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29 | Wife Calls Divorce Attorney After Her Husband's Lie? · Let's Talk! An Our2Gens Podcast

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  Let's talk. What's good weirdos?
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  Welcome back. It's episode 29.
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  So close to 30, so close to 30. I cannot believe romance at 30.
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  So I just wanted to take some time to say thank y'all for
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  watching. We appreciate y'all.
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  Hello. But we love y'all.
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  We thank y'all. Y'all are the best.
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  And First things first, I want to get into the story.
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  We have a story submission from last week.
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  Thank y'all for submitting those stories.
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  By the way, if you don't know how to do so, if you're watching
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  on YouTube, please go into the description.
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  It's right there. If you're listening, go to
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  our2gens.com to submit a story. But just a warning on this one,
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  it gets pretty intense. Oh my goodness, you ready?
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  I'm ready. OK so we got a story submission.
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  My cousins are dating in secret and no one is doing anything
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  about it. Take a breath.
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  Let's get into it. I am OK, I can handle this, OK?
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  She said. I Female 17, found out that my
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  cousin male 19 is dating our cousin female 15 and I'm not
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  sure what to do. Before you ask, yes, they are
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  related. Let's call my male cousin Ace
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  and my female cousin Rose. They're not real names.
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  I've always noticed that they've had a weird relationship going
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  on. They are weirdly close, like
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  speaking for hours on the phone, sharing 1 bed, hanging out all
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  the time. But I ignored it since Rose's
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  mother kept bragging about how cute the relationship is and how
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  sweet it is that Rose is looking up to Ace.
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  We're in it's tense in here. One day Rose decided to spend
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  time with me because Ace blew her off.
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  We were watching a movie on her phone.
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  I was losing my patience since he was interrupting the movie by
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  texting all the time. She would stop the movie to
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  respond. After a while she left the room
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  and he kept on texting her and I grew annoyed so I grabbed her
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  phone and I wanted to turn it on do not disturb but as I did he
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  texted at the same moment. She had text previews on and all
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  I saw was quote, baby, you're so lot, send more.
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  I'm going to admit to the next part what I did was wrong, but I
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  clicked on the text. Yeah, yeah, I scrolled through
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  the text. All I saw were inappropriate
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  comments about what he's going to do to her, him begging for
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  inappropriate pictures and her sending them.
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  Also a text with them planning on running away together as soon
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  as she turns 16 because yes, let's remember she's 16.
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  She's 18. This did lead me to freak out.
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  OK, I scrolled. I know I scrolled far enough to
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  find out that they were dating for 16 months at this point.
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  Whoa. I took some pictures of the
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  chat. Not not the pictures that she
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  sent, but just a text and acted as if nothing had happened.
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  When she returned later on, I showed those pictures to Rose's
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  mom. She was shaken, thanked me
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  profusely and promised to do something about it.
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  The time passed and her mom told me they broke up.
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  She blocked and deleted his number, and her mom threatened
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  to tell Ace's apparent about it if they ever contacted her
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  again. Apparently Ace's parents are
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  abusive too, so a few months have passed since then and
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  obviously they did not keep their distance.
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  I caught them exchanging numbers again and they rekindled their
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  relationship again. I did tell Rose's mom again but
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  she's not doing anything. They're obviously together again
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  and holding hands in front of me and I have to pretend to not
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  know anything about it because the mom isn't doing anything.
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  I'm pretty much helpless since obviously my cousin is grooming
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  her and he's obviously a predator but no one seems to
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  care. Please help me out and tell me
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  what to do. So before we go into this, I
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  just want to say you're a very brave girl for submitting this,
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  for admitting that this is happening, and for first telling
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  the parents what's going on. So you're asking us what to do.
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  But I feel like you did the best thing already.
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  You already told the parents what's going on.
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  You made them aware of the situation and I feel like, babe,
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  you're 17. Whatever's going on in this
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  relationship does not lay on your shoulders.
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  So it's not whether or not I do this or not, whether or not
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  yadda, yadda, yadda, this relationship will continue and
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  not. That's a lot of pressure to put
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  on yourself. You told the important people,
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  which is their parents and what they do is not on you.
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  But I do respect and appreciate the fact that you were
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  acknowledging that this is a weird situation and that you're
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  like, can I? I get some help.
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  I am a little speechless because I'm not sure what type of advice
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  you know, We're not licensed in any type of thing.
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  As a mom, I agree that you should have.
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  You did what you needed to do. You brought this to the parents,
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  the adults in the relationship here in the situation.
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  And one parent did the right thing at first, but now, even
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  after knowing that it has rekindled, they've decided not
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  to continue doing the the right thing.
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  And this isn't on you. You know you can't hold on to
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  this burden, man. I am speechless, speechless,
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  really speechless over this one because I can't imagine the kind
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  of pressure that is on you right now be especially trying to
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  pretend like you don't see it or you don't know what's going on.
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  And the only reason you're doing so is because you feel like
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  everyone else is doing so. The parents aren't saying
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  anything, so you feel like you don't have to say anything
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  either. Yes.
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  And that's a lot of pressure. And that's not fair to you.
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  No, But I feel like you've done everything that you can do.
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  Yes, and just. It's not on you.
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  It it really isn't. And oh man.
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  I know I'm sorry to like lay it out there on that first one, but
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  whoa, this is an inappropriate relationship in in several
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  cousins 19 and 15. Yes, the grooming is 100% there.
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  The fact that your family is. Also inappropriate, you know,
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  it's just, there's so many layers to this and I, I'm not
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  speechless often, but this one does feel like if there's maybe
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  another adult, an auntie, you know, somebody in the family
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  that you can maybe talk to that might have a little bit of
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  something to say to your cousin, the female cousin, to be able to
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  make her see the light a little bit better.
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  Since mom, a lot of times the, the mother child relationship
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  and the parent child relationship can be really like
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  this. Don't talk to me because you're
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  my mom. You don't know what you're
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  talking about versus having an aunt or an uncle or another
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  cousin, an adult. You know that they was able to
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  come into this and, and speak a little bit more to the
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  situation. But if you don't, I literally
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  agree with Trinity that this is not on you.
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  You have done what you should. Yeah.
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  And we don't, we don't know the situation.
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  We don't know what relationships are going on between you and
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  their parents and your parents and their parents.
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  Like, we have no idea. But yeah, again, you've done
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  everything that you were supposed to do.
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  I feel like you were responsible in that manner.
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  You didn't tell anyone that you were like, I disapprove of this.
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  This is angry. That's not what you did.
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  You were just like, I brought the information to their
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  parents. That was the most that you could
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  do. I think you're fine.
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  It doesn't less, you know, rest on your shoulders.
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  Breathe. Yes.
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  And it is inappropriate, but it's not on you.
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  Yeah. No, no, they're true.
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  They are. So it may not technically be
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  illegal, and I know in some states it's not illegal.
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  To be with your cousin, I know and and some others, you can get
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  the what is it the Romeo and Juliet situation where you can
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  make it a legal situation. So it's just there's so many
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  factors going on here, but based off the information that you
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  provided, I think you've done enough and you can take a bit of
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  that pressure off of you. Yeah.
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  Thank you so much for writing in.
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  Thank you for feeling like this was a safe enough space for you
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  to submit that. We hope that maybe some people
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  might be able to help out in the comments as well.
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  Add some advice in the comments. If y'all know anything about
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  this, put it in the comments, please.
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  So. Just.
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  And be kind and be very kind. We don't know the situation and
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  this is a child writing in yes, but thank you, we really
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  appreciate it. You, hey, you just, you're like,
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  let's just go, right? Right in there.
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  I know. I'm sorry.
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  Let's breathe. We are going to breathe.
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  All right, All right, so I have another update.
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  Yes, am an update. Am I overreacting for calling a
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  divorce attorney after my husband lied about who he was
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  with? So y'all, this was a hot button
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  on our TikTok. People were so pressed and we
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  were all so sure we we were 100% sure.
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  So let me do a little recap. First of all, if you're on
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  YouTube, click the card. If you're watching this on
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  TikTok, just scroll back on our page a little bit.
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  You'll be able to find this, but the original idea was the a
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  woman wrote in because her husband was trying to go camping
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  on a weekend when their six year old daughter had a ballet
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  recital or something along those lines.
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  And if he was not there, she would have to also bring his her
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  six year old brother so she'd to be responsible for both kids.
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  He was going to go camping with his brother and he prefaced the
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  trip by saying that Verizon was going to have outages and he
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  probably wouldn't have cell phone.
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  I'm sorry, but red flies. It's like, are you going to like
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  ruin the lot? Like that's insane.
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  And when the wife didn't hear from her husband, she got
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  nervous. She called her sister-in-law,
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  his brother's wife, and said, hey, have you heard from the
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  boys? They're camping.
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  And the sister-in-law said, I don't know what you're talking
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  about. He's sitting right here next to
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  me. Y'all.
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  So he lied about who he was with.
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  By the time he got back, she had already called a divorce
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  attorney and he was sleeping in the basement.
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  Well, I'm ready for this one. I'm ready for this one.
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  OK, so she's a little feisty too.
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  I will. I will preface this, she says.
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  I know this isn't the update any of you want, but it's the
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  updates you're going to get. Oh, I'm nervous.
