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Strength Without Force (S5) S3:E2 · Inspirations for Your Life

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All right, so let's go ahead and move
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And again, this is Sunday, and this is
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So yeah, it is really great to be
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Really great to be with you.
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So let's go ahead and kick this show
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All right, guys.
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So this is the second, basically, episode of
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show number three.
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And we're talking about quiet power, winning without
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losing yourself.
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And on day two of this set, strength
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without force, series three, series five, excuse me,
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show three, and yes, episode number two.
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So it is so great to be with
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everyone.
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So hello, and welcome back to Inspirations for
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Your Life.
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This is the daily motivational show.
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It's created to help you grow stronger, wiser,
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from the inside out.
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Hey, I'm your host.
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I'm John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur, and it is a privilege
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and pleasure to be with you guys.
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Not only that, I'm also an engineer.
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I'm a marketing specialist.
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I'm a video producer.
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I'm a podcast host, coach, and of course,
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a graduate student and a passionate lifelong learner.
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And it is my privilege and pleasure to
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be with you here this evening.
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Everything shared on this show comes from real
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-world experience that I've had, building businesses, leading
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teams, navigating pressure, and learning that real success
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is built through clarity, control, and consistency, not
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force.
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Today, as I said, is day two of
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our quiet power series, strength without force.
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Some people say, how is that possible?
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It's very possible because the strongest people in
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the room don't need to prove it.
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Nope.
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They can quietly coexist and easily commandeer the
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room without even saying anything.
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They don't dominate.
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They don't rush.
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They don't do anything crazy.
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They outlast everyone.
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Number one, guys, real strength doesn't need to
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dominate real people.
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Real strength stands firm without intimidation and confident
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without aggression.
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I think a lot of people secretly try
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to put aggression in there.
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And I think that's a very, very big
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problem for a lot of people, like what's
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going on and why things are going on.
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So I think that's a very, very important
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thing to understand that life is not about
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aggression.
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Number two, guys, calm confidence is unshakable.
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Confidence built on calm doesn't crack under pressure.
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That's the most important thing.
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You don't win by overpowering.
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You win by outlasting endurance wins where force
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fails.
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Number four, strength shows up quietly.
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True strength is, well, restraint, patience, and it's
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about composure.
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Number five, guys, being grounded is stronger than
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being loud.
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A lot of people want to be loud,
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and they get people's attention.
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But guess what?
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They get their attention for a split second,
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okay?
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That's the important thing to understand.
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Very important to understand.
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Grounded presence will always last longer than any
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noise.
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So if somebody gets your attention because they're
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being rude and obnoxious and assertive in a
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wrong way, they'll get your attention, but then
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you'll quickly dismiss them.
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And maybe next time you won't pay so
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much attention because you know the kind of
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games they play.
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Number six, guys, controlled energy beats emotional reaction.
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Control keeps your power.
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So when we have control, we're calm, we're
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peaceful, right?
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But if we're not calm and we're not
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peaceful, how do we even move forward?
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We can't.
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We just keep chasing our own tail.
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Number seven, you don't need to raise your
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voice to raise your value.
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Authority comes from presence, not volume.
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So let me give you a perfect example.
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So many of you know that I do
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a lot of social media.
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Well, there was this one particular group that
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I was posting lots of value all the
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time, but I wasn't really getting traction.
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Now, I wasn't trying to sell anything, but
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I was just trying to go for likes.
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I mean, that's not a hard thing, right?
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And so what I discovered after being in
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this group for, oh, gosh, over nine years
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or more, it's a private community group.
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And I think a lot of people don't
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realize, like, what goes on or why things
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happen.
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So I create a post, all right?
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I wanted to create a post about the
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history of our community and having no other
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purpose than just to get pure, integral, honest
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engagement.
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So I discovered a photo back in the,
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oh, gosh, the 1920s.
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I wasn't even born yet.
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And I put a little caption that says
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I came across this photo, and I asked
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a question about some things in the town
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and how this affected some of the homes.
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And it just made me curious if anybody
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has ties that go back to this or
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even earlier.
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Share below.
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And I got a lot of engagement.
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Right now, the post has got 12, let's
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say, either likes or loves, and it's got
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23 comments.
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That's pretty impressive, guys, pretty impressive.
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And I'm sure I'm going to get more
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people that are going to comment, I'm sure.
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I think what I learned is that in
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these groups, you have to put yourself last.
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Now, even mentioning my name or doing a
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motivational tip or something, and I wasn't selling
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anything, it was still not capturing people.
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It wasn't resonating enough, so people were ignoring
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it.
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They were scrolling past it.
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And I discovered that you have to post
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about what the community is focused on, and
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that's community things.
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I wasn't loud, but I am showing an
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authority and building integrity in this community, in
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this group, because all these people are commenting,
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and my status will eventually get raised.
