entangled with them in any way, because their debts
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Speaker 1: will become your debts. Their destruction will touch your life.
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Speaker 1: Let me get practical and prophetic about how to identify
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Speaker 1: these people. First, they're always telling you about what someone
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Speaker 1: else said or did in private. If they gossip to
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Speaker 1: you about others, they absolutely gossip to otherst you. This
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Speaker 1: is not a maybe, it's a certainty. Second, they frame
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Speaker 1: betrayal as concern or prayer requests. They say things like
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Speaker 1: I'm only sharing this so you can pray. But prayer
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Speaker 1: was never the point. Entertainment was control was power was. Third,
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Speaker 1: they cannot keep your secrets. You tell them something in
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Speaker 1: confidence and within days, sometimes hours, its circulated through your
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Speaker 1: entire social circle, and when confronted they minimize, deflect, or
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Speaker 1: blame you for being too sensitive. But here's where this
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Speaker 1: gets spiritually serious. In the Book of Revelation, when Jesus
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Speaker 1: addresses the Seven Churches, he reserves some of his harshest
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Speaker 1: words for the church in Thiateria, specifically for tolerating a
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Speaker 1: woman called Jezebel who calls herself a prophet and was
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Speaker 1: misleading my servants. The issue wasn't just her false teaching,
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Speaker 1: It was the believers who tolerated her presence, who allowed
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Speaker 1: her influence who refuse to separate from her toxicity. Jesus
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Speaker 1: says in Revelation two twenty two twenty three, I will
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Speaker 1: cast her on a bed of suffering, and I will
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Speaker 1: make those who commit adultery with her suffer intensely. Unless
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Speaker 1: they repent of her ways. I will strike her children dead.
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Speaker 1: The message is unmistakable. Tolerating toxic people brings their judgment
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Speaker 1: into your life. Their suffering becomes your suffering. Their consequences
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Speaker 1: touch your household. The third relationship type the Holy Spirit
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Speaker 1: is commanding you to end is perhaps the most emotionally difficult.
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Speaker 1: The perpetually negative, the constant complainers, the people who suck
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Speaker 1: hope from every room they enter. These are the ones
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Speaker 1: who have perfected the art of victimhood, who wear their
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Speaker 1: misery like a badge of honor, who find the dark
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Speaker 1: cloud in every silver lining. And before you dismiss this
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Speaker 1: as just personality differences, understand what's happening in the spiritual realm.
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Speaker 1: Negativity is not neutral, Complaining is not harmless. These attitudes
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Speaker 1: are demonic atmospheres, and when you allow them into your
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Speaker 1: life consistently, they infect your faith, poison your perspective, and
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Speaker 1: kill your joy. Numbers thirteen and fourteen show us the
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Speaker 1: catastrophic consequences of entertaining negative voices. Twelve spies went into
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Speaker 1: the Promised Land. Ten came back with reports of giants,
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Speaker 1: fortified cities, and certain defeat. Only two Joshua and Caleb,
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Speaker 1: saw the same obstacles, but declared, we should go up
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Speaker 1: and take possession of the land, for we can certainly
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Speaker 1: do it. Same land, same giants, radically different perspective. But
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Speaker 1: here's what happened next, and it's why the Holy Spirit
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Speaker 1: is warning you so urgently. The negative voice is one
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Speaker 1: not because they were right, but because they were loud.
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Speaker 1: Numbers fourteen one says that night all the members of
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Speaker 1: the community raised their voices and wept aloud. The entire
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Speaker 1: nation sided with fear over faith. They listened to the
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Speaker 1: majority instead of God's promise, and the result an entire
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Speaker 1: generation died in the wilderness. Only Joshua and Caleb entered
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Speaker 1: the Promised Land. Everyone else who was twenty years or
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Speaker 1: older when they left Egypt never saw their destiny fulfilled.
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Speaker 1: They wandered for forty years and died in the desert,
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Speaker 1: all because they allowed negative voices to override God's promise.