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  He was truly camping alone in the woods.
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  That's crazy. He truly had no service.
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  He did mention it prior specifically because we both
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  were in SOS mode all day the Tuesday before he left because
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  of the Verizon Nationwide outage.
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  I don't want to hear this. I don't want to hear it.
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  I don't. Oh my God.
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  OK, for everyone who thinks I'm a naive moron.
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  OK, she put a little shrugging emoji.
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  So that leads me to believe something that this is just what
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  she chooses to believe. OK.
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  So we will continue from here. He's being all distracting, I'm
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  pretty sure being all distracting dancing and.
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  Everything because he believed that he was truly camping.
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  He just did not want. And there was a lot of comments
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  that came through saying, you know, he just didn't know how to
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  say that he needed time away. OK, so for everyone who thinks
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  he just needed a break from the pressures of a high stakes job
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  and two young kids, let me tell you, this man has felt zero
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  stress from having two young kids.
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  I do their homework with them. I do the bedtime routine.
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  I register for them them for everything.
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  I take them to all practices and performances.
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  I coach when it's a sport I'm familiar with.
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  I volunteer at their school and at every event I can before
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  they're old enough that my face there won't be humiliating.
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  I mow the lawn. I shovel the snow.
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  When the sink leaked, I fixed it.
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  Like there isn't a honey do list here that I'm not giving credit
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  for. I told him I contacted an
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  attorney and he had no reply. The next day he asked if we
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  could talk. He admitted that he's been a
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  real shitty partner and dad for the past two years.
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  He says he cited very specific examples of him being a shitty
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  dad. Not knowing our son's teacher's
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  name, Never seeing a single performance from our daughter in
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  a cheer or dance. Not doing anything around the
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  house. Constantly being mad at me for
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  having emotions. Punishing me for anything that
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  he's viewed as an indiscretion by ignoring me for a week until
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  he thought enough time had passed when he would resurface.
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  Pretending everything was fine. That's insane.
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  He had all those on deck. So you know, he's been here,
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  he's been listening. Not one apology, not one thank
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  you for taking such good care of my family while he wasn't there
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  mentally. No ask for therapy which I was
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  grateful for since last time requested therapy.
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  He then attended every session stone faced and gave me no
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  response after I begged for any acknowledgement of anything.
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  I said Oh my God, Oh my God, this took a turn.
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  I was not expecting this. We are voyeurs in this, these
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  people's relationship. She ends by saying anyway, wish
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  me luck on the rest of my life. I will never be with a man ever
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  again. Zero stars do not recommend.
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  Stop. Zero stars do not recommend.
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  That is iconic stop. That's not what I expected, She
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  said You're right, I was wrong. He actually didn't have any
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  service. But that's not the reason I'm
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  divorcing him. I'm divorcing him because he was
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  a terrible husband, period. I'm not mad at that.
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  OK? Like we said on the first video,
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  this was not the first straw. This was the last.
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  The last. Yes.
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  Oh my God. OK, so I could admit we were
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  wrong. We were wrong because I said
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  straight up he was cheating. We were wrong.
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  But we weren't wrong in assuming that he.
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  Was a little. Sketchy as a person?
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  Yes, exactly because you knew that there was something going
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  on. She also had mentioned that it
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  was A and these other five year olds.
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  It's not a huge like a huge dance recital or anything like
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  that. Stake championships.
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  But what it was is you couldn't be there to help your spouse who
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  would need to now watch both children.
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  He had said something in the original post about I'll hire a
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  like daycare a babysitter and she's like so I still have to
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  get him ready and drive him the opposite direction to go to a
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  babysitter and so. In addition to you not caring
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  enough to be like, I want to be there for my child anyway.
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  Like people think that your kids don't remember things like that.
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  It's like, oh, but they do. They do.
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  They do. So you're affecting your kids.
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  And then you're not even trying or attempting to help your wife.
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  And then, you know, you're doing bad things.
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  You're keeping tally of all the things that you're failing at as
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  a husband and as a father, and you're choosing to do nothing
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  about it. That part, that's insane.
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  So she was like, let me just set the record straight here.
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  She put it in the comment section too.
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  She made me search for this. OK, She's hilarious.
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  She is hilarious but she's like 0 stars I'll never do.
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  This again and honestly, I don't blame her.
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  I don't blame her. That's why that's not what I
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  That was a good update. Wow.
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  That is not what I expected at all.
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  I was been like, OK, yeah, we're wrong.
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  I was ready to be like, I apologize.
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  Absolutely not. I don't think we owe anybody an
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  apology here. Oh my God, that's phenomenal.
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  That was a good one. Thank you for that.
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  Of course. Thank you.
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  Basically, there's a little some something going on in Minnesota.
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  There's a bill if we can go to my screen, this woman on my
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  screen is Anita Lebrun, and she basically went in front of a
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  judge to basically say, hey, I think we should allow senior
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  homes to serve alcohol. That part.
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  I'm with her and I'm with her because they said basically the
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  bills still following the standard rules of alcohol
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  serving anywhere, just in bars, not allowing anyone over 21 to
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  drink and now not allowing anyone over 18 to serve drinks.
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  Naturally responsible drinking. Just in senior homes, I don't
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  see the difference. I don't see a problem here
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  because why not? You know, they just want to be
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  able to have a little, a little snack with their some some they
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  do all the other things. They get to have their picnics
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  and get togethers and all that stuff.
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  And it's like, why? Just because I'm in this home,
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  can I not have a little, a little sip, a little some, some?
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  OK. And we all know she mentioned
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  the good part too. She's like, we all know that if
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  you prevent somebody like say a teenager, for example, prevent
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  them from doing something, all they're going to go is go out
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  and do it, but in an irresponsible and harmful way.
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  So these these old folks are going out trying to get dressed.
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  Oh my God, get dressed. They sneaking out to go get
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  dressed on ice. And you know, right, because she
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  said, because now we have to go out and we could slip on ice,
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  break our hips, break our hips. When you can just serve them
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  responsibly inside the comfort of the nursing and you know,
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  senior living homes and just let them enjoy themselves.
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  I see no issue here. I see no problem here and I hope
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  it passes same. Because what they're calling it
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  what the grandparents happy hour bill period, let them enjoy
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  themselves because it's not about getting blackout drunk.
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  It's not the point. They're just like, let's enjoy
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  our lives, enjoy each other's company.
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  We live memories like. Come on, just with a little sip.
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  Like I understand not everybody drinks alcohol, but it is a
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  social thing, you know, it can be a social thing.
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  So a glass of wine, a little cocktail.
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  Nobody, like you said, nobody's talking about getting blackout
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  drunk. But I saw a quote there.
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  It said living here shouldn't mean fewer freedoms than anybody
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  else. Thank you.
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  And so if I would like a drink, I should be able to have a
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  drink. Thank you.
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  I am a grown ass person, period. Lived a life.
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  And So what? Because I'm living here, I can't
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  have that. Nah, they doing everything else
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  apparently. That part, that part.
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  If y'all don't know about that, don't worry about it.
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  You too young anyway. Don't worry about it.
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  Oh my goodness, that's amazing. That's so funny.
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  So I was able to find out which region in the American states
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  have the sexiest accent. I'm about to be really mad
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  because I I briefly looked at the list.
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  Please go ahead. So this is actually it was
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  posted by Babel, the language learning site, and they asked
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  2000 single people. So I wrote them down from least
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  sexy to sexiest. OK, top ten.
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  OK, all right, so #10 they say is least sexy.
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  Also, let me say while we're reading this, if you have
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  feelings about this, put it in the comment section and also let
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  us know which region you feel no and which you feel is the
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  sexiest. I want to know what you think is
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  the sexiest. Our own region.
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  Then let's do it. Let's do it because I don't.
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  The one I think is the sexiest is not the one I live in.
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  OK, so it might be might surprise you.
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  OK, All right, So the least sexiest #10 is the Appalachian
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  region, which is Pennsylvania to North Alabama.
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  Yeah, all. Right #9 Philadelphia they just
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  was like just surrounding areas and Philadelphia the.
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  Hate. 8 #8 inland northern slash Great Lakes, which is Chicago,
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  Minneapolis, Cleveland and Milwaukee.
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  I don't think I agree with that. Yeah #7 New England, which is
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  Boston, and parts of Massachusetts, Vermont, Maine
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  and New Hampshire. They don't like Boston.
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  Why? Not.
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  I don't know. I'm sitting here gonna try to
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  prep one. Do not let me do accents.
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  I'm horrible at it. The Boston.
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  You know what? You better than me.
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  All right, number six California, specifically
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  southern Cali they some haters that we didn't make top five
• 20:36
  they're haters. They just they they want to find
• 20:40
  any chance to try to win over California, so they're going to
• 20:43
  take their little. We have the sexier accent.
• 20:46
  Fine, take it, we'll win it. Everything else, bye.
• 20:48
  Uh. Oh, somebody's pressed.
• 20:52
  Bye. OK, these are the top five.
• 20:56
  All right #5 is General American, which is considered
• 21:00
  the Midwest, mountain states, Pacific Northwest and parts of
• 21:03
  the West Coast. So it's like general, a general
• 21:08
  American accent. OK #4 Miami and South Florida,
• 21:14
  Latino influenced American English.