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I'm a rising contributor in this group, but
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eventually I will get even more than that.
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So that's interesting, right?
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It's important to understand this, guys.
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It's important to know what's happening.
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And when I found out that my post
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took off, not because, again, I never tried
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to sell anything, but the post was not
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about me.
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The other thing I did is I didn't
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jump on everybody's comments.
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When they made a comment and it was
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in the route to me directly, I would
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thank them for the comment or make some
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kind of very great remark, thanking them in
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a very unique way.
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And I always liked their comment.
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But when somebody else would make a comment
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on somebody else, I would just like it.
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I would not jump in and reply to
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it.
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So being a person with integrity is not
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easy, guys, I've got to tell you.
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This group has over 2,500 people, and
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to get that many interactions, okay, that's interesting,
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guys.
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It's a very interesting thing.
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It's interesting because people don't always realize what
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they're doing, okay?
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They don't always realize it.
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And that's important, guys.
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It's very, very important to understand, all right?
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Very, very important.
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And when we do something with integrity, we
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connect with the true core meaning of what
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people are behind in the group, not what
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I'm behind, but what the core of the
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group is behind.
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So you have to make sure that you
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approach that properly.
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Number eight, stability is strength, consistency, and it
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builds trust.
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What's happening in this post right now?
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I'm being consistent.
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I'm laying back.
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Guess what?
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Oh, people are responding.
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They are responding, okay?
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I think that's something that a lot of
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people miss, like what things are about, right?
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I think sometimes we don't realize what integrity
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is until we know, okay?
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How do we do it?
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We do it by being full of integrity.
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And when we can get other people to
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see that we're truly about that, in a
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soft way, without blasting and being loud, we
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are loud in a way, but in a
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respectful way, a way that's about truth and
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integrity.
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Number nine, guys, power that lasts doesn't rush.
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Rushing is panic disguised as progress.
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Number 10, soft doesn't mean weak.
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Okay, that's important.
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Compassion requires strength.
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Number 11, self-control is elite strength.
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Composure separates the leaders from the reactors.
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When you create a post or when you
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interact with somebody, do you really think about
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what you're going to post, or do you
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just like throw something up there and just
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hope it sticks?
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That's what most people do.
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And that's kind of why they get banned
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or why they get a lower reputation.
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Number 12, you don't need to win every
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argument.
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Peace is more valuable than your ego.
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But the ego seems to be something that
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a lot of people, well, they miss.
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They miss.
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So let's put our ego aside, and let's
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operate from our pure core values.
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Number 13, stillness intimidates chaos.
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Calmness removes the chaos's fuel.
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Not instantaneously, but it does remove it.
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Number 14, guys, strength is staying when it's
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easier to quit.
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Persistence is quiet courage.
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Number 15, force breaks things.
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Strength builds them.
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One destroys the other, and it compounds.
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And once it gets destroyed, people don't even
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know how to rebuild it.
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I think that becomes the problem, not just
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what to rebuild, but they don't even know
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how to rebuild it.
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Number 16, calm people scare insecure systems.
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Stability exposes weaknesses.
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Number 17, power is knowing when not to
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act.
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Restraint is wisdom.
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So choosing not to act is a wisdom.
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I think that's a very important thing for
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us to think about.
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Very important thing to think about.
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Number 18, you don't need to prove dominance.
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Confidence doesn't announce itself.
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In the group and how I got all
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that attention, I didn't stand up on a
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building and shout or beg people to follow
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me.
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I posted something about real value, something that
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got people to want to engage, something that
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had a thread that would keep going even
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if I didn't.
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That's true leadership.
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Number 19, guys, true strength doesn't flinch.
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Strong people respond, not react.
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Number 20, guys, discipline beats intensity.
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Discipline always outlasts the motivation.
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Sometimes we falter on motivation, but our discipline
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is what's going to reengage the motivation.
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That's important to understand.
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Number 21, control creates freedom.
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Self-mastery equals freedom.
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So when we learn how to master that,
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our life sort of changes.
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Not overnight, but we do notice some subtle
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changes.
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Subtle changes are the best because those are
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the ones that stick for life.
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Number 22, guys, strength doesn't perform.
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Real strength exists without applause.
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Real strength exists without applause.
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That's powerful.
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Powerful words, guys.
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Number 23, peaceful people are dangerous in the
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best way.
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Calm focus is extremely powerful.
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Number 24, quiet resilience outlasts hype.
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Resilience will always endure.
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Number 25, strength isn't loud.
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It's consistent.
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Consistency builds momentum over and over and over
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again.
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Number 26, you don't need anger to be
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powerful.
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Clarity beats rage every time.
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Every time.
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It's those that become impatient that have the
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most challenges.
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They want everything basically tonight, okay?
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They can't wait for the moment.
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But those that can't wait for the moment
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are the ones that are going to lose
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the moment faster than they've gotten it.