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Speaker 1: Your negative friends, family members, and associates are doing the
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Speaker 1: same thing to you right now. They're standing between you
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Speaker 1: and your promised land, filling your ears with reasons why
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Speaker 1: you can't, shouldn't, or won't succeed. Here's how these people
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Speaker 1: operate and why they're so spiritually dangerous. They disguise pessimism
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Speaker 1: as realism. When you share a dream, they immediately list
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Speaker 1: all the ways it could fail. When you're excited about
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Speaker 1: an opportunity, they remind you of past disappointments. When you're
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Speaker 1: believing God for breakthrough, they tell you to be realistic
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Speaker 1: and lower your expectations. They call it wisdom, but God
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Speaker 1: calls it unbelief. They claim they're protecting you from disappointment,
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Speaker 1: but they're actually protecting their own comfort zones because if
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Speaker 1: you succeed, it exposes their excuses. If you step out
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Speaker 1: in faith and God comes through, it reveals their lack
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Speaker 1: of it, so they keep you small to justify their
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Speaker 1: own limitations. Proverbs fifteen thirteen reveals the spiritual mechanics. A
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Speaker 1: happy heart makes the face cheerful, but heartache crushes the spirit.
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Speaker 1: The Hebrew word for crushes is nake. It means to strike,
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Speaker 1: to smite, to defeat utterly. When you surround yourself with
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Speaker 1: people who have crushed spirits, their brokenness begins breaking you.
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Speaker 1: Their hopelessness becomes your heaviness. Their depression becomes your darkness.
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Speaker 1: Not because you're weak, but because human beings are designed
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Speaker 1: to absorb the atmospheres we inhabit. You become like the
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Speaker 1: people your can consistently around. This is why proverbs twenty
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Speaker 1: two to twenty four to twenty five commands do not
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Speaker 1: make friends with a hot tempered person. Do not associate
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Speaker 1: with one easily angered, or you may learn their ways
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Speaker 1: and get yourself ensnared. Notice the progression, associate, learn, become ensnared.
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Speaker 1: The trap doesn't spring immediately. It's gradual, subtle, and by
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Speaker 1: the time you realize you've adopted their negativity, their complaining,
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Speaker 1: their victim mentality, you're already caught. Let me show you
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Speaker 1: something that will expose how serious this is. In Philippians
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Speaker 1: two fourteen, Paul writes, do everything without grumbling or arguing.
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Speaker 1: But here's what most people miss. The next verse explains why,
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Speaker 1: so that you may become blameless and pure children of
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Speaker 1: God without fault in a warped and crooked generation. Then
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Speaker 1: you will shine among them like stars in the sky.
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Speaker 1: Paul is revealing that your refusal to complain, to grumble,
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Speaker 1: to adopt negativity isn't just about attitude. It's about testimony.
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Speaker 1: It's about being a light in darkness. And you cannot
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Speaker 1: shine if you're covered in the soot of constant complaining.
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Speaker 1: You cannot be a star if you're buried in the
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Speaker 1: fog of persistent negativity. The people around you who refuse
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Speaker 1: to see God's goodness, who reject hope, who live in
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Speaker 1: perpetual despair, they're not just negative, they're spiritually blind. And
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Speaker 1: if you keep walking with the blind, you'll both fall
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Speaker 1: into the pit. Think about Job's wife. After Job lost everything,
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Speaker 1: his children, his wealth, his health, she gave him one
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Speaker 1: piece of advice in Job two poin nine, Curse God
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Speaker 1: and die. That was her solution. Abandon faith, embrace bitterness,
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Speaker 1: give up. Job's response, you are talking like a foolish woman.
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Speaker 1: He recognized that her negativity, born from shared pain, was
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Speaker 1: a temptation from the enemy. He refused to let her
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Speaker 1: hopelessness infect his faith, and because he rejected her toxic
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Speaker 1: countnsul and maintained his integrity. God restored everything he'd lost doubled.
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Speaker 1: But imagine if Job had listened. Imagine if he'd agreed
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Speaker 1: with her despair, cursed God, and died, his story would
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Speaker 1: have ended in tragedy instead of triumph. Your negative relationships
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Speaker 1: are offering you the same choice right now. Agree with
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Speaker 1: their darkness and die spiritually, or separate from their toxicity.