• 21:18
  I can. Yeah.
• 21:20
  Cross for sure #3 New York City and surrounding metro areas all.
• 21:27
  Right. Yep, all right.
• 21:29
  So #2 Louisiana slash Cajun. They do have fire accents.
• 21:35
  I like that. Yeah.
• 21:41
  And the number one sexiest accent, according to these
• 21:44
  people, is Southern American, which is Texas, Georgia,
• 21:49
  Alabama, Mississippi, the Carolinas, Tennessee and
• 21:52
  Arkansas. I disagree.
• 21:54
  I'm sorry, I passionately disagree.
• 21:57
  What I. Why?
• 22:00
  I don't know, Southern accent. I don't, I don't dig that.
• 22:04
  It actually, like, irks me. It's kind of like it.
• 22:06
  Just like, yeah, it's too aggressive, too specific, I
• 22:12
  think. Well, I think my favorite is New
• 22:15
  York. New York.
• 22:17
  I really love a New York accent. I think it's great, but I want
• 22:20
  to know what you all think Yes about this list and what's your
• 22:24
  favorite sexiest act. Please put it in the comments.
• 22:26
  We're we're so curious. I'm gonna keep Reverend Callie,
• 22:30
  but that's just me. Oh yeah, for sure.
• 22:32
  Top three. That is just.
• 22:33
  For sure, y'all are just some haters all right.
• 22:39
  So to get a little bit on the more passionate side, I'm on the
• 22:43
  younger side. So this is a discussion that I'm
• 22:45
  really interested in and just like let's get into it, we can
• 22:48
  go to my screen. So the woman on your screen is
• 22:51
  McKenna Simmonson, I think her name is, and she is a special
• 22:55
  needs graduate from Washington State.
• 22:57
  Essentially she graduated with the 3.87 GPA but with a first
• 23:02
  grade reading level. We need to like repeat that.
• 23:06
  So she graduated with honors with honors with a 3.87 GPA, but
• 23:12
  her reading level was at a first grade level.
• 23:15
  Amazing how that can happen. That's insane.
• 23:18
  So basically her family is now suing the school district and
• 23:23
  saying that it is benevolent discrimination.
• 23:25
  And so in case you are unaware of benevolent discrimination, I
• 23:29
  have it on here, just so you know.
• 23:31
  It's basically a. Unique sort of discrimination
• 23:33
  that like references the actions that appear to be
• 23:36
  well-intentioned towards mostly marginalized groups, but in
• 23:41
  reality, they're still perpetuating like a stereotype
• 23:44
  and keeping those specific marginalized groups down.
• 23:48
  For example, the token black friend in every movie and TV
• 23:52
  show that you've ever seen. Well then I want to use that one
• 23:55
  as a specific example because we all know what that is, right?
• 23:58
  Forever condoned to be the comedic relief or the nerdy side
• 24:02
  friend, but never good enough to be the main character or the
• 24:05
  love interest. But we're there for diversity
• 24:07
  just so you can see how diverse it is, right?
• 24:09
  It's good, but it's not good. That's what it means.
• 24:12
  So basically she graduated, got a diploma, and her goal was to
• 24:18
  go go to this vocational program that's basically going to allow
• 24:20
  her to trans, like transition from high school to later on in
• 24:24
  life. And it would have been a free
• 24:26
  program. But since she got a diploma, it
• 24:30
  cost money, so she was not eligible to go for that program
• 24:33
  so. Even though she didn't earn it
• 24:35
  technically. Exactly.
• 24:36
  So now she had to go to an alternative which was like a
• 24:40
  Community College and now she has to pay $40,000 a year.
• 24:44
  For this education, education which she would have gotten for
• 24:47
  free if she just didn't get this diploma or, or well, The thing
• 24:54
  is to get to this level because she was super excited to
• 24:58
  graduate and she's just like, yes, I earned this.
• 25:00
  This feels great. So she's going to this, you
• 25:03
  know, secondary level and realizing how far behind she is.
• 25:08
  She's working her ass off in this program to be able to just
• 25:12
  get to the level that she should have gotten to.
• 25:14
  Before she graduated. Thank you.
• 25:16
  A first grade reading level. How does that happen?
• 25:19
  It's essentially A participation trophy that she was getting.
• 25:22
  That's what her lawyers were saying.
• 25:23
  This is a participation diploma essentially that just sent her
• 25:26
  through but is doing her no good in the long run anyway because
• 25:30
  one, she still can't get the free vocational program that she
• 25:33
  would have needed in the 1st place and 2nd she's playing
• 25:36
  catch up the entire time. So now she's in school, three
• 25:40
  years in school, 22 years old now, and she is 100 and.
• 25:44
  And $60,000 in student debt if if she needed more time to be
• 25:50
  able to get these things or more education more look they should
• 25:53
  have given it to her instead of being like OK cool see you in
• 25:56
  the next grade pushed you. Through which was the benevolent
• 25:59
  discrimination part that we were talking about.
• 26:02
  It was the we're going to help you out because of a certain
• 26:06
  thing. She is a special needs student.
• 26:08
  Remember, we're going to, yes, we're going to, we're going to
• 26:12
  push you through because we think that you need the extra
• 26:15
  help, but we're not going to give you the extra help.
• 26:17
  But we think that you can make it.
• 26:19
  So here's the diploma without actually helping you get to that
• 26:23
  point, right? And so it's doing more harm than
• 26:26
  it's doing good, way more harm than good.
• 26:28
  But since she was special needs, she should have been given
• 26:32
  certain. Help and she was not given that
• 26:35
  help and she was passed along. She was just pushed on to the
• 26:39
  next and pushed on to the next thing, and that's where the
• 26:41
  problem is. Yeah, and she legitimately
• 26:44
  thought she was learning. They were bringing her to school
• 26:47
  as normal. She was like, I'm doing it.
• 26:49
  She doesn't know what level she's supposed to be because
• 26:51
  they're giving her this amount of information and saying you
• 26:54
  earned it, but comparatively, she learned nothing and you're
• 26:59
  sending her out unprepared. So this is the school's fault.
• 27:02
  And I do not like fault the parents and her family for suing
• 27:07
  them because the school's job is to prepare the kids to go on,
• 27:11
  right? That is what the job is, right?
• 27:13
  So you guys are just pushing her through.
• 27:15
  It's stupid because you wouldn't give a kid a driver's license
• 27:20
  and say, hey, go out there and drive because the first thing
• 27:22
  they'll do is crash, right? Exactly.
• 27:25
  Exactly how a comparison teach these kids how to do certain
• 27:28
  things. That is the purpose of school.
• 27:30
  So what was she doing there? Right.
• 27:33
  It was like babysitting or something.
• 27:35
  And that's why I keep going back to it's like, give her the tools
• 27:39
  she needed or like there is no org give her the tools she
• 27:44
  needed because what you, you weren't giving her that, but you
• 27:46
  were still promoting her without she her even knowing that she
• 27:50
  wasn't getting what she needed exactly until she went out into
• 27:53
  the quote UN quote real world. And now they're like, Oh no.
• 27:56
  Sweetie, you don't even know how to do ex-wife basic things.
• 27:59
  But yeah, this was her in high school.
• 28:01
  This is her now more grown up. She's at college.
• 28:04
  She says she's thriving. She said she's doing well.
• 28:06
  That's great. But like also that point too,
• 28:08
  because she's thriving, she's doing well because when Facebook
• 28:12
  with these challenges that you think these certain types of
• 28:14
  people aren't able to live up to, they do fine and they thrive
• 28:19
  well when given the right tools. So don't assume, provide the
• 28:24
  information. Do your best as a school to give
• 28:28
  that information to give the tools for these kids to move on.
• 28:31
  So it's not fair and I don't blame them for suing.
• 28:35
  Oh yeah, I hope they take them. They take the bank, get all of
• 28:38
  it. You know, but, yeah, good for
• 28:39
  her for like, thriving and doing what she's got to do.
• 28:42
  But that $160,000 instead of debt, Yeah, the school owes for
• 28:45
  that at the very least, you know?
• 28:48
  Yeah, Thank you. Sorry.
• 28:50
  I just, you know, she's like, I need it to education is
• 28:53
  education OK, like. Yeah.
• 28:58
  All right. So I have the four health
• 29:00
  benefits of being short. Oh God, oh God.
• 29:09
  So this is all data from the National Center of Health
• 29:11
  Statistics. And I had to look up what short
• 29:14
  means, right? Because, because, like, what
• 29:16
  does that mean? At what level are you considered
• 29:18
  short and at what level are you considered tall, right?
• 29:21
  OK, so short for a man is under 5.
• 29:23
  Seven. OK.
• 29:25
  OK. And short for a woman is under
• 29:27
  53. Really.
• 29:30
  That's what it said? OK.
• 29:32
  I feel like that's changed over the last couple of years.
• 29:34
  You think so? I I think.
• 29:36
  So yeah, that's crazy. I've never really thought about
• 29:38
  it, you know, because you'd be like, oh, he's short and she's
• 29:41
  short, but like, what does that mean?
• 29:42
  Right. Like what are the.