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Number 27, guys, focus is strength.
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Focus is strength.
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Energy produces results.
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Everybody wants results now or they want it
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yesterday.
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But they're not willing to figure out what
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results is about.
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They just know that they've got to have
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it now.
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Got to have it now.
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And I know you're probably saying to me,
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John, well, that's not me.
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I'm not saying it is you or it's
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not you.
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All I'm saying is that you need to
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be aware, okay, of what's actually going on.
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You need to be aware of these things.
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That's important, guys.
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Very important.
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If you don't understand these things, guess what
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happens?
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You get lost.
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And when you get lost, you sometimes become
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frustrated.
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And when you get frustrated, some people even
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get depressed.
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I don't know if that's nice to say.
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But some people do get depressed because they're
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out of energy.
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They're out of resources.
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They don't know where to turn.
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They have no idea where they should turn.
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Where do they turn?
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Where should they turn?
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Where should they turn?
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I think they should turn to things that
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have to do with their core.
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Their core.
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Who is their real core?
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What is their core?
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If you don't know what your core is,
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you're going to keep getting lost.
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You're going to keep getting frustrated.
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You're going to keep getting, I'm going to
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say, so confused that you'll wonder where you
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should be next.
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Why you should be somewhere next.
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And if those things make sense to you,
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then you'll be able to grow in life.
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Not because you have to, but because you
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want to grow.
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Growing happens when we are in alignment with
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our core values.
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And core values, guys, don't just flip overnight.
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We take time to pick and make these
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core values part of our life.
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Everything we do centers around them.
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That's important, guys.
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Number 28, strong people don't chase chaos.
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They stay centered.
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Kind of like, you know, the yin and
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the yang.
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They have the balance.
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They stay centered.
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They don't get thrown off their track.
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They're not easily distracted.
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All right, guys, that's important.
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Number 29, calm energy wins long-term steadiness.
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And the decisions compound when you do that.
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If you understood just one of these things,
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you say, John, this makes a lot of
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sense.
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Number 30, power without ego is unstoppable.
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Humility multiplies the strength.
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I know a lot of people that you
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look at them and think they're humble.
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But then after you've been around them a
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while, it's like you're not humble at all.
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Okay?
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You're not humble at all.
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And by not being humble at all, you
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will lose a lot of people's respect.
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You'll wonder why you lost the alignment.
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I'm going to tell you why.
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You lost it because you lost the insight
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to what really matters to you.
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Everything we do, whether it's making money, whether
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it's relationships, everything we do is about our
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core values.
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And if something we do suddenly doesn't align
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with our core values, we're going to find
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ourselves stepping away from whatever we're doing, whether
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it's volunteering, whether it's a relationship.
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I don't care what it is.
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Your core values stay with you for a
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long time.
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So we need to be kind and we
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need to be compassionate to ourselves because, guys,
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that's where the core values are.
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That is where the core values actually –
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very, very important thing.
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But I know a lot of you are
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saying to me, John, but my values keep
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changing day by day.
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No, they don't.
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They keep changing.
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Those are not your core values.
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Those might be some type of things that
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are attached to you, but they're not your
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true core values.
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They're not your true core values.
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They are not your true core values.
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Am I making sense?
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Am I hitting home with you?
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I hope I am.
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When we take a moment to ponder our
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core values, let me give you one of
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mine.
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One of mine is integrity.
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I'm not going to do something if it
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conflicts to not being an integral thing.
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Other people will because, oh, you know what?
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It'll make money.
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It'll do this.
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It'll do that.
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It'll get me a popularity contest, one.
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If integrity is in your core values, you're
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not going to do it.
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Some people will, but you're not going to
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do it if it's part of your integrity.
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Ladies and gentlemen, this has been Inspirations for
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Your Life.
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That's right, guys.
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It's the daily motivational show.
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On this show, I share with you how
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you can make changes in your life.
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I show the people in the world how
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they can get real strength without force.
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Strength is not about how strong you are.
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We're talking about strength from a resilience standpoint,
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from a mindset perspective.
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That's the kind of force we are talking
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about.
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Not how many pounds of weight you can
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lift.
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That's not what I'm talking about.
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Ladies and gentlemen, I am John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur.
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I want to remind you that being calm
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and staying in control and being consistent are
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the strongest forms of power anyone can have.
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People that walk softly and carry a big
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stick, you might have heard that before.
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It means that they don't make a lot
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of waves, but they have the big stick
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if they have to use it.
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People know they have the power, but they
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don't just grab it.
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I hope that this episode resonated with you.
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And don't forget to check out BelieveMeAchieve.com,
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That's my long-form content, my short-form
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The choice to be full of strength without
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force is just that.
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It's a choice, and it's something we have
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to master if we want to become extremely
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successful.
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Have a great one, everyone, and be well.