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Speaker 1: In live Now, we confront the fourth relationship type that
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Speaker 1: demands immediate severance. The users, the takers, the emotional vampires
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Speaker 1: who see you as a resource to exploit rather than
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Speaker 1: a person to value. These are the people who only
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Speaker 1: call when they need something, who disappear when you're struggling,
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Speaker 1: but reappear the moment you have something they want. And
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Speaker 1: here's what makes this so spiritually insidious. They've conditioned you
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Speaker 1: to believe that setting boundaries is unloving, that saying no
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Speaker 1: is unchristian, that protecting yourself is selfish. They've weaponized your
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Speaker 1: kindness against you, turned your generosity into their guaranteed income,
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Speaker 1: and transformed your compassion into their convenience. But the Holy
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Speaker 1: Spirit is declaring to day enough. Jesus served every one,
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Speaker 1: but he didn't allow every one to use him. There's
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Speaker 1: a monumental difference. Look at Second Corinthians eleven eight to nine,
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Speaker 1: where Paul addresses the Corinthian church. I robbed other churches
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Speaker 1: by receiving support from them so as to serve you.
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Speaker 1: And when I was with you and needed something, I
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Speaker 1: was not a burden to any one. For the brothers
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Speaker 1: who came from Macedonia supplied what I needed. Notice Paul's pattern.
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Speaker 1: He gave, but he also received. He served, but he
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Speaker 1: didn't allow people to deplete him. He set boundaries around
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Speaker 1: his resources, his energy, his calling. He wasn't every one's
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Speaker 1: endless supply, and neither are you. The Greek word Paul
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Speaker 1: uses for burden is catanarcau. It means to grow numb,
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Speaker 1: to burden heavily, to be a dead weight. Paul refus
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Speaker 1: use to become numb to his calling by carrying people
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Speaker 1: God never assigned him to carry. He understood that some
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Speaker 1: people don't want help, They want a host. They don't
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Speaker 1: want guidance, they want a slave, And the moment you
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Speaker 1: stop serving their agenda, they vanish from your life as
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Speaker 1: if you never existed. Here's how to identify these spiritual
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Speaker 1: parasites with prophetic clarity. First, the relationship is consistently one sided.
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Speaker 1: You're always the one giving time, money, energy, advice, emotional support.
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Speaker 1: They take and take and take, but when you need them,
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Speaker 1: they're unavailable, busy, or suddenly dealing with their own crisis
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Speaker 1: that's somehow always more urgent than yours. Second, they have
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Speaker 1: no gratitude. You can help them a hundred times and
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Speaker 1: they'll forget all of it the moment you can't help
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Speaker 1: with number one hundred and one. Instead of appreciation, you
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Speaker 1: get guilt, manipulation, or anger. Third, they only contact you
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Speaker 1: when they need something. Your phone stays silent until they're
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Speaker 1: in trouble, broke, heartbroken, or facing consequences. Then suddenly you're
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Speaker 1: their best friend, their confidant, their only hope until the
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Speaker 1: crisis passes. Then you don't hear from them again until
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Speaker 1: the next emergency. But let me show you the biblical
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Speaker 1: blueprint for dealing with users, and it's going to challenge
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Speaker 1: everything you think about Christian charity. In Second Thessalonians three ten,
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Speaker 1: Paul lays down a law that most modern believers ignore.
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Speaker 1: The one who is unwilling to work shall not eat.
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Speaker 1: Read that again, unwilling not unable. Paul isn't talking about
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Speaker 1: people who can't help themselves. He's addressing those who won't,
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Speaker 1: and his command is stark. Don't feed them, don't enable
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Speaker 1: their laziness, don't reward their refusal to take responsibility. The
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Speaker 1: context makes it even clearer. Verses eleven twelve say we
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Speaker 1: hear that some among you are i and disruptive. They
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Speaker 1: are not busy, they are busy bodies. Such people we
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Speaker 1: command and urge in the Lord Jesus Christ to settle
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Speaker 1: down and earn the food they eat. Paul is identifying
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Speaker 1: people who had the capacity to work, but chose instead
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Speaker 1: to live off others generosity, creating drama and disruption while
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Speaker 1: refusing to contribute. His solution stop supporting them, cut off
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Speaker 1: the supply, force them to face the consequences of their choices.