• 29:43
  Yeah, what's the parameter? So apparently that's what it is.
• 29:46
  All right. So the number one health benefit
• 29:48
  of being short is a lower cancer risk.
• 29:52
  OK. Yeah.
• 29:53
  So they say basically for every 10 centimeters, you're lowered
• 29:57
  risk by 18% in women and 11% in men.
• 30:01
  Really. Yeah.
• 30:03
  Based on these statistics and these different things that
• 30:05
  they've. Why is it right?
• 30:08
  That's not fair. I know.
• 30:11
  So we're all tall in this family.
• 30:12
  So we're like, wait a minute, hold on.
• 30:16
  So #2 less likely to get a blood clot, so 65% lower risk than a
• 30:23
  man over 6 two and a 69% lower risk than a woman over 6 feet.
• 30:31
  Interesting. Yeah, very interesting.
• 30:35
  Again, Why? Given the short kings and Queens
• 30:38
  a little boost, yeah, like confidence.
• 30:41
  So #3 less likely to break a hip.
• 30:43
  Now. This made me laugh because just
• 30:45
  because we're tall. Like if we fall?
• 30:47
  We break a hip. But yes, that's exactly what it
• 30:49
  said. It said we have a, they have a
• 30:51
  lower center of gravity, so it's like less.
• 30:53
  Yeah, that's what I was about to say.
• 30:56
  That actually makes sense. It does, and the last one is
• 31:00
  more likely to live. Longer, just like in general.
• 31:03
  In general and what they did is they had these two test groups
• 31:06
  and they separated him. He was the short group and here
• 31:08
  was a lot the tall group and the short group on average lived
• 31:12
  longer. Why see the tall guy?
• 31:17
  He said in battle you can see this, the tall guy.
• 31:20
  No, we were in battle. Hold on, that's insane.
• 31:25
  Man, so I thought that would be fun to add because there is a
• 31:28
  lot of judgment on people who are shorter and it's like, there
• 31:32
  are benefits to everything, so why not?
• 31:35
  Yeah, we're not just be like, well, I'm gonna live longer.
• 31:39
  Yeah, that's a nice little like, because God forbid I am shorter
• 31:43
  or taller, that's like I can't change.
• 31:45
  That you can't. I mean, you can.
• 31:48
  People are changing it. Yeah.
• 31:50
  Isn't that kind of crazy? That's wild.
• 31:52
  That's a lot of pain. I know.
• 31:54
  Don't do that please. Thank.
• 31:56
  You and the last little story we wanted to squeeze in there is
• 31:59
  that sharks in the Bahamas are full of cocaine, caffeine and
• 32:03
  prescription drugs. They're getting high in the
• 32:08
  ocean, OK, And it's our fault, just like everything, right?
• 32:12
  And so blood samples, they took it from 85 sharks off the shores
• 32:15
  of the Bahamas and over a third tested positive for one or more
• 32:19
  of these things, right? It's insane.
• 32:22
  And it's like we're going to the Bahamas.
• 32:25
  The biggest reason they said is because we're going to the
• 32:26
  Bahamas, get in the water and peeing and peeing out all of
• 32:29
  these things because you put it in your body, but it has to
• 32:32
  leave somewhere, OK? And so obviously that's what
• 32:35
  they're. Absorbing that, that's nasty and
• 32:40
  peeing, that's nasty, right? So there's a.
• 32:42
  Bathroom, right, and then also sharks are what they call
• 32:48
  opportunistic feeders. And so if something's there,
• 32:51
  they're going to eat it. And in the in the trafficking
• 32:54
  routes, if when you know, Burke of cocaine happens to drop off,
• 32:57
  the shark is like, I got you. That's insane.
• 33:02
  But they said they were tests or watching these sharks and with
• 33:05
  the ones who had contaminated blood, they were having shifts
• 33:08
  in their behavior. So these things were affecting
• 33:11
  how they were feeding, like their routes that they take, you
• 33:14
  know, when they are hunting or whatever it is they do in the
• 33:17
  water that they were having effects.
• 33:20
  Wow. Honestly, humans need to stay.
• 33:23
  Out the ocean. Well I'm going to go in the
• 33:25
  ocean, but like to hear. You know, they're like, stop
• 33:29
  doing things that affect the ocean like enough.
• 33:32
  That with, with the way the runoff, you know, also with the
• 33:36
  rainwater runoff and all sorts of things.
• 33:37
  So there's lots of stuff that people, they flush their, their
• 33:40
  drugs down that like their prescriptions too down the
• 33:42
  toilet. Those can end up in the ocean.
• 33:44
  So there's lots of ways that these poor sharks are ingesting.
• 33:48
  Stuff. We need to stop.
• 33:50
  It's wrong. It's wrong.
• 33:52
  I was at CVS the other day. They have a little dispenser.
• 33:54
  You can put your your old drugs in there.
• 33:56
  Seriously. Yeah.
• 33:57
  You don't have to to flesh them. In case y'all didn't know that,
• 33:59
  Well, I didn't know that, but like come on yeah let's not put
• 34:03
  it in the ocean. I'm not trying to be all like
• 34:06
  save the turtles. I got my metal straw.
• 34:08
  But like I. Do have a metal straw.
• 34:09
  I do have a metal straw but they they started teaching us to cut
• 34:13
  the rings of our 6 packs so they didn't get stuck on the turtles
• 34:17
  and now they have breakaway ones and so I feel like that's in the
• 34:19
  same realm right? Just.
• 34:22
  Little things that add up over time that don't damage our
• 34:25
  environment. You got high sharks out there
• 34:28
  that because that's insane. That's insane.
• 34:30
  I know they were like. What is this?
• 34:33
  But it's feeling good you. Didn't have fun at a time in the
• 34:40
  water. It's in the water.
• 34:43
  All right. Getting back to the reddits.
• 34:45
  I got a Reddit today. I effed up by building an app to
• 34:50
  track how many times my Co worker says circling back in
• 34:53
  meetings. Now the whole office uses it.
• 34:57
  I could use that. So there's this guy at work,
• 35:00
  let's call him Kay, Kay says, circling back constantly in
• 35:04
  every meeting, sometimes twice in the same sentence.
• 35:08
  So just circling back on that before we circle back on the
• 35:10
  main point. No, stop it.
• 35:14
  I started noticing it maybe four months ago and now I cannot
• 35:17
  unhear it. It has ruined meetings for me
• 35:20
  entirely. So as a joke.
• 35:22
  Purely from my own own amusement, I vibe coded a mini
• 35:25
  wobby app in 10 minutes. Every time Kay says circling
• 35:28
  back, I tap the screen. It tracks daily counts, shows me
• 35:32
  a weekly graft and gives me a personal best notification.
• 35:36
  I showed 2 colleagues mistake. They immediately wanted to use
• 35:40
  it too. I shared the link.
• 35:42
  Not a big deal, right? Within two days there were nine
• 35:45
  of us silently tapping our phones every time Kay spoke.
• 35:49
  We have a group chat now. Someone made a weekly week
• 35:52
  leaderboard for the highest count.
• 35:54
  Amazing. Someone else added a feature
• 35:56
  request for To Be Honest because apparently Kate from Finance
• 35:59
  says at 11 * a meeting and felt left out recently.
• 36:06
  Kay said, circling back 23 times at a 56 minute sink.
• 36:10
  Oh my God, we nearly lost it. Someone had to fake a coughing
• 36:13
  fit. The problem is I now look
• 36:19
  forward to meetings. Like genuinely.
• 36:21
  I checked the group chat during calls.
• 36:23
  We celebrate new personal best, Kay said, circling back at 9:07
• 36:27
  AM yesterday. And I got 3 notifications within
• 36:29
  seconds. Within seconds.
• 36:33
  I built an app to cope with an annoying habit and accidentally
• 36:37
  made meetings the best part of work day.
• 36:39
  Kay will never know. I feel both terrible and
• 36:41
  completely at peace with this. I love that.
• 36:45
  I don't understand how you say circling back that much once in
• 36:49
  a meeting, maybe going around in.
• 36:51
  Circles. So we're going to circle back.
• 36:53
  We circle it back, put a pin in it.
• 36:55
  Oh my God. And Kate from stock financing to
• 37:00
  be honest, to be honest. But we all have our verbal
• 37:03
  ticks. I mean, I know I say a lot of
• 37:06
  things over and over and over again for sure, but not circling
• 37:09
  back. Circling back is so annoying,
• 37:11
  but also if. People in the meeting were like
• 37:14
  that. Every time I said a certain
• 37:16
  phrase, I would know, no, he's not paying attention.
• 37:18
  He is circling back. He is not.
• 37:21
  He's not focused on that at all. That's hilarious.
• 37:26
  When you were talking about what he did to create the app, I was
• 37:29
  like, what was that? I am so old because say it again
• 37:35
  what he created because I was like what is that?
• 37:37
  What did he do? It sounded like fake words, he
• 37:42
  said. I vibe.
• 37:43
  Coded a mini WAPI app in 10 minutes.
• 37:47
  What? Like what is that?
• 37:50
  He said it's another language. It is another language that I
• 37:54
  don't understand I. Vibe coded was basically like
• 37:57
  off the jump just impulsively. I vibe coded a mini wabi app.
• 38:03
  Which is the app OK a mini version?
• 38:05
  Mini wabi app. Of the app.
• 38:08
  Mini wabi app you're going to give me a new verbal?
• 38:12
  Tick. Yeah.
• 38:12
  No, let's wrap it up. Yeah, when you said that, I was
• 38:17
  like, I don't know what these words are.
• 38:18
  What is that the purpose was? He did this.
• 38:21
  Thing he did amazing. Amazing.
• 38:24
  I love that. Am I the asshole for sneaking my
• 38:27
  mom some alcohol when she was in Hospice?
• 38:31
  It depends. My mom is in her 50s and dying
• 38:35
  from liver cancer. She is terminal and currently
• 38:38
  undergoing in home Hospice care. My mother has always lived an
• 38:42
  unhealthy lifestyle. She was an extremely heavy
• 38:45
  smoker for years and luckily quit between 10 and 15 years
• 38:48
  ago, and she's very proud of that.
• 38:50
  But she's been morbidly obese her whole life.
• 38:52
  She hasn't treated her type 2 diabetes well enough, and for
• 38:55
  years she was drinking four to six 5% alcohol drinks per day
• 39:00
  for about four to five days per week.
• 39:02
  All this compounded and she ended up with liver cancer.
• 39:06
  By the time it was caught, it was terminal.
• 39:08
  When she started feeling sick, she stopped drinking.
• 39:11
  Except for rare occasions. I visit my mom two to three
• 39:14
  times per week. I talk to her, we watch TV and
• 39:17
  I'll bring her what she asked for.
• 39:19
  She recently talked about how she missed her drink of choice
• 39:22
  she wanted a couple to have. I got a list of her meds and
• 39:26
  made sure there was no or minimal interactions.
• 39:28
  And when she had a really good day with no pain meds, I brought
• 39:31
  her a six pack of her favorite drink.
• 39:33
  She was very happy and drank 2 and then went to sleep.
• 39:36
  I told my siblings about this when I was.
• 39:38
  When I updated them a few days later they got really mad at me
• 39:42
  because she has liver cancer and her liver isn't right but I
• 39:44
  still gave her alcohol. This was weeks ago and she still
• 39:48
  has four cans out of the six pack leftover and she hasn't had
• 39:51
  them. But even if she did, she's going
• 39:53
  to die. Let her enjoy her time.
• 39:56
  They think I was harming her and causing her to die faster by
• 39:59
  giving her the alcoholic drinks. I think I gave her a evening of
• 40:03
  enjoyment when she doesn't have many left.
• 40:05
  I've been catching flak for them from weeks and now it's
• 40:08
  spreading to other family members.
• 40:09
  So am I the asshole for giving my mother alcoholic drinks when
• 40:13
  she is on Hospice for liver cancer?
• 40:14
  This one was. Hard while I can see both
• 40:17
  perspectives, I can see the siblings perspective like why
• 40:20
  are you like furthering her illness?
• 40:23
  And then I can see her perspective.
• 40:25
  Let's make the last moments of her life enjoyable.
• 40:29
  What I know is that a lot of times people were like, you're
• 40:34
  going to die in a week. You make it past a week, things
• 40:37
  happen. You never know.
• 40:39
  And I feel like just being like you're going to die.
• 40:43
  So let me help it along. Like I know that's not her
• 40:45
  intention, but like, let's not. I feel like that was doing more
• 40:49
  harm than good. I mean, I know she wanted that,
• 40:52
  but like, come on. I feel you.
• 40:55
  But I have a completely different perspective on that.
• 40:58
  I'm like. She is there's is not might is
• 41:04
  going to pass away from the way that she treated her body.
• 41:07
  Yes, you can argue, you know all of that, but she's here now and
• 41:12
  if she wants a little drink, I'm like, why not let her have a
• 41:16
  little bit of happiness or peace or whatever.
• 41:19
  There was this story that I had saved from years ago I had found
• 41:22
  somewhere online and this guy was arrested because he went on
• 41:26
  this spree with his wife who was also on Hospice.
• 41:29
  They went to strip clubs, they went to the the alcohol, you
• 41:33
  know, store. They were drinking, they were
• 41:35
  partying, they were having a great time.
• 41:36
  And it probably was not good for her, but that's what she wanted
• 41:40
  towards the end of her life. And he was like, I'll give it to
• 41:42
  you, baby. You know what I mean?
• 41:44
  That's fair. That's fair.
• 41:45
  Like I, I understand that perspective too.
• 41:47
  I just, maybe the part of me is like, no, let me try to keep you
• 41:51
  as long as I can, but that's from a selfish perspective.
• 41:55
  And I can acknowledge that, but I want to be selfish in this
• 41:59
  because it's like, I don't want to lose you.
• 42:01
  True, true. But you are and she's already
• 42:03
  there, but she goes over, she visits her all the time.
• 42:05
  You know, she's spending this time with her mom, and if her
• 42:08
  mom really wanted something that I don't know if it's going to
• 42:13
  hurt her at this point, right? Versus it's more of a mental
• 42:17
  thing. And it's just like, I just had a
• 42:18
  little sip and now I'm I feel better.
• 42:20
  Yeah. It's not like she's drinking,
• 42:21
  no. She still has some.
• 42:23
  I was about to say that. Yeah, she still has some.
• 42:25
  She's enjoying it. She's not like abusing it.
• 42:28
  So, yeah, I can see your perspective.
• 42:31
  And I'm like, she may not be, but the part of me that wants to
• 42:34
  be selfish is like, keep her here.
• 42:36
  So I get it. Yeah.
• 42:38
  Yeah, I get that totally. I don't know.
• 42:39
  That's a tough one. I know.
• 42:41
  I don't really know if there's a solid answer for that.
• 42:44
  I don't think it's fair that his siblings are like coming at her
• 42:46
  like that, especially if the mom asked.
• 42:49
  It's not like I just was like, and she asked her like she
• 42:52
  didn't say how often her siblings go and visit or
• 42:54
  anything like that, but she's there all the time.
• 42:56
  So I don't know. I don't know.
• 42:58
  That was a tough one. I don't know.
• 43:03
  All right, I have a Reddit relationship advice.
• 43:06
  I think my new friend is perfect for my boyfriend.
• 43:09
  How do I let this go? Let me read it again.
• 43:15
  I think my new friend is perfect for my boyfriend.
• 43:19
  How do I let this go? This is interesting.
• 43:21
  Yeah, OK. So for the purpose of this post,
• 43:25
  I-27 female am going to call my boyfriend, 27 male Jake and my
• 43:30
  new friend 26 female Stephanie. Jake and I have been together
• 43:34
  for four years. About nine months ago, I met
• 43:36
  Stephanie through work and we hit it off immediately.
• 43:39
  But looking back on it now, maybe she reminded me of Jake in
• 43:42
  some subconscious way. But we became fast friends.
• 43:46
  One night I invited her over to make a dish for a potluck at
• 43:48
  work, since we both love to cook and bake.
• 43:51
  While we were there, Jake came home and I introduced them and
• 43:54
  he sat with us while we worked. They clicked instantly.
• 43:58
  They're not similar in terms of interest, but they have the same
• 44:01
  sense of humor and the same kind of energy.
• 44:04
  I don't know how to describe it. It was like 2 puzzle pieces
• 44:06
  slotting together and I like that at first I don't see it how
• 44:10
  I see it now. The closer I've gotten was
• 44:13
  Stephanie because I really do like her, the more she's
• 44:16
  ingratiated herself into her friend group and the more I have
• 44:19
  noticed how Jake is around her. I've got to say, it's not
• 44:22
  inappropriate. It's more things you can't
• 44:24
  control or even notice. He blushes around her
• 44:27
  constantly. When she says something funny,
• 44:30
  he does this hoarse laugh that I've never heard him do before.
• 44:34
  Sometimes he will see something while we're out and say I should
• 44:37
  tell my friend Stephanie about it.
• 44:39
  Your friend? I collected my friend in the
• 44:43
  room. You know the sequels in that one
• 44:46
  movie? Mine.
• 44:47
  Mine mine. If someone brings her up, he
• 44:52
  remembers insane things like about her like her favorite
• 44:55
  brand of vodka. He talks to her in a tone of
• 44:58
  voice that's similar to how he talks to his mom, just gentle.
• 45:02
  He doesn't talk to her one-on-one or even follows her
• 45:05
  on socials. AS0 worries about him cheating
• 45:08
  but when I see them together it freaks me out.
• 45:10
  And how they seem to gravitate towards each other in Group
• 45:12
  settings. How he goes out of his way to
• 45:15
  explain things to her in detail. How she asked him questions that
• 45:18
  always seem to get him to open up in a way that he didn't with
• 45:21
  me for years. And even now I have to tell them
• 45:24
  explicitly that I want him to be emotional before he does.
• 45:27
  They just seem to get each other.
• 45:29
  The way he acts with her is a way that I didn't even know he
• 45:32
  could act. For his birthday.
• 45:34
  I was stumped for a gift and I asked Stephanie for suggestions.
• 45:38
  She picked the perfect thing. I'd never seen Jake as happy as
• 45:42
  when he opened it. He said he couldn't believe I
• 45:44
  thought of it and looked at me like he never felt so understood
• 45:47
  by me as he did then. But I didn't think of it.