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Speaker 1: This is where most believers break down, because we've confused
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Speaker 1: enabling with compassion. We think that cutting off a user
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Speaker 1: means we're being mean, unloving, or unchrist like. But Jesus
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Speaker 1: himself set boundaries. In Mark five, after healing the demon
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Speaker 1: possessed man, the entire region begged Jesus to leave. Verse
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Speaker 1: to leave their region. And what did Jesus do He left.
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Speaker 1: He didn't beg them to accept him. He didn't chase
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Speaker 1: people who rejected him. He shook the dust off his
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Speaker 1: feet and moved on to those who wanted what he offered.
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Speaker 1: When the rich young ruler walked away, sad because he
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Speaker 1: wasn't willing to surrender his wealth, Jesus didn't run after him,
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Speaker 1: offering a compromise. He let him go. Jesus understood that
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Speaker 1: you cannot help people who don't want to change. You
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Speaker 1: can only exhaust yourself trying. Now we transition into the
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Speaker 1: fifth and most dangerous relationship type. The Holy Spirit is
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Speaker 1: commanding you to sever those who lead you into sin,
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Speaker 1: compromise your convictions, and normalize what God calls abomination. These
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Speaker 1: are the relationships that don't just waste your time or
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Speaker 1: drain your energy, They damn your soul. They're the friends
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Speaker 1: who pressure you into sexual immorality, convincing you that everybody's
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Speaker 1: doing it and God understands. The family members who mock
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Speaker 1: your standards, calling you judgmental or self righteous because you
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Speaker 1: you into gossip, dishonesty, or practices that violate your conscience.
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Speaker 1: And the most dangerous part, they make sin look reasonable, acceptable,
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Speaker 1: Bad company corrupts good character. The Greek word for corrupts
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Speaker 1: Paul is revealing that your character, your convictions, your very salvation,
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Speaker 1: can be destroyed by the wrong associations, not weakened, not challenged, destroyed,
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Speaker 1: and the process is so gradual, so subtle, that you
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Speaker 1: don't realize it's happening until you wake up one day
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Speaker 1: and don't recognize the person you've become. You used to pray,
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Speaker 1: Now you party. You used to study scripture, Now you
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Speaker 1: binge Netflix. You used to feel conviction about sin, now
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Speaker 1: you celebrate it. What happened bad company corrupted good character,
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Speaker 1: The wrong relationships rewired your conscience. The Bible shows us
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Speaker 1: this pattern repeatedly, and the consequences are always catastrophic. King Solomon,
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Speaker 1: the wisest man who ever lived, started well. First King's
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Speaker 1: offered him anything he wanted, and Solomon chose wisdom. God
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Speaker 1: to four record Solomon's downfall. King Solomon, however, loved many
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Speaker 1: foreign women. As Solomon grew old, his wives turned his
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Speaker 1: devoted to the Lord his God. Solomon didn't wake up
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Speaker 1: one morning and decide to abandon God. It was gradual.
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Speaker 1: His pagan wives slowly, consistently, lovingly persuaded him to compromise
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Speaker 1: a little here, a little there, build one altar for
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Speaker 1: my gods, attend one ceremony, participate in one ritual, until
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Speaker 1: the man who built God's temple ended up building temples
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Speaker 1: understand about relationships that lead to sin. They always start
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Speaker 1: by questioning God's standards, just like the serpent in Eden
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Speaker 1: asked Eve, did God really say? Your ungodly friends will
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Speaker 1: challenge biblical truth with the same tactic. Did God really
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Speaker 1: say sex before marriage is wrong? Did God really say
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Speaker 1: homosexuality is sin? Did God really say you can't get drunk,
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Speaker 1: can't live together unmarried, can't compromise your integrity for profit.
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Speaker 1: They'll present every cultural argument, every philosophical justification, every emotional
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Speaker 1: appeal to make sin seem sophisticated and obedience seem primitive.