• 45:50
  She did. Oh no.
• 45:52
  I feel like I'm going crazy because nothing I can see is
• 45:55
  concrete. It's not like he's super close
• 45:58
  with her or she's asking about him.
• 46:00
  There are boundaries and then there's just me noticing vibes.
• 46:03
  But it's so real, I just know it.
• 46:06
  I don't know if he knows it or she does, but knowing both of
• 46:09
  them, sometimes they just say something and I know it's
• 46:11
  something the other would want to hear.
• 46:13
  I need to let this go. I can't bring this up to either
• 46:16
  of them but it's consuming me. I'm getting short and depressed
• 46:18
  every time I say something to Jake and he doesn't immediately
• 46:21
  light up. Every time Stephanie asked me
• 46:23
  how my weekend was or date night went.
• 46:25
  And I feel like I don't want to tell her.
• 46:27
  Like I'm hoarding my relationship.
• 46:29
  I love Jake and I like Stephanie.
• 46:32
  I don't want this to affect my relationship with either of them
• 46:34
  or even their friendliness with each other.
• 46:36
  How do I just chill out about this without consuming any more
• 46:39
  of my energy? This is a tough one because I
• 46:45
  don't know if y'all should be together exactly because you see
• 46:50
  this already. They're not doing anything
• 46:52
  wrong. No, they aren't being
• 46:53
  inappropriate. They aren't, you know, going
• 46:55
  behind your back. Pray your words.
• 46:57
  And so for you to just see, like, if my husband vibed with
• 47:02
  another woman, I would be inconsolable.
• 47:06
  Yeah. In that way.
• 47:07
  Yeah. That I would really have to
• 47:09
  check myself. Like, I would be like, OK, what
• 47:12
  am I not doing? I mean, the fact that she
• 47:15
  couldn't even think of the birthday gift and she got it
• 47:18
  like that. I.
• 47:19
  Don't know, girl girl. I know, I know because that's
• 47:25
  interesting. It's like maybe you guys are
• 47:30
  soul mates but platonic soul mates, but then he happened to
• 47:33
  find his romantic soul mate and it's OK.
• 47:38
  And there are multiple forms of soul mates.
• 47:40
  But if you're seeing that they're vibing like that, I feel
• 47:43
  like it's worse to try to force a situation or like, again, the
• 47:48
  selfishness. You can't be selfish in that
• 47:51
  moment. You kind of got to like talk to
• 47:53
  them and be like, how are you feeling?
• 47:55
  How is she feeling? I know what I'm feeling.
• 47:58
  I know what I'm reading off of you guys.
• 48:00
  That would just be a conversation you have to have.
• 48:02
  Like you guys found each other. You guys have been together for
• 48:05
  four years. No one can take that shared
• 48:07
  experience that you guys have already had.
• 48:09
  But trying to force something that's just not continuing like
• 48:14
  that, yes. Or being like, I'm going to keep
• 48:17
  him so that doesn't happen. Yes, that part that can't
• 48:20
  happen, you know what I mean? Or.
• 48:22
  Ending your friendship for her, from her.
• 48:24
  So she's no longer around. Right.
• 48:26
  So now you're taking this away from your boyfriend.
• 48:30
  Exactly. And Stephanie and Stephanie,
• 48:32
  Yeah. I just don't know.
• 48:33
  I've never come across something like this before where the vibe
• 48:37
  like they are really just connected in that way.
• 48:40
  And you seem like you're in the way and that.
• 48:42
  Sucks oh God that would hurt. Hurt my feelings but at this
• 48:48
  point it hurts more to stay in this relationship knowing that
• 48:51
  it's not clicking then to be like let's all do what we got to
• 48:55
  do. And just like you said,
• 48:56
  conversation, a lot of these things we read would be fixed if
• 48:59
  people just had conversations. And this one, I think she's
• 49:04
  afraid to have the conversation because she doesn't want to hear
• 49:07
  what might come out of somebody's mouth.
• 49:09
  But I think in this situation, you have to because you're just
• 49:12
  stressed out. Like she's getting depressed and
• 49:14
  feeling all these ways when you just got to bite the bullet, as
• 49:18
  they say, circle back. No is K gonna be a reference
• 49:24
  again? Yes K short for Kevin or not?
• 49:26
  Oh no, Kevin. But yeah, that that's a tough
• 49:30
  one, but I really do think like you just have to go for it.
• 49:32
  You have to look at it and just say maybe this is what I'm
• 49:35
  saying. Am I crazy right.
• 49:38
  You know, and I wouldn't I won't be mad at you, but and it's this
• 49:41
  is what I need to bring so respectful too.
• 49:43
  It doesn't seem like they have each other's phone numbers, if
• 49:46
  they're even added on each other on social media.
• 49:49
  They don't hang out when it's not with the the OP.
• 49:53
  It's insane, and to know that that that much and know somebody
• 49:58
  that well after those little bit of interactions, that's tough.
• 50:02
  I don't know, girl. You in danger, girl?
• 50:06
  I'm just saying a conversation needs to be had.
• 50:08
  No one's saying I need to break up with him.
• 50:11
  Y'all just date each other. Just a conversation.
• 50:13
  Just talk. But yeah Lord.
• 50:17
  Oh no. Don't have nobody come and
• 50:19
  looking at my man like that. Am I the asshole for getting
• 50:30
  upset at my girlfriend for mocking me when I cried?
• 50:34
  Yes. So hello.
• 50:38
  He said hello, he's very sweet. I'm 23, male, my girlfriend is
• 50:42
  24, female. We've been living together since
• 50:45
  the new year of 2026 but in a relationship for a year and a
• 50:48
  half. I'm an emotionally sensitive
• 50:50
  person since childhood but I was taught not to cry or at least do
• 50:54
  it alone thanks to the boys don't cry type of upbringing I
• 50:58
  had. My girlfriend never saw me
• 51:00
  crying until yesterday. I never watched Breaking Bad and
• 51:04
  Better Call Saul. Now let's side note.
• 51:06
  OK yes I love me some Breaking Bad and Better Call Saul.
• 51:10
  OK and Saul finished and I finished the last episode
• 51:14
  yesterday as the ending of Better Call Saul was emotionally
• 51:17
  heavy. I couldn't control myself and
• 51:19
  cry. OK, it's valid.
• 51:21
  It's a very good ending. I was really invested in the
• 51:24
  show. My girlfriend had already
• 51:25
  watched them though. But instead of comforting me or
• 51:28
  at least leaving me alone, she started making fun of me for
• 51:31
  crying over media. It wasn't some playful banter.
• 51:35
  She didn't stop until I was totally pissed and had to stop
• 51:37
  crying to make her go. She made me feel like I'm weak
• 51:40
  and stupid. I immediately told her how bad I
• 51:43
  felt but she wasn't concerned at all and carried on with her
• 51:46
  routine. Girl, I'm extremely upset and
• 51:51
  disappointed in her. This is the first time she saw
• 51:53
  me crying and that was her reaction.
• 51:56
  Around an hour later before bed, I told her that if she doesn't
• 51:59
  truly feel sorry for what she did yesterday, then don't blame
• 52:02
  me in the future if I become emotionally distant from her and
• 52:05
  start hiding things whenever I get vulnerable.
• 52:08
  She reacted strongly and we had a fight.
• 52:10
  Am I the asshole? Absolutely not.
• 52:13
  I yes, I'm glad he said that at the end too because that was
• 52:16
  about to be my point. OK where it's it's the fathers
• 52:20
  telling their sons not to feel these things because they were
• 52:23
  not validated with their feelings.
• 52:25
  And then their parents telling them because they weren't
• 52:28
  validated in their feelings and they didn't feel like it was a
• 52:30
  safe place. And women not making men feel
• 52:32
  comfortable enough to show these feelings and when they do making
• 52:35
  them feel bad. It's like how can he be mad at
• 52:38
  men? They're not crying when every
• 52:40
  time they do cry it's like ridiculed made into a meme.
• 52:44
  It's like laughed at. It's like that's.
• 52:46
  Not fair. It's not fair.
• 52:48
  And I wrote this down because I was like, don't forget to say
• 52:51
  this, but the patriarchy damages everybody.
• 52:54
  People think only women are damaged by the patriarchy, but
• 52:56
  this shows that this damages everybody, right?
• 52:58
  Because the only acceptable emotion for men is anger.
• 53:04
  And that's not fair because they're human beings and they
• 53:08
  have all the emotions, and so they should be able to express
• 53:12
  them in the way that feels natural to them.
• 53:14
  Yeah. And if we ridicule them and make
• 53:16
  them feel horrible for doing that, then we get the.
• 53:20
  Complete opposite thing that we want and we can't even be mad
• 53:24
  that we got exactly what was the result of what we did.
• 53:28
  That's not fair. It's not fair and it's.
• 53:32
  It's it's like a double edged sword where you are sitting
• 53:35
  there and you're like be a man, blah, blah, blah.
• 53:37
  But then like he said, if I come back and I'm super closed off
• 53:40
  from you, she's going to tell everybody.
• 53:43
  He's so closed off. He never talks to me.
• 53:45
  He never says anything. It's like, well, when he opened
• 53:47
  up to you, you laughed in his face.
• 53:49
  So what did you expect him to do?
• 53:52
  Because if the you know, if the roles were reversed, what would
• 53:56
  it be different? She would expect it to be he and
• 53:59
  but then also he would have to comfort her if she's crying
• 54:02
  because that's also a part of his job that is expected for men
• 54:05
  to do. Yes, but it's not our job to
• 54:07
  comfort them when they are feeling emotional.
• 54:11
  That doesn't make any sense to me.
• 54:12
  I don't think you are. I think your girl is a jerk.
• 54:15
  Yes, I'll say that with my chest.
• 54:17
  She is a jerk. And also it is OK to cry over
• 54:20
  media. I cry over media all the time.
• 54:22
  What do you say about a? Commercial the other day I was
• 54:25
  like this is great. That's so stupid.
• 54:29
  It's ridicule him. It's like is that your
• 54:31
  insecurity girl, because now I'm a come for you.
• 54:34
  That's gross. It is.
• 54:36
  It's just really disgusting and to have that, you know, I can
• 54:40
  cry, but you can't. That's not fair and it's your
• 54:42
  job to comfort me and and be there for me, but I'm not going
• 54:45
  to do the same for you. Actually, no emotional bullies.
• 54:51
  That's not fair and I don't think you are.
• 54:53
  You deserve better than that, you really do.
• 54:57
  Yep. And I'm I'm not frightful enough
• 55:00
  to be like we are not. No, your girl gets a red flag.
• 55:04
  Yes, she does. It is what it is.
• 55:08
  It goes both ways. You deserve better, babe.
• 55:11
  Here you go. All right, I have a semi long
• 55:15
  one, but this is my last one. So you ready?
• 55:17
  I'm ready, Slightly raged babe. So you ready?
• 55:19
  All right, Reddit relationship advice My husband faked feigning
• 55:24
  after I gave birth. My my husband, 23 male and I-23
• 55:31
  female, have been together for five years.
• 55:34
  I want to start by saying that despite his quirks, my husband
• 55:37
  is genuinely sweet and hard working.
• 55:39
  I truly believe he loves me deeply, tries his best, and has
• 55:42
  always dreamed of being a husband and father.
• 55:45
  That's why this whole situation has left me confused and
• 55:47
  conflicted. We got pregnant a bit sooner
• 55:50
  than expected, though it wasn't entirely unplanned.
• 55:53
  In the first trimester, I was lucky to avoid nausea, but the
• 55:56
  fatigue hit me hard, especially during my final university
• 56:01
  exams. I had to take a nap for one to
• 56:03
  two hours every afternoon just to function.
• 56:06
  At the time, we didn't know that this was the exhaustion that was
• 56:09
  normal during pregnancy symptoms, and I was focused on
• 56:12
  school that I didn't think much of it.
• 56:15
  Meanwhile, my husband quietly started resenting me.
• 56:18
  He thought I was being lazy because I wasn't keeping up with
• 56:20
  the housework, which, except for dishes, was mostly my
• 56:23
  responsibility. Thankfully, a friend asked that
• 56:27
  I've been hit by the tiredness and explained that it's
• 56:29
  important that I rest. He seemed to understand, but I
• 56:32
  guess it bugs me that by being faced with his wife being
• 56:35
  utterly exhausted, his first reaction was to think of me as
• 56:38
  lazy and be annoyed rather than concerned.
• 56:42
  Throughout the rest of my pregnancy, his attitude often
• 56:45
  fell off. He would get annoyed by what I
• 56:47
  thought were small requests like bringing me water before bed,
• 56:51
  and complained about the size of my pregnancy pillow.
• 56:54
  What? While he always apologized later
• 56:58
  on if I let myself get sad about it, I felt like there was
• 57:01
  something he wasn't saying. Friends told me to enjoy the
• 57:04
  pregnancy pampering, but I didn't experience any of that.
• 57:07
  He treated me the same as before and seemed irritated when I
• 57:10
  couldn't keep up. Despite everything, I had a
• 57:13
  fairly easy pregnancy physically and emotionally.
• 57:17
  During this time, he started getting really into those men's
• 57:20
  experiences during pregnancy podcasts.
• 57:23
  And would. And would vent about how no one
• 57:26
  considers what fathers go through, which I sympathize
• 57:28
  with. Let's note that for later.
• 57:32
  Then came the birth. After a long and sleepless
• 57:35
  labor, I needed an emergency C-section.
• 57:38
  I gave birth around big night, and since partners couldn't stay
• 57:41
  overnight, he went home. I stayed awake with our newborn
• 57:44
  for a fourth night in a row. When he returned the next
• 57:47
  morning, he told me he had fainted on the way home, showing
• 57:50
  me how dirty his jacket was after following.
• 57:53
  I was concerned, but I was so depleted I could barely process
• 57:56
  it. During our hospital say, he
• 57:59
  brought food and held the baby while I slept, but his attitude
• 58:02
  still felt annoyed. I chalked it up to stress.
• 58:05
  Then came the newborn phase. Our son was colicky.
• 58:09
  Was that? Yeah, colicky.
• 58:11
  I was exhausted and we argued constantly.
• 58:14
  I couldn't be my usual sweet self, and I desperately needed
• 58:17
  emotional support. He, on the other hand, seemed to
• 58:20
  want sympathy too. At one point it had been five
• 58:23
  days since the baby had a bath and he asked why I was annoyed.
• 58:27
  I didn't turn my filter on and said and I said why don't you
• 58:30
  give him a bath? Then he responded with that he
• 58:33
  didn't know how I was upset and I told him to Google it.
• 58:39
  He said he felt overwhelmed working 3 to 4 hours a day and
• 58:42
  microwaving meals twice. Daily, 3 to 4 hours a day.
• 58:50
  Thank you. I'm so tired of this man.
• 58:55
  And microwaving deals meals twice daily so researching baby
• 58:59
  baths was apparently too much. I ended up taking our baby to
• 59:02
  all of his appointments alone because my husband looks so
• 59:05
  irritated and tired. When nurses started asking
• 59:08
  questions I could say a lot more.
• 59:10
  But here's my main concern. Recently we visited the topic of
• 59:14
  pregnancy in my son's birth. I told him that I felt
• 59:17
  unsupported during that time. That's why he confessed that he
• 59:20
  lied about feigning after the birth so that I would feel bad
• 59:23
  for him. He apparently only slipped on
• 59:26
  the ice. He felt ignored and unimportant
• 59:30
  during the pregnancy. Every time he talked to the
• 59:32
  friends, they told him to focus on supporting me and that he
• 59:36
  started to feel invisible. While I understood the desire to
• 59:41
  feel seen, to lie about something like this when I truly
• 59:44
  needed support feels deeply hurtful.
• 59:48
  I explained that being a supportive partner is not
• 59:50
  meaningless, it's actually a vital, important role.
• 59:54
  He was remorseful but I don't know if this is expecting too
• 59:57
  much from him. I don't think so, no.
• 1:00:01
  Things are better between us today, but honestly I don't
• 1:00:04
  think if I want him with me the next time I give birth.
• 1:00:07
  I feel like it would be easier to mentally prepare for doing it
• 1:00:10
  alone than to split my emotional focus between giving birth, the
• 1:00:14
  baby, and managing his feelings again.
• 1:00:17
  How do we move forward from this?
• 1:00:19
  So I have a very serious question.
• 1:00:22
  This may seem rage like I'm raging, but I'm very serious.
• 1:00:25
  Why would you consider giving birth to another child from a
• 1:00:30
  partner who has already proven himself to be unsupportive?
• 1:00:33
  That's the. Question, isn't it?
• 1:00:34
  Yeah, because what makes you think he's going to change?
• 1:00:38
  Thank you. He couldn't even recognize the
• 1:00:40
  fact that you were exhausted. Like, pregnancy exhaustion is
• 1:00:44
  like no other exhaustion you've ever felt in your life.
• 1:00:47
  And then now you have another baby at home that needs you.
• 1:00:50
  So you can't just nap for an hour or two in the middle of the
• 1:00:53
  day unless you have support and help.
• 1:00:56
  And so and then we're going to go back to what the title was.
• 1:01:00
  He faked fainting because he's like, this is the only way I can
• 1:01:03
  get attention. I was about to cuss you.
• 1:01:07
  She, your wife, is giving birth right now.
• 1:01:12
  And you're like. Me, me, me, me, me.
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  Where's my attention? I I don't know why, the first
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  thought in his mind when she was passing out from exhaustion, was
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  she being lazy, Right? I don't what.
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  Meanwhile, get up and go do the the chores and everything.
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  Yeah, you have chores to do, get your pregnant self out, but you
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  work 3 to 4 hours a day. You microwave.
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  I want to say microwave. He didn't cook.
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  He didn't. He microwaved 2 meals a day.
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  And this was way too much for you to do.
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  I can't Google how to go wash a baby.
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  What are you talking about? That's a lot of work.
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  Am I going to get paid for this? Yeah, like I don't what?
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  EW. I got the the entire time
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  reading that because are you kidding me?
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  No, he's not kidding. And here's the thing.