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Speaker 1: And if you you don't have the courage to separate
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Speaker 1: from these voices, you'll eventually agree with them. Not because
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Speaker 1: their arguments are sound, but because constant exposure wears down resistance.
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Speaker 1: Proverbs one ten sixteen maps out exactly how this works.
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Speaker 1: My son, If sinful men entice you, do not give
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Speaker 1: we will get all sorts of valuable things and fill
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Speaker 1: our houses with plunder, throw in your lot with us,
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Speaker 1: my son, do not go along with them. Do not
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Speaker 1: set foot on their paths. Notice the progression entice, invite, promise, reward,
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Speaker 1: demand participation. This is how friends lead you into sin.
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Speaker 1: They make it look attractive, promise it will benefit you,
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Speaker 1: and pressure you to join. And Solomon's counsel, don't even
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Speaker 1: start down that path. Don't set foot on it. Don't
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Speaker 1: entertain the possibility because verse eighteen reveals the endgame. These
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Speaker 1: men lie in wait for their own blood. They ambush
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Speaker 1: only themselves. The relationships that lead you into sin don't
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Speaker 1: just destroy you. They destroy themselves, but they're perfectly willing
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Speaker 1: to take you down with them. Now, let me bring
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Speaker 1: this into sharp, painful focus with a truth most churches
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Speaker 1: partners who are leading you into sexual sin, you must
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Speaker 1: end those relationships immediately, no negotiation, no gradual distance, immediate severance,
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Speaker 1: because sexual immorality doesn't just affect your body. It corrupts
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Speaker 1: your spirit, damages your destiny, and opens doors to demonic
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Speaker 1: oppression that can haunt you for decades. First Corinthians six
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Speaker 1: eighteen commands flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a
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Speaker 1: It means to run away, to escape, to shun, to
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Speaker 1: vanish from sight, not walk away, not gradually distance, run sprint,
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Speaker 1: escape like Lot fleeing sodom, like Joseph fleeing Potiphar's wife
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Speaker 1: like your eternal soul depends on it, because it does.
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Speaker 1: Here's what most people miss about Joseph's story in Genesis
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Speaker 1: she spoke to Joseph day after day, he refused to
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Speaker 1: Day after day constant pressure, repeated temptation, and Joseph's response
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Speaker 1: wasn't to pray about it, wasn't to counsel with her,
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Speaker 1: caught him by his cloak and said, come to bed
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Speaker 1: and ran out of the house. He ran, He fled
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Speaker 1: so fast he left his coat behind, and yes, his
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Speaker 1: right business cost him. She falsely accused him, and he
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Speaker 1: went to prison, But that prison became the pathway to
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Speaker 1: the palace. His refusal to sin with her positioned him
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Speaker 1: to save nations. Your willingness to run from sin will
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Speaker 1: position you for the destiny God has prepared. Your refusal
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Speaker 1: to run will cost you everything. The Holy Spirit is
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Speaker 1: declaring this hour separate now or suffer later. Cut the
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Speaker 1: ties that bind you to sin, or watch those ties
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Speaker 1: drag you to hell. Stop negotiating with relationships that God
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Speaker 1: has already condemned. Stop justifying connections that are killing your anointing.
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Speaker 1: The people leading you into darkness will not be there
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Speaker 1: when you face God. They will not stand with you
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Speaker 1: at judgment. They will not share your eternal destiny. And
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Speaker 1: the pleasure of sin lasts for a season, but the
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Speaker 1: consequences echo through eternity. This is where everything shifts. This
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Speaker 1: is the moment most people miss, the truth that rates
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Speaker 1: those who merely hear from those who obey. The Holy
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Speaker 1: Spirit has been warning you about these five relationship types,
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Speaker 1: the time wasters, the gossips, the negative voices, the users,
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Speaker 1: the sin enablers, not to make you paranoid or isolate you,
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Speaker 1: but to set you free. Because here's the revelation that
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Speaker 1: changes everything. God is about to do something so significant
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Speaker 1: in your life that you cannot carry dead weight into
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Speaker 1: your next season. He's positioning you for breakthrough, for promotion,
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Speaker 1: for supernatural increase. But the relationships draining you right now
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Speaker 1: will anchor you to a past. God as trying to
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Speaker 1: deliver you from This isn't about being cruel, This is
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Speaker 1: about being called. This isn't about hate. This is about holiness.
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Speaker 1: And just like Abraham had to leave his father's house
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Speaker 1: to reach the Promised Land, just like Ruth had to
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Speaker 1: leave Moab to marry Boaz, just like the disciples had
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Speaker 1: to leave their nets to follow Jesus, you must let
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Speaker 1: go of what's comfortable to lay hold of what's ordained.
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Speaker 1: The question burning in heaven right now is this, Will
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Speaker 1: you obey the voice of the Spirit or will you
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Speaker 1: cling to relationships God has already marked for removal. Your
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Speaker 1: answer determines whether you advance or remain stuck, whether you
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Speaker 1: flourish or just survive, whether you fulfill your destiny or
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Speaker 1: die with your purpose still locked inside you. The choice
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Speaker 1: is yours. But the time is now and now, in
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Speaker 1: light of this revelation, what will you do? The Holy
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Speaker 1: Spirit has spoken, the warning has been delivered. You now
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Speaker 1: carry knowledge that demands a response. You cannot unhear what
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Speaker 1: you've heard today. You cannot unknow what's been revealed. The
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Speaker 1: five types of relationships poisoning your purpose have been identified.
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Speaker 1: Those who waste your time, those who betray your trust,
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Speaker 1: those who corrupt your perspective, those who use your resources,
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Speaker 1: and those who lead you into sin. And here's the
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Speaker 1: sobering truth. Knowing isn't enough. James four seventeen declares, if
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Speaker 1: anyone then knows the good they ought to do and
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Speaker 1: doesn't do it, it is sin for them. The moment
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Speaker 1: you recognize these toxic relationships but refuse to act, you
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Speaker 1: move from ignorance to disobedience, from victim to volunteer, from
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Speaker 1: trapped to tolerant. If this message teaches us anything it
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Speaker 1: is that separation is not rejection, its obedience, boundaries are
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Speaker 1: not cruelty their wisdom, and walking away from what's familiar
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Speaker 1: to walk toward what's ordained is the bravest, most faithful
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Speaker 1: thing you can ever do. Just as they were called Abraham, Moses, Nehemiah, Joseph,
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Speaker 1: the Disciples, so are we today, called to leave what's comfortable,
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Speaker 1: called to trust God's voice above human opinion, Called to
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Speaker 1: protect our purpose even when it costs us relationships, because
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Speaker 1: in the end, you won't stand before people to give
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Speaker 1: will not ask why you ended toxic relationships. He'll ask
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Speaker 1: why you kept them so long? Picture this years from now,
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Speaker 1: looking back on this exact moment, will you remember it
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Speaker 1: as the day you finally listened to the Holy Spirit
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Speaker 1: and made the hard choices that saved your future? Or
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Speaker 1: will you remember it as another warning you ignored, another
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Speaker 1: conviction you suppressed, another opportunity you missed. The oil is
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Speaker 1: in your lamp. The door is still open. The bridegroom
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Speaker 1: is coming, but he's coming for a bride without spot
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Speaker 1: or wrinkle, without compromise or contamination. The choice before you
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Speaker 1: isn't complicated, It's just costly. And the question echoing through
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Speaker 1: eternity is simple. Is your destiny worth the price of obedience?
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Speaker 1: Is your calling worth the courage to walk alone if necessary?
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Speaker 1: Is your soul worth more than the approval of people
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Speaker 1: who are leading you to dis instruction? The Spirit says yes,
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Speaker 1: Creation says yes, Heaven says yes. Now it's your turn.
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Speaker 1: Say yes to God, say yes to your future, Say
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Speaker 1: yes to the relationships he's ordained, and know to the
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Speaker 1: ones he's condemning, and watch him transform your obedience into
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Speaker 1: breakthrough you never imagined possible.