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  So we've all seen these videos of boys and men being put the
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  the the stimulator like you're. For having period cramps, I feel
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  like stuff like that should be required at a young age because
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  men have no idea what it feels like to be a woman and how and
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  go through these problems and then also have a baby.
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  And so, you know, we have sex education and all that stuff,
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  but it's very it's lacking in my opinion.
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  But to have no empathy for the person who's carrying your
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  child. This is your child and she it
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  has given of her body to this baby to make sure that it's
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  healthy. Thank you.
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  But you're making microwave meals and get this baby out of
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  my body and then after that I have to nurse this baby, keep
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  the baby alive, and you're acting like you can't give the
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  baby a bath exactly like. Figure it out.
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  It's insane. He refuses, he's refusing, and
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  he's not even seeing it from her perspective at all.
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  Because the first part is the physical stuff.
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  Even if she wanted to continue doing all this stuff, she
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  cannot, can't do it. And then afterwards is all the
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  emotional changes, the physical changes after the surgery,
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  because yes, it is surgery and he's still trying to being like
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  me, me, me, me, me. I can't.
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  I can't even any other surgery. You would not be required to do
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  anything afterwards. You have recovery time, but you
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  have to keep a baby alive alive. You're nursing a baby, you're
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  caring for a baby. You have you have to have that
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  closeness. Why is it so hard to assume that
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  the other partner would take care of all the other things to
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  make it so mom can recover and also have that time with baby,
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  right? I I like we are doing this
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  together, yes, apparently not, but this type of relationship
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  not to, you know, go completely off topic, but this feels like
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  it ties to the guy who went to the woods.
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  Like if you don't nip this type of behavior in the butt now it
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  becomes a partner who literally does nothing around the house to
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  help and you have two kids and you are doing all the things
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  right. So I would just personally
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  reconsider what what the future is, right?
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  You know, depending on whether you want to be the person who
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  takes care of literally everything, literally
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  everything. You guys are so so young still
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  like 2324. I mean, I don't know y'all.
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  It's a long life. It's a long life, so slow down
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  and just also God you. Your actions speak a lot louder
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  than your words. And again, like you said, he's
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  telling you exactly what he's about right now.
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  I feel like you should take that and maybe to start evaluating
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  for the future. Yes I know.
• 1:04:44
  Well then good luck girl. Oh, not the good luck.
• 1:04:47
  Yeah, am I the asshole for cussing out my son's teacher?
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  I. Mean.
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  I don't think so. So I 38 male have a son 10.
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  My son has always hated his teacher Miss Lopez.
• 1:05:05
  According to my son. She is always yelling at
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  everyone, she humiliates people and she's really strict for no
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  reason. My son is a good kid so she
• 1:05:14
  usually leaves him alone, but if she ever did something I would
• 1:05:17
  jump into action. What happened recently was my
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  son really had to use the restroom in her class Miss Lopez
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  has a rule where you can only go to the bathroom once a day.
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  In her class, you'll have to wait till lunch or recess to go.
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  My son had already gone so she wouldn't let him go again.
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  I told my son beforehand that if she ever tries to enforce this
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  dumb rule on him, just go anyway and me and his mother will take
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  care of it if he gets in trouble, period.
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  So he went anyway. This.
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  My son told me that by the time he got back, the teacher was
• 1:05:49
  making fun of him in front of the entire class saying how he
• 1:05:53
  was about to have a pee pee accident.
• 1:05:55
  She started yelling at him and telling him that she was going
• 1:05:58
  to call his parents later. I was appalled to hear this all
• 1:06:01
  from my son as soon as he got home.
• 1:06:04
  He's not a liar. By the time Miss Lopez called, I
• 1:06:07
  picked up the phone and I let her have it.
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  Period. How dare she humiliate a 10 year
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  old boy in front of the entire class and try to bully him.
• 1:06:14
  She should be ashamed. She hung up in my face.
• 1:06:17
  About 40 seconds into the rant. My wife told me I shouldn't have
• 1:06:21
  cussed her out. She agreed to take the steps to
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  get him moved out of Miss Lopez class, but me cussing her out
• 1:06:27
  was uncalled for according to her.
• 1:06:29
  Am I the asshole? No, you're not.
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  What do you mean? Why can't I cuss her out?
• 1:06:36
  She was basically cussing him out.
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  Thank you. I'm saying why can't I?
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  I don't see any issues here. Why I also take my side take
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  your sun side yes. What do you mean?
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  Because he was calling you with a pee pee.
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  He's going to have a pee pee accident and cussing him and
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  also with a dumb ass rule. Thank you on addition in
• 1:06:56
  addition because I don't think you can do that technically
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  right? I don't know, I feel like
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  there's a rule or a block you have to.
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  Go to the bathroom. You have to.
• 1:07:03
  Allow those children to go to the restroom also.
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  Mind you, he's 10. He's 10.
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  Come on, that is a stupid rule and then you decided to be more
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  childish than the 10 year old and make fun of him for
• 1:07:15
  something that he couldn't control.
• 1:07:17
  Like he has to use the restroom. He wants to peek on himself.
• 1:07:20
  I don't. Are you kidding me?
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  Like that would have been any more embarrassing than me peeing
• 1:07:24
  on myself and please and then bring it to the house.
• 1:07:28
  I would have hung up on me. I would have drove to school.
• 1:07:32
  I would have drove to the school because I was not finished.
• 1:07:35
  I wasn't stopped. More to say I wasn't done like I
• 1:07:42
  was saying that part. Are you kidding me?
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  Yes, in. Addition, I expect my wife to be
• 1:07:50
  right there supporting me because this is about our son.
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  Yes, He doesn't get to be bullied at school By the
• 1:07:57
  teacher. By the teacher?
• 1:07:59
  Yeah, absolutely not. I'm not standing for that.
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  So no, I think everyone around him is wrong.
• 1:08:06
  Everyone except for Dad. Thank you.
• 1:08:09
  Dad did the right thing. I rock with Dad.
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  He was sitting there waiting for that phone call.
• 1:08:12
  He was like on an answer. I got this.
• 1:08:15
  Let's go. I'm for the smoke when it comes
• 1:08:17
  to my. Child and like I go back, why
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  can't I cuss her out? Because she was talking crazy to
• 1:08:22
  my kid in front of everybody. It's not like she pulled him
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  aside and was like, I have a rule.
• 1:08:28
  When I have a rule, you follow it.
• 1:08:30
  She felt some type of way because a kid embarrassed her in
• 1:08:32
  front of the other kids. He just walked out because he
• 1:08:36
  had to go to the bathroom. I have a rule.
• 1:08:38
  Are you not the adult in this situation?
• 1:08:40
  No. And who knows how long she was
• 1:08:42
  on there talking shit in front of the kids.
• 1:08:43
  Oh my God. Because by the time he got back,
• 1:08:45
  she was already in the middle of her thing.
• 1:08:47
  Yeah, Absolutely not. Absolutely not.
• 1:08:49
  I expect when I send my child to school that is in a safe
• 1:08:53
  environment with the kids around them and the teachers that are
• 1:08:55
  responsible for my kids and the responsible for all the kids.
• 1:08:58
  Kids in the class, Right. Grow up.
• 1:09:01
  Literally. Who cares if this kid went over
• 1:09:03
  there? If you had a problem with them,
• 1:09:04
  we could have discussed that with the parents present.
• 1:09:07
  But you decided to pick on my child?
• 1:09:10
  No. In front of all the other kids,
• 1:09:12
  No. We have smoke, fire her, all of
• 1:09:14
  it. Fire her.
• 1:09:15
  But after I go there. Yeah, after I've already.
• 1:09:17
  Said what I needed to say, thank you.
• 1:09:19
  Drove to the school apparently, and finished what I was driving
• 1:09:22
  to that school. That's the first thing.
• 1:09:23
  I thought I was like, I'm not done.
• 1:09:24
  That is insane. Wow, yeah, not no, my blood
• 1:09:28
  pressure is right. It's.
• 1:09:29
  Like. Oh yeah, there's just some
• 1:09:31
  things that you just expect your school to be fine, fine with,
• 1:09:35
  and you send your kid, you're like, OK, they're going to be
• 1:09:38
  fine. It's hard enough sending your
• 1:09:41
  kid to a place, having these other adults and trusting them
• 1:09:46
  to take care of your child. Yes, I don't need the added
• 1:09:49
  bullying and all that stuff. I didn't.
• 1:09:50
  No, no, no, no, no. You will be taken from the
• 1:09:53
  classroom after I say what I have to say and then go talk to
• 1:09:56
  the principal. Absolutely.
• 1:09:57
  Because what you're not going to do is do that, period.
• 1:09:59
  And that's clearly not the first time she's done it if she felt
• 1:10:02
  that comfortable. Thank you.
• 1:10:03
  Thank you. And let's talk to the other kids
• 1:10:05
  too. What kind of experiences have
• 1:10:06
  you had with Miss Lopez? Yes, bye.
• 1:10:12
  Bye. All right.
• 1:10:13
  Trinity was hot. I was.
• 1:10:15
  Yeah, I was. Right.
• 1:10:20
  That's it. Yeah, we got.
• 1:10:22
  We made it. Next episode is episode 30.
• 1:10:26
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• 1:10:37
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